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Sajid Ahmed Umar

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Rahman Al Rahim hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen are behind a study in one of Salah under Salim Allah Hartmann the be in the Vienna Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Eduware in my bad alone by living in my environment on fire now Beamer and limitada Was it an element or mln Karim? We begin in the name of Allah subhanho wa taala. We praise Him we request his assistance and we seek His guidance and we request praises and blessings upon Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I bear witness that there's no one worthy of worship besides one Allah and that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is his messenger to my brothers and sisters in Islam. Salaam Allah here aleikum wa rahmatullah wa

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barakato wabarakatuh. May Allah's peace, may his blessings May his safety be upon you all. It's a pleasure to be with you all. in Swansea, as was said, It is my very first trip, I have been to Cardiff

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a couple of times, Swansea is the first time this visit is part of a unique tour. And I've been mentioning this in the different cities that we've been in, I've been part of many lecture tours, but nothing dedicated to our parents, and in a transformative way, in that there is a very powerful action elements associated with the with the topic, and theme of the store. And that is a sadaqa, Algeria, a continuous charity, opportunity, and not just any opportunity, but from the best of opportunities for our parents and SubhanAllah. I add to the idea of the uniqueness of the store, given that the last of these talks is happening in a very unique venue. So Pamela, it's, as I said,

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my first time here, and I've been taught and educated that this particular building was built in 1874 1874. And the person who was responsible for selling this now, Masjid, which was previously a church, to the Muslims, his family, built it Subhanallah and facing Jerusalem. And that's why it's phenomenal how there was no need to adjust the direction of the Qibla the masjid is, is Makkah facing as well as a result of it being Jerusalem facing and also Subhanallah how that person who worshiped in this place as a Christian, then accepted Islam and Janessa was prayed in this very same place after it was a masjid Subhan Allah and the pastor as a Muslim Subhan Allah indeed this is the

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cover of Allah subhanahu atter Allah Subhan Allah, Allahu Allah Kuma Yeshua we after I couldn't help but think of this verse when our brother was relating to read the story. Allah says in his book, that Allah creates what He wants without and he chooses from his creation and gives a precedence and rank to his creation over others McKenna who Maria, no one had a say, in that matter, this was entirely Allah subhanho wa Taala alone. So I open, expressing my gratitude to the community to you all, and also highlighting Subhanallah how heartwarming, it is because the uniqueness of this trip and journey increases, and inshallah this perhaps is a sign kitten will risk that we at the end, and

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the end is like musk, it will be beautiful and Insha Allah, you've been advised towards a class and I remind myself again to this lesson for indeed, if we sit here for the sake of Allah, then we will only be winners and ask Allah to make this a gathering that has only come together for his sake alone, and to make this a gathering that he has a good word and follows it and to make this a gathering that is forgiven upon its departure. I mean, you are a brand I mean, the Brothers and Sisters in Islam.

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Once a person came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And this narration is authentic. And he asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who is most deserving of my kind character, who is most deserving of my kindness, my kind, attitude, my good behavior, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam obviously you can imagine, right? From the outset, you would think that in terms of the creation of Allah subhanahu wa T and that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would say the most beloved to Allah subhanho wa taala, meaning the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is most beloved. But no doubt there's always context to all these questions. And also allah sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam being the ultimate teacher always spoke and guided in a transformative way. As soon as this question was asked, he said to this person, your mother, so he then said, then who? And the prophets of Allah Allah He was seldom said your mother. And then he asked again and said, then who? He said your mother, and then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked yet again. After answering your mother three times, he said, your father. Now this narration Brothers and Sisters in Islam is something we may have heard. But if we ponder over it, if we ponder

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Over the words of the prophets, Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam the context of the narration, we understand the very important point Brothers and Sisters in Islam, this idea of honoring our parents, our mother and our father. It is part and parcel of the system of la ilaha illAllah. Muhammad Rasul Allah, it's part and parcel of the system of Tawheed. Many of us, we will no doubt we know to hate we know the Shahada. But how deeply Do we understand it, that this reality of la ilaha illallah, Muhammad Rasool Allah, it's not just words that we utter,

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with our tongues. It's not just an idea that we have in our hearts. It's not just about prostrating to one, Allah subhanho wa taala, but it's about the system of worshiping one Allah it's the system of prostrating to one, Allah subhanho wa taala, that as the prophets Allah, Allahu Allah, he was setting them no doubt came with the massive and mighty task of unchaining, the shackles of polytheism and separating people from the deep desires to follow the misguided ways of their forefathers here he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam not only has time but makes time to teach the Ummah about the importance of their parents, it's part and parcel of worshipping on Allah subhanho wa

