Surah Yusuf #51 – V83 – Beautiful Patience Again

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I am really happy and also a little bit intimidated that we're starting iron number 83 of sort of use of these are some of the heaviest ions of the surah from many points of view. So, I pray to Allah azza wa jal that I'm able to clarify some things that I've come to understand and appreciate about these ayat, and I'm able to do them some level of justice, there's no way that we can extract every benefit every pearl of wisdom that Allah has induced and injected into every word and every eye of the Quran, but we do our best. And I pray that Alonzo church gives me the ability to draw something of benefit for you and to be able to articulate that in a way that benefits me and

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benefits all of you in your lives inshallah. So, what I want to start with is just a recap of where we are in the story. So you appreciate the placement of the ayah Yusuf Ali Salam has kept Binyamin. He's told him that he's his brother. He's also hatched the scheme of holding on to the cup and then under that pretense detaining, Binyamin with him, the sons have gone back, they've told the father now that he's been detained, and they were specifically told words to say so the one of the older brothers are the most influential, but they're stayed back and said, I can't face that anymore. You guys go. But when you do go back, say this. And that's what we did last time. And I remember 81 and

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82. We see go back to your father, did you really love Hulu? Then go and say yeah, about not nakazato in the in the cabinet, Castlerock dad, our Father, certainly Your son has stolen now. Pay attention to those words, they start with our father. So who are they attributing the relationship to themselves, then they say, your son stole no doubt. So that your son is actually meant instead of saying our brothers stole, right, because they just had our father, which means all of us our brother. Then they said, Well, we all see you as dad, but you somehow thought that this one was special, right? Just like you used to think use of for special? Well, guess what? That son of yours?

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Yeah, that one? Yeah, he's still. And why are they making it sound? Like why is he telling them to say that? First of all, the brother who told them to go and say this didn't say this to that face? He stayed behind in Egypt, right? Is I'm not coming back. So he doesn't have the the goal to come and face his father and say this to his face. But when you guys go back, you need to say this. Why? Because that will first of all, shift the blame from us. It wasn't us this time dad, we took an oath to protect him. But how can we protect him from his own evil? He's responsible for what he did. That's not that's taking responsibility off of our shoulders. Maybe you should have told him that he

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shouldn't be stealing his your precious son. He's the one who stole Okay, we had nothing to do with this problem. He created this problem. So this is their way of diverting the responsibility that they suffer. And they want to make sure that that understands that they're not the ones to be held accountable this time. So obviously, last time, they blamed a wolf and this time they were blaming the sheep himself, right. So there's, they're going after this. You've been saying he's the one that stole he's the one that that did it. And then of course, the corroborating evidence, go ask the town and everything else. Right. And so they've told this story. And they've told that, you know, we are

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going to tell this and we are telling the truth for sure. This time, that's as far as we got. Now. yaku, at SLM is going to respond? What's his reaction at hearing this? Like he's hearing? I can't let you go with Binyamin. Are you going to take care of him the way you take took care of us have? No If you let go of him, you better take an oath, a sacred oath with allies witness both the criminal law, an oath that binds you to Allah Himself as if violating that oath will be blasphemy, give me that kind of an oath that you will come back with him unless you are surrounded. And he did all of this exercise. And of course, he comes, they come back and now another son is gone. Actually,

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two of them are gone now. Right? So when he hears this news, his immediate response is something we read a long time ago in the surah. He says Allah, he said, but instead, rather, and we'll come back to the word rather but let me translate first. So what local and for sukham amre. Your egos made something easy for you to do. Your egos made something convenient for yourselves. You allowed yourself to do something and make something convenient for yourselves from within yourself.

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Now this is something he said actually, some time ago he said exactly these words, when they came back with the shirt with the blood on it. These are exact words from several years ago at the loss of use of so what was a word come and for so komamura and then the words after that are for sovereign Jimmy, beautiful patience. That's beautiful patience. Those are also identical words, from the time that use of a salon was thrown in the well, and they concocted that story. But the rest of what he says is different. He says as Allahu dnab him Jamia, maybe, or hopefully, Allah will bring them all to the all to me, all together, maybe a level bring all of them together to me. So he's

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referring to use of he's referring to Binyamin. He's referring to Reuben or whoever whichever brother stayed behind the arm of a semicolon will be right in the who who will animal Hakeem certainly he, he is the ultimately knowing he is the all wise, that's a rough translation of iron number 83. But now let's start digging a little bit deeper at what's going on here. First of all, he's telling them in the first words are He said, But or he responded instead? And what is the word instead do instead says the story you're telling me that my son stole and it's not your fault? And I can go ask anybody else. You're not telling me any everything right? I disagree with you. Instead,

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this is what's actually happened. So that instead, is him rejecting everything they've said. This led our commentators to discuss this in detail, is he actually rejecting their version of the story, because this time, they actually have corroborating evidence, you can go ask anybody in town, you can ask the entire caravan that we traveled with, we couldn't possibly have convinced everyone to lie on our behalf. So if you don't believe us, you can go ask them. So they're supporting evidence for their claim. So then when the father says instead, it's not like the shirt seen, you have to understand the difference. In the shirt seen? Clearly. You could tell they made this up, and they're

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not very good at lying. Right? So he saw right through it. And when he said your, your inner selves have made something convenient for you have allowed you to do something terrible, that had a certain meaning back then. But now it carries sort of a different meaning. So what is that different meaning that it carries this time? First and foremost this time?

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One thing he's saying is that you are it's so easy for it to come out of your mouth that your brother stole that my son stole. You didn't say he was accused of stealing. You didn't say a cup was found in his bag. You didn't say there's been a misunderstanding. You didn't give him any benefit of the doubt. You incriminated him without a shadow of a doubt in Naka. sadhak, no doubt about it. Your son. In fact, you stole right. So you spoke with such certainty about your brother, you spoke evil about your brother. So let me make a comparison. Now, the comparison is, last time you ripped your brother, you try to kill your brother physically? Yes. You harmed your brother physically that was

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useful. And now you're harming your brother's dignity.

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Because when you say about your brother, that He's a thief, without giving him any benefit of the doubt. And yeah, who knows his son better than that. He knows he wouldn't have stolen and they've lived their whole lives with him too. He knows they know he's not the kind of kid that would steal. But the fact that with such ease, they said that to him. That's also a kind of attempted murder. There's an attempted murder of someone's physical body. You hurt harming someone physically. And then there's killing somebody dignity. And in the Quran, both of these are in some sense equated In fact, one of them is made worse than the other. One of them which is to humiliate to humiliate

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someone, or to slander somebody is actually in a Hadith of the Prophet sighs and I'm considered more vile than disrespecting the Kaaba. Right the prophets I said and looked at the Kaaba and said that your dignity is you know how grand your dignity is my alma automatically, but then he said, I swear by Allah in so many words, you know, we live in fcbd. I swear by the one who holds my life in his hands. He said, la holmatro miny, moe and the La harmattan mean hermetic, that the dignity of a believer is more sacred to Allah than yours sanctity. He said that to the Goblin face. The goblin said that to the Kaaba. So, if you're a Muslim, it's unimaginable a believer, it's unimaginable to

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disrespect or disregard the Kaaba or speak ill of the Kaaba, in order to act in a way that's not right to the sanctity of the Kaaba of the Sacred House. And the Prophet is telling us that the believer is worthy of that dignity more than even the cow bias. And this is their own brother. And they're just casually no doubt about it, your son stole. So, what Yakov Allison is paralleling this time is

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There was abuse the first time that was physical in nature. And it was an attempted murder and really kidnapping and you know, selling at the best best case scenario sold him off to slavery, or left him in a ditch to die or whatever happens to him at the same. He's no longer our problem, physical harm, and this time, psychological harm, dignity and you can hurt someone when they're not even in your presence. So they brought false blood, and this time they bring a false accusation. They build it, they should have been fighting this accusation. No, this has to be a misunderstanding. Last time, you people place silver cups, or all of our all of our goods, you

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placed them back in our bags. And when we got back home, we noticed everything's been returned to us remember, they could have made the case? Well, you know, sometimes in this government, people put things in people's bags, and we don't even know when it happens. And last time, all of our goods were returned to us, they could have defended, right, they could have had some kind of case, they didn't go that route. So that's the first thing that jacobellis is possibly responding to, by saying your egos something inside of yourselves, makes it easy for you to do these things. This is a different manifestation, it's a different branch of the same poisonous tree that made you hurt your

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brother so many years ago, it's it's not the same exact thing. But it's not all that different. Either. It's coming from the same exact place, how easy is it is for you to humiliate your brother in this way, or accuse him in this way. So that's one meaning of, you know, someone looking for so komamura. The second is, you resigned yourself to this accusation. And you decided not to fight it. And, you know, just come back so easily because it was so easy for you to let go of your brother, just like it was so convenient for you to abandon use of meaning this is just another but it's just it just worked out for you. You didn't like Binyamin anyway. And somehow you can get him back. This,

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this is convenient for you is a convenient tragedy. Sure it's a tragedy for me, but you're not all that broken up about it. You're not it's not a travesty for you, you know. So that's the other comment that he's making in somewhat calm and forceful camera, then there's a third dimension to this phrase that, you know, this is something that you have made easy for yourselves is actually a lot even saying to the Prophet Yahoo even saying to them, that so many years ago, you did something terrible. And you made that easy for yourself. So you convinced yourself that that's something okay to do. And you did that to your other brother. And now you're see you're reaping its rewards, I'm

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repeating those words, because the effects of that evil have not ended, they're still continuing. And this is maybe a love punishing you for what you did before. Or this is somehow the evil effects of something that's carrying on before, if that isn't and that has been suggested. And that possible interpretation is kind of paralleling what they say in the Bible. But except in the Bible, they come out and say God is holding us to account for that evil we did so many years ago. So the brothers are actually lamenting and feeling guilty about what they did to us serve. And now they're saying, Well, our brothers being arrested, it wasn't actually Binyamin. It was another brother that was being

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arrested. And he's being arrested because of our sins. And because, you know, he's being accused of we're being accused of being spies and things like that. But it's that old son of ours coming back, right. But in the Quran, they show no remorse. It's the father saying it's the same. It's another poisonous fruit from that same seed that you planted so many years ago. Okay, so there's these dimensions of that statement. But what is the before I go on, every time I explain part of this to you and how the story is progressing. I also want to tell you take a step back and think about the situation in Universal terms, like what do we get from this scenario? And what are some scenarios in

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our lives that are similar to this scenario, what's basically happening is you've got yourself, a person has themselves in a situation where family members are people that you depended on people that you trusted people that are supposed to be there that are supposed to be a source of your safety, or you can rely on them, those people have now come to you with something that's hurtful.

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And they're actually not hurt by it. They're okay with it. And it's okay for them to engage in hurtful slander, and to engage in resignation, meaning we don't have to struggle to find him anymore. It's okay. I mean, your son stole that's what he deserves. What can we do kind of thing so they're not on your side, basically, when you have your own loved ones not being supportive, your own loved ones hurting other loved ones in front of you. Like for a parent, for example, a more direct example in our times would be for a parent to see one of their siblings hurting another one of their siblings, one of your children hurting another one your kids. It's a devastating thing.

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These are both my kids, you know, and there's good in all of them, but then there's this evil in some of them. And I have to, you know, watch them do this and I'm too old to do anything about it ourselves.

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To do something about it, right. So there's, you can find yourself in these kinds of horrible situations where you're not being expected to keep quiet. The Crohn's patients the Crohn's picture is not well, you know, this is a test from Allah just be patient. No, you call it out for what it is. You're this so what locum unfuckin Amara is Yahuwah some breaking his silence and saying, This is not okay. You made this okay for yourselves. Your egos convinced him this, you have this, but the evil will remain evil. But then he says those words again from back then for sovereign Jimmy, therefore beautiful patience. And what is that? You know that I talk to you a lot about beautiful

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patients so many sessions ago, when for sovereign Jimmy came because one of those heavy phrases in the Quran. It takes on a new dimension this time. And then we're going to take some time talking about sovereign Jimmy again. But first we're going to talk about that file, and what that why that file is important. When loved ones hurt you and people around you are hurtful, then therefore you shall resort to beautiful patience. Far subbrand. Jimmy. Right. So is this about complacency? Let's ask that first question. Let me repeat the answer to that that I talked about so many, so many days ago, or weeks and weeks ago,

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somebody might get the wrong impression that these guys get away with all kinds of wrong, and the only thing you suffer Jacobi someone's doing is I'm just going to have somebody.

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Right? I'm just going to be patient and things are going to work out like as if a lot is endorsing complacency. Allah is okay. With him just sitting back and saying a level solve everything. I just have to have quiet suburb. Right? So that's a misunderstanding. And this is a misunderstanding we have to correct. I explained last time painstakingly, subaltern, Jamil doesn't mean he will do nothing, subaltern. Jamil means I've tried everything I can. And I know it is completely out of my hands at this point. And I will do whatever I can to not lose hope in Allah. So it's not about complacency at all. Somebody can't just sit on their hands and say, I'm having somebody that's not

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what somebody is. Now let's talk about why he's calling it beautiful. Why would he call patients beautiful? You see, another one of his kids is gone to two more of them are gone. And you know, the son was so scared the dad is going to lose it when he finds out. I can't even face him. You go tell him remember.

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So they know that that was pretty. I mean, he almost he almost broke last time, but he had suffered, but there's no way he's gonna hold on to that this time. He's gonna lose it. And I can't bear to watch what it's gonna do to him. So you know what, sovereign Jimmy? So you know what you go tell him? What, what is jacobellis? I'm say? He says the exact same words that hit him that came out of his mouth when the first tragedy hit him. What does that tell you?

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You have done worse. You have done even worse now you've done you've continued to be the same abusers that you were before. But that is not going to change who I am.

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I can still see what you're doing. So what No, come on for sukham camera, even though it means something else. Now. You're accusing your brother of stealing. You left him in Egypt, all of that. Fine. It's not you didn't kill him this time. It wasn't you. I got it. There's corroborating evidence. I believe you he did get arrested. I agree. If this wasn't your scheme, I won't say well lahoma Stein, Amato, seafood, only a luck and help against the lies you're making. He's not calling them letters this time. He's saying but this was convenient for you. However, even though this has hurt me and devastated me, I I don't allow what people do to me to change who I am as a believer.

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There's my relationship with you is one thing. My relationship with allies. emaan. Right, is my faith. And faith has a few legs and one of its legs on this table is suffer. I won't let go of my faith. I won't let go of suffered because of what you're doing.

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And my my relationship with Allah will not get ugly even though you're creating an ugly situation.

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Suffer will continue to remain beautiful for me. Several will not be an avenue that I will not use. Because it's an ugly option. No submit is still a beautiful option left in my life. You will not be able to change who I am with a lot of this is an important lesson because people mess us up.

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And when people mess us up, our suburb disappears or suburb goes away. And jacobellis Sam is reminding himself and this is an important distinction in understanding the phrase beautiful patience. When I translate this in English, it sounds like beautiful is a description of patience. But actually, I would argue that patience is an elaboration of beautiful like, let me put it in simpler words. If I say beautiful patients, you might say there may be different kinds of patients like ugly patients skinny

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foundations beautiful patients, like the different kinds of patients is no, he's saying patients patients in the Quran is always beautiful, by the way.

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But the adding of the word beautiful is him telling himself paced the reality of patients is that it is something What? Beautiful. It's not like there are other categories of patients that are not beautiful. Patients is always beautiful. But especially in an ugly situation, where the last thing I want to do is be patient, I must remind myself that patience is a beautiful thing. Now what makes it a beautiful thing? That's what we're going to try to ask, Why? Because patience, if you think about subud,

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it's only relevant in ugly situations.

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That's the only time it's comes into play. If you're having an argument, it's ugly, you got to exhibit patience. If somebody is abusing you, or somebody hurt you or something, you have a chance to take revenge and you shouldn't, or you should say something back and you shouldn't, it's in this it's an ugly situation where you have to say it, there are scholars talk about patience and obeying a lot of sobre la, right open your patience and obeying the law. And they give examples like you have to have patience and fight against your sleep to wake up. Let me give you another situation and his obedience to a lot to distribute the inheritance that we have prescribed in the Quran, right? So

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you decide that you're going to give the mother the share that she deserves according to laws word, and the father has share and the sister her share and the Brotherhood share and the spouse and you start giving the shares as they are described. And there's a huge dispute in the family and everybody's mad at you, because you're going by the book of Allah, and guess what things are getting real ugly, because you're obeying the law, right? And in that time, that ugly situation, you're the last thing you're thinking is patience right now looks beautiful. Right? Patience is surrounded by an ugly situation. There's no scenario in which you can say that I am being patient and you're

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surrounded by a bed of roses. Nobody needs patients chillin on the beach, relax, unless they're getting COVID. I'm saying yeah.

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Patients chillin on the beach, sipping on some orange juice relaxing. I need some subtle right now know you don't need summer. Summer is when things don't work out. Sometimes when things go bad. So the word beautiful is almost like an oxymoron. Like it doesn't make sense. You know, like, how can you put patience and beauty together, they don't go together. This is peculiar language from jacoba Islam and it's so powerful that 1000s of years later, our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was told for spear subbrand jameelah. You exhibit patience, which kind, beautiful patience. So this phrase that came out of Yahoo's mouth 1000s of years later became part of a last word to the Prophet

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slicin. Actually, so its historical origin, the first encounter we have of it in the Quran is the mouth of Yaqoob.

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And when the Prophet is being told to have it, it is as if there's a direct connection being made, I must understand what beautiful patience is from the example of jacobellis. So let's go back to what it is, first and foremost, when I'm being patient, I'm doing something that Allah sees is beautiful.

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The situation is ugly. My feelings inside that I'm trying to repress to hold on to my patients is ugly. Everything around is dark, and, you know, hopeless. But when I'm being patient, a law sees an unseen beauty in what you're doing because you're doing it because of Allah.

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Allah sees a beauty in something that nobody else not even you can see.

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The first thing that you understand that I understand about patients being beautiful, is because a last season I'd be as beautiful, as good enough for me, even if I can't see its beauty.

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That's beautiful enough, because Allah sees it.

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Because patience is in fact beautiful. The second thing that's that I'd say about beauty, the beauty of patience,

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is when I exhibit Patience, patience is by the way, the highest form of obedience to Allah.

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And so to Lhasa humanities and loss right in in Santa Fe hossen. And the climax of obedience to Allah where the people are less happy with who are not in Los alella Xena armano faith, well, Amina solly, had good deeds would also be cancelling each other to the truth. And finally, the climax of it all with the LA Sol is the most beautiful place a person can reach. Is this this patience? You know, oh my you La Casa La Latina, sobre la la la la, la mano Quran, who will reach that high state except people who have suffered and who will reach the highest state except people that have the greatest fortune. The greatest fortune, according to a law is to have someone that's like the

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greatest fortune is to have this quality of Southern when Allah described good people in the Quran is an idol billion, so tillbaka

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He says people that believe in Allah and the Last Day and they, you know, they, they give money and they establish prayer and they give us like all of those qualities. And at the end of all of those qualities, what was the final quality that allows that we just gave was sobbing enough in the climax of all goodness, over and above all else do people have patience for savini Hilbert salvadora. So someone is not a small thing in the Quran, it's a pretty heavy, big thing.

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What is what's being understood here then is I'm doing something that pleases Allah, and nothing is more beautiful in my life, and doing something that pleases a lot. Let me give you this, this easy to say that hard to relate to it. So let's give some examples to try to relate to this. Sometimes, you have, for example, you have a child, you love your child, and you do something for your child to make them happy, you get them their favorite toy, they don't know that they got this toy, buying that toy didn't make you happy.

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But you know, the thought of the look on their face, when you give it to them, and a hug that they're gonna give you. And the way their eyes are gonna blow open. When they see the excitement, you're you're living for that moment that that experience, or building that Lego set together, or whatever it is, when that excitement is there, that gives you happiness. Why? Because you did something that made your loved one, happy. When you truly love someone, what makes them happy, makes you happy. That's it's a sense of like, their joy becomes yours.

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If you understand that, in a human sense, then understand, oh, you know, doing something for your mom doing something for your dad doing something for some, you know, an older

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kid that makes them happy. Now think about this, when we exhibit patience, it may be that no one on earth is happy.

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It could even be the you're not even happy. But you know one thing who's happy,

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Allah is happy. And the fact that Allah is happy with what you're doing, by showing patience of this kind. That is the most beautiful thing to you.

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It's this prized possession to you. So for sub sub range, I mean, this is going to be the is going to be beautiful. I'll repeat something I said, you know, so many days ago with when we talked about this the first time, Allah has taken something beautiful from me again,

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Allah has decided that I be deprived of yet another or two more of my children.

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And I will replace the loss of something beautiful, with the gain of something beautiful, the loss of something beautiful in the worldly sense, like children shall be replaced with something beautiful in the spiritual sense. suburban, suburban jahmene. Children are beautiful.

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You know, the love of your child is beautiful. And when and their safety is beautiful. And when that's taken away, he says I will replace it with something else that's beautiful. And that's Southern. So something beautiful is being replaced with something beautiful.

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And he the remarkable thing is, he understands in his wisdom, what has been taken from me is something beautiful in this life, a child.

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But what I'm replacing with it with is something I may not understand it's beautiful, beautiful, beautifully. But it is beautiful in this life, and it will beautify my next life to a sovereign. Jimmy.

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Let's move on.

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It's a I was thinking about social answer today in a couple of places.

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In salt Lawson, Allah is telling us to avoid loss. Right. And this is important because usually suburb has to do with some kind of loss. Right? You're, you're losing dignity in a conversation, you're losing money, you have to have someone use health, you have to have somebody you lose a loved one, you have to have sub sub there is many times not all the time, but somebody is associated with some kind of loss.

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And in sort of acid, Allah flips that equation. He says everybody is in loss, except the people who have suffered. But something only happens when you have loss and ally saying every other loss is bearable. But there's one loss above all the other losses if you don't, if you lose that you've truly lost everything beautiful. And that's separate itself. What's also the subject, actually somebody has gained and not having somebody is the ultimate loss, that sort of philosophy. And in a sense, he's echoing that. He understands that success and beauty lies with holding on to that which is most valuable. And everything in life can come and go, my supper shouldn't go. But then you can

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ask the question. Well, no, you're talking about somebody as if somebody is your faith itself. But somebody said is one thing. It's not all of you, man. The thing is he man, you know

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Facing Allah is many things. We have faith in the uniqueness of Allah. We have faith in the wisdom of Allah, we have faith in the provision given by Allah. We have faith in the plan of olevia faith, our faith in the lies, many dimensions, right? One of those dimensions is sobor, over whatever Allah is having us go through. That's one of our dimensions of Eman actually, eemaan and sobor sometimes are sometimes not all the time, but eemaan faith and sobor perseverance and patience are sometimes interchangeable in the Quran.

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Think of solid tabon Allah says masaba mean we'll see but in a lovely Villa he no calamity strikes anyone except when Allah allows it to except by Leslie. Well, I mean, you remember Lucha de Cobo and whoever would have faith in Allah, Allah will guide their heart and listen carefully. No calamity will strike except by Allah's permission. When a calamity strikes, what do you need? Some right? He says, No calamity strikes except by less permission, and whoever has faith in Allah, Allah will guide their heart. What does it mean to have faith in Allah when a calamity strikes, having faith in Allah when a calamity strikes means you have suffered,

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no matter what happens? I mean, I said this law, he talked about this in very simple terms. And I think it's very easy to relate to for anybody that hears it. He said, anybody can cry and wail and punch walls, and then eventually sit down and be patient with the situation.

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But beautiful patients is that you don't do anything that makes you lose dignity, you don't do anything that Allah wouldn't want you to do. While you're exhibiting those negative while you're experiencing those negative emotions. subud is the ignorant side of you the loud side of you, the obnoxious side of you, the angry side of you, the overwhelm side of you, the wailing and crying side of you, all of those sides have been kept under control. So even though you experience those emotions, they are channeled in a way that's pleasing to Allah. That's beautiful patience. That's how he describes it. Right? So this he says, In the Quran, Allah has made Sabbath and Eman kind of

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together. And I thought about that because in sort of gelato lessons was the you know who you know become. He made Eman, beautiful in your hearts. That's what Allah says he mind is made beautiful in the heart of a believer, well, if a man is made beautiful in the heart of a believer, and sometimes the only way to hold on to your Iman is to have what Southern, then Southern is beautiful. In that moment, because the most beautiful thing our human has to be preserved. By way of that patience. May Allah make us people of somebody that is that whose beauty we can maintain inside of our hearts. Okay.

