Light At The End Of The Tunnel With

Omar Suleiman


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AI: Summary © The speakers stress the importance of open discussion and open qws in addressing issues related to parents and children. They emphasize the need for forgiveness and constant engagement in achieving a sense of comfort, avoiding harms' attacks, and maintaining healthy behavior. The speakers also emphasize the importance of avoiding harms' attacks and finding a way to avoid loss of consciousness. They emphasize the importance of acknowledging one's own limitations and working towards a larger goal.
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lot more susceptible vatika people so we can hold on when he was seven,

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he was lucky enough to see him to deal so I kind of wished him would have introduced the topic a little bit more than us. Okay, light at the end of the tunnel that can mean a lot of things. But, you know, in essence I

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I personally, I think that in these types of gatherings, it's very helpful to have open discussion, open q&a, you know, that type of style, which doesn't mean that I'm not going to give a lecture, but I'd like to focus more on that than anything. So inshallah Tada, I'll speak a little bit about what that means to me. And at least what stands out about that topic to me the light at the end of the tunnel.

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Obviously, we talk a lot about the loss of parents on the mercy of Allah Subhana, Allah and Allah Toba. And at this point, it should be absolutely understood, although Unfortunately, it doesn't always translate our actions and the way that we treat each other. But it should be absolutely understood that a loss of what's at his mercy supersedes His wrath and his anger. And a loss is not a difficult God. Okay, meaning what? What we have to deal with, with the last panel to Allah and standing in front of the last kind of town on the Day of Judgment is really good for us. Because, you know, most of you have a lot. He said, No for you, it's been on your house, if any of you have

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seen any windy day, on your house, even in law, in the law, believe in windy day, that if I was to choose, if I had a choice between choosing whether a law holds me accountable on the Day of Judgment, or whether my own two parents hold me accountable on the Day of Judgment, I would choose the last panel to add him because he's actually more merciful to me than my own two parents. It's a very powerful expression. Actually, if you look at the words, Rahman, and Rahim, they come from the word of Allah, which actually comes from the word lion, which actually means motherly love. So the last pattern was a mother who love explained it and also the moment in his book,

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he explained it in a very powerful way that the strongest expression of love and compassion and mercy that you can have in this world is motherly love the way that a mother loves her child. And Allah loves you even more than that. And that's why when you look at why, hopefully at least just in this in the few minutes that I haven't shown before we go to an open q&a. When you look at why men are having a lost candidates, Allah

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says to us that wash man, he is absolutely merciful, merciful to everyone. His mercy engulfs and encompasses disbelievers encompasses animals encompasses everything in this world, every expression of mercy that we have is an expression in reality of a loss of kindness as mercy as the Prophet slicin upset that there are 100 mercies the last cantata has 100 persons of mercy at a loss patacones Abba has reserved 99 of those portions for the Day of Judgment only one for this dunya Okay, and so a lot of times we have this impression of a lot we have this impression of God and it's not just created in in our culture, it's created an obviously in Middle Eastern cultures and

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Southeast Asian culture, whatever it may be, this idea of a law you know, as as an angry as being angry as always throwing down lightning bolts and punishment only. But in essence what this means when you look at like nominal hate by hand means a loss to Allah is merciful, in the hereafter specifically to the believers. So my mind encompasses every one everything

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is specifically merciful. And that's why I lost when I says Look at him and what we need a Hema that he is with the believers are hain because there's even an extra an added level of mercy that takes place in the hereafter. But in essence, understanding that from a loss penalty, and how we can apply this in our daily lives, and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel many times seeing the light at the end of the tunnel does not mean that I should become lazier that I should do less means that I should work harder to get to the end of the tunnel. Right? I should work harder to get to the end of the tunnel. Once I've recognized that there is a light there. That means I naturally have to move

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now. Okay, it doesn't mean I say well Oh, there's a light at the end of the tunnel. So I can sit here now and wait for wait for myself to somehow make it out of that tunnel. No, it means that you start moving because you recognize that there is hope. You recognize that the mercy of a loss of habitat is achievable, that gender is achievable, that the pleasure of a loss of habitat is achieved.

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trouble. In fact, it's the norm as the amount of procedures. The law says that when a person leaves their home, they naturally go back to their home subconsciously. It's the norm that when a loss penalty creates you, you go back to a loss penalty, you go back to genda. And you do things if whenever you you, you commit sins, at least especially the major sins because the minor sins are wiped away in our salon, they're wiped away in our rule. You know, we're forgiven for those through through through various practices, right, we can sweat that cap on Fridays, for example, was the last license, a salon a lot, but you know, Salatu Salam joumana, to Jamal Hajj, for example, there

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are many ways of expiation, right many ways to purify ourselves in that way. But at the end, you know, at the same time, if you put obstacles between you and Allah subhanho wa Taala, you are the one that is turning away from the mercy of Allah subhana wa Tada. And this is, we always try to blame Allah subhanaw taala when bad things happen in our lives, or when when we feel like we're in a sinful position, or whatever it is, we try to blame the last 100 hours for the circumstances. Right? Allah put me in this position, Allah did this to me, you know, that person had an easier was easier for that person to be a good Muslim. They went to Islamic school, or they had Muslim parents or they

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had good friends around and it was easier for that person. It was easier for for that person, right? We always blame our circumstances. And we make it seem as if a lot didn't give us a fair chance sometimes, you know, or we're in this country. It's hard to be a good Muslim. It's hard to practice Islam in this country, right? We try to make those types of excuses. But at the end of the day, the province couldn't Almighty others Luna agenda to Islam and other everyone from my alma enters paradise, except for the one who refuses. He said the whole lot. How can a person refuse paradise? Right? How can you possibly refuse paradise said when you disobeyed the messenger, so a lot of a

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sudden, you refuse paradise? Because what a lot of the messengers like saddam gave us is very, it's it is very much applicable, okay, to our lives. It's something that's tangible, it's something that can be practiced. And it's something that is not it's not impossible, it never becomes impossible, when it becomes impossible, you're forgiven for that. Right? You're forgiven for not being able to apply something when it's impossible, or when you're under compulsion, or when you forget, or something of that sort. But for the most part, it's really not that hard. Right? It's really not that hard. And that's why I also lost my son said that the last conversation that I would have with

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a disbeliever on the Day of Judgment, or a person who's headed for Doom, Allah subhanho wa Taala, when asked him if you could sacrifice the entire world, give the entire world ransom yourself by giving the entire world in gold to me to get yourself out of the situation, would you do it? And of course, yeah, definitely. I'll do it. I'll give you the entire world and gold. And the last time tells us that these people would even be willing to throw their children in the fire to get themselves out of that situation. The last part of data will say,

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I want to when I asked you for a lot less than that, I didn't ask you for the entire world in gold. I asked you to pray five times a day to do the mandatory things to avoid the major sins and to avoid even the minor sins intentionally. You know, the ones that you'll naturally do you know, you can be forgiven for those when you when you work when you when you make Toba. You know, when you when you do your salon, a loss parents out will overlook those but I asked you for so much less than that. I was really not asking us for a lot at the end of the day. And, you know, in fact, there is a hadith which I feel like is particularly profound, and it's narrated by two Grace Hopper with authentic

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change. It's narrated five times, but the two the two Sahaba that it comes with authentic change, why the magenta and unassuming nomadic, may Allah be pleased with them both. Both of them had an incident where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Man, Allah La ilaha illa Allah, how long a long winded enough?

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Whoever says La la la la la la has forbidding the fire from them.

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And more, or the amount of time he said with yellow school law, you know, should I go and tell people this should I go and spread the news that if you say that you have a light, you're good. And the Prophet slicin them said no, but he then he said no, because then they'll become lazy and complacent. They'll become lazy and complacent. He attack you. They'll just relax them. We're good. We say guy will love. And in essence, you'll see people right in there. And in many other things. This is a this is a query. This is a theology. Right? As long as you acknowledge blank, then you're protected. As long as you acknowledge blank, you're fine. Right? Do whatever you want. But as long

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as you acknowledge blank, you're okay. So, you know, generally speaking, non committal religions and movements and theologies will always be successful, at least in the temporary right

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Right, at least in the short run, whether it's progressive Islam, which is a cop out again, we just will just take things that we liked from. And we'll ignore the things that require commitment from us. And we'll just we'll just deny the legitimacy of it. Or make interpretations of the Koran that hadn't existed for 1400 years to get ourselves out of this situation, or in Christianity, non denominational, unitarianism. Right, or more than that I'm spiritual, but not religious. It's a cop out, right, that's a cop out. That's basically saying, I don't want to commit to a loss on his terms, I want to commit on my terms. I'll do some nice things here. You know, I'll do some volunteer

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work. I'll give some charity, I'll give some time. But I don't actually want to have to commit to anything. And those that's a really, really, really shows that you're actually working for something that you actually believe in something. Because a lot of times we do good things because of the because of the good feeling that doing good things naturally produces you naturally feel good when you do good things, right. But the things that that will require sacrifice, and we talk the entire day about all of these, how many of you were here for our monopolizes to be to sign on? Now many of you actually will have to be

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you know, you have to make sacrifices when you believe in something and a lot of times doesn't want you to become lazy. And the Prophet sidestone doesn't want you to become lazy and complacent with your situation. There has to be a sense of urgency, okay, or else all of that falls apart. You don't know what situation you're going to die upon. All of it falls apart if there's no sense of urgency, but is a loss of Hanna who is either willing to work with you to get you to jedna Yes. And that's why you look at all of these names of a loss patterns out of that refresh that reflect the absolute and infinite mercy of a loss of parents app. Man, Rahim, Lahore, Lahore means a loss of hundreds of

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affordable bullfrog literally means something like when you cover up a pot, when you cover up a boiling pot. And the fog comes from the word shield to write your helmet, I'm sorry, my thought is helmet. So literally, it's covering something up. So last night, I was willing to cover something up and you know what a last kind of title won't hold you accountable for it at all. You know, if you look at the Hadith of the messengers of Allah,

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themselves, whoever does a whoever has a good intention and follows up with a good deed or loss of data rights for one

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set of good deeds, and another varies up to 700 up to whatever loss multiplied by good intention, you follow it up with action, right, sincere, righteous intention, you do the righteous deed of loss penciler multiplies for you. And also last bicep seven, whoever has a good intention, but doesn't follow up with a good action. What does the law write for him?

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You guys need to interact a little bit better than this one. I'm more tired than all of you. I guarantee. One good deal. Actually, it's finals. I'm sorry. One good deal, you get the good deed written for you. And also last night, someone said that if you have a bad intention, you follow up that bad intention with a sin what is the last penalty, right?

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One sin was not gonna multiply to last time, he's not gonna say, well, this sin really, really, really upset me. You know, so I'm gonna be particularly angry about this note, a last pattern to add to never transgresses. Okay, if you commit the sin you face that if a lot doesn't forgive you for that sin, you face the exact punishment of that sin. A lot is not going to multiply it or anything of that sort. And also, last night, someone said that if a person intends something bad, but doesn't end up doing that bad deed, what is the last penalty to do? There's a law right against him. What does the law do?

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He writes you a good deed.

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That part of the Hadith is just mind blowing.

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Because imagine if somebody told you imagine somebody showed up at your doorstep and had a baseball bat in their hand, and said, Look, you know, I was coming to your house to bust up your car. And I changed my mind. I felt bad about it. I just wanted to let you know. And then that person goes, Well, let me pay for your gas.

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It's not gonna happen, right? But that's how merciful lost parents it is. You intended to do something bad, but along the way you held yourself. You restrain yourself a lot of recognizes you made a sacrifice there.

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The last part of Tyler recognizes that sincerity. So Allah subhanho wa Taala will reward you, even with that loss penalty will reward how long that's why it lost muscle loss. My son tells us that on the Day of Judgment, the seven that are stated under the throne of a loss counts out on the day when there is no state except for that shape. One of them is legend, and that's for that has been around for a while. You know, a young man that was called by a woman of great beauty and status and he held himself back and said I feel lost.

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That's not just restricted to men or not, it's when a person holds themselves back, they make a legitimate and valid sacrifice for a loss.

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Even if you intended that even if you were going to commit a sin, you were going to commit a sin and then you stopped yourself not only does a lot, not not only does the last time not hold it against you, unless amount of time to actually reward you for stopping yourself in your truck. So so last night, someone also said, insert an activity. And one of the names of Allah subhanaw taala is and having a lot is forbearing forbearing. Meaning what if a loss kind of points out and wants to strike us every time we mess up right away? How much trouble we be in if Allah didn't give us chances, but a lot of spore bearing so the problem lies I'm sitting similar activity that whenever he's surfing

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since a lost power to other commands the angel on the left to withhold his pen for six hours. So if he makes Toba, it's as if it never got docked down in the first place. And in fact, you get rewarded for this default part. Think about that for a moment. If you commit the sin, and then six hours passes a day passes two days passes whatever two years passes three years and then you make Toba for it. Well, some of

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them come in London Bella, the one who repents from as soon as like the one who never seen before it's wiped off your record, and also said that on the Day of Judgment, while a person is reading their sins, and 99 scrolls are laid out in front of their eyes listening Bahati. 99 scrolls laid out in front of unbelievers eyes of his sins, and he's reading his sins and his face is changing colors. Because he thinks he's doomed that Allah Allah asked him Did you? Did you seek forgiveness for this? Now when he says yes, all of those things start to turn into good deeds, until the person would say to a lot a lot. I've committed another sin that the angel forgot to write down. What the prophet SAW

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seven years telling us what that had been. That if a person sins and then repents right away, the sin is never written down. But the good deed of its default is a

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piece of cake. Right? A loss of habitat is giving you something he's giving you something easy. A loss of animals at the end of the day wants two things from us, a recognition of his perfection, our own imperfection. And number two, some sort of efforts. Some sort of effort that on the Day of Judgment, a loss pattern was added with those 99 persons of mercy that we haven't even begun to experience can use for our costs. Two examples from the system. One of them was the loss I sent him says and this isn't a typical person shows up on the Day of Judgment. The first thing they'll be asked about is what salaat their prayer and if it is deficient, a loss of handholds Allah asks the

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angels did he pray any similar prayers any voluntary prayers? The answer is yes last patterns out of brings those voluntary prayers and starts to touch up your soul for you. You don't ask a lot for them. I lost hundreds on as your judge and I lost parents I was making these excuses for you will bring the voluntary prayers on that muscle loss my son said once he's patched up this ally who sets aside what is this Leon Let me see is fasting what is the Fisher law says does he add any voluntary fasting starts to tax up your fasting and muscle muscle I said I'm so what can that he can

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and that's how all actions will be judged. A lot brings forth a loss easier the efficiency loss starts to passionate for you. Another one, just one muscle loss my son told us about the man that burned that that asked for his children to burn him to ask us to cremate him when he passed away.

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And you know this man the same to is sent to his children. I'm afraid that he was going to catch me he said nothing in his life. And so he knows that he has a realization that he's going to meet a loss. So go ahead and cremate them so I'm also lost my son says so unless Panasonic brings him back together and a lot raises him in the last panel Jada asks him Why did you do what you did?

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And he would say you know push a ticket one time I was afraid of you and you know better you know I was afraid of it that's why I did it you know my heart You know my intention was that I was afraid of you I was trying to escape you What did the prophets I said I'm say happiness.

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you guys are really really really tired.

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A lot for Gibson. Anything else any other components that I need?

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Let me tell you what the profit slice

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lafer Allahu Allahu

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Allah forgave him because of that. The only good deed he had was that he cremated

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himself, which is how about,

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but a lot of recognize the sincere intention, and a lot of recognize the man's heart. And that was the only excuse that could be made for him on the Day of Judgment a lot, use that excuse for how to lie, a lot, use that excuse for him. So once upon a time, we know the stories that we've heard throughout our Sunday school and hopeless and I'm giving you stuff that you already know here. We know these stories, but the point that I'm trying to convey again, it's not a loss of parents, it is not difficult.

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Not a loss of parents out is not hard to deal with. And a loss of power to Allah is merciful. And he's a good dude. He's loving, he's compassionate. These are the types of things that Allah wants us to know him. But now, as far as how that works with our individual lives, Allah subhanaw taala conveys to us but yeah, he died the other day in the hospital, Florida and forcing him la de la jolla in a lot of the new Virginia say, Oh, my servants who have transgressed against themselves. Don't despair, never despair from the mercy of Allah. There is no reason why you should ever feel like a lot. What forgive what forgive you. You know, a person's Pamela.

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I remember a person who really really did some really bad stuff.

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You're saying how can I ever meet a loss again?

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And you know, I'm just like, I'm telling him like, it's because of you there is a little for, right? A lot of parents allas attributes are reflected in his creation. It's because of you that there is an awful lot of lost parents out of forgives the loss pensado has mercy. No matter what you did, Allah will forgive you. But a loss of Hannah Woods Island makes one thing very clear right after saying that a loss panatela places a sense of urgency, what an evil and he will means change course. And evil does not mean stop for the love. And evil means change course literally turn around what an evil in our people will ask the moolah and submit to Him in comedy to Allah.

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Before punishment arrives, it reaches you it's already on its way to you because you're on a course right now you're you're on a collision course with punishment because of the set. turnarounds make a U turn

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before that before that punishment arrives to you, and then you will not be helped. What tiberiu accent amount lucila in a common rabbinical in Company A to company

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and follow the best guidance of what Allah Allah has revealed to you before the punishment comes to you while you're not even paying attention. So a lot connected you're again, ignoring guidance, a person becomes heedless, you would be caught completely off guard by that punishments went on without touch ruin and you didn't see it coming. Again. The idea here is changing course changing course a sense of urgency. You know what when you're reading the in the in the stories of the Sahaba like we read about all the time, and you read about Alma and let me ask you guys a question. I tried this in Baltimore and I got a 5050 response. We'll see if it works here. How many of you are more

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inspired to turn to a loss of time to buy verses of mercy and gentlemen in paradise raise your hand

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how many of you feel more inclined to turn back to a loss of parents either when you come across punished versus a punishment Hellfire? And you know, you get scared the fear of that motivates same thing. 5050 is Pamela I did this in Baltimore big convention. It was like an exact 5050 You know why? Because different Sahaba we find even in the Sahaba different Sahaba were motivated were motivated by different things. Okay, some Sahaba so much, man, Jana, right. Yeah.

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That's what motivated them. That's what pushed them. They love the last panel tada so much, there is actually a role love there, that the threat of punishment wasn't necessary. You know, I'm gonna follow the allowing the set about suhaila roaming all the time, we said no, no, you have a lot on me, obviously, even if he didn't fear a lot. He would never disobeyed him. He would never admit he loved a lot too much to disobeyed him. So even if he feared him, it wouldn't, you know, even if he didn't fear of it want to make a difference in his life. But some people hate they need that. They need to come across those outs about fear and they need to they need to realize they need to

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recognize that there is a chance of failure because some people are motivated by that. Because as long as the failure as long as the fear of failure doesn't cause you to despair and not move but when it places a sense of urgency on you. That's a good thing. That's just your personality type. Right everything a lot is created everyone different double bucket is different from all other bucket look a low IQ is the verses of Jamaica or the Allahu is the verses of Helga Are they from the amount of the allowed and we said I used to hear this. A lot.

