The Warrior Companion – Asma bint Abi Bakr (RA)

Saad Tasleem

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah an eagle so I became a what a somewhat equal mark with the law he would occur to to everyone out there on the internet's.

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So the story that I picked is the story of the companion has not been a biblical bucha on the Allahu Allah and Homer. Now, let me get into the why, first of all, let's talk about a general category. So the general category of the companions, and then we'll get into a smell of the low and how,

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why I picked her in particular, now the companions, I can speak about my journey through Islam. And as you know, I started my journey in Islam and I as I tried to progress in my snom

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I, you know, read and heard many stories, and 100 in all the stories that we have in them are amazing, and they're great.

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You know, probably the most important story is the story of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, the Sierra, the life of the Prophet Mohammed satellites and them

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and very closely tied to the Sierra, the life of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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is the are the lives of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And one of the points that always stuck out to me was that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he wasn't sent in a vacuum, right, he wasn't sent to just on his own with nothing around him. He was sent in a certain environment, with certain people around him and things and world events, you know, unfolding around him. And then he also had his companions who were there with him. So it is impossible to really separate the lives of the companions from the life of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu, I didn't even send them. So part of our IP, that part of our faith is that we believe in the

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prophethood of the Prophet sallallahu, wasallam, Mohammed Salah long send them and if we believe in Mohammed Salah long I think he was setting them, then we must also believe in the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and indeed a lot testified to the greatness and the rank and actually

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a laws, a lost connection with the companions, or the Allah and what I'll do, I will tell them to put on that Allah is pleased with them, and they are pleased with a loves panel at the eila. So for me one source of an Eman boost. One source of connecting with the prophets that I send them with Islam as a whole has been through the lives of the companions of the Prophet satellite send them those people who accompanied the prophet SAW that satellite send them those who who lived with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And when we're talking about the companions, there's so many companions, lives that we can look at, you know, we have the major companions amongst them,

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Abubakar, viola and, Omar man, I literally love that I know much of my pain.

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But it is also important to remember those companions that may not, we may not always find them, like in the spotlight. And for me, those stories, I can particularly relate to those stories because when you look at the lives of the companions, you begin to realize very quickly

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that indeed, they weren't number one, as the Prophet said, some lights and him told us, he said hydroquinone Kearney said the best of generations is my generation. Indeed, they were the best of generations. Along with that, we also realized that that doesn't mean that they were perfect, that they didn't make mistakes, that they didn't have desires that they didn't have, you know, human human problems and human issues. And so that relatability with that generation, even though Yeah, they're the best of us, and we can, so it's, it's both right, so we can relate to them. And that also means that and they're the best of us, and so we can aspire to be like them. Sometimes when we

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think of someone as being perfect. It's hard to relate to somebody who's perfect. And that's why I think, you know, on a personal level, I think one of the things that gets lost sometimes when we look at you know, scholars and so on and so forth is that we forget that they're human beings and when we if we forget that they're human beings, it becomes hard to relate to them. It's as if they are these you know, may Allah protect us. Allah forgive us that there's somehow some of these infallible beings right? And, and when they're telling us to do something, we're like, okay, that's for you. And for this yoke utopia that you may live in. But you know, I live in this real world

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where I got real problems and, you know, I'm not pious like you or whatever it may be. And that relatable when we lose that relatability we lose a little bit

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of motivation to to, as I said, aspire to be like them.

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And indeed, the companions were an example for us.

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When with them having all their with them having flaws, they were an example of us because they were still the best of us. That'll be a lowdown on how much money. And so one companion and I have a few campaigns that are like my favorite companions, that, you know, stand out for me, because I tend to relate to companions that that went through a really difficult time. But not only that, they went through a difficult time, but, you know, they chose they chose

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a life where they, where they knew they were going to be in hardship, over a life of luxury, but without Islam, right. So they chose Islam, even though they knew it's going to be a tough and a difficult life. And I think that's one of the things that our generation, you know, sometimes it's missing, especially, you know, living in the living in living in the United States living in this part of the world.

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You know, a lot of you know, you know, first second generation, immigrant, you know, kids, like we don't, we aren't, but like, we don't really see like, true, true hardship, and I'm not, you know, invalidating anyone's pain, anyone's difficulty. But, you know, if we compare it to, like, problems that people are having, across the world, and the realities of the world that a lot of people a lot of our own brothers and sisters across the world are dealing with, like, we live a pretty comfortable life.

