Do This Before You Criticize Someone!

Saad Tasleem

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah who Allah Allah He will be here remember Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah Allah Allah. Allah Allah will Hakeem Allah whom I live now my in Pharaoh now, when finally my lm 10, I was in a coma alameen Allahumma Arenal hochkar hub consecrate diva rodinal belt ala law about the law was looking at now, but was set on what April and what the law he was about to calculate.

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Okay, so the topic that we have for today, it's called before you criticize. Now, I have spoken a little bit about this topic before as well. But especially I think this topic is even more relevant, even more important right now. Because we're living in the, like, the, the callout culture, right? So because of everything, because of the because of the internet because of social media, it's very easy to criticize people and call out people online. And also, I think, even like associated with that is what some of you may know, as the the canceled culture when people get canceled. Basically, you're just like rejecting someone completely, like, you know, they should, their life should be

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destroyed, like they shouldn't be online or they shouldn't have any public say on any matter. Now, when it comes to these issues, obviously our goal as believers as Muslims, is to be just and is to make sure that everything that we do is is yes, is good is upright, it is in line with the call on and the Sunnah, it is pleasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And sometimes that means following the trends following what is happening. And sometimes it means going against the trend, sometimes it means not following what has become common, what has become popular.

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And so that is why knowledge is so very, very important. And that is why I hope today's lecture this talk will serve as kind of a guideline for us before we ever think about speaking out on on a matter specifically when it comes to individuals. Because the biggest thing you know, one of the biggest issues here is when we criticize someone or we speak out against them, we call them out we're dealing with a with the honor of an individual and an individual we're dealing with the reputation the honor of a believer and you know the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in his farewell footbed during the farewell Hajj. One of the things that he emphasized is how sacred the honor of a

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believer is. He said, he said, certainly, you know, to

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this day, and he was you know, standing on the date of alpha, on the on the Mount of alpha, he said, he said the certainly the the blood and the honor of your brother, right and blood being obviously life and safety is is how long it is it is basically sacred for you. Just like the just like the the sanctity of this day, meaning the day but I don't just like the sanctity of the place that we are in. So as believers, you know, when when we think about the day of alpha, it is sacred for us, like we understand that it's part of our Deen the amount of alpha, the playing of our phone, we are there, those of you who've had the chance to visit sorry, those of you had a chance to make a hedge

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and standing there on the out of you feel that the sanctity, the sacred nature of that place. So that is why the President of he said just like you feel how sacred This place is this day is, likewise, you know, the the honor, the blood and the honor of your brother is sacred for you. And this is a warning to the person that we should be, we should be very, very careful when it comes to dealing when it comes to saying anything that would hurt the reputation or the honor of someone. And that is why these matters are so very, very important. Now, when it comes to when it comes to

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speak, criticizing someone or talking about someone, in actuality, there are there are two things that we keep in mind. Right? or two I should say when we're when we think about criticizing someone. It's pretty much two avenues that we may take either we stay you know where we are advising someone we're giving someone advice, or we say that you know we are commanding the good and forbidding the evil. Now let me deal with commanding the good and forbidding the evil, first and foremost, now commanding the good and forbidding the evil

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Definitely 100% this is part of our Deen right this is part of our This is part of our This is part of not only this it is part of our Amen, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said an authentic hadith mentioned incident, Timothy, he said, What readiness cvad morona bill Murphy were well at and how not in mooncup, he said, I swear by the one in whose hand is my soul, that you will, that you will command the good are enjoying that which is good, and you will, you know, put an end to evil or forbid evil, or Allah will send down upon you a punishment. And when this punishment comes, people will call upon Allah and Allah will not respond to you. And this is a very dangerous

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and panela very scary Hadeeth you know, because the here as I said, I was saying, one of the reasons why I do I might not be responded to is because we are not enjoying that which is good, we are not,

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you know,

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we are not condemning or we should, we should say, we're not speaking out against that which is bad, we are not enjoying people to do that which is correct. We are not telling people to stay away from that which is bad. I'm a little bit of one here and one count. Also, we have a law who's peddling data telling us that one of the defining characteristics of our nation of our own money is the fact that we enjoy and that which is good and we take a stand against evil looks kinda like to Alice has come to hate on button upgraded the nurse that you are the best of nations, raised for mankind. Why I lost my dad and tells us that Moodle and I've been married for over 10 how now I didn't even carry

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with me no Nabila that number one, you enjoying that? Which is right, you forbid that which is wrong, and you believe in Allah. Now, if you really think about how to love what makes us,

