Al-Ra’uf – Rahmah – Weekly Halaqa

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had

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what continues to be very, very difficult and rough days, rough weeks, now a rough two months.

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And

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it's not like it's necessarily getting much better. In fact, if anything,

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many of you, if you're like me, you're feeling an immense amount of stress.

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As all of this Subhanallah continues to unfold, and we ask Allah subhanaw taala, of course, for His mercy,

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His divine intervention,

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and put our full trust in Him, even as all these very difficult things are happening.

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But we're only human. And at the end of the day, it's

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only a human thing to feel a sense of loss or a sense of despair or a sense of

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what it's all of us really going to

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have deliverance and all of it

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so Inshallah, we'll continue our conversation on the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala, because it's in the learning and the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala, that we actually are able to find the names by which we call upon Allah azza wa jal. And hopefully in learning the different kinds of names, you really start to connect with the names that you can call upon in your most

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in your moments of distress and your moments of joy and happiness to certainly these days, there's been a lot more distress and even if there is moments of joy, there's also almost always guilt that follows in you know, in remembering our sisters and brothers who are really

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experiencing a genocide

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be academe.

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So we have been covering the names of Allah.

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Do you remember from the start?

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And how the Rashid we covered a rub. We talked about a Rahman, and Rahim and that's where we left off last week. So inshallah I'm going to pick up from there this week, and sha Allah Tada. And there's more to talk about a Rahman and Rahim because as we mentioned last week, it's the names that you come across right at the very beginning. Right? As soon as you come across the opening of the Quran, the very first line is Smilla rahmanir rahim. So the two names of the Merciful the compassionate come immediately.

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And that is purposeful, we said, that is purposeful. And we gave this example last time of the example of a woman Subhanallah I drew the parallel to the current situation we're experiencing now, where you see woman in the middle of literally Battlezone war zone, on the genocide zone, really.

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And people who are trying to figure out where their kids are, where their family members are under the rubble or dead, or arrested or gone, or where are they. And the story at the time of the prophets of Allah, while he was sitting was a story also after battle, in which a mother is running back and forth in between all the chaos, trying to find her child

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calling out calling out calling out the child's name. And finally she finds the child. And she's so relieved. And she takes the child, little child and she nurses, the child.

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And then the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, turned his companions and said, Do you see this mother?

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And they said, Yeah, Seattle, sola. And he said, Do you ever think that this mother could, after all, that fight that intense feeling of loss, potential loss, and then the relief of finding the child?

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He says, in that beautiful amount of mercy, right, she nurses the child immediately Just Mercy, right? Do you imagine that a mother like that could take her child and throw them in the hellfire? I said, No, you had a sort of awkward, no.

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And that's, that's when the prophets Allah, Allah wa to send him answered.

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This is how Allah subhanaw taala is to us, whose mercy

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encompasses, right. All things including our sin, including our heedlessness, including that Allah Allah that complete, you know, slumber that so many of us have been in honestly, I truly feel this OMA has been in a slumber until Palestine, everything that's happening there, we've been in a deep deep slumber, Allah He. And for many of us, it's shaking us awake, really thinking about what are we doing in this world? You know, what are we doing and all that we possess, and everything that we work so hard for? Everything that we have, we're essentially competing for, whether it be homes and cars and material things, you know?

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The next raise the next bonus, the bigger thing, the shinier thing the next thing or whether it be immaterial things, but how much of it really goes with us to our grapes.

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None of it

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None of it except our actions, that that are actually taken with us as we transition from stage to stage or soul out or transitions from stage to stage. The only things that come with us are those actions, but none of the other material things. So Pamela, we spent so much time competing on it for them. And this is where it's amazing that even in that slumber, Allah azza wa jal is still merciful with us. Still compassionate with us.

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We're not paying any attention sometimes. And he's still so merciful, giving us these things, literally, these eases in life.

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Subhanallah that's all of His mercy.

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Now, there's another word that is another name of Allah azza wa jal, and that is very closely connected to Mercy, because we cover a document that rhyme. But there's another word that we're going to group them together. And this is a new name that we haven't covered yet. And I'll tell you how the Arabic language is so beautiful, you can have a name so similar, but there is a nuance there's something unique, special about it. And this name is Allah's Name, Otter, woof,

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woof. And there are literally, if you translate it literally, it means the one who has pity on someone.

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Roof is a kind of intensification of mercy. It's like a super mercy. Do you know what I mean?

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Where Allah sees us in slumber totally lofty, and we're not paying any attention. We're not really doing a good job. And it's such an intense level of mercy. Alpha, right, this like, being a goof with us, but he still cares for us. And so somebody might say, what is the distinction between an Arabic between a little man and that?

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Because they're similar? They're both kind of mercy. So what's the real what's the real distinction? So I love this. Think about I'll give you the example of a parent whose keeps telling their child Put on your coat, put on your jacket, it's getting cold, right? It's getting cold. But on your jacket, you're gonna get sick, you're gonna get sick, put on your jacket, make sure please put on your jacket. You're smiling, because you know you do this.

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I pulled my kid out of the doorway this morning, because he attempted to go out without the coat on. It's cold, it's cold. There's literally frost on the grass this morning.

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They say that that is an example of an offer.

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It's the be basically your mercy. before something bad happens, it's pre emptive

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you're going to get you might get sick. Make sure you have your coat on. What do we do as parents all the time, we're constantly doing this right? Be careful, don't do this. Because this Be careful, doesn't it because of that we go to all kinds of, alright, we're very goof with our children. Now let's say the kid does get sick.

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Maybe you've warned them 100 times I told you to put on your jacket.

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What kicks in next is that?

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Because there are commas after the fact. After the kid gets sick. Now you're trying to figure out okay, doctor's medication appointments. How do I get them better? Right? We're all this like, I want my child to feel better. Right? That's the drama. It's after the fact. So don't fall or goof is ahead of time preemptively. And Rama is after. And Allah does both with us. SubhanAllah. He does both. He warns us and you think in the cloud, why is he always Warning, warning us warning? Because there are consequences. There's consequences for bad behavior. There are. There's constantly you don't put your coat coat on you get sick, right? It may not be bad behavior, but there are

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consequences to things. And there are consequences for sin. There are consequences for being immoral. There are consequences for lying and cheating and killing. There are consequences. So he warns and warns and warn. So that's from his

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being aloof. But then there's also a Rahama. Right. But even when a person does so the door of forgiveness of Toba continues to remain open until they take their last breath. And he will continue to be merciful and accept that Toba until the very end.

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But you don't know when the end is. That's the tricky part before like later, later, later, later, later, when I'm old gray haired person

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who knows if we're gonna get there? Well, who knows? We don't know. We don't know. Every day you hear stories, the problem of somebody who died really young. And

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there was nothing in particular.

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Or somebody that had a, you know, something a big medical issue happened a heart attack, you're like, oh my goodness, they're so young. They're still in their 40s What happens if Allah, Allah determines, they seemingly look healthy? And the next day they have a heart attack? So Pamela, you don't know. You don't know. Well, now you don't know. All these things, by the way happened this week. All the stories, which is told you up in this week, all real stories, you don't know. You don't know.

