Mic Youth Program 06 03 2011 Fahad Tasleem QA Session
Channel: Saad Tasleem
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Okay smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala NV mursaleen Nabina Muhammad while Allah He was happy he ultramarine Amoeba. All right.
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I'm going to skip this this week's hero, Reason being two reasons. First of all, I'm a little under the weather. And second reason is that I wanted to give some time for the q&a. Because I'm looking at this box. And every week I'm throwing questions in it and just getting bigger and bigger and, you know, anyhow, so I wanted to actually cover that. Now, before I get into all the questions in here.
I think it's important that we have some sort of prerequisites, like you can ask questions, and feel free to ask all the questions you want. But you should know that there's certain prerequisites when it comes to questions, right. And I'm actually just listed three, the first prerequisite when you when you are going to ask questions, and we're going to get the answer. The first one is to check yourself and check the status of your heart. Because the thing is, you know,
when it comes to ask me a question, there's different modes in which your heart will go through. And you have to ask yourself, How much do you love Allah subhana wa Tada. Because that will determine how much of a receptacle Your heart will be to those questions to the answer to those questions, how much you love Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we've spoken about a certain idea, which had those eight categories, I don't know if you guys remember it. But basically, a lot of john says, will encana about what are now called was YG was one of them was logical wa*a to come, say that if your father's, your brother, your children, your brothers, your wives, your kindred, the wealth in which
you have gained the commerce in which you fear a decline, I have by illegal means law, he was truly what he had, if he severely is more beloved to you, is more beloved to you than Allah and His Messenger, and struggling and striving in his way faster on bazoo than Wait, wait for what had yet to lobby and wait for the punishment of allies in jail to come down. So you know, I said that the scholars say that it's, it's because the love of one of these eight things is more beloved to the person is that is the reason that a person sins? In other words, when you check the status your heart and say, Okay, do I love a lot more? Or do I love let's say the first category, your father's
and here we're talking about parents. So let's say now you've got this this criteria, what happens sometimes is that you will be in a state where your parents will be telling you certain things, certain cultural practices, right that have crept in. And your parents say you have to do X, Y and Z.
Right. And then your parents, you love them, you want to obey them. But certain things are actually running antagonist against what Allah is jealous ordered. Right? You see a lot of these, like weddings. And this just, you know, when I go to some of these weddings, it's just insane. You know how much you know how much wrong is going on? We'll just leave it at that, right? And sometimes what happens is, you might think, look, what's going on over there is jacked up. But my parents really want me to do it. So now you're checking the status. All right? Do I love a large deal more? Or do I love my parents more. And the criteria here is that you love a larger more. And if you look at and
we'll look at that in a little bit. But anyway, so your, your parents, your children, you guys don't have children, so you have to worry about it. But what happens a lot of times is certain parents in order to be down with their kids to be the cool parents, when they're when their children start saying things and they start saying like, Oh, Mom, you don't want to do this. And I want to do that, they'll put the Dean of a large jealous side just to fulfill their children's wishes. And you see that a lot, unfortunately, in this day and age. So it's not now the parent isn't trying to be a parent, but they're actually trying to be your friend, which is good. I mean, if your parents, your
friends good, but realize that they're still your parents as well. That's the second thing. The third thing your siblings, your siblings will have will have certain pressure upon you right to do certain things, again, checking the status, and the categories go on. But now, so the first criteria is establishing whether you truly love a logical or not. When you're going to ask questions. There's certain things about asking questions and saying, okay, I truly want the answer, because I want to see what will truly please Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the second thing is just saying, Okay, well, I just want to ask a question, just to see what the answer is. Right? Two different, two different
situations. The second thing, any single answer you get, and this what this is what happens when you ask different people the same question you'll get, sometimes you get a whole bunch of different answers, right? We have some some of the questions we have here. And they've been asked by many people, I'm sure, very popular questions. But there's a criteria. There's a standard by which you can measure who is correct and who isn't correct. And this standard will also come up when we start talking about some of the groups and sex people had a question about the Shia and amedee and things like that. But here's the standard
And listen to this carefully. The standard by which you can truly know whether someone is giving you the right answer or not, is whether they've met the standard of the companions of the of the last half of the Sahaba. Love the love and how much money. Now why do I say that? Think about it for a second before I get into the direct proofs of why the Prophet Salim said that, who are the people that sacrifice the most for this Deen? It was a Sahaba. I mean, if you look at the story of for instance, how about not, you know, one day havin Marathi was one of the very early companions, and he was, you know, in a gathering with our modem hopped up, and this is way after the Prophet has
sort of passed away, and openable hotdogs said, you know, tell me some of the suffering or some of you know what you went through in those early days. Now, hobbema not he didn't say anything to him. He merely took off his shirt, and showed him his back. And when he showed him his back, what he saw was like clumps of his back missing practically, I mean, just chunks of his back. And when he asked him when he asked how Bobby Murat rajala, when he when, when when Armando hottap, asked what happened, he said, you see in those very early days, the kofod, the kurush, they took me out in the middle of the desert, dragging me across the hot send. And then when they put up a fire, and they