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taala. And no doubt from the clearest of evidences and the most manifest verses in the Quran that would solidify this discourse that I'm sharing with you. This idea that I'm sharing with you is the verse which our young have with May Allah bless him and his brother and his family recited for us at the opening of today's program. Wakaba Rob Booker and taboo in a year will be the wily daily sign that Allah has decreed that you worship no one but him, and that you'll be excellent to your parents. Now Brothers and Sisters in Islam. Here we see Allah commanding us towards his worship alone, and then immediately commanding us towards being excellent to our parents. And again, as we

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searched for context to the earlier narration that I just shared, which is authentic, if we ponder over this verse, and look at the time it was revealed and the surah that it is part of and, and search for its context, we will see Brothers and Sisters in Islam, that this verse is a second verse. And this teaches us two important points or an important point and then the context gives us another important point. The first important point Brothers and Sisters in Islam, is that this command towards being excellent to our parents, it was revealed before the Salah as we know it today, it was revealed, it was revealed before Zakah being a pillar of Islam was revealed. It was

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revealed before fasting as a pillar of Islam was revealed. It was revealed before Hajj was revealed Subhanallah before the pillars of Islam were revealed. Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed that we be excellent to our parents. Again, going back to the earlier point of the system of the heat, and the idea of our parents being part and parcel of the fabric of the system of la ilaha illa Allah we need to understand this. Deeper Brothers and Sisters in Islam, that before the pillars of Islam as we know it today, became solidified as part and parcel of the religion of Islam. being excellent to our parents was made part and parcel of this religion. Also Brothers and Sisters in Islam, when this

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verse was revealed, it wasn't revealed to a people that were being spoiled by their parents and protected by their parents and and looked after by their parents but rather it was revealed to a people who are being persecuted by their very own parents because of la ilaha illa Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah, because of la ilaha illa Allah Muhammad Rasool Allah, at that time, Allah subhanho wa Taala confirms the message of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that you worship one Allah and then confirms an important point that as you go through this difficulty, and this oppression and the sanctions do not disobey your parents, and not only should you not disobey them, be dutiful to them,

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and not only should you be dutiful to them, but be dutiful to them in the most excellent of ways. Subhanallah This is the reality of Wakaba rabuka taboo in the year will be the Wiley Dini exam, that you'll be excellent to your parents. This is the idea of Excel. And again, I'll Quran you first of all Quran the Quran explains the Quran in the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala commands

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for dunya ma rofa that be with them in the life of this world, in a manner that is known in a manner that is acceptable that are managed in a manner that is not frowned upon. But also the Sunnah, explains the Quran was sunnah to to fasudil Quran they shouldn't

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As well explains the Quran and in another narration which is authentic. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is asked another question, which deeds are most beloved to Allah which deed is the most beloved deed to Allah subhanho wa Taala and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, a solid, and I worked here, observing the salah upon its fixed and prescribed time. And then the person said, then what he said barrel while he then barrel Valley then being dutiful and excellent to your parents. He said, then what he said, striving in the path of Allah subhanahu itad La ilaha illAllah. Again, let's bring context here. let's ponder here Brothers and Sisters in Islam. We know

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the station of Salah in Islam, we know the station of jihad and striving in the path of Allah subhanho wa Taala in Islam, but before jihad, and after Salah, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, After you take care of Allah's rights, which is the Salah, take care of the rights of the creation of Allah, the greatest of those rights is your parents, and Subhanallah he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who was blessed with Joanne Kelim, this universal ability to articulate and express the teachings of Islam that in a few words, He will teach us so much more, he used the term bear and bear in the Arabic language is from birth. And birth refers to vast plains that are borderless. This

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is the reality of birth. And that's why the Arabs, when they would leave the cities and go out into the desert, they would say, we are going to the bar, meaning we are going to a place that is so vast,

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that it doesn't have a frame twist, we're going to go so out that will be so far from the borders of the city. And here we learn Brothers and Sisters in Islam, that in this one word, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam is teaching us how we should be excellent to our parents, that excellence here has no boundaries rather everything that constitutes excellence, you should be that person with your parents. And that is why the Scholars have to see when they explain this verse, while Bill Wiley they need Santa. They didn't come up with theory. In many of the books off the field, you see them sharing practical examples, very eloquent examples suitable to the normative values and