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The problem lies on all the time the agenda, right? They always wanted to ask about gender. He said me, I wanted to ask about health and what leads a person tell so I can avoid it. Right? Everyone is different.

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And you have to be able to find what places that sense of urgency on you. And you know, if someone is a bump in dunya, like a total bomb and not getting anywhere in life, you don't go up to them and tell them, hey, look, Obama just got elected again, buddy, you're good. Some welfare systems gonna, you know, since we're going to become a socialist state, by the end of his term, and you know, you'll be taken care of, and everything's gonna be okay, good job, you know, you'll be alright, we'll take care of you got you got you covered. Or if you have a family member that's struggling and not doing anything with their lives, because you're always taking care of them. You don't call them

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and say, Look, I'll be there to take care of you all the time. They'll just keep doing what you're doing. Stay on the couch. It's alright. Don't you know, I'm your brother, I'm your cousin. I'm your father, I'm your mother, I'm your son, I'm your daughter, I'm your best friend, I got your back. Do that. Because that person is a bum right now. They need to be kicked.

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They need to be told, look, if you don't get up and do something with your life right now, you're going to fail. The fear of failure needs to be instilled inside of them or else there will be no sense of urgency and no sense of movements. Right? rough people, you know, ominous Ababa, the last time home was a racist version of like a hardcore redneck with a Ford truck, you know, living in the country of the bedwin who was really really angry and really really rough and you know, that was on the bottom of the line was thing he was a rough neck. So I'm gonna be alone. No understood. I'm a rough guy. I need to be dealt with rough things. So he feared a loss of kind of data. He feared, you

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know, when he read about Hellfire, it scared him. That's how he brought himself. That's how he brought himself back to earth. He humbled Himself. Right? Because that's what he needed to be dealt with. Okay, he diagnosed himself properly. And that's the idea here. You need to understand that what Allah uses versus of Hellfire and the last kind of tada mentions that he has ice is the bomb. You know, the last panel to add up, punishes allies not doing that to make you scared to a point where you don't work and you're and you're limited to inaction or disability. No, you don't despair from a lot despairing from a Lost Planet. Allah is sewalong Bella is having bad thoughts of Allah

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subhanaw taala is how long you never despair from a loss of penalty. You always know that Allah is willing to forgive. But at the same time I need to work. I need to move again light at the end of the tunnel. I've got to go to that light though. I can't just sit back. He know what happens. And this is this is the funny thing about shape bought. This is how shape bond hits you. Before you commit in a sense, a bond comes to you and says, hey, look, man, it's all good.

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Pat's, you on the back? Say bonds, the awesomeness of all time. All right, when you've got an issue, it'll make it hard for you. packing it up for you really nicely. Tell you look, you know, it was really cool. He'll take care of you. Don't worry, you'll be alright. As soon as you commit the sense a THON goes.

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And I was never gonna forgive you. You're disgusting. What's wrong with you? Even I wouldn't have thought of that. You know, what is wrong with you? He comes to you with the exact opposite glasses, tries to make you despair after you commit the sin. Even though he couldn't he comforted you before you committed the sin. Right? That's the DevOps a lot. Because you know something about CEPA. And this is something that that's mind blowing. The meaning of the word say font and a police shape on what does it mean? Everyone? Anyone ever wonder why his name is shade long?

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Anybody know what it means? This?

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distance. sidebar. Samana means distance. They used to say this person's cell phone a deep well, it literally means you dig yourself deep into a hole. You fell and instead of getting out of the hole, you dig yourself deeper. Right? You messed up, you had a minor offense there people like that and dunia they get accustomed to failure, right? There are people like that, that they spoil every opportunity they get like because they become accustomed to failure, they'll find a way to mess it up. Right? There are people like that in this world. And there are people like not with a loss of attitude. I messed up, oh, well, might as well just go all out now. Right? I'm not there isn't.

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There was a guy that talked to me a few weeks ago. He told me I have a problem. You know, he I was helping him. He had a problem with pornography and stuff like that. So I was helping him talking, talking to him about it. And the other day, we're playing basketball and he comes up to me and he says, You know, I got to talk to you and I'm like, Alright, what's going on? So he talks to me, he says, you know, he was telling me I feel filthy when I commit the sin.

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They said I was feeling so bad the other night that I wouldn't I got drunk.

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Like, first you were just watching pornography. And now you actually you actually went and got drunk, right? It's like I was feeling so bad that the only way I can feel good is go get drunk. like, Alright, great. You know why? why it's probably understood right away. Some people get accustomed to failure, unfortunately. Right, you messed up one. So, you know, the train is already moving. It's our I have no hope. Let me just keep going. So you keep digging yourself deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper. And that's exactly what St. Martin did. Because the amendment the josina haimo law says if say long as the law for forgiveness alone would have forgiven him. Right. I

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mean, he, what he did was forgivable. Shit is forgivable if you ask the last kind of data for forgiveness. The worst offenses are forgivable if you ask the last panel, Tyler, but he kept digging himself deeper in the hole. He said Carla won't be eliminated, I don't know a lot, grab your spot until the day of judgment. Okay, you've got them. And he says Bhima awaits me, because you lead me astray.

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And I'm going to lead all of them straight to you just had a chance here. You just had a chance, right? But some people get accustomed to failure. So they keep going further and further and further. And the meaning of the lease is hopelessness of Lhasa. And nobody soon lost calls with people of Hellfire and nobody soon means to be hopeless. Right?

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Now the shape one ever feel bad about what he did?

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Did you ever feel bad about what he did?

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Was the loss Hi, Sam says yes.

