Channel: Saad Tasleem
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does something for us Islam came, and it didn't lead us to solve our problems on our own. Just like with everything else in life, usually, almost always I should say, the answer can be found in Islam. And so when we talk about the issue of people's problems and sadness and depression, and stuff like this, obviously, it doesn't leave us without answers. And our Sharia has built into our,
our belief system, ways to deal with and to cope with sadness, and depression.
And those type of issues and as history as we mentioned, to feel sad, to feel sorrow, to feel grief, is very normal, to the point where that the prophets salatu salam, themselves went through tests and trials, and they felt sad at times, and we know in the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what is known as
the year of sadness, where the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam went through a tough time and went through sadness. And we know that when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi, salaam, went to Tobruk to call the people with high hopes and calling the people to Islam, and they tried to disgrace him, and they tried to humiliate him to where they ran them out to the city, and they throw rocks at him to the point where blood was dripping down his blood face on the lower it said, this was a sad time in the life of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. And similarly, other prophets Yaqoob is around, for example, and his story is, I would say, a really, really powerful story, where Eliza, which tells us
of the sadness that Yahoo Bala Salaam dealt with when he lost his son.
And the thing about the sadness of use of jacobellis around was that, you know, we can go through a sad period in our time in our life, and have to deal with sadness for a certain period of time. But we look at the life of Jacobi Salaam, and it was yours that jacoba sam went through a sad and tough time, to the point where nobody said I'm out of his sadness, a lot. So what it tells them tells us, we'll be out, but I know
that his eyes turned white from sadness. for who I am, that he almost lost, he lost his eyesight, out of the sadness that he felt, and his children, they say to him, that you will continue to be sad until you fall ill gravely ill, or that you will become destroyed. That is the height of the sadness of yopu balasana. But jacoba ceram response to his children.
He says in a school bus, he wasn't even alone. He says, most certainly I turned to a law, I only turned to a law in my sadness, and my grief and my suffering.
And I know from Allah that which you do not know.
And the scholars talk about this second part of the ayah and they talk about what Yaqoob Elisa knew,
knew were the realities that a Muslim a movement someone who has submitted to Eliza Jane understands from amongst these realities, is that likely follow Lawson in navassa, that Allah doesn't burden a soul with more than they can handle. Meaning if I was testing you, if I was trying you, if I was put you in a situation, rest assured that Allah knows that you can handle this and you can come through the situation. jacobellis salaam understood in America, you saw that with hardship, comes ease, and amazing things you've had a lot 1500 years before Harvey Dent, said the night is darkest. before the dawn, we have realized there was a revealing the ayat that tell us that with this hardship, we'll
find ease and it is close to that hardship. And one of the sayings of the hour. They say couldn't um, I said the albula, Alabama
and NASA that as the as the test in the trial, the hardship, the more severe it gets. The closer
With the help of Eliza gel is that is something that jacoba
jacobellis understood that in our life, we depend on Eliza. And it is through depending on Eliza gel, and trusting in the Divine Decree of Eliza Jen is where we're gonna find contentment and rest in our heart. And Muslim also understands that their life is in a constant state of changing, meaning we cannot guarantee what will come tomorrow. And the scholars often talk about the three days, they say in general, our life is three days, we have the day that past us that day, which is our past, our current day and the day that might come. And they say that our Muslim understands that what is past his past, mean, there's nothing you can do about that. And was in the future, we don't
know. When you cannot change the future. You cannot control the future. But what you can work on is your day right now the day that arises, Oregon has given you the life that Allah has given you right now, and the breath that Allah has given you right now. And this is the perspective of a Muslim, as one of the scholars, he said to one of the kings, he said, between me and you, there's a difference of one day, because we have both witnessed the last day, and you have enjoyed your time and you have done whatever you had to do. But you've already forgotten the pleasures of your period previous day, me and you We both understand that we cannot guarantee tomorrow. But we both have this day. So the
difference between me he said, as a scholar, and you as a king, who Allah has given riches and dominion and so on, so forth, is this one day.
Also, a Muslim understands that no matter what will be tested in this life, but it is impossible, that we go through this life, and we will not be tested meaning it is impossible that someone lives a life where they face no hardship, they face no tribulations and they face no trials, as Eliza just says, has he been nurse who is
our home life, that the people think that there will be left alone simply because they said we believe winning just because you say you're Muslim, or you say you believe it doesn't mean that you're not going to face trials and hardships in your life, meaning that is a normal part of life. So my brothers and sisters, Islam has given us tools to deal with with these issues. But one of the things that I wanted to do today, and
I think this is something which is not really addressed in our communities. And that was the difference in the sister Zelma had she, she she alluded to this to this point also. And that is the difference between sadness, the normal sadness, we feel as human beings, and the sadness in which we require help. When it becomes a problem, that we cannot simply throw slogans add, meaning we cannot simply There comes a time or they may come a time upon someone, if they're dealing with depression to the point where it becomes clinical depression, our our slogans of telecon Allah have trusted Allah or saying to them in America,
that won't do much for them. And the problem, my brothers and sisters would go into the person who has a real problem, meaning they're in a state of depression, where nothing seems to help them. The problem with going to this person and giving them general guidelines is that at times, this can lead to a state of further depression. And the reason is this. The reason is that a person who who's dealing with depression or sadness is dealing with problems in their life. And they can't seem to get past that many days and weeks and months go by, and they can't seem to move forward. When someone comes to them and tells them
the first half of my talk today and says listen, a Muslim believes and understands that you have to rely upon law, that you have to trust law, that in America serious law that with hardship comes ease. That's what you have to do. And the person says okay, but then they go back to their life and they under they start realizing that the Islamic cure for sadness and depression is not helping them. And so they begin to feel inadequate. They believe they start believing that there's something wrong with them, and it can lead to further sadness and further depression.
And we have a problem where in our communities now, there is a there is a general attitude of closing your eyes to the problem. And I personally believe this happens on three fronts or three levels. Number one is the actual individual in the one who is going through
through problems in their life, because of these general talks that we have on dealing with trials and hardships and stuff like that, they begin to ignore the problem, they'll shut it off and say, you know, I'll be okay. As long as I as long as I do the things that might not tell me, I'll be okay. And like I said before, that can lead to further problems.
the second level of this is the is the is the close family and friends of this person,
to where the family and friends will tell this person, listen, you'll be okay. Don't worry about it, all you have to do is rely upon Allah.
And once again, because that doesn't seem to do anything for them, it causes further problems. And then on the community level, we tend to ignore these issues. Meaning if there's Muslims dealing with these problems, our general attitude seems to be that if there's people dealing with these problems, that they do not under, understand Islam properly, that there's something wrong with their Eman that they have to trust in Allah. That's our general attitude.
And we forget that at a point, this will not benefit the person, this will do nothing for them.
And a lot of times, when it comes to men, for example, this problem becomes more severe. And I know we tend to speak about problems. And it's rare that people talk about men. But if you look at men in communities and in our communities in Muslim communities, they you know, if we think a sister is shy to talk about her problems, and sisters shy to tell someone that she's depressed, realize that brothers are more shy, mothers are more shy, they feel more ashamed to talk about their problems. They feel like as a man, you're not supposed to discuss the issues that you're going through. So for example, if a sister is being abused, she's in an abusive relationship.
It is hard for her and I completely understand that and I completely admit that, yes, for sisters, it is difficult, it is hard for sisters to come out and say to their community leader or to their mom or to their, the scholar that they look up to that I'm being abused in my relationship. But know that when it comes to a brother, and if they're in abusive relationship be a parent or something like that, it becomes even harder, and they feel a further sense of of shame. And if we look at Islam, if you look at our city, our city actually tells us that seeking help, and speaking out about our problems is a part of our religion, as jacobellis salaam said in them,
he said I complained to ally only complained to Allah and the scholars, when, when looking at these Ayat of jacobellis salam. They tell us that these ayat show us that when a person is going through a tough time when they're grieving, when they feel sad, when they're depressed, that it is important for them to talk is important for them to tell someone and and speak about their issues. And if they keep it bottled up, it can cause further problems. For us, athletically inclined to lighten the mood, ask the people of Vicar, the people of understanding the people of knowledge, the people of remembrance, US them if you do not know, this is the guidance of our [???]tier the prophets of war
lie and send them said in the ones that are done with the law.
It couldn't be done in the photo, the profits of the library and send them said that Eliza Jen has sent down both the disease and the cure.
