Rejuvenating Imaan – Life after Ramadaan
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Sheikh Sajid Umar London Lecture tour dedicated towards the sharing of practical lessons which will help the effects of our past Ramadan linger on till our next Ramadan. InShaAllah.
Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah who Allah led me on my back, rubbish Friday, Saturday, Sunday, every
or praise belongs to Allah subhanho wa Taala. We praise Him and we seek his assistance and guidance and we seek refuge in Allah from the evil of ourselves and the adverse consequences of our deeds. And we serve Allah guides, men can misguide and you serve Allah misguides men can guide and peace and salutations be upon the final messenger, Muhammad Abdullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship besides one of law that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam is His Messenger, my dearest brothers and sisters in Islam, salaam Aleykum Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh.
May the peace and blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala be upon you all, from the outset, a heartfelt gratitude to
this particular place of worship and society, Lewisham, Islamic Society, and to our culture Institute and family events. And everywhere everyone involved from both near and far in
making this particular setting something possible. We have lots of Hannibal, accept from everyone involved, and reward them for their vision and their efforts towards achieving this vision. And we are most accountable to Allah also reward each and every one of you for being part of this particular program. May Allah make us a gathering, that he is a good word and follows it. And we have lots of panel data make us a gathering that is forgiven upon our departure. I mean, my dear his brothers and sisters in Islam, I'm really here for after chat, not really a lecture, but just the heart to heart. Because Alhamdulillah a few weeks ago, Allah subhanho wa Taala sent to our homes, a
guest and that guest departed a few days ago. Right? That guest departed a few days ago. And this guest that Allah subhanho wa Taala sent to our homes,
was a guest that
visited us with many gifts. And this guest was a generous guest. And we were so overwhelmed by the bounties and gifts of this guest that we actually call the guest Kareem and we would say Ramadan Kareem because it was a generous guest when it knocked our doors. It knocked our doors with the gift of Ramadan, the gift of fasting, the gift of taraweeh the gift of the am the gift of
togetherness and unity, the gift of Quran in the month of Quran, the gift of taqwa and the gift of the last 10 nights of Ramadan, and Laila to cuddle and freedom from the Hellfire and a decaf and soda bottle fitter and the day of read and gift after gift after gift. It came with amazing gifts that no other month of the year would bring with it. It came with the gift of freedom from the Hellfire and the doors of Paradise being wide open. And the gift of the doors of the Hellfire being Wide Shut or tightly shut. And it came with the gift of the shell being being chained. It came with all these presents. And indeed it came to us with amazing generosity and rightly
deserve it deservedly. So we call it the this this guest Kareem and Armand curry, then this guest stayed in our home for a period of 29 or 30 days. And this guest observed us for this particular period as it assisted us in achieving an objective from the objectives of life. And that is the acquisition of taqwa. We need taqwa and I'll explain why. And
lived in our home, inshallah, in a way whereby the guest felt welcome, right, because a Muslim always welcomes his or her guest. And a Muslim is always an amazing host. And Ramadan was a guest in our home. So we accordingly had to be amazing hosts when a guest visits us, we normally ensure that the guest room is in order, the guest bathroom is in order, the fridge is stocked up, the pantry stocked up, we have enough to look after, you know, this guest in terms of being honorable to the guest, and being generous to the guests. And in some countries, people even take time off work for the guests, right? It's different in the UK. I've been sharing this with messages in other machines
I go, but in Africa, it's different. The gender the way they look after guests over there is different people take time of work. People travel with the guests to different holiday destinations within the country to be with them. They don't just
Send them off. They travel with them. Right? So different life different continents. So in different ways we show our generosity as well to the guests especially when the guest comes with generous gifts. So Ramadan stayed with us and inshallah we will with the hosts and before Ramadan departed Ramadan being a sincere guest, Ramadan offered us some advices many advices before Ramadan departed. For our chat, I just want to share with you two pieces of advice that have been shared with us before it departed. The first advice that Ramadan told us before it said goodbye, it was was my dear brother, and my dear sister in Islam.
I don't know if I will meet you again. I don't know if I will meet you again. Last year, I left homes and I thought I would visit those homes again this year. But Allah sent me and those people have returned back to Allah subhanahu wa jal. So I don't know if I will see you again. The rest before I leave, I want you to know that as I am, and as I depart, and as the month comes to an end, never forget that Allah from Yvonne is the Allah of show while and the Allah of every month of the year. That was I depart and my system comes to an end, your home will return back to normal as it was before I came as all our homes do when the guest finally leaves understand that your journey to
acquire taqwa continues forever until you meet Allah subhanho wa Taala. This was one of the parting ways of Ramadan. Right? And the reason why Ramadan tells us this because it is a factual truth. And sincere guests Do not leave us with false emotions with false expectations and leaving behind false atmospheres Ramadan wants to set or lay down the gauntlet lay down the challenge and let us know that look. If I sincerely love you, then you need to sincerely do this. Right? Because when we look in the Quran, we find that Allah subhanho wa Taala he teaches us that we will not create it except to worship Him. right he says in Surah 230 at one mahalo Regina was insanely a boon that you are not
created except to worship Allah. And if we look at how Allah subhanho wa Taala has taught us this, he teaches this ayah to us in a way whereby we don't understand from it, that we were created to worship Allah, but rather we understand from it that we were not created except to worship Allah. This is known as hustle
and hustle. Meaning Allah subhanho wa Taala teaches us the lesson in a way where
if we understand what is being said, we have an acute focus on the objective of the message. I'll give an example. Right? I did this yesterday. And I think we'll do it again today because we have a young boy, Mashallah, here. What's your name?