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Muslim actually say mom cries about what he didn't sometimes sees people making so many cries. And he says

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he was commanded and he did what he had to do. I was commanded and I disobeyed him last time. But what's the problem? He cries but doesn't do anything about it. Right? There are a lot of people like them. They despair, they get hopeless and helpless, and they don't make an effort to change their situation, not even an effort. Right? So that's the idea here. You've got to try. You've got to have something to show on the day of judgment to say, Oh, well, I tried. I tried to be a good person. You didn't ask me for the entire world. You didn't ask me to be Superman. You didn't make everything cut off. Everything was held out except for the few things that you made. And also for that

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everything is held on muscle and made it How long? You didn't make everything cut off. You didn't make life impossible. Right. But but here's here's what I have to offer all I know it's not much but here's what I have to offer. Any market and Josie he said what he does a lot of what he does a lot and so

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because of that a lot named himself the Grateful a lot is grateful. Why would a lot what is the life to be grateful for? And he said because if you do the smallest thing for a loss paddleboards Allah, Allah subhanho to Allah magnifies it beyond imagination. Right? You made it the smallest effort, small charity, little salami, something nice that you do for your parents, you do something so small for a loss to Allah and Allah subhanaw taala blows it up in a good way. The last panel, tada, magnifies, right, it's like that, and I give this example. I know not many of you are parents, and grandparents. But you know, when your kid comes home from school, and cuts out his little heart from

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construction paper, and, you know, colors all out of line and stuff like that and says I

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you know, cuts out I love you letters and takes that to the heart. And then the eldest is all raggedy and elegant falls out, falls off and says I love you and draws you the stick figure where you look deformed. And you know, you've only got one leg or you got three years for some reason or three eyes, right? As a parent when you look at that.

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You love it. You valued. Right? We you know when we used to do that stuff for our parents and our parents would hang it up on the wall or something like that. It's not cuz we were exactly Picasso's right? It's not because we produce a masterpiece of art. It's because the parents recognize that behind that 23 cents of garbage. In that construction paper, there was an effort that was made a loss of habitat as the same way you come on the Day of Judgment. And you present your bragging, beat up salaah

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jumping jacks, whatever you want to call them, not too much concentration, not too much for sure you've done a little bit of charity here and there. You did a nice thing for somebody for the sake of a loss of hundreds out he did a little bit of that we're here. You present that raggedy body of work to a loss of candidates.

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A lot makes it great. A lot of parents out it takes and he appreciates it because he's so cool. Because a lot recognizes, you know what a sincere effort was made. But at the end of the day, that's not what's gonna get you into gym, that's gonna be a loss mercy. It's gonna be a loss of mercy. And I remember, you know, I was I was sitting on an interfaith panel, and we talked about this. And,

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you know, you've got two extremes here, sitting between a Christian and a Jew, we had a lot of good interfaith dialogues, by the way, because we'd be very honest and open about our differences in theology and things of that sort. And so we were talking about these different, these differences. So the Christian ideology is that, For God so loved the world, that he's his one and only Son that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish, john 316, which, in essence means that you attain salvation by acknowledging that Jesus died for your sins. And that's it. Right? action is optional at that point, and the pastor was saying that action is good, but it's optional. The end of the day,

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anyone who made that acknowledgement is free from responsibility. So a person who prayed five times a day a person who did everything that they could do, a person that was trying to please the last kind of title, but did not acknowledge that Jesus died for their sins is hopeless, helpless, right. But acknowledge that Jesus died for your sins, you're good. Okay. On the Jewish side, it's completely action based. And so I was listening to them discuss this, and I was thinking in the middle, right, it's about a lot and it's completely action based. Okay. God is portrayed as a very wrathful God in the Torah, and in the tenemos. Okay, in fact, if you read the Old Testament, you

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will wonder why the heck anybody says anything about the Koran.

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And he'll be like, seriously? You know, I remember once I had a friend in eighth grade, I showed him the Old Testament, I pointed out some verses, like, where does this Bible printed me out?

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And I was impressed that he knew where he was,

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like, where would this Where's his credibility? I couldn't believe it. Right? Very wrathful vengeful God. Okay, there is no concept of salvation or mercy. You've just got to, you've got to observe these strict set of laws. And that's it. And then you get in based on your actions. And then we find it in Islam, you have a middle ground, do you do what you can you put your actions forward. But at the end of the day, it's a loss of power, it's out of mercy, and overlooking the flaws of those actions, that will get you into paradise, but you still have to try your best, you still have to put your best foot forward. Right? And that's exactly what the middle path is. This is a muscle Health

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Training for a reason. It's a balanced view, you try your best but at the same time, you can't give a low and he's given to you can you just it's impossible. You cannot give a last panel to either what he's given you, so just do your best put your best foot forward. That's not the end of the day. That's what gets us into paradise. It's not going to be our raggedy salon. Right It's upon a lot it's it's extremely beneficial to contemplate upon how merciful Allah subhanaw taala is not the same time to take moments for yourself and to scare yourself a little bit sometimes. Right to actually scare yourself and say, Man, I've got to move. And if we look at all these people a lot I we talked

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about him a lot today. He lived the life where he was pretty fearful of a lot right?

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You know what I needed? Medina said, I'd love to read your late 40s buddy accordion and agenda. We're gonna donek County Illuminati and America is pretty phenomenal that there were two men that

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were created for paradox, but they used to act like Hellfire was created just for them. And who were the two

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that have been optimizing the non custom buslee. Right? They were created for gentlemen, you looked at him You said gentlemen,

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ease you know VIP access to gym these guys are in.

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But at the same time they acted like hell was created for them. When Omar was dying, was he fearful? Or was he hopeful? Extremely hopeful, happy, full of joy. reciting these ayaats you know, about the angels coming to him and just the happiness that he had on his face, he was comforted.

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That's how a lot

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about him a winery is one of the photo of the son of one of the things itself, I forgot which one of the scholars it was. But he said that the believer lives this way. So we know if people lost that that the believer lives. Like a bird. The body of the bird is the level of loss of habitat of the two wings, hope and fear consistently between hope and fear, right? Which one should be more in the hope or the fear?

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Raise your hand if you think you should have more hope and a love and fear. Raise your hand.

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Raise your hand if you think you should have more fear than hope.

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Okay, you're both right and you're both wrong. Okay.

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Because there's a time for this, and there's a time for that. And the stuff they used to say that's not a hierarchy.

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You have full Coco Villa and Raja hoomin. throughout your life, you should have a little bit more fear than hope.

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Why hate a father. And then one negative outcomes that you learn is when you're dying, those moments before you die, you have full Florida home in LA in Oklahoma, and the hope comes back, and it actually supersedes the fear. Why is that? If you've got an extremely easy professor, you know, you guys are taking finals and you bank on that Professor of being easy. And you don't study the way you need to study because you say he's easy anyway. What happens when you take the exam, you end up flunking, because you took it for granted. Right? You know, you saw it's easy Professor anyway, whatever, smart class, you know that you are not taking the exam, it was a piece of cake like you

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thought it would be because you didn't even bother to read the study guide that looks like a middle school study guide, you know, that they gave you because you saw how easy anyway, I remember this stuff, right? But if you study hard as if, as if that is the hardest professor in your university study for that test. The minute that you sit down and you look at that test, what do you do?

