Riyadul Haqq – True Love

Riyadul Haqq
AI: Summary © The concept of love in Islam is discussed, with a focus on finding love in the right place and not fully achieving it. The speaker uses the analogy of a "haste [The moment" to describe the experience of love in the universe, using the lens of physical and emotional responses. They explain that love is a reflection of one's actions and intentions, and that it is something that is in your programming. The speaker also explains that love is something that is in your subconscious, not your stomach.
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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim

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woman so yeah, Dr. Medina mean you have to put out a video that

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want to show the world, you know La

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa

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barakato some limits Lehman Thielen Kathy

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respects and listeners sulamani ally

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we gather once again for the

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monthly spiritual gathering.

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Surprisingly, to some least,

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spirituality in Islam

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has always

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contain the concept of love,

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a level of lust

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and this is why many women have emphasized

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that those who reduce their religion

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to a simple set of rules, do's and don'ts

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and ritual worship and formality.

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They remain deprived

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of a deeper spiritual meaning

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and that special connection and relationship with a lost parent who with honor, which translates into true love for law.

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And this is why acts of worship.

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The very concept of halal and haram in Islam should induce

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a sense of humility, of softness

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of grace and compassion

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and of a loving and lovable character.

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A true believer is one

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who loves Allah loves others for the sake of Allah loves what law loves dislikes, what a lot dislikes.

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And because of the beauty of their character,

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they are lovable

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to those who themselves are pure of heart and character.

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Last Chronicle with Allah says in the Quran in the levina almond Wilder slug,

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say john alohomora man would

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the indeed those who have believed in who do good deeds

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Allah will create a lot since a lot law says man the gracious one will create for them wood, wood and what's wood love?

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So those who in the Medina almond wirelesshart he had Sage I don't know man would indeed those who believe and who do good deeds Allah will create for them wood

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and wood means love

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and that's why I'm many Allah relate the Hadees that

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one on last panel with Anna love loves

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a lot instructs to breed alayhis salam, a lot in forms, summons gibreel alayhis salaam and informs him that I love such a person you love him.

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And then Djibouti

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announces that in the heavens, that Allah loves this individual therefore others should love him. And then this message trickles down

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even to the people of Earth

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Love loves such and such a person so you love him too.

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Now common question Is that why is it then that the people of faith the people of good deeds, the people of piety,

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the people of truly noble character, are not always necessarily universe universally loved.

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In fact, even the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is not universally loved, the Sahaba of the labyrinth Amata University.

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how do we understand this Hadith,

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that last days indeed those who believe in who do good deeds allow will create love for them, in that they have such a lovable character, such purity, that others will love them just as he loves them, the angels love them.

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The simple answer to this very common question is

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to love a pure and pious person,

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to love, a pure and pious carrot, one's own carrot must reflect reflects that purity and piety.

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Just like a healthy food is enjoyed by healthy people. When a person is ill,

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even honey may taste bitter.

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doctors and physicians normally always put this down to the corruption of the parents, corruption of the test.

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And that because the system is corrupt, corrupted, the system is upset, it's not functioning normally or healthily. When the body doesn't function, healthily, the parents will be corrupt. The palates corrupt sweets will taste bitter, bitter, will taste sweet, sweet, will taste sour, sour taste sweet.

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So even the best of things may appear to be the worst.

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That's because of a distortion in the person's perception, a distortion and corruption of the person's mind and their own hearts and count.

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So the good will recognize the good and love them the pious, the piety in the person, and the purity in a person will recognize the purity and the piety in someone else.

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In fact, forget the heart, even the man

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there's that saying in English, it takes genius to recognize talent. mediocrity never sees beyond itself. We have a tendency to view others as we see ourselves.

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So I've often related that story about the pious person returning from fetch.

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You may just be an example, or law item, if it's actually a true story, but it's related.

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But it illustrates the example perfectly. There was a man who would go to Salah in the masjid for fish with Jamal

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and having completed his Salah he would remain in the machine for a long time engaged in the vicar of Allah. And then after some time after sunrise, he would

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pray further knuffle such as shut up which is also in a salad bar.

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And then he would return home.

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On the way home, he will always cross paths with someone

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who unknown to him

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was a partygoer rather than someone who had spent the entire night partying reveling drinking

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in the den of vice.

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And he was a Muslim too.

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And this is obviously to do with a Muslim country. So the person returning from fetch

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would look at the other person and immediately think of himself think, Masha Allah just as I am returning from a Masjid, having engaged in the revival of Allah. He is also returning from a place of worship, having engaged from a Masjid, having engaged in the prayer and in the remembrance of Allah and the

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sinful. He would look at this pious individual and immediately think that goes another one just like me, just like I've spent

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Not in the den advice in a sinful state. So he does the same just as I'm returning home now he's returning home, having spent the night just as I had. So we have a tendency to view others as we see ourselves. If we are corrupts, we see others as corrupt.

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to understand this heavy,

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that when a law loves a person, a law creates love of that person.

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Say john alohomora.

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Man, the Gracious one will create love for them alone will actually place love for those who are healers in the hearts of his creation, but not universally, not in every single heart. Even the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is not universally loved. But in the hearts of those who's caring characters reflect purity, piety and clarity, whose characters minds and hearts aren't corrupted, that perceptions aren't distorted,

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who recognize good for good, or recognize purity as purity piety as piety,

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and whose thinking is not flipped,

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whose emotions are not messed up and turbulent.

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So they

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have purity and piety themselves will recognize the purity and piety and others and love them, they will be indeed to the little bit inclined to them.

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In Arabic, there's always been a very famous saying of juicy amino intelligence, like inclines to lack.

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We tend to coalesce around those very same people, we tend to mix and mingle and be inclined to those people who reflect something in our character

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who reflect something in us.

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And then by adopting that company, we only consolidate what's already in us, therefore creating further momentum. So we feed off each other.

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Otherwise, someone of purity and piety will fear impiety and impurity.

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So as I was saying earlier, the history of spirituality in Islam has always and this may be surprising some has contained the concept of love.

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True love.

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This is why

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those will Emma, obviously, throughout history,

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who have actually

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composed lengthy poems on love,

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who've written entire books on love.

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And some of their works have been partially translated today.

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And they are often studied by those who don't believe in Allah and His Messenger, some of them love it.

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And they take away whatever message they wish to.

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But the common misunderstanding is

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that these are the man who wrote to that love.

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They are speaking about normal, every day, worldly, mundane love. They are not these being spirituality. They speak about the highest love, the love of Allah, for his creation and the love of creation for lost Parenthood. They're create.

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But people reduce that

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whole concept of love to meaningless mundane love of the world. And the truth is,

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we all love and want to be loved.

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And we seek that love.

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We seek it in items in things in possessions.

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But it's not because of the person.

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Rather, it's because of a lack

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and an incompleteness and an emptiness in ourselves.

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That's true.

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We want to feel hope.

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And that's why when a man and woman come together, they love to repeat two parts of a whole.

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And we have even translated that into the concepts of love and marriage in Islam.

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Whereas it has no basis.

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I'm not saying there is no love in Islam, of course there is.

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But one has to have a correct understanding of love, and the different shades of the spectrum of love.

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What do I mean by this has no basis in Islam, and this is a common misunderstanding.

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People think that even about marriage,

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but I want to complete my faith.

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And therefore when I get married, my faith will be complete.

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And that phase, that phrase is used so often, but that's actually a misunderstanding of the heading. There is no such understanding in Islam that if you marry, you actually complete your faith. And without marrying, you remain half a believer.

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Again, this has to do something similar to that. Two parts of a whole sort of man, a Muslim man and woman thing that when we get married and we come together, we will both become whole, two parts of a whole And not only that, both our email will be complete, my man will be complete, his or her email will be complete. That has no basis

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the concept of email

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becomes becoming half complete or complete. There is no concept of a man becoming complete by marriage.

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It's a gross misunderstanding.

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This actually stems from a complete misunderstanding of

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sets and headies. So let me tell you what those are have either

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one, mm Timothy and others all relate that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked.

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So a lot of sort of luck is equal to Sallam and a 30 minute nap. So gentlemen.

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Now, so a lot of Sula has some of the love it but some of them and nursing now.

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for quite a while for

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked

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about those things which are most responsible for leading people to the fire of God

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and entering them into the fire, the literal translation of the headache. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the math and the private

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these two things are most responsible for leading people into sin and corruption.

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And then he was also asked to remind him of NASA gentlemen, about those things which are most responsible for taking people into agenda. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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Hello, taqwa,

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God wareness were small Hello, and good manners, good content.

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So the two things most responsible for taking a person away from Allah are the tongue and one's private pockets.

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And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam separately in other hobbies explains

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that one who married

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then indeed, he has completed half of faith.

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when a person marries,

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then at least, there is great hope if the person is normal. There is great hope, that this individual man or woman, being in the sanctified states, and the heart of marriage, the holy state of matrimony, will abstain from sin

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will remain will be distant from fornication, adultery.

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And so they will have preserved

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one half of those two things which are most responsible for leading people into the fight

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which is

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sin with one's private walk

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam actually says that since he has by marriage, safeguarded half of his faith, let him fear a lot in the other half meaning his tongue.

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So even after marriage, a person is still

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halfway there, and this being halfway there is only related to things,

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sins of the flesh and sins of the tongue.

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But hopefully a person will have safeguarded themselves from the sins of the flesh by marriage. Now let them work on purifying their tongue

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and safeguarding their faith from the sins of that.

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So in Islam, there is no concept of

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two parts of a whole and by marriage, becoming a complete believer and completing one's religion, one's the by marriage, there is no such concept. But going back to the question of two halves of a whole, these are the romantic and false and unrealistic ideals of hollywood, bollywood, Hollywood and Nollywood.

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They really are a fiction.

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In Islam, every individual is an individual man, or they come into the world alone.

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They travel alone,

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and they will enter their graves, they will die.

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One last thing, if you have ever been present, I see many young people hear, but some older ones as well.

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But if you have ever been present,

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with someone who is done

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and held their hand,

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or even if you haven't held their hand, but you are just present with someone who is in their final moments of life on their deathbed,

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even though they are surrounded by their loving, caring, affectionate and concerned children, their own flesh and blood.

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By a law, you can see how lonely a time it is, for that individual will lie.

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how lonely at times is.

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They could have that grandchildren, their sons and taught everyone presents.

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I'm not even going to mention spouses.

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I'm not

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just children, their own flesh and blood, their beloved sons and daughters, their beloved grandsons and granddaughters. Despite being surrounded by so many people, when they are on their deathbed, they know that they are about to depart from this world and enter into another round their life on earth is about and by Allah you can see the loneliness on their faces.

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And one can just imagine the solitude the loneliness, that they would feel. So we come into the world alone,

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we leave the world alone as men and women and we travel along this path of life along this journey of life, Allah

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marriage only brings two independent individuals together in company

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but there is no guarantee that they will remain together

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whether they remain together or not, they still have to complete that dream alone.

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And this is why Allah in the Quran says

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speaking about to people who have separate and who have actually been divorced

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and now they wish to come back together again.

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So law speaking of these two who have previously been married now wish to come together again. Allah essays for in the locker ha

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la Hema in your

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environment in your Kima to the law.

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That there is no harm then there is no harm in least

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coming back to one another reconciling with each other.

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Why? Because they love one another

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Because they are devoted to one another, they are utterly in meshed.

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Now, Allah says, There is no harm in them to in these two reconciling with each other and coming back to each other in one in your Thema, who do the law, if they both think that they can establish the limits and the laws of the law,

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which means

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that we all have to live this life on Earth, according to the commandments and the laws of alas Chronicle with Allah and the limits that Allah has placed for us.

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And if

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two people can only come together, and should only come together, if they feel they can observe the laws and the limits of a last permit, hoard the honor, that's the purpose, not because they are utterly enmeshed.

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this idea of two people coming together as a whole, it's unrealistic, we remain individual.

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And as I was saying, this concept of love, we love, we want to love we want to be loved. But why? What's the reason what's the purpose, often,

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it's not to do with the other person, rather, is to do with an emptiness, and a lack and an incompleteness and a longing in ourselves. We want that incompleteness to be complete, to be removed, we want that lack

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to be removed. We want to feel whole.

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And the truth is, we're looking for it in the wrong places.

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And this is why two people come together they claim to love one another.

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And yet,

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there is so much suspicion, bitterness,

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constant, arguing, bickering, fighting.

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even hate

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on the remarkable thing is that they claim to love one another for such a long time. And then after

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and after distance, that is hey.

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So where's the love gun?

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That is real hate, and bitterness, simple reason that that lack wasn't removed, that incompleteness did not come to an end. That longing wasn't fulfilled, that emptiness was not filled.

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We're looking for it in the wrong places. The only love that can fill that emptiness, that log.

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The only thing that can make a person feel whole and complete is the love of Allah scrollable with their honor, and love for the sake of them.

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Now, none of what I say should be misunderstood. We shouldn't think that this means that a husband and wife cannot and should not love one another. Of course not. What I'm saying is, their love will only be true and pure. If they love one another for the sake of Allah.

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A perfect example of that is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his noble one.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam loved his wives, like no man could.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam lived on what minion shadow the law more than any of his other one.

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They knew that she knew that that woman knows that. And yet a very simple question, which even a child would be able to answer today. Yes or no? Did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam love money in our Chateau de la or before her own? Khadija de la hora did the Prophet Simba love it was love Arusha or Khadija or any of his noble wives don't do a lot of the a lot

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more than he loved a lot

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He stood up tall

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The end of his life and he gave us

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and in that sermon he said,

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Indeed, Allah gave a servant a choice between this life and the life of the hero.

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Between this life and that which is with Allah.

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So the servant chose that which is with Allah.

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So, Allah began to weep.

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And some of the other Sahaba looked at him and said, Marty, how the shaky? What is it with this old meme that he weeps? Allah gave a servant, a choice between what's in the world and that which is with Allah, so the chairman servant chose that which is with Allah.

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What's so surprising about that? But then the Sahaba of the library can relate that that seven was none other than the messenger.

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And Abubakar was the one who knew the most amongst us.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was given a choice. Do you wish to remain in the world? Or do you wish to be with Allah? Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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Chung, Allah and the company of Allah over the world and all its people, including his

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daughter, including his grandchildren, including his immediate family, including all of his work.

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And what were the words which he uttered when he departed from this world, a lot pointing to the heavens, he said, Allah May Allah revealed to Allah, O Allah unto the companion most.

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So even the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who loved his wives, who loved his children, who taught us how to love purely and dearly. Even the Prophet sallallahu wasallam did not love anyone,

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any of his children, any of his wives,

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more than he left the last cohort, that is true love, when two people come together in that love,

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keeping the love of love primary,

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and the love of anyone and everything else secondary

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than their love for one another will be pure.

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In fact, they will be more tolerant, more compassionate, more forgiving.

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One of the scholars,

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he gave his daughter in marriage to a pious individual, and then he said,

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the iron content

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because of his pirate,

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my wife pleases Him,

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and He is pleased with her,

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then he will appreciate her and he will do shocker of a lot he will do,

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he will be grateful.

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And if for whatever reason, he is displeased with me,

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and she does not

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please him as he would learn.

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He does not like as much as he would want to like he's not pleased with for whatever reason.

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And even if she is troublesome to him,

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then he will do something.

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So if he is happy,

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he'll be grateful.

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If he is unhappy, at least the most he will have

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all that he will do his summer. He won't hurt

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even in displeasure.

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If someone truly loves the last panel who was down and they will be compassionate and forgiving tolerance and overlooking

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for the sake of a larger side

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because their focus is on a loss of

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that love is reserved.

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It doesn't mean a person cannot love anyone else. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam loved his wives and love just children.

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In fact, the last panel with Anna says in the Quran in the mountain wide open world,

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that your wealth and your children are a test. And once a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was on the member and trusted him for saying that the alarm came running

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towards him,

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dressed in beautiful clothes, in the masjid whilst he was on the member. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam actually Paul

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descended, bent over and picked up his beautiful grandchildren. And then he said to the Sahaba, of the lover and on the member, that indeed law has spoken, and as the law said, In the matter of work on wellness and fitness, that your wealth and your children are a distraction.

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And that's what the word fitna means it originally means distraction. They are a fitna a test a distraction. So even the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam graciously acknowledged that that's the love he had for his children as well and grandchildren. But nothing.

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He loved the Sahaba of the law.

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He loved the Caribbean law. He was his best friend even before Islam, and both were noble characters, one could never imagine these two enlightened souls even before the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had received any revelation from Allah. And even before the prophets, even before the law, he became a Muslim. One cannot imagine these two enlightened souls ever falling out with one another, arguing with one another, even disagreeing with what

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they were best of friends

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and a backer of the Lahore and gave him so much that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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felt he could not repay him in the dunya.

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And in the final days, he also said

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that of all the people, the kindest to me, and the most favorable to me,

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in his wealth, and in His family is a buck.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, all doors

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to the mystery

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shall be shocked, except the door of meaning. Because the sides of the machine,

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the walls, there were entrances, some of the houses of the Sahaba of the lovers who are adjacent, and they have these, what they call Whoa, ha, ha ha, you may have seen in some other countries, it's a door. But the

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it's a small door one, and

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the platform is actually raised. So the doorstep is raised considerably. So it's like a small opening or a small window. And you open the door, you

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a hunch, and then you go through and you have to lift the legs quite hard. That's what you call a hole.

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So some of us are how about the law who had these around the machine that would lead in and out of their homes, and they would open this hole and come straight into the machine. So the province of the law it will send them said every home, every door special, except the door

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only his could remain now. He had that privilege. And then the province of the law will send them send Welcome to

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the house.

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If I was to take a hoodie

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now Holly,

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it's often translated as friend or best friend, but it's not restricted.

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Honey actually means someone who is there and more beloved than a beloved.

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in Islam,

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and in Arabic actually holds a higher position than even then even love.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he openly declared his love for many, this habit of the Allah.

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zaidan haritha. Osama bin is at the end of the law home and the other Sahaba of the alarm

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he openly declared his love for but as he said here

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he did not make anybody his honey.

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So hold

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the state of being a honey.

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Dear beloved friend,

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even more than a beloved even more than a Habiba and

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said well okutama

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If I was to take

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anyone as a hurry, I would take abubaker as

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a position far greater than even habibollah.

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But he said, rather, He is my brother and my companion. And then the Prophet, some of the love right equals some of them said, Indeed, law has taken your companion, meaning me as a study.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, that rank of the highest love,

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if there was anyone that he would give that it would have been a bucket of sin, the prophets and the love, I'd even send him said, No, because that rank of the highest level of holla, is reserved between Allah and the messenger.

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And because of that left for our last panel,

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he was who he wants,

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we love him for the sake of Allah.

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So this longing this incompleteness, this emptiness that we have in his, which we tried to fill, which we tried to complete this void in

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which we try to fill through possessions.

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And other people. In fact,

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even in love,

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people want to possess, that's what they wish to do, they want to control they want to own they want to possess.

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And they feel that by clinging on to this thing, by possessing this thing by controlling it, they will be able to fill that void in themselves.

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And when that person

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does not wish to be possessed, or resists, possession, resists control, then there is mayhem, there is Carnage, there is violence, that is abuse.

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And it doesn't have to be physical violence, it can be mental abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse.

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And to make any marriage successful, one has to realize that you have no control, you cannot control another person, it's as simple as that, therefore, do not try to control

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you will never be able to control another purse.

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And even if you think that you control them, you can only control them in your presence.

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And because they can sense

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your desire and your craving for control, they will try to free themselves from you as much as possible, they will resist that control. And they will try to distance free themselves and distance themselves as much as possible. And the further they are away from you, the more absent they are from you, you have no control whatsoever. Not.

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So you can never controlled another purse. And one of the reasons we wish to control them is because of this possession, because we wish to force them to love us. Why do we want their love, not because of anything in themselves. If it was something in them, our love would be everlasting and enduring. And it would be overwhelming and override.

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It would and it wouldn't switch from love to hate and hate to love. We wouldn't see this fluctuation and this oscillating from one state to the other. We just wouldn't see it. We wouldn't see all these fluctuations in this mental and emotional drama and

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if love was genuine, if it was sincere, if it was pure, why the pain, love cannot bring with it pain. But this these relationships in which we think that is love. These are love hate relationships. And it's all to do with the knifes with the individual because all they are trying to do is fill that void, fill that gap fill that emptiness and they tried to do it by force, they find something they think that this thing, this possession, or this individual that will I will make my possession will fill that void and emptiness and that's all we are trying to do. We are selfish even in that love. We want to use them to exploit them to fill that void. And when we see them resisting

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when we feel them resisting or failing in filling that void and ultimately they will fail.

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They will fail because then we will be disappointed. We will see them as failures because that

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Long that craving that emptiness and void in us, they, and a world full of them cannot fill that.

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That emptiness,

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that incompleteness, that lack, that void, can only be filled by lost.

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That's all the only person who can fill it is last.

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And that's when a person tastes the hollow the sweetness of the mouth.

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And it's rather surprising. We wish to control them, but we also become slaves.

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Love is about slavery. When a person loves something, or someone they become slaves.

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They become slaves to that thing, to that concept to that possession to that person to that being

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and last panel with Allah

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and he has a right to demand

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you are not to be slaves to anyone.

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And this is why the BRT who was Salatu was Salam. The highest rank they ever achieved was over moodier of being a servant and a slave to

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the angels or a bar to Allah. The MBR and rousselot. At Masato Salaam, wherever

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wasn't to Allah, and he would always say, Ramadan, Abdullah, who was the slave of Allah, and Allah and His Messenger, and he would place his being a slave before his being a message.

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And that's why I lost Chronicle with Anna saleswoman and nurse Amelia.

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biller. Well, Nadine,

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they are of the people, those who take equals besides Allah.

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They love them as they should have loved Allah. And those who believe what levena

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Bonilla, they are more intense in their love for.

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That's true love for lust.

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And, in fact, the ruler man has said, because of this verse and other other indications of the poor and the heavy, that when a person loves something, or someone more than they love, a last panel with Allah is actually a form of shit.

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It's a form of idolatry. Because love is about slavery. When you love something, as they say, love is blind. And a person becomes a slave to that possession to that idea, to that concept,

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to that dream, to that proceeds, or even to that person.

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And it's strange, because they only become a slave to something for a selfish reason, because they think they will get something out of it. So even their love is selfish, even their slavery is selfish, but that slavery leads them to behave, stupidly, lonely.

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Why should a person lower themselves, reduce themselves,

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belittle themselves,

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degrade themselves, for any of the human being, or for any other thing

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other than the one

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before whom for whom

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they should lower and humble and submit themselves, and that is a loss.

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So love is about slavery in itself. And the highest rank of love for law with law is a Buddha, that merely who swam with the servants of Allah,

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a slave of Allah. And that's the rank that Allah bestowed upon.

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So when a person loves something or someone

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besides Allah, as they should have loved Allah, that is a form of idolatry, because they've, they've enslave themselves to that thing, or to that person. And essays that are of the people those who love a lot, sorry, who take equals besides a lot, and so they actually placed on an equal footing

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With a law that are two words in Arabic nted, and did

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indeed means equal, that means arrival.

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And the period of need is under the plural of that is.

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So and that means equals of that means rivals. So when a person loves something, and becomes a slave to that love, it could be an idea. It could be a pursuit, it could be a pastime, it could be a hobby, an activity could be a thing a possession or a person. And they love that more than they love a law. It's a form of idolatry. Because shipping, ultimately is partnership is making someone a partner with someone else. That's the meaning of ship.

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So if you

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pay someone in the rank of a law or even higher than a law, you make them an equal of a law, in your devotion in your love, then you are committing shit.

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And then the last parameter Allah says, Those who believe they are more intense in their love for law,

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which means

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but as

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slavish, as enslaved

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and as submissive

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and as loving

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a person could ever become for anyone else. Those who have true love for last panel with their love shines their love for Allah shines any love that anyone can have for anyone or anything else.

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Fact no one unless they have experienced that look for a last panel who would the other would ever be able to experience true love

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and that was the that was Sam had that this habit of the alarm?

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And that's why soudal lots of alarm and even some speaks about Halliburton email and the sweetness of email in my humble Hardyman Muslim both related so to others from the Santa Monica the Allahu and we say the prophets of the love it was seldom said fell out and couldn't a fee. There are three things, if found in a person, which is the healer with an E man, they shall taste they shall find the sweetness of a man through these three things. What's the first thing man common law what a pseudo habit you know him in Massey well, Homer,

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a person to whom Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are more beloved than everyone else.

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First is Allah.

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One has to love a lot more than anyone else.

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There's that connection. We love our mothers.

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Because we feel that physical connection with the man bomb, we are of their flesh and blood. We remained inside them, they brought us into the world.

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There was that bonding

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in early childhood in infancy.

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They breastfed

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that engine enduring and lasting attachment. And yet remarkably, remarkably,

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mothers and daughters for what they do.

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And to what degree

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some mothers kill their own children.

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Once the child grows up,

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mother and daughter, even mother and daughter, they see one another as adults, the mother sees a daughter as an adult.

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And an adult can be a threat.

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And the mother

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may even use and explore it the adult daughter to further her own men.

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How often do we see

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this is a fact

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that a mother

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or a father. But I give the mother's example because her love is more intense than the love of afar.

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And that's universally recognized.

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Because of that physical bond, in infancy and in childbirth, and in pregnancy.

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How often do we see that a mother has young children, girls and boys

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and the mother how

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has now become separated, divorced or detached from the father of the children.

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She's looking for love or for marriage.

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And she finds them.

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And that individual actually stipulates

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the for us to be together. You have to abandon your children. I don't want anything to do.

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How many times have we seen and have we heard and do we know of people personally,

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who, at the flip of a coin,

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who a stranger comes along in demands that the mother abandons the children or distancing herself from them, or at least does not burden the father, or all this new individual with the children. The mother is willing to

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accede to his dinner, and together,

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and she may go and dump the children with the grandparents with the uncles and aunts,

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even in homes.

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And sometimes we've heard of countless cases, especially in the media, where the child or the children may be kept in the family, but because the stepfather wishes to go off on a holiday,

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even if it's for a few days, the mother actually abandoned abandoned the children at home, without any care or supervision, leaves them young children, infants to fend for themselves. While she is gallivanting and holiday with her newfound Park.

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Where is the love of the mother gone? And

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so remarkably, despite that physical bond, and that love of a mother for the children, which is unique, even in the animal kingdom?

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Where is that love?

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It shows that, as adults As humans, we can be extremely selfish to that degree, that we will even abused and exploited our own children and abandon them

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to seek fulfillment ourselves.

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And if it was genuine love, how could we claim to love a stranger to that degree that we would be willing to sacrifice our own children?

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That is no love for the children. That is no love for this newcomer. That is no love for anyone else. All it is is a love for oneself for the knifes it's a love for the nuts. And that's why Allah says in the Quran for our ether many other illa hakuho what are the local law in Guatemala so he can watch another episode of the show? For me the human body law.

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Allah says have you seen one who takes his knifes as his got?

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An alarm misleads despite his knowledge and understanding and a lot of places

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a seal

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on the person's hearing and heart and a barrier of a person avail before their eyes.

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So who will guide him after Allah? Do not take heed?

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This is it when a person makes one's knifes their God, they can only have one God loves Allah who would the Allah says in Surah, Allah, Masha Allah Allah Allahu Albanian iffi jiofi that law has not created two hearts for any man in one person, in his in his person.

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Allah has not created two hearts. You can only have one God, you can only have one supreme deity. You can only have one purse when you want being whom you wish.

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And that is of law. And if it's not a law, then it'll be an idol, an idea, a concept, a person will ultimately just one's knifes. Just like the Arabs, it was set of them that the Arabs would worship a rock.

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And then afterwards, they would develop a disliking for that one rock so they would choose another rock and worship.

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And this is what we do. In fact,

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in order to, in order to in not just in order to in Hindi in order to in the Asian languages.

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Do you know what a beloved is called?

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sa ma m, you must have heard of that famous word Sunnah. So a beloved

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is called Sunnah.

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And that word is actually from Arabic.

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And Sunam who will Islam means an idol.

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It means an idle

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and have an interesting note in the same Asian languages. Do you know what a name for a husband is?

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When they call it

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so a beloved is a son, and the husband is Hassan. And that's a mispronunciation of hus meaning. It's the same word, but in Asian languages, it's difficult to pronounce the school. So that's why instead of saying French, we say further, instead of saying us that we say Anissa.

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So it's us fetch.

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Instead of saying what we say with that, it's just a mispronunciation. The Arabs were very clear in their language it's so

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awesome, is mispronunciation of hustle. And that's what the call has been. And again, it's been imported from Arabic, and you know, US means

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an opponent.

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So voila, he the distortion of love, and the concept of love in our Bollywood.

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This is, the husband is called hustle, which means opponent, and the beloved is called sunnen, which means an idol.

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The love of Allah subhanho wa Taala should be supreme and as the prophets of Allah equals, and I'm saying that there are three things which are found in a purse.

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They still taste the sweetness of Eman there are and the first thing is that Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam should be more beloved than anyone else. And as I was saying a moment earlier, ultimately, the love of law is paramount to Supreme, you can only have one God, if it's not going to be a last panel or data, it's going to be something or someone else. And that's something or someone else will become an idol. Just like in order to do an Asian in Hindi and Asian languages. The word for the beloved is Sunam, which means an idol. And that's exactly what it is. A person worships the sun and worships the idol as they should have worshipped Allah, they love the idol as

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they should have loved Allah, they become enslaved to the idol, as they should only have become enslaved or lost.

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And ultimately,

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it's a very strange cycle because it's not that person that they are really seeking.

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That they are worshipping. It's their own knifes, but because they think they can find what their what they want the gratification of their soul, the fulfillment of that

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the answer to their longing and their seeking and the desire of the knifes because they think they will find it in that person.

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That's where their devotions are for the time being. But within a short while, they feel that this person is disappointing as a failure and they will fail they will fail.

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So they are removed in all that attachment and devotion is then given to something or someone else.

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And the pert that the previous one is discarded and disposed.

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Because that was never the goal. That was never the objective. It's always to do with enough.

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So one can only have one God

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and that God is either one's knifes, or it's a loss.

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If it's a law, then that person will find peace and contentment and solace and settle. They will find settlement. A few weeks ago I spoke about Bomani in

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the last panel with Allah sees an early victory lap. You know that in the remembrance of Allah.

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hearts to find DOMA Nene which means settled

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law salesmen and assign a human worker in

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the whoever

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man or woman does good.

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Once being a believer, then we shall give them

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a beautiful life.

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And we often think people read these two verses and they think that we are doing everything. Where's that peace.

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Some hearts, peace of mind, contentment of the soul. Where's that serenity and tranquility, that happiness and joy, that I'm seeking a lot of promises. Allah says, know that in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find the common translation is peace. And then a lot also says whoever does good man or woman whilst being a believer, which will give him a good life. So with that good life was that peace of mind that Allah promises I do good I pray I fast I've given charity I go for pilgrimage. I am fully observant. I remember law I do much, Vic.

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But that peace of mind contentment of the heart eludes me, it's evasive one

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because we're looking for in the wrong things. We think joy and happiness, again comes from possessions. We think a good life means a good income, a good career, a good home,

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and beach, raw possessions and enjoyment on Earth.

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These things are all peripheral.

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The material,

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even the vicar of Allah will not give you the kind of peace that you seek. Because you need to know what you want. First.

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You need to know what you want.

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You say Look, you're looking for peace. You need to understand what peace is. You're looking for contentment, you need to understand what contentment is, you're looking for tranquility and serenity and solace and comfort. You need to know what all of these things are. You're looking for bliss and joy and happiness. You need to know what they are before you can recognize them. Some of us wouldn't be able to recognize piece even if it was before us. We won't be able to recognize even if it comes to us.

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So what is that piece? What is that tranquility? What is that Serenity? What is that comfort that Allah promises that happiness and that joy that's in Allah with

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had that regardless of the lack of material possessions.

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And do you know what that tranquility and serenity is? It's Omar Nina la doesn't promise pieces we think a lot of promises woman in a lab victory law document in now that in the remembrance of a lot two hearts find it mate Nan and Bomani. Now, that explained a few weeks ago what it meant now and what's Omar Nina, it means settlements. So the heart no longer remains, Mr.

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Potter, agitated, it's settled. And strangely enough, the word emotion in the English language from Latin, and the word emotion from its original latin word means disturbance.

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So the word emotion itself means disturbance.

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So tomar Nina in Arabic means settled.

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That means your emotions aren't all over the place. You don't feel that trembling, that agitation, that sense of remaining putter, that disturbance, you don't feel any of that you remain settled in heart and mind regardless of what's happening around you. And that's the problem is that last pyramidal dynamics, one can only find in the level of a loss in Allah

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one has to love Allah and His Messenger some love it more than anyone else. And only then will a person find that Hello, that sweetness of email that a lot of promises and

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the level of love and the love is messenger sort of online. Remember, how do you record delay there relates from above or the lover and that one's prophets in the love it was known was with one of the Allahu M. And he was actually holding his hand so the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was lovingly holding the hand of

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the lover and said to him Yasuda law

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I love you

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more than anyone else, after my soul.

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So after myself, I love you more than anyone else. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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one of you cannot become a true belief

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until he loves me even more than he loves himself.

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It's a matter of the elaborate answer the sort of law. I love you mean for myself. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to me earlier on now or

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and and the sort of Article of the law

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And a quote by Mahatma Gandhi among others. Now you may not

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have a new idea he was one of the winners in one of you cannot become a true believer that cannot truly believe until I'm more beloved to him, and then his parents, his children, all of them.

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And this habit of the Allah,

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they truly loved him more than they love their children

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more than they love themselves.

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Because their love for him

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was itself a result of the love of Allah

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are saying earlier, we live our madness. What's the reason for that love of armor, even though that love can change, and

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it's because of that bomb, and that they are ultimately responsible for bringing us into the world, then imagine what should be our love. Because Allah create us.

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He is the cause and the reason and the sole reason for our existence. And that bond will lives far greater than the bond of a child with its mother, because he breathed into other alayhis salam, our Father of his spirit.

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So the spirits that resides within us.

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That comes from Adam alayhis salaam, that who is deeply connected with a loss.

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So that love is there, we just need to recognize it and bring

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it truly is there we need to bring it to

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the pain that we carry in

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that pain. The only person that only being that can remove that pain is a loss.

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And that pain is of longing is of emptiness. We want other human beings to remove that pain. How can others whether they are our husbands or others who are full of pain themselves remove our pain.

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At times, this is why we have these love hate relationships. All they do is bring out the pain.

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They don't give us pain they bring out the pain in us.

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The only one who can remove that pain is a loss.

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Because of that deep and eternal connection that every one of us has, with Allah has so much.

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And even the left Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam should be and can only be for the sake of Allah, and he can only be secondary to

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those who claim to love the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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and yet, in a way ended up loving him more than they love Allah.

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And in their claim of the love of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they disobeyed a law, they should really question themselves is my love for the Messenger of Allah. Truly, the love of the messenger for Allah himself says in the Quran,

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Allah has to be Ronnie, you become a La Jolla, Philippines.

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That same if you true if you love a law than Follow me.

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A law will love you in return.

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So we claim to love a law we claim to love the Messenger of Allah. And yet in doing so, we dispense disobeyed along with the so Baker's messenger is that genuine love? And how can we claim to love the Messenger of Allah more than we live a life that's impossible.

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That love that is not the love of the Messenger of Allah is the love of an laughs and we're actually making the Messenger of Allah and excuse for our own love.

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We wish to party, we wish to commit sins. We wish to gratify ourselves, we wish to fulfill our own lowly designs. We wish to entertain ourselves and enjoy ourselves. And we actually justify that reveling that partying, that

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enjoyment, that entertainment by claiming that we are doing this out of love for the Messenger of Allah when he would have been the first to disapprove of it. And I'm not saying that in a speculative manner, when he has already disapproved of it.

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When we disobey Allah brazenly and openly in the name of the love of the Messenger of Allah, when both Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam condemn those very things that we do in the name of the love of the messenger of ALLAH hafiz

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Can we say that the love of Allah and His messenger

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that is the love of ourselves the love of our knifes and it's an insult

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to say that that is out of the love of the Messenger of Allah. So

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how about the unlocker love to learn is messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they loved him because of their love for love.

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When a person truly loves Allah, they will love one another accordingly as well. Their love for each other will be pure. And that's why the second thing mentioned in the heading is

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the first one through which you shall taste the sweetness of email, that alarm is messenger subtle alarm or any customer will deliver to him than everyone else. And the second thing

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will allow you

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and that he loves the person. He loves them only for the sake of Allah, to love for the sake of Allah is also another character of

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our land with one heavy it's a vast topic, but

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and so much can be said. But I'll end with this. If we truly true love, pure love is only for this is only for Allah for the sake of And out of that love for Allah that pure and true love for Allah.

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Love for all the things stem,

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the love of those things that olala the love of those people that Allah loves, and primarily amongst them, pursuit of love. So the law while equals love and the prophets of Allah, that have this habit of the alarm.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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that mountain to learn it and others relate that he said a lot lot of us have learned

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from an

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woman as

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a woman as an advocate of

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another law, you Scalia,

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he said,

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fear love, fear love, my companions do not make them a target. I have your criticism and your enmity after me.

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Because whoever loves them loves them because of his love for me.

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And whoever dislikes them and hates them, he hates them because of his hatred for me.

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And whoever hurts

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but he has hurt me and ever hurts me. He has hurt a lot and whoever hurts Allah, Allah will seize.

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So I would love for this habit of the Allahu is because I love the messenger, and I will love the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is ultimately because of a loss of data. So from the love of Allah stems all love, genuine, true pure love. And that means love for other people, just as a love said, and this was with the verse I began. This is the verse I began with in the beginning in the Medina Armand wireman. asylee had Sage Allah humara man would, indeed those who believe in who do good deeds, Allah will are among the gracious one will create love for them. Allah will create love for the messenger for his beloved people, his beloved servants in the hearts of his beloved

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servants, and I'll end with this one. That means when we love for what love when we love one another, including strangers, when we love each other as brothers or sisters, I in faith, we love other people. We do it out of purity. Because that is the love that a lot of places in our hearts, we all of that love is secondary and subservient to the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala because it stems from that love.

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We saw how learning

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in America African law he actually relates that and so humble and others that have bought resale how Lanny Rakim a whole lot of famous scholar and saints amongst the companion amongst the web. And I spoke about him briefly when I commented on the idea of a booth at a party or the alarm.

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about the first the last the men in the gym, the one who relates that lady from the firing of the alarm is the same reason how Lani rahimullah so we saw how Elon says that I entered the masjid of Damascus. And I saw a large group of people seated around a young man who was extremely handsome of face and who are bright teeth, shining teeth.

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And he was full of composure.

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And they sat around him. And whenever they would discuss they would refer to him. Whenever they had a question they would ask him or southern camera.

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And they would, and I've explained this phrase, they would return quenched of their thirst with his answer and opinion. So I asked someone who is that young man, so they said that is more other than

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the companion of a sort of lots of love. It was like

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she said, The next day I went to the mustard of Damascus extremely early, I went early. When I went there, I already found my other than the gibble there praying Salah before.

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So I waited for him to finish. And then when you finish, I went in front of him and I approached him from in front, and I sat down, obviously this was done out of humility before him. And I said to him,

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I love you for the sake of allow

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someone other than the general of the law firm said to him, truly only for the sake of Allah. So I said only for the sake of Allah is a truly only for the sake of Allah. As a truly only for the sake of Allah is a truly only for the sake of Allah to truly and only for the sake of Allah. Then rather than a jumble of the Allah grabbed him by by his clothes, his cloak, and he pulled them towards him. And then he said, in that case of ship, received the glad tidings for in nice America to sort of live some of the law while he was sending me a call. For indeed I have heard a large messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say that Allah the Almighty says, What do you

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limit have been

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seen a fee when Mutasa within a fee? When What about the Lena fee that Allah has original essays, my love My mother becomes obligatory and binding for those who love one another for my sake, who sits with one another for my sake, who visit one another for my sake, and who makes sacrifices for each other.

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And that's how this habit of the alarm or a loved one

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because the selfishness was removed, that selfishness, that longing, that worshipping of one's own soul, that seeking the fulfillment of one's own desires, all of that is removed. So any love which stems and emanates from that selfless heart, and it can only do so for the sake of a laugh of the love of Allah. It will be pure and selfless. And imagine if this true servants of Allah can love strangers and such purity because of their love for our last panel with Anna, imagine how deep, profound and pure and selfless their love will be for their spouses, for their loved ones for their husbands, for their wives, for their parents, for their children, for their siblings, because it

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will be pure.

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He won't be love

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rising from a selfish corrupt

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heart enough's. It will be a love that emanates from a pure and selfless heart.

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Because ultimately, it stems from the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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That is pure and true love And with this, may Allah, Allah make us amongst those who love love scannable with and as he should be, who love what love loves, and who love one another out of that love of Allah or some of the law who was in America after he wore a suit in the Vietnam War and he was happy he had marine Chronicle law

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and as the federal court

True Love – Delivered by Shaykh Riyadh ul Haq on 14th February 2016 at Al Kawthar Academy, Leicester (UK)

As human beings we naturally experience love and the feeling of being loved. Our love is placed in many things which are finite, but what would happen if we placed our love and trust in Allah who is infinite? Rasulullah ï·º is a prime example of one who loved Allah more than anyone else and it allowed him to bear many tests and hardships that came his way.

We continue to turn our love and attention away from Allah, yet He will always be ready to accept us as soon as we turn towards Him. Allah’s love will never run out and it is up to us to develop that level of God consciousness and love for Him.

This lecture addresses the aspect of spirituality and love in Islam. The reasons why we want to be loved are also covered, especially within the context of marriage. Truly loving Allah would result in streams of love for anybody and anything connected to Allah.

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