Channel: Sajid Ahmed Umar
This lecture was delivered during the August 2017 London Lecture Series titled: A beneficial home, a beneficial society, courtesy of Explore Conference UK.
In this lecture Sh. Sajid Umar connects the legacy of a beneficial home to the legacy of da’wah, which was the legacy of the Prophets and Messengers of Allah Almighty.
He highlights the lessons shared in the lecture through deliberation over verses of the Qur’an, and in particular, the stories of the Qur’an, and the seerah of the Messenger (SAW), all in light of our realities in the 21st century.
Does the lesson of the a teacher and Imam carry the same blessings as the lessons of a parent to his/her child?
Can a wife charge her husband rent for living in her home?
Listen in for the answers to these questions and more!
Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen
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la mina Milena Illa alum Tina in the interacting with Hakeem love Marlene Mia and Pharaoh now on foreigner alum Tina was in their environment here, Kareem probably recently Emery looked at me Lisa, Annie, Callie. Oh, praise belongs to Allah subhanho wa Taala. We praise Him and we seek his assistance and guidance, and we seek refuge in Allah from the evil of ourselves and the adverse consequences of our deeds. Whom serve Allah guides, men can misguide and serve Allah misguides land can guide and feasts and salutations be upon the final messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship besides one Allah, and that Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is His Messenger, my dearest brothers and sisters in Islam, my dearest elders in Islam, Sonnambula la Kumara matovu Baraka with the Peace and blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala be upon you all, from the outset, heartfelt gratitude goes out to explore conference and this wonderful Masjid and institution as well for honoring me with
the possibility of being present here today and sharing with you all some from the inheritance of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless our gathering, and make it a gathering that he has a good word and follows it and make us a gathering that is forgiven upon our departure, and make us a gathering
that has only come together for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala alone. I mean, you're a bit I mean, my dearest brothers and sisters in Islam, Indeed Allah subhanho wa Taala. He sent to this earth, many prophets, and many a messenger and the legacy of prophethood. And messenger worship was transferred from the shoulders of one prophet and messenger to another, as a prophet, went back to Allah subhanho wa Taala, and another prophet was sent. And this continued to happen. The legacy of prophethood continued to be transferred from the shoulders of one man to the shoulders of another man, until the advent of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam for sudo, Allah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, he was decreed as the final messenger, and he was decreed as the seal of all prophets, which means he would be the last single person to carry the legacy of prophethood, the legacy of the MBR and the Hema Salatu was Salam. But we know through observation, that after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam, the Ummah continues to exist, people continue to exist, evil continues to exist, shape and continues to exist. So what will happen to the people after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? Allah subhanho wa Taala always send someone to the people. Allah subhanho wa Taala always kept transferring the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam from one man to another man,
what happens to mankind after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam after he passes away? The answer to that question, my dearest brothers and sisters in Islam is that after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Ummah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam happens to the people, the Ummah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam now happens to the people, for after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah subhanho wa Taala he didn't lift the legacy of prophethood and transfer it from the shoulders of one man to the shoulders of another man, as Allah subhanho wa Taala did
from the time of his Salah brother, Allah subhanho wa Taala. He lifted the legacy of prophethood from the shoulders of one man from the shoulders of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he transferred it to the shoulders of an entire Ummah, to the shoulders of the followers of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam that we collectively now carry the responsibility of the MBR to humans, so that was set up. we collectively now are responsible for the legacy of Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
mBiA hemos Salatu was Salam. And take note of the key word here collectively, there is no one man that carries this legacy. Rather, an entire oma now carries this legacy and that is why the rizoma will be the first oma to antigen and that is why this oma will make up most of the inhabitants of Jenna. And that is why about this oma, Allah said quantum hydro method of project leanness that you are the best of all people.
You are the best of all people. You are the best of all people, because you collectively carry a legacy that no nation before you carried for with regards to those nations, or loss and prophets and messengers. That is why you the best of all nations couldn't
reject leanness, you are the best of all nations. We all know brothers and sisters in Islam.
that Islam is not a religion of symbols. It's a religion of substance. It cannot be that we are the best of all people. Because Alhamdulillah lucky enough, we happen to be born after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Surely it can't be that easy. That we were fortunate, and other people were less fortunate. We just happen to be born after Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So that is the privilege. You are the best of all nations. Islam is not a religion of symbols. It's a religion of substance, if we are the best of all people, and Allah declares us to be the best of all people, the King of kings, the Lord of the worlds he subhanho wa Taala says, You are the best of all people,
then surely we need to sit down and ask ourselves, why?
Islam is the religion of substance and what symbols when why.
And if we analyze the same area, in which Allah subhanho wa Taala teaches us that we are the best oma Allah says Why? He teaches us why he says you are the best, because you Muna Bill maroof. And you can hohner and in mooncup, and you took me Luna Villa, you are the best, because you have three occupations that the best of all people carried on their shoulders,
the occupation of inviting towards good and forbidding evil and believing in Allah. This is why you are the best. This is why you are the best, you are the best, because you carry the legacy of the best people that walk the face of this earth. And Allah teaches us this lesson, using the present tense, and the present tense in the Arabic language carries a dual meaning. The present tense in the Arabic language carries a dual meaning the present tense in the Arabic language carries the meaning of now and the present continuous.