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It's as easy, right? Just go through a piece of cake. As soon as you see the test before you start, it's not after the test. It's when you see the test and you realize that you were ready for it anyway, you were prepared. You acted like you actually had a possibility to fail, but you had in your mind, you know, in the back of your mind that you know what i'm not gonna fail. This test is an easy professor, but you didn't bank on him being an easy professor. Likewise, when you deal with a loss, kind of what's out, don't bank on a loving machine to a point where you don't do anything? No, you know what act like you're going to help and you need to get out. And whenever you're dying, you

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will be able to sit there and you will be able to say you know, and how did it come to the last payment I tried. Likely Microsoft came along and he was dying. So the beautiful casita, he said that, Oh Allah, I know I have mountains of sins. But when I compared a lot of my sins to a little bit of your mercy, I found that your mercy is much more than my sense, smiled and died. Those are the last words. He was a poet. I think a lot of time even his last words were poetry, I know a little bit of your mercy is enough for a lot of my sense. I'm good. I feel good now. Right, because a loss pentatonic gives you that comfort. So the hope is more than the fear at that point. But you

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should have a sense of urgency, that, you know, it's all the time in the class that I'm going to do actually with a muffler, which is behind the scenes.

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February 8 through 10th, is that February for the University of Houston, we go in a lot of detail about how to break the habit of sitting. Right. It's a very intense class on spirituality. It is very different from any other class that I teach. And in terms of practical course, on spirituality and how to break the habit of sin. This is just the concept, right? I'm just getting to abstract things. All right. So there needs to be an understanding here, that the last kind of what's at his most merciful, but you have to change course, you have to make an effort. And a lot of times our Toba has so many strings attached to find funding. So for example, you know, like, yeah, you know, I

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want you to pencil out I want to make Toba. But I still want to have this in my life.

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Like, you're in a relationship. Yeah, I feel about that a lot. But I need to marry that person, I got married, I'm gonna marry that person. Great, great. tobis conditional. You don't make you don't place you don't have strings attached to your token. When you turn back to the last panel to Allah and you, you change course and you repent, you don't allow yourself to make excuses for yourself and you don't attach strings to your token, a lot has already made things quite easy for us and not by me. And you know what? When you look at that man, who burned himself to ashes and cremated himself and a lot got him its agenda. Don't ever I'm talking about down to the religious MSA crowd. Don't

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you ever looked down at another human being and say that Allah is not going to forgive that person? I don't care who he is, or who she is. Don't you ever allow yourself to fall into that mistake? Elena law, the law says that the prophets lie. Some said, This isn't a body. There are two men for money aside one of them a worshiper who stole anything any other brother and he used to always encourage his brother, right? So to do things to pray and to come to the masjid than to to avoid you know, the Halloween and those types of things. He'd always get on top of them. And one time the brother said to him, he sets him Have you been sent as Allah came over me that a lot sent you as a

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watcher over me? And he said, a lie. layoff in a lot what he said was never gonna forgive a person like you

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and someone else

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raises those raises those two people on the Day of Judgment, a loss of title would stay to the man who made that statement. Did you have any knowledge about who I'm going to forgive and who I'm not going to forgive? And who's going to have and who's going to help? And he says, No. And the last panel which Allah says, so bear witness that I have forgiven him and I'm punishing you for what you said.

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And I will already know the alarm was sudden will lie, that the kingdom of the catchment, Omaha to be eaten Yahuwah asked him, he said a word that destroyed his dominion is occupied. Don't you ever look at another person saying Allah is not going to forgive that person, or start having Sue Yvonne in that person negative thoughts about that person suspicions that personnel, that person is like this. And that person is that they don't care about a lot. They don't love a lot like I do. He talking about, you don't know a loss of habitat as mercy. And you don't know where a loss mercy will fall on the Day of Judgment. So it's important for us to worry about ourselves when we're talking

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about this topic. First and foremost, Worry about yourself. Right, changing course yourself, we've all got our mistakes to turn back to a loss to iOS. So in general, it's either that I'm going to go ahead and start. Again, I like discussions. I'm going to open it up to discussion. So I'm gonna sit down, and you're welcome to raise your hands and ask questions. Do we have index cards? No. Okay, just raise your hands all the time.

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No Holds Barred q&a?

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No beating around the bushes.

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Yes. What three tips would you give us?

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What three tips that I give you to get to gentleman? Want ask act?

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wanted? Ask or act?

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Simple, right? simple answer to the simple question.

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wanted, sincerely desire asked a lot of work and make an effort for

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so simple.

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Anybody else? easy question.

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From your life experiences, what keeps you driving towards, like having

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acting upon the religion and just being motivated to keep continuing? Because a lot of times, I guess, we have ups and downs within our spirituality and stuff. But what keeps you motivated from your life experiences to keep going forward?

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What keeps you motivated from my own life experiences to keep going forward?

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I'll answer that with a different answer. inshallah. So aside from my life experiences, let's just say what keeps a person motivated.

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Several things number one, understanding that no matter how bad you are lost pounds out is merciful enough for you.

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The other thing, spiritual consistency in your action Jedi mind can't be spontaneous. It can't be I feel good right now. So I'm going to do some good things, having some consistent actions in your life, a bare minimum in your life that you fall back on. So for example, I'm going to read 10 pages of put on a date. And when I feel good, I'll read 20 pages. But 10 pages, I don't care how bad my day is. I'm gonna do 10 pages a day. There's a new project called 19. AR today, you take the entire core on that actually, it's a it's a trend on Twitter right now. 19 hours a day started by a good friend of mine,

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that at the bare minimum, you read 19 hours a day. So you finished the full on in the year, you know, we know some of us finish at least once a month. Take those 19 ayaats. Right to reflections on Twitter, right? But the point is, is that some form of consistency in your life, when you have consistency in your life, a bare minimum in your life, that even when you're when you're down, which is only natural, you won't be down to a point where you're sinful. So that's what that's what's important. Again, we talked about it a lot in class look for this class coming up and show up for this behind the scenes class. I'm not exaggerating when I say that it's life changing. I promise you

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is life changing. I honestly I guarantee you ask anyone that's been to Dallas for the class. I know some people went from Houston to Dallas, ask them it is a life changing class. Not because I'm teaching it but because the material is absolutely life changing from him alone. He talked about destructive flaws. He talked about it like he talked about it scientifically.

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That's why so make your effort to attend to charlo.

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Anybody else?

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Okay, keeping a constant amount rush

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Keeping your mind high for the first part of the answer is obviously same answer to rather than that, you know, you have that spiritual consistency, some actions that you always fall back on. Other than that you need to keep an environment that is always conducive to a given rush. Okay, as much as you can.

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Weekly Halla posts, every continent, you guys live in Houston, there's stuff going on all the time in these big cities. Right. So consistently engaging yourself consistently creating an environment where you're, the man can consistently flourish. Being in a gathering where a loss of habitat as mentioned, you naturally feel better, you naturally feel good.

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Even if it's, you know, even even if you're not, even if you're, you know, you're not paying attention fully to the speaker, whatever it may be, you just naturally feel better when you're in an environment where a loss has been mentioned. And, you know, there's a deepening, and things of that sort. So creating that environment. And also, I'd say,

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trying to trying to do, I really don't know how to put this to well, but trying to keep yourself engaged with with good work in terms of charity and volunteerism, also in those types of things. So activism, I mean, really, when you're acting upon your faith, and you're relating directly

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to what you're doing. You're not, you know, you're always living. And by the way, that's why people. That's why when, you know, on Wilkie, I told him I was suffering. So it goes to the level here. So I have an even function in my house.

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Where safaree says I complained to a carrier that I'm losing my memory, he told me stop sending. We said the knowledge of a lot is lightened, it's not given to a disobedient person. What he meant by that is that when you are consistently applying something in your life, you're more likely to keep it in your memory. Right? When you're relating an idea to to a daily portion of your life, to a daily portion of your life, you're more likely to retain that in your memory, the time when you are living the format, you're more likely to retain in your memory, okay, because you're it's weighing heavily on your mind and on your heart because you're acting upon him at that moment. And so that's

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what, that's what made the Sahaba. So incredible, you know, the last time he said, we read some hyatts understand the icon and the rulings with it. We memorize them, we apply them. And then we move on to the next step.

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So that's really what it is, you know, just just try to after every class you take after every holiday you hear. And this is just life advice. By the way, you need to sit with yourself and ask, okay, how do I apply this to my life? Have a discussion on your way home with your friends, whatever it is, with your family? How do I apply this in my life? How do we apply what we learned? Whether it's a convention, the conference, take those, you know, a lot of times the notes are just like points of interesting, you know, points of interest or benefits and things of that sort. It's not about what can I do now, to change my life? What can I do now to apply this material to my life? So

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that's really what, you know, that's really what I'm what I'm learning?

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How can I relate this to my life?

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The questions? Yeah.

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What is?

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a great question.

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Great question.

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That's actually the Friday session, by the way of the class is all about that question. Because many people don't realize that you asked a lot of time to forgive you. But many times you don't forgive yourself for things that you've done.

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Look, if you look at the Sahaba some of them did some terrible things before they became Muslim. When I say terrible, I don't mean like they went out on a date.

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I mean, like murdered somebody, or you know, stole something. Right? They had terrible things that they did in their lives. And shavon is the one that tries to make you despair.

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You have to understand that if a law has forgiven you that it's not worth holding a grudge against yourself, you're not going to get anywhere without a feeling of guilt, that guilt motivates you. You know, that's the idea here.

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Guilt is not a bad thing. If it motivates you. You're not on top of the law. No talking about that. He said I seek refuge in a law from a generation that will come that's born into Islam that never experienced God and they never experienced ignorance, so they don't appreciate this enough.

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I find that very powerful because you know who the best Muslims are the conference we always say right? People convert to Islam. They change their lives. They are more dedicated and committed than any born Muslims are. Why? Because they they've lived away from the last panel. It's Anna and they use that guilt. They know I've got

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Many years to catch up on whatever it may be, they use that to motivate themselves. But it didn't take me a lot. He said that a sin that brings you back to a lot is more beloved to him than a good deed that takes you away a lot of people

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on the way to becoming religious people become crappy human beings. Okay, they, you know, they think because they write a check, or they go to the medicine, they do these things a lot. You know, I, I'm untouchable. So they don't, they're not actually motivated people. Right, they're there, they actually become very bad people. On on, which is funny on the pretext of salon, those types of things, the good deed, the lose them, it takes them away from a loss of habitat. Whereas some people a sin, a really bad sin that they committed was the best thing that ever happened to their relationship with a loss of habitat. And because because of that sin, they never want to go back.

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They never want to experience what it was like to be that far away from above. Again, it was miserable, they felt guilty about it. But at the same time, they use that as motivation. Right, like you find, and this is, this is psychology. I mean, you find people that are former drug addicts, right. And they dedicate their lives to helping other people overcome their addictions, things of that sort. So you make progress, you move forward with your you let that sin, motivate you, on top of the law and will let his dark past motivate him, it moves them towards the last time. So he didn't sit around and not do anything, because he said I'm hopeless. I've done a lot of bad stuff in

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my life. It's not that he forgave himself. I mean, he was guilty, he felt guilty about it. But at the same time, he used it as positive fuel. And that's the idea here, let that be the catalyst for your repentance. Yeah, feel guilty about look, we read about the Sahaba. So if you had to do him a lot, he used to pass by place. And he used to always break down crying, and he said, Why are you crying? Because I remember, he disobeyed a lot here.

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But it became one of the most amazing scholars in history, he used that as motivation. So use your dark past

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as motivation to never go back to that darkness again. So forgive yourself, don't become complacent, don't become passive. So just don't let that don't let it become unhealthy to a point where you're just sitting, you're not doing anything, you're not moving forward. Okay, so anything that moves you forward, anything that that

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fuels progress is healthy. Anything that feels regression, or idleness is not healthy.

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Does that help?

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But that's the free Friday session, by the way.

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It really is because people don't understand the danger of self pity. kills, kills all of your enthusiasm and motivation stops you from doing anything.

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Anybody else? Questions? Yeah, there are

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a lot of folks that only one out of 1000 people.

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Yeah, but that's referring to George and, George. The completion of that, is

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that George and George are 999.

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One more question.

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How would you advise someone

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with some misfortune?

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How would you advise someone that's going through some misfortune refuses to see a loss of mercy?

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Know what,

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there are a lot of things that would happen in your life that you don't have an answer to.

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But to take comfort in knowing that there is someone who does have the answer to it, rather than saying that there is no answer to it

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can be a lot more healthy for you. So

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I mean, it depends on the particular particular tragedy, the particular crisis.

