Ramadan & The Busy Life
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The value of time in Ramadan and how to maximize your achievement
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undeletable alameen sallallahu wasallam Baraka Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam ala Sleeman kathira mama but so are you guys ready for Ramadan
doesn't sound like somebody is ready you guys don't seem to feel Mashallah pumped up during the month of Ramadan right now and that's exactly the point of this session over here Ramadan for those who are living a very busy life You see when it comes to Ramadan panela as much as we think and as much as we try to prepare for the month of Ramadan No matter how much we try Ramadan requires much more preparation than we could ever imagine and the only and the best way to prepare for ramadan ramadan starts which means once Ramadan start that's it you have no other choice right? A lot of people they want to make sure that when Ramadan begins they're not still building habits. No they
would like to establish these habits so how can we maximize our benefits from the month of Ramadan inshallah to Allah Kota in such a very busy lifestyle so I'm going to be speaking with the first 20 minutes inshallah on the value on the value of time for Muslims in general. And then inshallah brother Mr. Usman Bonilla will be speaking about how to maximize the benefits from the month of Ramadan. But those who have such a very busy life like professionals, you know, homemakers and everybody else shallow data in this lifestyle that we have. So starting with the subject of time, when it comes to time, as Muslims we know that life it's time it's time actually life itself is
time. And when Allah subhana wa Taala defined themselves allows upon what Allah says Allah, Allah su Buddha, but in la hora de is do not curse at a da da da means time, don't curse at the time, because Allah Subhana Allah Himself his time which means the essence of Allah azza wa jal he is before he is after so he is going on with Allah was what we in our perception could say that time. So Allah subhana wa tada defining time in the Quran in many many ways is reading and he is planning with that elevates the status of time in many many ayah in the Quran. He says God is Panama's Allah will fetch you will earn an Asha I swear to you by the by the daybreak and he says one lasser in an incentive
hosannas word to you by alasa, that the late afternoon time, which is the time that most people really lose and waste, whether they waste you know, in commute, going back and forth from work from school, going home, and so on, or just kind of rejuvenating and relaxing until the next, the next probably maybe episode of the of the evening. So therefore that time is usually lost, there is a much decline, which is why it is so important to observe the understand Allah subhanho wa Taala says to her well lately, et cetera. So what is for by the phone the the early the early part of the day, so what are the value of time, so almost an every part of every portion of the day and the night,
which means the 24 hours, basically, which means time, Allah subhanho wa Taala elevated the status of the time by swearing by every portion of it. Which means for me, I need to make sure that every time that allows our gel has elevated status in my life, in my mind is actually being used wisely. That's what it means. Why do I need to care about this? Because Allah azza wa jal says, Who lunasin ecotel not every soul shall have the taste of death. With every incident, every human being will have the taste of the What does that exactly mean? That means you were born with an expiration date.
But you don't know that expiration date. I mean, imagine if the children are born and then you flip the child up and down, you see, Oh, there you go.
If you know what the expiration date is, how your life is gonna look like, Can you imagine how life is gonna look like, you're gonna go miserable, because you know, when you're gonna die, and since the date is there already, so eventually, people just waiting for the day to come. And they just got their own live, they don't enjoy that life. But Allah says, Every soul, every human being shall have the taste of that. So we know that we are born into this world without an expiration date. We don't know when this is going to happen. So people should look at this as one of two things. Whether it's an obstacle, or it's a challenge. Those who look at this as an obstacle, what do they do? They just
kind of feel trapped. I'm dying anyway. So why bother? Why do you have to do anything? Why do I even have to work? Why do I have to study what I have to do? Whatever I'm dying anyway, so it becomes an obstacle, and they never achieve anything. Others they look at this as a challenge, which means since I know I'm dying, then let me get the best out of this time that I'm living in this world. But what defines the best? What defines the best? That's what the believer needs to observe and need to look into it. And obviously for someone who believes in Allah subhana wa tada and the final day, we'll come to defining what is best in using your time. That means using it and what please Allah
subhanho wa Taala
the remembrance of Allah azza wa jal dhikr of Allah subhanho wa Taala because we know Allah azza wa jal has named or has told us about the time that we have as being a name and a blessing. He says upon what Allah was a fellow Kumu Laila one na Saqqara which means Allah azza wa jal, he has created this blessing and employ this person to benefit what which vessel we're talking about. A layer one the heart, the day and the night, the day for you to work and the night futurist and rejuvenate wakasa Allah and the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says in the Hadith, near metonymic, Boone v maca theorem and there are two blessings, two blessings that Allah Subhana Allah has given us and we are
so so deceived by these two blessings. We don't pay attention to them very well. He said so how to unfollow us which means health will follow which means the time meaning you have plenty of time in the pile especially in our in this culture over here. Yes, we have a lot of fun handle a lot of luxuries a lot of stuff and so forth. It's supposed to make our life easy. A lot of people a lot of people a lot gets difficult because they lose in time. It's a busy life over here. But imagine those of him that Allah bless them with the not so heavy load of work, but they still earn much and handled by me and they have plenty of time on their hands. How are they using this time? A lot of
people they feel deceived only when they start getting busy when they start getting you know old and sick and so on. Only then they start thinking about the meaning of time and the importance of time. Why time is so important and why do I need to pay attention to the injured wisely bussola is selasa mentioned the halifa was mentioned so tirmidhi Bala Salaam Salaam let azula koderma abdomen Emma data is the professor some says that the person the servant the slave of Allah azza wa jal his feet or her feet will not be removed from that station before Allah subhanho wa Taala Anil Dubin be asked about four things. And he said Salah some of these four things he says are normally female. Now
about your Omar What's the meaning of Roma? Your life is your lifetime that you spend on earth in this world. How did you spend the time that I have given you? Did you use it wisely? And not just any time? Allah subhanaw taala the professor Sam says one shambhavi female oblah and your youthful age? How did you consume that? You know that age was supposed to be the age of accomplishment. What did you do this? Today in the sculptures Pamela the young ones and they want to retire at 30 and 25 for leaving.
They want to find some sort of like a treasure, online treasure that brings them money while they're sitting at home and hamdulillah and they retire at 35 and spend the rest of their life just having fun. They want easy money easy life alarm, Stan and the prophets Allah says you are going to be asked about the time that you spend on this life. And the specifically the youthful time when it's supposed to be the most achieving. What have you done? What did you achieve? Whether it's for the dunya or for the ashram or at least something What did you do with the NEMA of life that Allah subhanho wa Taala has given you and how does an abyssal Allah wa Salaam Carlos Allah Ceylon is
attending Hansen couple of times you need to make sure that you catch five things before other five things catch up with you like us five things before you caught up with other things. Other five things? What are these five things? He said some of them I'm sure that if denim comes in a couple of times cedevita
your youthful age before we become old. You know many people that say I'm gonna go hygiene, shallow data later, right? Vanilla, I'm going to start fasting when I reach my 50s Well, I'm gonna do this when I reach that age. By the time they get to that age they are they're sick. They have a lot of you know, problems financially, they're not stable partner that have social troubles. All that stuff becomes much more distraction than when they were actually much younger. So you need to catch up before it's too late for this number to answer
you your health before sickness. When you're healthy and hamdulillah you'll never even think of the meaning of being sick. Holly moment. Mm hmm. Hamad Rahim Allah Allah in his biography visited one of his students by Steven immaculate Rahim Allah, Allah. He visited him when he was sick. So when he asked him and that that sort of in particular, he traveled all the way from Spain to Baghdad. And imagine back in the days coming from Spain on landless all the way to the capital of Islamic State at the time. It's a long journey. And it was worth it really. So this young man is now he's by himself, no family around. He's coming there to study with the mammoth Rahim Allah tala. And there
he is. He's almost dying in his own, you know, apartment or room there and wherever he was living. So in my mother hamdulillah to honor him, he went to visit him. So as he was visiting him, everybody in the neighborhood came over because they saw him as commander area, honoring that young man. So when he asked him, How are you feeling right now? He gave the answer like every human being we give at this moment, this emotional state when you're sick, no family around no support system, no social network.
On, but when he asked him how do you feel? He says that's it, I think is the end of the road. Like I'm done, I'm dying. But in my mind rahimullah he remind him was something interesting. He said to him, Carla, a Yamaha, les aka mafia. Well, yeah, moussaka unless
it says when we were sick, we never think about recovery.
And we were healthy whenever think about sickness, which means it's okay. Don't worry. Like, even though you think that you're not recovering at all, but you know what, take some time, don't think about this right now. And you should be fine, eventually recovered, how long survived afterwards. But the point I'm making is that when we are when we're healthy, we don't think of sickness. So therefore, when we're healthy, and we don't think about using this time of health in achieving as much as we can, specifically spiritually, but when we get sick, that's when it's I think, in some handle, I still have five more days from Oman. I didn't finish from last year. Oh my god, I wanted
to go and do the hedges that last night, oh, my God, I wanted to do this thing. And that thing, suddenly we start thinking of all the good stuff we could have done, when we had our health. And then we promised ourselves and promise Allah azza wa jal, when I'm healthy, inshallah, I'm gonna go back and start doing that thing. But then we get healthy again, what happens to us, we get distracted.
And we go back to the same thing, until somehow the next episode of sickness. The third thing, the professor says, Well enact a couple of chocolate, which means Make sure to use your wealth, before you get poor, how do you run away, so panela things happen, circumstances economy goes down, you get out, you lose it, somebody steals your money, whatever. Many, many other things happen to people's credit caused them to start having you know, less and less and the last minute very clear in the Quran, he made it clear that what
you will do and when XML and why they will emphasize with thammarat, Allah says that you shall be tried, you shall be tested. One of the things they mentioned Subhana what Allah and XML, Amalia will emphasize that you can have less of Amman and less of amphis means less a wealth, less the problem of age, which means you get sick, and so forth. So eventually, you might think you're dying young in this case, but he says a lot of pinata you will be tried with the less of wealth, and maybe the value of the money itself. So make sure the law has blessed you with enough handle and steady income, that you use that time of financial stability, which provide this emotional stability to
maximize the benefit of what you do. Whether by giving original your extra time because of your handle or your stability to do something useful. Bonilla hit a barcode on number four, it says for aka cobbler, surely, your free time before you get busy. How do you get busy anyway? I mean, depends. Sometimes people they get laid off and then eventually they get now stuck. What am I gonna do? Yeah, you have some free time, but you know what their mind is busy.
Their mind is completely busy, they don't know where they're gonna go next. And then they find another job. But this job this time right now is not that doesn't have the same luxuries we had from the previous one. So they get really, really busy. Or they get married, they have kids. And now they have to worry about their income, or having an extra job or the extra hours and then you get they get visits to Panama or their family come over and therefore there is no time for them at all. So every time is busy with other people, they will be something which will make you visit. Make sure if Allah bless you with extra time and excess time in your hand. Use it wisely and use and benefit from
this in the best way possible and shallow to Allah. And the last one the Prophet says I mentioned this hadith called via Taka problematic and benefit and make sure to use your life before your death your life before your death. So hamdulillah blessed you with this life. Remember, you have an expiration that I don't even know when this expression that is going to come but I'm going to use the best inshallah, Allah of my time and this word Bonilla for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, these are the five things as you can see, when we talk about them, they go back again to the same principle time, the same principle, they go back again to the subject of time, whether it's been
your youthful age, your health, your wealth, your free time, your life, all of them goes back again, how much time how much you can benefit before you get sick before you get busy and so forth. So the time again, is very valuable and very important. Why do people waste their time in the last five minutes? I have a shallow time. So why do people waste time? Anyway Ramadan is gonna come and that's when people start thinking some sort of differently. Why is it that people they plan to maximize their benefit from the month of Ramadan and they don't have the same problem maybe momentum or feeling or even you know, kind of like energy to do it after the month of Ramadan because Ramadan
itself Subhanallah it's this transformation really. It is a transformation and well I just looking at our a bidat our a by that it shows us how much Allah subhanho wa Taala put value on the subject of time. Like when it come to the solar. What is the solar Gemma, what's the essence of solar? It's about what making sure you pray, we pray What do you call it?
When you pray, so what do you need to pray for Salah on on time? Right? Because Allah Subhana says insalata canadel minikits seven makuta Salah was prescribed on the believers he tab among Buddha's specific times. So Salah is about time when it come to Juma, can you pray to him after
deliberating after Asia? So what do you prefer Juma in a specific time specific day? So what is it about that time not just that the Prophet hasn't even mentioned to us on Friday there is an hour specific window time window, if you catch it making dua, Allah will accept your draft. So it's about maximizing the time even though they like Juma, same thing when it comes to Ramadan. What is Ramadan? What do we call it?
What is sharmin month what is month?
time? Right? When I say month it's again time. So we observe it through the healer and we watch the sun and the moon. So it's time so everything is about time our Deen our essence all of it is really about the value of time is while hustle bustle Rahim Allah, Allah says column Adam element, am we llamada Mahabharata is the son son of Adam, you're just a matter of days. Every day that passes by part of you goes with it. This is exactly what it is. every minute, every breath that goes out part of you goes away actually with that. So why do people waste time? Number one, because they don't have clear goals.
in Ramadan, your goals are set up for you without having to make any effort. What are your goals on Ramadan? Can you guys tell me what do people do in Ramadan?
Finish the Quran. That's one goal, right? How many times?
see another goal is still counting also using the time to finish the quarter multiple times? What else? What are we doing on the 100? How many right Katara we're gonna pray how many nights you're gonna, you're gonna finish every single night or not what else?
So the God, when do you give it?
You were the 27th that you know, the fundraising problem. So you wait for that to maximize the benefit on that time. So if you look even at the month of Ramadan, it's all about how can I maximize but it's easy for me to achieve, because I can set these goals and benchmarks. But outside of the month of Ramadan, you have plenty of time 11 months until the next Ramadan, right. So we keep saying next month, the month after next week, the week after SubhanAllah. So become very relaxed. If we don't have this kind of you know, very disciplined nature. It's gonna start to kind of like keep dragging and dragging and you never benefit from your time that you have. And when a lot as I just
spoke about this believers, what did he say God will Edina cafaro get tomato tomahto cool and Amara masala that those disbelievers in terms of what they do in this forum this life, yet tomato this guy enjoying that just the life is just like retirement and enjoyment. It's just basically vacation time already. So like a vacation guru. They eat and they drink and just just like they absolutely have no regard to the ACA.
And that's exactly what some people live throughout the year until Ramadan comes. And we remember Oh my God, I have to do this and that and so and that's what I think of going grandma. They would like to invite people for hamdulillah invite fam suddenly we think about family right now. Invite them over dinner for dinners and this and that. Suddenly we realize that we have goals that we need to achieve. When you have goals clear to you, it's easy to set them up and handle them from your eye and follow them and reach those benchmarks and so on. That's why Ramadan handler is a good organizer for us. Number two, why do people waste time? Number two is actually procrastination. Why? Because
we don't know when we're done. We don't know how long it's going to take you know before I get sick and so on. So we keep dragging. I keep pushing it away you keep pushing it away at this week. And holla it's one of the worst things people do that's what the shaytaan as a matter of fact, that's what the show is on Yan is good at every time you try to do something good he will push you to do it later. Remember certain forget what the professor said about certain feature when you go to sleep? What are the shape and do when you go to sleep? He turns three the shaitaan comes in ties three knots on the back of your head and blows up these knots like the sofa like the magic like a spell.
You guys just go to sleep don't wake up. Stay sleep.
Obviously the purpose of Sims is the one that shape when when you wake up when you say oh development strategy. Remember last one of these notes will be untied.
The second one the third that you make will do the second one that you're going to play the third one and you become energetic and handler and okay, but the moment you open your eyes, and before we even use a vicar What do you think about?
Should I wake up maybe another five more minutes then moments, procrastination.
The very beginning the beginning of your day. The wore a shirt on is I do and this is his job. He just said to you, maybe later, you still have time. It's okay. No problem. And eventually Ramadan will pass by and you have missed a lot. Why? Because you thought you had 30 days, and then realize every second that that's actually part of you is going away with it. Number three, why do people waste time? Honestly, one of the biggest things why people waste time is a service area, which means you know, the circle of friends and companions that around, it depends if you have people who are martial achieving what you end up doing, become achieving like them. But if you have people who are
always martial, always on recreation on time, what are you gonna end up doing? Enjoy your time not achieving, so check your friends. Or when I say friends, it doesn't mean just the physical friends your with ajumma. Now, today, most of our friendship is what virtual. So if you are following all these, you know, martial law people online, and you have your news feed is full with what everything, everything in this world that is completely unimportant to you.
And the most important thing to you is just, you know, completely hidden. So many people when they go online, they watch everything that is completely unnecessary, which is what Allah subhanaw taala warned us against and the prophets, Allah, Allah just considered Marianne even Hosni staminate or humara, any one of the signs of good Islam, the good sign of Islam of this person is turqu melayani, that you leave, what does it mean, what's not your business, but most of us on social media, we actually watch that which is completely unnecessary, completely useless. And it's not our business, but we forget about what is most important to us. So make sure make sure to prepare yourself with
good company people who really achieve care about time, that's very important. And the last point over here, time the last time is plenty. We don't know like what do we do when we don't know when the our expiration date is going to come? So we need to employ and use that time in the maximum way possible, shallow terracotta Allah, Allah has blessed us in this oma to be the last nation, the last nation to exist, and have been holding the torch of guidance for others. But we live in the shortest in terms of age and the age limit.
So back in the days, people that lived hundreds of years look at not just his Dharma was not 150 years. And 150 is making that up to all these people. Look at the Prophet Ibrahim Prophet Musa they lived longer than what we live, we are living under 61. Nowadays, maybe the age expects is going up to the 70s. And so but still compared to others, we don't have that much we're not going to spend that much time like they did. So how much in such shorter time can we do to catch up with them? That's why Allah Subhana Allah blessed us with this man and father, which means virtuous times. One of the is the month of Ramadan, Ramadan and serve the reward is great. And Ramadan, there are 10
nights, the reward in these 10 nights, much more than anything else. In these 10 nights. There is one single night and looks on the organization for Ramadan. You get excited for the entire month. And then by the time you get halfway through Ramadan, you get tired, right? And then the reminder, hey, the 10 days are coming. So you have 100 new booster. You start the first day, second day, the third night you get tired because you're doing extra right now you're exhausted. By the time you are getting exhausted. You said Oh listen, there's loads of other but then which one of them? Do you always keep trying your best to keep the shallow data up until the end of the month of Ramadan.
There is so much height Sharla we can benefit from the month of Ramadan and getting ourselves prepared for ventilateur Baraka, what Allah This is in general, the value of of time that Allah Subhana Allah has blessed us with in this in this life, how can we maximize our benefits inshallah from the month of Ramadan for those who have a very, very busy life, I live this in shallow data for brother amoros man to explain to you vertical
Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala alihi wa sahbihi wa ala
so the last few Ramadan's every time I talk to any of my
everyone's kind of got the same goals and it's something like this. This Ramadan, I'm going to memorize one Joseph Quran, I'm going to read the whole chronic translation cover to cover, I'm going to recite it twice, I'm going to pray fudger nation the measured every night, I'm not going to miss an Iraq arthroscopy, I'm going to follow these five YouTube serious with daily videos and we listen to podcasts like to execute on my way to work every day, I'm going to give up carbs, and I'm going to keto diet, I'm going to give up Netflix, I'm going to deactivate Facebook. And also we're going to host a couple of bar parties at our house, and also about my friends. And we're going to go
measure the hopping. And the last thing is I'm gonna stay up all night, and I'm with a cop one weekend. And that's before you even get to family commitments, household chores on a daily basis, and being alert and productive at your actual full time job. And so everyone goes in with this whole laundry list of things that they're gonna do. And by about day three, everyone's like, yeah, I wake up for support. And then I sleep for 30 minutes, and then I go to work. Then I go to my cart, my lunch break, and I take a nap. Then I go to work again. Then I come home, I go to sleep. I wake up, I eat a star, I forced myself to go to the musher that come home and I sleep again. And I'm
basically in survival mode. And so that cycle kind of keeps on continuing. Do
you guys hear okay? All right. And so this kind of cycle, it just keeps continuing because there's a lot to do. There's a lot that we want to do. But we eventually eventually something's gotta give, Something's got to give. And so we go into that survival mode. We're like, I'm just basically making ends meet in Ramadan. As long as I'm fasting am okay, I might be skipping so
I might be behind on my chronic recitation, I've completely gave up the idea of memorizing when Joe's I'm eating fried sauces every night like it just it all goes out the window. And so the question then becomes, okay, well, what do we do differently? What's the actual strategy that we're supposed to have? And if we look and we understand what is the actual purpose of Ramadan, you will Athena amico t bar Lake Como siano kamakoti, Birla latinamerica, Polycom the cocoon, that you have a problem. And there is a remedy that's prescribed for you. That remedy is fasting. And the end outcome is backwards consciousness and awareness of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And when you go back to
that ultimate basic, it actually alleviates a lot of pressure and a lot of stress. Because the goal of Ramadan is not hitting all those 25 different targets that I had. But it's cultivating a better relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala. At the basic level, that's all that it ultimately comes down to. So if I can manage to do that, then I'm successful. Okay, well, now, how do I do that? What's the like tactic? What's the strategy? What am I supposed to do? And the answer to that is that
it's something that is easy to understand. It is extremely boring. It's difficult to execute. And it's cliche and cheesy enough to put on a sunset and share it on Instagram. It is to become extraordinary. You have to master the ordinary,
or master the ordinary to become extraordinary. Everything that you need to know to have like the most successful Ramadan ever. You already learned in Sunday School is the basics that we all know. If you're seeing that poster, like everything I needed to learn, I learned in kindergarten, right? play nice, share your toys, be respectful, those kinds of things. It's that same principle. If you talk to a dentist, and you say, What's the secret to oral hygiene, brush your teeth and floss your teeth and do it everyday twice a day. There is no secrets. There's no shortcuts, there's no magic bullet. It's you just have to do the basics, and do them every day. And then you'll be successful.
How do you keep a car running for a really long time you maintain it? Well, you get your oil changed on time you rotate your tires. It's all the boring stuff that's in the manual that you know that you're supposed to do, but you don't end up doing it. But that's what keeps your car running for a long time. If you look at sports is a lot of the same thing we need when you get to things like the playoffs and championship games. And they're like, well, what was the difference? And it's very rarely some kind of like, you know, crazy strategic maneuver. Oh, they pulled out this trick play or this or that. It's know, someone just shot better. Someone just hustled harder, someone grab more
rebounds. Like it's the very, very basic elements of the game that someone just did better than somebody else. in baseball, there's a statistic called your batting average.
Right, so the number of times you go to you go to bat, how often do you actually hit the ball. And so an average baseball player bats 250, which means that one out of every four times they go to the plate, they get a hit. That's an average player, a superstar. Now when I say superstar, I mean, you got your average baseball player, now you have the superstar that makes 10s of millions of more dollars, will probably become a Hall of Famer, gets multimillion dollar endorsement deals, gets a Lister status gets put in TV commercials, gets this exponential level of success over the average person, they'll back about 350, which means that over the course of 162, game season, with the
number of games they play, and the number of times they go to bat, the superstar that got the 10 x return, hit the ball maybe once or twice a week more than the average player. They didn't do anything crazy. They didn't do anything special, there was nothing magical that they did that other people can't do. They executed on the basics better than everybody else. And so for us, it's it's a profound reminder, because when we look at the hadith of gibreel, for example, we know that that's the same case that Islam is defined as the five pillars, your Shahada, your prayer, your fasting, your HUD, yours, Oh, God, and then his son, the next level, the exponential returns, is doing those
things better. It's you're worshiping, but now you're worshiping as if Allah sees you, even though you don't see him, is executing on those same basics, but at a much higher level than everybody else. And so to succeed, it really comes down to knowing I have to make sure that I nailed those basics. Well, what are the basics, it's making sure that I'm praying all five of my prayers on time, right? There's a tendency, sometimes toward the end of the month where fudger gets kind of sketchy. We start skipping out on stuff for a little bit. Even though we know that of, you know, part of the fasting, one of the things that has the most blessing is that morning meal. It's praying and
congregation fudger Isha verhuur, if you cannot work, it's having a daily relationship with Quran. And it's making lots and lots of supplicating to Allah subhanho wa Taala. It's avoiding backbiting. It's avoiding cursing, it's a, you know, avoiding the things that we all know that we should avoid. It's just those basics. And it sounds like Well, that's what we talk about every single time. But if we really look back and assess like our last five, Ramadan's or 10, Ramadan's, we all know that we have room for improvement in all of those things. So it's, don't get too caught up in finding like the novel thing or the new thing or like wish for an app on my phone I'm going to use and all this
stuff, it's like, no, keep it very simple. But execute on those things at a very high level. Now, that's one part of it. Another part of it. And this is more along the lines of time management, is to be an extremist, with your priorities. Being extremist with your priorities. So here's what that means.
When you're at work, if you have a full time job, or a part time job, whatever the case may be,
you have in a mana, you have actually a trust and responsibility to religiously speaking, to fulfill the agreement that you have at work. And so if you're showing up to work on two hours of sleep, or three hours of sleep, and now you're brain dead, and you're not productive, and you're not present, and you're falling behind on your obligations and deliverables, that's a problem. Even though maybe you Were up all night worshiping and doing all these things that are noble and good, and inshallah rewarding. But fulfilling your responsibilities is also an obligation. And so we have to understand what our actual priorities are. And so during the week, if I have a demanding job, and there's
certain expectations, I have to be very extreme with those priorities. And so if that means that I might have to pray a shun congregation and go home, so I get enough sleep, I might have to do that. I might have to maybe wake up for sewer and pray to work out the huddle on my own, so that I get that extra reward and that extra blessing of Ramadan, but I might not be able to stay in pray 20 eurocon and that might just be my situation. And that's also part of it, right? It's understanding what your situation is because not everyone has the same responsibilities. And not everyone has the same commitments, but the commitments and responsibilities that you are given you have to fulfill.
So my Ramadan when I was in college, as a college student with a part time job was drastically different than Ramadan as a working professional with the family, because obligations responsibilities and commitments are drastically different. And that situation again, it may change a few years from now. And my Ramadan, by the way now in summertime, might look drastically different than Ramadan in wintertime. When the days are shorter, so is being realistic and understood.
Standing the situation that you have the commitments that you have. Now, just as you go, let's say you go hard with work and all those things during the week, you can now also flip it and say, Well, I'm not being able to keep up with my eba. And my extra worship and the extra things I want to do for my spirituality like I wanted. Well, now when the weekend comes along, I can flip that switch and go to the opposite. And now instead of relaxing and taking Saturday off, now, maybe I make up ground. And so maybe on the weekends, if I wasn't able to read, let's say, wonders of grind every day during the week, and I was only reading two or three pages. Now maybe on the weekend, I'm
reading three or four Joe's, and I'm making up for that time, so that on the aggregate over the entire month, I'm still accomplishing more of my goals, but I'm doing it in a more balanced way, where I'm still fulfilling the obligations that I have.
Now, another thing that I'll recommend, and Schakowsky was talking about the virtue of the last 10 nights. And this is something that becomes very challenging because the last 10 nights, the reward is something that we don't want to miss out on. And so some people are able to go all out in the last 10 nights and still maintain and uphold their commitments at work and things like that, but some people aren't. And so what I would recommend is that, if you're wanting to take advantage of the last 10 nights in that manner, plan ahead.
And this is something that people don't want to make the sacrifice to do this sometimes. But this is what I would highly encourage is take paid time off from work, utilize that vacation time, you know, part of the spirit of Ramadan, right, going back to the basics is sacrifice. It's what are we giving up for the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada. And if I'm willing to give up two or three or five or 10 vacation days, in order to focus and really maximize that time of Ramadan, then maybe inshallah I get that much more reward and that much more multiplied, you know, benefit and Baraka and all of these things that I may have otherwise, because I'm showing that effort and that initiative, and
that sacrifice of giving up what I love for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So that's one way that you can that you can do that.
Another thing, and this is now getting a little bit more tactical in the day to day basis, is find pockets of time to maximize. So if I have a demanding day to day life, whether that's with the kids, maybe I'm homeschooling my kids, maybe it's at work, you know, whatever. Once again, everyone's situation is different, but everyone has demands on their time and things that they have to do. And so I might not have the luxury of just waking up whenever I want working the hours that I want, and spending four or five hours a day, let's say doing a bother focusing on my spirituality or all of these different things. But I can find pockets of time to maximize. And so my commute to work is
something that I can take advantage of my lunch break where I'm no longer eating a meal or something I can take advantage of. I can go pray over at the machine now in that one hour lunch break, and get that reward of again, taking care of those basics. But those basics have the most reward that I can go and I can pray for her in Gemma in congregation at the mercy during the day because now I don't have to eat. So I can take advantage of that time.
The most important though, is making sure that you find time throughout the day and this thing that you can do no matter what your responsibilities or commitments, is finding time to just make Vicar of Allah subhanaw taala. And this is again, it's it's one of those things that it's so basic. It's so quote unquote cliche. It's something that we hear so often. And it just doesn't register in our head as to how important it is. Even though the president said that saponify behind these Amontillado Diem These are two phrases that are light on the tongue and heavy on the scales. They're heavy on the skills of the Day of Judgment. And the more that a person can train themselves to keep
their tongue wet with the remembrance of Allah, that goes back to that ultimate goal. When the goal of Ramadan is stuck, while cultivating that awareness and consciousness of Allah subhanho wa Taala. The more that someone makes Vicar of Allah, the more that they're demonstrating that I'm thinking about Allah. I'm concerned about my relationship with Allah. So they're making sending extra solo out on the profits a little lower, they will sell them, they're saying so Pinilla handled like the halo law throughout the course of the day. And
the more that you do that, the more that it obviously there's the Barak and the blessings for that. But it's also that you start finding more and more time to do that. And so now when I'm walking up and down the stairs from you know, going back going out to my car going out to the parking lot, I'm waiting in line to the
grocery store. Now instead of taking out my phone and scrolling through social media, I'm training myself I need to stop and I just need to have that time to remember Allah subhanho wa Taala. And hand in hand with this is
hand in hand with this is the biggest Why is the essence of worship? doula is the core essence of worship. And we know that in Ramadan, one of the major benefits and the major blessings of Ramadan is that the the of the fasting person is accepted. And so we should be finding more and more time throughout our day to sit and to make. What are the mistakes that we make is that we'll sit and we'll make this, okay, I'm going to be productive. I'm a professional, I'm gonna make a list. So we sit down, we take out our phone, and we type up this to our list of like 45 different things. And they're all important. They're all worthwhile. They're all excellent. But here's what happens.
Getting through that to our list with a clear head and attentive heart takes like 30 minutes. And so now every time I sit down and think I need to make there are, my mind automatically says, Well, that's 30 minutes, let me do something else right now. I don't have time, I need to focus on something else. And so it starts to feel overwhelming. I want to make law but I got I got too much stuff here. Right. So one way to counteract that is one, make a shorter list, right, that's like the life hack way, make a list of like five or six really important things and focus on those. But the other is that throughout the day, you find again, find a few minutes of time here and there. Just
and if you really want to be geeky about it, like set a timer for three minutes, set a timer for two minutes, and say this is the odd timer, I'm not gonna focus on anything else. And it's it's very much a quality over quantity situation that the other than I'm making, if it's heartfelt, if it's attentive, then it goes a lot further. And if I and again, and this is one of the ways to make up ground. You know, there there's the famous story that something that some of the companions came to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and they said, Yeah, those who love these other companions, that they're rich, like they've purchased done now, what can we do? And he said that you make it up with
liquor, you make it up with remembrance of Allah. And they came and they said, Well, now they're doing that, too. So now now we're behind again, is that that's just virtue that some people have over others.
Don't get too caught up in comparing your situation to somebody else. And this is actually one of the traps of social media and Ramadan is that every time you get on, it looks like everyone else is having a much better Ramadan than you are. Right? It's like you get on it's like, everyone's got their houses decorated, like this amazing Pinterest, you know, like, Ramadan calendar with all these little activities. It's kind of like where these people get the time, right? You might not have the time. It's okay. Not everyone can have like a Pinterest Instagram or the Ramadan. It's okay. But know your situation. And know how you can make up ground. And the one of the easiest ways of making
up ground is just finding pockets of time. One minute, two minutes, five minutes. Just sit. remember Allah make to ask Allah for forgiveness. You know, the prophet SAW lots of love right into them said, you know what action is a very interesting narration because I actually love her and her, as the prophet SAW Selim, what's the best deed someone can do? Now Who's asking? It's, I actually love her and who is a scholar a worshiper, right, the highest status. So you would think that if someone like her is asking, what's the best thing I can do? The answer should be? Well, instead of surah. Bucher and the 100, you should be sure Booker and Riley and Ron and 200, right, like that would be
an answer for the caliber of that person. You understand what I'm saying? But he answered her by saying that the best deed is that which is small but consistent. That for even someone of that caliber, and that status, that even for her the answer of the what the best deed that I can do is is that which is small, but consistent. And so yes, we go in from along with all these goals of all these different things that I'm going to do and you know, my new diet and my new meal plan, my workout plan and this much grind and all that stuff. And then it becomes disheartening, when four days in were forced to give up on those goals. And you lose motivation. And you and then no matter
what you do the rest of the month, you feel like I'm falling short. I'm not living up to the potential that I know I should be doing.
But the real way of looking at it, look, we you know, we can't treat Ramadan like a 30 day juice cleanse. It's not like a bootcamp to just all of a sudden you fix all the problems in your life. But it's 30 days to raise your baseline level of practice. It's 30 days to raise your baseline level so that when you exit Ramadan, you're at least a little bit better than before you came in. You know, every Friday the goal is that after you walk out of the footpath, that your incremental progress, you improve a little
bit. And then every week that adds up over the course of a year or two years, those incremental changes, they add up to something. And they add up to, you know, progress, tangible progress that you can see from Milan is kind of similar, it's not going to be in hopefully more than incremental. But again, you want to judge your baseline before you came into your baseline going out. And so if going into Ramadan find, find at least one thing to fix, find at least one thing to improve on. You know, maybe if I'm not praying messenger prayers, I really focus on making messenger prayers a habit, if I haven't had a daily relationship with or ongoing into Ramadan, then yeah, maybe in
Ramadan, I do, I do read five pages, or 20 pages, or 40 pages or whatever is within my capacity. But I do it with the intent that once Ramadan is over, I still at least maintain one page a day, or half page a day. So that inshallah when the next Ramadan rolls around, then I can build on that and I can, I can increase on that. But it's, we want to be able to give ourselves progress to for our own motivation. Because if we set really, really high goals, and then within a week, we see that we're off off track, it can become demoralizing, and it can become easy to give up. And that's when you go into survival mode, that I just, you know, I just need to get Ramadan over with I'm just as long as
I get my fast done, I'm good, right? That doesn't help anybody. Because now you're, you're gonna revert back to the same state as before. So be be realistic about your situation, but still be ambitious. It's a kind of a balancing act, I have to understand what my situation is what I can realistically do. But I need to be ambitious in the sense that I want this Ramadan to be a sense of improvement, a sense of establishing at least one habit that I can carry on. And it doesn't sound like much, but it compounds over time. This is a very, very famous Raven mama than the baker. He was traveling. And he's looking for a place to stay because now it's nighttime. So he goes to the
machine and he's going to set up camp and sleep in the machine. The caretaker comes He's like, you can't sleep here. You got to get out of the machine. He's like, No, no, you got to get out. It's like, Okay, fine. I'm gonna sleep in the parking lot then right? I'm gonna kind of be smart about this. The guy's like, No, no, no, you got to get out of here. You can't sleep in the parking lot. So commotion commotion ensues. guy down the street with the bakery store. He overhears this, and he comes in. He's like, Hey, what's going on? figures out, okay, there's someone who's traveling then needs a place to stay. So he says, All right, come over to my house. So he goes to his house. Now
this Baker, he's doing basic hospitality. He's laying out the bed, he's making some food for him, making sure he's got what he needs for the night. And Imam Ahmed says that I noticed that the whole time that he's doing all this. He's making us the farm. He's constantly asking Allah for forgiveness. And so he says, The next day I asked him, that, you know, you're doing your household chores. But the whole time you're making is the farm, you must be doing that, because you've seen some benefit, like something good must have come out of this that you keep on doing it. And he said, Yes, he goes, in fact, I have noticed that the more is the far that I do. All my to ask get
accepted. Except for one major though. He's like, what's that? Because I've been making glad that I get to meet this great Heidi's quality mom has been humble. And Mr. mathema is like your draw was answered even if I had to, like be dragged into your house for it to be answered. Right? But, but it showcases the power of something again, something basic, something simple, something that's within everyone's grasp, but it's executing on a very high quality no matter how busy somebody is, no matter what demands are on somebody's life. It's that simple even a stuck for last look for love stuck for a lot something that's very easy to do. But the rewards and the blessings of it are
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Does like a lot. So I want to remind you a few things that he talks about Huntelaar regards to what can we really do in order to benefit and shallow and maximize or benefit from the month of Ramadan? Do you guys the first principle he shared with us Do you guys remember the first principle is share with us what is that you need to do in order to maximize that benefit in the month of Ramadan? What was it?
Exactly to become excellent. You have to master the order which means Excel and the basics. The things that you usually do this time do it unconsciously. That's something we should work on a shout out to Baraka Ouattara by benefiting from what with what we do, we're enjoying it right now. It's a little bit different. The second thing he mentioned
When it comes to priority, what do you need to become an extremist? It's a scary word right?
But what does it mean to be extremist must come to your priorities which means you take this thing you know, seriously. You just got to the letter whatever is crucial priority, it's important for you. And I mentioned the example I want to emphasize on this because a lot of people Ramadan, karma, they endanger their, their livelihood, which has made their job their work or income. Why because they think if I don't put much more time in the event and Ramadan, that means I'm not a good Muslim and for them, that is the time for me to be a good Muslim because they don't do as much and outside of the month of Ramadan, know your priority should be in the right position that place even your
work is Urbana even they earn the money that you earn in order to take care of your family as part of the evaton shallow Torah but obviously like he said later on, find that pocket of time that you can shout out to Allah used to maximize specifically on the weekends where you can shout out and get your extra time vanilla for the rebalance on plan ahead as well make sure that you plan ahead to Sharla like we said you know usually outside of Ramadan people they don't have goals so therefore the time is just fluid and it's completely goes useless in Ramadan we do have you know goals I would like to achieve so plan ahead for to Charlotte about a katana and stop watching what people eat for
fr on social media. It makes use of Hama feels less than less and empowered less and less blessed alarm Stan so social comparison because of the social media it makes you feel that everybody's having a better Ramadan than you are probably out of all the Ramadan the best thing power was that a picture that is actually the snap before they posted us on social media llama Stan, so don't deceive Don't deceive yourself. You're doing great job. Don't forget about people doing just excel in what you know. Shout out to Bora totara melas. pinata make it successful Ramadan for all of your enemies. Will this be said because we still have about a charlatan and less than 20 minutes for the karma?
karma? You guys have any question? We're more than happy to have it inshallah. Some brothers and sisters are watching us as well. They can go to our Facebook, on the Facebook comment section. They can put their their actually their or their questions, and they will get them vanillite on answer them. Shout out to Barack Obama if you'd like to add or post anything online, make sure to use the hashtag v Ric Ramadan, 2018 vrsc, Ramadan 2018 shallow data and share that with everybody. So do you have any questions? Mr.
Milan?
Yes.
Especially for the mothers, right?
As the Father walks in the day and then comes out 100 is part right? And how can they benefit from that?
So the question is basically,
how do we maximize our benefit from Ramadan? Especially for for mothers, you know, who have a very busy schedule when it comes to family obligations and family life and so on? How, how do I balance that? So this is, for me, again, this is a kind of an issue of prioritization. So if I say, for example, that family time is important to me, then I have to make sure that we're planning for that family time.
And again, it's maximizing the benefit, right. So at least throughout the week, if maybe the one thing that we can do is have a foreign dinner together as a family every night.
Because oftentimes throughout the year, most of us struggle to eat dinner together as a family anyway. And Ramadan is a little bit easier because everyone has to eat at the same time. So I would say, for me, that's kind of the starting point is the family eats if they are together. Now from there, you have to kind of reverse engineer Well, for us to have if there's a family together, what does that actually mean? And so now, the husband wife have to figure out well, what does each person need to do in order to make that happen? So maybe that's certain days of the week, I'm picking up food on the way home or certain days I'm cooking certain news My wife is cooking, is just figuring
out what the division of labor and duties is to get to that end goal of at least everyone eating together, in terms of the rest is a lot of it's going to depend on your situation. Right? So
when you have younger kids, it's not so easy to make it to the machine long time.
I know many Ramadan's, like for me was frustrating, not making it to a show on time because we're just waiting to get the kids ready, right? Like, okay, we have to leave right now. We're going to be late and then Okay, needs a diaper change. We missed a shot. Right? It's you again, that's part of just understanding what your circumstances are. Sometimes when you have small kids, you're just you're just not going to make it to all those things. But you still try your best and you get whatever you can and so if that means more
Maybe that if it's important for our whole family to go to the machine, then we're all going to go to the machine, even if that means we're going to pray, like for God to throw away and come back home, but at least we did that together as a family. It's just kind of as prioritizing. What are the things that you want to do as a family and kind of engineering it back out from there?
Any questions? Brothers, or
sisters? Yes.
Okay, good.
So the question is basically if I have time, what do I do? Should I read for answer I don't know often, in order for me to benefit basically what do I do? Do I read for an or the cinema obviously, or should I do nothing? Actually, if you can do then a wonderful reading as much as you can internet for that that's better. And the moment they say, will it come to the Riverdance Allah and benefited from the Quran? The best the better is the better that you do when you maximize more of course engaging in the bar so when you standing up and salami gurukula sujood involves the vicar
you know, physical movement and so forth. On top of that we read in the Quran, however, however, also it depends on your your situation. Now your situation if you know that you can do Salah because your kids are asleep for example, no one can bother you with that then go ahead, do Salah. But if you're going to be starting nephila sola and then your kids are running around you and you're gonna keep you know just distracted with this thing and that thing, then you better sit down and read the Quran so that you maximize the benefit but in the Quran because why didn't the Quran you can still stop and hold the baby and move this way and that way and interrupted you know, easily? Not like so,
so depends on the situation. Now
yes, good.
So, question about a drawn Institute if I would like to make in my students Salah, do I do this in Arabic doesn't have to be in Arabic, well, that needs to be actually done in a language that you understand. So therefore, if you if you don't understand the Arabic language, you don't have to build on Arabic language do it in a language that you understand. However, the vicar of the sujood needs to be certain Arabic speakers such as horrible Allah subhanho villas of Hyderabad this needs to be done in Arabic language. Some do as they have value in their own land in their own Arabic language like St. Bernard United dounia Hassan Hassan walked in Adana why so because in that format
as it been said in the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet citizen as well, it's very very comprehensive which means that maximize the value and when you say it that way, if you try to translate that doesn't sound the same. So sometimes maybe easy to ensure guy that has maximum value try to memorize that an Arabic and use that and so on shallow data but if you need something personal in this case you do it in the language that you understand someone or they have reservation though just to keep it technical here on the subject some of them might say that keep the drama in Arabic In the fourth salah and you can you make it line any other language in an NFL or or so on and
so on. And there is no really there's no difference in the sort of the professors and between the photos are under regard So again, I would say if you make your draft in shallow draft you understand to connect with Alaska that's better for you well on now brothers Any questions?
Yes.
Is the two of the put the DA should be from the Quran as well. And even about this?
Well, that's what they say if you want to say it in other than the Arabic language, something from you know, that can be taken from the Quran. But there is no, there is no really solid evidence that this is how it needs to be advised that you ask Allah for your need, whatever that needed is maybe something very private, very personal. But if you can use those of the Quran because it's easy to set up an Arabic for those who don't understand Arabic language. It can make executive take that the ayah from the Koran, but you need to change it in order to make it because you're not allowed to restart for others to do so. Therefore you need to make for example, instead of saying robina,
Athena for dunya Hassan, Hassan you say Allahumma Atilla for dinner Hasina of lasagna Hassan. Hola. Yes, sister question. Good.
So the question is,
this is all good during the month of Ramadan now until the month of Ramadan, what can we do in order to maximize our benefit? Like basically how can we build the momentum so that when Ramadan
comes you can maximize even that multiple times
I would say treat your pre Ramadan time as practice. So if let's say for example, if you have a goal of reading the Quran, cover to cover, you know reciting and the translation alongside of it.