Why do we need to highlight this? We need to highlight this so we understand further and understand well, exactly what a lie saying.
A lie is not saying you are the best. Because sometimes you invite towards good and sometimes you forbid evil. And sometimes you believe in Allah. If the present tense carries the meaning of now in the present continuous of hearing, we'll move on to
You are the best because of something that you do now and continuously, then Allah is telling us that we are the best because we always invite towards good, always keyword. And we always forbid evil, always keyword. And we always believe in Allah, always keyword. This is why you are the best. There is no public holiday from this. There is no weekend from this. There is no bank holiday from this. There's never a time in your life where you will breathe a breath whereby your existence will be separated from these three occupations, you are defined by these three occupations. This is why you are the best and this means a servant of Allah, that a member of this whether a mother, whether
a father, whether a child,
irrespective of your presence in society, you are a person that is always doing the our you are always propagating good. You are always forbidding evil, you're either doing it with your hand, because you have the power to do so, or with your tongue. Because you don't have the power to do it with your hand or with your heart. Because you don't have the power to do it with your hand and your tongue. But there's never a time when this occupation is detached from your existence.
May Allah forgive us today. We sleep brothers and sisters in Islam with so much vise around us
but our hearts don't teach an inch
We sleep peacefully. That heart doesn't even do that we have
in a way
that is contradictory to the reality of the ayah, which declares us as the best of all people, and teaches us why we are the best of all people.
We have detached ourselves from the prophetic legacy that Allah has placed on all our shows, this is point number one. And point number two, to take note of the key word collectively. I said earlier, Allah didn't take the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam and transfer it to the shoulders of one man, I said, Allah took it from the shoulders of him some Allahu alayhi wa sallam, and transferred it to the shoulders of an entire oma, which means we collectively, we are the building blocks of holding up this legacy. We are the building blocks of doing justice to this legacy. If one person isn't doing what they're supposed to do with regards to this legacy, everyone is going to be
affected in their ability to do justice to this legacy. And we will collectively be questioned on the day of pay. And that is why the scholars say, when the young people of society do evil, and the older people of society, keep quiet, then wait for the punishment of Allah to consume everyone.
It's not good enough for you to say I'm on the top tier of the ship. The bottom tiers digging the hole, I'm saying
they might think first, but you're gonna simulate. It is what it is. It's a matter of design. And it is the decree of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And when you understand this, understand the following, that when your neighbor's home has marital turbulence, don't ever stop thinking that's not my problem. But hamdulillah My home is okay. It's got nothing to do with. If a Muslim family is home at the other end of the city, and London is a big city. They're having trouble with the children don't sleep at night saying that's not my problem. We'll handle that my children are safe, they're tucked in bed. Don't deceive yourself, oh servant of Allah, and oh child of Adam. Because we are a
collective ummah. We are interdependent, we are communal by design, the problem in our neighbor's home, if it's not in our home today, if we do nothing about it, it will be in our home tomorrow. The problem at the other end of the city, if we do nothing about it today, it will be in our home tomorrow. It might not be your today's problem, but it will be your tomorrow's problem. Don't feel for one instant that your children won't be affected. Because tomorrow your children may befriend those other children. Don't be short sighted, understand your responsibility to the hour, your responsibility to the community, your responsibility to the legacy of the MBR and he was so that was
Sarah and that is why Allah teaches us about Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and Allah tells us about him by c'est
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fusi Khun azizuddin la Hema. need to hurry soon. alikoum bill meanie now oh Rahim. Allah says, indeed a messenger has come to you from you, as he is added to your sleepless nights his his sleepless night. Your worry is his worry. Your problem is his problem. Your tears are his tears. Your fears are his fears
as he is in
Harry's finale, why? Because he's so concerned about you. Why? Because after him, his legacy is going to be on your shoulders. He's teaching you how to be in practice, will move meaning around for Rahim to the believers He is merciful and gentle. Where are we in terms of merciful and being gentle to the Anwar Mohammed Salah Lovell and he will send them the same people that we need so that we can be successful in carrying the weight of prophethood the weight of the work of them they are being misled. wasallam Remember I said collectively we carry this. If my brother is not functioning, I'm going to it's going to be more harder for me.
However, we ever stopped thinking about this, oh seventh of a month, no child
will not forgive us forgive our past, in spite our futures. I mean, and this is why even though Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he had the greatest responsibility of bringing people to the worship of one Allah, people who had hearts shackled in the chains of ship. That is a big job, but even
though that was happening, he was teaching them how to raise their children. Even though that was happening, he was teaching them how to be diligent husbands, even though that was happening, he was teaching them how to be diligent wives. Why was he doing this? Surely he was busy with a bigger matter, the matter of
the matter of the beam of correct belief in the Lordship of Allah matches pertaining to correct belief in the worship of Allah, the unity and his worship, matters pertaining to the correct belief in his names and attributes, trying to teach his people to believe in life after death. These were big, massive problems that existed, but even though he was also teaching them about being a good wife and husband and parent, and Allah says, Allah says
that in the messenger
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la Candela confy rasulillah swattin hasta. la parte de can, indeed, in the messenger is a perfect example for you. And perfect example, is in the indefinite format. And this indefinite format exists in the positive context, but of a technicality, but I explained what I'm saying, because we need to understand how deep the Quran is. The scholars have a pseudo tip of jurisprudence methodology, they say, an Akira VCF, and it's bad to feed feet
or more, they say, an indefinite article, in a context that is positive, entails a meaning that is comprehensive, and inclusive.