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the best nation or the best of people, your natural answer would be it is obviously our Amen. It would be the fact that we worship a lot of data, we do hate, we believe in Allah and we believe in his prophets, and we believe in his final prophet in the messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that is what makes us the best. But in this area, Allah who's penalty Allah mentioned before mentioning our email, Allah mentions that we enjoin that which is right, and we take a stand against that, which is bad or evil. And then Allah says, What took me noon to be law. And our scholars of Tafseer. They say one of the reasons what law first mentioned

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in the honeymoon card before mentioning Eman is to emphasize how important it is to to, to stand up for that which is correct. And to take a stand against that which is bad or, or or evil. Right. So that is how important it is. And that is why somebody who belittles this issue, the issue of enjoining, that which is right, you know, standing up for that which is right or taking a stand against evil or bad, someone who is completely against this issue, they've gone into the other extreme, right, so we're going to talk about, you know, what we should do before we, you know, enjoy that which is good before we do an American metal before we do.

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We're gonna talk about this shortly, we know what we should do and what before we ever speak out, like, what should we do? Yes, but there are people who because of, you know, and a lot of times it's because people don't don't do an open mouth open the handle properly, that people get averse to it. And they, you know, they take the the other extreme, which No, we should never, we should never criticize anyone we should never, you know, say what is right, what is wrong, you know, just don't just don't, don't shake the boat don't rock the boat. Alright. And that is the other extreme, obviously, it is part of our faith to stand up for that which is right, it is part of our faith, to

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take a stand against evil, and to penalize those people who say that we shouldn't do that. In actuality, it's not realistic for any society, that there is no American metal roof. And

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I say this because evil and that which is bad, then the natural conclusion of that the logical conclusion is that we would have a society of anarchy, right? So take it to its extreme ticket to its end, right. So you say like, Oh, you can't you can't call out something as being bad. You can't say this is wrong and you can't say this is right. Or you shouldn't say anything. Well take it to take it to its natural conclusion. What if somebody commits murder in society? Are we to say no, no, no, like, you know, don't don't speak up or don't judge this person or you know, whatever excuse you want to use. You know, just just worship Allah on your own and don't worry about what other people

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are doing and all that. Obviously not right. So if someone is doing something which is bad, yeah, for in order for society to function properly, we have to say this is wrong.

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This is, you know, this is this is incorrect, This is injustice, and so on and so forth. Likewise, we encourage people to do good, right? If we take that out of not only it's them, right? Yes, it's part of them. But even like the society as a whole, we have to encourage people to do good. Otherwise society would really fall apart, and it would be chaos. So I wanted to make that absolutely clear. Before before we get into the issue of, of what we should have the conditions that need to be met what we should do before we ever, you know, command that good or enjoying that which is good and take a stand against evil. So. So that's the first thing I want to be very, very clear

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about that. I'm not here to sugarcoat this issue or not to rationalize the issue of standing up for good and taking a stand against evil. I think that is absolutely 100% part of our Deen.

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However, with that being said, like everything in Islam,

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everything is done should be done according to

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the guidelines that are set by Islam. So, you know, we talked about chaos, we talked about anarchy.

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Along with that, we should say on the other hand, if we allow people to just go out and start calling people out and start, you know, you know, criticizing people and condemning people, especially, then we go to the other extreme, right, and what's the other extreme? Well, that also leads to chaos. Because everyone, let's say they have their own opinion, they have their own point of view, they have their own feelings, and they start criticizing everybody based off of their own feelings. And once again, you have this anarchy, kind of like this wild, wild west, which is to panela, if you were to look at the online world today, that's kind of where we're at. Right? So

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we're in a place where everyone has an opinion regarding everything, whether they have the knowledge of what they're talking about, or not, whether they're right or wrong, you know, all the conditions that I'm going to mention, you know, when you take those conditions out, right, we don't think about those things before we call somebody out, or before we, you know, criticize someone, then once again, you have anarchy, lawlessness, right, everybody's just taking matters into their own hands. And that is a problem as well. And that is actually the reason why I wanted to do this talk, because it has become a problem. So what are what are some of the things that before we ever think about

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saying something? or doing something? What are what are the conditions that need to be met, and this is, you can think of it almost as a checklist, right? Like this is, this is these are the things that we need to check off. Before we open our mouth. In our case, before we type online, or before we type on our phone, these are the conditions that need to be met. These are the things that we need to do. Number one, first and foremost, first, and the most important thing is we need to have the correct intention. So I want you to put yourself in the mindset. You know, as I talk about these things, ask yourself, okay, I'm about to criticize someone about to say to someone, you know what,

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this is wrong, you know, don't do this, and blah, blah, you know, in car, we're about to make income.

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First and foremost, before I ever do that, it is my responsibility to check my intention. And that is to ask myself the question, why am I speaking out? Why am I going to say something? Is my intention? Correct? And the correct intention is, obviously to stand up for that which is right, obviously, we do it for the sake of Allah has penalty Allah, we do it so that people are leaving evil and they're moving towards good, right. So those are good intentions. wrong intentions. What are some wrong intentions? Well,

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let me give an example of some wrong intentions. Sometimes it may be that we're doing it because we don't like the person. And our intention is just to expose someone's fault, or we can say to make them look bad. And we know that that's actually highly problematic in our DNA to go out of our way to expose people's faults to even like spying on people and to go in investigating people's faults or their sins or their flaws. islamically that is a highly problematic, I'll just share one headache with you very scary headed to peddle a hadith of mo mentioned in Timothy, where the prophets of a licen lamb he said, mandated by our Muslim to dub Allah who I will refer to the president said that

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whoever goes out and they seek to expose the faults or the flaws of their of their Muslim brother, then Allah will expose this person's faults, right. So put yourself in this position, I'll put myself in that position. If my intention is I need to expose this person, I need to go find their problems. We go do like investigation, you know, you know, here's, you know, you know, you know, finding their sins exposing their sins if that is my intention.

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My sole intention is to expose someone sin. My intention not to enjoin what is good is not to stand up for that which is correct. It is not to, to, to, to help the deen of Allah, Allah. My intention is what? It's something personal right? I have something against this person I want to expose their fault. Here's my Sam said the one who goes out of their way they expose whoever seeks to expose the faults of their Muslim brother, Allah will expose this person's faults and the price lm Zen woman that Allahu Allah azza wa jal, the President said that and the one who Allah exposes their faults, they will be ruined, meaning they will be humiliated. Well, AutoCAD, Effie jiofi, rarely, even if

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this person is hiding in the depths of their house, they will be ruined. They will be xy, why would they be ruined? Why? Why is why is a lot exposing someone's faults or flaws.

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Something that could ruin a person? Well, because nothing is hidden from Allah. nothing, absolutely nothing is hidden from Allah. If we seek to expose someone's faults or flaws, we have limited knowledge. But when Allah exposes someone's flaws and someone's faults,

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then that person had a lot. There's nothing hidden, right? Because Allah knows everything. And that is why one of the intentions Yeah, you may think of it as being a little bit, you know, we think about ourselves. But yeah, we should think about ourselves when we go out of our way to expose some was someone's flaws, someone's fault someone sins. Remember, we all commit sins, we all have flaws, we all make mistakes, there's not a single person amongst us, who doesn't have problems, doesn't commit sins doesn't have flaws. If our flaws were exposed, how would it be, and let alone May Allah protect us if Allah were to expose our flaws, so that wrong intention, if our only thing is

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we want to expose someone's faults or flaws? That is highly, highly problematic. So as I said, number one, maybe it is a personal thing, that's a problem. It may be that we have.

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I mean, like, it's, I don't want to sugarcoat this, but it may be that we have an inferiority complex, and this is how we are dealing with it. Almost as if it's a defense mechanism. So maybe we have low self esteem, low self worth, we don't feel good about ourselves, and how do we, how do we deal with it, we deal with it by putting other people down. And I've spoken about, you know, self worth, and self esteem. And I've actually haven't talked a lecture on this on my channel, which you can check out Angela Jada. But one of the issues with having low self esteem, low self worth is people who have low self esteem, low self worth, they don't feel good about themselves. One of the

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defense mechanisms that they use is they try to put other people down to make themselves feel better. So sometimes when a person is, is doing an arrow for nahan linkara, is simply to put somebody down to make themselves feel good. Sometimes we may be projecting what is projecting well projecting is when a person subconsciously denies their own problems, their own faults, and they ascribe them to other people. Right, so projecting our faults on other people. And once again, this is related to having low self esteem or low self worth. But we feel we're not a good Muslim. And so what do we do we call everybody else out who we feel is not a good Muslim. Right? Why? Well, once

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again, we are projecting upon other people. Sometimes, it may be an issue of jealousy, it may be an issue of hassad, we see somebody and look, you know, I'm not here to point fingers on any individual here. These are all things that we need to think about for ourselves, right? And but I gotta keep it real, right? Like, these are real issues that you know, matters of the heart, specially that nobody can solve these issues for us, like, we got to solve them for ourselves for ourselves. Nobody can come to come to you and say, hey, you're jealous or whatever. Nobody knows what's in your heart. Nobody can come say to me, nobody knows what's in my heart. The only person who can solve our

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problems are diseases of the heart. That person that individual is us. And that's why we need to know we need to be aware of what's happening in our heart. So we need to have an honest discussion with ourselves. We need to be real with ourselves. Are we criticizing this person? Or are we calling them out? Because we're jealous of them? Because we have acid maybe somebody is popular online, maybe somebody has a following maybe somebody is praised somebody is liked, and that makes us jealous, right? And in order in how do we you know, deal with that jealousy? Well, we put that person down. This is a characteristic This is a trait of a police is a trait characteristic of the

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she have been without a doubt, especially those of you who've taken my seminar on

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The ship on deception. And one of the biggest problems one of the problems that the ship Vaughn had was he said was this type of jealousy?

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And and well, how did he deal with the jealousy? Well, he wanted he put them out, they set him down. He belittled him. He was he, you know, he said he refused to refuse to make sense to them. He said, I'm better than him. Right? And arrogance is a natural next step right after jealousy becomes arrogant. And that's why you will find people who are very quick to criticize and condemn and to put people down and call people out. There will always be jealous, it can start with jealousy. It can start with head, but it's it's a it's a very short road to arrogance. When a person becomes arrogant, they begin to see themselves above other people, they begin to see themselves as someone

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who can do no wrong, right, someone who had a lot everything they say has to be correct. And if they themselves are criticized, they say How dare you Who are you to, to, to to say anything about me? I can be no wrong. And that is the definition of arrogance that the person I'm told us what is arrogant person have said, but that will help will hunt the nurse bottle up to reject the truth? Why did someone reject the truth? Because they feel themselves as being in a place where no one can tell them? What's up? Right? No one can tell them what's right. Who are you to tell me so they will reject that which is correct or reject the truth because of how high they hold themselves? Well,

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humbleness so Pamela to look down upon people, right? How many people who are in that position, who criticize and mock other people online and put people down? How many of these people what are they doing in actuality, they're mocking people, they're putting people that humbleness. They're looking down upon people. This is the definition of arrogance that Adam gave us. And in the first part is Hadeeth. I said I'm said a person who has even a small amount of arrogance will not enter Paradise. And we know one of the things that keeps someone out of Paradise is arrogance. He believes the sheer power himself was kicked out of paradise. Did not paradise for his arrogance, familia Kudo, lukka

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and tick tock combat Rafi how la said it is not for you to be arrogant here, meaning this is Jenna, get out fridge, get out of here because you're arrogant. And arrogance was the downfall of the chiffon and arrogance, may Allah protect us, we don't want it to be our downfall as well. So those are some of the wrong intentions. Some of a good intention can be that we want to, as we said, stand up for that which is right. And, and and, you know, stand take a stand against evil. But the following things that I'm about to mention now the rest of the conditions, right, they will speak to our intention. If our intention is correct, we won't just speak if our intention is correct, we will

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make sure we fulfill all of the conditions of enjoying that which is correct, right. And so so keep that in mind intelligent data. That's why intention is the first thing. So number one, intention, that's the first thing we check off of our list. Number two, or you know what actually intention we will make as its own thing that before even the condition will make it its own thing, right? So intention, because it should precede everything that we do the correct intention, we're going to make its own thing. So let's go now that has to be settled. And then number one, here's the first condition before we do an American metal when I monka. Number one, when we are saying taking a stand

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against something, or we are calling for something, we must have knowledge of what we are speaking about, right, we must be knowledgeable of that matter. So let's say we are going to someone and we say brother, this is how Don't do this. This is wrong. Before we ever say that. We should have knowledge of what we're speaking about. We should have proper knowledge not Oh, I heard someone say or I read a fatwa, or I heard a physical online and I just, you know, I just heard something. No, we need to have proper knowledge of what we are speaking about.

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You know, because a lot of data in his site. He has a whole chapter titled, an A little public value alignment, that knowledge comes before out speech and action, knowledge comes before speaking action, we must have knowledge of what we're doing. So if someone doesn't really know this issue, and this happens a lot, we've had a lot. We don't even have proper knowledge of what we're talking about. We just heard someone say something and I should paddle I personally, personally myself with my own ears. I've heard someone criticize somebody else. And when they themselves are questioned about that matter, like hey, how do you know this is wrong? They say well, I don't I don't know. But

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I heard someone so say it, right? That is not enough. You need to have proper, we need to have

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proper knowledge of what we are speaking about. So that's number one, if we don't have knowledge, don't speak, right, don't let alone. And it's one thing to do it for yourself. Like, you know, I heard that this is that this is how long I won't do it. But if I'm going to go to other people and start saying this is how long this head ons is how long, you need to know what you're talking about, you have knowledge of what you are talking about. So that's number one, I say intention comes before. So number one, having knowledge of basically what we're talking about. Number two, we have to make sure we have to, we have to be sure of the facts, right, we have to make sure that what is

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what is happening is actually evil is actually bad. So if we're speaking out against something, we need to be sure of the facts. So for example, before I go to someone and say, You know what, this thing you do is wrong. I need to make sure they actually did this thing. I need to make sure it's not hearsay, I need to make sure it's not it's not gossip that I heard someone say this is I need to make sure it's not conjecture, right? What is conjecture me? Well, it, I need, I need to make sure that I'm not connecting dots. And assuming that this is what this person said, right? It's not based on assumptions, it's not based on hearsay, it is not conjecture, it needs to be fact. And if the

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facts are not correct, then we do not have the right islamically speaking, we do not have the right to go to go to someone and to criticize them for something that they may have done, they may not have done, we need to be 100% sure that what they are doing is actually what we are criticizing is actually true. Right. And once again, this you know, I could speak a lot about,

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you know, making assumptions. And we know that that is highly problematic. In Islam, a Lost Planet, Allah told us to

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not make assumptions, because some of assumptions is about the one knee if that sum of assumptions is is sinfulness meaning if we are making assumption, a part of that assumption will lead us into sin. And some scholars have said, when we begin to make assumptions about people, sooner or later, we will end up in sin sooner or later, we will be sinful if we are making assumptions about people. So not based on assumptions, it has to be actual facts that we are not, we are not jumping to any conclusions. And also the you know, this, you know, similar to point one is the fact that

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that, that we're not making assumptions about the deed that they did, you know, as I said earlier, in the first condition, having knowledge of what we're talking about it about what we're talking about this is similar to that, that we don't we don't just assume that this is a sin, we don't assume. And this happens a lot of how a lot, you know, as I said earlier, people don't really know if this is actually right or wrong, but they they think it's wrong, or sometimes

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it's their own feelings towards a matter, right. It's not even that

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this is something that islamically they can prove. They themselves don't like it. And I you know, and I'll give you an example. And this is a little bit of a personal example, but I will give it anyway.

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Sometimes people will, will come to me and I might not even contemplate it online or whatever. People say like, Oh, your haircut is hot, right?

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You know what this is, this is this is how this thing works. Sometimes you want to different types of clothes, or whatever it may be, this is this is wrong, brother, this is this is not Islamic, and so on and so forth. And if I were to ask them for evidence, they wouldn't have any, if I were to ask them to say, Okay, show me because my rule is always look, if you are criticizing me on something, which is from an Islamic perspective, I have no problem with it. Right? I welcome criticism if I'm doing something which is wrong islamically Of course, I welcome you to come tell me that you know what this is islamically wrong, because inshallah I mean, I'm a human being as well and I can make

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mistakes, and I may not have knowledge of something and if you have knowledge of something islamically that I'm doing which is wrong, and will come tell me no problem. I've no problem. But don't tell me have your own opinion. And a lot of times, that's what happens a person. It's not that they have knowledge, it's just that they don't like it. Now I've heard people say things like, oh, you're you're you're an Islamic scholar. Right? You're a share. And why would you dress like this? I'm sorry, homie, but that's your opinion of what you think a chef is supposed to look like what you think and Islamic scholars? What's it look like? That's your own preference. In our Deen is not

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based off of your individual preferences. I'm sorry, not sorry. Not based off of your preferences, or Deen is based off of the Quran and the Sunnah. So if you can come to me and say to me look from the Koran or from the Sunnah, this is what is incorrect? No problem. Let's have this discussion. Let's have this talk.

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But as we said, you should know what you're talking about. Okay, so that's one and two.

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Number three is that it cannot be a matter of disagreement. It cannot be a matter of enough.

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Amongst the scholars.

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So if you are an authority and I have a lot of data, he said, If you see someone do an action regarding which there is a difference of opinion, then you should not stop them. very plain very clear. If it is a matter which the scholars have differed upon, then you should not stop them right now, what are we let's take a practical real example here.

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If you're living in America, or I can say maybe living in North America,

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there's a debate that has been going on for years and years and years. And it keeps going on and keeps going on. And there's no end to it. So Pamela, every time people keep debating this one matter, is it permissible for Muslims in America to eat meat that is found in the grocery store? Or is it permissible to eat? You know, people will say it's okay to have a burger at McDonald's. Right? And you know, why? Why do people keep discussing this, keep discussing this, because this is a matter of differences of opinion amongst the scholars. Some scholars say that the meat that is found in the grocery store, that is not that we have meat, right? That it is the meat that is slaughtered

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by Jews and Christians, and it is headed for us to eat meat that is slaughtered by Jews and Christians. That is the opinion of some of the scholars and they consider that meat to be head on. And yet there are other scholars who say, No, it is not considered the meat of the Jews and Christians, and it has to be slaughtered with the name of a lost penalty, and so on and so forth. Like they have their reasoning, and I don't want to get into that debate right now. And please, in the q&a, please don't ask me about a lot of meat. I'm trying to I'm trying to highlight a very important point here. And that point is it's a matter of difference of opinion. Now valid difference

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of opinion, right? So there are credible scholars on one side and credible scholars on the other side as well. Is it a matter of difference of opinion? Yes, absolutely valid difference of opinion. And so in this case, it is not permissible to go to someone you know, you you see your friend eating McDonald's one day, and you go Brother, is that Helen, that's the holiday brother is how long for you to eat that that's wrong? And to you know, shame them for it or whatever.

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That is, that is not okay. Because it is a matter of difference of opinion. So in matters of difference of opinion, you know, so that's also one thing we check if it is a matter of difference of opinion, then no, we do not. We do not go and forbid someone or stop someone or call them out in any way. Mind you, I'm speaking about what I'm talking about here is matters of valid difference of opinion, valid difference of opinion, there are some matters, which are

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the difference of opinion is non existent, meaning there's a perceived difference of opinion. And

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some matters where the difference opinion is so like so minor, that it may not be they wouldn't fall into this category. Right. So I'll give an example. A little bit controversial, but it's okay. Hashtag real talk. Gotta keep it real. The issue of

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musical instruments musical instruments now look at his music as a whole, is there a lot there's there's a lot of overlap when it comes to certain details of music, you know, is it halal? Or is it permissible or not? But musical instruments, right is one of those issues where we have the vast majority of scholars on one side and we have a minority of scholars on the other side right minority scholars on the other side. So some some of our scholars will say no, this is not really a matter of difference of opinion, because you have such a minority of scholars on one side and so that needs to be kept so so would this fall under under this matter? My opinion? No, it doesn't. However, mind you

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here this is not the only condition look at the rest of the conditions as well none of these conditions should be taken on their own, we must look at the other conditions as well. And when we bring on this is the point here when we bring all these conditions together, then we will have clarity of is it okay for me to call someone out or not? So, as we said, number what point was that? I think it was three, I lost camera, Okay, number number three or four three, that it cannot be a matter of disagreement not it cannot be a matter of

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difference of opinion amongst the scholars. Okay. So number four, I believe that we should be aware of the levels of an unlimited metal for nothing, I didn't even come. Now what does that mean? The levels what it what does it mean?

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It means the following. If we go to the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, the hadith of Hussein at the heart rate mentioned in Sahih, Muslim, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he said, Mandela I mean, come on, Karen, for you a year who be God, that whoever amongst you see something evil or bad they see a monkey

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Which is the topic of our discussion today, whoever amongst you sees a mooncup, they should change it with their hands. for 11 years Tata, Furby, Lisa, Annie, if they're not able to do it, then they should speak out against it. Meaning they should stop it with their tongues with the person I'm saying, meaning they should speak out against it.

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For 11 years thought their phobia can be and if they're not able to speak out against it, they should stop it with their heart, meaning hate it in their heart with that he can bark with a man and that is the weakest state of a man. Now, this hadith our scholars tell us that this tells us the levels of commanding the good and forbidding the evil or enjoying the good and taking a stand against that which is evil. So we need to know what we are capable of right, we need to know that which we are capable of, we need to know what our ability is, in most cases, we don't have the ability to physically stop something, we don't have the ability, we don't have the authority, and

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let alone one of the conditions that are coming up, it will cause more problems than actually good. So our next responsibility is that we speak out against it. And if we don't have we may not have that capability, then we hate it in our heart. Also, from the capability here is what I spoke about in condition one and two. And that is knowledge, we may not have knowledge, so we don't have the knowledge or we don't have enough knowledge of this matter to to, to, to to, to take a step to physically take a stand against it. And to verbally stand, take a stand against it, in that we know that our capability is in our heart, right? As I said, if you don't have knowledge of it, you can't

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speak out against it, you can't take a stand against it. But at that point, we resort to doing an elevated medal for not having one come in our heart. And yes, that is one of the ways in which we do enjoy that which is good and take a stand against evil, right? So to know and understand what your capability is, what are you capable of doing. And as we said, one of the things factors here is knowledge, we may we may not have the knowledge to speak out against something as we mentioned in point number one. So at this point, we say look, you know, what is the level that you're at? Well, you're at the level where we say this is something that we make in cod of this matter in our heart

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number five, number five, we need to weigh the harms and benefits we need to actually before that, before that, let's make that number six, number five, we will say is to start with the more important matters and then move on to the less important matters. So, we see someone and this is practically This is how this works. We see someone doing something which is bad wrong a sin it is one cut right something which is bad. And by the way, Moncure is something which is bad, right? So it can be something which Allah has made, how wrong it can be with something that Allah has made Makoto, something which is disliked or inappropriate for most for Muslim to do all of that which is

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considered bad would be considered mooncup Okay, so we see someone doing something which is when we see them committing a sin, our responsibility is that we first start with some the most important matter not the thing that is most visible to us. So for example, we see someone we see we see an individual who's drinking alcohol before we go to them and we say you know brother this is how I'm free to drink alcohol whatever let's you know let's make it let's make a little bit more realistic right we see somebody smoking pot, pot I think has become a lot more common. especially amongst Muslims, Milan, protective Milan, protect this Milla forgive our sins, right, we see somebody

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smoking pot, and we say, Brother, you know, Tom, you know, this is an intoxicant. This is considered common in Islam is how I'm free to smoke pot boba. Now, there may be a more important issue here. And that is that the person doesn't have a man. Right? It may be that this person, even though like you've seen them around, or whatever they have left them. Maybe they're their faith is gone, right. And so now when you start talking to them, you start addressing the issue of them smoking pot. Is that one cut? Yeah, it's one car, but there's a bigger issue that needs to be addressed first. That is the issue of their faith. Because you can say whatever you want to someone, if they're if they

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don't have a man, it will make a difference, it will make a difference to them. Whether this or anything else is hot or hot out or whatever, because the man is not there. So we have to be and all of this notice and handle every one of these points means that we have to take our time and be very considerate before we ever open our mouth. And that's the problem. People don't want to hear that. Right. They want to see something, see something, say something. That's what it is, right? We want to immediately speak out against something. That's the problem. Every one of these conditions what it is telling us is to first calm down. Take your time. Look at the facts.

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right and so here not don't make a snap judgment about this individual we have to know and understand and we can say that is point four a or four B or whatever knowing the individual that you are speaking to right knowing and understanding this person before you go make income right if you don't know this individual How can you make in contact them? Like how can you understand who they are and what they're going through? Right? We're talking about an individual here and individual and a side point I'll mention I was going to mention this at the end but there is a difference between individuals and deeds so we can make in caught upon a deed right you can say this. So this let's

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take a look at the same example smoking pot, we can say smoking pot is hot um, right. That was okay. But to go to this person and say, Hey, man, smoking pot is hot on your sinful, you know, your what you're doing is wrong and you're a bad Muslim. That's the individual talking about the individual here. Speaking about a matter is another is another is another thing and obviously, having knowledge of that matter and all that applies to that as well. But we're speaking about the individual here. So we have to differentiate we have to be very careful that and so conditioned for a or for B as I said, knowing the individual that you are that you're speaking to that you are making in caught up

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on there you're speaking about you have to know and understand that person before you go and before we go and before we make in caught upon this person. So starting with the more important matters, meaning if there's something more important that needs to be dealt with, we deal with that first before making in caught upon a lesser matter. Point number five and I believe I will end with this inshallah Tiana is weighing the harms and the benefits weighing the harms and the benefits. Meaning what meaning we have to take a look at with take a real look at this issue and say, Look and ask ourselves, is me speaking out is the benefit that is coming from that is it more than the harm that

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will come from me speaking out? That's what it means when we say weighing the harms and benefits our scholars, they would say

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that if a person

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fears a greater harm than the obligation of the obligation of the mouth and the hell mukha drops, that if we fear that a bigger harm will come by speaking out or by by doing something, then that obligation drops. And I want to give you an example, from the from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam himself authentic ID I mentioned Sahih Bukhari hadith of eyeshadow de la Jara and her in which she says and she's the narrator here, she says, I asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam if the hijab was part of the Kaaba or not. Now, what is the age of those of you who have seen

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the Kaaba, those of you who have seen the home in Mecca, you may have noticed, so if you're looking like if you're taking a top down view, a top down view of it, the cabinet looks like a square, right? And next to the square you will see. So okay, so let's see, let me Okay, so let's see, this is the cabinet, which is a top down view. Okay, so this is the car by here. Next to the cabin, there is like a U shaped

