Rania Awaad – The Prophet’s Approach to Mental Health

Rania Awaad
AI: Summary © The importance of mental health and forgiveness is emphasized, along with the need for accountability and support for physical and emotional health. The speakers emphasize the importance of understanding one's emotions in order to regulate them and avoid negative emotions. The community helps people to understand their emotions and offers healing circle and resources for mental well-being.
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In our discussion today,

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the topic I was asked to address, by

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this wonderful group and congregation

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is the discussion on the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu

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Alaihi Wasallam himself

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and his approach to mental health.

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And you might think, SubhanAllah, what is this

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connection?

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Is there something from the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi

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Wasallam himself

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that talks about mental health? Is this term

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even found at the time of the Prophet

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Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam?

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What is this how do you translate this

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word into Arabic exactly and did they have

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something like mental health or psychology or psychiatry

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in that time?

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And SubhanAllah, this is a long discussion and

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I'll give you the nutshell kind of, you

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know, in a nutshell kind of explanation

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to say that

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the prophet himself, sallallahu alaihi wasallam, inspired an

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entire generation of people

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and generations

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after them, including ourselves,

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this many centuries later

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to really,

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take care of all aspects of health.

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This concept of health or sikha

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is something that actually the that Islam,

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right, directly from within Islam, says that there

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should be no distinguishing or discrimination between any

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one of the sorts of or the facets

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of health,

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not physical health, not mental health, not emotional

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health, not spiritual health, all of which are

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equally important.

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And so for anybody who's thinking still,

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I don't know.

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I don't know, doctor Anya. Mental health seems

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to be kind of like this new age

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thing. Are are you sure? It seems kind

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of a

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I don't know.

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Maybe

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a kind of more of a modern construct?

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Was it really something part of Islam? Is

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it really something part of the prophet himself,

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sallallahu alaihi wasallam, in his sunnah, his blessed

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sunnah?

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Well, let's explore this together InshaAllah Ta'ala.

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So this is where I'd like to begin.

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You know, some of you know that I

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love to speak about history, but I'm not

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gonna bore you about history today, inshallah.

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Although I find it very exciting. From Zirena.

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But what I will tell you about is

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directly about him, Sallallahu Alaihi

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Wasallam. One of the most important things that

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we understand about the reason Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala sent prophets.

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Now listen

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closely to this. Okay?

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Think about this. If Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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has a message to humanity,

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it is very easy for Allah to

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send down that message

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directly to us.

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It could have been in the form of

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a book.

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It could have been in the form of

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tablets. It could have been in the form

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of any sort of scripture that comes.

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But he brought his message

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with

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a messenger,

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sallallahu

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alaihi wasallam.

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And he could have said maybe that's sufficient.

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We will learn the Quran, literally the scripture,

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the living example of the Quran through the

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prophet himself, salallahu alaihi wa sallam, a walking

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Quran, as we say.

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But in addition to that, he also sends

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a community,

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Sahaba and Sahabiats,

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men and women around the prophet sallallahu alaihi

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wa sallam to live life,

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everyday life,

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so that whatever happens with them,

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good and bad,

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whatever good happens and whatever mistakes happen,

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He sallallahu alaihi wasallam can explain to us

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what is appropriate according

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to the Quran

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and what isn't.

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You see? Because He Himself,

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as the most perfect

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of all human beings,

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the most blessed of all human beings, the

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best of them, khayri, khankallah,

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He's not going to make the kind of

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mistakes,

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right, that ordinary individuals will. But the companions,

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men and women, may. And so we'll learn,

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right, through his, right, through his sunnah, through

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his sayings, through his actions, what is accurate

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and what isn't.

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You take all of this together, the Quran,

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the Sunnah,

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and the examples of the righteous that were

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all there at the time of the prophet

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sallallahu alaihi wasallam that then inspire the next

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generations

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and you start to understand

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the story of mental health.

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Let me tell you how.

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Let's start with the prophet himself,

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Sallallahu

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Alaihi Wasallam.

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Many times when people think about mental health,

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they think about difficulties.

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They think about words like depression or anxiety.

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They think about trauma.

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They think about diagnoses.

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They think about

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maybe even medications or maybe they think about

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a label that someone puts on them or

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their children, let's say.

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How did the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam himself

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deal with his difficulties?

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That's the question.

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Because he is the best of all of

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creation

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and human.

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Human,

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meaning there were times that things were rough.

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There were times that he cried and grieved.

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There were times that he was frustrated and

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things were difficult.

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There were times where things did not go

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his way, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.

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And through his example,

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and later I'll get to the next layer

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out, the example of the companions, we learn

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quite a bit about how you deal

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with

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trials and tribulations

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and your mental health, your mental well-being.

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The Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam

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had a year

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that was very difficult for him,

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So much so and so prolonged

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that the scholars of Sida, those who kind

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of captured everything related to his life,

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Called it what? Does anyone remember?

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Am and Husid.

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Literally, Am, a year of sorrow, a year

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of grief,

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a year of

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prolonged

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sadness.

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Why is this important?

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When I tell people sometimes

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that are going through something difficult

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and I say, this is rather human,

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But it doesn't just sort of mean that

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you twiddle your thumbs and sit around and

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say,

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you know, if Allah sent it to me,

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then it shall pass. Of course, it will

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because Allah has also said that if He

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sent you difficulty, He will send you ease.

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Yusra And it's repeated a second time.

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Inna ma'al Ausri

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yusra

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And whenever Allah

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repeats something twice in the Quran,

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it means,

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pay attention,

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This is important, and therefore, I'm repeating it.

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And when we talk about difficulty,

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people think, well, how is ease

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with difficulty? Because it's not after difficulty comes

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ease, it's literally what? Mara, it's with.

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Literally tucked on tucked into the difficulty

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is your ease.

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But sometimes you can't see it right away.

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And sometimes that ease isn't the thing itself,

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but rather

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circumstances around it. People, individuals,

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resources,

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just the ability to deal with something heavy

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emotionally.

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All of these are forms of yusra.

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Right?

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And so look at the Prophet

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in this year of prolonged sadness and difficulty.

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Let's count together what happens.

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Who knows the CEDAW well? How does it

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start?

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What's the first thing? There's a series of

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losses that happen.

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What's the first loss?

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I'm hearing different things.

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So I'm hearing his wife. His wife, Syeda

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Syeda Khadija

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Right? This is his wife of so many

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years. The mother of all of his children

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up until this point and,

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right, his blessed

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companion,

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his anchor. Beautiful description. Allahi, beautiful description.

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Yani, in home, internally,

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this is his anchor. We would call her

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his internal support.

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Yani, when you're terrified and you're running off

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the mountain and you're literally trembling as it's

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described in the Quran,

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And she is there to hold you, to

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support you, and to remind you that Allah

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does not want bad for you.

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After all these years of support, who's given

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you all of this, what, emotional

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sustenance and support

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and has literally given all of her wealth

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for the Dawah,

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right, for Islam,

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and has given all of her support to

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you,

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she passes away.

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It's heavy.

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It's heavy.

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And soon after, what happens?

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The next loss.

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Yes, Bashar, we have some Sida experts here.

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The loss of his uncle. What's his name?

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Abu Talib. Why is he important?

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Why is he important?

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What is the role that Abu Talib plays

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for the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam and

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for Islam?

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And you say, for Islam? We don't know

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him to be a Muslim. There's some Khalaf.

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But let's just say that there's we don't

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know him publicly, visibly to be a Muslim.

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So why is he so important?

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Yes. Exactly. While his uncle was alive,

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the people of Quresh, the enemies, could not

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touch the prophet salawat alaihi wasalam. He was

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protected.

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So you have an internal protection and anchor

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from Sayeda'a from Khadija.

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Sayasha for some reason. Sayeda Khadija.

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And you have an external protection from

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his uncle,

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both of whom pass away and in a

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very short span of time.

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Tell me, there's another loss that happens after

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that.

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Yes. In the backdrop, there is a sanction.

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There is an economic boycott against the Muslims,

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meaning no trade, no in, no out.

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So much so that they're literally

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starving.

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In this period of time, the Sahaba would

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talk about how they were eating leaves.

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One of them said, I took in the

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darkness, I picked up something mushy.

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I didn't know what it was. It was

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dark.

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And I picked it up and I put

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it in my mouth and it was chewing.

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I just chewed it. Yani, to this level

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of starvation.

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And then there's another loss.

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What else happens in this year?

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All within weeks of each other.

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Before that, there's something.

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And then

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we're missing something.

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La f. Very good. All I know is,

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Alekki, very good. What happens after the death

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of the uncle

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and in the backdrop

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of this economic boycott, the prophet sallallahu alaihi

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wa sallam says, well, I have distant family

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that's in Ta'if.

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I no longer have protection of Paresh,

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and they're not going to be listening to

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me. They're they're they're the people that are,

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you know, the important people of Paresh are

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no longer listening to me. So why don't

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I try another set of distant family members

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and another tribe altogether? Maybe they'll listen.

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So he literally walks.

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Has anyone been to Thoughtlife, by the way?

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Anyone visited Thoughtlife?

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Yeah? Can you describe Thoughtlife? What's it like?

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It's 50 some miles.

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Right?

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And what what does it look like?

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It's so much beautiful. What about Thayf?

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It's very different than the other cities. It's

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different than Mecca. It's different than

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Medina.

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It's very luscious.

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Yani, it's yes. You're still in the Arabian

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Peninsula, but it's very green. It's very lush.

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It has orchards and orchards.

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It's it's so interesting. A different place, subhanAllah.

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And here you have the prophet, sallallahu alaihi

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wasallam, head over there and he starts his

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dawah. He starts to call people to Islam.

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He's got very specific the heads of the

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tribe that he wants to reach 1 by

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1.

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And he goes to them 1 by 1.

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You know what they say to him?

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1 person says to him, what? Your Allah

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couldn't find someone better than you to send

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us?

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Someone else says, if you really are the

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prophet, then I'll be cursed.

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Right?

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The next person says, don't even try to

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talk to me. Basically, each one of them

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kicks him out. Each one of them in

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turn kicks him out.

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And so he decides despite all of this

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pain, right, of people being very human humiliating

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him, he decides to stay in thought for

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a little bit longer. Why?

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He says, well, let me give the Dawah

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to the common people.

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Right? There are leaders that want to listen,

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maybe the commoners will listen.

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And then they started to actually be interested

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in what is this message of Islam.

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Do you know what happens next?

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The leaders

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get wind of the fact that the people

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are getting interested in Islam. So what do

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they do to him? They literally drive him

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out of the

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if. And tell me what they do because

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it's very humiliating what they do. You know

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this part of the story. What do they

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do?

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They they gather the who? The children.

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And they literally pick up stones

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and pelt him

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with this so much so that literally he

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starts to bleed.

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It said that his heels were so *

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from this incident of so many

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stones hitting him that his foot is sticking

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into his sandal

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because of the blood.

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And you know when you're when you're,

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targeted like this, you're so humiliated like this.

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He said, I lost track of where I

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was. Can you imagine? You're being driven out

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and being pelted and pelted with stones and

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you're bleeding and you're kind of a little

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bit confused where you are. He said, I

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did not even know where I was

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until he got to a specific orchard.

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Do you know whose orchard it was?

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Yes. Adesis who's with him, who's the the

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person's servant their servant,

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subhanallah.

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And he sits in this orchard on a

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rock and he makes a very special du'a

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to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Powerful du'a. I

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encourage us all to learn it and even

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memorize it.

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Because in this dua, he literally says to

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Allah,

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if I've done something wrong

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and this is some sort of punishment for

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me,

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then forgive me, and I accept it.

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But if you are happy with me, you're

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pleased with me, and this is basically like

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a test or a tribulation that I'm going

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through, then I accept.

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I accept.

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And he sees at that point what?

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Who? Who does he see?

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The angel.

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The angel?

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What angel?

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Sayyidina Jibril. What is Sayyidina Jibril coming with

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a message? What does he tell him?

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See, you said hills earlier and there were

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mountains there.

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And he says to him, if you want,

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I will take these mountains and

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basically destroy this group of people that have

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humiliated you so much.

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And what does the prophet say sallallahu alaihi

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wasalam?

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Use a rahma, mercy.

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He says, maybe

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it could be that from their progeny, from

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their next generations, they'll be believers. So keep

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them. Look how merciful tia sallallahu alaihi wasalam

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despite

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the agony,

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despite the agony. And there's a beautiful next

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part of the story, and I didn't mean

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to go all the way into the story

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thought if I love the story thought. But

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there's the next part of the story, which

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is I'll just share very quickly.

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Where is the where is the yusrah tucked

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into the usr here?

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He's sitting in an orchard,

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and the orchard belongs to people who are

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technically enemies.

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Right? But he's sitting there

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and the people see him and he's bleeding

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and very it's a very difficult, Yani. It's

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like they had some shakakha for him. Right?

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They had some, you know, empathy for him.

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And so they said they sent their servant

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to him and they said, give him some

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grapes

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from the orchard. Remember I told you orchards.

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Right? So when he when he see when

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he when he's offered these grapes,

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he says, Bismillah.

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And the servant who listens to this, he

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says, who taught you to say this?

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And he says,

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I'm a prophet of God. I'm taught this

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the way Allah has taught the prophets.

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And so he says the servant says, I

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haven't heard anyone in these lands say these

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words.

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And he says, well, where are you from?

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Do you guys know where he was from?

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From your city?

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Masha'allah.

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Masha'allah.

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How beautiful.

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And he said,

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I too am a descendant of which prophet?

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Sayyidna Yunus. And I am a prophet just

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like the prophet Yunus, and we are both

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given a message from the same God. Do

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you know that that servant right there took

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shahada

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and became a Muslim? People don't know some

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of the little finer details,

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but that was he hoped for Ta'if to

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become Muslim, but he had this one person.

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And he said with this one person,

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it was the weight

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of that entire current city that later, Alhamdulillah,

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I had a chance to visit. It sounds

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like you did too.

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They are the most generous beautiful people you

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will meet.

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And they are core, like like very proud

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believers of Muslims today.

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And generous, generous.

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They still have the orchards and they're very

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generous, SubhanAllah. And you think about had that

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whole city been annihilated,

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there wouldn't have been those believers today.

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But let's go back to our story. Here's

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the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.

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He's had what?

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Multiple losses one after another after another in

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his life.

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And you're right. You mentioned something that happens

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right after the in the Sira. What is

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that?

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Al Isra wal Ma'raj.

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This is the night journey.

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Right? And the ascension

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happens right after this incident.

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Allah is giving him relief after these difficult

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moments and things that he has he has

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been through, subhanAllah.

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As he goes through these difficulties,

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He we learned from him

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and from all of the stories

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that he grieved,

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that he cried,

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that he felt

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a sense

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of even being in that confusion and and

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almost like everyone is against you, and he

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physically bled

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and hurt.

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Why do I share this?

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Because when you think about the discussion on

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mental health

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and you think about a person's well-being and

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mental wellness,

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we turn first to the prophet sallallahu alaihi

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wasallam.

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What is it that we don't see?

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We don't see somebody

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turning, after some difficulty, turning against Allah We

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don't see somebody saying, why me?

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We don't see somebody saying,

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I can do this completely on my own.

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That last point is very important

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because we talked about how the prophet

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had his internal anchor, his external anchor,

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and he had his community.

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And he went and tried to seek out

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support from the leaders who wouldn't listen to

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him, but he was trying because he knew

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that you don't do this alone.

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See, today, we have a little bit of

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a trouble with this. A lot of us

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believe that we can do things completely on

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our own.

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We think that we need to be self

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sufficient.

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We need to be able to wipe away

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our own tears and, in fact, we maybe

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shouldn't even have tears in the first place.

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And that's just simply not the message of

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our prophet or the prophets of the Quran.

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Do you know my best example of this?

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You must know my best example of this.

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Who am I referring to in the Quran?

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Sayidna Yaqoob.

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What about Sayidna Yaqoob in the Quran?

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Allah

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described

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very eloquently and specifically

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the crying and the tears of Sayyid Ay

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Yaqub.

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What did he say? What's the verse?

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He did say that

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to Imam. And how does he say his

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crying specifically?

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It's amazing.

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The fact that the description of the crying

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of Sayyid Nabu, the father of Yusuf,

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on the loss of his son,

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His loss of his son right? This is

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the part of the story early on in

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the Surah. Right? The whole Surah reads like

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a story.

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And early on, we see that the loss

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of Sayid Nay Yusuf, the brothers are jealous

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of him.

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They put him in they can't get themselves

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to kill him, although they think about murder,

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what jealousy can do to you.

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And instead, they put him in the the

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well. They come back and complain to their

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or they report to their father as though

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he was dead.

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Philip has a sense, a feeling

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that something's not right.

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But nevertheless,

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even as a prophet of God who's receiving

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revelation from God,

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he's what?

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He cries.

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I wanna ask you something.

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Would we ever

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say that Sayyid Day Yaqb is any less

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of a prophet because he cried?

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No.

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Would we say that he's any less of

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a man because he cried?

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Would we say that he's any less of

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a believer

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because he cried?

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Prussia,

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you can't.

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There's no way.

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And not only does he cry, I don't

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mean just some tears. I'm talking about the

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kind of tears and crying that's described in

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the Quran as

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his eyes went white

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with grief.

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And the scholars debate, was this blindness,

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or was this more like a haziness the

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way cataracts might do to you? Whatever it

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is, the point is the word in Arabic

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is, well,

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His eyes went white

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with grief.

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Yani, so much crying in a prolonged

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period of time. Do you know from the

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time Syedne Yusuf was lost until he was

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found

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or reunited, Annie, with his father? How many

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years was that? Does anyone know?

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How many years?

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It's it's a few decades.

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Some say between 20 to 30 years

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before he's reunited with his son.

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That many years of crying,

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it'll do it to you.

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What do I wanna say? We would never

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say here's a prophet of God after the

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prophet Muhammad salallahu alaihi wa sallam, our understanding

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of who are the best humans are the

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prophets, the most closest to Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala. And here is a prophet of God

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who is crying so much. Why do I

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really emphasize this?

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Because forgive me, but I'm going to put

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something there that you may not be happy

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with me, but especially our boys and our

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men,

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what do we say to them?

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Be a man.

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Don't be a

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girl.

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Men don't cry.

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Man up.

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Would you say that's a prophet? Yeah. Absolutely.

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I'm not

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trying to say and let everybody start crying.

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That's what I'm saying. But what I am

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trying to say is tears have a purpose

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and tears have

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a place

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and tears are something that is not considered

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to be the opposite of a believer.

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This point is very important

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because for so many people, when we talk

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about mental health, the immediate thing is, well,

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if they just had better iman,

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they wouldn't have mental health problems.

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You say that about Prophet Yaqubah, the Prophet

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Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam?

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You have a whole entire 'am and huzn,

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a whole year of sadness,

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of grief, of sorrow.

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Would we say this to them, that their

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iman wasn't strong enough?

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No.

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So what do we mean then? It means

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that it's possible that a person can have

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very strong belief in Allah and be an

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immense

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pillar

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of belief,

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But

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Mike sometimes don't like me. That's okay.

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They are gonna start crying 2 thirties.

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And here's my proof for you. The prophet

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sallallahu alaihi wa sallam says about the believers.

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Right? He says about believers that if Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala wanted

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good for you, He's going to test you.

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Because the best of all people are the

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prophets, and they are the most tested.

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And after them are the people who are

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the closest to Allah and

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they are the most tested after the

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prophets and so on and so forth.

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And people have a really hard time with

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this but it is part of our tradition.

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It's part of our

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Islamic concept.

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For example, the prophet

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says,

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What does that translate to whoever Allah intends

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good for, He sends them affliction

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that benefits them.

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Sometimes these difficulties are purification.

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Sometimes these difficulties are reminder.

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Sometimes it's a prick that kind of says,

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okay, what is this? Or maybe it's

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a humiliating

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and humbling experience to say, I need to

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get help.

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I shouldn't and can't do this completely on

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my own.

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And I think that's really important because so

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many times, I talk to individuals who they

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themselves have gotten to a point where they

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realize I need help.

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And they'll say to members of their family

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and their community, their friends, and they'll say,

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I think I need some help.

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But often, they're met with resistance.

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No. You don't.

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Just pray more.

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No. You don't. Don't be so lazy. No.

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Get up. Get up. No. You don't.

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If you just did x, y, or z,

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you'd be fine.

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But this isn't the message of our deen,

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and it's not the message of the prophet

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sallallahu alaihi wasallam.

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In fact, you wanna know what is the

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message?