What does this mean? This means when we read the ayah, and Allah teaches us that indeed, in your messenger is the perfect example. Allah is not seeing the perfect example in just how you break and how you fast and how you observe the hedge. No, Allah is saying the perfect example in every matter of your life. He is the perfect example. If you want to know how to be a wife, if you want to know how to be a husband, if you want to know how to be a parent, if you want to know how to be a teacher, if you want to know how to be an employer, if you want to know how to be an employee, if you want to know how to be a member of a community or a society, in him is the perfect example. And
that is why after La ilaha illAllah comes Muhammad Rasul Allah, that when you say there is no one worthy of worship besides one Allah, then Allah is telling you, if you accept that, then Allah wants you to worship Him, how he wants to be worshipped, not how you want to worship Him.
Allah allows you to worship him how he wants to be worshipped. And that happens based on the way of Muhammad Rasul Allah. So you say la ilaha illAllah, Muhammad Rasul Allah, Allah wants you to be a father, how he wants you to be a father, not how you want to be a father. Allah wants you to be a husband, how he wants you to be a husband, not how you want to be a husband. Allah wants you to be a wife, how he wants you to be a wife, not how you want to be a wife, not how society wants you to be a wife, not how your culture wants you to be a wife. It's submission to the will of Allah and His will is made manifest to us through Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This is why we say that in
a Illallah Muhammad Rasulullah that's the first question has to be your Allah. How do you want me to be a husband? How do you want me to be a wife? How do you want to be a parent? How do you want me to be a citizen of the community that I mean, how do you want me to be and the answer is in the life of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He says kulu Kumara and wakulla comas Odin Andhra yet, each and every one of you is a shepherd. And each and every one of you is responsible for his flock. Responsible means allow and ask you about how you manage your flock on the day of pm. Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah says, Yeah, you have levena M and O you who believe boo and fusa con la coonara save yourself and your families from the fire
and your families from the fire. You are the shepherd of your families. Allah subhanho
wa Taala wasabi rally Lana's Allah Karim Khan, Nana Zuko
Taka, Allah says, command your family, to command your families to the to the prayer.
What's the valley and don't give up until it's established in your families
of others and say Be patient in telling them. He says don't give up until it's established. If talking doesn't work, change your strategy.
But don't die, except that your families upon the learners lucullus Can we don't ask
for food and money, National Zoo cook, we are the providers of sustenance. What are people to the taco? And the good ending is for the people of the person and especially in this day and age in this day and age, when we tell the parents are you raising your children? They say yes,
we are very relative answer. We can't stop there. We need to ask, What do you mean by Yes? What is your definition of raising the children? They say no, we send them to school. We send them to the masjid. We introduce them to the Imam. We send them to the madrasa they have a Quran teacher, we raising our children.
For about you. What do you do with them? I'm busy. you busy? What are you busy with? I have to put food on the table. Haha. I have to pay the bills. Okay. I'm busy with life so that we can provide sustenance
by who's teaching your child about salah and about establishing Salah in their lives? The teacher the madrasa, the Imam at the mosque. That's why I donate to the masjid. That's why I paid the metric service. Oh, so you outsource parenting? No, I don't. We don't outsource parenting. Why are you saying that? That's what it means. Whenever you pay someone to do something for you, you outsource it. you outsource marketing. you outsource catering. you outsource human resources, right? you outsource publishing. you outsource it. You pay someone to do it. You're not doing it in house, cheaper to get someone else to do it. Right. So that's what you're doing. You're taking the easy way
out. It's called outsourcing. I'm sorry, my dear brother and sister in Islam. You can't outsource parenting, the madrasa the masjid, the Imam of the masjid, the teacher, the madrasa the school, they are only there to complement your role as a parent, not to play the role of mother and father for you understand this and understand it well. You will never ever outsource parenting, it can never happen. Because what law he will be left with a law he there is no one on the face of this earth that is more desperate for your child to entertain them with an issue.
No matter how sincere they are. The man is sincere. He wants to challenge you and agenda but not more than you.
The madrasa teacher is sincere. They want the success of your children, but not more than you. They have their own children. They have their own problems. And by the way, when your child is with them, there's probably another 1020 or 30 kids with them as well.
Do you have a family of three or four and you have no time for them? What do you want a mom? What do you want the teacher at the Methodist Church? What do you want the school teacher to do? They only spend a few hours in the day with your child, the best years of your child was in your home. If you're not doing it, no one is going to do it.
Today SubhanAllah. We find parents
up in arms, the child has reached their teens. And they're going out of hand. They're getting out of hand. Why? Because adulthood identity crisis. They're growing. Females, hormones, development, males. identity development, the Eagles are growing independence of thought. desires are coming in different things are happening to them. But they never ever knew you as the teacher when they were growing up. you outsource them to other people.
And those are the people who are too busy to do your entire job for you.
So then the empty space is in their minds. Who filled it for them. The television who filled it for them, the friends at school, who will be for them, the neighbor down the road. What do you want to do they have other teachers for the last 10 years now you up in arms because you finally realized that things are not going to plan and you start pointing the finger, the Imam, the madrasa, the school, the society, the city, the neighbor, are you pointing fingers mightier presidents sustained Islam. Whenever you point fingers, these three fingers pointing back at you.
problem starts with you.