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mannerisms of the people at the time, and they share in different examples, but none of these examples contradict each other rather, they complement each other. Thus we find great scholars of Tafseer Mujahid who is from the greatest students of even our best was from the greatest scholars of the Quran, he explains this idea of being excellent to your parents, that you don't dust your Sobe in a manner in which the dust from it ends up falling on your onto your parents. This is how he explains it Subhanallah again, people who live in the desert, you might not understand this idea living in Swansea with the greenery and all the wonderful

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sceneries around you but if you're living in the desert, dust and desert sand is part and parcel of life. No matter how built the city is. Desert dust will always be part and parcel of it. So dusting thought was was something which was normal. And here SubhanAllah. You know, you see from this stuff, see that you're being told to check the direction of the wind, something you might only see people doing on the golf course. For example, when the for those who play golf, I don't know if there's any golfers in the audience here. So Subhanallah This is an example shed. Some others would say being excellent to your parents is when you eating with them. And remember the Arabs would eat from a

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shared plate. So when you eating with your parents, you don't touch a portion from that plate, which you sincerely feel your mother or father would want to eat from had their eyes fallen onto that portion of the plate.

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Now, you know Hey Lola, look at this level Brothers and Sisters in Islam. Where were they? And where are we? Where were they from the understanding of these verses? And where are we today? Subhanallah even in how we address our parents. We are not looking after the system of la ilaha illa Allah I said to you earlier, it's part of the system of la ilaha illa Allah and now I want to also highlight to you and Inshallah, with deduces from what I've just said, said that not only did Allah revealed the command to be good to our parents, but he revealed the Islamic identity of how we should go about being excellent to our parents. That is not just about being excellent, but upon the identity

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of Islam, and this was revealed as well. And we see this in the verse that our young half recited, we Allah subhanho wa Taala says when your parents were meaning when you are grown up enough to look after your parents, so they will be much older, and you meet them in old age, what should you do never ever utter a or show or portray a form of resentment to them. They shouldn't feel that you are hesitant in

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terms of their requests in terms of their needs. In fact, some of the scholars of the past would say that Falletta ko Lahoma off, Do not utter this term off in the Arabic language of is a show of resentment. This means that when they urinate on their clothes, you should take their clothes from them in such a manner that they don't feel estranged and they don't feel bad and they don't feel sad and they don't feel

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depressed or in any way apprehensive to see you doing what you do for them that you do it with happiness in their old age. Like they did it for you with happiness when you were young Subhanallah right. What do we see today? I mean, I don't know if we have many of the millennials and the teenagers around but we hear this that we address our our fathers as bro and you know our mothers as babies. And you know everybody's mashallah happy about it and proud about it. Which identity are you using, in showing your excellence to your parents, this is not the identity of Carla law of color, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, this is a matter of faith. Brothers and Sisters in Islam,

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Allah will ask you about it on the day of gamma, this is a matter of la ilaha illa Allah that in you doing it, you will strengthen your toe heat SubhanAllah. And the examples are many brothers and sisters in Islam. And to further cement this idea that it is part and parcel of Tawheed we know that too. He didn't come with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam it came with the very first messenger knew how to he Salam. And that legacy was transferred from his shoulders to the shoulders of other prophets and messengers, until Mohammed Abdullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And if this idea of being excellent to our parents is part and parcel of Tawheed, we would find it in the way of new all

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the way up to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam and this is the reality. Allah tells us about the dua of new Halley he Salam. When he said Rob big fiddly Oh ALLAH forgive me, oh my Lord, forgive me while he while he there? Yeah. And my parents Subhanallah in the Sharia have been to Israel, Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us that Allah Subhana Allah to Allah revealed to them with Allah Mitaka Bani Israel Isla Taboola illallah wa Bhilwara, Dania Sana, Allah revealed to the followers of Musa that they worship no one but one Allah and that they be excellent to their parents about yada yada he Salam, Allah subhanahu Attallah describes him as saying, or Bahram bydd he will EMEA conjunct Baron