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I'll tell you.

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There were times in the prophet's life himself,

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Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam

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that he

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wanted so much to spread Islam, to give

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this message of Dawah. He wanted everyone to

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be part of the fold of Islam.

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But there were some who were resistant and

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they just weren't going to listen.

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SubhanAllah.

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And Allah

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talked to him or addressed him directly in

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the Quran.

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And he says to him,

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as an ayah that you all know and

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probably recite weekly, but let's think of the

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context in which it's revealed.

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Are you familiar with this verse? You recite

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it. You know it.

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What does it look like translated to? It

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says, now perhaps, oh prophet, you will grieve

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yourself to death. K. Listen to me. Grieve

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yourself

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to death

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over their denial

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if they continue to disbelieve in this message.

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Allah is saying to him,

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there is a limit

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of what you can do and of convincing

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other people about this message.

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Even if they don't listen, you can't basically

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put yourself in a situation where you will

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grieve so heavily and so deeply that it

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will start to affect you psychologically

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and physically.

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So Allah puts a limit in place

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of how far you can go before you

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have to address this.

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Do you see what I'm saying?

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And

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Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, told him,

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Do not grieve yourself to death over him,

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oh Prophet.

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Yani,

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remember that even the prophet

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as

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a human, yes, the best of all humans

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was prone

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was prone to going into a state of

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grieving so extensively that it could be problematic.

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So Allah is telling him, don't go that

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far.

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Right?

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So I have 5 messages for you or

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5 main aspects of when people want to

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know, what is the prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi

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wasalam's approach himself

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to mental health? Let's take all 5. Number

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1,

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the first and foremost

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that suffering can be that blessing from Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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And for somebody who does not believe in

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Allah and doesn't understand the concept of,

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a God centered kind of concepts

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or worldview where you realize that you are

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not the one in charge. There is Allah's

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divine wisdom

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really orchestrating everything. It's hard to understand this

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concept. Why would you have somebody who's going

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to have

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a suffering be a blessing?

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But here's my proof for you.

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There's a hadith where the prophets, Muhammad

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says,

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That the the wondrous it's wondrous

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the believer.

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All that happens to the believer is hayr,

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is good.

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All that

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happens

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is

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good.

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And he emphasizes that this is not for

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anybody except for the believer.

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That if Allah gives them good,

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alhamdulillah,

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it's good for them. But if he gives

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them difficulty,

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then what?

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Also, alhamdulillah.

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Exactly.

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That if it that if the good, the

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gratitude, the prosperity comes to them, then they

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have shukr, They're in gratitude to Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala. And if the difficulty comes to

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them, the adversity falls them, they endure

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patiently.

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And this is also good for them.

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Only a believer can understand this, and only

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a believer can have the kind of patience

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to kinda push them through or pull them

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through this difficulty when it comes to them.

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Number 2,

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to embrace this knowledge

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of your emotions

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in balance.

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Like the message I was saying earlier about

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the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Even Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala put limits to the dawah that

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he was doing.

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That it can't be a point where it

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drives him into the ground,

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essentially.

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Right?

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Even the dawah of Islam.

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And so here, this idea of balance, the

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prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, taught us the

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importance of acknowledging

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our own emotions.

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And people think this is so interesting that

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this is really the prophet told us about

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our emotions. Yes.

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Not only did he acknowledge

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his own emotions, but he acknowledged emotions of

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the people of his community.

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And there are many examples of this, but

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let me tell you the story,

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which is a difficult story but an important

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story.

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And it comes later in the prophet's life,

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and now he has the youngest of his

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children,

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a son,

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by the name of

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Ibrahim.

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And

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Ibrahim was not to live. He was not

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going to live very long.

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And as

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he is literally taking his very last breaths,

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he is sitting on the lap of his

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father, the Prophet sallallahu

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alaihi

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wasallam. And this little child is taking their

00:32:08 --> 00:32:10

very last breaths

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and the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam

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begins to cry,

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visible tears

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coming down his cheeks,

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so much so that the companions

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see the tears.

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And so they ask him

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because they're curious. They wanna know everything the

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prophet does, everything he says, everything he does,

00:32:30 --> 00:32:33

every they have to understand, is this okay?

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Is this not okay? What do we do?

00:32:34 --> 00:32:35

What does this mean?

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So they ask him about the tears.

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And this is what He says,

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Indeed, the eyes shed tears

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and the heart feels sorrow.

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But we do not say that except which

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is pleasing to Allah

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Surely,

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your departure, O Ibrahim,

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leaves us all deeply saddened.

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And he explains to the companions,

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tears

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are normal.

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They are normative.

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There is what this is what Allah has

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given us to grieve with.

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It's different. Crying is different than wailing and

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screaming and carrying on.

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The tears and being overcome by emotion

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and the feeling of sorrow and grief in

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your heart is human.

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And if you don't have this, then you're

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a robot.

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And he shows through his own blessed example,

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sallallahu alaihi wasallam, that not only is it

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okay to cry,

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but a believer

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cries.

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But what they don't do

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is push against

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or say something that Allah would not be

00:34:02 --> 00:34:03

okay with.

00:34:03 --> 00:34:04

Does that make sense?

00:34:05 --> 00:34:07

It's so important when he says, and we

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do not say except that pleases Allah, means

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I don't complain about what Allah has given

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me.

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I don't push. I don't have

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I don't push against

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the fate that God has given me. He's

00:34:17 --> 00:34:19

taken my young son away. Some might say,

00:34:19 --> 00:34:21

why me? How come? Why not him? Why

00:34:21 --> 00:34:22

not her?

00:34:24 --> 00:34:26

I understand that this has come to me,

00:34:26 --> 00:34:28

and so I accept it. But it does

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not negate that I can be tearful and

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sad.

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Does that make sense?

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This is important.

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This balance this is what I mean by

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balance of emotion,

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recognizing emotions. See, sometimes as modern humans, what

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we do is we start to label emotions.

00:34:44 --> 00:34:47

We say sadness and tears, bad.

00:34:48 --> 00:34:49

Happiness and joy, good.

00:34:51 --> 00:34:53

We don't realize that the entire spectrum of

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emotions is something Allah created.

00:34:55 --> 00:34:58

He created sadness just like he created happiness.

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And therefore,

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all of which are the creation of Allah

00:35:02 --> 00:35:04

subhanahu wa ta'ala. So you can't label some

00:35:04 --> 00:35:05

of them good and some of them bad.

00:35:06 --> 00:35:08

Does that make sense? And this balance is

00:35:08 --> 00:35:10

part of his prophetic example

00:35:10 --> 00:35:13

towards mental health. Number 3,

00:35:14 --> 00:35:15

to regulate our emotions.

00:35:16 --> 00:35:19

The prophetic example on mental health here is

00:35:19 --> 00:35:21

a regulation of emotions.

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Think about a hadith that you know, I

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know you know this one,

00:35:25 --> 00:35:26

about anger.

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What does the prophet say? Anger is an

00:35:29 --> 00:35:30

emotion Allah has created.

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And put in the right direction, it could

00:35:33 --> 00:35:35

actually lead to good. Put in the wrong

00:35:35 --> 00:35:38

and to an extreme situation, it can definitely

00:35:38 --> 00:35:39

lead to bad.

00:35:39 --> 00:35:41

What is the hadith that you know about

00:35:41 --> 00:35:41

anger?

00:35:48 --> 00:35:50

Tell me more. What else do you know

00:35:50 --> 00:35:51

about anger?

00:35:52 --> 00:35:53

What happens if you're angry? What is the

00:35:53 --> 00:35:55

prophetic sunnah to do?

00:35:57 --> 00:35:57

Good.

00:35:59 --> 00:36:01

Excellent. Excellent. You're saying all different parts of

00:36:01 --> 00:36:03

the hadith. Excellent. But if a person is

00:36:03 --> 00:36:04

standing, they

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sit.

00:36:05 --> 00:36:07

And if they're very

00:36:07 --> 00:36:09

and if they feel that heat, right, what

00:36:09 --> 00:36:12

is this? This is another narration of what?

00:36:12 --> 00:36:13

That anger is

00:36:13 --> 00:36:16

from? Shaitan. Shaitan is made from fire. So

00:36:16 --> 00:36:17

how do you put this out?

00:36:17 --> 00:36:19

Water. So go make.

00:36:19 --> 00:36:22

Right? There is a behavior this is in

00:36:22 --> 00:36:25

psychology. We would call this a behavioral

00:36:25 --> 00:36:26

modification

00:36:27 --> 00:36:27

to

00:36:28 --> 00:36:29

an emotion that you're feeling.

00:36:31 --> 00:36:33

Literally, you are regulating the emotions

00:36:35 --> 00:36:38

by putting, again, limits around them. You're not

00:36:38 --> 00:36:40

canceling them out and saying, nope, canceled.

00:36:41 --> 00:36:43

You're actually modulating them,

00:36:44 --> 00:36:46

modifying them, helping them

00:36:46 --> 00:36:48

to be the best version of you, Insha

00:36:48 --> 00:36:49

Allah Ta'ala.

00:36:50 --> 00:36:51

Number 4,

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to take time to take care of yourself.

00:36:55 --> 00:36:57

And you'll say, really? Self care is part

00:36:57 --> 00:36:59

of the sutta of the prophet sallallahu alaihi

00:36:59 --> 00:36:59

wa sallam?

00:37:00 --> 00:37:01

Absolutely.

00:37:01 --> 00:37:04

Sometimes people hear this word self care, and

00:37:04 --> 00:37:05

they think I'm saying

00:37:06 --> 00:37:06

selfish.

00:37:08 --> 00:37:09

I'm not telling us to be selfish.

00:37:10 --> 00:37:12

But when I'm saying self care,

00:37:13 --> 00:37:14

it's the same kind of care that we

00:37:14 --> 00:37:16

give to anything that we're doing.

00:37:17 --> 00:37:18

When we say self care, I don't just

00:37:18 --> 00:37:20

mean spa days, ladies.

00:37:21 --> 00:37:24

When I mean self care, I mean everything,

00:37:24 --> 00:37:26

all aspects of care. So if it's physical,

00:37:28 --> 00:37:30

then it's taking care of our physical bodies,

00:37:31 --> 00:37:33

whatever form of exercise it allows you to

00:37:33 --> 00:37:33

do that.

00:37:34 --> 00:37:35

When I say emotional

00:37:35 --> 00:37:38

self care, it's regulating and working on our

00:37:38 --> 00:37:39

emotions.

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And if there's something

00:37:41 --> 00:37:43

that is just like physical, by the way,

00:37:44 --> 00:37:45

some people are very motivated.

00:37:46 --> 00:37:47

They say, oh, I can go run a

00:37:47 --> 00:37:48

mile. No problem.

00:37:48 --> 00:37:51

Other people, they literally need, like, a running

00:37:51 --> 00:37:52

group to do anything.

00:37:53 --> 00:37:55

Some people are like, I can have the

00:37:55 --> 00:37:57

run the machine, the treadmill in my own

00:37:57 --> 00:37:58

house, and I'll

00:37:58 --> 00:38:00

have the self discipline to get up on

00:38:00 --> 00:38:02

it and to do something with it. Others,

00:38:03 --> 00:38:04

they'll have every machine

00:38:05 --> 00:38:05

created.

00:38:08 --> 00:38:10

Yet what's missing is them getting on to

00:38:10 --> 00:38:11

the machines.

00:38:12 --> 00:38:13

So then what do they need? They need

00:38:13 --> 00:38:14

encouragement.

00:38:14 --> 00:38:16

They need a group. Sometimes they need a

00:38:16 --> 00:38:16

trainer.

00:38:18 --> 00:38:20

Right? I have this excellent trainer,

00:38:20 --> 00:38:22

And, Muslim lady, she was really excellent,

00:38:23 --> 00:38:25

And I've noticed the difference of having a

00:38:25 --> 00:38:27

trainer versus not having a trainer.

00:38:28 --> 00:38:30

You know, it's something about there's accountability.

00:38:31 --> 00:38:32

I knew that I was accountable.

00:38:33 --> 00:38:34

I was gonna show up and she was

00:38:34 --> 00:38:36

gonna ask. Right? And I had to be

00:38:36 --> 00:38:38

there. And there were certain times and certain

00:38:38 --> 00:38:40

days that I had to be on time.

00:38:40 --> 00:38:40

SubhanAllah.

00:38:41 --> 00:38:44

And that level of accountability was very useful.

00:38:44 --> 00:38:47

If we do that for physical health, what

00:38:47 --> 00:38:49

about for emotional health?

00:38:51 --> 00:38:52

Okay. You're not ready to hear about emotional

00:38:52 --> 00:38:54

health? Fine. What about spiritual health? Now come

00:38:54 --> 00:38:56

back to emotional health. What do you do

00:38:56 --> 00:38:57

for your spiritual health?

00:38:59 --> 00:39:01

You're here here on a Friday night. You

00:39:01 --> 00:39:03

could be at the movie theaters.

00:39:03 --> 00:39:04

You could be at the

00:39:05 --> 00:39:06

mall. I don't know. The hoop?

00:39:07 --> 00:39:08

The gym?

00:39:09 --> 00:39:11

To an extent, the gym might be okay.

00:39:11 --> 00:39:13

But it's a Friday night. You could really

00:39:13 --> 00:39:15

be literally anywhere, SubhanAllah.

00:39:15 --> 00:39:17

What are you doing for your spiritual health

00:39:17 --> 00:39:18

and well-being?

00:39:20 --> 00:39:21

You're here with the imam,

00:39:21 --> 00:39:24

You're here in a circle of knowledge, ahalakah.

00:39:25 --> 00:39:27

You're here in a bonds of sisterhood and

00:39:27 --> 00:39:29

brotherhood that kind of uplift you and keep

00:39:29 --> 00:39:30

you going spiritually,

00:39:30 --> 00:39:32

and, alhamdulillah, the many programs that you're attending,

00:39:34 --> 00:39:36

this is helping you, spiritual health.

00:39:37 --> 00:39:39

If you completely cut out all aspects of

00:39:39 --> 00:39:41

a Muslim community and a place in which

00:39:41 --> 00:39:43

you're learning Islam, you'll find this is deficient.

00:39:43 --> 00:39:46

It's just like the treadmill that can't get

00:39:46 --> 00:39:47

the person on it.

00:39:47 --> 00:39:49

Same thing with spiritual health.

00:39:50 --> 00:39:52

Now we're ready to get to emotional health.

00:39:54 --> 00:39:56

What happens with emotional mental health if we

00:39:56 --> 00:39:57

find ourselves

00:39:58 --> 00:40:00

unable to do this completely on our own?

00:40:01 --> 00:40:04

Some people can. They may have the resources

00:40:04 --> 00:40:05

or the family

00:40:05 --> 00:40:07

or the friends or the support, and maybe

00:40:07 --> 00:40:09

what they're dealing with is what we would

00:40:09 --> 00:40:09

call mild.

00:40:10 --> 00:40:11

Mild

00:40:11 --> 00:40:13

on this the grand scheme of things,

00:40:13 --> 00:40:14

mild.

00:40:14 --> 00:40:17

But maybe for some people, their tribulation in

00:40:17 --> 00:40:18

life comes in that

00:40:19 --> 00:40:21

mental health or emotional health aspect.

00:40:21 --> 00:40:23

And maybe it's a moderate or even a

00:40:23 --> 00:40:24

severe.

00:40:26 --> 00:40:28

Even then people say, you can do this

00:40:28 --> 00:40:31

on your own. Why? We're not Superwoman and

00:40:31 --> 00:40:31

Superman.

00:40:32 --> 00:40:35

We're not. That's not how God created us.

00:40:35 --> 00:40:36

He didn't create us to fly.

00:40:37 --> 00:40:38

He didn't create us with special superpower. He

00:40:38 --> 00:40:40

really didn't. He created us humans.

00:40:41 --> 00:40:42

And he gave us examples

00:40:42 --> 00:40:45

of people close to him who also told

00:40:45 --> 00:40:47

us to get help.

00:40:47 --> 00:40:48

You want my proof?

00:40:49 --> 00:40:51

The companions went to the prophet sallallahu alaihi

00:40:51 --> 00:40:52

wa sallam,

00:40:52 --> 00:40:54

and they said to him, if we get

00:40:54 --> 00:40:55

sick,

00:40:56 --> 00:40:57

should we go get treatment?

00:40:59 --> 00:41:01

What are they implying in this question?

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They are asking the prophet of God.

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It's as though even though it's not said,

00:41:05 --> 00:41:08

it's as though it's implied, You Rasulullah isn't

00:41:08 --> 00:41:10

prayer enough or thicket enough?

00:41:13 --> 00:41:15

They didn't say this but it's essentially implied,

00:41:15 --> 00:41:16

should we go get treatment?

00:41:17 --> 00:41:19

They're asking the prophet

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who if you go to the average Muslim

00:41:22 --> 00:41:23

today and you told him, I'm depressed,

00:41:25 --> 00:41:25

he would say,

00:41:29 --> 00:41:31

a believer does not get depressed,

00:41:31 --> 00:41:32

go pray.

00:41:32 --> 00:41:33

This is the typical

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answer.

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What was the prophet's answer,

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Seek out treatments, O servants of God.

00:41:50 --> 00:41:51

For In

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some narrations, Dawat.

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I'll translate.

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The companions asked the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam,

00:42:04 --> 00:42:06

if we get sick, should we go get

00:42:06 --> 00:42:07

treatment?

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And he, salallahu alaihi wasalam, answered and said,

00:42:11 --> 00:42:12

seek out treatments,

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oh servants of God.

00:42:15 --> 00:42:17

For God does not send down

00:42:18 --> 00:42:18

illnesses.

00:42:19 --> 00:42:20

He does not create illnesses.

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Unless he creates

00:42:23 --> 00:42:24

its cure,

00:42:24 --> 00:42:26

or in some narrations, its treatment.

00:42:27 --> 00:42:28

And this is what modern medicine would tell

00:42:28 --> 00:42:30

you today. There are some illnesses that have

00:42:30 --> 00:42:31

cures

00:42:32 --> 00:42:34

and some illnesses that have only

00:42:34 --> 00:42:35

treatments.

00:42:35 --> 00:42:37

They're chronic. They won't go away, but you

00:42:37 --> 00:42:38

can treat them.

00:42:39 --> 00:42:40

And this is powerful.

00:42:41 --> 00:42:43

You know, when the pandemic happened

00:42:43 --> 00:42:45

and nobody understood what was happening with COVID

00:42:45 --> 00:42:47

19, especially in those 1st few months,

00:42:48 --> 00:42:50

think about March 2020.

00:42:50 --> 00:42:52

Right? For the 1st few months, can you

00:42:52 --> 00:42:53

put yourself back there? It's not that long

00:42:53 --> 00:42:54

ago. Yeah? Put yourself back there. I don't

00:42:54 --> 00:42:56

know. None of us wanna be back there.

00:42:56 --> 00:42:57

Just for just a few months. It's just

00:42:57 --> 00:42:59

emotionally because it's so recent history.

00:42:59 --> 00:43:02

Right? Can't believe we're saying history. But anyway,

00:43:02 --> 00:43:04

it's so recent that you can put yourself

00:43:04 --> 00:43:06

back into the feeling of anguish, of just

00:43:06 --> 00:43:08

angst, of, like, not knowing what is this

00:43:08 --> 00:43:09

thing and people are dying and they're telling

00:43:09 --> 00:43:12

us to isolate and to drop everything we're

00:43:12 --> 00:43:13

doing and to stay at home.

00:43:15 --> 00:43:16

And do you remember that feeling?

00:43:17 --> 00:43:19

This tiny little micros microscopic

00:43:26 --> 00:43:28

And I was so wonderful to hear believers

00:43:28 --> 00:43:29

say

00:43:29 --> 00:43:31

that if Allah created an illness,

00:43:32 --> 00:43:33

He's also created it,

00:43:34 --> 00:43:36

cure or treatment.

00:43:36 --> 00:43:38

And, subhanAllah, it would only be within a

00:43:38 --> 00:43:40

matter of months given to modern medicine, subhanAllah,

00:43:40 --> 00:43:42

and the work of people, some of whom

00:43:42 --> 00:43:44

were Muslim by the way, right, who figured

00:43:44 --> 00:43:46

out the vaccine for COVID,

00:43:46 --> 00:43:47

who

00:43:47 --> 00:43:49

put right? Because the cure doesn't just fall

00:43:49 --> 00:43:51

from the sky. You have to actually take

00:43:51 --> 00:43:53

active work to make it happen.

00:43:54 --> 00:43:55

Science and rep

00:43:56 --> 00:43:58

and lab work and kinda research and so

00:43:58 --> 00:43:59

on. Anyway, the point is

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the belief of knowing that if Allah sent

00:44:02 --> 00:44:04

an illness, even a brand new one we've

00:44:04 --> 00:44:06

never seen before, he's also going to send

00:44:06 --> 00:44:06

it

00:44:07 --> 00:44:08

cure or treatment.

00:44:08 --> 00:44:09

There is no discrimination

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in Islam between physical illness and mental illness.

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And if you want my proof to this,

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the proof are the institutions that the Muslims

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created.

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We actually named our nonprofit organization, Madastan,

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after these institutions.

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For those of you who know Farsi or

00:44:27 --> 00:44:28

Odedoo, you know the word,

00:44:29 --> 00:44:30

illness,

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stand, location.

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Bimaristan

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is

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the hospitals of the Muslims.

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The Arabic of this is Darushifa.

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Interestingly, in the Arab lands, they have the

00:44:42 --> 00:44:42

Imarustans.

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That's what they call them. And in the

00:44:44 --> 00:44:46

non Arab lands, they call them the Dara

00:44:46 --> 00:44:48

Shifa. I don't know. Anyway,

00:44:49 --> 00:44:50

they're the same kind of institution.

00:44:51 --> 00:44:51

They're a hospital.

00:44:52 --> 00:44:54

And the hospital was run by physicians.

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And you know what was so beautiful by

00:44:57 --> 00:44:57

it?

00:44:58 --> 00:45:00

We're writing a book at this moment, make

00:45:00 --> 00:45:02

du'a, inshallah, we're almost done with inshallah ta'ala,

00:45:03 --> 00:45:05

that we can't find proof

00:45:05 --> 00:45:06

of other civilizations

00:45:06 --> 00:45:08

parallel or before the Muslims

00:45:08 --> 00:45:10

that put psychiatric

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wards in their hospitals before the Muslims. When

00:45:11 --> 00:45:11

you

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When you tell me that there's something in

00:45:17 --> 00:45:19

Islam that discriminates between mental health and physical

00:45:19 --> 00:45:20

health,

00:45:21 --> 00:45:21

There isn't.

00:45:22 --> 00:45:25

Yani, they had the wherewithal to say, if

00:45:25 --> 00:45:27

Allah says there's an illness, there must be

00:45:27 --> 00:45:29

a treatment, that I'm going to whatever illness

00:45:29 --> 00:45:31

I see in front of me in society,

00:45:31 --> 00:45:33

I'm going to work hard to make sure

00:45:33 --> 00:45:35

we provide health and care for that person.

00:45:36 --> 00:45:39

So their hospitals are literally like this, a

00:45:39 --> 00:45:42

section for surgery, a section for obstetrics, a

00:45:42 --> 00:45:43

section for internal medicine, a section

00:45:46 --> 00:45:46

ophthalmology,

00:45:47 --> 00:45:48

a section for psychiatry.

00:45:50 --> 00:45:52

There are papers written by non Muslims that

00:45:52 --> 00:45:53

say that that blueprint

00:45:54 --> 00:45:56

of the Muslim Hospitals is the blueprint of

00:45:56 --> 00:45:58

the modern hospital system.

00:45:59 --> 00:46:00

They took it from the Muslims.

00:46:01 --> 00:46:03

Because you know what the alternatives were that

00:46:03 --> 00:46:04

were available at the time?

00:46:05 --> 00:46:06

Send them to the nuns or priests to

00:46:06 --> 00:46:07

pray on them.

00:46:08 --> 00:46:10

Or in Europe, at the same exact time,

00:46:11 --> 00:46:12

burn them as witches at the stake

00:46:13 --> 00:46:15

because this is all supernatural

00:46:16 --> 00:46:16

possession

00:46:17 --> 00:46:18

that's happening to them.

00:46:19 --> 00:46:20

Do you see what I'm saying?

00:46:21 --> 00:46:22

This is not what the Muslims understood.

00:46:23 --> 00:46:24

And where are they getting it from?

00:46:27 --> 00:46:30

Seek out treatments, O servants of God.

00:46:30 --> 00:46:32

And lastly, number 5,

00:46:33 --> 00:46:34

to seek help.

00:46:35 --> 00:46:37

This is part of the prophet Sunna Sallallahu

00:46:37 --> 00:46:39

Alaihi Wasallam, it's himself.

00:46:40 --> 00:46:42

You already heard the hadith,

00:46:42 --> 00:46:44

but I'll tell you something very beautiful about

00:46:44 --> 00:46:44

the Sida.

00:46:46 --> 00:46:48

Now, Sittina, Isha, I get to finally say

00:46:48 --> 00:46:49

talk about her.

00:46:50 --> 00:46:52

That Sittina, Isha radiAllahu anha,

00:46:52 --> 00:46:54

years years after the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa

00:46:54 --> 00:46:56

sallam passed away. She outlived him for many

00:46:56 --> 00:46:57

many years.

00:46:58 --> 00:46:59

And for years afterwards,

00:47:00 --> 00:47:02

people would come to her specifically

00:47:02 --> 00:47:03

for many things,

00:47:04 --> 00:47:06

one of which is medicine.

00:47:07 --> 00:47:09

And people were always so amazed by this.

00:47:09 --> 00:47:10

They would say,

00:47:11 --> 00:47:13

oh, Aisha, we know that you

00:47:13 --> 00:47:15

are really good with your fiqh,

00:47:15 --> 00:47:17

your Islamic laws and legislation because you lived

00:47:17 --> 00:47:20

with the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. You're

00:47:20 --> 00:47:21

an immense narrator of the hadith of the

00:47:21 --> 00:47:24

prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. So that makes

00:47:24 --> 00:47:24

sense.

00:47:25 --> 00:47:27

We know you're really good with lineages,

00:47:28 --> 00:47:29

which was very important at the time for

00:47:29 --> 00:47:32

the Arabs and until today. It's one of

00:47:32 --> 00:47:34

our maqasid actually to the preservation of the

00:47:34 --> 00:47:34

lineage.

00:47:34 --> 00:47:36

And they would say, we know that that's

00:47:36 --> 00:47:38

the case because your father is

00:47:38 --> 00:47:40

Abu Bakr, and he was very good at

00:47:40 --> 00:47:42

this knowledge. So he passed it down to

00:47:42 --> 00:47:43

his daughter.

00:47:43 --> 00:47:44

But how is it that you're so good

00:47:44 --> 00:47:45

at medicine?

00:47:46 --> 00:47:48

And she would say,

00:47:48 --> 00:47:50

because when I would get sick, when I

00:47:50 --> 00:47:52

when when when the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wasalam,

00:47:52 --> 00:47:53

would get sick,

00:47:54 --> 00:47:56

all of the tribes of Arabia would try

00:47:56 --> 00:47:58

to send him different types of medicine. Right?

00:47:58 --> 00:48:00

They all wanna make sure that he's okay.

00:48:00 --> 00:48:02

So everyone is giving, can you imagine, try

00:48:02 --> 00:48:03

this, try this, try this treatment, try this

00:48:03 --> 00:48:05

herb, try this thing. Right? So she was

00:48:05 --> 00:48:07

a witness to all of this. She said,

00:48:07 --> 00:48:09

I learned all of the different kinds of

00:48:09 --> 00:48:11

treatments that were available at her time.

00:48:13 --> 00:48:14

And so she learned

00:48:15 --> 00:48:15

medicine.

00:48:16 --> 00:48:19

And she learned from the prophet Muhammad salallahu

00:48:19 --> 00:48:20

alaihi wasalam himself

00:48:21 --> 00:48:23

to give people treatment when they were ill,

00:48:24 --> 00:48:26

not just simply to make du'a for them

00:48:26 --> 00:48:28

or pray for them. You do that plus

00:48:28 --> 00:48:29

you take the medicine.

00:48:30 --> 00:48:32

And that's really important.

00:48:32 --> 00:48:34

And one such example that I'll give you

00:48:34 --> 00:48:37

is a special kind of soup or kind

00:48:37 --> 00:48:37

of

00:48:38 --> 00:48:40

a meal, you call it maybe a comfort

00:48:40 --> 00:48:40

food

00:48:41 --> 00:48:41

called tilbina.

00:48:42 --> 00:48:44

Do people know tilbina? Some people still make

00:48:44 --> 00:48:45

it till today.

00:48:46 --> 00:48:47

Do you know what tilbina is?

00:48:48 --> 00:48:51

It's a barley. Yes. Exactly. It's a it's

00:48:51 --> 00:48:51

a it's a it's,

00:48:52 --> 00:48:55

you take barley flour and milk and honey,

00:48:55 --> 00:48:56

and they would make it and they would

00:48:56 --> 00:48:58

give it to anybody who's feeling down,

00:48:59 --> 00:49:00

having some anxiety or some down,

00:49:01 --> 00:49:02

you know, sadness.

00:49:03 --> 00:49:06

And when the people asked her about this,

00:49:06 --> 00:49:07

why do you give tilbina to these people?

00:49:07 --> 00:49:09

Because this was something she was doing, so

00:49:09 --> 00:49:11

it's an Aisha. She said, I heard the

00:49:11 --> 00:49:14

prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam say, tilbina

00:49:14 --> 00:49:17

helps the ailing heart cope and find rest

00:49:17 --> 00:49:20

and it also relieves some sorrow and grief,

00:49:21 --> 00:49:21

SubhanAllah.

00:49:23 --> 00:49:25

Now, to me, the Talbina itself is an

00:49:25 --> 00:49:27

interesting thing, but what's more interesting

00:49:28 --> 00:49:30

is the fact that she actually learned from

00:49:30 --> 00:49:33

the prophet to treat depression and anxiety and

00:49:33 --> 00:49:34

sorrow and difficulty

00:49:35 --> 00:49:36

with a physical substance,

00:49:38 --> 00:49:40

not just merely dua and prayer.

00:49:41 --> 00:49:42

Does that make sense?

00:49:43 --> 00:49:45

Does that make sense? It's really important to

00:49:45 --> 00:49:47

understand that they took things to help them

00:49:47 --> 00:49:50

as well. And in the generations after them,

00:49:50 --> 00:49:51

because in the book that we're writing, we're

00:49:51 --> 00:49:53

looking at how did that in that hospital

00:49:53 --> 00:49:55

that I'm telling you about the madistans,

00:49:55 --> 00:49:57

what did they treat? They have the psychiatric

00:49:57 --> 00:49:59

wards. How did they treat those who are

00:49:59 --> 00:50:00

mentally ill?

00:50:01 --> 00:50:03

They had actual treatments for them,

00:50:03 --> 00:50:06

including treatments that were medication based,

00:50:06 --> 00:50:09

including treatments that were talk therapy. Mhmm. Yep.

00:50:09 --> 00:50:11

You just heard me right.

00:50:12 --> 00:50:12

Talk therapy.

00:50:13 --> 00:50:15

I'm not saying the Muslims created it. We

00:50:15 --> 00:50:16

still have to do more research to see

00:50:16 --> 00:50:18

if they were the first ever. But they

00:50:18 --> 00:50:20

were definitely some of the very first to

00:50:20 --> 00:50:22

work and to really help

00:50:22 --> 00:50:23

understand

00:50:23 --> 00:50:25

the benefit of something like talk therapy.

00:50:25 --> 00:50:27

But it's not just talking, talking, talking, but

00:50:27 --> 00:50:30

it's actually learning techniques and tools to help

00:50:30 --> 00:50:30

you

00:50:31 --> 00:50:32

in healing.

00:50:32 --> 00:50:35

And the Muslims did this. And thirdly,

00:50:36 --> 00:50:36

spiritual

00:50:37 --> 00:50:37

help.

00:50:38 --> 00:50:40

When you combine the 3 together, medications

00:50:41 --> 00:50:44

plus the therapy plus the spiritual upliftment, you

00:50:44 --> 00:50:45

get a recipe

00:50:46 --> 00:50:48

for care and concern.

00:50:49 --> 00:50:49

Alhamdulillah,

00:50:49 --> 00:50:51

I can go into many, many more,

00:50:52 --> 00:50:53

examples

00:50:53 --> 00:50:55

from our traditions, subhanAllah, in which

00:50:56 --> 00:50:58

the, the types of treatments that were used

00:50:58 --> 00:51:01

and the types of certain scholars and certain,

00:51:02 --> 00:51:05

leaders of our historical past that actually

00:51:06 --> 00:51:07

were really,

00:51:07 --> 00:51:09

at the forefront of all of this discussion

00:51:09 --> 00:51:11

on mental illness. And I'm happy to share

00:51:11 --> 00:51:12

some of those things. I do wanna give

00:51:12 --> 00:51:14

some time for the q and a.

00:51:15 --> 00:51:17

But I'll conclude with this. We had our

00:51:17 --> 00:51:18

5 kind of main

00:51:18 --> 00:51:21

examples of how the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam

00:51:21 --> 00:51:22

dealt with mental health.

00:51:22 --> 00:51:23

And in addition,

00:51:24 --> 00:51:27

we'll say this, in this my my closing

00:51:27 --> 00:51:28

kind of remark here is a call to

00:51:28 --> 00:51:29

action,

00:51:29 --> 00:51:30

really, for our community.

00:51:31 --> 00:51:33

And what is our call to action?

00:51:33 --> 00:51:35

That we have a tradition that literally teaches

00:51:35 --> 00:51:36

us

00:51:36 --> 00:51:37

that in addition

00:51:37 --> 00:51:38

to making du'a

00:51:39 --> 00:51:41

and making sure that we don't lose that

00:51:41 --> 00:51:43

connection with Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, and continuing

00:51:43 --> 00:51:45

with strong iman,

00:51:45 --> 00:51:48

despite whatever difficulties and tribulations come our way,

00:51:48 --> 00:51:50

it is also a tradition that says,

00:51:51 --> 00:51:53

get help when you need it.

00:51:53 --> 00:51:54

Please don't stand in the way of all

00:51:54 --> 00:51:57

those who do need that help. And here,

00:51:57 --> 00:51:59

I bear with with a lot of humility.

00:52:00 --> 00:52:01

Say to our community,

00:52:03 --> 00:52:05

please, parents, don't stand in the way of

00:52:05 --> 00:52:06

the children that need the help.

00:52:07 --> 00:52:09

Please, husbands, don't stand in the way of

00:52:09 --> 00:52:11

the wives that need the help. Please, wives,

00:52:11 --> 00:52:12

don't stand in the way of the husbands

00:52:12 --> 00:52:13

that need help.

00:52:13 --> 00:52:15

Please, young people, don't stand in the way

00:52:15 --> 00:52:17

of the elders that need the help.

00:52:17 --> 00:52:19

SubhanAllah, at every level

00:52:19 --> 00:52:21

and I meet so many people that come

00:52:21 --> 00:52:23

and talk to me. And afterwards, and they

00:52:23 --> 00:52:25

approach and they say, I know I need

00:52:25 --> 00:52:27

help or I know someone so needs help,

00:52:27 --> 00:52:30

but I can't seem to move the needle.

00:52:31 --> 00:52:34

And I ask why. And they say shame.

00:52:36 --> 00:52:37

Or if they're young, they'll say, my parent

00:52:37 --> 00:52:39

is worried that I'm not going to get

00:52:39 --> 00:52:39

married.

00:52:40 --> 00:52:42

Or they'll say, they don't want it on

00:52:42 --> 00:52:43

their insurance record.

00:52:44 --> 00:52:45

Or they'll say,

00:52:47 --> 00:52:48

is it going to go on some other

00:52:48 --> 00:52:50

academic or job record?

00:52:52 --> 00:52:52

Or they'll

00:52:53 --> 00:52:55

say, I'm not sure that I actually need

00:52:55 --> 00:52:56

this help in the first place.

00:52:57 --> 00:52:59

My concern with all of these things is

00:52:59 --> 00:53:00

all of them have a solution. None of

00:53:00 --> 00:53:02

them are. You're not making any of them

00:53:02 --> 00:53:04

up. All of them are real important things

00:53:04 --> 00:53:05

to consider.

00:53:06 --> 00:53:06

But, ultimately,

00:53:07 --> 00:53:08

my concern

00:53:08 --> 00:53:11

is a decade later, 2 decades later, after

00:53:11 --> 00:53:13

you see the young people become older people,

00:53:14 --> 00:53:16

you see what happens is the cycle

00:53:16 --> 00:53:17

perpetuates.

00:53:18 --> 00:53:20

It just continues to perpetuate.

00:53:21 --> 00:53:23

I know people from my generation that grew

00:53:23 --> 00:53:25

up when I was growing up here. Right?

00:53:25 --> 00:53:27

And now they're my age, and they have

00:53:27 --> 00:53:28

children.

00:53:28 --> 00:53:30

Our children are teenagers now.

00:53:31 --> 00:53:33

And as we see the cycles continue to

00:53:33 --> 00:53:34

perpetuate,

00:53:35 --> 00:53:36

it's it's sad.

00:53:37 --> 00:53:38

And you think, subhanAllah,

00:53:39 --> 00:53:42

had there been intervention earlier on, what could

00:53:42 --> 00:53:43

have happened? And we don't go back and

00:53:43 --> 00:53:46

say, well, because Lawi Iftahaba is Shaytan.

00:53:46 --> 00:53:47

Right?

00:53:47 --> 00:53:49

The word if opens the door of Shaytan.

00:53:49 --> 00:53:51

So we're not gonna say, you know, what

00:53:51 --> 00:53:53

if we got that help earlier? But what

00:53:53 --> 00:53:55

we will say is today,

00:53:55 --> 00:53:56

from today,

00:53:56 --> 00:53:57

moving forward,

00:53:57 --> 00:53:59

let's make sure that that help can happen,

00:54:00 --> 00:54:02

that the healing can happen, that we can

00:54:02 --> 00:54:04

break cycles of difficulty

00:54:05 --> 00:54:07

and cycles that will and will perpetuate that

00:54:07 --> 00:54:09

unnecessarily don't need to perpetuate themselves.

00:54:10 --> 00:54:11

And I say this to people, and they're

00:54:11 --> 00:54:13

not always happy when I say it. But

00:54:13 --> 00:54:13

I say,

00:54:14 --> 00:54:15

I don't want

00:54:16 --> 00:54:17

your child

00:54:18 --> 00:54:19

or your family member,

00:54:20 --> 00:54:22

10 years from now, to sit in my

00:54:22 --> 00:54:23

office and complain about you.

00:54:25 --> 00:54:27

Not because you did something, but maybe it's

00:54:27 --> 00:54:28

the lack of doing something,

00:54:29 --> 00:54:30

the lack of getting help when they needed

00:54:30 --> 00:54:31

the help,

00:54:32 --> 00:54:33

the lack of being there when they needed

00:54:33 --> 00:54:33

it.

00:54:34 --> 00:54:36

And more importantly than that,

00:54:36 --> 00:54:38

is to stand in front of Allah Subhanahu

00:54:38 --> 00:54:39

Wa Ta'ala and to be asked and be

00:54:39 --> 00:54:41

said, I put you in a community and

00:54:41 --> 00:54:43

in a place, in a situation where you

00:54:43 --> 00:54:44

had resources,

00:54:45 --> 00:54:47

and you didn't take up the resources to

00:54:47 --> 00:54:48

get the help when needed.

00:54:49 --> 00:54:50

Are you upset with me that I said

00:54:50 --> 00:54:51

this?

00:54:52 --> 00:54:54

Some might be, so forgive me. SubhanAllah.

00:54:55 --> 00:54:57

But it's it's really a year it's it's

00:54:57 --> 00:55:00

it's it's because of literally now, Alhamdulillah,

00:55:01 --> 00:55:02

been doing this work for a number of

00:55:02 --> 00:55:03

years, and it's like

00:55:04 --> 00:55:06

a number of years worth of seeing

00:55:07 --> 00:55:09

kind of a pile up of what could

00:55:09 --> 00:55:10

be avoided

00:55:10 --> 00:55:12

by actually doing the thing that we're taught

00:55:12 --> 00:55:13

to do by our own prophet sallallahu alaihi

00:55:13 --> 00:55:15

wa sallam in our own tradition of getting

00:55:15 --> 00:55:18

the help. Clearly, their madistans weren't empty. They

00:55:18 --> 00:55:20

clearly would fill the people that needed the

00:55:20 --> 00:55:21

help.

00:55:21 --> 00:55:23

And so they created the institutions. They created

00:55:23 --> 00:55:25

the programming. They created the treatments.

00:55:26 --> 00:55:28

My friends, my sisters, my brothers, they created

00:55:28 --> 00:55:28

this.

00:55:29 --> 00:55:32

The earliest of these happened right after the

00:55:32 --> 00:55:34

time of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.

00:55:34 --> 00:55:36

He he ordered the very first of them

00:55:36 --> 00:55:39

to be created and the stand alone institutions,

00:55:39 --> 00:55:41

actual brick and mortar institutions

00:55:41 --> 00:55:44

from as early as the 8th century.

00:55:45 --> 00:55:46

Psychiatric rewards

00:55:46 --> 00:55:48

as early as the 8th century.

00:55:49 --> 00:55:50

So

00:55:51 --> 00:55:53

are we somewhat convinced now, Insha'Allah?

00:55:54 --> 00:55:56

I'll end with this. Let's remember Insha'Allah that

00:55:56 --> 00:55:57

all of the prophets were sent to us

00:55:57 --> 00:56:00

as role models and examples and the prophet

00:56:00 --> 00:56:02

Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam himself

00:56:02 --> 00:56:04

was the best example of

00:56:06 --> 00:56:06

holistic

00:56:07 --> 00:56:07

well-being,

00:56:08 --> 00:56:10

balanced well-being,

00:56:10 --> 00:56:12

balanced whether it's emotional,

00:56:13 --> 00:56:15

mental, spiritual, intellectual,

00:56:15 --> 00:56:17

physical, all of it is very much balanced

00:56:17 --> 00:56:19

together. This is the tradition of Arsun,

00:56:20 --> 00:56:23

the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam. And that our

00:56:23 --> 00:56:23

Muslim,

00:56:24 --> 00:56:27

pioneers, our noble predecessors really pioneered in this

00:56:27 --> 00:56:29

field that we today call mental health. And

00:56:29 --> 00:56:30

we hope inshallah

00:56:30 --> 00:56:32

that we'll have many from our communities going

00:56:32 --> 00:56:34

forward. Many of you inshallah

00:56:34 --> 00:56:36

who are in this pipeline of really contributing

00:56:36 --> 00:56:38

to something that I believe the Muslims had

00:56:38 --> 00:56:38

a beautiful

00:56:39 --> 00:56:41

tradition and heritage of. But somewhere along the

00:56:41 --> 00:56:43

way, we seem to have lost

00:56:43 --> 00:56:45

the sense of that and it's time to

00:56:45 --> 00:56:47

revive it, Insha'Allah, in the best way. Bridging,

00:56:47 --> 00:56:50

of course, the best of modern medicine, but

00:56:50 --> 00:56:52

also understanding that we have a holistic

00:56:53 --> 00:56:55

methodology that differs than just the straight way

00:56:55 --> 00:56:58

you see psychiatry today. It needs some fixing

00:56:58 --> 00:57:01

as well, that holistic fixing that can come

00:57:01 --> 00:57:04

and lend from Islam. So the 2 together,

00:57:04 --> 00:57:05

I think, can be something very powerful and

00:57:05 --> 00:57:07

I hope, inshallah, that prophetic example

00:57:08 --> 00:57:10

continues to live forward and that we're able

00:57:10 --> 00:57:12

to benefit not only the Muslims but even

00:57:12 --> 00:57:14

all of humanity. This is my dua, all

00:57:14 --> 00:57:15

of humanity.

00:57:22 --> 00:57:23

And I'll clarify. Thank you very much for

00:57:23 --> 00:57:25

the question. I'll just repeat it so that

00:57:25 --> 00:57:26

everyone can hear it as well. The question

00:57:26 --> 00:57:29

is, what happens if the person who needs

00:57:29 --> 00:57:30

the help may be the head of the

00:57:30 --> 00:57:30

family,

00:57:31 --> 00:57:32

the person who is leading the family, if

00:57:32 --> 00:57:34

you will? And

00:57:34 --> 00:57:36

and so are you saying they're not willing

00:57:36 --> 00:57:38

or you're worried about their ego? It is.

00:57:38 --> 00:57:40

I agree with you about the challenge part.

00:57:40 --> 00:57:42

Anytime we don't acknowledge. In fact,

00:57:43 --> 00:57:45

in therapy, 1 in in this field, one

00:57:45 --> 00:57:47

of the first things we tell people is

00:57:47 --> 00:57:49

in order to be able to start to

00:57:50 --> 00:57:52

move the needle, one of the very first

00:57:52 --> 00:57:53

steps is acknowledgment.

00:57:54 --> 00:57:56

And you can't really go anywhere without it.

00:57:56 --> 00:57:58

If a person isn't willing to acknowledge that

00:57:58 --> 00:58:00

there is a problem or that there is

00:58:00 --> 00:58:02

help that's needed, then you're right, it's very

00:58:02 --> 00:58:03

hard to do so. So what do you

00:58:03 --> 00:58:04

do?

00:58:05 --> 00:58:06

1st,

00:58:06 --> 00:58:08

there's there's 2 points to this. 1 has

00:58:08 --> 00:58:09

to do with the ego and one has

00:58:09 --> 00:58:10

to do with getting the help for someone

00:58:10 --> 00:58:12

who doesn't want to get the help. I'll

00:58:12 --> 00:58:14

address the not getting the help first and

00:58:14 --> 00:58:15

then I'll talk about the ego part.

00:58:17 --> 00:58:20

Often, I tell people, look, there's different approaches

00:58:20 --> 00:58:22

you can take for somebody who probably needs

00:58:22 --> 00:58:24

that help. You can see the help as

00:58:24 --> 00:58:25

they need the help, but they're not willing.

00:58:26 --> 00:58:29

Maybe they aren't willing to listen to you,

00:58:29 --> 00:58:31

but there may be somebody else that they're

00:58:31 --> 00:58:33

willing to listen to. So I often say,

00:58:33 --> 00:58:35

whose support can you leverage? Do they have

00:58:35 --> 00:58:37

a brother? Do they have a father, an

00:58:37 --> 00:58:37

uncle?

00:58:38 --> 00:58:41

Even the imam. Somebody who that they respect.

00:58:41 --> 00:58:44

And maybe that person, when they say it

00:58:44 --> 00:58:46

to them, they hear it differently. Either saying

00:58:46 --> 00:58:48

the same things, Pamela, but they hear it

00:58:48 --> 00:58:49

differently from somebody else.

00:58:49 --> 00:58:51

That they respect, that they honor, that they

00:58:51 --> 00:58:53

are able to deliver to leverage their

00:58:54 --> 00:58:56

support. Sometimes the issue is knowledge.

00:58:56 --> 00:58:58

Right? They don't realize that there's actually something

00:58:58 --> 00:59:00

related for even from within our dean that

00:59:00 --> 00:59:01

gives the full permissibility

00:59:02 --> 00:59:04

for this and encourages this, in fact. Right?

00:59:04 --> 00:59:06

So maybe it's knowledge.

00:59:06 --> 00:59:07

Sometimes the issue has to do, as you

00:59:07 --> 00:59:08

said, with ego.

00:59:09 --> 00:59:09

And this

00:59:10 --> 00:59:12

often is much more cultural than it is

00:59:12 --> 00:59:15

anything else. But it's also the system communities

00:59:15 --> 00:59:16

that we build

00:59:17 --> 00:59:18

because we cause that, SubhanAllah.

00:59:19 --> 00:59:21

As in to say, if there were communities

00:59:21 --> 00:59:23

that is much more normative,

00:59:23 --> 00:59:25

and you see this now. In fact, so

00:59:25 --> 00:59:27

many of the, you know, fellow people who

00:59:27 --> 00:59:29

are, people who speak, you know, the shulks

00:59:29 --> 00:59:30

and the sheikads and the people who are

00:59:30 --> 00:59:32

Ustad and Ustadas. You know, I often say

00:59:32 --> 00:59:34

to them, I know that many of them

00:59:34 --> 00:59:36

are in therapy because we have private conversations.

00:59:37 --> 00:59:39

But I say to them, if you're willing

00:59:40 --> 00:59:41

and when you're willing and you feel it's

00:59:41 --> 00:59:44

the right time, when you're on the microphone,

00:59:44 --> 00:59:46

say, even in the middle of a holdup

00:59:46 --> 00:59:47

on the middle of a class, you might

00:59:47 --> 00:59:49

say, and when I'm in therapy because I

00:59:49 --> 00:59:51

because I you know. So and people are

00:59:51 --> 00:59:52

like, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, so and

00:59:52 --> 00:59:54

so is in therapy. And it's and but

00:59:54 --> 00:59:55

what does it do? It normalizes

00:59:55 --> 00:59:56

the conversation.

00:59:57 --> 00:59:59

Why? It makes sense that they would be.

00:59:59 --> 01:00:02

They're carrying so much stress and burden. So

01:00:02 --> 01:00:04

panel, they're carrying an entire community on their

01:00:04 --> 01:00:06

shoulders. It makes sense they would be.

01:00:07 --> 01:00:09

But somehow normalizing the conversation.

01:00:09 --> 01:00:11

Now you'll see especially for those who are

01:00:11 --> 01:00:12

on social media, you'll see this.

01:00:13 --> 01:00:15

You're talking about athletes, actors,

01:00:15 --> 01:00:17

entertainers, whoever.

01:00:18 --> 01:00:19

If everyone's talking about mental health and therapy,

01:00:19 --> 01:00:21

it's like the new buzzword out there.

01:00:22 --> 01:00:23

And for better or for worse, it's starting

01:00:23 --> 01:00:26

to normalize the conversation a little bit. So

01:00:26 --> 01:00:28

when a person does say a big shot

01:00:28 --> 01:00:30

person says, and I go to therapy, it's

01:00:30 --> 01:00:31

not like a whoo. It's like, oh, yeah.

01:00:31 --> 01:00:32

That makes sense. They have a lot that

01:00:32 --> 01:00:34

they're dealing with. It makes sense. Right? So

01:00:34 --> 01:00:36

when we start to normalize this, you start

01:00:36 --> 01:00:38

to break away some of the ego issues.

01:00:39 --> 01:00:40

So it's really about a community.

01:00:42 --> 01:00:43

We're in a community. I'll tell you this

01:00:43 --> 01:00:45

much. Where I normally am on a Friday

01:00:45 --> 01:00:47

night is my own home community, my own

01:00:47 --> 01:00:48

home Masjid,

01:00:49 --> 01:00:51

where I live in California. So,

01:00:51 --> 01:00:53

and the Rahmah Foundation, assalamu alaykum to the

01:00:53 --> 01:00:55

sisters, a lot of my halakha sisters are

01:00:55 --> 01:00:57

actually watching online because I normally am with

01:00:57 --> 01:00:59

them on a Friday night doing our halakas,

01:00:59 --> 01:01:01

and this is in California.

01:01:01 --> 01:01:03

And within the masjid,

01:01:03 --> 01:01:04

hint hint to unity,

01:01:06 --> 01:01:07

Within the masjid,

01:01:07 --> 01:01:10

we literally have a therapy office.

01:01:10 --> 01:01:12

And the reason and it's interesting. People are

01:01:12 --> 01:01:15

like, why why? So because in the years

01:01:15 --> 01:01:17

that we've done this, what I have found

01:01:17 --> 01:01:19

what I have found is that about half

01:01:19 --> 01:01:20

of our community

01:01:21 --> 01:01:23

literally will not send their children or themselves,

01:01:23 --> 01:01:26

will not go to therapy unless it's within

01:01:26 --> 01:01:27

somewhere they trust.

01:01:28 --> 01:01:30

So they wouldn't they wouldn't go. They wouldn't

01:01:30 --> 01:01:31

let their child go anywhere else unless it

01:01:31 --> 01:01:33

was literally inside of the Masjid because this

01:01:33 --> 01:01:34

is a safe space.

01:01:35 --> 01:01:37

The other half of our community wanted nothing

01:01:37 --> 01:01:38

to do with the Masjid.

01:01:38 --> 01:01:40

They didn't want anything mental health related to

01:01:40 --> 01:01:41

the Masjid. They wanted it to be like

01:01:41 --> 01:01:44

in an actual medical building. So the so

01:01:44 --> 01:01:46

we have a medical clinic that's actually in

01:01:46 --> 01:01:48

an actual separate building, and we needed that.

01:01:48 --> 01:01:50

We needed the 2 pronged approach, and it

01:01:50 --> 01:01:52

was very important. And we found people were

01:01:52 --> 01:01:54

starting to utilize services by having these 2

01:01:54 --> 01:01:57

different or multiple different kinds of models of

01:01:57 --> 01:01:57

service.

01:01:58 --> 01:02:00

Why do I say this? The community that

01:02:00 --> 01:02:02

we created became one of mental health language.

01:02:03 --> 01:02:05

You go into the MCC today, Salamtul MCC,

01:02:05 --> 01:02:06

InshaAllah,

01:02:06 --> 01:02:08

which is our my my home masjid,

01:02:08 --> 01:02:11

alhamdulillah, and you'll see that the conversations on

01:02:11 --> 01:02:12

mental health is very common.

01:02:12 --> 01:02:14

Yes. Okay. Maybe because I get publicas every

01:02:14 --> 01:02:16

week later. But the reality

01:02:16 --> 01:02:18

is people started to talk the language of

01:02:18 --> 01:02:20

mental health. It became much more normalized.

01:02:21 --> 01:02:23

And then you started to see the husbands,

01:02:23 --> 01:02:25

the fathers, the breadwinner start to come through.

01:02:25 --> 01:02:27

And if they weren't willing at first, you

01:02:27 --> 01:02:29

know what I do very often in therapy?

01:02:29 --> 01:02:30

I do a lot most of my work

01:02:30 --> 01:02:31

is with women and and

01:02:32 --> 01:02:34

with women, young and old. And,

01:02:35 --> 01:02:37

you know, they'll say my husband isn't willing,

01:02:37 --> 01:02:39

my father isn't willing, etcetera. And I'll say,

01:02:39 --> 01:02:41

how about we do one family session?

01:02:41 --> 01:02:42

One family session.

01:02:43 --> 01:02:45

And I don't mean to trick anybody. Rather,

01:02:45 --> 01:02:47

it's actually very helpful for me to understand

01:02:47 --> 01:02:48

what is the backdrop. So I'll say to

01:02:48 --> 01:02:50

the husband, I need you to come to

01:02:50 --> 01:02:51

this one session

01:02:51 --> 01:02:54

because it helps me you get to complain

01:02:55 --> 01:02:57

you you get to tell me what's happening

01:02:57 --> 01:02:58

from your point of view. They're like, oh,

01:02:58 --> 01:03:00

I can complain about my wife? Excellent. I'll

01:03:00 --> 01:03:00

be there.

01:03:02 --> 01:03:04

But anyhow, they'll come and they'll come to

01:03:04 --> 01:03:06

the session. And what it does, it gives

01:03:06 --> 01:03:07

me a sense of what's happening in the

01:03:07 --> 01:03:08

background. But more importantly,

01:03:09 --> 01:03:11

and maybe as equally importantly, it breaks the

01:03:11 --> 01:03:12

ice.

01:03:13 --> 01:03:15

You fear the unknown. You're not sure what

01:03:15 --> 01:03:17

this whole therapy thing is. But when they're

01:03:17 --> 01:03:19

there, they're kinda like, oh, is this it?

01:03:19 --> 01:03:21

This is this is okay. Actually, I think

01:03:21 --> 01:03:23

I could benefit from this. I have so

01:03:23 --> 01:03:25

many husbands after that session say, I think

01:03:25 --> 01:03:27

I can benefit from this, that we refer

01:03:27 --> 01:03:28

them for their own session as well.

01:03:30 --> 01:03:32

Hopefully, one of these aspects work, Insha'Allah.

01:03:33 --> 01:03:34

Now

01:03:38 --> 01:03:39

There's a brother here, then we can come

01:03:39 --> 01:03:40

back, Insha'Allah.

01:03:47 --> 01:03:49

Thank you for that courageousness.

01:03:49 --> 01:03:49

So

01:03:51 --> 01:03:52

When somebody is seeking therapy, they kinda wait

01:03:52 --> 01:03:53

till they're in a crisis

01:03:55 --> 01:03:55

space.

01:04:02 --> 01:04:04

Yeah. That's a great question. So you're talking

01:04:04 --> 01:04:06

about resources as in ahead of time.

01:04:10 --> 01:04:10

Okay.

01:04:11 --> 01:04:13

Okay. That the office is, you know, a

01:04:13 --> 01:04:16

big challenge. Yes. Yes. So this is true.

01:04:16 --> 01:04:17

And I also agree with the idea of,

01:04:17 --> 01:04:19

like, we wait sometimes until it's, I don't

01:04:19 --> 01:04:21

wanna say too late, but it's late in

01:04:21 --> 01:04:22

the game.

01:04:22 --> 01:04:23

Right?

01:04:24 --> 01:04:25

So a couple of ideas.

01:04:25 --> 01:04:27

I do know that there is a group

01:04:27 --> 01:04:28

in Michigan or there is a group of

01:04:28 --> 01:04:30

mental health providers that are put together. I

01:04:30 --> 01:04:31

don't know if anyone's here from that group

01:04:31 --> 01:04:33

in Michigan. Any here from our Michigan Muslim

01:04:33 --> 01:04:34

mental health group?

01:04:35 --> 01:04:36

There is a group, and

01:04:36 --> 01:04:37

And I know that they have been pulling

01:04:37 --> 01:04:39

together the resources that are part of the

01:04:39 --> 01:04:40

Michigan community.

01:04:41 --> 01:04:43

So basically, Metro Detroit or just all of

01:04:43 --> 01:04:45

Michigan, kind of, who are the therapists, who

01:04:45 --> 01:04:46

are the resources.

01:04:46 --> 01:04:48

On our, and I've I've I'm leaving here

01:04:48 --> 01:04:50

some information, both the pens for you guys

01:04:50 --> 01:04:52

and the bookmarks. But on Madison's website, this

01:04:52 --> 01:04:55

is the nonprofit that I've, helped found. On

01:04:55 --> 01:04:57

the resources tab of our website, we actually

01:04:57 --> 01:05:00

have listed the different directories that have on

01:05:00 --> 01:05:02

it. We don't know everybody there, but we

01:05:02 --> 01:05:03

know that they're all Muslim. So we've gathered

01:05:03 --> 01:05:06

together as many Muslim mental health professionals across

01:05:06 --> 01:05:08

the US as we could find.

01:05:08 --> 01:05:10

And so you'll find actually a list specifically

01:05:10 --> 01:05:11

for Michigan on there.

01:05:12 --> 01:05:14

And, I hope, inshallah, that's useful. So that's

01:05:14 --> 01:05:15

providers.

01:05:15 --> 01:05:17

And then in addition to that, there's also

01:05:17 --> 01:05:19

the kind of resources that are just how

01:05:19 --> 01:05:21

do you keep up with mental well-being.

01:05:21 --> 01:05:22

So one of the things I'd like to

01:05:22 --> 01:05:24

actually invite you all to do is if

01:05:24 --> 01:05:26

you're part of our mailing list, one of

01:05:26 --> 01:05:28

the things you'll sign find is we do

01:05:28 --> 01:05:29

every month a,

01:05:29 --> 01:05:33

a mental wellness healing circle or learning circle.

01:05:33 --> 01:05:35

Learning circles are about topics on mental health.

01:05:35 --> 01:05:37

So this this month, for example, it was

01:05:37 --> 01:05:39

actually yesterday or the day before, We actually

01:05:39 --> 01:05:41

had one on men's mental health, Muslim men's

01:05:41 --> 01:05:43

mental health. It was actually specifically for that.

01:05:43 --> 01:05:46

June is related to men's Muslim, men's mental

01:05:46 --> 01:05:48

health. So that was the topic, but you

01:05:48 --> 01:05:49

can find the recording on our YouTube channel.

01:05:50 --> 01:05:52

And then sometimes when there's a crisis that

01:05:52 --> 01:05:55

happens, like across the, we'll actually do a

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healing circle.

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And so those are helpful too because it's

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just the moment of, like, being able to

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tap into something that kinda grounds you again.

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And, we've done one just recently for Sudan

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prior to that to the earthquakes in Turkey

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and Syria and so on and so forth

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whenever there's a crisis in the Ummah, and

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there's many of those that happen as well.

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So hopefully those resources

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can just jump start

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being able to tap into something

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consistently that helps with some of the mental

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health and well-being.

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Of

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course.

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Still good?

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We're done. We're done. Inshallah because of Maghrib.

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