Homemade Happiness #14 – Water the Love Part 2

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Smell out from below Sato sauce. Hola. salaam aleikum wa hoplite Allah wa barakato this is rather zazzy we're coming here to homemade happiness. This is episode number 14

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So Mr eco hot la

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Hello sir Hello yeah hello sir Hello

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then one more habit This is homemade happiness series and this is episode number 14

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and then yes mean how are you welcome ceram Moroccan dress design Masha Allah This is the first time I see Moroccan dress design yeah my

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half is mobile where in the world have you been? have his mobile you messed up my man where in the world have you been? What was going on you you left with Ramadan? You left with Ramadan you you you were gone with God with the wind you know like in a God with the wind you gone with the wind the wind of Ramadan where in the world have you been man rasmalai

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la vida cattle

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and then also I might have

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somebody a town is in town. Somebody in town is in the house tonight? Yeah Hello marhaba Somali town in the town of Mohawk Mashallah. Mashallah quite a liberal. Yeah. How did you messed up You messed up man, and then was a woman haben Helen and Tabitha and Elena Madhavan, Yasmin welcome, Linda Helen. I'm just going to give her a minute or two for more people to join Charlottetown and then we'll start homemade happiness session number 14. Those of you who just joined yesterday we were talking about watering the love water, the love water, the love, and today is a continuation to water the love part two. So those of you who are married or even not married, if you have not

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watched session number two, one episode, you know 13 of what are the love? Then, ah, go back and watch it. In fact, go back and watch all the homemade session homemade happiness series. watch all of them any session which you have, you know, missed out on, go back, watch them. They're online, they're recorded. They're on Facebook, they're on YouTube and hamdulillah they are even on Instagram now on that HGTV whatever they call it right you can always go back and watch them because today inshallah Tada. We're going to carry on part two of water the love. Yeah, hello. Yeah. Hello. Merhaba

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Love, love baby water. The love of love. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. Hello, my nan says Yo, la casa de Monaco. masama haben Yeah, you better go back and catch up on what you have missed better go back and watch up. Anyways, my brothers and sisters

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Welcome back.

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Well, welcome back. Welcome back to homemade happiness. session number 14 Subhanallah 14 lessons already 14 episodes already today's number 14. And we've been talking about you know, different principles that may just so go back and recapitulate all those principles which we have mentioned so far. And hamdulillah we've talked about foundations right? homemade happiness is about foundations foundations that we need to set you know, in our homes with our loved ones and adapt them in Sharla because they're adaptable you know adaptable for every family regardless of whether you are a new wed no wed

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living alone single moms single dads, husbands wives having children not having children. You know, everybody inshallah with Dinah will benefit from the series provided that you try to apply these foundations I'm sharing with you foundation number one if you remember foundation and born worship Allah Xhosa together with your family and your loved ones, does not mean that you miss out the Salah from them as it was the mission gets open. No, this is just a preparation. Sharla Donna right so that was the mission gets open. You won't pray the mission but worship a lot together with your family. You know, doing pmln together praying the night prayer together. We didn't come together.

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The wind had it together. So this is how you know something that brings spirituality This is something to bring

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peace and joy and serenity at home and Sharla value your family before it's gone value your

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Family

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number three live with mercy

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apply this concept of mercy, Rama because whenever she talks about family he talks about mercy but number four family is a blessing families in their formula Xhosa family is a blessing of Allah Xhosa. So take advantage of that blessing before it's gone. Alright, number five, we talked about the father and the pivotal role of the Father. And it was maybe a session or two more than one session just talking about the pivotal role of the Father. And then we talked about the father the friend, that's another foundation foundation number six, the father, a Sadiq, the friends. And then number seven, talking about the mother, the mother, the engine for motivation, right, the mother,

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she's an engine for motivation. And then we talked that's the foundation number seven foundation number eight, we talked about the language of compassion, the language of love, which we need to apply in our news in our homes with our loved ones. Number nine respect and appreciation another foundation that we have to apply we've got to apply in our homes with our loved ones, even outside of our homes, apply this language of you know, respect and appreciation with your kids respect and regardless of the age respect and appreciate them number 10 we talked about you know ways to raise your children and we said about the foundation called no to force no to hostility you know, beating

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up your children it's something unexpected unacceptable and it would not

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solve any problem in fact it will make problems worse you know, beating up the children will only make the problem worse it would not nurse them not solve them would not fix them it would only make them worse.