Rob, can you stand up for everybody, please?
A man can Can everyone see a black man? Right? If I tell you that a black man is standing. And then I tell you that there's nothing about a black man except that he is standing linguistically, I have shared with you two different meanings. Right. Even though you might feel that I'm saying the same thing, whether I say there's nothing about him except that he is standing or he is standing the I'm telling you that he's standing. But when you start to feel of Aloha, right.
And you and you go deep into the meanings of words, and sentence structures, when if I tell you a black man is standing in language, this is known as an open ended sentence. And if I tell you there's nothing about a black man, except that he's standing, then this is known as a closed ended sentence. If I see a black man is standing, this is an open ended sentence, which means I can add in terms of my understanding to the statement that he is standing and he has a lovely thought, Mashallah. And it's bluish, in color, and hamdulillah. And he really wants to sit down, right? So I can really add, you can sit down, I can really add to the statement, right? So he's standing and
there's other things about him. But when I say there is nothing about him, except that he is standing. Basically, I'm saying nothing matters about Abdurahman except the fact that he is done. So when Allah says you are not created, except to worship Allah, as opposed to you are created to worship Allah, Allah is telling us that there is nothing about you and your existence except that you are created to worship Allah, everything else doesn't matter. What matters is the worship of Allah. Right. This is what Dr. Gina Whelan's inlandia Buddha means and that is why Allah mentions Dr. Boone in the present tense. And in the Arabic language, the pair the present tense carries a
dual meaning it carries the meaning of now and the present continuous. Right? Well here we'll move on to if you look at an RV
octopi or hell, what is the Mirage? This is the implication of the present tense in the Arabic language. So, when a lot of tells us You are not created to worship Allah, He is saying, basically, that you have been created to worship Allah continually continuously all the time. There is no public holiday from this. There is no bank holiday from this. There is no weekend from this. There is no break from this. Everything about you should be the worship of Allah. Right. We don't have time to go into how we can do that in this talk. But I have another talk online called the three eyes of success. If you Google it, the three eyes of success with my name is Sanjeev Sharma, it will
come up I advise you to listen to it because in that talk, I explained a few tips on how we can convert our study our work, our gyming our play our sleeping, our cooking, and all our act into a bed into an act of worship because that is who we are. And we need to do that. Because gender is only built when we worship Allah. And if we restrict worship to Salah in the masjid and Zakah and Hajj and fasting Ramadan, then let's be honest, we will have a very small agenda because we spend most of our life doing other things than salah and Sokka. And fasting, the month of Ramadan and Hajj hedges one time in your lifetime, right? Ramadan is one month of the year 11 months you're doing
other things. Salah is five times a day. Most of the day you didn't you probably sleep longer than you spend praying sada so if you could only build gender through the five pillars of Islam,
then what percentage of gender Will you build in the 60 or 70 years of your life? Right? So we need to figure out how we can continuously build agenda by continuously being in the worship of Allah, because Allah tells us in the Quran by using the present tense, that we have to always be doing it. There's no break from this method. Right? So Allah tells us we were created to worship him. Then in Surah Baqarah, Allah tells us why. Because he says, Yeah, you are Nasser abou Baraka, qumola de Hanako, one Latina minicabco, why? Lana contacto Allah says, all mankind worship You Lord, the one who created you and those before you. Why worship Him, so that perhaps you may attain
the same ending we hear about when we talk about the idea of fasting, fast the month of Ramadan so that perhaps you can attain taqwa. Allah tells us to worship Allah all the time, so that perhaps you can attend Taka. Ramadan is a means to attain taqwa. And every other act of worship is a means for you to attain taqwa. So Ramadan leaves, but the worship of Allah continues, piety towards Allah continues, righteousness continues, you can go on your holiday from this. Yes, the intensity of your application may change. But the actual act of doing something about your era and your acquisition of taqwa and doing something for your journey towards Allah, this is something that has to continue and
doesn't stop. So this is the first message that Primavera gives us. And I mean, even if we look into practice, let's look at Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam The best example when he was passing away. We see him worshipping Allah Subhana Horta, he doesn't say right now I'm passing away I have in the Mattila sakara death has difficulty and pangs. So now I'm done. Right Enough is enough. I'm finished. I got this consuming me. No, we see worshipping Allah how I'm making dua. That's a bad thing. He said. He first he says, Only he's telling Allah What about my own I'll ask Allah to save his own man. This is then he's doing a salatu salam America, a Maluku. He's telling us on my own
look, after your Salah, he is dying, the Angel of Death is removing his soul sallallahu alayhi wasallam and he's doing now
he's worshipping Allah, because Allah says back to karate, that worship your Lord. Why Buddhists is known as a marine. It's a command and the command carries the same meaning of now and continuous right of law. And this is this is a point you should you should understand that if we look in the book of law, when it comes to worship, Allah tells us about worship in one of two ways, either through commanding us to do it, which carries the continuous meaning or he tells it to us in the form of a hubbub and statement, but he will use the present tense because the precedence carries the same meaning as the command which is something continuous and the scholars say,
Harun reader be he read the hammer is a hammer but from the harbor aligned from the statement alignment, vital command. This is synonymous in the Quran, from the beginning of the Quran, to the end of the Quran. You see this even in Surah Fatiha when we say ear canal Buddha canister in this is our statement where we declaring that we worship Allah we see in our booth and the string being used in the present tense. It's a hover, but it's in the present tense that we acknowledging that you've commanded us to continuously worship you. So we continue
worship you and we continuously seek assistance from you yeah Allah. This is in terms of the depth bore and pondering over the message of the Quran and deriving this lesson. But we also have exact lessons which are necessary and extremely clear. We Allah teaches us that we have to be 24 seven builders agenda 24, seven worshipers of Allah and I'll give you an example. Look at the code in the Quran. If you analyze the code in the Quran, you see in many cases Allah commands us towards Vicar, which is an act of worship, after commanding us to another act of worship.