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And so this is the beautiful thing that before the calamity hits, you have an offer. And after the calamity hits, you have a

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right and that says

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A beautiful thing like we said last time, remember last week when you introduced yourself to each other, you had adjectives you turned to each other and gave adjectives to each other about who you are describing yourself.

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The beautiful thing is when you did that, when you had that exercise, it the whole thing was how do you describe yourself to someone else? And we found out that in our big room over here, and on the chat box, there were so many different adjectives and descriptions. Why? Because different people are made up of different descriptions. And different people are different and they appeal different things appeal to them for names and characteristics appeal to them. Allah spa as the woodshed has all of these names. And different people are going to tap into the different names depending. Does that make sense? So you introduces us to all the different names Jalaja and Idaho.

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I love particularly in this book, but in the conversation.

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How do you then take some of these theoretical discussions and put them into actual practice. So one more Hadith, okay, and then we'll put them into actual practice. There's a hadith in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam tells us and he says,

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Allah has divided mercy into 100 parts. You've heard this hadith I'm sure at some point, Allah has divided mercy into 100 parts.

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And he kept with him 99 of those parts.

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Yeah, at the mercy that he sends to Earth, in which you as a mother, many of you are and others are aunties and other kinds of caretakers in this room. The mercy you show the people you love in your life and your family

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is from that 1% of mercy that he allowed onto Earth. Can you imagine?

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A little kitten, and its mother cat, right? When it cares for it, when it feeds it when it looks it when it brings it food delivered when it brings a little birds in the nest food, those type of mercies, all of that is from that 1% Allah allowed onto Earth?

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And he kept with him 99 99% or 99 of the mercies Can you imagine? Why?

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Because the Hadith continues to say through this one part, creatures deal with one another with compassion. So much so that if an animal lifts his foot over, it's young,

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less that gets hurt. This is the kind of Mercy all of it from that 1% What are the rest of the 99? For?

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It's for us. For when for what?

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Yes for the hereafter. Subhanallah Yeah, it as much as we

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really goof up. Over here. Allah truly is the Most Merciful and the Most Compassionate.

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As much as you have seen mercy on Earth, you have not seen anything like what's going to be mercy, the mercy shown on the day of judgment,

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and then Hamdulillah that we are from the Ummah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who learned this to understand this, we strive for this with all of our imperfections,

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with all of our imperfections.

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And so, when you want to figure out how do you take this beautiful description of Allah subhanaw taala Rama Rahim, oof, and actually put it into your own life. Number one, to have mercy on other people.

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To have mercy on other people to embody this quality. What do you do? You have to show mercy to other people. What does that mean?

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There's the golden rule, right? Treat others as you wish to be treated. This is this is part of our Islam. It's truly part and parcel of our deen because the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said those who show mercy to their fellow human beings will be shown mercy by the Merciful Lord. So show mercy to those on earth. And he who is in the heavens will show you mercy.

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Do you know this hadith,

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this hadith, they call it how do you feel Rama?

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And how do you feel Rama is not the first Hadith in the when you study Hadith books of Hadith. It's not the very first Hadith it's actually in one of the bulbs one of the sections later in the book. But in every

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class of Hadith that I've studied, and others as well, the teachers when they start to teach the subject of Hadith, they start with Hadith Rama

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start with a flip all the way through to get to Hadith Rama

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and they start with a hadith. And then they go back to the beginning of the book to teach everything else. Why?

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The reason when you study Hadith to start with Hadith Rama, the hadith of mercy is because this idea of a rocky Mona Yamaha Mohamed Rahman Rahim on those who are merciful, the Merciful One, right capital M will show them mercy.

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If you want to be shown mercy, you have to show others mercy.

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You want the 99 mercy that we're talking about on the Day of Judgment. We don't know how we're going to end up we don't we don't know. But you want that mercy. You hope for it on the Day of Judgment. You want Allah to give it to you and to

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forgive you and to clean slate you and allow you to go to Jenna. To be showing that mercy you have to show mercy to people on earth to get that mercy

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Rafi Mona, your hammer home or Rockman Iroha manful erode. your hammock and Memphis summer. Have mercy on those on earth. The one in the heavens will have mercy on you.

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Does that make sense? And that's why they start the books of Hadith before they even start the subject matter. They start with Hadith Rama, also, because as you start to study Hadith, like when you study film, or Islamic law, or any of the hard sciences, sometimes it becomes the letter of the law you get really stuck on and this ruling and that ruling and halal and haram and yes and no one yes and no Nia, and sometimes people lose law.

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And so they teach it at the very beginning to say, look, if you're going to study Hadith, which are the words, actions and sayings of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam here, it's the words of his sunnah, right? The words, that hadith, if you're going to quote the Prophet, Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam, and you're going to try to implement this and teach it to others, you better do so with Rama

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because he was known to be so merciful, and compassionate with people even when they were far away. Or worse, truly, belligerent to him. Salallahu Alaihe Salam.

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This is a this is a trait of a believer.

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I wasn't going to share this, but I'm going to share part of it. This week, I teach a class one of the very few of the many classes I teach at Stanford, this one in particular, is a class upon us pencil interesting. It's the times we're in, I teach a class that's on culture and religion, for psychiatrists. And I've been teaching this for years, years and years and years and years.

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Never had to issue

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this this time around. And I won't go into all the details of what exactly happened. But let's just say somebody was incredibly belligerent in the class.

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Yeah, and you're not paying attention, in fact, even show up the whole court, I don't know where they came from.

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Apparently, they were part of the class I originally told court. Anyway.

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We use their hand and said, I said, Yes. I said, Can I ask a question? Sure. controversial question. Okay. Right. And then they asked something that was really just heinous. Like, just very, so So Islamophobic Yeah, the system is bla bla bla bla just went on a rant, you know, and I was like, Okay, so where does this come from? You know, and,

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excuse me, belligerence, and he truly.

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So much so that I could see the other students and other trainees in other residents and even my attempt my co attendings, my co teachers, I mean, it's a roomful of people, people are bracing Subhanallah these days, they say whatever. Like as though there's no impunity, like with impunity? Right. And I've never had this before. I've been teaching a long time. Right. Anyway, and so I tried to correct first I thought, okay, maybe this is like a curiosity, they want to know, like Islam stance on. Okay. You know, I tried to correct that's not the mainstream opinion. That's not what the Muslims believe it's not the majority opinion, metadata.

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Definitely believes time is the most destructive, and I

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just went on a rant literally, until the other is kind of the other people said, you know, kind of like, made the whole conversation stuff afterwards. This is what's interesting to me. This is not the first time there's Islamophobic rhetoric or things that happen and so on. But what's new to me is that the newer generation, and I was reflecting on I mean, I, myself trained in this very program, and I was thinking back when I was training, I don't think if an incident like this happened, the next thing was going to happen, which is all the other classmates late later that night, I received an email from them together. And they said, We're apologizing on behalf of our

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colleague, who acted in very poor manner and terrible, and, you know, they just had that little, they were just they were very upset, Jonnie on on my behalf and on the classes behalf. And I thought, well, there's something to be said about this new generation, that like, when they can see, they can see when they can see the injustice, when there's injustice, it's a very interesting thing. You know, what I mean? They might stand for every kind of injustice, which is a good thing. Subhanallah but even this,

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but what was really interesting to me was their description of what happened. They said, You were just trying to teach and teach something that was very much. In fact, the whole point of what I was teaching was about Islamophobia. So

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the whole topic was on this. I was like, the person enacted what happened here, you know, but then they said, You responded, despite how awful this is, and how triggering and help setting this was, you responded with, quote, mercy and compassion. And I thought, huh, because in the moment as it's happening, right, you feel your blood kind of rising.

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And in the moment as it's happening, I, I was like I did.

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But their perception of it was a compassionate response, even when someone is being belligerent.

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Rent an angry and literally unhinged I don't know what else to call her other unhinged here. But I mean, in their whole discussion, and I thought about that for a while after the man reflected a lot about the whole thing and how this all happened and why and you know, the need to go back and you're like, Did I say something? I definitely didn't say something. This is like, totally off topic from our conversation. But the response, their description of the response was interesting to me. And I thought Subhanallah if a whole class all non Muslim, are able to witness the Muslim Professor being directly attacked, but in response with mercy and compassion, where does this come from? Because

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it's not necessarily me. Because in that moment, you're like, you're like, you're like, you're just either on a go or you kind of you get frozen or whatever. For me, I'd like responded, but I wasn't necessarily trying to be

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necessarily, but it's something that is inherent in our faith.

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The prophets have a lot to send him when he was attacked, and with belligerence,

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and disgusting things said, and disgusting things thrown on him literally. Right?

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He was compassionate, when it happened, and the Prophet sallallahu wasallam almost lost his life. And he bled, and his tooth was taken out. Right. And it was harm. I mean, real physical harm, and there was a real concern about him dying in that battle.

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When the who his companion said to him later, a little profit make dua against them.

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Your enemies, your oppressors, people will literally try to kill you.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what do you do? Does anyone know?

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What did he do? What was his due out this anyone knows.

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It's a beautiful thing.

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And it's a it's a high status SubhanAllah.

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But it just it's a good reminder. Because even if you can't find yourself able to do this, it's important to know that the prophets have a lot to send him as he was bleeding, and told to supplicant and people were telling him supplicate or make dua against your enemy. He refused. And he said instead, oh Allah guide my people, for they do not know.

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Guide by people, for they do not know.

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Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at times, turns the other cheek, and at times of fights directly himself in battle.

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And at times, he speaks strongly at times, he's quiet. And he has different responses at different stages, all of which are part of Mercy depending on what's happening.

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And I think it's important to realize that our Prophet and our sunnah our tradition is one, that the overall encompassing kind of theme of it is Ramana, or mercy. And even when you find yourself in a place where you cannot forgive,

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a genocide that's happening, and you cannot forgive a personal trauma that's happened of personal oppression, maybe something personal, it's happened in your life, people that have done terrible things to you. Allah never forces you, or makes your asks you

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to forgive. But teaches us that forgiveness is a high bar, it's a high level, to try to eventually reach. Because in forgiveness, there's a freeing quality,

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you free yourself from the holding on to and what eventually is a kind of bitterness that eats, what you eat, what you eat, what you eat, are you that person, and I say this in counseling all the time to people who have had people who have truly hurt them. And I say, Look,

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our dean is the dean of retribution, and accountability.

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And if you wish, you get your help. And if you wish, you can also forgive, it's your choice. But to allow it to eat, you eat, you eat you until you yourself are so reduced, and they're going on their life, on and on and on alone with nothing even happened, right? Who's the one hurting here?

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You are them.

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And that's why processing this and making your own decision, whether it be this or that is fully in your hands. Allah gives you the ability to do both, because our dean is just to turn the other cheek dean. And our dean is not just to go fight them all the time, Dean, there's a choice and there's a balance, but you have to make that decision and not allow it to continue to eat at you either. And if you need the help in making the decision, this is where things like counseling, formal professional counseling, and in addition, spiritual counseling can be very useful. Does that make sense? Yeah. So I was saying, if you want to have mercy shown to you, then have mercy on others. The

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was so clear about this and taught by example you saw belligerent people say things to him you saw them on interest and trolls now on trails. That's easier to say, of animals being thrown at him garbage being thrown at him. Right.

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And he responds still with mercy to the point that when that person that neighbor

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there's no garbage there's no orphans and and, you know, innards of the animals and gross yucky stuff.

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He goes and asks what happened?

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How do you do that unless you have a big, merciful compassionate heart. Right? And all of this is by example, kind of a leading by example, are there times where the prophesy centum got angry? And was had a, you know, absolutely.

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Other times in which there are things that require anger? Absolutely. But it wasn't all anger.

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Number two,

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learning the things that bring about Allah's mercy you want Allah's mercy to descend on you learn what it is that brings about mercy. For example, there's Hadith for those of you who are in any sort of business or trade or maybe you have your own companies or maybe you are an enterpreneur. When Allah says, Allah, may Allah have mercy on a person who is kind when they buy when they sell, and when they make a demand. Why? Because sometimes business can really be cutthroat, it can be harsh,

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it can be tricky. And when you are somebody who is much more

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compassionate, right, even in things that are meant to be cutthroat, you can see the human behind the numbers and behind this one, this is what makes the difference between one person and other. You know, the prophets of Allah sent him in his car, you know, that he, at a certain time of his life before he married, say the Khadija, right? He goes he's he starts in the business and the trade the caravan trades, and eventually she employs him.

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And it said that every single caravan that he took out with all the goods would come back sold.

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And that was different from the people around him. And it was noticeable.

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And what was noticeable about him is that he was honest Amin and that he was kind

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and other people might have good business skills, but they were not compassionate people. They didn't have people skills, so they didn't sell as much as he did. So Allahu Allah who was also Allah azza wa jal says, may Allah have mercy on the man who gets up in the middle of the night and wakes up his wife to pray and if she refuses sprinkle some water

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and may Allah have mercy on the woman who gets up at night to pray and wakes her husband up to pray and if he refuses sprinkle some water in his face.

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Now I didn't say a bucket ladies.

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To

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the husband's coming here angry next week. What did you tell me? It says sprinkles water in his face. Yes, yes, but sprinkles.

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It's a beautiful thing. spouses, parents, children, whoever is living with you I've had personally and when I was in college and roommate. We have some funny stories until this day we tell the funny stories. I'll tell you really quickly. My roommate when I got to college, I didn't know her Muslim lady. MashAllah beautiful sister and she said to me the very first thing I said I want a glycosuria My name is Sophia, what is your name? And the very next thing out of her mouth was I don't like loud sounds.

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But I said okay, what does that mean? And she said you can't have an alarm clock and

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you need an alarm clock to wake up you know and like hazard like even earlier and I said well you know, how are you in sleeping? I'm a deep sleeper said okay, I'm the data. So can I still have my alarm? Nope. Nope, you can't I get scared it wasn't so much she just she she startles easily. So I said so what what can i What can I do like what can I do?

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And she said I don't know something like like nature sounds

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so could you not Bed Bath and Beyond you know where you like by all the College of dorm stuff.

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I went and actually found the panelists so interesting. The alarm clock was so funny. Such a funny story. The alarm clock had nature sounds it was like running water and babbling Creek and whatever whatever all these like cute little nature sounds and so what happens is is you know these alarm clocks This is before we any of this before the day of cell phones where everybody has like an alarm on their phone. This you actually actually have an alarm clock right? And she and this alarm clock gets louder and louder

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and she's a deep sleep I'm like okay, I'm gonna put it right next to me I told her look I found an alarm clock that just has the sounds of nature she said okay, now just water so

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So the problem was not only she had deep sleep apparently so was

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so I set the alarm clock for like you know like early early morning and

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and then it was laughing

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like she got she

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really sounds a little ducks quacking.

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But the problem is as the as it got louder and louder and louder it was like show

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it's really funny.

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So yeah, all my four roommates you like wake up and the

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Just like you know, like to hedge it I should wake up and she'd say, Honey, all your ducks are cooking

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unless you fall back, like I didn't like bother. And then in the morning I'd say, did I bother you too much like know what happened? I was like

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so ducks are quacking became like this joke every time we see each other. We're like the ducks are quacking. Ducks are quacking. Yes.

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Yeah, Allah, how did I get on this funny story? Oh, but you have to wake up. So sometimes it's waking up roommates. Sometimes it's spouses, sometimes it's children. Sometimes it's elders, whoever it is that might be in your surrounding. Allah has mercy on the person who tries to help the other person. Implement the five daily prayers. This is a mercy Allah show. So even when you find yourself like, especially with kids, you're like, again for the 100th time. Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar. It's a mercy. Good place to end Inshallah, for Aisha, we'll come right back and Charlotte's ad Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. sha Allah

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Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Assam Allahu Allah say that Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam mine.

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So we were going through the names of Allah subhanaw taala, specifically mercy and offer or OOF which is an intense form of mercy, Mashallah.

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It has the pre emptive warnings, which those warnings are a form of mercy from Allah subhanaw taala. And also, even after the fact Allah shows us a lot of drama or mercy.

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And then we were giving examples of how to really have mercy directly in your life. And we said, having mercy and other people was number one, number two, learning the things

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that bring about Allah's mercy.

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And that's where we came to the conversation around reminding family members, even roommates, even friends, whoever you may be in your surroundings for prayer, because this is something that's so is so

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bring so much connection to Allah subhanaw taala. In fact, there's a beautiful Hadith could say, where Allah azza wa jal says, We people try to get closer to the last panel data by doing

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good deeds, different forms of good deeds.

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But actually, the best form of good deeds

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are the football, it's

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those that Allah has commanded. That is the thing that's going to get you closest to him, as Elijah

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is doing the flooded to actions. And then the Sunnah, gets you closer and closer shore. But first, if you want the immediate connection, it's actually doing the obligatory actions. So it's not so much sometimes we think about like the extra things. Those are nice, but they're almost like the sprinkles that are on top. The cherry that's on top. But where's the actual ice cream?

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Where's the actual content? It's the flooded. It's the things that Allah has made obligatory. So even they be roommates around like, your ducks are quacking.

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So the exchange was she would remind me mother, my ducks are quacking I need to show my alarm clock and get up. And then I would wake her up for a budget later, Michelle law

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number three, increasing mercy in your hearts by doing what? Whatever it takes. For some people, this is volunteering. For some people, this is maybe soup kitchens, working with someone who's unhoused working with those who've had tribulations. Maybe they're or maybe they're newly newly settled, whether they be refugees, or whether they be people who are new to the bay, taking someone under your wing, maybe somebody who's newly converted, and needs a community needs a sisterhood. Or maybe they're just somebody who moved to your neighborhood. Right? Taking them under your wing.

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The Prophet saw a lot to sit down when he had somebody come to him and say, My heart, my heart is very hard. What do I do?

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And for that particular individual, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Find orphans

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and run your hand through their head.

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That that's going to soften his heart.

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So for you, for every person, it's something different. So finding what that is, that's going to cause you to be a more merciful person. Number four, follow the one who was sent as the mercy to the world. So the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu. Mahdi was send them every sunnah that we do is a way of inviting him and every time we embody him SallAllahu Odeo send them we embody mercy. Like the example I was giving earlier, I don't know that I was necessarily trying to be merciful or compassionate necessarily, but whatever is inside and has been instilled from the snare from long ago, from continuous even when you're in a moment of

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right

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Mercy should still be able to come forward. And if anger comes forward, and it's righteous anger that makes sense to, but that kind of like following the Sunnah consistently every day, wanting to be in his example sallallahu alayhi wa sallam eventually leads us there, eventually does actually lead us there.

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The Prophet sallallahu wasallam was known to be

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not just kind but also

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never was rude in his own speech, and that's described in the Quran. Do you know the verse that I'm referring to?

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From Wanda Holly, you're welcome, local.

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For its heavy hits, like heavy words, fallen, voluble called boy does that translate to and literally translates into, if you are rude, right? And you are like rude in your speech, and you are harsh. In your heart. Harsh in your heart of all Yeovil called

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harsh hearted

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Lin fogged woman Hala, that they would have literally escaped flee, run away from you.

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If this is how you were.

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But it's from the Mercy of Allah subhanaw taala that that's not how he created the Prophet's life. So they created him as a mercy. So he some belong water, he was setting them with someone whose speech was not harsh, and his mannerisms altogether, his heart was not harsh. And that's why so many people connect to him. So Lola, who it was said that they connect to a story that can tell stories to sooner they connect to him. And the more we follow that example, the more we to become merciful people.

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Because he was only sent here as a mercy to the world's

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Mohammed Abdullah Al Amin, number five to reflect upon the manifestations of Allah's mercy in your life. Sisters, when we think about things that are seemingly bad,

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seemingly bad,

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think about times in your life, think about your younger self, maybe things that you had aspire to wanted in your life, whether they'd be material things, or maybe even was a person that you weren't considered, or had a crush on, or considered for marriage, and it didn't work out. And you were upset.

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And you were upset, especially if you really liked this person, about the good fit for you. And then so Pamela, this thing that was seemingly bad that you perceived to be bad.

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Later in life, you realize that what who you thought was supposed to be the love of your life.

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Turns out that had you two gotten together?

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You would have been far from Assam.

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Just the way it was

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Subhan Allah

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that the fact that that Allah prevented it, which in that moment felt like you lost something that you were upset with something why this is the person, it should have been like this. Turns out Subhanallah that person who may have been a mercy that saved you from something that was far worse that you couldn't see.

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And maybe you see it later in life, you go.

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And maybe you never do, maybe you never get that answer in this dunya. But you have the trust that Allah is actually looking out for you and giving you the best of all things. Maybe it's a kind of, maybe you lose a friendship.

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And you're like, man, every time I make a friendship it like goes and then Subhanallah you realize that, that friendship is fun is it wasn't exciting. It was it was it was also something that led to send,

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whether it be the backbiting or whether it be worse, right? And at the time, it feels like why did I lose this friendship? How come? What seems like the shakedown got between us but actually, it was a mercy for you that this friendship ended as possible.

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And if that's not you, this is not your story. And it's not something that you necessarily lost. You think how else can Allah be showing you mercy or teaching you mercy through all of this, maybe it's you lose a loved one, because all of us Subhanallah are going to lose a loved one. Unless we die really, really, really young. All of us are going to have somebody in our life that we lose. Elders, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, neighbors, somebody is going to pass away.

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And when a person has patience, through loss

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what it means is you can actually have this

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not that when you connect to the knowledge that as a Muslim, you in sha Allah to Allah will be reunited with your loved one in Jannah. And because of that promise, right? You are patient with this loss here in the dunya that is a form of mercy.

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And that kind of mercy that Allah shows you and teaches you and then kind of grows in you like you literally grow and mercy in you.

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It

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is also a mercy to reflect back on what Allah has given you, the things he has given you and the things he's taken away. Because even in the taking away, it could result in beautiful mercy for you.

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Thanks to reflect on, right, maybe you've become a more merciful person because you've experienced loss, that the next person that when they experience loss, it's not just words like empty words of condolences, which we have to say from one believer to another. Right, you say your words of condolences, but now you feel it, you felt that you've been in those shoes. And so the words are not so much empty words, they're actually real words, and the person can feel that they can feel that you truly know how this feels Subhanallah and that he was a mercy, the things he's given you and the things he's withheld from you Subhan Allah.

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So as we think about Ramadan, at Rahim, and roof, now we're going to go into another set of names that are a different set of names. And it's so interesting because they connect one to the other, they come right after these names.

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And they're these three sets of names. These three names are al Malik, and Malik, and Malik and Malik.

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They sound very similar, but like everything in Arabic, there's nuances, there's little nuances that make a big difference. Subhan Allah meaning when you look at them all together,

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you know, subhanAllah earlier today, I was working with the teachers. And last week, they didn't get to do the exercise that you all did last week, which is introduce yourself to each other and give adjectives. One of them, one of the teachers said in her introduction

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or like her, her friend introduced her right. And so she said she had both, I think it was both strength and weak, like strength and fear. Like it was like two opposite words, right? And then she said, is that like normal to have like two seemingly different words like that? And I said yes. Because look at how Allah subhanaw taala he shows us firmness. But he also shows us mercy.

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He has names of Japan.

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Right? And names of Jamal, right? He has names that you were like, Okay, I'm gonna be careful here. And then he has names of beauty, as well and mercy and compassion, and they balance each other. So it's normal, that you have strength in certain circumstances and fear and anxieties and, and other circumstances, right? So here, Allah subhanaw taala these names are beautiful, and because they also are very powerful. And you come across them very early on in your names of learning the names of Allah, because what happens is when it's in fatty, how would you come across next?

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Molecule Medina, yes. And depending on the QA either get Malik or you get Malik depending and they both they both have they have different meanings, but they both work in the eye. Right? They both have a they are fitting in the verse. So what is Malik Malik means to possess, or the owner of something Malik. Malik means? King, right. And Malik and Monique means the owner of sovereignty of everything. Everything. Right? So it's a beautiful thing. Because look, you can say for example, let's say you have a car, you own your car. So you are the malloc of your car. Right? That's part of your what is your you own this car?

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But you wouldn't say that you're necessarily the king of the car? Well, maybe some of you would

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clean up your car. But it's not normally linguistically we wouldn't normally say the king or queen of a car, right? We would say king or queen of a nation of a country. Right? So usually we say that a person has a possessor or an owner of things like a car or a house or someone right. But the king or queen is usually of a much bigger thing, not little individual things but much bigger general things are the king or the queen. So here you have Allah subhanaw taala say he is the Malik and

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the Medic and the Malik and all of them and the owner of all of sovereignty right Subhan Allah so when you think about when you possess things when you own things, we were saying this earlier, the person who was the ultimate possessor and the ultimate King of all things and all people and all entities and everything, everything is a law. So whichever, as much as we think we own things, actually alasa which is truly the one who owns

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and

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you know, this is a you know the you know the idea. We're saying the Brahim is talking to the moon. Right to the end. He's having this conversation back and forth and the piano remind you this is where I'll tell you the translation it says have you not considered the one who argued with Ibrahim about his Lord? Because Allah has given him kingship one of the Brahim said to him oh lord is my Lord is the one

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Who gives life and causes death? And he said, I give life and cause death.

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And Ibrahim said Indeed, Allah brings the sun up from the east. So bring it up from the west.

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So the disbeliever was overwhelmed. And Allah does not guide the wrongdoing, people.

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So beautiful and the Arabic is beautiful boy eat, I love the cover. Like it's just, you know, he was like, Why? Because as a king, he can decide who gets killed, right and who is saved and doesn't have a death punishment, right? So he said, Well, your God brings life and gives death. So what why? He said, Okay, well then bring the bring the son from the other side. But he was overwhelmed. Well, he talladega. Right. Right. And this is a reminder that Allah as much as we think, as much as we think that people who think they have power, they have a certain amount, but they're never going to have more than Allah azza wa jal. And this is a lesson at the end these days as we're watching a genocide

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unfold in front of us. And we realize that people have power and they are exercising that power to their full extent, and they are vetoing

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the UN literally puts out a what they call a panic button, a panic button saying This needs to stop genocide needs stop now, veto. The United States vetoes it, it seems like power.

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In many ways it is power.

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But who was the most powerful above all?

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Allah azza wa jal, it is important for the believer not to lose sight of that.

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It is important that we don't lose sight of that even when you see things that just seem completely and unreal

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and unjust.

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And it should cause fear in the hearts of those who are oppressors to realize that above them is Allah azza wa jal, and he's truly the one with true power should cause fear in their hearts.

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And it has the ability to give those who are oppressed.

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A sense of relief,

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knowing that Allah is actually the one who's more powerful.

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And then all the rest of us to do our parts.

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Even if that part is getting up in the middle of the night and praying to the cause, raising your hand up in the middle of the dark of your bed, making dua. For others, it's writing for others, it's talking and protesting for others, it's not buying certain things for other it's, you know, doing educating, right, every single person here has something that they can do so that when we are asked on the day of judgment about what's happening in front of us,

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we can at the very least say I did what little I could

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and maybe that little was at the very least speaking to

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imagine if we're not even making dua

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Allah forgive us May Allah forgive us.

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So with Ibrahim,

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when he was talking say that, but I'll him when he was talking to the king. And the king thought that he had power. Well, he didn't stop and realize was, but he doesn't actually have power over the son.

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Power ends, it has limits, human power has limits.

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This is not just all the tyrants of the world. It's also all of us to, to realize that we too, are going to die at some point.

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And all of the things that we think that we are a Malik of that we are possessors of that we own. None of it comes to our grave. As we mentioned, none of it comes to our grave with us.

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That's important, I think it's really important to hold sight of not because it's a problem having things I talk about this all the time. In fact, there's a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And he says that if he gives his servant

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means means he likes to see it on them. Like that we shouldn't be shabby, and so on. But it's also the holding on to the means that is often very problematic.

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That when we get attached to these possessions, that when we feel that they are truly ours, and there's nobody else has we lose sight of the fact that Allah subhanaw taala truly is the one who is fully in charge. And this is where I lost prasada says, Oh My servants, if the first of you and the last of you humans and the jinn were God fearing, and the most God fearing person there is you couldn't increase in my Dominion in the least. And then he repeats all the same things. And he says, if you were sinful, even the most sinful person could not decrease my minion in the least. And all my servants. If the first of you and the last me and the human and the jinn were to stand and to ask

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me and I were to give each person who asked, it will not diminish from what I have.

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Any more than the ocean would be diminished if a needle was dipped into it.

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He doesn't need our prayers.

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He doesn't need our Toba or forgiveness. He doesn't need our stuff

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are things

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we need Allah azza wa jal, we need His forgiveness,

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we need His mercy.

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And we need to ask him for all the things material and material that we need.

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I think when you frame it in that way, suddenly you realize what it means to be Malik and Malik,

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the real possessor of all things, the one who truly has ownership over everything. And when you feel like something has been taken away from you, or you're betrayed in some way, or somebody has, you know, wronged you, or you missed an opportunity, maybe it's just a matter of nobody wronged you, but you've missed an opportunity. And you're like,

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it wasn't meant for you. It wasn't written for you.

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You will never get something that wasn't written for you. And nothing will ever miss you if it was and it will not miss you. If it was written for you, it'll find its way to you. If it was truly written for you, SubhanAllah. That's where the belief is. And this is where when you talk to believers, even when they're witnessing a genocide happening right in front of them, death destruction.

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I don't know about all of you, sisters, panelists, today was the first day that I didn't have somebody in the car with me as I was driving normally have people with me who are traveling with me to come to Holika. And today just kind of look for different myriad of reasons I was alone in the car. I cried the whole way here.

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Because we're human. And

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it's a lot. It's a lot. And these tears have to find their place.

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And

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tears don't decrease Eman in any shape or form. We know profits, our own profit. So a lot was said and cried intensely.

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We know that there were prophets who cried so much that their eyesight was affected.

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And that does not make them any less of profits, or any less the believers. Human emotions have their place. Anger has its place. Sadness has its place. Even a feeling of of being crushed, has its place. It doesn't take away from our belief.

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But a believer can be bent, but never broken. Bent, but never broken.

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We can hear a terrible things and see things that are beyond human comprehension.

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Right before I think it was because right before I got in the car, I saw a clip it was marked as you know, the journalist

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crying crying, I just an everyday you know, every day we're like, is he still alive is so and so's still alive. These family members, these cousins, these friends, these neighbors of ours who have family are they

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two months, two months of this, and who knows how much longer

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and you're only human. So that so when you feel this way, you're bent, but you're not broken. And that's the difference of belief and faith from lack of it SubhanAllah.

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So when you want to understand and trust laws of Majed and know, at the end of the day, he is the Possessor of all things, and he is the one who's Truly, Madly can milk,

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the possessor of all of sovereignty,

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even as what seems like power, flexing their power, ultimately a law like this can change if he wishes.

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So when we want to live with these names, how do you bring these names to life? Malik and Malik and Malik and Malik? How do you bring these names to life? Number one to take to take care of God's possessions. These are his possessions after all. Last time we had a discussion on how pair as parents, those who are parents, that we think our children are ours, we think we possess them. We own them somehow. And it's easy to think that way. Right? You feed them, you clothe them, you put them to sleep, you wake them up, you send them to school.

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They're like latched on to you. And for some years of the life, they're literally latched on to Subhan Allah. And so we think that we own them, and I think we think they're, they're ours. But ultimately, they just come through us. They're of us, but they don't actually belong to us. They belong to Allah azza wa jal, and that is the same with all of the different possessions of God that he leases us, loans us or puts in our care for a period of time.

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Including these bodies. By the way, these bodies of ours are also leased out to us by laws of which and so we take care of everything that is owned by Allah, our money, our wealth, our family, our bodies, the earth.

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My next project after mental health is going to be environmental.

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No, I'm very serious. I actually think this idea of being a Khalifa on

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An earth right a vise gerrant on earth is the law has put in humans, the caretaking of all things that are on earth. And so who should be leading all green efforts, it should be Muslims, who should be leading all conservation efforts, it should be Muslims, who should be leading all anything related to health of body, soul and self in mind, the Muslims, I mean, truly the Muslims need to be the leaders of all of these things, because it's part and parcel of our tradition, to really bring this to life is to take care of everything that is owned by Allah, that he is put in our care, including the very earth that we're in.

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I love our Californians, because if you didn't come here, if you came from another part of the country or another country altogether before coming to California, and you didn't recycle or compost, I sure hope you are now.

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I had a person who moved here some years ago, two years ago. And she said, Oh, we don't we don't do that recycle thing where I'm from.

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And then some years later, I checked in with it, how do you do and what's going on? Do she was like she has her like recycle and her compost and her green, I saw you became really California. And

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really what it is, is she became a more signified, turns it into caretakers of the Earth, cultivating it for good, not damaging it. And also making sure that it is sustainable and continues to be able to run effectively. All of this is part of our tradition. Number two, nothing. And everything is interesting nothing and everything is out of our reach, depending on how you seek it. But what does that mean? What does that mean? It means that because nothing is truly owned by us,

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the reality is, everything is sort of a loan or a lease. If you think about it, if you think about it long enough, you realize everything is a loan, or at least nothing goes to our graves with us except our actions.

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But because Allah owns everything, and you are a believer who can raise your hands into art and ask for it, then you can also have a free thing of whatever he whatever He wills to give you. So you can have that thing and everything all at the same time. Subhan Allah, so seek out the things ultimately that are going to the things that he approves, and stay far away from the things that he doesn't approve. Number three, be free.

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Be free. him I'm gonna call it Sadie said that the most freeing thing for a person for human being is that they realize that they're able to dispense with everything and anything. When you realize that you're not going to take these things to the grave with us, or clothes or computers or stuff, our own children, they're not coming into the grave with us.

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And they're not going to stand on Yeoman haisa with us either. It's a very freeing thing.

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Because the more you work, so it's one thing to have possessions, it's another thing for your heart to be attached to possessions. And the sooner you can realize that, that death is a cup we all shall drink from

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the easier it actually gets. And this is not because the believer is a morbid person, but it is the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that when people got a little too jolly and a little too,

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you know, far

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he would remind them, what the destroyer of pleasure, meaning death, you would bring up death, and then everybody would kind of like get balanced, get balanced again. Right, not not despair down here, and not like to the balance. And that was his waist a little while while he was set up.

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What we're seeing right now, though, is I have to tell you, it's a beyond and above what a normal person ever would have seen. There is not a time in history before this where you're seeing literally warfare unfold when you yourself are not in the war or not a soldier and are trained for those who are not, you know, and second by second minute by minute, day by day, it's it's it's a it's a different it's a different era that we're in truly. And so I'm also kind of making sure that we understand that there is one thing to understand what death is the way the prophets of Allah is said and reminded of death. But what we're seeing now is a beyond and above, right? These are

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massacres. This is not the typical kind of discussion of death, right.

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Number four, remembering that there is a day of judgment.

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I know you know this, and I don't want to have to remind us of Panama. But every so often, it's a good kind of reminder again

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a dear friend of mine posted today and said

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Hellfire is a mercy

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because certainly at a certain point you think

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what

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How?

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Yeah, there is a day of judgment, there is a sub, all of our actions will be taken to account. And it would behoove us to focus in here first, before we focus out to externally.

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The great people the great only out would say if the more a person focused in on their own deficiencies, the quieter they got.

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And the less interested in other people like interested in the like the the chitchat, the chatter, you know about other people, the rumors, and the someone, the less they were interested in those things.

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Because they were so preoccupied with their own own sins, but they didn't have time to occupy themselves with other people's affairs.

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Number five to be patient with loss,

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all kinds of loss and we're seeing so much of it now. And there's other forms of loss too. There's the loss of a child.

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Some of you here have experienced that some of us may experience that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam buried all of his children in his lifetime, except for one who died shortly after him, say the faulty Meza huddle.

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And it's one of the most difficult things that a human being can go through in this earth.

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So it's natural that we're going to feel this deep, deep, deep, deep pain

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and a reminder that all of us, all of us are going to meet our Maker

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including the souls right and what I said earlier, but we all will be reunited inshallah inshallah Tada with our loved ones as well. So that loss even though it's so

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heavy and difficult, the kind of forbearance the kind of patience that is given is also amazing. You meet people who have lost a lot. When an answer Samia was here last week, you remember what she shared? When she was a new bride, she was saying that in her husband's family, she met somebody who had lost in a one car accident, like multiple children, right, and those who were in the hospital also had died soon thereafter. And yet this woman had like a smile from ear to ear. And she just couldn't.

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It's so hard to fathom. And you can't quite fathom it because it's something Allah gives. Like, it's not a normal kind of patience. It is something Allah literally descends a Sakina on a person. Right? It's a mercy it's a divine mercy that he gives because that kind of loss is also like incomprehensible. Subhanallah

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and the grandfather that we all have fallen Subhanallah in love with this brother who the right of this the grandfather who lost his granddaughter, you know that beautiful story, but we're had roar

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all the videos, every video, we've seen him every picture of him smiling from ear to ear, ear to ear. How do you how do you have people like this? It's a Sakina that Allah descends a solace that he descends onto that person.

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There's other forms of loss, sometimes the loss is bodily.

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This earlier this week, I posted personally something that really, you know, caught me so proud of like really one of those you know, you see so many videos but this one really, it was a picture it was it was related to and this is for me as a physician, it really like caught my attention all all the discussions on the bombing of the of the hospitals and the lack of the anesthesia and the incubator babies and incubators. Yeah, well to feel safe.

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And this young boy was needing stitches. He had an injury in his head. And I don't know if you saw this video, but it's there's no anesthesia, there's nothing to numb him. No, no pain, nothing to take him. So they told him ready to put it on.

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And I thought to myself, y'all Allah, we read in the books we read in the history books, we read in the Cetyl books, we read stories of Sahaba were told stories like this growing up, we hear and know stories like this, but you never have seen it in real life in real time happening right now in front of you. And you're like subpanel This must have been with us haha, we're doing

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so the boy who says to him before the before the doctor starts the stitches. His whoever is filming says to him read, beautiful voice. And he starts reading put on, he starts reading put it on, he starts reading I put it on, right and then he kind of does the shaving of the hair so he can get to the scalp and kind of opens and starts to do the stitching. And the boy continues and continues just the whole time. He's being stitched in his head up here. He's continuing his recitation of Quran. He doesn't stop. He doesn't lose the verse. He doesn't pause for a minute he doesn't mix up word nothing. It just keeps on

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the sahabi that he reminded me of was Ottawa Pippin is zubaid. In Ottawa. You've heard the name Ottawa and disobeyed

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Although I've missed the bed is one of the famous a hobby, and he had a gangrene in his leg. So it was he needed to have it actually amputated. And, you know, the doctor came to him and said, I can give you some medicine. And he said, I don't want to take anything that's going to make my take me so far take my head so far away from it that I couldn't remember God. So what do you want to do? He said, allow me to go into my worship. And when you see me like in my worship, like, essentially in my zone,

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amputate the leg.

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Can you imagine?

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So they allowed him get to go start his worship, he got into his worship. And when they felt that he was like, you know, in his worship and kind of in his own, they amputated the leg. And they said, he didn't even wince.

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There's no description, so when he when he saw it, so after a while, from the intense pain of it all he faints, and we comes back to it, right? They say to him, how are you? And he said, I didn't feel a thing.

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And you read stories like this and you think Subhan Allah what? Who are these people these greats, right, but Allah sent to teach us stories. But did you know the second part of the story,

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so Ottawa, Ben, so Ben has just lost his leg. It's just got amputated in this story that I'm telling you.

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And then Subhanallah This is really something a friend of his comes to visit. And so Ottawa says to him, if you've come here to give me condolences for my leg.

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I have already buried it.

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And I have already

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submitted to Allah with patience for its reward, Annie, I don't need condolences. I've already submitted my will to Allah.

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And he says, That's not why I'm here.

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Do the story. He says the reason I'm here

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is because your son was killed in an accident

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or lost his leg and lost a son in the same day.

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And when he heard about his son dying, he said y'all you took from me one child, but you will love to me many

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you took from me from my body,

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a limb but you left me many

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your Allah you tested me with my body. And you were kind enough to leave me in good health.

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And you tested me with the loss of my son. And you were kind enough to leave me the rest of my children.

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Ottawa understood that ultimately, Allah is the Owner of everything he owns.

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Even our like he owns even our children. When you give them to us when he takes them from us when he doesn't give it to us in the first place.

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giving and taking in that Allah he were in the LA he Raji our own from we're from Allah we've come unto Allah we return is the core, a core core core principle of being a believer.

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And Ottawa understood the assignment.

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He understood that everything ultimately is from Allah, He chooses to focus, he chooses to bless people with certain things and to take from people certain things, and at the time, and then the wisdom, all goes to Allah. This is the definition of Malik and Malik.

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Does that make sense? So when you want to imbibe this name, and live by this name, part of it is being able to understand the wisdom and the power and the sovereignty of Allah azza wa jal, and it doesn't mean you can't be sad, like we said, cry.