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And foundation number 11 water love yeah baby water the love is my baby water the love of it water the love water the love exactly that's what it is water the love just like when you have a plant when you have a tree if you don't water that tree if you don't water that plant the plant will die if you have a flower you don't water the flower the flower will die so water the law of lasma ly water the love water the love water the demon have bet water it and I said yesterday open an account Did you guys open your bank account called love accounts? I said go and open a bank account called the love accounts and put a deposit in it every day put some deposit in that bank account called

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love account right for the deposit. Deposit could be a case could be a hug. Could be a caress, could be a touch could be a smile, could be a beautiful word or beautiful action right so these are you know things that we spoke about yesterday my brothers and sisters we talked about love. We talked about love and the description of love is a feeling Yes, but love is an attitude. Love is a behavior Love is an action. Love is you know yes express it with word because half is all the brothers out there women they want to hear it we men sometimes have a problem saying it so here's the thing express the love with words

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and once we express it with their with words that show it with action How about that huh? Don't you like it? Don't you like it? express it with words and show it with actions write it down in gold? Write it down in gold whether you're a woman or a man brother or a sister write it down in gold with love Love has to be expressed with words and shown in actions actions not like when you are in Bollywood actions no no no no no it's got to be expressed with words just like I've come I have bad karma who have come ahead but cartel have come I have bad Kathy who have come I have bad guy you know, you know what I'm saying? You know, I'm saying No, I'm saying I love you or Hey bookie, things

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like that, right? You know, express it with words, then show it with actions, then show it with actions, how his actions gonna show those actions. And we talked about you know,

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we talked about the the signs that you see love disappearing at home between husbands and wives. We've talked about signs, you know, I mentioned many signs that

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shows that proves that love is, in fact, being that needs to be watered a home, we talked about one of the first signs that they're less talking this conversation between husbands and wives, they're less dialogue, you know, they don't talk as much. This is one sign that there is a problem right there between two husbands and wives, sign number two husbands, they start, you know, not spending much time at home, under the pretext that they're busy, they'd rather spend more time with their friends, rather than, you know, be spending that time at home. So So that's another sign that love is fading, you know, love is there, but it's fading.

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Number three, he only sees or they start only seeing the negatives of one another, they stopped looking at the positives, but they only start focusing on the negatives versus the positives. That's number three. Number four, the intimacy problem starts diminishing between the husbands and wives, we know the intimacy that used to maybe happen every you know, day, every other day, once a week, which is healthy once a week is good, you know, but in some in some households, maybe a month, maybe two, maybe three, eight, after they eat, Hey, where are you going, man? Eight, eight, how old are you? Now da da da da, da da, you need to look into that my brothers and sisters in law, who tada

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because intimacy is a is a very fundamental role or important role in the happiness of, of the of the family, definitely let us not, you know, fool ourselves, you will not hear this maybe from a shareholder or or a counselor or a coach, but I'm telling you, that does not fool ourselves. It is definitely one of you know, a very fundamental role in the in the happiness of the fact of the of the couple. No, that's be straight, you know, and forward.

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So, can that love come back? Yes, it can come back.

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Can it you know, because it's already there. And they proved it to you guys yesterday, you know, I proved it to you yesterday, that love is always there because Allah subhana wa tada says, was jalepeno Manuel de la cama de la mano, Allah has put, you know, this affection and mercy in their relationship, allies put that front that affection, you know, so what happens my brothers and sisters because of life, because of troublesome times and, and hardships and difficulties and, and problems, you know, so we the the, the the that love, that little bit not buried and we need to bring it back out into the surface in sha Allah who died. Right. So

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I mentioned few things yesterday, my brothers and sisters, please go back and watch you know my session yesterday. And I said, sisters and brothers.

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There are three ingredients, which I'd like to mention to the sisters. To the sisters. You want your husbands and shout Allahu taala only to two you know, why would a husband I thought about this? Why would men or the husband one to establish another relationship with somebody else online? or live? Or?

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Or could be hard on relationship? If he was really happy at home? Would he be looking elsewhere? Although not um, you may say but Allah zildjian has given men this light. Absolutely. Allah has given men this right. But a wife should know how to handle her husband

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and wife should really know she's smart. She needs to use something called. I call it Halloween magic. Wow. What didn't you say magic is how long? Yes. That's black magic is how I'm saying. That magic. Halloween magic. As soon as and Hello? Yes. But I have is. Do you know what I'm talking about here? hadn't magic. Any brothers here? You know, I'm talking about here. Hello, magic. What's Highland magic?

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Women they know and they can use it whenever they walked out. Don't trick me. Don't trick me. Don't even try to fool me because I know. If you want to use it, you can use it and you know how to use it. If you want to use it, you can use it and you know how to use it. Yes, they know how to use it. Use your head and magic on your husband.

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Why would you just you know dress up and look really nice whenever you want to go out but when you're

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home, you don't dress up for your husband. I got husbands complaining to me. Listen to me sisters. Listen, I've got lots of husbands who are liars. I'm a counselor right in the goat. I've got so many husbands complaining check. They say chef, we go out. Right? We go out we work outside real. We see you know, women out there, of course, right. But then you see sometimes, you know, half naked women wearing this wearing a tight dress shorts, do things you know, when they get it when we go to work. You have the secretary, you have these words. You have this thing. They were in very revealing stuff. And I go home, and I see my wife wedding.

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I see my wife when I die. There are some wives that sleep with the ibuyers they don't only when I buy at home, I buy at home. I buy outside. I buy inside. I buy in the bed. I buy outside on the bed. Whoa, whoa. You said Jeff, come on, man. I said I know. Come on you man.

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Don't come on to me, man.

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Don't come to me, man. Come on you man. Come on, man. Come on here, man. Sister. What's wrong? What is wrong?

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I'm gonna tell you something. No shame. No teacher has ever and we never tell you.

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This is called homemade happiness. I'm not gonna say this is 18 plus 16 plus, but what I'm gonna say now is

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we're rated

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Hello.

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Hello, our I don't know. Whatever I'm going to say now is rated Hello, our okay. So listen, and take this note from me. I'm telling you, you will never hear what I'm getting. What I'm going to say now. You will never hear it from no share guarantee. No, Chef. No teacher. Nobody would tell you something like this. Sisters. But halfway there you listening man? Are you listening sisters a first of all need to make sure that you're listening.

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Those of you on Facebook out there? Are you listening? And those of you on Instagram out there? Are you listening because I don't want to waste my time. Because I'm going to give you some gold right now. I'm going to give you something so I'm going to be so upbeat and straight to the point very transparent. Very clear. All right. So are you listening?

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Yes, yes, me? Yes. Mendoza. Facebook out there. Are you guys listening? Yes, sir. Yes. I need to make sure that you're listening.

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Are you guys listening to what I'm talking about? Yes. Mariana Mohammed. Hamad Al Thani comas dama. Are you guys listening Kiko? The blue key color bro? Are you guys listening? Yes. Alrighty. So you listen, I need to make sure that you guys are listening right there. And I'll get a listen up money more any sir. Listen up. Amanda. Listen up. This is mostly for the sisters. Listen up. Your husband's and all the brothers can tell me from wrong.

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I'm not wrong. Okay. I'm not wrong. I know.

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Maybe your name is

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is Samia. Okay, your name is Sonia. Your name is Amana. Okay, your name is Layla. Your name is Vanessa. Whatever I know your name is Shazia. Oh Shahzad of Maya. My name is Lola. Okay, fine. No, yeah. Nora, no, listen, your husband he knows you as sumiya as Mariana as Nora as shaida your husband he knows your name. But do you think your husband when he comes home he wants to see sumiya

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do you think when your husband comes home, he wants to see NAS? He wants to see Mariana? You think when your husband comes home he wants to see Emma he wants to see Layla and manisa No, no, your husband when he comes home he wants to see Sherry

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I told you never gonna hear this from no one. When your husband comes home he wants to see cherry you know I'm saying you know I'm saying you know I'm saying

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you guys know I'm saying key color blue you know I'm saying

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Kiko coming you know, you know I'm saying you know what, your husband when he comes home he does not want to see another yeah he says Of course right there they see it See I hope this is because yesterday the his wife she replied I'm gonna be careful with any other empty cell husband and wife sharing the same account All right, you know when you when you when you come out when you send your comments, bro Yep, receipts you know who's talking right? Yesterday, I almost got into a problem with your wife. Okay, so I'm just saying when your husband comes home, he

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does not want to see you know a superman he does not want to see Nola. He does not want to see Layla he does not want to see sumaiya he wants to see cherry.

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You see I'm saying he wants to see Ceri

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cherish the love yeah I know you want to see James Bond I'm gonna talk about that I'm talking about women are women and they will never change. Women are women and somehow they will never do. I am saying they want to see your husband wants to see Jerry as us and we want to see James Bond. Oh, come on man. James Bond with that one belly james bond with that baby. But I'm talking about the husbands yesterday right now I'm talking to you. Right? Yes, I know that though. You want to see the Superman? I know you want to see you know, Mr. Han. I want to see you know Sandman. I want you want to see you know, what's his name? What's his name? Shiloh Han Shan Oh Ha ha ha ha you know I want to

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want to see you know, but but but I'm saying your husband once he comes home because there's so so many things out there. He wants to see cherry

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All right. Be his cherry

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be his cherry. Don't tell me you know I want to see James Bond.

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Please cherry.

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So here's my

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here's

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you know, so stop being feminist with me for a second Okay. Stop being feminist with me for a second please. And let me do my job. Come on. I'm telling you, this is what's going to save your marriage inshallah Donna if you are married, or if you're if you're not married. You know what, whether you're married or not married, you're going to take heat and shallow Thailand take this as a lesson. I'm telling you something that I told you. You will never hear from nobody. So listen up and don't stop being a feminist. I know if he wants to see Jerry he has to pay for cherry. Come on.

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That's why you you will always stay single.

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You pushed me you triggered me. Don't tell me if he wants to see cherry has to pay for it. Be his cherry.

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Be his cherry he will be your James Bond.

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Beast this cherry he will be a shallow ha

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be his cherry he will be a Salamanca Milan con. Whatever you want on all the hands.

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Be his cherry he will be everything you want to be him to me. If you know what I'm saying that cherry don't want me to describe cherry.

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When was the last time you went to?

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When was the last time you went to?

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To

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what is that called? You know? I know what time it is. I know what time it is. When was the last time you went to

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that store that sells lingerie. Brothers what are called the stores that sell injuries.

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Yeah.

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And Laura. Lauren Mariana and Manasa and manisa Nissan Khadija Neda what was that store that sells lingerie? Huh? What is that gold? That store that says luxury.

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You know, when was the last time you went there?

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Whenever and when was the last time you went there? Victoria?

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Victoria.

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And it's called secret. She has a lot of secrets had Victoria she was very she was Shyvana had Victoria and Victoria. She was shaved on her. Right. She has lots of secrets. Oh, and summers. That's really I don't know about on summers. That's in the UK. That's really bad. And summers. I'm talking about maybe something like Victoria's Secret, right? Has Victoria's Secret is really really I'm going to tell you man. You know, Victoria. She was I think she's got some deal happened with Shahzad and she's got secrets. Right. So sisters, when was the last time you paid a visit to Victoria or on summers. And then your husband comes home. And then he's not gonna see cherry. He's

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gonna see cherry and strawberry. And Paul and mango, the Pakistani mango from that mango is gonna see whatever he's not. He's gonna see him. Just cherry and then hit

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And then he wouldn't be your James Bond. He wouldn't be your Superman he would be your r&d man. He will be your shadow Han he will be with Bollywood he would be anything you want him to be.

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So stop being feminist don't say because remember you know we are talking about the love triangle right here.

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Love Triangle right here. What is the love triangle? There's something called selfish love. What selfish love, I love me. You love me. He loves me and she loves me and everybody loves me. Everybody loves me This is selfish love. And then we need that after that there's something called conditional love. If you love me, I will love you. If you buy me I will give you if you give me I will give you this is called conditional love. Right? We want that we don't want that we want unconditional love. Unconditional Love what's unconditional love. And conditionally on irregardless just like the love that you have for your son or your daughter. We want that type of love between husbands and wives.

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This is why we take in this homemade happiness homemade happiness is for everyone and I'm giving you things he said be left free free of charge. Normally I charge lots of money for this

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you know how many families have we brought back together? Just because we explain this new notion to them. And some sister they said stuff for the last for the last four months stuff from older biller. Victoria Secret now how will stuff all over the door by two by two by two by two sister. You keep doing stuff for lust for lust for lust for the law. You will find your husband coming to visit you in your grave saying stuff for him to learn handled and hamdulillah

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you keep saying stuff for the last for last for the last year the husband will come one day to visit you in your grave saying and hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah

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Come on is your husband

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is your husband. How can you feel shy from your husband?