And let's just say based on previous years, you've maybe struggled to complete one costume have grown, hypothetically, then I would say start your recitation now, like start Surah bacara. Now, with the intent that, at least finish it during Ramadan, so you almost widen your window being able to complete that deed. So instead of putting the pressure to have to start and finish it in Ramadan, take maybe one or two things that you're really focused in on and just start them now. Even if you're not, let's say doing the whole recitation in Ramadan, but at least started now with the intent of finishing in Ramadan. So you build momentum for yourself. Now, what that looks like will
differ from person to person, obviously, but
I want to add to this somehow, Siobhan is coming very soon. And Siobhan is the month when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam used to fast even more in order to to to exercise basically for the month of Ramadan is getting ready, so a lot of salah and when Siobhan comes obviously it's for us the time to exercise, how can we redistribute our duties task and so forth. So get yourself basically ready for it. Start from now maybe exercising physically, if you know they're going to be standing long nights, right? That means you're going to start getting ready for that. Also when it comes to changing your diet, don't do it so so suddenly in Ramadan, make sure that you do it actually
gradually so therefore you need to change that. By the way it was easier for them at the time of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam because when it comes to their diet in Ramadan after Ramadan, it was always the same
for us know when Amazon comes the Baraka law, our menus change, completely change absolutely and no they don't become less they become more momstown as if Ramadan is specially made for these dishes. So therefore you need to start changing again building it up in Shabbat inshallah, so that when you start, you have the momentum for it in Charlottetown we have a couple of questions actually from our online audience. Can I hold a copy of the Quran And while I'm doing my NFL Salah, especially the Quran, basically in my salon, what you cannot do it in for Salah for sure. But if you're going to be holding it in order to decide to hedge it, for example, Salah night prayer, that's fine, dude, NFL
solid during the day as well. It's okay, you could do that. But it is not recommended. It's better that you repeat what you've already known by heart. If you know something by heart, keep repeating it over and over again over and over again. No matter how short those stories are. One of the Sahaba of the Lord ran home he he prayed the entire night, which means all his night was doing 200 reciting the same surah over and over again. And that was sort of kololo
so that his Ansari brother or his actually his neighbor, kind of like got sick and tired of that. So the next day he goes to the prophet SAW some complaining Yasser Allah Almighty, Allah Allah I don't know what is prominent. So the Prophet called him Why did you do that for Bala rasulillah in New Haven This is has the civil Torah man the attributes of man the Most Merciful subhana wa tada I love it. I love the flaws. So the Prophet says me give him the deal that Allah loves him for his love for sort of the less loss so if you know something that is little keep repeating that over and over again and Charlotte Allah hopefully it will help you to memorize more because if we start depending
on hold of the misshapen Salah guess what we're not going to memorize anymore. Because if I can hold the must have I must have Why would I need to add more to my memory so therefore make sure to do more have the shallow data what are the best drive to be made the best you make insula and Institute is the one that comes out from the heart. That's the best drop some people they go and look for books of the art because they want to ask drawn in a certain format. So they will decide that but it doesn't come from the heart
and the best law and the one that is most mostly accepted really is the one that comes from the heart obviously there are certain that the Prophet says I'm used to repeat and they have
any good meaning to them and profound meaning to them like Robin actually has an authority has a double pinata non stop LA to LA you see Mr. Farr from Alaska Canada these are short dry you can find them in a lot of books have done shallow terracotta yes question
privately or behind any man who decided, Okay, so the question is, can I then hold the most have, whether it's on a smartphone, for example, something else can I do that insalata totally behind the man, as a man with your cell phones, you know by heart and I would like to hold the most. So I can follow someone contemporary scuzzy. They say it's okay, you can do that. I don't recommend that. I don't recommend that for many reasons. One of the reasons why actually because it's distraction for you and those around you.
If you're going to be praying by yourself, that's fine. But if you're going to be in line, a lot of people who are praying are
You will be distracted by that you will be distracted. So you'd be holding the most half of all the number of sides and you start kind of like maybe skipping where he or she is deciding if you bring in a group of ladies. And then you're gonna spend more time trying to figure out where the man was reciting by the time you catch the eye, then it goes a lot further from
there. So therefore, therefore make sure that you just focus on listening inshallah and benefiting last week we had the Nasir over here, giving us a handle of ideas and how you can benefit from understanding the Quran even though you don't understand Arabic. So hopefully, we can return to the recording in Charlotte Avada. Last question shallow. And he had anyone has a last question.
Yes, good.
So let me just repeat the question, Charlotte. So the question is basically,
we were raised in our culture that in order for you to benefit from Ramadan, you have to do more. Like you need to finish in a template month, 25 minutes, 35 minutes, and sometimes you barely finish one these days, right? How could these people do 10 and 15 and 20 and whatever. So it's too much disheartening. Sometimes for people now that you say the same to us, hey, you don't have to do that much. It's about the quality and the quantity. That's a revolutionary idea for us, right? So how the principle goes back again to what is Ramadan is all about is about acquiring stuff, one piety. So it's not about how much you do it's how you do it, and the quality of it. So that's what the meaning
of inshallah who Donna, now the question is that you ask is, is it is it in the son of the prophet SAW Selim that we have to finish the Quran from cover to cover? The answer is no, it's not. We get that from the Prophet sallallahu sallam. He when he said that, when actually they said about him, that jabril used to visit the prophet SAW Selim every Ramadan to review the Koran.
And then the last Ramadan, he reviewed twice, twice with him. So from that some people they thought, you know what, then yeah, it's possible. Also, Allah Subhana says about the Quran and Ramadan is a show Ramadan lady Olivia Quran, it is the month of Ramadan in which the Quran was revealed. And the aroma, their tradition, their practice is to get themselves busy with the Quran in the month of Ramadan. Obviously, you talk about a time when a lot of people understood Arabic, so getting busy with the Quran, maximize the benefit of understanding, Now many people don't understand the Arabic, so it becomes more ritual from cover to cover. So there is no really specific instruction to finish
that many times during Ramadan. If you even can finish one surah with better understanding of the book that's even better than finishing actually one full hotma without understanding much of it. And we've talked about this actually last session as well, last week on how to read the Quran, the different types of citation, you could use you your eyes only to go over the Quran, you could read in Arabic letters in English in whatever language and so on different ways of reading the Quran. Now with regard to what was mentioned, actually, so you have to, is it lower IQ standards? Or what exactly what does it mean? And when we say duelists how. So there's, you don't want to lower your
standards in that sense that you want to, you don't want to reach your potential, but you have to be realistic about what your potential is. So if you, you know, if you normally do 10 items, and you want to do 20 Okay, maybe. But if you usually struggle to do one and you want to do 20, then maybe we need to rethink. It's just, again, it's knowing yourself and your situation and kind of, you know, your past history predicts your future behavior more than anything else. And so if you look back and say like I've really struggled to do one, maybe doing two is going to be a stretch goal. But if two is a stretch goal, and I say 20
by day two, and I'm like 45 pages behind what I would need to be doing I'm going to lose all motivation anyway.
So it's give yourself a stretch but based on your track record, now, does that monitor Barack Obama for this beautiful presentation, I hope inshallah it has a better from this shallow the next week with the last of our third session on preparing for Ramadan. We have chef Omar Suleiman on the panel Bonilla. We're going to be talking about Ramadan and
family life. So we have two sections one of them how to create a spiritual environment in the month of Ramadan for your family and the second one for issues between husband wife what is allowed what is not allowed between men, women and family you know, during the month of Ramadan inshallah Allah is going to be our discussion for next week in the life as it was observed malefor salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.