So Allah says, Now you finished this act of worship now worship of Allah.
Right? I'll give you an example. At the time of war, when Allah reveals the ayat pertaining to how to manage Serato jamara when the enemy is in front of you, right? At the end, Allah says
masala first Kula pm and worker Odin lubicon
Aki masala, amazing. Allah commanded us to Salah in congregation, he told us how to do it. Then he says when you finish that act of worship,
we command you to remember Allah while standing while sitting while he lay. And then when you receive contentment and you don't fear the enemy anymore for Aki masala, another command establish the salah there in a llama, babe, let's go to Hajj. Allah tells us after sitting one hour of worshiping Allah the whole day, begging from Allah asking from Allah doing nothing but worshiping Allah. Allah says VEDA at first guru la karateka. When you finish
to the core of Allah, worship Allah. We commanded to worship after worship. Right, let's take yomo Juma Allah says
either a new deity Salah Meeow meeow. Juma Isla de la was that when you hear the call to the Juma prayer, then rush towards it and leave your trade that is better for you. Right? Allah says, Then for either cobia to solid when you done with the Juma prayer fantasy refill article back in depth, what does that mean for the law go back to your buying and selling, but was a court of law.
The law was Kula kaviraj now go in and also you commanded to remember Allah subhanho wa Taala. So he commands us in a very clear way to worship after worship to highlight this point that Ramadan is telling us that Ramadan is gone. But that Allah, of all the months of the year is the same as love Ramadan, and our quest to achieve taqwa continues. So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on his deathbed is worshipping Allah. And another example is Rama,
Rama one after being stabbed, leading the Sahaba in prayer.
He's bleeding to death. There is no anesthesia. There's no local anesthetic. He's literally breathing to death. In fact, some of the commentators said that the doctors concluded that he was going to die by making drink labored, which is a type of milk when they saw the milk coming out of his body, that they knew that this person is going to pass away. What does he do? He worships Allah samo. Right. He starts arranging the show the people who will be in charge of choosing the next leader of the Muslims, and he picks his candidates that they will sit and choose from to take over the market he passes away while he's bleeding to death. He's doing this this is Rebecca, this is the
worship of Allah doesn't say my time is up the satellite you know this now you can live
as Allah doesn't ask me what you can do. But when people understand that they worship Allah until they breathe oblast they worship Allah while he's bleeding to death. And all this is going on. A young boy walks into the into the into the place to see what's happening. And
Omar notices that his lower garment is below his ankles.
You might say
what is this trousers below the ankles, businessman? I'm dying and bleeding today here. We try to sort out the the Islamic caliphate who's going to look after their own mouth to me. But immediately Omar, he calls out to this person and in a beautiful way. The whole of the of the hour is present. Right? Because he's worshipping Allah. And he says, yep. Oh, son of my brother. He doesn't say hey, you
know what's wrong with you? Pull up your trousers, man. Right? He says, yep. Oh son of my brother. In fact over lift your soap, for in Arabic For indeed. It is of taqwa to do so. Allah loves that you do that.
And your thought will last longer. Are you ready for a longer time if you raise it up because it won't get left on the floor. Imagine bleeding to death and is doing
are in the most amazing way where he gives him a spiritual reason to listen, and a physical reason to listen, because some people, they don't appreciate the spiritual side. So give them a physical fight to convince them to do that. At this moment, he's worshiping Allah in the best way. So the point is, Ramadan is telling us this. after Ramadan, don't go back on your heels. The next piece of advice that Yvonne says to us, is my dear brother, and my dear sister in Islam, I've observed you for this month.
And I have come to understand that you are a person
that can do whatever you put your mind.
Whatever you want to achieve, you can achieve. And how do I know this? I know this because during this month, you left halal food and halal drink and healthy relationships for the whole month.
You put your mind to it, and you did it.
If you can do that, you can leave her on for the rest of the
if you put your mind. Right, which is how the brothers and sisters to leave hello to leave her. What is the hardest thing to do?
Leave her leave her up? No harder to leave, Helen? How can it be hard to leave heroin after heroin there's a bit of janome and fire after that. It's easier to leave heroin because there's a punishment after it. It's harder to leave. Because there's gender after it. If I told you two neighborhoods in London, one has a pot of gold for whoever goes through it. And the other one has homicide forever goes through it. And I tell you which neighborhood is easier for you to live out?
What do you say the pot of gold Will you say the heroin
because that neighborhood I'm going to I'm going to suffer this one I'm going to benefit. So if you do good deeds you benefit from naturally it's hard for you to leave it behind. Right? But Haram is easier because if I do it, it is a punishment after. So in Ramadan, you did the hardest thing which was to leave hell Allah because Allah told you to leave.
Which means for the rest of the year, you can leave However, if you put your mind to it, because I'm not told you to do it as well. So my van is giving us advice that you can do whatever you want to do, but put your mind to be sincere with Allah. And don't lose hope in Allah and you will achieve things beyond your expectations. Right? And many times people ask how do I know my Ramadan was accepted? And to be honest, we don't know exactly because Allah, one of the things he's kept hidden from us is our knowledge of his happiness after we worship.
He's kept that hidden.
But he didn't keep it hidden. To do us a disservice Allah is just from Canada who attacked, but rather Allah did this so we can worship Him in other ways. Because Firstly, we know each other as human beings, if we knew every time whether Allah accepted our bad or not, we worship him with a scorecard system.
It's our human nature. We say, Okay, I've got some bonus here. Right? I did it five times this week. I think I can do a bit of partying on the weekend. Right? I have some credit. I have some points. Allah doesn't want that. Right. Allah doesn't want us to worship Allah to the minimum level. And we know before we used to pray Serato, which was to pray three, we never used to think of anything less. But then someone told us no one is the minimum. Then it became one. before when we were growing up, we say Subhana, Allah subhanaw taala was really three times in the solute and Rocco then someone said, No one is minimum, we started doing the minimum, right? Then before we used to read
longer surahs then we learned a bit more than the most famous surah became a philosopher in the Athena Kolkata. Right most popular surah of Salah. So we naturally by default, we become people who are used to the least they may just do the least, and carry on. If Allah taught us the result of our worship will get the least john now allowances to get the agenda. So he doesn't tell us so you keep on track. You don't know. That's one reason. The other reason why Allah doesn't tell us and this is personal deduction. Allah knows best and asked us forgiveness if I made a mistake in it.
The other reason is so that we can worship Allah some more.
How? Through personal one, which is having good hope in Allah. If you knew that Allah has accepted your embed, you'd have no room to worship Him by having good hope that is accepted. Because you know, but because you don't know.
We now worship Him by having good hope that I tried my best I seek Allah's forgiveness and inshallah we'll see by Ramadan on my skills of good deeds on the day of having an understanding between you and Allah like this a lot. He wants you for that understanding, because now you've worshipped him through a personal one. While others you're vulnerable. Ah, so what
others they have bad hoping they have bad thoughts about Allah. Right? But the believer has good opening law so they sinful for their thoughts.
will be rewarded for our thoughts right will be rewarded for our thoughts. So let us in tell us to give us that idea. But I was calling say one of the ways we can try and understand whether our amavasya or our acts of worship are accepted by looking at our situation after Ramadan, or after the hydro after the Salah, and so on and so forth. Why they say because our study of the Quran and Sunnah has taught us that as a universal law,
good deeds give birth to good deeds. They don't give birth to bad deeds. So if you haven't accepted good deed, by default, good, other good deeds are gonna come into your life, which means after Amman, there are certain good deeds you are not doing before I move on, but you start doing it after Ramadan. And if you're not doing it, then at least you have a loved one to do it. That love didn't exist before. That is a sign of an accepted Ramadan. There were some bad deeds that you were doing before Amazon after Amazon, you stopped doing those bad deeds or at least you have hatred for those bad deeds. Before Amazon you are doing it without thinking after Amazon you have a hatred for it.
This is a sign of an accepted right so this is advice offered by the scholars. And this doesn't mean that we should become sad because I'm sure many of us if not all of us after Ramadan we've done things we're not proud of. We've done things we wish we didn't do. We done things which we told ourselves in Ramadan we would stop right but Shabbat is a different month of Ramadan and whatever happened happened, this doesn't mean we should become sad and depressed and start feeling like we lost our entire month. Rather means we should make sure we keep Ramadan with us by turning to Allah seeking forgiveness from Allah. Because seeking forgiveness from Allah sincerely after you make a
mistake is a sign of an acceptance from other because perhaps before that you are sending without even asking Allah for forgiveness. Does that make sense? So these are two advices that from a monkey. Now the next portion of this particular chat that I want to have with you is related to how can we help our oven linger till the next Rama because we we every year we go through this at the end of Ramadan, we feel these emotions and we feel the need to want to do the things that we're doing Ramadan but a few days after Ramadan we begin retro dressing and all of a sudden our progress stops and then we start we go we start going backwards and then all of a sudden we stopped doing
anything and then we start saying inshallah next Ramadan comes out sorted out right many of us have experienced many romance, right? We need to do something now to ensure that when next Ramadan comes to us, if Allah preserves us in his obedience, inshallah, and in good health and in good life, we need to ensure that we meet Ramadan showing Ravana different home, not the home he saw, or it saw last time evaluate visited us. So how do we do that? Because Ramadan is also tired of coming to us having left us two steps forward, or sorry, one step forward. And then he meets us once we've gone two steps backwards. This is what happens every year, we get somewhere before Amazon ends, and then
we go back on our ways. How do we stop this? Well, we need to do one simple thing. And that is to stop doing the same thing that we do after.
Because if you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got, right? I always say this is bad English. But it sounds nice. And it makes sense. If you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got. I think Henry Ford said this to the best of my knowledge. Because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing expecting different results. As you say, I will do the same thing is going to be different, probably doing the same thing. How is it going to be different is going to be the same, right? You can say this is a 50 mile zone, I'm going to drive at 70. I see if I get a flash. So you get the flash. Let me try again. Now you're
going to get a flash, let me try even if you do the same thing, the same result is going to happen. It's part of life. This is a universal system that Allah has created by design. Right? Every cause has an effect. And the cause and effect have a relation relationship between each other. It's a matter of physics. It's not your fault or my fault or anyone's fault. Allah has designed it like this. What we need to do is appreciate this reality and make the necessary changes so we don't see the same results. What should we do moving forward? Right. I think there's two important things that we need to do. The first thing is we need to learn from the idea to fast.
There's an important lesson
that goes untaught whenever we describe the idea to fasting. Whenever we describe the idea of fasting we talk about fasting we talk about Ramadan, we talk about taqwa, we talk about the deal of read, we talk about we talk about the traveler, the person who's sick, they exempt from fasting, they can respond fast, those who are terminally ill. We have all these lessons. But one lesson we forget too.
Is the lesson of change needs time, or change needs effort and effort needs, needs time. Change needs effort, and effort, needs, needs, needs time. We forget this lesson. And I promise you, the art of fasting teaches this. If you look at the beginning of the ayah, to fasting immediately after Allah commands us to fast, what does Allah say?
that perhaps you will attain takano guarantee, perhaps what does he say after that? A Yama do that.
a fixed number of days. Why does Allah tell us about the days that you have to look after time? Why does Allah say that? He could have said anything else? He's saying you have to look after time. Am I do that immediately after we command you too fast. So that may be unity in taqwa. You have to look after the time. Okay? What as you see, at the end of fasting, the last area of the ayah too fast? Well, he took me
right at the end, he tells us about time again. Right? You have to complete the day's look after the days, complete the days at the beginning of fasting, look after the days, at the end of fasting, complete the days. Why Allah? Why are you reminding us at telecom telling us at the beginning and reminding us at the end? Allah is telling you this to teach you that change these efforts. And effort needs time. That's the reality, because Ramadan is about tacos, and tacos not gonna come overnight. So respect time in your quest for change. Now, why am I highlighting this is because one mistake we make very quickly after Ramadan is the same mistake that we make with everything else
today, because we live in this fast age. Right? Fast food, fast results. Quick, quick, quick communication. You send the WhatsApp message, double tick, single tick blue ticks must be quick, right? Husband divorcing the wife why he didn't respond to maybe she didn't read? No, there were two blue ticks, I need to respond immediately. So big things happen. We want fast, right? fast results. We do the same thing after Ramadan, we set our timetables and then we expect us to just be compliant with our timetables immediately. And the moment we see that we are managing, we give up we expect ourselves to manage immediately, we expect the change to come immediately.
If you want change to come immediately, you in the wrong place. My dear brother and sister, because that place is known as that place, you just decide the change happens here, you got to work in a different world, you're not being realistic. And this is one of the things that happens to us after a MOBA. We fail to respect time. Because time, needs effort and effort or sorry, change needs effort and time, we fail to recognize that the change we want to bring in our life, the change, we want to become the change we want to see, we always say at the end of Ramadan, I'm going to become the change, I want to see I'm going to be the change pipe, you want to be the change, you better be
ready for some time to come the first week of show while or maybe it won't even come in the first few months after Amala. So you can't give up. I noticed a lot of people giving up. Right? So what you need to do what you need to do differently after this Ramadan. And in this particular month, is to not give up because of your failure to achieve your ideals. You need to persevere and carry on. Why? Because it's absolutely normal to fail right now.
A lot will test you right now. You have to prove to yourself that you really want what you want right now. Right? If you fail and give up, you don't really want it. But the person who really wants it, they never ever give up. Right? We know this in life, when we really want something we never ever give up. So learn from the fasting, change needs time. And fasting is all about teaching us about time and change and patience. And that is why the reward for fasting is the same reward for being patient. Allah tells us that the reward for fasting is a blank check with Allah. And he tells us that the reward for patience is a branch of Allah that you meet on the day of the AMA, you might
be a trillion deeds short, you might be one deed short, you might be a few trillion deeds short, but then Allah will give you a blank check for you to fulfill.
And you feel what you want to go to the first level of general or the seventh, it's a blank check. Right? A lot. Leave keep those blank checks for us. Why does Allah give the same reward for fasting as it gives to patients? Because fasting is all about patience. And Allah says in them you are for sabula Jerome
that Allah gives the patient people that he would without accountability, and too fast. You have to be patient to stay away from food and drink and marital relations and managing your time.
And your body adjusting in its patients just revived the nights to stay up at night to have less sleep, you need patience. Right? So, brothers and sisters in Islam, lesson number one to ensuring Ramadan this year lingers on Ramadan next year is respect time, change needs effort and time. So if you find it difficult now Don't be shocked and start complaining, it's normal, fasten your seat belt and do what you have to do. And a time will come when you will get through it. In fact, in management, they say that to bring change to your organization, you need to be ready for resistance from the people of your organization for 40 days. They actually have it as a rule that for 40 days,
if you try to change the organizational structure and culture, you will see resistance from the same people for at least 40 days. Don't give up, persist with it. I think it's a human nature thing. Well, I when I read this, I was trying to think of the Quran and Sunnah. Do we have something
that teaches us about this 40 day rule and allow them I remember the hadith of evil Mr. Wood,
which is in the side Sahih Muslim if my memory serves me, right, and even in our body, no, he
never he he coated it in his, in his 40 Hadith where Allah says that Allah gathers us in the womb of our mothers as a drop of liquid for 40 days, then, as something that resembles a cleaning crop for 40 days, when something that resembles a piece of flesh for 40 days, why 40 days,
Allah can do it immediately. But perhaps there's some wisdom, that by nature, we are people that need an incubation period of 40 days. Once we incubated in it for that period, we stopped being resistant to it, and we're ready to progress.
These are personal
deductions, and ask Allah to forgive me if I've made any mistakes. But we see it in life through experience, we see resistance, so your body is going to resist you trying to change something for decades that you've been practicing. Be patient, it might take 40 it might take it might take 120 don't give up. Change needs time. And the reward that Allah will give you for your patience is a blank check. by it. That's lesson number one, lesson number two, burn in and don't burn out. From my experience meeting different communities. One of the reasons why people give up after Ramadan, and they go two steps backwards is because they over set the expectations. They were not reading Quran
before Ramadan. in Ramadan, they were eating half a juice every day. So they say we're going to do half a juice every day after Ramadan, I think it's going to be the same. They never prayed to hydrate before, or Serato or the asker of the morning. Now they tasted the sweetness of it in Ramadan. They want this to be with them for the rest of their lives. They don't want to be detached from this feeling. And no doubt Ramadan brings to us a feeling like no other feeling because our heart changes, right? That's what happens. Because it's a lot sooner, that your heart cannot be attached to your agenda. And this world at the same proportions at the same levels of intensity at
the same time.
And there's a principle that I use, I call it the mathematical equation or the equation of spirituality. And that is that your level of attachment of your heart to your agenda is proportionate to the level of detachment of your heart from the donor. And the level of attachment of your heart to the dounia is proportionate to the level of detachment of your heart from your heart. It's physics, you're not going to have it. You can't have the cake and eat the cake as we say in the Arabic language. Right. Right. So in Ramadan, you detach from the dunya by leaving food and drink and these matters so naturally you have this attachment to you here after which brings a
sweetness in your life which is very addictive. Right so after Ramadan, you don't want it to go. So we attach it to these different acts of worship that we're doing. And we say after Ramadan, I'm gonna be doing Serato Doha I'm gonna be doing the ASPCA. I'm reading Quran looking Ramadan I did it every day. I think I can do it after Ramadan. But you're not being realistic. Why? Because Shabbat is not Ramadan, as Luca is not Ramadan and Muharram and suffer and the other months of the trauma in Ramadan, the Shia Tina change in Ramadan, the draws of gender machette in Ramadan. Everyone is doing these acts of worship as a community so it's easier for us to do it. The conversations are about are
we headed to Malaysia and the first thing you don't have any these conversations outside of Ramadan. So naturally the other months are a different different months to Ramallah, which means your progress of Ramadan cannot be sustained after Ramadan as a reality, if you're going to try and sustain Ramadan out of Ramadan when you didn't have the habit before I'm Yvonne, you're gonna burn out. You're gonna burn out. So what should we do? We should do the opposite. And that is Ben. So you should now sit down and say okay, you know, I didn't know about the outcome of the morning and evening I learned about Ramadan. For example.
I want to bring this in my life. Korea, Malaysia was beautiful when I used to have my meeting with ally the last night of the night. I want to bring this in my life for answer panel I can't believe I used to go weeks and months without opening the book of Allah on to make sure that never happens again, everyday I need to have a sitting, write it down, write all the ideas. These are skills that I need to get out of my life. Write it down, and now strategize school strategic management in the corporate world, strategize effectively how you will burn yourself. So for example, if you are reading regular with Quran and you are managing half of Jews in Ramadan, tell yourself a milliliter
cottages a day.
