Ramadan 2019 – Ep. 24

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Sajid Ahmed Umar

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Don’t Make That divorce Spiteful!

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. While early he was a big man in my bed Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu. Everyone and welcome to episode number 24. of our Ramadan reminders, the Kabbalah Latina woman consolata. Mommy, Alexa from us, brothers and sisters in Islam. For today's episode, I take you to sort of Barak, the chapter related to divorce. Somebody might say so Pamela, why are we going to this particular chapter? Generally, whenever we hear the term divorce,

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we become afraid and we think that the message is going to be bleak. However, panela there is great inspiration and great guidance in this world as we find throughout the Quran with the, you know, with its timeless guidance, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, in Iowa number three, while may yet our Colorado law, for who has

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a universal principle,

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a universal principle, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, and whoever relies upon Allah, then Allah is sufficient for him.

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And her, whoever relies on Allah, that Allah is sufficient for him. And included in this instruction are the females as well. Now,

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yes, this is in a sort of Pollock, and it's in the context of Pollock. And the scholars explained that Allah subhanho wa Taala highlights this year, for two reasons, one as a warning, and two,

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in the as a means of solace, in creating peace of mind and heart, for the person who's going through the difficulty. Let's take the first one as a warning. Why a warning? Why is it a warning when Allah subhanho wa traviss, whoever relies on Allah, then a lie sufficient for him and her? Well, it's a warning in the event that the polyp happens in an oppressive way, in an oppressive way, right? Either the person doesn't deserve to be divorced, and they've been divorced.

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Right? Or,

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because we know that divorce can carry the ruling of haram as well. It's haram to do to do it, but you still do it. It's counted, but it was harder.

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That's number one. Number two,

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this precedents for the divorce, but we do it in a spiteful way. We do it in a way whereby we hurt the female we hurt the wife that's being divorced. Right, we'll do it in a spiteful way, in a way that causes great harm to her heart and her soul. Create stress to her mind. Right and her demeanor. So this is a warning that she relies on Allah subhanho wa Taala allies enough for her and who can win?

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When

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or who can who can win in any circumstances situation when they have Allah subhanho wa Taala and on the other side, so this is a warning. Right? Yes, it's unconditioned, that they place their trust in Allah subhanho wa Taala and and we will come to the concept of tawakkol just now. But it's a warning that if they do, then how are you going to survive the situation being spiteful and hurtful, right, not remembering the good times.

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Nervous penalize Allah,

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you know, protect the oma Subhana Allah, you know, being in the field that I'm in. It's it hurts the heart and the soul because

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unfortunately, time and time again, I have to come across situations whereby

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the things that I'm describing in this audio are actually happening a lot homestyle hurtful, right. And we human beings as well. And I have to be in the situations and see the hurt that the females going through because of

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the spitefulness of the husband, or sometimes it's vice versa. Right, the husband's trying everything to save the marriage, and it's a spiteful wife, and she doesn't care about the consequences. She doesn't care about the harm. So if the husband's being oppressed, or a dog collar lover will

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remember that whoever puts the trust in Allah places the trust in Allah and Allah is enough for them. Right? So it's a warning, but also it's a means of solace to the heart and the soul and the body and the mind how, because

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when you go through this turbulence, that the you know, the turbulence of a separation, when you read this ayah and understand that Subhan Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala is enough for me, especially for the females, who, you know,

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tend to give themselves to the husband. And then when this break happens, they feel like Subhanallah what's going to happen to me so here's the solace allies enough for you put your trust in Allah subhanho wa Taala he

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Take care of you. Right? And I'm sure you've heard the story of Selma when her husband passed away Abu Salah right? And she felt that who's gonna you know who can be better than Abu Salah.

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Right, who can be better than him.

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And

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she made the last hanaway to Allah because she was taught this, ask Allah to grant you that which is better, she's the who can be better but she followed the instruction of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and made that. And in the end, Allah subhanho wa Taala blessed her to become the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and become the mother of believers. So this is a means of solace. Put your trust in Allah, it will be okay Allah is enough for you. Allow will look after you, Allah always been looking after you. Right always. And he always will put your trust in Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now to aku brothers and sisters, is as we've translated it, it's about

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placing your trust in Allah put leaving your affair with Allah subhanho wa Taala. And your ability to do this is directly related to the strength of your email is what we must understand when people find difficulty putting their trust in Allah, then they have to do the email an issue with the map. And perhaps we'll discuss this in future episodes how to develop our Eman right, so awkward is placing your trust with Allah. But also means you have to take the means because tawakkol has two segments to it. Number one, to take the means number two to place your trust in Allah. Right? You doing what you can, but you know, that it working is in the hands of Allah subhanho wa Taala and I

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leave it with Allah. If you sick you take medication, but you know, I have to take the medication because I have to take the means but who makes the medication work Allah subhanho wa Taala and if he chooses not to make it work, then I've placed my trust with him. I mistake the means and leave matches with Allah because Allah knows best and whatever he does, he does good. Right? And apply the same understanding to everything else. You got to take the means you got to do what you have to do.

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Right and then based on the strength of your man, you leave the matter with Allah subhanho wa Taala we don't worry about it. Some people worry about it. What if it doesn't work? What if it works? How is this going to be making dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala that isn't the greatest means that you can take right? Make dua that Allah grants you what's best and if it's best it's going to work and if it's not going to give you something better, that is placing your trust in Allah and this will save you from stress save you from worry. You know, some people some handler they sit and now they they they you see them with the fingers with their hands they the itching, they're moving they can sit

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still they're in constant worry the constant stress even in the saliva in constant stress panela leave it was Allah subhanho wa Taala is done you've done what you can do what was in your power you did now leave it was a lot Hey Allah de la Mota living who never dies and leave a lot to do his part. Right? You worrying about something that's not in your control what benefit is going to get, place your trust in Allah, Allah if you find difficulty in it, then know and understand you have to build your email.

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Because based on the center of your event, will be your ability to leave matters with Allah subhanho wa Taala in such a way where no matter how big the matter is, people look at you and say this panel or this is a peaceful person. It's like they have no worry in the world. And I'm sure you've seen people like that anything so Pamela, no matter what happens, you just see them serene and a blessing to everyone around them. And Allah subhanho wa Taala grant is the understanding today's life principle principle of success from the timeless message of the Quran. Whoever places the trust in Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala sufficient for them to zeplin low hidden until next time, Salaam

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Alaikum alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh