Channel: Omar Suleiman
The need for Validation and Approval – This talk was delivered at the Valley Ranch Islamic Center.
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The first prophet we recited today was about Ibrahim alayhis salaam and the momentous occasion of Ibrahim Abraham peace be upon him standing in front of the carrabba after he has built it as commanded by Allah subhanaw taala with his son is married, and then told to call out to the people you have to Khadija and people will come to you in this barren desert, from all over, saying the baker lahoma bake on Camelback on horseback by foot caravans tribes, people who don't speak the same language as you, people that you would have never imagined coming to this place will start to come to this place. Oh, Ibrahim, just do your part. And Allah subhana wa tada will send the people. There
are many lessons that we can derive from this. But I want to focus on one point that perhaps is an undertone when we talk about Ibrahim alayhis salaam, and his truthfulness with the loss of Hannah woods, Anna. And that is the lack or the lack of a need that Ibrahim alayhis salaam had to seek validation from people. Ibrahim was so motivated by the command from Allah subhanho wa Taala, that he never really needed that validation from people. Ibrahim didn't need to see the numbers. Ibrahim didn't need someone to come and pat him on the back and say Good job building the Campo Ibrahim did not need someone to hug him after he was cast into the fire and came out saying huseby allow an
airman Joaquin a lot of sufficient for me. He didn't need someone to tell him that was amazing what you did there Mashallah, look at you, you're a lion of Allah and so on so forth. Ibrahim needed it his Salaam no validation whatsoever from people. Now, why am I focusing on this in particular? You know, many times when we talk about spiritual diseases, we tend to assume that they just come out of nowhere, they catch us out of nowhere. But one of the things that the real amount of toughskins Look, there's a real amount of spirituality of focus throughout history, is the fact that you have to pay attention to the precursors of spiritual diseases, the signs that you're about to develop a
disease because often we talk about sincerity, and then we talk about signs that you have a disease, but we don't talk about the signs that you're about to develop a disease. The diseases
The disease is showing off. The disease is when a person actively starts to do deeds for the sight of the people rather than the sight of Allah subhana wa Tada. The opposite of that is sincerity. And there are things in between there are signs that a person might start transitioning from a loss from sincerity to reality. And you have to be able to catch those signs. And amongst those signs, Imam Abdul Kalam Rahim Allah points out that a person starts to seek approval for actions they did for Allah subhanho wa Taala. This is powerful. You did an action for Allah. But after you do an action for a law, you start to look for the approval. You look for that pat on the back. You look for that,
Mashallah. Good job, brother, good job, sister, and you were sincere when you did that action. But slowly, slowly, you start to look for that approval. And then you know what happens that matures into an addiction, you start to get addicted to that praise and to that approval, and you start to constantly need that validation until the validation precedes the action being done by it for a loss of Hannah horchata until that need and that desire to be praised. And for someone to tell you something good about yourself or to validate your repentance or to validate your good deed starts to precede the good deeds themselves. And so when you do good deeds Now, the first thing you're
conscious of is who's watching who's gonna see it? Who's going to tell me this? Who's going to tell me that there's a transition to your brothers and sisters. And what we learn in the story of Ibrahim alayhis salaam is to cut it off from the root. Who cares? If anyone knows about your good deed? The worst thing you could do as a mom, I know Dr. Maha Lhasa, Allah blesses you to shed a tear in the Yama Lille and tahajjud all by yourself between you and a lot. And then you go and you spoil it by telling someone you know, Mashallah, last night, the Imam was reciting surah Ibrahim, and it was so amazing that I just couldn't
help myself from crying. You blew it.
You spoiled it. You finally got a moment alone with a loss of Hannah Montana doing something, and no one was there to see it. And you went and you ruined it because you told someone about it. And then you started to actively do that until a person falls into utter hypocrisy, where now they are worshiping the sight of the people. So everything they do they do in mind with the sight of the people rather than the sight of Allah Subhana hutan and fellated in our yard, Rahim Allah teaches us a very beautiful way to deal with this. And it's a mechanism it's an equation. And it's what we learn from the sleight of hand from the righteous that came before us even if we can't reach their
level. We learned from them. He said that the believer covers up his good deeds with the same vigilance that he covers up his sins.
You know how you hate for your sins to be exposed. You hate for someone to find out about your your, your flaws, you hate for people to see the weaknesses that you have that same hatred that you would have for people to find out about your evil you actually start to detest that people find out about your good because you want your actions to be validated only by Allah subhanho wa Taala So again, the point is your brothers and sisters first and foremost, do out from the Prophet sallallahu wasallam where he used to say alum in the EU Vika and oshika b cache and our llama West Africa lahoma Lima Ireland Can you all repeat it after me? Allahumma inni Ooh, beaker. And whoosh Vika
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Lima Allah, along with the prophets lie Selim used to say, Oh Allah, I seek refuge in You from knowingly associating a partner with you from the times that I knowingly do so. Meaning when I know that I'm insincere, when I do a deed, and I seek your forgiveness, even for those times that I'm not recognizing that I'm doing so. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make our only our primary desire the desire for his pleasure, may Allah subhana wa tada protect us from having our deeds corrupted by a yacht or pride or shidduch or whatever they may be. May Allah Subhana what's out of keep already sincerely for his sake, a llama. I mean, there's like Wilfredo said I want to come up with celebrity