But every day, try it for a few days, you might feel a quarter is too much, reduce it to half of a quarter. Try it you see that Mashallah managing, stick with it, don't increase don't decrease until it becomes normal in your life to read two three pages of the Quran every day, when you see that Al Hamdulillah managing, you know, without any effort to do this regularly, add another two three pages, or one page or half a page to your current quota. And don't increase from that. burn yourself in. When you find yourself in at some more, and add some more and slowly burn yourself in it might be that it will take you 510 years before you can read a juice a day every day. That's fine. But as
long as every day you sincere with Allah and you burning yourself in this is far better than saying I will read half a juice a day and you struggle after Ramadan to a point where you burn out. And weeks and months go without you touching the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Right, we have been
the most beloved actions to Allah are the actions that are slowly number this morning amount but continuous. Right? So Allah loves we used to do one line a day, but every day, then one juice during one day of the month. Does that make sense? So use this principle to burn yourself in the 100 Salah I've never done it before. I want to bring it in my life, say out to 100 a week. If that's too much for you once every two weeks. If that's too much for you once a month. Start with it. See how you go. When you see you become regular and you manage it. increase from there appropriately and manage yourself that way. Same thing with fasting. I want to fast Monday and Thursday. Don't see how fast
every Monday and Thursday when you never did it before. It's not gonna happen. Right? Some of us become demotivated by failing to meet our targets and we give up. We don't want to give up we want to burn ourselves in so manage your targets do this differently. Because last Ramadan, that was your mistake, you didn't strategize properly, and you burned up in Sharla if you carry on like this, you will bring many acts of worship in your life and proportionately many sins will live your life and will never meet you next year. It will meet you in it will see your home renovated in a way far better than it was last year. And then Ramadan is the booster you know, you know the sports cars
they have what they have the liquid nitrogen, that the booster you push the button even though your cars fast, it's faster for that period of time. So Ramadan is the booster Ramadan comes we can do one juice a day half a juice a day as we did last Ramadan. Because it's a booster period. Right? Naturally, our hearts are ready to do more, so do more in Ramallah. after Ramadan, continue from your last schedule and build yourself up to the following Ramadan, and inshallah This way we can create Ramadan that linger until the next time. So now we've discussed these two points, we started with two advices that Ramadan gave us before he left, then we decided we discussed two points that
we should bring into our life to help our amazon link on to the next one. The final two points. These are the closing two points. We need to be a people that assist each other by doing number one.
Treating ourselves as a project is very important that each and every one of us, we treat ourselves as a project. And that project is called Project you.
project you. What do I mean by this? You need to have a board of directors. Every project needs a board of directors, each and every one of us need to have people that we have on speed dial that love us sincerely, and love for our progress. People who we call for matters of hell and for people who we call for spiritual rejuvenation. When we feel we're having a dip, people who we call for sure. Right? When you need to take when you need to consult somebody you need to make a decision. Someone who you call and they give you alternative perspectives, right people who you trust and you know that they sincerely love you and wish for your progress. We need to have those people in our
life Why? Because conflict of interest is a bad thing. And you cannot be judging jury of your own success. Right You can't many a time you tell a brother
sr, you successful say we successful? You're not really how, what is your definition of success because I look at you and I don't see you being a successful person. So clearly, you have the wrong definition of success, right? But our problem is we go by being judging jury of our own success, right? And we do ourselves a disservice never have conflict of interest in your life. The non Muslims don't operate this way. A Muslim definitely shouldn't operate this way. So have a board of directors, your own board that will guide you that will listen to you that will give you sincere advice that will tell you know here, you're going to wrong here. You're doing too much. Here. You're
doing too less. You are better than this. My dear brother, you are better than this, my dear sister, right. Have that board of directors. That's number one. Number two,
introduce the concept of caves into your life.
Right caves, you know, the cave is? You don't know. A cave is a hole in a mountain.
Right? We have caves in our lives. Now. I'm not saying start building bringing rocks in your living room and building caves because you know, it's gonna cause family problems. UK homes are small anyway, right? Right. You've touched this wall and this wall. It's that's the size of the room. But
don't build caves. What I mean is have a metaphorical cave. Because for a believer throughout history, a cave has been a means of achieving greatness. Every Friday, you read a Surah Surah got a surah of the cave. The cave. Why? Because seven snipers went into that cave. Why? To protect the man? Where did they protect the man in a in a cave? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Where did he receive revelation
in a cave? When he was performing the hedgerows, which was for the sake of Eman into heat? Where did he get protection?
in a cave? We need to have cave days. What do I mean by cave? cave days where you might be a brother and you might be a sister you switch off from society.
You switch off from your children, you switch from the internet, you switch off on social media is richer from everybody. And you have a day in which you connect to your fitrah
you start hearing the voice of your that voice which you can't hear normally because it's drowned out by the chaos, chaotic lifestyles that we live in the noise of society.
You need to have a day where you come out of there and you connect to that like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to do he didn't worship idols. He didn't do the bad things that he did. But why didn't he do it? Because he was connected to his Fatah used to spend a lot of time in the cave.