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Arsia Subhanallah that he was righteous and dutiful to his parents and he was not a disobedient tyrant, about isa when he was a baby in the cradle, miraculously speaking, the very first commands that Allah revealed to him for his people. What does he say? What about Ron BYD that? Well, let me as your enemy Jabbar and Sharqiya that Allah made me dutiful to my mother, and he has not made me a wretched tyrant. Do you see Cherie after Sharia messenger after messenger Revelation After revelation, worship one Allah and be excellent for your parents, brothers and sisters in Islam, it is part and parcel of the fabric of Tawheed. Thus, not only did the command become something

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revealed, but the identity of how to go about it as well and she has inshallah will tell us about Sulaiman, Allah He Salam, I'll leave that for him in sha Allah chef. Very quickly, Brothers and Sisters in Islam, I have just a few minutes, virtues of being excellent to our parents, mashallah you have an able Imam, and evil Alhamdulillah community and I'm sure you have been taught many ways that you should be excellent to your parents. I will summarize

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some of the virtues we've spoken about the what, right, a little bit about the why, right a little bit about the why. Because when we understand the virtues of doing something that becomes a very powerful lesson for us and we become associated with it. And we find this internal desire now to implement because we understand the benefits what are the benefits of being good to our parents? Well, firstly, Brothers and Sisters in Islam, you get acceptance from the Lord of the worlds because in the Quran, when Allah describes those who are good to their parents, Allah says thereafter Hola, Erica Latina, Netta, Caballo and home cinema I mean, Allah says that these people who are good to

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their parents, we accept them, we accept their deeds. And not only do we accept their deeds, but we accept their deeds based on their best deed that the salah has that they read throughout their life, they were varying in terms of excellence, we will take the most excellent of their salah, and take the rewards from that Salah and give the same rewards to every Sanada parent. And the same applies to their fasting. And the same applies to the Amara and their charity and so on and so forth. If this doesn't motivate you to be excellent to your parents, what were Brothers and Sisters in Islam, this is the acceptance you stand to get from the Lord of the Worlds if you are good with your

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parents also, your do as will be answered. Your prayers will be answered. This is from the most powerful virtues and effects of being dutiful to your parents, that Allah will accept your DUA from the pious before us were those who went they were going to difficulty and they would complain. The chef the Mufti then would say

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How is your relationship with your parents? Perhaps your DUA is not reaching Allah because you're not dutiful to your parents. You're not serving your parents Subhanallah right. So if you are excellent to your parents, Allah answers you do as you do as reach Allah, and Allah answers it. And there's the famous story of our eastern currently a man from Yemen who was dutiful to his mother. It's a long story and I'm out of time. But the the, the, the crux of it is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told the Sahaba that if you ever find this person, ask him to make dua for SubhanAllah. And Omar one day finds him, the leader of the Muslims, promised Jana before he

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passed away. And Omar says to him, make dua that Allah grants me, Jana, that Allah forgives me, Omar is asking him because Omar heard from the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam that this person has to ask that I answered Allah answers his door is because of how he is to his mother, Abba Herrera, Allah who, when he was the governor of Medina, at the time of Marwan he was living into her life for 10 kilometers from Medina, back then, it wasn't like today, right? Whenever he would live here, his mother who was his neighbor, whenever he would go in the morning, he would greet her with the Salaam and ask Allah to have mercy upon her because she raised him when he was young. And she would respond

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to the salam and say, may Allah have mercy upon you, because you looked after me when I was old. And this was a morning program and an evening program when he returned of the Allahu and so they understood the power of DUA and being dutiful to your parents and also Brothers and Sisters in Islam from the virtues of doing so is Allah will bless you with a content heart. Because doing so as you've not understood is the worship of Allah and those who worship Allah in His remembrance and Allah Billick related Meindl Kulu it is in the remembrance of Allah that we are

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where our hearts and our souls find contentment. Finally Brothers and Sisters in Islam, how do we be good to our parents? Well, Imam Abdullah haveto Allah He shared these points and inshallah I will check for him happy the hula will also tell us about these points from the greatest of them no doubt is implementing the teachings and making dua for them as we've said, but also this idea of sada progeria and you will hear about a unique opportunity to do so be the light and have a show for him I love you all for the sake of Allah. I know it was a rushed presentation but I am aware that Salah is about to to enter upon us Joseph Campbell O'Hara Milla preservers in his obedience forgive our

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parents got them graves that are guidance from the guidance of Jana and those who are alive May Allah preserve them in his obedience and inspire us to be the best that we can be to them I mean your operand I mean, how the Allahu Allah for some Allah wa sallim wa barik ala Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa with