Traits of Hypocrisy Part 5

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Rely on me salatu salam ala CD mursaleen Muhammad in the beginning Muhammad Anwar Ibrahim SEIP ajwain.

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Specter listens, we gather again for the continuation of the topic of traits of hypocrisy.

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In the last session, I began commenting on another set of verses

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in the Holy Quran,

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in which Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks of

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a hypocrite

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loss says woman a Nassima in your dibaca Allahu Philhealth. In dunya we should allow people to behave in a

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way that will allow Sarah fill out of the UFC the fee How will you Legal Health or wellness will allow you hibel facade why the appeal

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is to be with me for hospital Jahannam will a bit suddenly

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I'm in a nursing machine of soap the hot metal dial to Allah, Allah are often believer.

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Allah says of the people that there is one

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that is he

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whose words please you an impression in the world.

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And he makes a lot of witness over what in his heart

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and he is

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the most quarrels

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of the adversaries.

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And when he turns

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it when he turns away from you and goes away somewhere else,

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when he turns

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he strives

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in the land,

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or strives on Earth

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to spread corruption

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and to destroy

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land and livestock.

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And Allah does not like corruption.

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And when it has said to him,

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be wary of law, fear Allah.

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arrogance in sin seizes him.

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So Jahannam is sufficient for him,

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and an evil and evil in abode it is.

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And they are of the people.

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One, and there is of the people, one who sells his soul

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seeking the pleasure of Allah

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and Allah his Most Compassionate with the servants.

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So this is a translation of this set of verses.

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I began commenting on the very first verse, and I said quite a bit, so I won't repeat myself. But I'll just quickly recap and mention a few other things. So in the first verse of this set, Allah says, and of the people that is one whose words please you impress you in the worldly life.

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And he makes a lot of witness over Watson, his heart, and He is the most quarrelsome of the adversaries. So I spent quite a bit of time explaining what were the Assam and he is the most quarrelsome of the adversaries. And indeed, this is actually a trait of hypocrisy, constantly arguing, debating.

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In fact, the word alert is translated as quarrelsome.

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And it comes the roots word of alert is derived from the two sides of the neck, especially the neck of a camel.

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And

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this may sound surprising what has this got to do with the topic, but it gives us an understanding and an insight into

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Why this quarrelsome person has been called alert.

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So, the word is derived from the root word which denotes or speaks of the sides of the neck, then it became more widely used to refer to the two sides. So why the quarrelsome person has been called a lead is because whenever you argue with him or whenever he argues with you,

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or you protest something to him, or you plead with Him, remonstrate with him,

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then there is no winning that Quarrel there is no winning that argument because when you catch him here, he jumps to the other side.

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And when you catch him there, he jumps to the other side. So because it's constantly jumping from one side to another, you catch him here.

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He runs somewhere else makes another point. When you catch him out in that point, he runs back to the other side, he makes another point. So his constant fleeing from one side to the other, is what eventually gives him the name Aled.

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Darius, derived from the two sides of the neck. So we're a little Assam and he is the most quarrelsome of the adversaries. And as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam said, in the moment, meaning shuttled the Allahu anha relates that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said so these are Buhari and others in Abuja, Regina ilaha IL Allah Abdul Huseyn indeed, the most detested of men in the sight of Allah is the most quarrelsome, adverse adversary, the one who constantly argues

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he is detested not only by the creation, that is he is detested by the Creator. And of course we all we are all arguments

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loss as of human beings

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that we have created from a drop

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Who are we ultimately

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we have been created from a drop a drop of seen

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a drug which once it's secreted from the body, makes the hustle obligatory upon the individual.

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One Drop

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then Allah says for either haha see morphine and lo and behold, he is now a clear adversary.

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Arguing,

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always arguing

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And in another verse, what Ganon in some authority in juggler, and man is in man is most argumentative of things. Or man is in most things, arguments.

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And that's the nature of man. We always have something to say always. So we need to work on ourselves. In fact, Imam Bukhari and others relate that once a Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam,

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Imam Abdullah Hamza ranked Allah Haley relates this part of the Hadith Imam AquaDome number relates and then the others relate the latter part. So the first part of the story is this. Imam Muhammad, Allah Healy relates that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one night, he

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went to visit his daughter, Father model the Allah Varna and earlier the Allah horn. And he said to both of them, this was early on earlier on in the night, he said to both of them, rise and pray

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to the rise and stand before Allah and pray salah, meaning that

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he told them that then he went back home

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and he began praying Salah

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and he continued in his Salah. So because the homes were very close to each other,

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he heard no sound from the house or father modeled the Allah one.

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So short while later he went back

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and he found both of them sleep. So this latter part of the hadith is unrelated by Buhari and others as well, that the prophets Allah Allah it was still in visited his daughter Fatima and it really Allah one woman and they were both sleep.

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So he woke them up. And he said, Why don't you rise and pray? So we can only understand this hadith of Bacardi if we understand the earlier part of the story, which is related by imam who would have been humbled

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He had already gone and told them to rise. But they had stayed sleeping

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or had gone sleep. So when he went back, this was actually the second time. So he went back and he said to ally, Italy, he said to both of them, why don't you rise and pray? So I needed the Allah on Saturday and he said, Yeah rasool Allah, our souls are in the hands of Allah. If he wishes to wake us up, he will wake us up.

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So

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that we fell asleep that was another of Allah. Our hands are in our souls are in the hands of Allah.

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And if Allah wished, Allah wake us up, he Allah.

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It's up to Allah, whether he wakes us up or not. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam didn't say anything he rose, and as he was leaving his slapped his thigh, the prophets, Allah Allah, he's alum, and he kept on saying, what Daniel in Santa Clara she injured that I recite in the verse of the Quran. What colonel in Santa Clara che in Jeddah, la wa colonel in Santa Clara che in Jeddah, LA, that, indeed, man is argumentative in most things.

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So, we shouldn't have a reply to everything.

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It's natural, it's instinctive. And there's a reason for this. Whenever someone

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points out something

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criticizes, and maybe not even criticize, makes a suggestion.

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We are all insecure in some way.

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And we often take criticism to be personal criticism. We perceive it as an attack on us. Our brain works very fast. And the calculation is this.

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I make a mistake of

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something, I shouldn't have placed this glass here.

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Someone tells me you shouldn't have put that glass there.

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The way the brain works is as follows.

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He's telling me, I shouldn't put that glass there. This belittles me. This diminishes me. This makes me look small. This is an attack on me. This isn't a criticism. This isn't a suggestion. This isn't a corrective measure. It's an attack. It's an attack on me, my ego, my psyche, my heart, my being my personality. If that person attacks me makes me nothing. And then this is how the brain goes into overdrive. So what's, what's the reaction?

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The mind thinks that the person is being attacked is under mortal threat. So

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the hormones and the thought processes of fight

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or flight or fight kick in, and the person then has to fight. It's almost like I have to defend myself.

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And then the person reacts, erupts in anger.

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Like an animal. When an animal like a cat, when a cat is under threat, what does it do?

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If it can't, sometimes we may run away by most occasions, depending on the threat. On many occasions, it won't run, but it will stay there. And it'll inflate itself and puff itself. It it it will arch its back. Its hairs will stand on and one of the reasons for doing this is to make itself look larger than it is.

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So the arching of the back, the hair standing on end, all of that is designed to inflate the body and appear to be more appear to be stronger than the cat really is. And it's just an example of one cat but many other animals do similar things. And the cat stays there and growls making noises because it's it feels it's under mortal threat. It's fight mechanism is kicking in. So when someone tells another Oh, you shouldn't have put that glass there and innocent comment.

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We react as though we are under mortal threat.

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Our fight mechanism kicks in. And it's almost as though we are fighting for our survival. And this person was making a very innocent suggestion is actually a lethal threat to our very being and existence.

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These are our insecurities.

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A person who is secure or emotionally healthy and intelligent and stable.

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His reaction will be, and it should be.

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You shouldn't have had that glass there. Oh, sorry, I didn't realize just Aqua hair off

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and over and done.

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And that's it. And this should be our reaction for everything

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for everything.

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If someone Yes some people do make snide remarks.

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They do like to deliver a punch in the guise of advice.

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They do like to give a few slaps in the guise of helping, so I'm only trying to help you in reality they enjoying the thrill of slapping you about emotionally and mentally. So you do get idiots like that, but hopefully they that should be discernible, but most occasions people want to help and advise if you can tell that this person's being stupid. And what do you do? There's no point fighting that handled like ignore them. Why are these annual jerky lean ignore the ignorant

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there's no point bringing yourself down to the level of the ignorance Salam Alikum Lana de little jerky mean Allah says in the Quran, peace b&c. We don't see these.

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So if someone's being an idiot, fine, you can ignore them. Otherwise, anyone else.

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And, unfortunately, we react in this manner, not to strangers, but even with our loved ones. So husband tells a wife something.

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She reacts, wife tells her husband something here we're

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brothers, Blood Brothers, siblings say something to each other. Everyone begins react.

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And

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this is not the behavior of men. And what men is open, open minded, open hearted, willing to receive help and advice willing.

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A believer is a mirror of another believer.

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And

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one of the meanings of this is

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that a believer

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is able to just as a mirror is able to point out your faults.

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Your imperfections, your blemishes, your spots and your warts.

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You don't smash the mirror in anger, do you if the if you see that, oh, there's a mark here. Do you get angry at the mirror

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that the mirror pointed out the mark in the blemish on my face now, you're actually glad and you fought well. You feel grateful and fortunate that you were able to see this in time before you went out.

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So rather than smash the mirror, maybe next time you remind yourself or I'm in a rush now but when I come back, I must polish the mirror. So that next time it's even more clear.

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So you don't punish the mirror you polish it.

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So similarly, when a mock men, who should serve as a mirror

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acts as a mirror to another believer and points out their faults sincerely and wisely. Then

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a Mothman A believer is actually grateful to that purse.

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Just as I'm older than her barbital the alarm I used to say, Rahim Allah hombre and other illegal or you be May Allah have mercy

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on a man who grants me a gifts of my errors.

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And indeed he was like that. I'll say more about this later. I've mentioned this before that

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I only teach adults

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in the earning class.

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Even though the students are studying Quran and the Hadith and see

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I often have to tell

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that

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in learning be like children

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don't be adults in learning be like children

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and there's a reason for that. But even as teachers

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when teachers point out a mistake

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to adult students, or correct them

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There was an incident where one alum, one of his students

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he was very eager

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to step on the masala and lead salah, very eager, very pushy, very forward.

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So one day they had him because he was whenever he was absent that other person would always try to take the place of the trade.

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So when the Sheikh was there,

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he stepped forward to lead Salah. So because the student couldn't get on to the suggestion, the masala to lead salah.

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What's the next best position? The McLean to give it on?

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So he started giving a comma

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and he was unable to pronounce the words of the iqama correctly.

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So the sheikh corrected him. It said he never forgave the SHAEF for correcting him in his akarma. He never forgave him.

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He was bitter.

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That why was I shown up in front of everal.

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So when teachers point out to adult students,

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that's incorrect.

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We'd again

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adult students, how do they respond a lot, because they're older now.

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They've got 2530 years of life experience behind them. All of that has accumulated. What happens? Well, before I explain what adults do, let me explain what children are so beautiful. This is why I often say be like children.

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A child is in the class of 30.

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Everyone's watching and listening. Everyone's looking at each other. And you tell a child? No, no, no, you shouldn't have done that. That's wrong. You do it like this.

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And the child is told this in front of 29 others. How does the child respond? The child may giggle. The child may smile and say Oh,

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I didn't realize I'm sorry. Okay. And don't unforgotten. That's our child. The child does not take it to heart. The child apologizes the child rectifies it and not only that the child is often grateful.

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Oh, Miss Oh, teacher. I'm sorry. I didn't realize okay, that's good. Okay, I'll do it like this from now. And you can see that with children.

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They are in love.

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And that innocence is so beautiful. They don't have years of pent up frustration and anger.

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They don't have all these deep, accumulating insecurities.

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They're not bitter. They are clean of heart. So when that clean of hearts innocent child is told publicly in front of 29 others that you were wrong. You shouldn't have done this. You should have been done this way. The instant reaction responses. Oh, sorry. I didn't realize okay.

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In contrast when a teacher tells an adult student sorry, that's wrong. The teacher has to apologize first and say, sorry, that's wrong. So the teacher apologizes.

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Sorry, but that's wrong.

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What What's the students reaction the adult students

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he sulks for one week.

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One week he will sulk

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can sit there lemon faced for the next week.

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And for Asians

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he won't sit there lemon faced. He will sit there gorilla faced for one week.

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Gorilla is bitter gourd.

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He'll sit there Karela faced bit with the face of a bitter gourd for one week. Why was I told I'm wrong?

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And that's all they can think about.

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So when you wish to be a student, you have to learn to be humble, open minded, open hearted, be willing to receive and accept credits. Because it's not meant to belittle you or diminish you or put you down or humiliate you. It's meant to better

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help you.

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Raise you

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I'll say some more about this later. But going back to the verse, Allah says, I'm in a nursery, Gible holdable filha dunya.

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And of the people that is one who, whose words impress you in the worldly life. And the last part of the verse I've spoken about, and he makes a lot of witness of what's in his heart, and He is the most quarrelsome adversary. But there's another part of this verse, which is interesting, which I haven't touched upon, which is his words, impression of the people is one whose words in the pressue please you in the worldly life. Now the meaning of filha dunya, in the worldly life could be both, one, that his words impress you only in the worldly life.

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But they will be, they will be of no use in the,

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in the hereafter. That's one meaning. Another meaning is that his words impress you, not just in the worldly life, but of the worldly life, ie, that and we're always talking about the dunya.

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His concern is the dunya. And that's all he talks about. And he's got a lot to say about

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so his words please you and impress you about the worldly life of the world. Because that's his primary concern.

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We should Allah Allah mafia call me he will do his arm and he makes a lot of witness over what's in his heart have already explained this, and he is most quarrelsome of adversaries. Moving on to the next verse where either there will land when he turns, ie when he turns away from you and he goes away from from your presence. Sarah feel a little

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he strives on earth, He makes an effort on earth. He races and rushes on Earth, running about people run about to do good. People run around,

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helping others. People run around, trying to make their world and other people's world and lives better. But the mullah does he do? Sarah Phil Otto, he runs around, too. He makes an effort. He strives but his striving, his effort is to what end, leave see the fill up. He strives to spread corruption on

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to cause mischief to create mischief.

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Where you can have the oneness

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and destroying land and livestock. Now that's the extreme.

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So corruption doesn't always mean mayhem and the key and destruction. Corruption can simply mean sin.

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When we sin, we cause corruption.

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Because the original meaning of facade is to spoil.

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So when a person's sins, they spoil their character, they spoil their heart, they spoil themselves.

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So,

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facade can mean sin to

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and our sins have an effect on the land, on the environment, on land and livestock on people. Allah says in the Quran, the halal facade of liberty will be Marchesa, at the nursery, the combat under the Amarula. During facade, corruption, strife, has appeared on Earth as a result of what be my guesstimate at the nurse as a result of what people's hands have committed.

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Why

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leave the burglar the army. So the alarm may give them a taste of the consequences of some of the things they have done, let unlocking your dream, perhaps they may return to the good way.

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So our sin,

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our misdeeds, have an effect. Not only on is on others on society, but actually on land among tilth, on livestock on Annie.

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This is the teaching of the Quran and that's the verse, facade corruption strife discord has appeared on the land, and not just on the land but in the sea, the hull and facade of the Berlin Wall. facade has appeared corruption has appeared in the land and in the sea as a result of the sins of pee.

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So that Allah may give them the taste

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Have some of what they have done just some law along your journey in the hope that they may return ie to Allah, and to sense

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and to piety

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and so that they may desist from iniquity and sin. So our sins

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are a cause of corruption, our sins on innocent.

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We can't just simply say This is between me and Allah.

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sins, different kinds of sins and different grades have an effect and an impact on us on those around us. Facade means spoiling and I will soon spoil not only us, but spoil things for everyone around us. And of course, the extreme version is that someone actually engages in widespread corruption not just a personal corruption and sin, but actual destruction and violence.

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And that's what Allah refers to here to the local health, the oneness, sorry, leaves to the fellow when you look at health, the oneness

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that he strives on Earth to cause corruption and to destroy land, and livestock will allow you to build facade. And Allah does not like corruption in any form.

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What you are dealing with the pillar, and now we'll return to the same topic, whether that be the love that they love, and when it is said to him feel love,

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or the tour is suitable if arrogance and sin ceases. And we really need to understand this. What this means is

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it's a continuation of what I was saying earlier

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that when a person's faults are pointed out to them, when their errors are highlight,

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the person reacts in different ways.

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Either the person can be listening, receptive, accommodate, accepting

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and humble.

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And therefore change for the better.

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Or the person can be arrogant, defiant, resisting,

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argumentative

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and refused to accept. Therefore, that person will never be corrected, will never be bettered, or reform. Unfortunately, they will learn the hard way. If they ever

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are such a person, Allah says that the hypocrites see these are the traits of hypocrisy. As believers we we have to strive to ensure that we do not adopt these characteristics are your powers

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but when it's a set to him feel law

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arrogance and sin ceases

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we have to try and control and curb our

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anger can arise from insecurity, deep seated insecurity. Anger can arise from arrogance.

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And in fact, arrogance itself can often be a mask for one's insecurity.

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So one's weak within.

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So the person acts strong.

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As a mask, a person is deeply insecure

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and actually considers themselves

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lonely.

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But you can't reveal that to the world. Sometimes there are flashes.

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So how does a person mask one's deep seated insecurity and one's sense of loneliness and worthlessness? By creating an image of superiority, they deep down they feel inferior, but they can't let that onto the world. So what do they do? They create an image and a mask and a facade of superiority.

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So I'm better than you.

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I'm better than everyone else.

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So arrogance, anger, arises from deep seated insecurity.

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Arrogance can also arise from D

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reseated insecurity.

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So we really need to control and curb our anger because anger, clouds our judgment, it really clouds, our judgments it blinds us. And no one answer no one else can solve this for us. We have to work on ourselves consciously, will really do.

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Just as we never forget to eat and drink.

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We eat and drink every day.

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Because that's the nourishment of our bodies. We have to take time out every day, for self reflection, for contemplation.

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For introspection,

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we really do look at ourselves, what's wrong with me? And how can I improve myself? How can I better myself

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and has to be confronted. Anger has to be curbed and controlled. This anger will destroy us. Anger destroys marriages. So many people argue, and in their argument, they threaten one another with divorce. And they actually do proceed with a divorce.

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And I deal with the lab all the time.

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And some of the stories we get to hear.

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The wife contact me and says My husband gave me the lap. Wallah, he this is no joke. I say how many times? She says, Well, he said a million times.

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So what? And not that this happened on more than one occasion. What? It's no surprise, but I have to confirm.

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Yeah, he was arguing, shouting, ranting and raving. And he was saying to me, I give you a million pillock

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a million dollars

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and then two days later,

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the same husband turns around and says says Oh, what have I done? My wife, my wife, or wife?

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Share? Can you help us? I gave my wife the laugh. How many a million

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so and it's all done in NK.

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Now, why am I mentioning anger in this context, because it's that deep seated insecurity, okay.

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When we are told you are wrong, you are in error, you need to be corrected, you need to correct yourself.

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We can either see it as an attack on our psyche, on our being and our very existence on our person

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and react accordingly. Which means we argue we fight,

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we threaten

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we become defiled. And, again, it's that psychological process, which is

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if someone says to us,

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you are wrong.

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You know what the psychological processes, it's as follows. person thinks that

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I was wrong.

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That means

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that I did something wrong.

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I was wrong.

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I wasn't complete. That means I wasn't perfect.

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That means I'm not perfect.

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So we have this black and white thinking.

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So if I'm not perfect, that means I'm worthless. I'm absolutely nothing.

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Me being wrong, diminishes me destroys me, belittles me reduces me to nothing. And I can't have that. How can I be so worthless.

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And so I cannot accept time wrong. Because if I accept I'm wrong, that means I'm a nobody and worthless. I've been reduced to zilch to nil.

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And I can like

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I must be perfect and I have to be perfect to be complete.

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And so this label that this person is trying to attach to me of me being wrong, and therefore imperfect.

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And imperfection means I'm worthless because it's for us in our minds. It's either zero or 100. Nothing in between. It's either black or white. It's either nothing or everything.

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So if it's not everything, the automatic conclusion is it's nothing and I can't

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tabla so I have to resist I have to be defiant. And so no, I'm not wrong. I'm not wrong.

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You said this. No, I never you did this no one didn't. You saw wrong you heard from

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and then the other person actually begins to question their own sanity.

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Maybe will

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gaslight

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This is known as gaslight it's part of the process of gaslighting.

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And what men doesn't think like that movement is balanced.

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And we should remind ourselves of this and actually train ourselves on what men is balance. This balance will lead him to be unheard to be humble.

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Confident without being arrogant

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and humble,

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without being insecure.

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And how is that

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the mop men realize

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that Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah has created me

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and Allah has not made his creation perfect.

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Allah has chosen not to make

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humans perfect

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in every way,

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physically.

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Because what's the idea of perfection? Nothing wrong at all. Absolutely nothing.

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We are not perfect.

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Physically, mentally, emotionally.

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And there's no harm in

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Allah subhana who with the Allah says physically, woman, not a miracle not gifts

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of Allah and whomever we give age we reverse in creation, what do they not understand? As we grow older, we become weaker physically, how features change.

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Our bodies grow weak.

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We deteriorate until we depart from this well.

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Physically we are not perfect. We are not designed to be healthy forever. We are not

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even Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi salam, and all of the MBI li he was said he was salam suffered illness. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam fell ill. He suffered fever. He suffered injuries, he suffered wounds, he lost his teeth. In bird

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one of the lesser known facts is as follows. In the fifth year of hijra, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam actually fell off a horse

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as a result of which he broke his leg.

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So for one month Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam was convalescing. And he led the so he wasn't able to stand in Salah. So he led the Sahaba or the Allahu anhu, seated insular and that was the time when he told them that if the imam is reading salah standing you stand to and if he is leading Salah sitting use it to so in that period, the Sahaba the Allah one actually sat behind him in Salah mustard

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in the fifth year of hijra, in late in the 10th year of hedgerow and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam fell ill in the final, not the 10 Theo hijra, but in the beginning of the 11th year, when he finally fell ill in his final days, he still led them into law seated on that occasion, he told them that you must continue standing. So then you don't follow the imam in that. But there was a period when the Imam when the Sahaba of the Allahu Anhu followed the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam as he chose to pray. So he stood all of the time, so they stood behind him, but on that occasion, they prayed behind him seat because he was seated. Why? Because he had fallen off a horse. He had

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fallen off a horse and he had broken his neck.

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Proximal sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was poisoned. He suffered the ill effects of poison.

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It became buried, but it resurfaced in the final days. So it was a poison, which affected

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the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam in the final days and exacerbated his illness.

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So even sooner Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam so you're gonna you but or the Allah so you can have a YouTube or a

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As Salam

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he remained ill for years for years.

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And he remained so ill, that many, many people shunned him and abandoned him they couldn't even remain around.

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So even the MBR I think he was salam suffered illness.

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They suffered headaches, or saw the loss of the love it was still him in the final days. This whole battle the love and relate that he came out with his head tied with an Imam,

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the same

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oily, why was it oily? Because the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam was suffering severe and constant headaches in his final days, and that oil was massaged on his head to relieve him of the pain. And it was so copious that the oil will even seep through his Imam is Turb and that was Rasul Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam. So we are not perfect.

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We don't look perfect.

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And

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so you then are Musa alayhis salam.

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He suffered

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stuttering and stammering he suffered a speech impediment.

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law codes some in the Quran rubbish rashly so the way a silly Emery wire up the melissani if Oh,

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Allah told him go speak to her a Pharaoh. He prayed to Allah He said Oh Allah, rubbish Rouhani Saudi expand and open my bosom free.

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We are silly Emery and make easy my affair for me. Wow, look at that the middle is sunny. And Allah unravel this impediment and obstruction and this knot in my tongue. You have gone only so that they may understand what I say. The GRE one of the greatest of the prophets of Allah.

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See them are Musa alayhis salam had an octa and not in his tongue. He suffered a speech impediment. Allah says that of him. And in contrast, Allah says of Abdullah Hypnobabies saloon, Rasul Munna for being the leader of the hypocrites, what is our eight dibaca at some one ear Cullotta smiley cola him that when you see their bodies, they please you. And when they speak, you listen to them attentively and delight and obey even a son who was tall, handsome, welbilt Extremely eloquent, charismatic.

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It doesn't mean anything. Of course he wasn't perfect either. But Allah subhanho wa taala, Allah even placed a knot in the tongue of one of his chosen prophets, the one who spoke to Allah He had a knot in his tongue. Giving Musa Kaleem Allah had an aqua hen, isn't it sound Musa alayhis salam was gleam Allah that was his title, the one who would converse with Allah and the one who would converse with Allah had not in this time.

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So Allah subhanho wa Taala hasn't made any one of us perfect physically.

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So we shouldn't think of ourselves as being perfect. And we shouldn't even think of it or consider it as an ideal. There can be no perfection in the body.

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So we are content with what laws given us

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what we can change and improve we try beyond that unhampered.

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Everyone has to deal with it. So what do other people say?

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I went to visit someone in hospital a few days ago.

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So someone was there and we were just conversing.

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So one of the health practitioners and they said you know well, these are the cards you are dealt with.

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So some people like to make their way through and be strengthened with the thought that these are the cards we were dealt with.

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So when you are when cards are shuffled, and your opponents in the game, get aces and kings and queens and you are left with a humble two and three, you can't complain. These are the cards you're dealt you adapt, so you have to make do with them.

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So even in health, if you're if something happens to you, if

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you're short, or you're too tall, or you're too large, were you too skinny. Well these were the cards you were dealt with but that's one way of putting

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we we say this is other of Allah subhanho wa Taala and

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We are content with others.

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So one we should realize we are not perfect in body.

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We are not perfect in mind.

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Allah has made no one perfect

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Imam Bukhari Rahmatullah Healy

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would never forget anything.

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As in that famous story

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we Mamelodi Rahimullah

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went to the city and they

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tested him.

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In the memorize in his knowledge of Hadith 100 of them, this Masjid was full. Everyone was waiting for him when he arrived.

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In the city, he was well received, then they decided to test him they were test people in a hadith. So what the scholars they got, there was a Council of Scholars they gathered, and they said, We shall test them from a dignity smart evil Buhari tomorrow, and how shall we test him, we shall choose 10 scholars, and each of these 10 scholars will be given 10 Hadith.

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And they will all Mr. Hadith, and what they will do is that they will detach the chain of narration and all the names from the text of the Hadith. And they will mix up these chains and these texts. So the chain belonging to this hadith, they will attach to another Hadith, the chain belonging to that hadith, they will attach to this text of the Hadith. And then we will ask him would have been smart enough to hurry about this about these chains mixed of chains and texts, and we shall see whether he can

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detect the error and the anomalies. So the next morning or the next day when they all gathered.

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They said we would like to ask you about some Hadith he said go ahead. One Alim stood up, and he narrated

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the first hadith of his 10

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with a different chain of narration attached to a different text of the Hadith. When he finished the first Hadith Buhari said law already for I don't know this hadith, second, third fourth, they would narrate all of these a hadith of MCs chains

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and the most Hardy would say he wouldn't say anything he would just say law it for law it for law.

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I don't know it's I don't know it. After the first 10 He sat down the second one stood up he related his 10 he sat down the third one stood up he related his 10 until the 10th one stood up and he completed his 10 they have now completed 100 Confused chains with different texts.

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On an each occasion all Buhari was saying was law added for I don't know it. So many people who had no knowledge of Hadith began thinking What's this? He doesn't know anything. Is this the Mohammed bin is smart enough to Buhari everyone's talking about doesn't know anything.

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But that will Emma had understood

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that Allah ma had understood that this man knows what he's talking about. And then after the 100th Hadith, what did Buhari do? He said, You asked for you, you related this first Hadith, this is incorrect. This is a correct chain of narration that belongs to this text. Then this was a second and this was the third then there's the fourth. And he went through all 100 like that, even hijo de La Scala and your hammer hula most famous commentator Hadith of the ninth century, he died in 852. He said, Pidgin, he said, listen to His word. He said, It's not remarkable that we'll hardly knew the correct version of all 100 Hadith. He said that's not remarkable at all, because he has a half

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as of Hadith. What's remarkable, and what we must, and what we should lower our heads before is the fact that he heard all of these confused chains of narration attached to the wrong Hadith, just once and he heard all 100 of them. And in one sitting, he was able to memorize all 100

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yoke the whole logic.

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He said this is what's remarkable.

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This is what's remarkable. That was his memory.

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He was able to memorize 100 Incorrect chains of narration attached to incorrect Hadith, not text incorrect text. The texts were correct, but the chains were wrong.

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in one sitting, that's that was his memory. And yet he himself says and there are countless other stories. Yeah, he himself says

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at times when I'm traveling or away from

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Ha ha, my relatives would send me messages of greetings and salah.

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And when people would convey these greetings to me, I'd make a mental note that when I write back to my relatives, I will

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reply to their Salah so people would meet me so we've come from mojarra You're such and such a person you're such and such a person from your family conveys their Salaam and their greetings to you. So Mohammed evening smiley, that Buhari would say, I would make a note meaning mentally, that I must reply to their salaam, then later I would sit down.

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And this is the man who says, Once, I just thought to myself that recall the names of the students of Anas of nomadic or the Allah Han.

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Every one of us if I was to say to us mentioned and recall the names of 100 of your friends 100 Could we manage? Could we manage 100 friends, and that's our friends.

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And this is in America, the Allah on was one Sahabi one narrate

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and just have that one Narrator out of so many other Sahaba of the Allah Han, he had so many students, so Buhari said Juan Sanchez thoughts of the students of innocent nomadic are the Allahu, and the who were the students of aniseh nomadic for Havana and EP satin ethylamine filthy Mia. So in a moment, I was able to recall more than 300 names of the students of one so heavy and diplomatic.

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That was his memory.

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And yet, he says, When I would sit down to reply to the salaams of my relatives, and sit down, and I'd actually forget the names of the people who had given me salaam, I wouldn't be able to recall the names of my own relatives.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah gives what He wills to whom he wills, and Allah withholds what He wills from.

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Einstein

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he was a genius.

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But he never ever remembered his own phone number. And he wasn't a long mobile number 079.

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In those days, in the early part of the last century, all you had to do was remember three digits.

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So you tell the exchange the operator, link me into my phone.

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So they just pull the plug out and

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insert it into the

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phone slot. And it was three digits at the most four digits.

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Einstein never ever was able to memorize his three, four digits of his home phone number. On one occasion, it said that he was walking up and down the street, looking at all the doors because he forgot his own door.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah has not made anyone perfect. So you've had the you forget something just remember Einstein and

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it's a consolation.

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So

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Allah has made no one perfect physically, mentally, emotionally.

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Or psychologically, we all have our flaws and imperfections. So the mock me sees himself or herself in a very balanced way. I am not perfect in any way. And I shouldn't try to strive to that ideal because it's impossible.

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Allah Subhana Allah Allah has given me much Allah subhanho wa taala. Allah has chosen not to give me certain things, and I'm content with a couple of well, when it comes to deeds and behavior, even in behavior, even in deeds, I am not perfect for a suit allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam of a said in a hadith related by Mamma Mia the Imam had been a manager and there's so many others. And this is a wedding of a manager called Alumini. Adam bar hadal cover in the world war and all the children of Adam are sinners and the best of sinners are those who off turn to Allah in repentance. We are all sinners. We all make mistakes, every single one of us. Allah subhanho wa Taala told Rasul allah

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sallallahu alayhi wa salam, if Allah one limit,

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may Allah excuse you a Messenger of Allah, Nima Vinita, la

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Why did you grant them permission about the hypocrites

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Rasul Allah Subhan Allah Almighty

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was selling them was seated and dilla Hypno mimic tomorrow the Allah on came speak to him in muckety muck aroma.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was engaged with with one of the with some of the Quraysh and he felt that he could attend to Abdullah hidden on them or too late

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whilst he was speaking to some of the old age who weren't Muslims, and he was eager that they be given an audience and he gets an opportunity to speak to them to convince them of faith and I believe so when Abdullah had not only Mattoon can't speak to him, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam felt distracted and interrupted. So he didn't pay attention to him. So Abdullah hub normally macdon went away when he came back, and dilla hidden on the macdon came back. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam was slightly irritated that Why does he keep coming? So the prophets Allah, Allah because he wanted to speak to the Quraysh So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he

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was very mild, very mild mannered, very soft. So the the extent of his disapproval and the extent of his annoyance was that he Fran, prophets, Allah Allah, it was salam frand and he turned away. Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah revealed the verses Abba so what the Willa and Joe EREMA oh my god recolor Allah who is the confident Pharaoh Dickey

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Amendment is still gonna have fun to learn how to solder or Malaika Eliza? What a ma'am and Jack is our chef and turn but Allah, Allah told the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam in the third person, Allah Chai did the prophets Allah love it, he was I mean, the third person, Abba Soweto, Allah, He frand and turned away under a whole ama because a blind man came to him.

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Well, man, are you that eCola I love your Zika then it's a shift to first second person.

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And what do you know, meaning O Messenger of Allah?

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What do you know? Maybe he wishes to be purified. And then the verse has continued praising Abdullah macdon and condemning those that the prophets Allah Allah, Allah was speaking to Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah, correct at the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa Salam on a few occasions.

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One occasion, Allah because the Prophet salallahu Salam was very eager, Allah told him what you can come a couple of ideas on Eragon for industry authority and authority and Phil O'Sullivan this summer for

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the Messenger of Allah.

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If they're turning away from the

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is so heavy and burdensome on you.

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Then what's the solution for in install data into the VNF up and fill out? Well, in that case, if you can find a tunnel in the ground, or a ladder going up to the sky, so that you can come back to them with a sign? So Allah subhanho wa Taala is chiding the prophets of Allah Allah is in a loving way. So Allah azza wa jal corrected the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on a number of occasions in the Quran.

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But that was Rasul Allah so Allah Allah Almighty He was salam.

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As far as we are concerned, we are sinners.

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And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam has told us

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in fact, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would get angry, he would. And he said it so beautifully.

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He said, Oh, Allah,

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I'm healing.

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And I become angry just as humans become angry, they humans become angry. So Allah, if I have ever

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abused Swan at someone, or curse them, then I will Allah make this verbal abuse of that person, a compensation and forgiveness and an expiation for them in the act.

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They find I've ever in my anger, said something I shouldn't have someone. Oh Allah. Make this a means of forgiveness for

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Batum we should remember and realize that our soul loves and Allah Almighty wisdom has told us all the children of Adam are sinners and the best of sinners are those who often turn to Allah in seeking forgiveness and in repentance. Once we realize that I'm a sinner. It doesn't give me a carte blanche to sin doesn't give me a free hand to sin. But no, it does remind me that I'm

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need to be balanced? So I strive to be good, I try to be good. But if I fall, the answer is not to remain fallen, but to rise to stumble and to continue.

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fall again, the answer is not to remain fallen, but to rise.

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Brush off the dirt, and continue.

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If we sin, seek forgiveness to bow back to its the firm and carry on.

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Trying to be good, strive to be good, and be balanced in our opinion, which is, indeed, I'm floored. My character is flawed. My personality is flawed.

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I have defects I am sinful. I'm far from perfect. I have blemishes I am imperfect.

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I am broken in many ways. I need to be mended. I need to be prepared for that. I'm willing to this. I'm willing to be receptive. I am willing to be told I'm glad for any help that comes my way.

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I'm not utterly worthless. By I'm not there either. One of the

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world all a matter of the past. He was walking, he was in the markets with the students.

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As he was traveling out, sorry, as he was walking in the markets or riding in the markets, with the students, there were people in the market,

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street urchins and various people who began abusing the sheikh.

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verbally abusing him, you are lying this you are like that the students became angry. And he Calm down, calm, remain calm, all of you

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don't react, don't respond. Remain silent. Be patient. They all did.

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When he returned to his

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place of his hospice, his place of study wherever he was.

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He summoned the same students who were with him in the market. And he said to them, Come here, come around me.

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And he said, you see that chest if you're

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the trunk, now the Olden trunks. So you see that trunk?

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Open. They opened full of letters. The whole trunk was full of letters. So he began taking the letters and distributing them randomly said Here take this Read, read, read, read, read.

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What do the letters say? Some of the letters were saying, You are shaken Islam. You are the shape of Islam. You are the greatest scholar alive. You are the most saintly person we know. That's what some of the letters were saying. Or the letters were saying, You are the scum of the earth. You are the lowliest of the low, you are the worst, you are the most sinful and corrupt person we know.

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And then he said See, I received letters of all kinds from all types of people. Some hail me as being the greatest Saint alive, the greatest scholar alive, and others reduced me to the lowest of the low and they believe of me that I am the most sinful and corrupt person on earth. I am neither this and I am neither that I know what my relationship is with Allah. I know what my relationship with Allah is. I do not let these people's abuse bring me down to that level. Nor do I allow these people's praise and flattery to raise me to that level. I do not for a moment believe that I am sheduled Islam, nor do I for a moment believe that I am the worst of the worst.

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Even Haroon Rashid, the Ambassade emperor.

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He was in the harem of Makkah, and in those days and these people could approach the monks. So he was in the mythos that Al Masjid Al haram, the area of the love in and Mr. Haram, when a common person came up to him and began scolding him, not just abusing him, but he began scolding him with a very harsh tongue in a very harsh manner, and telling him uh, you need to do this. You did this. You did that you did this. Pamela, there are two lessons for us to there. Harun Rashid was the ambassador emperor,

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the greatest empire of the region at the time.

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He mentioned

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the 1001 Nights, full of splendor, glory, riches and wealth are all about Haroon Rashid's rain of

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the rain

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how do we receive was Once seated

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and

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I'm in an open area surrounded by comforts and luxuries.

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And he saw a cloud laden with rain and in very fluent in very flowing and eloquent Arabic. He said to the cloud addressing the cloud or cloud, rain here, or don't rain here, go and rain elsewhere. But no this it doesn't matter for wherever you rain and pour down your water, the tax of the produce of that rain will ultimately come to my feet. Because that's how vast Ambassador Empire was. Must have a rich it was.

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That's how powerful it was. How many Rasheed would receive homage from the great rulers and emperors across the world, including Europe, they would send gifts

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of homage to that same Abbas ID ruler Haroon Rashid was accosted in a Masjid Al haram, by a common person who began scolding him and speaking rudely to him, saying that he felt he was doing a little bit mad all for nothing and in mongkol, meaning the commoner felt that he was enjoying the good and forbidding the evil. So we have two lessons to the first one is how did how long Rashid react did he tell his guards, arrest this man or stop him? No, he let him speak. He was willing to listen to him. That's the first lesson and that was hard on Rashid. The second lesson is, he did say something to him in reply. He said, Look, if you want to advise me, then there's a way of doing it. You don't

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speak like this. Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah sent the best of people Musa and Harun Allahu wa salam to Pharaoh the worst of people. And he said to them, in the hubba interfere on the in the Huhtala for Kula Allahu COVID, Elena Allah, who you to the Quran, that both of you go to Pharaoh, for indeed he has transgressed. And both of you say a software to him in the hope that he may take heed, or he may fear. So Allah sent the best of his creation to of the messengers of Allah to the worst of his creation to Pharaoh, and he even told them speak softly. So you should speak softly to me, for neither am I as well, neither am I so bad, that I am worse than Pharaoh. No, are you so

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great that you are better than Musa and

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so a believer knows his position of balance.

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He may not be an angel.

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But he is also not the lowest of the low.

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And when you want to believe and looks at himself or herself in that balanced manner, it gives the believer hope that yes, I'm not perfect.

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But I'm not totally broken, that no good can come off me. Yes.

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There's a lot I can do to improve myself. There's a lot I can do to mend and repair myself to better myself. And in doing so I need help.

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When we go to the doctor, those of us that do there's a phenomenon in medicine known as a worried well,

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the worried well,

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which is a reference to those people who are actually quite healthy.

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But

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they want to be the best. So

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they monitor themselves.

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They regularly take their measurements,

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that medically they monitor themselves in every way. And any slight disruption, any slight anomaly. They become concerned, they go to the doctor's Doctor, this is what's wrong with me. I've checked myself, I'm monitoring myself, here are my readings here are my charts.

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And

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what they do this is actually in the NHS This is an accepted phenomenon, that the worried well and in all over the world, actually. They SAP, the resources, the limited resources and time of the health care professionals and of the whole health care industry.

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Because they are well they easily get worried. What this tends to do is that it distracts and diverts the resources, time and attention

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and skills of the healthcare professionals away from those people who are neither well nor worried

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and who actually deserve

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their help and their attention.

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So the others couldn't care less.

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But they are the ones who actually need help.

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But the ones who are well, the worried well,

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they are the ones who sat the resources of the health care professionals, their resources their time.

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So

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when we go to the doctor, those of us who do

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and the doctor tells us

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first thing, lose weight.

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We may not like it,

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or the doctor tells us stop smoking, we may not like it.

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What's our reaction do become violent?

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Do we tell the doctor who are you?

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Are you to tell me? How dare you? That's an insult? No.

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If you do, the doctor will say you do need attention. You do need help, not the surgery. You need help at the mental hospital.

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You need a checkup from the neck up.

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I only deal with the lower part of the body. You need a checkup from the neck up.

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So we don't react. We listen. We are receptive. In fact, 99.99% of people will go to the doctors with an open receptive mind and humbly

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when they leave,

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the majority of people will at least think they may not always be able to practically follow the advice because we have our temptations, our weaknesses, and we give a we succumb to our temptations. So but we don't reject the advice.

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And what does if the doctor says stop doing this, stop eating this, stop drinking this, stop doing this stop doing that. We listen to everything. And we actually go away thinking, you know, I have to listen to what the doctors saying. I have to act on the advance.

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What are the theory? That the law the verse when it is said to him fear law? Or the tool? Or is it will Ethan arrogance and sin seizes him? This is a good demonstration. You know what the equivalent of that is? It's like as going to the doctor. Doctor.

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I have pains here. I have this doctor's a quick checkup, right? You need to stop doing this. And our reaction is the tool is terrible.

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How dare Who are you how de

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that's that's a little easier to listen. There's nothing wrong with me. Nothing wrong with me. It it's why you're here.

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That's the equivalent of whether the law, the law or the tourism in arrogance and sin ceases.

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Now I've given all of these examples we do exactly the same when it comes to the diseases of the heart and the diseases of our deeds. We do something wrong, we commit sins someone advises us feel

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what should be the reaction of

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the reaction of a Mortman is Ike's.

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Please make go and for me, please help me, advise me. What can I do?

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How can I become better?

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How can I repent? Law?

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Allah He

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these people,

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inspire others more than pious worshipers. I have seen people who have come

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and they have admitted and confessed to their sins.

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But do you know there is such humility in them?

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That they say you know, I'm a sinful person. Please pray for me. What can I do to become better? How can I repent?

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Once our late shave has it more than a use of medalla Rahim Allah he related the story to us of a man who came to

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and when he related the story to us he had tears his eyes were moist.

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A man came to him was a Muslim.

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And he had

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a very large restaurant

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With a huge bar.

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And

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he was a very plush restaurant. He wasn't just your average it was a quite high class restaurant. And he was quite rich.

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He was a Muslim. Someone spoke to him. Obviously, he had heard and he knew that alcohol is haram for a Muslim.

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If he knew that,

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but you see, one doesn't know when the words of Allah are the words of his little salsa, love it, he will send them will hit you on touch you. This is why I keep on saying continue coming to the doors. The idea isn't that you will learn something new every time.

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You do not know when a single word of the Quran or single word of the words of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will penetrate your heart and mind and change.

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Last year

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someone approached me

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and told me that I once attended your gym are

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highly intelligent, educated person, someone who's religious as well, and who takes a keen interest in knowledge.

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And he told me this last year. And he said, I attended one of your Joomla ours last year meaning the year before so many, many months before. So he told me this summer. And the GA he was referring to was in November the year before.

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And he said

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I heard one Hadith from you in that Jamar.

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And he said, Do you know that one Hadith hit me.

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Now the surprising thing is that wasn't a new Hadith I had related the Hadith on many occasions. And I actually recall relating the Hadith in his presence before previously.

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But now, and I'm sure he heard that hadith from others too. And it's a famous Hadith led by Muslim in history.

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Or for some reason, given his circumstances, the changes in his life, the state of his heart and mind and his emotions on that particular occasion. He believes that that on that one occasion, that hadith which he had definitely heard before, that one Hadith from the whole hotbar hit him so hard, that he actually changed his thinking and his perception.

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And that's what happens. So going back to this story, this person knew that alcohol is haram for a Muslim.

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But on one occasion, someone found an opportunity to speak. And you know what? He was receptive. He was receptive.

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And he listened humble.

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And he said, when that person spoke to him,

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the other person had the courage to speak to him. But they did it with with manners, with wisdom, with love with affection with concern, but simply.

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Allah knows what that other person said to him.

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But he actually related this to our late teacher Rahim Allah. He said he went straight away

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to his restaurant. And he actually smashed every single bottle of alcohol on the premises. And he made a vow that he would never ever touch or sell it again.

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So when I was actually Mahala related the story he said

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he had moist eyes, and he was saying

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he said what email what email? And it's true. There are so I was saying when such people come and I have had many experiences, their humility, their contrition, they're removed removes their feelings shines through and they bring tears to our eyes. And such people sober and repentance is most beloved to Allah subhanho wa Taala it truly is. It truly is.

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And everybody, we can repent.

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So as I was saying, once we realize that I am not perfect, but I am not completely broken. And there is much that I can improve on and I need help and I'm glad for anyone's help. Then when you have that mindset

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in a very balanced way. You can be receptive. When you are receptive. Another believer can act as a

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Mirror to you, and point out your flaws. Point out your blemishes, point out your marks. Point out your shortcomings. And what do you do, you don't become angry in your receptive, receptive attitude. You listen to what they have to say attentively. You accept it and you try to change it, it makes you a much better person.

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That's the behavior of a McMann like, Baba or the Allahu, and when people would speed he would accept being who he wants, he would expect. He wants said

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that he was speaking about

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that

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you shouldn't give so much in dairy. What's his practice of giving so much in dairy? So a woman stood up and she said, Oh, um, you don't want many? How can you disapprove of giving huge amounts in dowry? When Allah says in the Quran, that if you have given any one of them the women been bar and filata who don't mean mushiya

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That if you have given anyone a pin bar meaning a hold a whole heap

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in diary, then do not take anything they're off.

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And that was publicly remodeled. The hola horn was speaking as a medium minion and a woman stood up and corrected him. How did I meet him? What many memorable the hola I'm react, Allahu Akbar. He said Omar was incorrect. And the lady was correct. Public.

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Hola. I've been to Florida heard the Allahu Ana. She was the lady who was remonstrating with her husband after which and with infection was remonstrating with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, her husband in his anger he uttered words which the Arabs originally believed to be words of divorce, she came to the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam and said the Rasul Allah, I've spent my whole life with him and born his children. And now in my old age, he divorces me. And he, he says these words to me, but he didn't actually divorce me. He said these words to me, Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to her, I do not see except that you are separated from him. She said, You are

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a soul Allah. He didn't actually divorce me compared me to his mother, but he didn't divorce me.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I do not believe, except I do not see except that you are separated from him. And she was remonstrating with him Yasuda lover he never uttered the words of divorce. He immediately compared me to his mother. So she was remonstrating with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam pleading with him and the prophets of Allah. He's saying the same thing she was saying the same thing. So Allah has revealed the verses of Samir Allahu Akbar will ility to J. Dilla, Kofi Zoji. What's the T il Allah? Will La Jolla smelter ha what a coma

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Verily, Allah has heard the words of that lady who was remonstrating with you regarding her husband and Allah was listening to your conversation. That lady was hauled into Florida out of the Allahu anha. Oh,

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once I'm out of the Allahu Anhu was walking

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with his entourage, he was Ameerul Momineen. And he had people around him.

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An old lady met him.

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And she stalked him in the middle of the street. And she says, Uh huh.

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Look at you now.

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I remember when you were young, we used to call your homemade littler Amara, and now looking. I mean, you will meet many people around you. And Amaro, the Allaha she's saying all kinds of things to him. And Amara, the Allahu Akbar aside.

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His companions are thinking what's going on here? Wow, can she be speaking to him that

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she then left so the septum or meat and what mean? How could you allow this old lady to talk to you like this? Is Adina who she is? She is hola I've been to failover of him Allah set customer Allah Who cola de tu je de la Kofi Zoji ha with the sticking in Allah. Why wouldn't know listen to the words of a lady whom Allah listen to from above the heavens.

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Marathi Allahu Allah was humble, truly humble. Whenever anyone spoke of Allah and is resourceful Allahu alayhi wa salam to him. He would come to a halt. And so he will hardly it's mentioned on him we're gonna walk off and in the Kitab Allah or Marathi Allah Allah would come to a halt excessively before the book of Allah, which means

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whenever the Quran was recited to him or the Allah