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The those much greater than us have cried,

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you feel angry, fine. But the anger has to then eventually be channeled into good, it can't just be fist pumping on the side. It has to be channeled into something productive eventually,

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you need to show up in numbers show up. But that has to be guided by spiritual connectedness. Because what good are all these movements, all these movements, all these hashtags you've seen over the years? If it doesn't actually bring you closer to God? If it doesn't make you a better or moral person? What is the point of all of these activist activities all these all this activism if it doesn't actually make you a better person? Or if it just makes you an angry and bitter person, what good was it you screamed and yelled and then what?

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And then what we don't want to be spiritually devoid people either.

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And that pain, the pain that when you lose, when you have loss, something lost can either push you to God, or it can push you away from God. So we hope Inshallah, that it's actually with hope, and not with despair, that we insha Allah to Allah, really understand the idea of Malik, and Malik, right, and Malik, Malik and Malik, and Malik, and Malik that we understand all

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these words together in sha Allah to Allah so with that we'll close inshallah with our DUA and I hope I'm gonna say this to all sisters.

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I want to give you this assignment is it okay to say this is an assignment in the next week, please because we have one more Holika before one winter break. So next Friday, I'll see you all inshallah Tada. And between now and next Friday, please in your doors, please use medic, Malik and Malik and Malik and also use Rahman Rahim roof. When you call upon Allah using these names.

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Suddenly, you have a different connection with God.

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I personally I noticed in my own door, I tend to say man Rahim and Kadeem, for whatever reason this combination of names tend to speak to me. But try using new names that you haven't used before in calling in your DUA. Now you have a conversation with a Lhasa gel, now you feel more connected to him. The same way when you turn to your sister and introduce yourself, right with the adjectives. Next time you see her in the hallway or like Oh, mashallah you're very confident and your emotional law are very committed, and you are somebody emotional, who's funny. Whatever, whatever adjectives they were, you get to know a little bit more you feel a sense of connection. It's the same way with

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alasa. Which the reason there's all of these names for us to study is actually that we connect to him in different ways, with his different names, and different names are needed in different stages. If you've just lost a loved one, there are names that you're going to call upon have compassion or mercy. If you're watching a genocide, there are other names you're going to be calling upon, and in different stages and in different times of our life, we need different names. Does that make sense? So with that, inshallah we'll close on one quick announcement for all the moms in the room who have their daughters in the program. A reminder please Inshallah, that you your registration will reopen

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for net for January to end of the year right from January to summer, very soon, I don't know when I'm in Illinois.

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But But whenever it opens, the moms here who are registered with their girls, you guys have priority first. So please register your girls in the priority time because what ends up happening ultimately as other sisters from the committee will also want the seats and so they get taken up. So make sure that that you you register if your daughters are continuing till the summer, make sure that they register Inshallah, in the during the as soon as it opens up, priority registration time inshallah Tada.

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With that, we'll close with Splenda had Rahmani Raheem was on Mala Mala say that Mohammed while he was happy with self image bryonia Autopia Kareem this LKR of blossoming into alpha one whatever Fernanda what Ramona and Lola phones Corona Allah COVID caffeine, Allah we ask you to please accept her most Yatta Bill please forgive us, y'all. It'll be please help us. Y'all be help our sisters and brothers across the ummah. Ya rugby. ease their suffering, ease their pain. Yeah, it'll be we ask you that with your power and your might? Yeah, Robbie that you crush oppression. Yeah, get him? Yeah, either here. We ask you call upon your names of justice. Arden. We call upon your names of

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Malik and Mulk the owner, the possessor the king of all of sovereignty. yarby We understand that from you. All Things come good and bad. And yadda be to all things returned. Back to ya Kadeem. We asked via Kadeem to please help our sisters and brothers and fiddles clean. You want to be helped our sisters and brothers in the other corners of this earth Jada be who are suffering and in pain. Yeah, it'll be we ask you and raise our hands for every single person who is oppressed. Every single person that is facing a tyrant. Y'all have to be as leaders in their countries or y'all be in their own homes. Y'all are up or down. I mean, we asked you to make a steadfast from those who are

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connected to you, beloved to you, y'all. I'd be those who are yet to be from those who are close to you, y'all. I'd be we ask you to put us in circles and gatherings of knowledge like this and that you remember us in better gatherings than this? Yeah, it'd be make us those who are connected to Jada beyond Amin, and always connect us with those who are connected to you got a bit aalameen grantors, CRP.

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Teachers who remind us of you, friends and companions who connect us to you? Yeah, it'll be those who always keep us honest and keep us on the straight path. Yeah to be forgive us because we are most in need of forgiveness, yada yada. I mean, yeah, it'd be forgive our inability, our lack of ability. Yeah, it'll be that we don't even stand in prayer and raise our hands. Yeah, it'll be in your so merciful. You continue to shower your mercy down upon us even when we are not worthy of it. Yeah, cutting.

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Yada, yada,

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yada.

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Oh, who warns us who warns us of what's to come the day

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difficulties and the consequences of our ILL actions or inactions yada beyond I mean, increase your alpha of us yackety yak I don't live yet.

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And yet to be after we have sinned and after we have messed up, it'll be We call upon your names a little Maya Rama and we all had our hand that Homina Have mercy on us yackety

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yak EDA, he held up we asked you to keep us steadfast and keep our children steadfast and keep us and them on the straight path until the last day protect us yada banana mean and protect them. Yeah, I'd be in the scary times and in the scary world we live in we asked via Kadeem for a sense of protection instill in us and instill in them strength and confidence and pride in our Assam yatta yatta mean that we are believers steadfast and all those yup you're interested in Islam and all those who have been reading your holy book and all those who have been turning to yet have been all those who have been interested yeah to be guide them all. And guide us satipatthana mean?

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Yeah, Ada here. Have we asked you for the best of endings Kristen Heaton.

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Yeah, it'd be hosted posts every time that the last of our deeds are the best of them. The last of our words are the best of them. And the last of our days are the best of them and that we meet you when you are pleased with us yada beyond I mean,

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yeah, to be grant our parents, our teachers, our spouses that our children, our loved ones, the highest levels of gender. Yeah, kidding. And protect us from the Hellfire out of beyond I mean, yeah, it'll be make us from those who are happy in this dunya and then the al Qaeda and so are the internet I mean, yeah, it'll be protect us your blood. I mean, yeah, it'll be protect us from this dunya and the fitna of it and protect us in from the from jahannam. In the athlete era, Milan, Amin, and writers from the people of Ghana, will Posada Hain and the shahada and the NBA and the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu ala he was what are however, La Plata illa biLlah had Alia Alim was the LA

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Hamada say that Mohammed or earlier Sofia Salim Algerian, while any deductible will hit Iona through salami frequently, McCann Mr. Lo que ROP Vista Resort at infatti Smyrna.

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mean I mean I mean, I mean BarakAllahu li Kun Sharla. We'll see you next week before we take our break. But hamdulillah said I'm walakum wa rahmatullahi wa barakato