He was never misguided.
But he was not upon. He was never misguided. He didn't know how to worship Allah, but he was never misguided. And so Allah says, well, we're Jeddah, cabal and Sahaja that we found you, not upon complete guidance for Hydra. And then we taught you how to worship Allah. Some people say that no, Allah says we found you misguided and we guided you. That's the wrong translation. It was never misguided Salah lo and he was he was not upon complete guidance. He didn't know how to worship Allah. Then Allah taught him how, but in terms of him as a human being, he was guided by his fitrah and Allah created us upon a fitrah and that fitrah cannot contradict what Allah once
we need to connect with that voice that tells you Oh servant of Allah.
Fear of law 10 back to Allah. Review your life, take account of yourself, I was gonna ask you about what you're doing. You have a lot of things on your plate, how effective are you with regards to these responsibilities of servant of Allah, Allah Don't lose hope in the mercy of Allah and back to Allah that that voice is their calling out to us. If we don't have a thinking day, we can progress. And in this, this this concept of the thinking day, what you need to do one important activity is you need to list every role you have in your life. Because in life, we as human beings have one of two roles. We have mandatory roles. And we have elective roles. One of two roles. Mandatory roles
are roles, that your philosophy.
It's called religion, your religion does not allow you to give up at any cost. This is known as a mandatory Roth. And elective role is a role which your religion, your belief system, allows you to give up when needed.
We all have this in our life. You need to sit down and jot them down. What are examples of mandatory roles? I'm a servant of Allah. Can you ever give that up? I'm a creation of Allah. Can you ever give that up? You can't. I'm a father. Can you give that up? You can't. I'm a mother. I'm a daughter. I'm a son. I'm a niece and my nephew. I'm a grandchild. I'm a grandparent, you can't give up this loss. It's no way you can give it up. These roads come with responsibilities. Then move on to your elective roles, roles which your belief system
allows you to give up, like your job where you volunteer, how much time you spend playing sports, how much time you spend doing other things. These are things which you are flexible in your belief system has left you to decide how you apply yourself in these things on condition is not harmful to your life. Right? You sit down during your thinking day during your cave day and you ask yourself, go on a sincere journey with yourself. And don't be your be your best friend. Don't be always the enemy. Because some people do this. But they shed upon beautifies for them. They misguidance so they make excuses for it. They say no, I'm not doing this. But you see because of that. And because of
that, no, no, no, no. In Africa, we say call a spade a spade, and not a big spoon.
Right? call a spade a spade a lot of big spoon. Yeah. call yourself out for who you are. Don't make excuses. You're a son. How effect how an effective son I, you're a servant of Allah, how good a servant of Allah. Right? Because in life, no matter how good we are, there's always room for improvement. You need to figure out how you can improve. And you need to set your targets that you will review during your next thinking in your next cave. Right? So you have yearly targets, quarterly targets, yearly reviews, video reviews, quarterly reviews, you got to teach yourself as a project, you got to have that thinking day. During that thinking day, you got to ask yourself that I
have elective robes. And I have mandatory roles. How do I manage the resources of my life? How much time am I giving to my job, as opposed to me being a father, for example, as opposed to me being a mother, for example, right? Because we know in business, if you do resource allocation by giving more resources to electives, then you're mandated in matches of the program, your program is going to fade, and it's going to die out and it's going to fail.
Right? open any management book, you'll see this, I'm asking you to teach yourself as a project. You sit down and say Subhanallah, I give more time to my job, but then to my role as a parent, that means you giving more resources to an elective role in your life than a mandatory role.
And I was gonna ask you about this. So what's happened,
you've got your priorities mixed up, you will never realize that you've mixed up your priorities, until and unless you have that meeting with yourself and understand everything about you and what's going on in your life. Right. And Allah will reward you for this one law here. Anyone who sits to do this for for the sake of progress for the sake of Allah, you will be rewarded, not a waste of time, don't sit and say the chef is telling us to do these things are crazy things right? Now go and have a thinking day go and get a board of directors go What is he talking about? Now I'm back to the basics before the grave brothers and sisters in Islam. Right? At the end of the day, the day you
die, you're not going to look at how much money you made, you're not going to look at how much fame you had, you're not going to look you're going to look at did I look after the white sheep at the compulsory medicine meeting or not now have I looked after the first thing you think about it, I just pray my Salah in this period. That's, that's the reality. Right? when push comes to shove all the fancy matters of your life go to the site, only the mandatary the real deal matters. They come to the front of your mind. Right? So this is life. And if you don't take hold of your life, nobody will because we're lucky. We'll be left with a lie. No one is more desperate for your success than
No one cares about you more than you. Nobody desires your Savior on the day of damage more than you. If you don't look after yourself. No one's gonna do it for you. Right so these are parting words. This is not this is parting advice after Ramadan. I pray it was practical enough. And I pray it was at least paradigm shifting enough right to the extent where we actually will move on to the next few days and months in a different way. And please you are at home of the hour. Take this message home to your families and to your colleagues and to your friends. So responsibility upon you and understand that you are going to be great because you are created by Allah never ever settle for
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