had these coals on this fire, and they took me and place me right over this fire, and I continued to burn. And the only thing that led out the fire that day was the blood and the fat that came out of my back. This was a bobbin nut. Now you have to imagine what sort of a person what sort of sacrifice would a person have to do how much love for Allah and His Deen and the Prophet says and what they have to have. So if you're looking for a standard, the standard is the companions. When you had for instance, okay, you're talking about maybe older companions, some of the younger companions. I've got my butt off one day, when they're in one of the battles. And these two young kids, maybe 10 or
11 years old, they both come up on the two sides of an oath, and they start tugging on him. And they say, they said to him, yeah, oh, my uncle wears a blue jacket. Now if you remember, Abu Jamal was one of the greatest enemies of Islam. Now they're in the midst of the battle, right? All the fight is going on. The swords are clear. everything's happening. And he's saying he goes, What do you want? What do you two youngsters want with elbogen? They said, We heard that Abu Jamal, curse the prophets, I send them and we swear that if we find a new job, we will kill him, john. And though he said I saw this defense Abu Jihad riding this horse, I said there's Abu Jamal go for Abu john. He
said both of these two young people went for Abu Jamal one took down the horse and outside and around that Abdullah Ivan Massoud came and took off the head of Abu Gen. These two youngsters, one of these youngsters one of these one of these narrates himself. He says that in the midst of the battle one of the kuffar. Now how old are they say they were 10 or 1112? Maybe he said one of the kuffar cut my arm, but when when he cut it, it wasn't cut all the way he was still hanging by a piece of flesh. He said, I continued to fight, continue to go through the enemy, until my arm became so annoying that I took it, I stepped on it and I ripped it out of my shoulder and I continued on
what kind of sacrifice would these people have? You know, we tend to think of our lives and man, it's so tough, you know, we have to come to the machine and pray.
You know, these are the people that sacrificed everything, their their lives, their wealth, their families. You know, we spoke about in the first session, we spoke about Mossad Nomad, he lost his mother pretty much. She told him pick between Islam and pick between me and he chose Islam. So the love and the passion that these people had for Islam, it's unmatchable. And so if you want to look at a standard, by which, you know that what is the correct answer some of these questions, look at the actions of the companions. Now, that's not me saying that, right, obviously, I mean, when I'm saying that I'm saying logically, it makes sense. But even the prophets, I send them you know, the
prophecies that have said that this woman would divide into 73 sex, and I think I mentioned his head, he's, all of them are in the Hellfire, except one. Now that you know, nowadays, if you were to tell someone that usually they go to Okay, so what are the 72 sex? Can you name them? But the Lord that's completely illogical question what a logical question, not who's going to the Hellfire, but who's going to paradise, which one of the sex is going to paradise so that I can model my life after that? And that's what the Sahaba asked, which one of these sects of Islam is heading towards paradise? And the prophet SAW Selim said, Those who are upon what I am upon and what my companions
what was the criteria what I'm upon the sooner right you can many groups were upon the Quran and the Sunnah. But the prophet hasn't been stopped there, what I'm upon and what my companions are upon. And aside from that, the prophet said Selim said that the best generate the best of people hatefulness cudney sama levena EULA home Thumbelina, ulala home, the best people, the best of people is my generation. Then the one following that
Then the one following that. So that key that standard, when we're looking at these questions is what would the companions do? Okay, the third thing, and then we'll get to the questions, promise.
careful, be careful about looking for loopholes.
Okay. And that's kind of tied to point number one, it goes back to checking the status of your heart. Be careful with looking for loopholes, because you know, this is what bunnies throw at the Jews beforehand it if you guys remember the story of the Sabbath, right, you'll miss sucked. And remember that allies will order the Jews not to fish on this day from a certain water body, not to fish. Now, they thought they were pretty clever. So they said, You know what, we'll hook up some nets, we'll get, you know, technological on it. And we we won't be fishing on. Nobody stopped on Saturday. But when the fish come the next we'll catch them. The thing was, was that on Saturday,
that's when the most fish came. So it was a big test for them. Now, what were they trying to do? They're trying to find a loophole, right? So they kind of got that net, they got it set up, and they would get the fish and they you know, say this is great. We're following the law of the law. And we're also getting our fish. Right, they thought they got the loophole. But what is the largest say that a large jail converted them or cause them to become monkeys despise and dejected?
That's what they ended up as. So there's one thing about the letter of the law, especially in some of the questions we're going to be going through what is the proof you always hear people say, that doesn't say this in the Quran. I hear this from a lot of older uncle's too, I get it all the time. Right? beta, we're in the Quran is it?
You know, I mean, what I mean, it's as if the person is trying to say, look, you know, if it's not written, you know, by such and such as name you, right, sell himself, whatever the guy's name is Salim sob. You cannot do this, and it's in the Quran, I won't follow it. Right. But there's something about the spirit of the law, the letter of the law, and the spirit of the law. And you have to make sure you're in congruence with both of them, you have to make sure that both of them are our standards, right? So avoid looking for loopholes. So there were three things What did I say? check the status of your heart, the standard of the companions that are the law on how much money
and be careful with finding loopholes. You know what those loopholes. The other thing, just as an extension of that, what usually happens when it comes to loopholes is your desires are now taking over. Because you want something so badly to be held so badly to be halaal you turn around look for different do this shift shift so and so says halaal? Check so and so says Hello, I'm trying to look for some way just to make it Hello.