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And so and so to to, to see that somebody who comes from privilege, and comes from a place where, you know, they're chilling, basically.

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And then, because they accepted Islam, because they're devoted to Islam, they had to go through an immense amount of hardship, that for me, it just really, you know, it just, it just, it just really is really motivating for me. Because sometimes when we have to sacrifice a little bit for Islam, you know, we ask 20 questions, right? Is this really thought of like, do we have to do it? Or is it just recommended? Is this something and we'll you know, go see it, we'll go to a shopping, you know, look, with ease opinion, or whatever it may be, you know, find a way out. And for the companions, you know, and this, that's just like minor hardships. But for companions, a lot of times it was life

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or death, it was an immense amount of suffering and pain. And they still chose that path because they knew that true happiness, everlasting happiness, contentment in this life, happiness in this life and happiness in the afterlife, lies in submission to a large conduit to Allah. And that's why these stories are so inspiring. So amongst those companions is the companion a smell, the daughter of a bucket of the Allahu taala on home. So let me tell you a little bit about her. Let me tell you, where she came from, and you know, where she ended up and where she went. So just to start off with, I'm going to let you know, spoiler alert. She led a difficult life after them. But she was a tough,

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tough woman. She was a she was a she was a warrior, right. And that's, that's for me, it's like it's really inspiring to see her go through so much. sacrifice so much and be so strong and resilient through the end of it. And once again, spoiler alert, I hate to jump to the end. But you know, I'm short on time here. Honestly, the story. I could I could this this story. If I spent two three hours on I don't think you would do it justice. But you know, we only have a little bit of time. But spoiler alert, she lived to be about 100 years old, right?

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So she lived a long life. But it was a tough, tough life and through all that she persevered.

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But where did she come from she came from she came from the family of a bucket on the low end. And we know that a boubakeur out of the low Ivanhoe he was a wealthy merchant.

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He, he came from a family that was a well known family of nobility. And that was that was where she was brought up. And that's the life that she was used to. But if we know the struggle of Abu Bakar, on the lower end, we know the struggle of a snap the daughter of a buckler, because a smile, she followed in the footsteps of her father. So just as Abu Bakar immediately became Muslim, likewise, a smile on your lover and her, she immediately became Muslim, as well. So when they you know, when the scholars look back and say, you know, when did she become Muslim or she became Muslim, when the message of Islam came, I mean, there was no delay in that. She was amongst the early early people to

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accept Islam. And what's interesting about her families Pamela, is that her father was abubaker. But her mother was actually not Muslim.

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And, and not only that her parents were divorced at the time of Islam and when the message of Islam came, her mother, she was a woman by the name of aquatalia

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We'll talk about her a little bit later on as well. But she that's that's the household that she came from but she stuck with her father she stuck with, you know, his snam we know her, her sister, very famous, shout out the love to Allah and have her half sister. We know her brother Abdullah been a biblical also very well known not only that we know her husband, Zubaydah, one very famous also, we know her, her her son's very famous amongst them, of the law, debate and one very famous as well. So, you know, I keep going back to is that she was not just once again, you know, we talked about not being in a vacuum and not being by herself. She was strong, and she had strong people around her

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and so she was able to live that life of strength. So, you know, her husband was it was a strong person who sacrificed a lot. And likewise, her children ended up sacrificing a lot as well, for the sake of Islam. And it's obvious like that makes sense that if they've seen their parents devoted to Islam, and they've seen them sacrifice so much, then obviously do they would do the same as well. shares her stories actually intertwined in the story of Islam. There's two stories intertwined just like her father, her stories intertwine with the beginnings of Islam, the higit, for example, we know that just a quick summary when a loss kind of dial up,

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allowed the Muslims to make a draw, they we know they made a draw from Mecca to Medina. Many of the Muslims, most if not most of the Muslims had made his law and the prophets like Selim, and a few other companions, companions amongst them, I will buckle the alarm, they remained behind the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was waiting for a specific permission from a lot for him to make a dinner. And we know that during that time, as well, the Prophet sallallahu send them his life was in danger. Because the hodesh, the leaders of the place, they were plotting and planning his murder, they were trying to kill him, basically, that was the last resort for them. They're like, basically, he's

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gonna leave, they knew like most of the Muslim that already left Mecca. And they were afraid that look, if the Prophet sallallaahu send them if he leaves, then we're not going to be able to control him and suppress the message of Islam. So they were very afraid of the part send them leaving mcca. And that's why we know that even when person left MCO, as soon as they found out, they sent the party after him, to find him and to you know, kill him to get rid of him.

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So the party has remained behind until the parties and him finally got the permission to go, and who will company the profit. So I send them it was Abu Bakar, the close friend of the Prophet sallallahu send them and who was in Medina, who was in Makkah at that time, well, the family of Abu Bakar remained as well the family of au bucha hadn't made him they were waiting for their father who was waiting for the Prophet. So I said, you know, all together, they're all in this together. So if you think about who a coup is, with the Prophet, prophets, I send them it was a bucket on the family of our bucket on the low data drain. And you know, what's also very interesting about the story of a

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smoke is a lot of her story we hear from her and she's actually a very famous narrator of Hadith as well. She narrated a great number of Heidi's we know that she was very like she had a really good memory she was very sharp. That's why people relied relied upon her even in her old age, the companions would go to her and ask her advice and they would seek her counsel and they would say you know, what are the prophets I send them say in this matter, because her memory was was very sharp. And that's why she narrated a lot upon the Prophet. Some love I think he was send them but also we have her own story in so many different places being told, oftentimes she will say this is what

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happened with me so she tells us of what happened when the prophets that I send them was about to make hinter on this narration, its mission Seibel hottie she says that I was the one who prepared the the food and everything for the prophets that a lot of send them and Abubakar when they were going to make hegira to Medina. She said she prepared everything from the food and everything there is there's a food container and there was a water skin and she couldn't find anything to tie it with. So she said to her father, she said he said you know what my I can't find anything to tie to tie you know these two things together, except my waist belt. And the prot and Rebekah it'll be a

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long time he said, Okay, if that's all you have, right? Then cut it into pieces and tie the stuff up together. So we can take it and then you know, the the narrator the sub narrator of this narration, they say that after this incident, she was known as that nipah pain the the the the woman who had two belts, right because that incident is so famous and it was it was that it had such an such an impact.

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On the journey of the prophets, I send them and once again, as you said, her life tied into the life of the prophet SAW the love, send them and Islam and the beginnings of, of Islam. So that's where you may have heard that title may not have, but about the pain, the woman have two belts, the woman who had two belts, it comes from that early part in the digital. And so she prepared she, she herself, she tells us she prepared

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you know the prophets, I send them in a workout of the food and everything to go. Another well known incident story we have from that from a from from that time period is, once again, a smart or the alarm and how she tells us, she says that when Abu Bakar left, he took all of his wealth with him. We know this was characteristic of what could have the love and he would sacrifice he would give anything and everything for the sake of the prophets, I send them in for the sake of this snam. So when he left he took everything he could take with him to support it, Sam and to support the prophets Allah will send them and left nothing behind. Now, when the prophets I send them an welcome

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when they when they left for for Medina, the father of Abu Bakar, also a well known person by the name of Haifa, who later on became Muslim, but at this time, he's not Muslim, and he's actually not in the favor of Islam at all. He was an old man he was you know, he's pretty old at this time. And he had a really hard time seeing some, some scholars say that he was blind. He knocks on the door he comes in, and he says, you know, he's really upset. And he says to a smile. He says, I see that your father just as he abandoned you. He also left you with nothing, right? Like there's no welfare, there's nothing here. And a smart said, she said no, that's not the case. He didn't leave us with

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nothing. And what she did is she took some some rocks and pebbles. And there was a little recess in the wall where people would basically they would store all their wealth. So she put the rocks in there. And she put like a cloth over it. And she took the hand of hahaha you know her grandfather.

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And she she said here feel this and you know, he put his his like his walking stick in. And he saw that that recess was full. And he says, Okay, okay, I see that he's he's less he's left you with some stuff. Now. Amazing, somehow hurt her of Iraq, right? Her protectiveness of not only

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Abu Bakar her father, right, because she knows that her bucket is not doing this for for for his own benefit. It's not like he's going to, you know, take the wealth to enjoy it himself. She knows that he is doing it for the sake of Islam. Right. And so out of wanting to protect the honor of her father, and also the honor of Islam as well as a whole, right that Islam, she didn't want anything bad to be said or thought about Islam. She said this to their grandfather. And our scholars say that she didn't lie. Because when she said that she are looking left us with a lot, that a lot doesn't have to be material, right? It can be it can be you know what Obama could have taught them, the

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total via that he gave, and obviously the man that he left them with so out of her. And this is her, you know, her closeness to Islam, her wanting to protect this them wanting to protect the honor of her father, she did that a third incident that occurred at the very same time and think about Pamela how much a smart and she was quite young at this age, she was probably either in her late teens or early 20s. At this time, she wasn't like a, like an elderly woman or anything. She's still young.

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So I just got the 10 minute mark. And I'm like, right in the beginning of her story. But anyway.

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So she was she was you know, she was fairly young at this time. And so another incident we know and once again narrated by her is that she tells us that, that when the prophets I sent him left a group of the leaders of the police, they came to the house of Abu Bakar, her father very upset, saying where is a buck and where's a buck? And at the forefront of them, she says was a Buddha he didn't even Hashem. We know a Buddha had was and she herself she says that I found a Buddha had standing at the door of Abu Bakar, meaning the house of Abu Bakar. And I wouldn't have said Where is your father, oh daughter of a vodka. And she said I swear by a low llahi I don't know where my father

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which is the truth. She doesn't know exactly where her father is. And she says at that point, I would have raised his hand and she pauses and she says he was certainly a malicious and obscene person. She says he raised his hand and he brought it down and he struck my cheek so hard that my earrings they flew off of off of me. Right and then he will

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walked away. Now imagine some handler, going through that type of abuse, that type of torment, as a teenager, as a teenage girl as a teenage, young woman. So I've had a lot to think about, you know, when we go through some discomfort in our times, and you know, even the smallest discomfort you we really begin to question, you know, our life and our life choices. Right? Like, Oh, did I really make the right choice? Am I really on the right leg? Is this really when we go through hardship? Is this really the right path? And, you know, our scholars often say that a true

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indication of one sincerity

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in what they're doing, meaning, are they doing it for the sake of a law or not a true measure of that is what happens when matters become difficult.

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If somebody even like I think about my life as well. And I'm often thought about this in my journey, and my journey of seeking knowledge and my journey of even teaching Islam.

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You know, there's times when, you know, in my personal life, when when, you know, things got difficult that you know, especially as a student of knowledge, and, you know, that whole journey that I took, there were times where, you know, and I'd be really there, there were times where I honestly considered, whether I need whether I will continue in my journey of seeking knowledge. And I would remember how, you know, this very point that if I'm doing it sincerely for the sake of a law, then that means that when things get difficult, I persevere, I keep going, because it's for the sake of a lot. But if things become difficult, I'm like, Nah, this is not for me, you know, okay,

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you know what, I'm gonna go back I remember I was studying in Medina, like, you know, I'm a grad and I graduated college, when I went to Medina rice, I have a degree from back home, I go back home, back to my comfortable life in the suburbs of Maryland, you know, get a comfy job or whatever, and just live my life, you know, get married, get and you know, have a nice suburban house and whatever, whatever and just chill. Right? But then how sincere was I when I started my journey? Was I sincerely doing it for the sake of a lungs to Allah or not? If I was sincere, that means that even when things become difficult, I continue because this is for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. And

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that is why her story is inspiring for me personally, and many other companions that went through difficult times.

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But that is what's and but so she persevered, right? She tells the story, not as a moment of disappointment. she's proud of this story, right? She's like, Look, this is what happened. But but that's what it was, you know, that's what we did. In the beginning. I snapped, I put up with that. Right? Not only that, her life continued to be difficult even her journey to to when she made hyjal.

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We know that she was married to a zubayr, a black one, which I'll talk about him a little bit. I know. I'm running out of time. But I'll talk about him in a little bit. But she was she was married to him. And she was pregnant with the law. The lighteners Zubair who is very famous, you don't tell me we talked about him one day. But she says, during my digital you my immigration to MCC, I was pregnant with him. But I still traveled right. And she says, You know, I traveled and I was right on the brink of giving birth. And she tells us that it was had a lot of she had reached Cuba, and she had to give birth. So that is where she gave birth in Cuba. And you can imagine how long this woman

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during her pregnancy during the last the end, you know, the last term of her pregnancy, traveling through the desert, traveling, you know, and the travel of that time is not like the traveling of our time. But she persevered. She gave birth and in in, in Cuba and she herself she tells us once again, as I said she narrates a lot of her own story. She tells us what was the reward of that so Pamela, the Muslims rejoice the Muslims became very, very happy because this was the first child born

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after the hinges on Islam. And so the Muslim became very happy. The prophets I send them she tells us this narrative sign Bahati a smile on how she tells us the prophets I send them himself he came and he did danique for the login as a bear meaning Danny key he you know put some took some date to it and rubbed it on the inside of the mouth of the login is so bad. And she says about the Aloha and how she says some some No, he made the offer him well Buckeye Lake he made the offer the lemons to bed and he sought a lot of blessings for him. And this is a time of once again and this is some had a lot the the theme of the story of a smart and somehow the vast majority of the companions of the

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Prophet send a lot I send them that a lot honored them through their sacrifice that they sacrificed in this life. And by the way Subhanallah many of the companions you know they're

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sacrifices like we can't really even imagine like how difficult it was for them. And in their life many of the components they never saw comfort. So when they when they when they when they sacrifice and they started a hard life their life remained hard till the very end, right that they there was no relief for them yet a lot honored them in this life. Till today we make the offer them it'll be a lot on home. And obviously in the afterlife. We know how a lot has kind of worked out we know their reward in the afterlife. But that was that was, as I said, that was that was her sacrifice for the sake of Islam. She married a battle the Allahu anhu A Zubair came from a bed or the floor, I was

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very poor. And once again talking about sacrifice, a smell, it'll be a lover and Hmm. We said her father was wealthy, she came from a fairly wealthy household. Yet she agreed to marry a Zubair even though he was very, very poor. And especially when they made it to Medina, a smell once again in her own, she tells us herself, she's she narrates her, you know, this part of her story. She says that, you know, I'm married as a bit and he had no wealth and no possessions. All he had, if she tells she he had a camel, and I believe he had a horse, and she said, I would tire myself I will work and I'll go grind the dates to give to, to feed to feed the animals that we had. And there's a couple

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incidents where she was just hungry. She said I had good neighbors, they would come and you know, they would give us a you know, they would bake bread for us. And she said sometimes I would sit there and I could smell the food from our from our our neighbors. And that is you know, that is a life that that a smart will the luck that I lived. But once again a last point out I blessed her with with amazing children. And I know my time is, is running out.

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But even she had to witness the death of her child. The login is a battle of your luck Allah, I hope, but she was still strong till the very end. And her death was actually just a couple of days after the death of her beloved son dilemna Zubaydah.

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As I mentioned earlier, she was about 100 years old. And in that time, even we have reports that she even fought in the Battle of Yarmouk that there were women who fought in the Battle of milk, and she fought very, very fiercely. So you know, when you talk about being tough, she was tough in every sense of the word, not just toughen, okay, I can I can go through hardship. And I can persevere and that is, indeed an amazing quality of toughness, but also physical toughness, to physically be the force that she was on the love that I'm How about her.

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And she survived that. And as I said, you know, she died close to the age of 100 years old.

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Some of our scholars mentioned that it's an interesting point they mentioned they say that, even though she was 100 years old, she had all of her teeth, right. So that that is that is who she was this this strong warrior of a woman, once again, not a short life, a long life, but a life full of hardship and difficulty. But for me, once again, the main one of the main themes here is how Allah honors people when they sacrifice for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And that is the story of her story and the story of many of our companions, sacrifice and devotion, both of them go hand in hand. And there is a reason to panela why the companions have such a high status in Islam male loves kind of gotta be pleased with all of them. And Allah knows best and I apologize for cutting out somewhere to this story. inshallah, we will try and continue this story at another time. Another day, will Lakota Allah Allah Subhana Allah Homer, Homer will be handpick, I shall do and now Eli Lund stop Furukawa to Blake