Your child never had some form of GPS installed in them where they should learn from Allah.
Allah monisha Allah extracted them from the wombs of their mothers without them knowing anything, and Allah placed them in your care. Your child was innocent. He all he wanted all she wanted was your kid. They were an Amen given to you. It's as if when your child was born, and you held them for the first time, and those innocent eyes with the twinkle looked into your eyes and you felt all this fuzzy feeling. At that time, there was a message that was transferred from baby to parent that my dear mother and father I didn't have a choice who will be my parents, but Allah has put me in you Okay. All I asked him used to do right by me.
That's what they asked.
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says kulu malu, the new lead Allah fitrah
Ababa who you have with what you know, Sarah?
Well, you met Jesus and
that all children are born upon a natural disposition, a disposition of guidance and belief in one of law, but it's their parents that shift them here, or they make them Christians, or Jews, or fire worshippers, or whatever they become. It's the environment that affects.
So when you point a finger, these three fingers pointing back at you, we're talking about effective homes, beneficial homes, equal beneficial societies. I don't want you to understand this topic, void of my introduction. What was the introduction, that we are the best on Maui, because we collectively carry the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. It was birthed and sustained Islam. Can you understand the harm you doing to the onma? If you're not an effective husband? Can you understand the harm you're doing to the legacy of newborn, if you're not an effective wife? Can you understand
the knife that you piercing into the hour, if you're not an effective parent, you need to really see the bigger picture here. That if you're not doing your role as a mother, and a father, and and a husband and a wife, then your home is a corrupt home, and that home is going to create a corrupt society. And when that society is corrupt, what's going to happen to the to the people who are supposed to carry the Dow, the Dow
and when there's no doubt what's going to happen, a vise is going to spread. A lot tells us about the people of before the People of the Book. Allah says they are cursed upon the tongue
of their Buddha and his salah and reset the son of Maria, why can will I attend a homeowner?
They never did the DAO, they never invited towards good. They never forbidden evil. And then they became the people that did the evil.
The semi Academy, what an evil, evil, wretched actually.
Are we those people may Allah protect us will not protect us. My dearest mother, and father, let's start with the mother and father before my dearest husband and wife, my dearest mother and father. One of the best ways to help this hour is to raise your kids yourself. And one of the best ways to raise your kids yourself is to talk to them. Make time to talk to them every day. Like we say, never ever sleep without reciting the Quran. Never ever step without having that. That beautiful sitting with your child. Never, ever make sure they see you as the first teacher. Don't underestimate the power of teaching. And why should you be the first teacher because when law he let me teach you
I can teach your child about Salah.
But the Baraka that exists in you teaching them about Salah is far greater
than when I teach them about it.
I can teach your child about being good and having good manners. But the Baraka the blessings that exists in the lesson when you teach it is found no way except when you do that. This is from Allah. This is from Allah, you must understand this, that there's a certain Baraka, there's a certain gift that Allah has put in
the dissemination of lessons between parent and child that doesn't exist when a teacher teaches that child that lesson.
And if you want evidence of this, I refer you to the Quran. Because every story in the Quran when Allah tells us about a Prophet and his child, Allah always mentioned the concept of them talking to each other.
Allah tells us about Look man, the wise man
and his son, what does Allah say? We've got a local man living
on a ladder to Shrek villa in Nashville, California.
When the wise man look man, had a dialogue with his son
when he taught his son
when he educated his son
and he said to me send my DSM, don't associate partners with Allah. Indeed, associating partners with Allah is a great depression.
Surah Yusuf, a whole surah dedicated to the story of one Prophet, beginning to end. How does the love begin the story? Well, have you ever thought about this? How does the love begin its own story. You expect stories to begin
in a certain way, how does the love begin the story?
Is the use of a b here is Carla, when you said to his father,
that's the beginning of the story. What's the follow up to that beginning? Kalia? buena. Yeah. When he said to his son, they having a discussion.
It says if Allah is teaching us about parenting without teaching us about parenting, this is the power of the Quran, you have to ponder over what's happening. And look at the context of your life. I mean, which child today just goes to anybody, and tells them about a dream that they had. They only go to that person and tell them about a dream which they had, when they comfortable with that person, when there's a report that already exists between them. That's how children are. So in other words, it is called usefully IV. It says if a lie is saying the story of use of is a story of a beautiful relationship about a father and a son, and the father played with the sun spoke to the sun
and vice versa, they ate together, they they ran together, they played together, they were so close with each other. So the day came when you saw this dream. And he said, You know what, I need to go tell my father bought his collar you put everything in context.
And when you've had this dilemma of this dream, he's seeing a star. He's seeing a moon, he's seeing 11 stars bowing down to him. Why is this strange for a young boy?
Young children have imaginations right?
Don't they have imaginations? How many of us have children here?
Mashallah, how many of us have come across a child that has an imaginary friend?