Why not? Because you have this sincere love for a large vigil, perhaps, but because your desires are now taking over. And the profit side is seldom, you know, he told us that Paradise is surrounded by hardship. And the Hellfire is surrounded by desires. So those things that are extremely hard, you'll find that that's what surrounds paradise. Now, in another Hadith, the prophet of Islam also said about this dunya about this world. He said, A dunya sigil moltmann. Were genital Kapha that this world is a prison for the believers and a paradise for the disbelievers. If you think about it, you know, non Muslims, they don't have to, they don't have all the restrictions we have, they can live
it up, they can party they can, you know, go out with whoever they want, do whatever they want. Now for the Muslim it becomes really hard. Or at least they are at least they think right is interesting. Just Just a side note. There's one
I believe is hustle and bustle D or is like Mmm. Shafi. I don't really remember. But he was one day he was he was somewhat wealthy and he was riding his horse and a Jewish man who was just in, you know, his clothes were shattered. I mean, they're tattered clothes, and he looked really disheveled in a really poor state. And this this Jew, this Jewish man came to the Mount Shafi or hustler bustling, whoever it was. And he said, Look, you know, here you are, you're, you're wealthy, and you have all the things in life and I'm so poor, didn't your prophet say that this dunya is a prison for the believers and a paradise for the disbelievers. So as soon as he said, Yes, he said, so how do
you explain you being wealthy and myself being poor?
and listened to the, to the answer of whether there's hustle and bustle remote Shafi? He said, he said, you know, compared to paradise, no matter how much water I have here, I'm in a prison. No matter how bad things are in this world compared to the Hellfire, you're in paradise. And this man heard that he said, I shall do a la la la la.
La. That was enough for him. Right? anyhow. So the three points just just to reiterate, checking the status of your heart and that's something that each and every single one of you is upon you. There's nothing I can do. I can't open your heart and say, Okay, I can tell you the answer because your hearts in good standing. I can't do that. That's upon each and every single one of you. Checking the status of your heart. How much do you love Eliza? Do you love Allah subhanho wa Taala more than anything else? Or are there other things
You love more than a lot. Second thing, the standard is the companions. That's something that you don't want to leave not only from here, not only the questions today, but even in the future, when it comes to different groups, different sex, different people telling you different things. The one thing to ask yourself or ask them, did the companions do it? What was their understanding of this moronic IRA or whatever it may be? The third thing, don't look for loopholes. Okay.
So with that said,
let us let the games begin.
Okay, by the way, do you guys have paper? Yeah. Okay. If you guys have questions, you can start sending or, I guess, given to five here.
And on the sister side, I guess.
You just leave them right there.
All right, I'm going to get to the older questions first. And then if we're able to gun through those, and we'll get to the newer questions. All right. And I've kind of grouped them together. Just think,
All those are blank. Okay.
All right. So there were a couple of sisters. And they asked, one person asked is a job mandatory? Why is it gonna? Is it for you know, is it a sin if you don't wear hijab? Okay, good question. Now,
the one thing that I wanted to start off with his Look,
if you're worried about what the people will say, when you wear hijab, then this is the wrong approach, meaning that the people should be the last.
The last thing you should be worried about. And like I said, in the end, you know, point number one was your level of Eliza magenta, right? So if the people are what's worrying you, and you're saying, Look, what was so and so say about me? What will my parents say? Sometimes even the parents say, Look, why do you have this hijab on? You know, you know, this is something that's whatever they might say it's backwards, or whatever it may be.
Don't worry about the people worry about what your Creator has obligated upon you. So what has a large result said, you know, in the Quran, Allah says, and I'll just say the translation and tell the believing women to lower their gaze. By the way, the ayah before this, it says, tell the believing men to lower their gaze. So it's upon you guys to know your gaze first. Anyway, and then later on it goes and tell the blaming women to lower the gaze
and protect their private parts and do not show off their adornment, except only for that which is apparent, okay, then we'll get into that a second. And not to reveal their doormen except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands, fathers, their sons, yada, yada, there's a whole category of people. All right now, the the AI itself, you know, if you look at it, and the words that are using the AI, and the word, that's a particular contention, when people say that look a job, you have some people that say, Look a job, you don't have to worry about it. And the word that comes up that has a particular contention is this word.
Juba, hinda, which is what it means is to cover the outside. Now it's a general word, it's not something that you know, specifically says cover X, Y, and Z. But now if we want to look at
the understanding of the companions, and remember I said that was the yardstick by which when I look at it, I shall know the law on time listen to what she has to say. She said that the woman of Quraysh are good.
But by Allah, I have never seen any better than the woman of the unsought. Now, if you were here last time, you remember we said that the unsolved word were the were the women in Medina, and the police were the women that had come and made his way to Medina. All right. So I should know the law says, the woman of the kadesh are good, but by a live never seen any better than the women of the unsought or any who believed in the book of Allah, the Quran more strongly or had more faith in the revelation. When suited the Lord was revealed, the one I just spoke about, and she quotes it and draw their veils over there, do you be hidden, okay? Their menfolk came to them, and recited to them
what had been revealed, and there was not one woman among them who did not go to her apron. In other words, her clothing and the following. In the following morning, they prayed, prayed, wrapped up as if they were crows on their heads, meaning the whole city of Medina, you saw that the women once this ayah was revealed, especially the unsought they basically covered themselves up and the city of Medina and other narrations I should have the Aloha says the city of Medina was as if there were crows walking around, meaning this is how they This is how they interpret this ayah. And of course, I should know the law also says in another place, she talks about this idea of the women and how
they cover themselves. It wasn't just Okay, now we've got a blanket and we're gonna head out that's it. But she's talked about them covering themselves, even covering their faces. Now I know it's a difference of opinion, whether you should cover your face or not, but the general HR
According to what I showed you lavon has said and other other amongst the Sahaba yet is that the covering of the hijab is everything except the hands. And like I said, the face, and there's a difference of opinion on the face. Now some
some, I guess,
some people are under the misconception that the feet, you can also leave uncovered. But this is actually misconception. They take this from, I believe one of the opinions of Imam Abu hanifa, who was one of the founders of, you know, one of the schools of Islamic law where he said the feet can be uncovered. However, even that the reason he said if he can be uncovered is because he said that the outer garments should be long enough, so the feet are actually covered. So intrinsically, the same purpose is served, what I would say is that in this day and age, you know, depending on the length, if you're, if your outer covering is so long that it'll cover your feet, you're good to go.
But I would say that if that's not the case, you probably want to put on some socks. So your feet are covered, especially when you're praying
just in terms of some of the conditions that he job. Number one, like I said, everything should be covered except the face in the hands. And you want to make sure that what you're wearing is loose fitting, it's not something that's you know, just super, super, super tight as if you're wearing nothing.
You know, the prophet SAW Selim, once he said that, talking to the companions, he said, a time will come upon you, where you will see people who are naked, but clothed. And that, you know, at that time, it didn't really seem to make sense. And there are lemma scholars say that if you look around now, really, I mean, the the garments that people wear and women and men, I mean, you guys know about like skinny jeans and stuff like that. I mean, pauwela anyway, so everything is just so tight fitting, as if, you know, I tell some of the brothers on my look, it's like someone took like a vacuum stuck into the dude's jeans. It's just get sucked in that, you know, it's amazing. Anyhow.
So, the point is, is that for the job, I mean, this is the job for the for the women and the men is that it needs to be something loose fitting, you shouldn't be showing all your body parts. Okay, second thing is that that the cloth that you have, shouldn't be like a see through cloth, right. So you've got your hijab, it's loose fitting, but you can see everything right through it. Okay. Anyhow, so those are some of the some of the some of the things about hijab and there's you know,
a whole bunch of proofs and evidences and things like that and if you want we can you know, we can talk about that later. Then he won't meet anyone amongst the sisters want me to expound upon any aspect
where you can write it and let me know later inshallah. Okay, the second question Another popular one.
Okay, this one I'm gonna take later
Okay, is all music hot? I'm
like playing the guitar and the piano, etc, etc. Alright, so the very popular music question Alright, let me ask you guys this before I get to music and whether it's hot or hot or whatnot. What you guys do me a favor. I'm going to recite some of some lines and I want you guys you know sisters included you can do this in your own minds or if you want to say it out loud. I want you guys to complete this sentence let's see if you guys can do it. So we'll start off with who led the
we're bringing blank back
said if you want to keep it in your mind you're free to do so.
What else I don't know. I'm actually I have been far away from anyone want to hottest want to help me out somebody
there you go. Alright, anyways, you guys get the idea. All right, you guys get the idea basically, like stuff like this. You can easily I mean, like I said, I'm not really familiar with a lot of the stuff that's being listened to. I just kind of I read about it anyway. Now let's ask yourselves this. All in quantum to him. Bula la Ha. How many people gonna say but to be Rooney?
Well, that's what it is. That this is the Quran. Right?
Now, let's say Alif Lam Meem Valley, Calcutta.
Okay, good. Good. All right.
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All right. My point with all of that was basically here's what you're looking at right now before we get to halal Haram is music. What is the standard of music? I think most people generally know that when it comes to music, it becomes ingrained in the person's regular practice a soul and there's songs that I heard about like her 20 years ago, right that to this day, I still remember them lyrics go through my head. I mean, they're little they're, you know, just stamped in my head. So you have to ask yourself, look, if this is how much put this how much put on I know, but I know the lyrics to all of these songs.
How much benefit Is There Really? music? You know, someone once said, it's like chewing gum for the ears. There's no benefit. Right? And on the day of judgement, think about it. Where will music be? I think most people already know the answer to this question about his music.
Right without getting into the proofs and all of this other things. But for the benefit of those who say no, you know, it's difference of opinion, yada, yada, yada. You always hear this. You know, when it comes to the Quran, Allah says wamena NASS may yesterday laahu. Right that of mankind is He who purchases idle talk low? Right, you know, to mislead men from the path of a law. Now, who could be anything? Right, misleading talk or idle talk? I mean, you know, you could say, if you really wanted music to be helpful, you would say, look, misleading talk is just talking about stuff that's just, you know, boring, or not relevant to my life or whatever.
But now remember, what do we say the second criteria was? What was the understanding of the Sahaba. And listen to what Eben Abbas what the alojado said, he said, this means now, you know, this means singing.