And he has made for every disease a cure. So seek out this treatment, seek out this cure. Meaning This is what our [???]ty eye tells us that we have to take that step and I like I said, this happens on three levels. Number one, I hope that by talking here today, I can encourage the individuals who are dealing with issues, that there's nothing wrong with speaking to someone if you feel like you're in a rut if you're in a place that you simply cannot get past. And understand that no matter no matter how difficult it may be to talk about this problem right now, no matter how hard it may be to tell someone or to admit that your life isn't fine and dandy. That just because you have a beard, it
doesn't mean you don't get depressed. Just because you wear hijab or you wind up or you're considered a pious Muslim or a practicing Muslim. That that doesn't all of a sudden shield you from every single problem that comes across.
It's okay to talk about your problems and realize that you may be saving face right now you may be protecting your your work.
mutation or whatever you feel that you have to protect by not talking about that problem. But that saving face will never equal, or will never overcome a life of depression and hardship that you have to go out you have to seek help. And you know, psychologists often talk about going to a dentist. And it's interesting that sister mentioned, the the person who went to a dentist, they say that when it comes to talking about serious problems, when you have to talk about problems that we're ashamed of, we were dealing with a problem and we need help. They say it's like going to the dentist, meaning when you think about it,
you don't think about the cure, you don't think about the months or years or whatever time of relief that going to the dentist will bring, what does the average person think about when they go when they when they think about going to the dentist, they think about the pain that they're gonna have in those 20 or 30 or 40 minutes at the dentist's office. And that's our approach to dealing with our problems. That's our that's our approach on the individual level, is that we fear that that initial pain, or that embarrassment, or whatever, whatever perceived problems we see, we see with seeking help. And we we we leave aside a life of contentment and a life of living in peace.
Also, like I mentioned, the second level of that is, is our close family and friends, where our close family or friends just like we get diluted into thinking that, you know, we're supposed to be better, or there must be something that is wrong with me, or that Islam has given us guidelines. So that is the final answer. Similarly, the family members can take that attitude of a close friend and say, listen, all you have to do is read the Koran, all you have to do is pray and don't get me wrong. Of course chifa Scheffer lies in the hands of Eliza, and the wiser, we have made procure in that one session that you make, on that lonely night, may put the cure in that may remove all a
person's depression and sadness, because of that one says that they made with sincerity, that's true. But when it comes to an individual who's dealing with a problem and illness, a sickness, clinical depression, for example, that may not be the answer, they may actually need help, they may actually need to talk to someone. And lastly, like I said, when it comes to, to our community, and this, you know, I hate to say, but it falls on the shoulders of all of us. And when we, when you think of communities, we tend to think of the moms and and we tend to think of community leaders, but in the end of the day is us who make up the community. And it is us who we have to take the
initiative. And we have to bring this to the attention of our leaders and our emails and tell them that listen, we have to address these issues. If someone's being abused in the in the in the in a relationship, we have to address this, we can't turn a blind eye to this, if someone is dealing with serious depression, we have to deal with this. And this is why I had a low when i and this is very common. When I get an email from someone telling me that they need some general Islamic advice, because their friend is having a tough time dealing with some type of hardship. Or they tell me someone lost someone. Or they're going through grief in their life. And they say can you brother,
can you just give us some general give me some general advice that I can convey to my friend. I never, I never, ever, ever give general advice.
Because like I said that can cause more damage and more harm. Because if I give this general advice, and this person that looks at this advice, and they see that this does nothing for them, they can begin to feel like there's something permanently wrong with them and give up hope. And that is not part of our [???]tier. Islam doesn't tell us Islam looks down upon giving up hope. Islam pushes us to lead a very balanced life between love and fear and hope. This is the this is the attitude of a movement. So
to close, I say we have to take initiative, we have to we have to stand tall, and we have to take care of our community members and we have to take care of our close family members and we have to take care of our friends. Because the reality is that yes, the general advice that we give, it's true, it may work and inshallah it will work for the majority of people because the majority people are not clinically depressed for example, they're not ill That's true. So it's that's fine. You know, the general advice of Islam is great and the handgun allies have blessed us with that knowledge. But there are people in our communities that are suffering and who need help that will
not be helped by that general advice. And we have to take the means to solve these problems and Allah subhana wa tada knows best practical llama behind the shadow line and stuff like that, sir Mr. Kumar.