They have imaginary friends you see them playing with somebody
who you playing with playing with my friend they even give them names. My son he had an imagine he had two two imaginary friends one was a good one. And one was a naughty one. Whenever something what used to happen is a it's it's he had he named the one was alone one was Becky. So he would say this because for
me do this. Are you as a parent? You know, you think so? Pamela look at the world of the child. The brain is good. They have imagination. It is imagination some parents is that punishing the child but it's only two threes line. Nine is Hara. punish the child to say brother, relax, put your stick away. Come down. Don't hyperventilate, breathe.
He's not lying. This is imagination.
You got to read about the child's mind.
So our children have imaginations? How can you serve at the age of four or five or six? He has a problem with what he has seen in his reading. Have you ever asked yourself why? You know why? Because his father used to teach him about worshiping Allah and prostrating to Allah. It can only be right.
That this is the relationship that they had. His first teacher was his father. So now he has a confusion. So who should I go to my father?
Today, there's a confusion. I need to go to the guidance teacher at school.
There's a confusion. I need to speak to that person up the road. There's a confusion. I need to speak to my friends when I meet them in the afternoon. They were about your father. My father was too busy. He's never ever taught me anything. I don't think he knows the answer to this.
Yes. Yes. Take it from someone who's been tested. I call it a test. It's a test from Allah on me that I have to sit with some of your children.
What not your children per se. But you understand what I'm saying children of the community? I don't think my father knows. Because not once did he ever teach me anything?
So the fact that us has a problem, if we use our brain, we understand that supanova Yaqoob must have told us about the worship of one Allah will use it was two or three or four. Because we know that Yusuf was stolen from his home when he was four or five or six as the scholars of the estimate. So at that age, he knew about worshiping Allah. So he had a problem. Now he had the problem. He knew who to go to for the answer, because he knew who his teacher was my father.
He goes to his father, he tells his father about the dream.
Look how beautiful the relationship is between the coop and use of today. We don't have time Yaqoob look at the time that he has for his child. Yaqoob is busy as a prophet of Allah He has to teach about Allah and the oneness of Allah and stop worshipping idols. You think you're busy measuring how busy he was?
You think you have issues, community issues. Imagine what community issues he had.
And how many children did he have?
He's got use of he's got Binyamin, he's got another 10 he Mashallah two, three kids, right?
You have issues he had bigger issues, but he tells his son
Paula, yeah, Puna Yella Taku Erica Allah wa t Kapha Quito
lecoq ada in shavon LL
Bean, this is my dear son, don't relay this dream to your brothers, because they will harm you.
And my dear son, never ever forget my other lesson which attach indeed shape to man is a clear enemy. You might be scratching your head and thinking, Man, yeah, who was brave. Today, we don't tell our children about shavon we worry they'll have sleepless nights. They're too young. Don't teach them about children grow up and learn. Don't teach them about Allah, we too busy now we have time. Let them get older, they must get older than we'll teach them. tomorrow never comes my dear mother and father. Learn from yaku. Today you write to me and asked me, How do we protect our kids, we can measure them all the time we send them to schools, they're out of our house, they're out of
our eye, what do we do? learn from you. Teach them what they need to learn. Don't disrespect their mind, respect them and teach them what they need to know that knowledge will be the security.
The scholars of psychology
and instruction, they say, the most perfect education that you can offer someone is when you tell them to do something or not to do it. And then you explain why. And if it's confusing for them, you, you give them further guidance.
three elements to correct speech, and amaroo. What to do with doji in the Arabic language, the command, the explanation of the command, and then guidance. They call these the three pillars of correct instruction. We find this in the speech of Yahuwah a Salah, all my son, don't release this dream to your brothers, this is a common.
Why? Because they might protect against you they will harm you. He explains himself. But today you and I will say no, no, no is too young you can you tell him his brothers are going to harm him.
Who is teaching him life. This is life. If I don't teach you, no one is going to teach you listen to me, my dear son. But he knows that previously, I used to tell my son that never ever break the bond of unity between you and your brothers, brothers or brothers. You are united by blood. You are united by faith. Always be united always forgive each other. That's what I used to teach him. And now today I'm telling him, your brothers might harm you. So jacoba has to add guidance to his explanation and teach his son that my dear son, if they harm you never forget that other lesson I taught that she upon is a clear me to match.
There's a reason why I'm explaining this in detail. Because
there's a reality to this.
So usually by the age of four or five, he listens to his father teaching him about Sherpa.
Let's fast forward.
Four and a half decades further
use of his 50 something years old,
used to be 60 something years old.
He was taken out of his home as a young boy, today you take a kid out of his home for five. Right? And I if I tell you take a five year old put him in a house where they worship items where they don't have manners where they practice adult. What do you think this child will become at the age of 14? What would you tell me? Will the child be a Muslim youth? No. I can put money on it. You said
teens is 13 1415 1617 1819 growing up in a house Have you become a Muslim. You become the environment that you're in.
Use of gets to the age of 40.
He's living in a home, which is messed up. Forgive the colloquial English but you understand what I'm saying?
And the woman locks him in a room, shuts all the doors, shuts all the windows. No one has access no in no out total privacy. He's never heard about a law since he was four years old or five years old or six years old. He is a man. He has designs. Not only is he a man in his 20s a man in his 40s Can you imagine how much desires he has never been married? He's a slave. She's the master. He's an expert. She's a citizen. She owns the gods he can be thrown into prison. She has compounded strength. He has compounded weakness. Don't forget the weakness of his desires. Now,
the biggest weakness comes he Tila Carla Tater. She said Come to me. Come to me. Now what would you and I in this day and age with this circumstance with our desires with everything? What would we say?