Claire's date, he didn't say this mean, this might mean singing. Now, this was Abdullah bass, Abdullah Ibn Abbas was the Companion of the Prophet, send them with the prophecies to them told said that he would have the best understanding of the Quran, the best understanding, right. So it's not only just a companion, but it's one of the companions that has the best understanding. And he's telling you and I, that this ayah is talking about singing.
All right, in another IRA, Alonzo tells us and before them, and he's talking, it's where a large I was talking to shaytaan. And he tells shaytaan, and before them gradually with those whom you can amongst them, amongst them with your voice. So a lot of detail is basically telling shaytaan Look, you want to make them go astray. If you want to fool them, you can do so and you can try with your voice question. What is the voice of a phone?
What could it be?
Could it be just talk?
What could it be? You would think it's there's some sort of sound, something's coming out. Elijah doesn't waste words, he would have said you could fool people with whatever, but he said with your voice. Specifically, now what did
what did Mujahid say listen to this, he said he said his voice is singing and falsehood.
Parallel Abdullah Ibn Abbas again, his
we started talking about and later on this ayah talks about his cavalry, his infantry, he says that his infantry is everyone who wants to disobey Allah, etc. Anyway, finally, and this is the Hadeeth I mentioned last time, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that among my oma there will come a people, right, he's talking about the future. Now, there will come a people who will make the make the Haram halaal, they will try their best to make the Haram into the holiday, the try to make dinner, right for an occasion halaal they'll try to make drinking alcohol halaal. And they will try to make the playing of musical instruments. Hello. Now notice he didn't say he will make music
aloud. He went, he went a step beyond before that, that he will make the playing a musical instrument. So the person asks a question, or guitars amongst music or pianos amongst music. The problem is that sentiments clearly stated here, musical instruments. And the interesting thing when I say to people is that look, when you're getting into Is it halaal? Or is it haram and you're really trying to make it halaal you're actually fulfilling this very Hadeeth because it probably says that I'm said that amongst my own mind, they will come up people who will do this. And so when you're getting into that you're actually becoming one of those people that the progressives that I'm
talking about will all stand. Okay.
Now that's the deal with music. Let me just qualify that real quick. Now, is all music haram? And the answer is that all music is not Haram. Okay, well, let me rephrase that all music is haram with the exception of
the human voice. Okay, if you have something with the human voice, and if there is a Duff that you can sing along with the human voice, but there's a difference of opinion when it comes to the deaf. The deaf, by the way, is like a drum, it's open from one side is closed from one side. Okay. The difference of opinion goes like this. And that is that one group of scholars say that it's permitted across the board. In other words, as long as the lyrics are okay, you know, we're not talking about someone's mother and whatever the garbage people talk about nowadays, right. So as long as the lyrics are okay, you know, you can basically sing human voice along with the Duff. That's one group
of scholars. The second group of scholars says that no, it's you know, for, for the men, it's okay to use the voice but no Duff for the women. And of course, this is when they're amongst themselves. They can go out and sing and use the Duff, okay. The difference of opinion comes up with
When there was a time when
I believe is doing aid, when Abu Bakr Siddiq la de la Han walked into some of the women amongst the, amongst the companions, and they were singing and they were, you know, they're playing their drum or whatever. And I'm about Casa de Colombia lavon got very upset. Now, just just before we go there, why? Why do you get upset? You know, if music was such a great thing, you know, you think, well, he should have been okay with it, but he wasn't. So he gets upset. And but the prophets I seldom tells him that look, it's okay, today's eat, right, I'm paraphrasing today's eat, let them sing and let them do that. So one group of scholars says, Look, this is only for the women, because the Hadith is
clear that this is targeting the women only. Right? Another group of scholars is no we can use this generally, point being it's a difference of opinion. And what I would say is, look, don't waste your time with music, just as you know, as a baseline thing, right? I mean, music isn't something as great as people make it out to be some of the statements of the companions, right? They said that it was so pouget thought it was a voice of shape on the Quran of the shape on it was the, you know, the the call of shape on basically they attack, they attach it to the shape on always. And on top of that many of the companions are there as they consider it something it feminine. Some of the female
nature That's for you fellows, right. So if you're singing and dancing, they consider that something that you know, generally it's restricted to females. That was generally how they looked at it, as well. Wow. All right.
All right. Why is music haraam? skip that one?
Can I have an advice on how you can be kind to and respect your parents? If you don't respect them as a person?
Okay. Which is no, it's, it's, it's a good question. Because what happens a lot of times, is that, I mean, look, let's be frank, your parents are not the most perfect human beings on the planet. But guess what, neither are you and I, okay, so they're gonna do things that, you know, you might really annoy you. And maybe some things that are clearly like forbidden in Islam, let's say that they're doing these things. But you know, coming back to my first point, about this love of Allah, Allah azza wa jal has ordered us to be kind to our parents. And that's a command from Allah right after speaking about not associating anything with a law ship with a law, to not do that. A large l has
said to be kind of the parents to not even say off to your parents. You know, and so, I mean,
you know, I remember there was a,
there was a story of a man, I believe, is, it wasn't a companion, but it was a man who was alive at the time the prophets, Allah. And the Prophet says, tell them
I can get the story, right.
And anyway, so this, this individual, basically, what happened was, was that he wasn't able to see the prophets of Salaam during the time of the Prophet I send them. But the Prophet says that I'm told
that if so and so comes to you asked him to make dua for you, because a large job will fulfill his door. Now, it goes back if I've got the story, correct, that this man, basically he had taken his wife is taken his mother for Hajj. And his basically he took his mother on Hajj from Yemen.
And it wasn't he just took his mother. But he had to carry his mother because she had a hard time walking all the way from Yemen, to Mecca, doing all of the two off the sorry, between suffered muda. And then when it was said, Look, you know, have I fulfilled the right of my mother. Now what what happened, this person that went all the way from Yemen to Mecca, carrying his mother on his back, right, not easy, doing all of the rituals of Hajj again, not easy. It's hard enough just for one person to do it, let alone carrying your own mother. And so someone's and then so they asked to share who they are. Somebody said, Have I filled the rights of my mother. And the person said, You
haven't even fulfilled the first scream that your mother gave when you were coming out.
Not even that your parents have done so much for you so much. When you were not when you and I were nothing. They were the ones taking care of us. You couldn't walk you couldn't eat, you couldn't do it. You could do anything by yourself. Right? And your parents were the one that took care of you. So the rights of the parents are extremely high. And they're you know, we have this this obligation from our law, to be obedient to them. So no matter what you think of the personality of your of your parents, whether you think they're just crummy people, you still have the obligation, because Allah gave that obligation. And again, it goes back to loving alized origin to be kind and respectful to
Okay, let's get that one.
Come to that one. Later.
Okay, first question, if you can't make it to Juma prayer in the masjid, do you read them at home or the hook? If there is no jamat? Basically, you will read the whole, you will not you cannot do Gemma by herself. Okay? So I don't know if up to this point you are giving yourself a foot bargaining but
you can't do that. Alright, so you will you will pray the hot if you happen to miss Juma.
Okay, is it haram to be gay?
Before I get to that, look, there's something about Remember, we talked about desires, okay. And when it comes to this idea of being gay about, you know, having
feelings or whatever, for like the same gender.
There's two ways a person could approach this, they could say, look, because I'm having these feelings. It must be right. Okay. That's one way of approaching it. Right? Because I'm having them because they're so strong, because I'm attracted to whatever I did. They must be right. There's no way it could be wrong. All right. But then the issue comes up is what about when you have feelings to do other things? Right? If you have a feeling to steal, for instance, does that just make a right because you have the feeling to do it?
No. Right? Would it be? Would it? Would it? Just because you feel like you want to kill somebody? Right doesn't make it right, no matter what they did to you doesn't make a right to just go and murder them. No, it doesn't. Right. So just because there's a certain feeling there. And you know, because of the society we live in the, you know, the perversity of just sexual content. I mean, you know, this, this idea of being gay, or you know, being a homosexual, you know, I mean, because of the fact that we're so inundated with sex, right? Starting from like, cartoons, man, I mean, some of these Disney Disney cartoons. It's like, wow, the sexual innuendos in these cartoons. It's insane,
right? And little kids are watching this thing. So if you've been watching some of that, since you're six years old, right now, you've grown up, and now you're like, you know, whatever, 15, you know, 20, whatever it is, well, you've already been desensitized to any sort of, you know, any sort of sexual appetite you might have. So now you're starting to look at you. Okay, well, let's, let's try to experiment a little bit, or whatever it might be. But the point is, is that look, the environment we live in? It's not. It's not a question, which I would say like, Look, how dare you ask such a question? Because it's something that's widespread. I mean, you're not the first people,
you're not the first ones to ask this question. It's been asked to many people. But the answer, again, is look, that allows the gentleman he makes something forbidden. He does it for wisdom. And when you make something permitted, he does it for wisdom. Okay. And that's the same thing with like, fornication or whatever it may be zimin, or whatever it is. So if you're in this state, the one thing I would say is look, you guy, you have to be patient upon it. Because otherwise jail has made a home a lot destroyed a community of people, you know, call me loot, right? I'm sure you guys must have read about it. Right? I mean, these people, they were so perverted. Basically, you remember the
angels that came and there were some really good looking angels. And they came and they came to the house of loot la salon. And basically, you know, he was trying to be hospitable to them. And people seen all of these the people in city start to basically gang up around the house and sort of banging on the door of Lutheran Islam single lesson, you know, what we want loot Allah is lovely. Look, there's women I have here. You can take them right is, you know, perhaps the sisters or whatever, take them, but leave my guests alone. And of course, those guests were angels. And they told you that Islam, just take yourself and leave. And so when they left these angels are the ones that
basically destroyed this nation destroyed that nation, excuse me. Right because of that. So yes, when you ask it's Haram. Yes, it's around? Is it something where you will be held accountable for the way you feel? No, you won't be held accountable for that. But you will be held accountable if you act upon it, just like anything else. If you feel like stealing, you're not gonna be held accountable for that. But you'll be held accountable once you actually go and you jack something from somebody.
That makes sense. All right. So that is that okay.
What else do we have here?
Okay, what if someone did is harder and did not follow what they saw in it?
saw in it? Okay, let me get the harder real quick. First of all, how do you do is to hotter?
It's a dog. That's one thing. But specifically the prophet SAW Selim said that, you know, that when you when there's a certain issue that you're undecided about, pray to the gods, and then make a certain dua to Allah and I'll read you the translation because I think it's important. The translation of the DA is this, Oh Allah, I seek your guidance in making a choice by virtue of your knowledge. And I seek ability by virtue of your power and I am
You have your great bounty, you have power, and I have none. And you know, and I do not know and you are the knower of the hidden of the unseen, Oh Allah, if in your knowledge this matter this specific thing in your is good for me both in this world and in the Hereafter, then ordained it for me, make it easy for me and bless it for me. And if in your knowledge, it is bad for me, and in my religion, and in my livelihood, and in my affairs, that turned me away from it and turn it away from me and ordained for me good, wherever it may be, and make me pleased with it. Okay, where the DA does it say, oh, Allah, show me a dream.
Nowhere, okay. So unfortunately, what has happened is, especially us who are from like the subcontinent, there's this idea of that, you know, you the way to make as hard as you do the two you pray the two other gods you make this era, and then Allah will show you the correct answer in your dream. Okay. But realistically speaking, that's not what the that's not what the prophets have said. And that's not what the DA says. Right? They are basically saying that look, if you know, if Allah, you know, something is good for me, then make it easy. And if you know, it's something that's going to be bad for me, then just make it really tough and make it go away and make me happy with that
decision or make it happy, make me happy with it. So in other words, the way to do is the harder you pray the to the gods you make this do and then you make a decision.
Right, you have to make a decision in order to do that. And whatever decision you've made, is in the quarter of a law, that is what was supposed to happen, right, obviously. And that is how it's the harder is done. Okay. So when you when we say like if was it? If it if and what if they didn't follow what they saw in it, there's no aspect of not following. Basically, you make the door, you make a decision. And that's basically where it's the hardest coming. True or path to pass or whatever. Okay.
How should Muslims react to Osama bin Laden's death? Is there a janazah necessary for this man? So Good question. Actually.
Here's the thing that look, what happens is, is that what when something like this happens, basically, people want to pigeonhole you into one corner or the other? Right? Either you're, you know, you're rejoicing, yes, awesome, the greatest thing in the world, or you're completely, you know,
on the side of Osama bin Laden saying, yes, you know, this is really great. We basically agree with everything he did. But the reality of the matter is that it's not a cut and dry, like, yes, we love the fact that someone died. Because as a Muslim, no matter who dies, you're not supposed to rejoice at someone's death, whoever may be as evil as they may be, right? You don't get up and start dancing and you know, doing all these things, you know, the guy died or whatever it may be, right. At the same time, certain things that some of the Latin did that we have to say that look, if it's wrong, it's wrong, we have to condemn it. Right. So it's not a this or that, right, that should you you
know, how should listen to react? I mean, frankly, I mean, how would you react when anybody dies? That should be a reaction. Okay. Second thing, is there a janazah necessary for this person for somebody to look, there is nothing that indicated that Osama bin Laden left the fold of Islam. Yes, some of the things he did were absolutely, you know, horrible and, you know, so on and so forth. But the point is that nothing was indicative of him leaving the fold of Islam. Okay. And if that's the case, then there is a janaza that's due upon him, and Allah knows best. Okay.
What is an what is an activity Muslim? How do they differ from Sunni slash Shia? Okay. And the Muslim?
I did cover that question. Okay. By the way, if you want more details on the media,
I have a lecture series online, I think it's on Vimeo, Vemma, or whatever that's called.
And it's the fourth part I go through in detail, the beliefs of the fight, the unease and the reputation of those beliefs.
And the Bradley's, you know, the real views are the ones that believed that the processor was literally light, like he was actually light, you know, so he didn't have a shadow and all sorts of other funky stuff. So I go into detail in that video in the fourth part about basically what they say what their quote unquote proofs are, and what the what the responses to those proofs are. So you can check that out as well and Charlotte.
Okay. What are some of the rights a wife has over her husband?
Okay, so you guys definitely be paying attention.
All right. And I've actually just made a list. I'm not going to go through the proof of each one. You know, that's like a whole lecture in itself.
The first write
that the wife has is protection. So it is upon her husband to offer her protection. You know, just as you would typically imagine that that's the role of the man in the household, right? being protected from physically being protected from things being protected from people's, you know, saying things about her, so on and so forth. So the first one is protection. The second one is something called later, later is something where
it's a type of
you can say jealousy, but it's not jealousy is kind of a strong word. But basically, it means that you actually care about what happens to your wife, and you know, how, how people might perceive your wife, for instance, right? So you don't want people to think your wife is like loose, or something like that. Okay, so that's later. Number three, avoiding unnecessary suspicion.