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How can you be soft from your husband?

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How can you be shy from your wife?

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Open up this is your wife your husband they have tasted everything and seen everything about one another. Even your parents are not like your husband.

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Even your parents This is hell and I'm talking about how their love right here. Right hand out love so don't don't don't come into Mr. Mostafa matoba. tuba tuba tuba? This is the same lady who wears the outside and inside and the only thing she removes when she comes home is the niqab.

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Oh come on, then your husband we're gonna go look for charity somewhere else. He's gonna be looking for charity somewhere else.

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And we tell you and then from the Sunnah from the Sunday Habibi from the son of the Prophet Mohammed, also Sudan.

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Do things for your husband do things for your wives, enjoy. enjoy each other.

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In headed way, of course, enjoy each other in that way.

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Come on, tell me. I bet I challenge you. I challenge any of you right here. I challenge anybody right here to tell me if I'm wrong. I challenge any husband who lives with his wife on a long time I challenge them. If anybody tells me No, no, if you don't know what you're talking about, I challenge you.

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I have not become a counselor or a coach or a family counselor, you know, in just like, in no time and just you know, in vain. I know what I'm talking about.

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I know what I am talking about.

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So come on.

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Don't give me the stuff for Alaska from La tilba tilba tilba. I told you what your husband will do. You will you will leave and he was saying Abdullah hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah.

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Right. So sisters, write down three ingredients. Take a note, pen, write them down. Three magical ingredients. Your husband will be yours forever inshallah hota

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these three ingredients for all the husbands out there. Are you guys ready on Facebook? Are you guys ready on Instagram? You're ready inshallah Tada, I need to share them with you three ingredients taken from the Prophet Muhammad Ali assaulter, Sam and Khadija. So this is all in Islam. All I'm talking about right now. This is a homemade happiness. How can we inshallah who try to make you know bring back that excitement, that excitement between the husband and wife

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that

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The love you know, the affection, the E, you know? Yes, that one. Yes. So here are three ingredients write them down brothers and sisters. Write them down shallow Tada. And especially this is for the sisters. You want your husband's forever. This is it right now. Number Are you guys ready? Are you guys ready?

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Is everybody ready?

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Lola? Are you ready? Luna? Are you ready? Keep going. You're ready. Huh? hijabi Ninja, you're ready. Happy ninja sister. JV Ninja, please. I hope that you're not waiting that JV ninja with your husband. Yeah. And the miskeen you know, he'll be with you. You know? And then he'd be doing like this. You know what, why is he doing like this shabby ninja. She has a sword. He shabby ninja has a sword. There's a sister by the name of HIV ninja. So she has a sword. Her husband who would it be like, every night he's walking, skiing like he's walking in the street like this. And he's sitting at home.

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And then he sits home he does like this.

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Because he does not know where the hits will come.

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He does not know where the where the stop will come where the hits will come. And it's not with the hand sword. She's a ninja. She has a sword man. She has a sword. She can use it. Hey, jebby ninja. That's her name.

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Um, I'm skinnier husband.

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He can only be Iron Man.

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Other than Iron Men. miskeen miskeen. Really? You know? He's an alien in it. Uh huh. So change your your HIV Ninja, please change that. You know. So here is the ingredients system. There's others. Here is the ingredients. Here's the ingredients right here. Three, three ingredient. Shout. Allahu Tada. All right, three.

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Number one.

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Husbands would be amazingly happy. Number one, listen.

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Learn to listen to your heart. Listen, just listen. Sometimes you just have to listen.

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Khadija de la Khadija de la when the Prophet Mohammed Al Hassan was in the in the cave, and then she believed came to him.

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She came

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and then he, when he hugged me know the story when he hugged him and he told him to read. And the Prophet was so scared and terrified. And he says, I don't know how to read. And then he had him against so tight and that he was about to choke, told him read, read, read.

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Read. And then he says I don't know how to read. Then he says again, he choked him until he was it was about to choke, you know, hugged him, and he says read. He says What should I read? And then a Bismillah b kelebihan Aquino the story might be similar because he was in the he was in the, in the in the cave Hara in Russia, and nobody knew about his whereabouts. Khadija. She knew about his whereabouts because Khadija used to go and just to bring in food as well. So Pamela, so all of a sudden, this man that the Prophet never met, never seen comes. He was even in a setup.

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Right, told him to read and then the Prophet went down to running, running, running down all the way until he went back home. And then she was he was there. Khadija was there. Khadija was there and what did each other the main one is a Milani, he was scared sirmione so she covered him. And then he was telling her the story. He was telling her the story of what happened to him. Khadija, this man came and he told me this and he did this and I was so scared. hadisha she did not interrupt him. She listened.

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She listened.

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She listened and listened. They listened they listened she did not do not interrupt her husband. She listened

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until he was done.

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She did not say I told you

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but you don't place and

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I told you and some husbands this is maybe why your husband does not want to you know spend time at home or share things with you at home because every time he shows something we do

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a you slap him with your ninja sword that you're stopping with your ninja sword every time he wants to share something with you tell him you know when you see how you fade but you don't.

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You do not listen.

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I told you not to go to a dark cave. But you don't anti Taliban.

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You're never anti mag. I told you I found out

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stuff a lot stuff a lot. Khadija she never said that.

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She never did. She listened. And then came her amazing role. The role of that wonderful intellectual, brilliant woman. Can that then you'll see a comma

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However, no, no No, no harm can ever happen to you or Mohammed, Allah sallallahu sallam, Oh my dear husband, no one can ever happen to you. But first she listened.

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And then she started talking about his quantities. And then she took him to her, you know, cousin.

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Well, I have no no fun, you know, this has been wonderful act of this amazing woman. So sisters, number one, listen, listen, you know, have you heard of the of the human needs? The six human needs, human needs, there are so many human needs, but there are six main human needs. We all need them. We have we cannot survive without these human needs. We all need these needs. Six of them six major human needs. Number one is called love. We all want to love and feel loved. We all want we cannot live without love. Nobody can live without love. It is a human need. We love to be loved. I've never met someone who says no, no, no. I love to be hated.

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system when disaster just for Allah. Do you love to be hated? Do you love to be hated? Or do you love to be loved?

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Do you love what you said? Do you love to be loved? Or do you love to be hated? And Nora? Nora? Do you love to be loved? Or do you love to be hated?

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Hmm, hmm. What is? What is that? Chevy ninja? Do you love to be loved? Or do you love to be hated? Everybody loves to be loved? Is there anyone amongst you who loves to be hated? I love people hating me. I love it. How can you do that you must be insane. If there's anyone here who loves to be hated, and he wants people to know, then then you must be insane.

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Exactly. So it is a human need. It is a human need. We'd love to be loved. We love to be loved. So number one that's love, right? And then another human need is called significance. What is significant, we all need to feel that we are significant that our husbands our wives needs to make us feel important. Maybe this is why my husband does not spend too much time with me at home. Because you know, his friends make him feel important. His friends make him feel insignificant. So he spends more time with people that make you feel good. Because at home, nobody makes him feel significant. Because for him, your friends or your parents or your or your brothers and sisters,

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they're always more important than him. This is how he understands it from you.

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You never made him understand that. No, you are everything for me. You are the air that I breathe. You are the my Jenna or my husband. You need to make him understand that.

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And don't tell me how about him. Don't Don't go there again. Then you have misunderstand. You have misunderstood me if you say How about him? I'm not talking about that when I'm talking in general.

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We all need to feel significance. Significant.

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So that's number one ingredient number one, listen. Number two, support him, support your husband

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and share his interest.

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share his interest, show him support. Khadija lohana. How much support did she show to the professor. She even financially supported also a lot he's upset. She hired someone who would go with him at night because Prophet Mohammed was given a day and night. During the day she would go with him during the night she hired someone to go and watch Prophet Mohammed and you know and make sure he's fine.

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She shared his interest.

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Let me share something with your brothers and sisters.

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Let me share something really interesting with you my brothers and sisters.

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I said something really, really important yesterday. I said I said you can ask any successful men out there

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any successful men

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you will see Subhanallah that his success what lies behind his success? It must be either his mother or his wife, mom or his wife.

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Any successful man. I'll give you some examples. non Muslims. Let's let us not just go verify that we're gonna just go into some non Muslims Ford. Ford. The guy who made you know the car Ford the American car Ford. This guy Ford. Do you know that? You know he used to work for $11 an hour.

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Hmm. You know that this guy Ford. He used to work right in Detroit in the USA in Detroit. He used to work for $11 an hour in the electric company.

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company

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in a company, that electrical company they used to make, you know, electrical stuff.

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And he used to gather this electrical tools and stuff and used to make things with them for three years for three years for he's been working, you know, just as a kid making new things and trying to, you know, discovered things, trying to invent things.

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And people were making fun of him.

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He's a designer, he's designing, you know, prototypes and stuff, right. But some of his friends were making fun of him.

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jr know,

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he invented a small car, a small car at the time, I'm talking about the 1900s, long time ago, or even before even before that.

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Ford

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You know, my brothers and sisters

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who supported him.

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In his projects, his wife,

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and who's for today, one of the greatest car manufacturers in the world, Honda, Honda, the car manufacturer Honda, you know, that Honda in 1938. This guy used to work and he went to you know, he went to school as a student, and he was looking for, in fact, he went and he asked, you know, like to work for, you know, for the for Toyota company. He went and he wanted to work. He applied for a job at Toyota Honda. There was no Honda at the time.

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He applied for a job at Toyota.

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He was also an engineer.

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He was making like prototypes and people from Toyota, they were making fun of him. They said, No, no, we don't need this.

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But he never he never, you know, showed any despair. He never showed any despair. Who is this Honda? The Japanese guy

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came World War One. After he invented a small motor, you know, came word with one and he needed money. Came his wife

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came his wife. And then she took all her jewelry. All her golden jewelry. She put them into this pawn, pawn shop, you know, as a warranty. They gave him money to support his project, who was behind him his wife, Honda, who was behind him, his wife today. He's got over hundreds of 1000s of employees working for him, Honda. Toyota did not want to employ him did not want to hire him. He is what he is. He's got the support of his wife behind him.

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Support your husband support your loved ones.

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Who else have you heard of Dale Carnegie?

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Have you heard of Dale Carnegie? On Carnegie? It's Carnegie. The one who wrote How to Win Friends and Influence and how to influence people. He's got many amazing books, Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People. The how to stop worrying and start living amazing books. Please try to read that online, how to how to stop worrying and start living, How to Win Friends and the and to develop self confidence. He's got some amazing books, you know about Dale Carnegie,

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his wife.

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She was the one behind him and behind his success.

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His wife, she was the one behind him and behind the success. She wrote a book and that book, you know, what's his wife's name? By the way? Her name is Donna Carnegie. Donna Carnegie. She wrote a book and that book is called How to support your husband, Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, what? How to support your husband?

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How to Make Your husband acquaint successful people. How to Turn your husband into from nothing into something.

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Yes, behind every great men there is a great woman. Yes.

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Behind every successful men, there is a successful woman.

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They say in Arabic that women are half of the society.

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They say that women in Arabic And this one which time they say that women are half of the society.

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Right? I say no wrong. Women is not half of the society or woman. She's not half of the society. Woman or women are the entire society. I say I say women are

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The entire society. In your woman, she's, she's your mother. She's your daughter. She's your wife.

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She's your sister. She's your grandma. She's your father, your mother. She cannot just be half of the society. She is the nation builders after the prophets, Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar. Say that again. They are the other one says, yes. Women are not just half of the society, she is the entire society. Why? Because my brothers and sisters she is the nation builders after the prophets.

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How about the testers? How about that? Tell me, Don't you like it? Aren't you proud? entrepreneur of who you are. Aren't you proud of who you are. They are the entire society. She is in fact now I'm the backbone. She is the nation builders right after the profits.

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So I will end with this.

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I will end with this very, very rare

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golden piece and want to end with this my brothers and sisters.

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It's a currency.

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It's a very rare currency.

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This currency I want to end with my brothers and sisters. I hope you're listening because this is it. I'm about to say Salaam Alaikum.

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This very rare currency golden currency is cold.

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And warfare

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and warfare.

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What is alpha?

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We want to bring back the love at home.

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So think of something called annual fat. What's our fat sisters? Do you know what animal fat means? It's an Arabic but what is it? What is it in English? I know what it is in English. But I'm asking you, Nola Nola, Lola Kiko Manasa, Laila, Amana, ah, ah sumaiya What's look what's what's, what's that? What is that? Tell me what's up. Huh? What is it?

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Guys, don't go to Google. What is loyalty in all do? Aha. So the Arabs copied it from the older people, right? The Arabs copied it from the Lord Do people know it is an Arabic word called. And we're fat or we're fat meaning loyalty. loyalty. I didn't know what that loyalty was a fee to be loyal, Wi Fi, Wi Fi. You know, look, the verb Wi Fi your Wi Fi you imagine was a woman who is a man who is Wi Fi is the verb but the the, the, the the noun is called lawyer, you know, and we're fat meaning meaning loyalty. Loyalty, be loyal.

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When 10 seven foot lobbying accom Allah subhana wa tada says that and do not forget, do not forget the love or the good between you. Don't forget that our fat don't work forget the loyalty between you. Especially after hamdulillah inshallah long relationship of 1520 years 30 years of marriage, don't forget something called a low fat.

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This is why I said whether you're married or not married, you will benefit from these sessions in sha Allah hota.

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Prophet Mohammed, the symbol of loyalty, Prophet Mohammed, the symbol of alpha. I mentioned that yesterday when you know, years 13 years later when he went back to Mecca he told them to melt him

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to melt him attempt by the grave of Khadija. how loyal he was. After she passed away after three years, he did not marry he couldn't marry three years Wolfie.

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Where can I find somebody like Khadija then afterwards he got married some of our citizens, but for threes, he didn't get married. And and for them I was growing up. And she needed some help.

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Right? He was saying what am I going to find somebody like Khadija.

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And after he got married and got married, he still was shot. He would talk about Khadija and the good good old times about Khadija I just used to get jealous. It's fair, right?

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And she used to say, you know Allah has replaced you with somebody way better, more beautiful, younger, better. What do you want with that old woman? I just used to say this. Because Provence gives you sometimes mentioned Khadija and then she would say Allah has replaced you with somebody younger, more beautiful, better.

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These know nobody would be like Khadija nobody wouldn't be like Khadija. Her support her care her help her gentleness, nobody would be like my Khadija

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What are the signs of?

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of loyalty between husbands and wives? Oh, this sounds like

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it sounds like

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a cliche?

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What are the signs of loyalty between husbands and wives?

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Should I make it a cliffie? Or should I share it with you?

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What are the signs of,

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of loyalty between husbands? and wives? Would you like me to share them with you? Or shall we make them or make it a creepy?

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Creepy handy? a cliffhanger?

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Hmm.

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Let me ask

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myself.

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Yes. Do you have a choice? I don't think you do. But let me ask myself.

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Hmm. Let me ask myself, should we make this a cliffhanger? Or should we share some, you know, signs of LMS signs of a lower fat between husbands and wives, the sign of wet fat in although between husbands and wives the sign of loyalty between husbands and wife, because my brothers and sisters, I want to talk about other stuff. I want to talk about, you know, looking at your wife with the eye of mercy. I want to talk about Marian, you know, cases, what cases in case of a man who got married to a woman? And after some time the men become religious and the woman is not religious? Or or vice versa? A woman who became religious marrying a man who's not religious issues, what should we do? I

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want to talk about I want to talk about how to control your emotions, how to control your, your, your your feelings, right? When you have certain expectations from your loved ones, and they are not met, how can you control those feelings and emotions? I want to talk about the the the consultation, you know, between husbands and wives, I want to talk about I want to talk about

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how can we cut this and that and technically, there's so many law firms and there's so many, you know, things that we have from our culture that we need to destroy and cut and say no, we have something called Islam has enough of this cultural cultural stuff i want i want i want to talk about Islam and how can we come out from this the hole of culture he ate, it's a shame it's this and that and this is where you know, the rate of divorce is going on in an alarm, a lot rate the rate of divorce is is going and in a very scary pace, the the rate of divorce amongst Muslims is going you know, in a very rapid pace. So I want to talk about this things my brothers and sisters.

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So

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the signs of loyalty.

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It's good to stop right here and save that for our next session. inshallah. Yes,

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I want to save that for the next session. inshallah. There's a lot of things and I don't want to start something and then cut it in the middle. Now. That's what I don't want to do. I don't want to start something and cut it in the middle. I might as well stop it right here. It's almost an hour. It's almost an hour. So my brothers and sisters, thank you so much for joining us on Kamala Harris. Thank you LuLaRoe Thank you Nora and hanbali

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