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little structure, right? It's not very tall, I believe. It's like one or two feet. It's not very tall. That area between the Kaaba and this U shape that is known as the Asia that's called the hedgerow, right? So I shall she says, Is this area basically like that? The top down view? Is this area inside here? Is that considered part of the Kaaba or not? And the prophets of Allah who I think who sent them said, Yes, that is part of the cabin. Now what does that mean? That means that the original structure of the Kaaba, the way it was built by Ibrahim I didn't set them was that it wasn't square, it was actually on one side, it had corners. On the other side, it was round, right?

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On the side, it was around when usually when I'm talking about this in my classes, I can draw it on the board, but basically square and now the site is round. So that the area in between, you know, we're talking about the the Kava and the hedger, the area in between that it was part of the GABA, it was all one structure was all one structure. And that is why even now when we make the offer, we don't go in between the Kaaba and the hijet. We go around the hedgerow, right, probably notice this. So she says is this is that hedgerow area is a part of the cabinet or not, the president says yes, it is part of the cabinet.

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So she says, y O Messenger of Allah, why didn't you? Why didn't? Why didn't you rebuild the Kaaba and why didn't you

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put make the cabin the way it originally was right? Meaning if it's part of the Kava, then why not build it to its original structure?

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Behavior into the into the GABA, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he replied, he said, Oh, I shot if your people were not so close to jelenia, meaning they were, if they weren't so new in their Islam,

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and I did not think that their hearts would be agitated, then I would have definitely done that. And I would have brought the door to the ground. And that's the other thing. The door was basically now the door is high. And you may have noticed, even in the press send them the door was high original structure, the door went all the way to the ground, I sent him said I would have brought the door to the ground. So what is the point here? The President was saying, look, if I were to and this is the prophets, I sent him to keep that in mind. He's saying if I were to change the shape of the Kaaba, is change, right? These people are new in their Islam. All they know is, this is how the cannabis

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supposed to look. They don't know that that's part of the original shape of the guy. But he said, If I said if I, if they weren't so new, and I didn't know that they become so upset by this, I would have done so. Alright, meaning what is correct here? What is correct? What is correct, is to return the car back to its original shape. But so right, that's what's correct. But did the person go ahead and do that? No. Why? Because he weighed the harms and the benefits, he knew that the harms that would come from doing that, what are the harms, people will get upset, they would be annoyed at it, they would be they would kind of like tear their reality, because in their reality, the camera is

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supposed to look the way it already looks right. And it would cause problems, those problems are greater than the good that would come from returning the garba to its original shape. So for some did not do it, even though that that is correct that the original shape as president said, Yes, it was part of the original shape. Here the president weighed the harms and benefits and this is the profit some of them don't want about us, right? So before we ever go to someone to say, brother, this is wrong, this is wrong. This is how you should do before we ever call somebody out, we have to be very, very careful to weigh the harms and benefits because what are we talking about here?

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Sometimes we're talking sometimes it's the difference between immediate correction and the lasting change, right? So you may see someone and once again, let's go back to the example of somebody smoking pot, you may see somebody smoking pot going missing brothers. And even like, you know, you know, how dare you smoke pot, whatever immediate correction, versus ever lasting change or lasting change, lasting change. That means maybe you don't address the pot right now, maybe you go and you have a conversation with a person and you try to increase their email, you try to bring them closer to Islam. And when their Eman is high. That point you say Brother, you know, smoking pot is calm.

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And that change would be a lasting change versus just immediately getting it off your chest and correcting that person. So these are some of the main conditions that need to be fulfilled before we enjoying that which is good and take a stand against evil. The second the second point here, as we said, number one, and that's the first place that first

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first thing that we that we go to when we you know when we're calling somebody out when we're canceling somebody. The other is advice. You know, I'm only advising I only do I'm only giving advice to that person. I didn't the parts that I'm saying a dino no see how that is religion is sincere advice. Unfortunately, we have run out of time, I didn't realize we're gonna go so long. So I will make

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this next part of this part two. And I'll post a date and time and challenge data. part two of this talk will be the conditions that need to be met before we give advice to someone. Right so today we talked about an hour tomorrow for nothing and one cup. Tomorrow, not tomorrow. Next talk part two of this talk we're going to go into we're going to go into detail about how do you give advice. What are the conditions that need to be met before we give somebody advice? And Allahu Subhana Allah knows best of Hanukkah. lahoma behenic 111 stockbroker, what to bootleg