That should be the case with Muslims in general, but it's especially true with the wife, right. So it's one thing you want to have this, this, this, this this attribute of later, but at the same time, you don't want to take it too far and start to suspect your wife. And that's why when the Prophet has seldom used to come back from battles, he wouldn't if it was nighttime, he wouldn't just walk into his house, right, he would wait till the morning time to go to his house, right? The reason being is because the idea was was that look, he doesn't want to come in there and have you know, because it's dark, they didn't have light at that time, so on and so forth. You don't want to
have suspicions come to creep in. Right? For whatever reason. So he would wait till the morning time. And similarly with us, when we you know, when we come, the last thing to do is having any sort of suspicions about your wife. Okay, so avoiding unnecessary suspicion, safeguarding her secrets. Okay. Unfortunately, in this society, one of the of the practices that some of the men do is they talk about stuff that goes on in the bedroom, right, maybe defects about their, whatever, or whatever it may be, you know, I'm actually got some nasty toes or whatever it may be, right? Whatever it may be, but I'm saying that this is something as a Muslim, you protect this about your
wife. And by the way, vice versa, right, you know, for the husband as well, you don't you know, women shouldn't get out, go around, like, Yo, man, he's got a gun, or whatever it may be, you know, whatever it may be. Okay, so protecting the secrets. Now, this is the bedroom secrets are one type of secrets, but even other things that the wife might do in the house, or the husband might do in the house, this one goes both ways, protecting the secrets of your spouse, very important.
Because she thought shaitaan will make you start to talk. Alright, number five, financial support. The wife, basically, the way someone put it, to me when I was first getting married is Look, man, your money is her money. And her money is her money.
That's, that's just straight up. Right? So it's, it's, it's obligatory upon the husband to provide for his wife financially. You know, in terms of food, clothing, you know, medicine, whatever it may be. Now, one of the things I want to kind of, there's no cut and dry rule to say you have to give your wife X amount every year. Okay, because things change standards change. But the way you look at it is that you look at your wife standard of living, and you kind of determine based on that, what was she already used to? Okay, so based on that it's upon you based on the culture you're in, to give her a what's known as a reasonable standard of living now, there's no way to define reasonable,
but it's basically the standard of living that she was generally you could say used to, okay,
a reasonable dwelling a place to live, basically, obviously, you guys wouldn't be like nomads, that's, you know, the math, it's obligatory upon the husband to give the wife a Maha a dowry. Right. And it's not the other way around, you know, a lot, I know, a lot of cultures, especially from, you know, South Asia, you find that it goes around the other direction. So the guys actually expecting the wife and the wife's family to come up with like furniture and cars and all sorts of stuff. And, you know, and and the girls families, basically taking out loans and becoming bankrupt just to finance the wedding and giving the, you know, the dowry, quote, unquote, to the guy, it actually
works the other direction. And let me qualify that it doesn't work into the direction for the guy's family to now become bankrupt to you know, give the, the wife something, but the point is, that has to be something that's given. and the value again, is determined based on what's mutually agreeable. There's no sort of limit on it per se, higher or lower, there was a companion, who gave his wife at the time the process of his mother was teaching his wife portions of the Quran, that was the Mount, right, but it has to be something of value. Okay.
Number eight kind treatment. And that kind of goes without saying, you know, I mean, this is something that a lot of Israel has obligated upon the husband and of course upon the wife that you treat your wife kindly. That's kind of logical. Looking at the wife's better side. Now, you know, if you want to really extend this
you know, women are gonna do certain things that are annoying and men are gonna do certain things that are
really annoying as well. Okay, I know guys don't like to think so. But believe me, we can be really annoying, right? Basically, this goes in both directions as well, looking at your wife's better side, you're looking at your spouse's better side, right? That if there's something going on some that really annoys you, you know, take a step back and don't dwell on it. Okay? Because there is much good in your spouse, as a law judge told specifically about the women, that there's certain things that you might dislike about them. But Eliza gel has placed so much good in them. Right? So in other words, that you should overlook those things that annoy you in both directions. Okay.
entertaining the wife.
All right, that's a responsibility that the man has is to entertain the wife. Now, how you want to go about doing that? You know, that's up to you.
Just by extension,
you know, one of the things that the proxies have explicitly mentioned, was about foreplay, that the man shouldn't come to the woman as a camel comes to the camel. Okay? Basically, you just come in, do your thing and bounce. That's not what's meant here, right? In other words, look, that there has to be some level of foreplay, and you guys might be thinking I was sitting in a machine, how dare you talk about the process? And I'm spoke about it. So I'm not going to apologize for that. Okay. In other words, that one of the things that's that is that you should use is expected of you from yourselves to your wives is that there's a foreplay, so that, you know, that that's sort of
the this the sex is enjoyable, both you Let's just be very blunt. Okay.
All right. Giving salon to the family, the wife, when you come in the house, it's a responsibility the husband to give the salon fairness and justice. Look, one of the dynamics that when you do get married, if you're not married, is that you will have issues amongst your families. It's guaranteed. I'm not I can't you know, I mean, if you don't have that in law, but you will have issues between your families, okay. The thing that the thing to remember is that while your mother is your mother, and your father is your father, and they have rights, but you have a right to be just to your wife, you know, and justice is what Trumps all of that. You must be just if you're in a situation, where
it's almost as if your wife split against your parents, don't just think, Oh, I have to be good to my parents. And no matter what my wife says, you know, I'm going to side with my parents. Because sometimes, right? Sometimes what happens is the parents out of their love for their child, whatever it may be, might go a little overboard. Okay. And that's something that as the man of the household, the husband, you have to be able to balance that and look at all right, what is fair and what is just about to break. Okay. Let me give you the last one. Number 13 is if you have more than one wife, fairness between the wives will ended at that.