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But what is the point of sitting around and dwelling upon a lot? Here's my question. Have you ever been an atheist that was at peace, that's the kingdom tranquility in their lives, tranquility in the lifestyle, you know, look at you know, online forums and, you know, their, their manner of speaking. atheists are generally miserable, miserable people, because they've decided that there is no answer to anything. There's no one who has the answer. So, they drilled themselves deeper and deeper. And so eventually, you know, like, you know, Edward young, who was a professor at Princeton, he ran a lie detector test on atheists 300 atheists, he took 300 atheists and asked them if they believe in

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God, and out of the 300 I think 93% 92 or 93% failed the test when they said

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they believe in God but they're angry at God. Okay, so the idea here is that

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You wouldn't be you know, you wouldn't be arguing.

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you're arguing with him, you know, sometimes it's like a really stupid reason, like, you see a lot of people have become gods in their lives and stuff like that, or when like makeup and piercing themselves in weird ways Why? Because that didn't buy me a PlayStation.

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Or my dad didn't buy me the car that I wanted. And that's what

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they ended up shooting hair went up and stuff like that. And those times, like, you know, it's like stupidity that you see, some people have some serious, serious issues in their lives, right.

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And one of the beauties of Islam is that it gives you a sense of tranquility. And it's important to build, when you build your relationship with a muscle, before the misfortune hits, you're able to weather the storm. The problem is, is that most people are told to develop a relationship to the loss after the tragedy has struck. So it's like you're coming to a person that didn't have patience, that wouldn't have patience with his cell phone break.

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And then, you know, he breaks his, you know, he goes through a major crisis in his life, and you go up to him and say, how solid like, dude, he wasn't able to have patience. With the most minor things in life, how do you expect him to have patience with the major things in life and that's how you build yourself for those moments, right? When you build a strong relationship with lost parents, either, you can weather the storm. So my advice is build that relationship so that the next time is because life is full of misfortunes. Okay, there's going to be something and no matter what spin you put on it, there's always going to be you're gonna face negative things in life. There's you cannot

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achieve absolute happiness in this dunya with with dunya. You know, we talked about today of the medical marijuana kids, right?

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He sounded nothin medic had a very interesting incident. Not the medic had a dream that all his teeth fill up.

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So he called his, he called the dream interpreter. He told them, Look, I had this.

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I had this dream that all my teeth fell out, what does it mean? And he told them, that means that your entire family's gonna die.

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Everybody's gonna die in your family.

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And you're gonna see each and every single one of them die. They got so upset that he wanted to kill him. So he didn't like his dream interpretation. So he got another dream interpreter. And he told me that I had this dream, what do you think? He said? Absolutely. He said, congratulations, oh, commander of the believers, you're going to live a long life, you're going to outlive everybody in your family. And he was happy. And his guards were like,

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said the same thing. Split a positive spin to it. But that's exactly what life is. I mean, when you when you have, when you have that connection with the last kind of data, you're able to see things in a positive manner. So build that connection, make it strong. Right? As you know, this is this is exactly this is what it is, you know, imagine how and this is why the scholars they say that this gentleman,

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the gentleman on earth is certainty, because there is no calamity with their certainty and hell on earth is being diluted from a loss of credit.

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When you don't understand when you don't have a purpose, why maybe you don't know why, what's going on. And why is this happening and you're consistent. You think this is it so you you're under this delusion that you can achieve absolute happiness in this life, and no person ever has achieved absolute happiness in this life. It doesn't have to this life wasn't meant for absolute happiness. Whatever it is, that gives you happiness, life gives you the same extensive misery in life.

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Right, whatever gives you happiness gives you misery. That's just the way it works. So

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you know, having purpose and meaning light allows you allows you to see, to see through things.

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Because you understand it doesn't end with that.

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And that's the issue there. So I mean, it's at the end of the day, it gets back to building back to the basics, building a strong personal relationship with a

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salon is not enough. So because not enough, all of those things are not enough. There is no personal relationship with the last time

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and then you can weather the storm and that you have been does wonders for you. And that's you know, that's why I lost pounds

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an hour I'm

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the one who turns away from remembering me will have a suffocating life. You know, when they say I feel like the world is choking, I feel like I'm suffocating. A lot of uses that same words like the walls are caving in, they're closing in

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suffocating, because you turned away from the requirements of the last kind of data. So what I would say is get back to the basics and have a strong personal relationship with Alon take more comfort in knowing that you know what someone does have the answers and there is wisdom and there is reason I will be rewarded. And you know, I thought it was a lot of time said there's a type of patience. That's not rewardable there's a type of patience that's rewardable there's a type of patience that you have to have regardless meaning when somebody steals your car, for example, I'm not wishing that on anybody.

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I hope none of you had your car stolen tonight, but somebody steals your car, you're gonna have to have a level of patience in the sense that look, whether you like it or not, you're gonna have to wait for a ride, you're gonna have to file a police report, that's mentari patience, it's not rewardable the type of patience that's rewarded was when you say to the law, there's a reason for that. They lost time, give me something better. That's the rewardable patience. So

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that's what really counts. And you start to see through reward in your times of hardship and misfortune and know that the world is this is not all of it.

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And that's how you achieve happiness. We've been diluted consistently into thinking that happiness can be achieved and no person achieves happiness in dunya no celebrity achieves happiness in your 100 that delusion means work in accordance with it. And then you get to the top of dunya and then you realize that it sucks just as bad if not more, as when you report and didn't have much then you just kill yourself.

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So I celebrities always found that in bathtubs, or behind seven elevens or something, or murdered or whatever it is. Right? It's hollow, there's no meaning to their lives. So find meaning get back to the basics.

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And the other question sisters

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the person

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also, what

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can you say that against us?

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After the

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after the making the scene making the scene?

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A sin.

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So there's two there's two things here most thing about your sin,

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telling when they talk about telling your sins, exposing yourself to lash covers you in the night and then you expose yourself in the day, or lock coverage in the day you expose yourself by night. This is talking about the context of boasting. So you're proud of your sentence. Okay, so you're telling people, the sins, which seamlessness but it should not be mistaken for the elephant in the room, you know, ideology, which is that if there is a sin, that I'm not able to battle, and I need help, seeking help for that sin does not fall into the same category. So this this for example, you know, I'm struggling, I'm going to go to an email I'm going to go to my parents who go to a close

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brother closest and say, Look, I need your help. I need to get over this that's not posting at that point. That's seeking help for

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so that's that's the difference between the two they're

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very desirable. Okay, guys.

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I'll see you all, Texas Dallas convention.

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My new turn you in December 22 to 24th in Sharla. And then I hope to see you all at the class until February 8 through the 10th