Subhana Allah, but what would we say? What are we thinking? This is easy man. Normally you got to buy the dinner, you got to send the roses you have to you know, there's a lot you have to do before he or nothing she's saying Come to me, so easy.
But what does he say? What is the words that comes to his tongue at that moment? My other law, I seek refuge in Allah. Allah protect me in a lava with this 14 men for 40 year old men here the word Allah with the this that Allah is a protector. Where did you hear that this is wrong in the chiffon? Where did he learn this from? We didn't teach him. We brought this boy up who's taught him this. Remember earlier I said, Don't underestimate the Baraka of a father and mother teaching a child
is Barack Obama, he there's blessings in it that you can't imagine when you do it. Allah blesses that lesson, that it guides the child.
It might be good if the Marisa teacher does it, but it's not as good when you who taught him his father might have Allah
le I said that he taught him about shape and they went in the UK teach him about Allah at the moment. Because after Yahoo tells us of shavon is a big enemy beeware
Toby calm buco on your limo Kumi wheel in the
coming through a bar or e mail what is happening in Nara Becca Annie moon Hakeem.
He tells his son after teaching your son about Chopin. He says My dear son before I lose you, things are gonna happen to you. I can't imagine what's going to happen to you. But before you lose the ability of your father to teach you, let me teach you from the University of life. Whatever happens to you? This is Allah completing his favor upon you. Like Allah completed his favor upon his heart, and Ibrahim your grandfather's? What is what is the accompanying reason? Today we hear identity crisis in the oma the Muslims in the UK. They're having identity crisis and my Muslim British British Muslim identity crisis. Yakov is teaching him who he is my son, you're a son of a prophet
who was the son of a prophet who was a son of a prophet. This is who you are, Ally's completing his favor upon you before I lose you. Let me tell you, this is who you are. Never forget who you are, before I lose you. This is who you are. And
whatever happens to you in life, always remember that Allah that I always taught you about. He is your og. And he is Eileen. And he's hockey.
What does that mean? He is your ultimate protector. No one can harm you and you have him. What does he really mean? No matter what happens to you, he knows where you are. He knows your situation. Whatever happens to you, he's Hakeem. He's wise as to why it's happening to you might not understand. But don't lose faith in him. Don't lose hope in Him. There's a plan that he knows that you don't know. When you look at the situation, you just have a pixel. But you can't tell the whole picture from just a pixel. But Allah has the whole picture. And very soon the other pixels will come into your life and you'll understand Subhanallah what Allah was doing. He teaches you some this four
or five lessons that you and I today will say no children are too little. Don't teach them keep the keep them uninformed, protect them. Don't tell them about Japan. Why to protect them, Yahoo be saying teach them about shavon and teach them about Allah and not just the concept the reality to protect them. So when used to be taken into the jungle at the age of six, tomorrow your child will go to the jungle called the school at the age of six. You send them protect
so used to finally he Salaam is locked up with her. And she says come to me. He remembers my father told me that when the doors are locked, and the windows are locked, and no one can see you. In Europe Bacardi would keep you Allah, he's your protector, he will protect you. And by the way, he's allowed him. He knows where you are. And he's Hakeem. He knows why you there. So that's easy for him to say.
His whole life he was growing up with this reality.
When he's thrown into the prison,
he tells the inmates What about a minute.
He grew up in house of shirk, but he's telling the inmates is worshiping one God better worshipping many gods
Is worshipping many gods better or should be one God. And you know me, I am upon the way of my forefathers, my grandparents who Ibrahim and his hack, and he accused my father, I'm a prophet, the son of a prophet, the son of a prophet, the son of the Prophet. Where did he learn that lesson? Before he was taken from the home, when his father told him that whatever happens to you, Allah is completing his favor upon you.
Have you ever understood sort of use of like this? It is the it is the parenting module from the Quran.
It is the evidence of how to be an effective parent from the Quran. You might just think, Okay, this is what happened. Oh, that's interesting that is tied together. Why is he saying I am upon the way of my forefathers? why he's telling them I don't have an identity crisis, even though I've spent four and a half decades around people who worship idols, but I still know who I am. And I know where I'm from. Okay, what's the next question? Where did you let us have Where you from? And then in my father's home, but how old were you when used to live with him? I was four or five. But my father, he taught me from the University of life. He taught me these lessons. And Allah bless those lessons
that stuck with me.
At the end of the story, when he's 50, something years old, when a lot gathers them together, a lot brings the family together. Unity happens, use of mystery, his mother, he missed his father, he missed his brothers. And now they together Yousuf says, work at the center be a law was good to me. When it originally minister, when Allah removed me from the prison,
to Panama, why is use of saying when Allah remove me from the prison? Why does the use of say Allah was good to me when Allah took me out of the well,
which was harder in his life, which event being thrown into the prison as a six year old, or being thrown into prison by his choice when he's 40? Plus, which is harder for a human being.
What do you think brothers and sisters in Islam
being thrown into the wild?
So why doesn't he say to his father, mother, brothers allow us good to meet when a lot took me out of the well.
Why? Because my brothers are here. These are my brothers. I always forgave them because when I was a boy, my father taught me that shavon is a clear enemy, it will shape one who messed around with us. Today, you and I, what do we do? who say no, no, no, no, no, no mention the well, they must know what they did. I forgive them but we don't forget, they must know mustn't get away with it, they must remember what they did to me. Right? You can use of perfect forgiveness, who taught him how to perfectly forgive his family. His father when when he was six, when he was five, when he was four, that is choosing his words appropriately. Allah was good to me when a lot to be out of the prison.
Let me not say anything about the world because that my brothers did that to me. And then he goes on to say, mean, by the anessa cachet upon being you have been a aftershave balm caused enmity between me and my brothers. By Allah I asked you who taught us that if something happens between him and his brothers, when she upon had a big hand, who taught him
his father, at the end, when they 50 some of his 50 something years old, he's telling his father, that my father, you taught me about shirvan, Allah was good to me, when Allah brought you out of the desert. And Allah took me out of prison, after shavon caused enmity between me and my brothers.
Like, I don't know what more I can say to make you appreciate how powerful it is for you to speak to your children and teach your children and respect their minds and don't think they're too small. If you don't know about Allah, go learn about Allah. That's your duty. Why? Because you have to teach your child about Allah. Why? Because he has to carry the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam also, like you have to carry it, we collectively carry it. If I don't raise my child, well, then how will I be successful in carrying the Dow the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam now is not on the shoulders of one man is on the shoulders of the entire ummah. My child is from the
Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wasallam I have to teach him we have like granted the understanding. And we hope we understanding this the micro and the macro. We always talk about seeing the pixel in light of the bigger picture.
We never too busy for the important things in life. My dad has brothers and sisters in Islam. Forget this word. I'm too busy. Brother, do you speak to your child? We're lucky I'm busy.
You're not too busy.
I have a translation for the word busy.
You have Google Translate, right? Let me give you surgery, translate surgery, trauma translate. When you tell me I'm too busy. You saying
you're not important to me.
That's what you say.
Because brother and sister in Islam
When you are busy, you still have time to eat.
Not so you still wear your clothes before you leave the house. Not so the i in right? Not so you pay the bills. Not so when you're busy, you still doing things. So you have time for the important things. If you can't talk to your child that day, you saying talking to my child is not important. Basically, let's call a spade a spade and not a big spoon with an African singer. Say call the shovel. Call it a spade a shovel. Don't say it's a big spoon. No, it's a shovel.
Stop making excuses. And today this is we we allow ourselves to sleep at night. Even though we're not being effective parents how? By making excuses and lying to ourselves. This is called cognitive dissonance.
The people of psychology they call this cognitive dissonance. The people have emotional intelligence. There's books on this. Right? Read knowledge is power.
They call this cognitive dissonance. What is cognitive dissonance when you cheat yourself by making excuses that appease you for your inaction.
There's an example about the fox who's hungry, and he sees the red apple on the tree which looks juicy, the fox can climb the tree. So he jumps and he jumps and he jumps. He's trying to get the apple and he can't get it. So at the end, he walks off shaking his head and saying that Apple doesn't taste nice anyway.
He's lying to himself, so he can be happy that I didn't get it. It's no plan. I didn't miss out on anything. That's cognitive dissonance.
You know, Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us, forgive us, inspire our futures and mean yorubaland me. So this is a point related to the importance of being brilliant parents, in light of the bigger picture of looking after the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam What time is again in this machine
right now. So let us listen to event very quickly and then after the event, I will just share with you one more point and then we will commence with the issue of Salah with your permission is Aquila, who,
okay, just before we commence
was selected Asia, we spoke about
beneficial home equals a beneficial society from the aspect of good parenting.
Another very important matter that needs to be considered is the proactive relationship between husbands and wives. Because the greater the relationship between husbands and wives, then the greater the ability to raise the children. And this is a big topic, no doubt. But one point I want to share my dearest brothers and sisters in Islam is the importance of us developing our marriages so that we co exist upon the paradigm of responsibility and not the paradigm of rights. There's two R's in our life, the art of rights, and the art of responsibility.
The books are they teach us about the rights of the husband, and they teach us about the rights of the wife, but they also nurture us to live with each other upon the paradigm of responsibility
that it shouldn't be about my right in your right. It should be about what's best for the bigger picture. This is being responsible.
And this is what we mean when we say a marriage is not about my way or the highway but it's about give and take.
And to emphasize this point, think about the best marriage that this world had the marriage of Mohammed Salah Lavoie, and he was sent to Khadija robiola and
when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married her who had the house
who had the money,
Khadija probably a loved one.
Was it her right? That the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam put a roof over her head
But nowhere do we find in the books of history ever. Khadija robiola her and her demanding that home
rather, she happily accepted that they live in her home. Help your loved one. This is your responsibility. This is responsibility. What do you think this gesture does to the love of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam for her to the love of
Husband for his wife. What do you think this does?
Unlike what we see today, today, the email comes. Nowadays the emails are books lumsdaine.
I got married. Chef hamdulillah chef. He doesn't have a house. We live in my house. My father gifted me a house. It's my house. Okay, Masha, Allah. Allah bless you, sister. Chef. Is it allowed for me to charge my husband rent?
rent? Yes. Rent. Why? Because it's my right that he gives me a home. But he doesn't. He's living in my home. If I was living in his home, I would rent this house, I would get money. So I think I should charge him rent is that allowed in Islam here?
rights versus responsibility? What do you think this will do to the heart of your husband? If you go and tell him? I asked you excited Omar.
If I'm allowed to charge you rent and he says it's a lot.
So here's the invoice, please.
pay rent monthly. What do you think this is going to do to his heart? Who has responsibility to sustain his lap?
Okay, this is with regards to Khadija
Khadija robiola and her she had a child when the prophets of Allah for Allah He was telling Maddie that some of the historians say the child's name was him.
Did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam have to be with him like how a father is to his real child?
that he was responsible? He raised his hand as if it was his own child.
What do you think this does to the heart of the law and
for her husband didn't have to but he went fine beyond he was responsible.
Today, husband might get married, he has a child from the previous marriage. That child wants to come live with his or her father.
So you go to your wife, you say, you know, he wants to come live with us. She wants to come to with us young girl, young boy, one month, then maybe we'll renew the contract for three months, then maybe it might be lifetime but we're not talking about that. Now. What do you think my new wife, one month child can come live with us?
But what about our relationship, our previous, you know, honeymoon period, I want to hold your hand in the supermarket but then the child is they should see me be
thinking negative. Thinking about my rights, but thinking about responsibility.
So Khadija puts a roof over the head of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam raises a devious child like his own all this is responsibility.
Then, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he wants to be responsible to his relatives. This is part of the family structure and being diligent to the data. He says, I will finally raised me
and he has many children and he's not well to do now that we will to do I want to take one of his sons early and raise him in this home. I want to take my cousin and bring him to this home.
Do you see in the books of history, Heidegger saying law law? It's not fair. But you know, this is our home now. This person is a stranger, he's going to come? No.
She happily agrees. And she raises alley like as if it is her own response.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam is responsible to his uncle today. You tell someone a brother, you know that uncle of yours. When you were young, he'd he paid your school fees or he did something for you. You know, why don't you reciprocate, do something you say? Habibi, brother. I didn't ask him to pay my school fees.
From the kindness of his heart, Allah will reward him no obligation upon the typist obligation upon you to be responsible.
responsibility. This is the Omaha masala values and we responsible people. It's important that the relationship between husband and wife is built upon the paradigm of responsibility.
And this is true.
Love and Mercy. Allah says from his science is that he created the husband and the husband's wife and Allah placed between them our love and mercy.
And some people say no, no, no, no, no, no love is in the first five years of marriage six years, seven years, then the law finishes so then there's Miss. We live with each other we have to be merciful. Loving Mercy is responsibility or seventh of Allah. No child of Adam, this is my wife Deborah. So it's important that we live with each other upon this way and if we do so will close many of the doors that she upon uses to pollute our marriages. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect me before I end. One thing from Surah Yusuf
at the beginning of surah Yusuf
Usually I saw a dream of a sun and a moon and 11 stars at the end of the story, how is that dream interpreted?
The sun, according to one tafsir the sun s un represented the Father, the mother represented the moon, and the stars represented the the brothers, the children.
Let us analyze this a little bit.
In the life that we live in, when the sun is out, people feel safe. When the sun is out.
Earning takes place. When the sun is out, the rain falls, the plants grow things happen.
What about the father in the home, when the father is around, the family feel safe.
When the father is around, earning happens, sustenance is there.
Back when the sun isn't similar. When the father is around, things happen, the bills are paid, the school fees is paid.
Transport takes place, there's an issue the solution comes out. Is there a relationship between the father and the son in the sky?
When the sun is out? The stars are out. But do you see the stars? Not so many? Not not so. But you see the stars with the moon because by default, the mother in the home is pivotal to establishing a pivotal society. The children are with the mother, the stars are with the moon.
Let's look at the mother or the moon. When the moon is out. The stars are out. When the sun is bright, the moon is bright. And the brighter the moon, the brighter the stars.
When the father is a good father in the home. The mother now is a good mother in the home. When the mother is a good mother in the home. The children are the best children of that society. Because the relationship
Quran is the word of Allah Allah He doesn't this messages ponder. Okay, let's take it further. What happens when the sun wants to be the moon? And the moon wants to be the sun?
In real life, what do we have on that day? People say at this time on this day what's going to happen? an eclipse. And when an eclipse happens, the moon is weak, the sun is weak, and the stars are nowhere to be seen.
What happens when the mother wants to be the Father and the Father wants to be the mother.
You have a social Eclipse, a social Eclipse and when a social Eclipse happens.
The Father is not effective. The mother is not effective, and the children suffer the most. I leave you with this to ponder over my dearest brothers and sisters in Islam. I love you all for the sake of Allah. Everything correct settings from a line is perfect and any mistakes are for myself and shame upon and I seek Allah's forgiveness. May Allah subhanho wa Taala preserve us in his obedience, correct the affairs of our homes and make us people that are diligent to the legacy of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and then we are adding muscle that was Salim starting with us being diligent husbands and wives and parents. I mean, you're a bit I mean, may Allah gather us again
together in this Masjid as he has gathered us here today to learn further from the inheritance of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam everything correct studies from a line is perfect. And any mistakes I found myself in Japan and I seek His forgiveness or sort of love was something more about being a Mohammed or he was like be a drummer. It was Mr. De Kumar coming to LA he