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Then, there are a couple other things about this beautiful patients that I have to share with you.

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The fifth thing that I want to share with you by the way, the first thing was last season is beautiful, therefore, I'll believe that it's beautiful. The second thing is it makes a lot happy. And that's the most beautiful thing to me. The third thing was I'll replace something beautiful with something more beautiful. If I experienced the loss of something beautiful. I'll replace it with something more beautiful, which is sub. The fourth thing that I shared with you is Allah has made faith beautiful, therefore someone has also been made. Beautiful, then this is the fifth may give you by analogy. It's gonna sound a little weird, but it's okay. Weird is like my thing.

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Sometimes you go through an experience, and it's really hard. But when it's all done, and things worked out, you look back and say, Man, last year, I was in such a bad place. But the way Alo worked things out, I could never have imagined it was amazing. It was just beautiful. What I had planned. I didn't know it at the time. You know what I call that I call that the post game analysis.

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When you're in the thick of it, when you're in the middle of it, you don't see it as something beautiful. When you go through all of it and it works out in the end. Then you look back and say wow, that was that was a beautiful plan from Allah. In other words, not until the whole thing is over. And you find relief. Do you see the beauty in what Allah did? Isn't that the case? It's only after the game is over. postgame analysis

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Yahuwah Salaam knows Allah so well. That before the trial is over, and he can one day look back and say how beautifully Allah planned every.

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I'm going to find it easy to be patient patient because everything Allah does is beautiful in the end.

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I I don't have to wait till the end to see how it worked out. I know ally enough to know he never does things that are not beautiful in the end. It's good enough for me. So I'm already gonna call it beautiful. Patients right now is beautiful, because the end of it is actually something

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Beautiful. And there's a caveat here. There's the kind of patience you can have while remaining good. So you're patient and committed to that which is right. But there's another kind of patience and commitment to things that are wrong. Some people are really committed to doing the wrong thing. And they exhibit quite a bit of patience in doing the wrong thing. What Allah describes as from a smaller Humala, not what amazing patience they have to deal with the fire. They're really committed.

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They are there's patients like that too, right? So what we're learning from that is, if you have patience, while staying obedient to Allah, then the end is beautiful. And you don't have to wait for the end to see the end to know that it's beautiful. Well, Atiba. Today we're talking, the final outcome is in favor of those who have Taqwa of Allah. He already knows that so he calls it beautiful already.

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Now,

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if you look at the words, if you if you go past for subtitling Jamil in the ayah

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you find Yahuwah is what I'm saying, as Allah who at any be him, Jamia?

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Maybe Allah will bring all of them together to me. Yeah.

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Here's the thing,

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you would expect the following. If someone like me was in the situation, my other law male and I put us in trials we can handle, I would say, I hope a lot brings them all back to me. But until then I will have patience and hopefully find beauty in it.

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In other words, the words, a lot will hopefully bring them back to me what have been mentioned first, and then, but that since that hasn't happened yet, I shall exhibit what patience that will be mentioned. Second, do you see that the order is kind of out of whack here?

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What he's saying is sovereign Jamil first, and assala. Who and yet any be him, Jimmy. And second. Let me put it to you another way. So you understand this uniqueness of his his wording?

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What's the most beautiful thing to a man who's lost his children? To a father? Who's missing his kids? Who doesn't know if they're okay? What's the most beautiful thing to him? The most beautiful thing to him would be to be able to hug his kids again, to hear I love you that again. I'm okay that I'm here. Now, I won't go anywhere. Isn't that the most beautiful thought in his mind? Wouldn't that be the most beautiful thing for a father that has gone through so much grief? Now think about that. He didn't use the word beauty for the reunion of his children with him. He used the word beauty for what?

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For Southern as if that most beautiful thing that he's been crying about for so many years, at the end of it all, because he understands his place in the world. And he understands who His love is, he understands something, my feelings, and what my feelings tell me is the most beautiful thing I will put as number two. And what Allah sees as more beautiful, I will put at number one, this is what it means to submit your heart to Allah

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is one thing to submit our actions to Allah. This is an indication how his heart has submitted to Allah, the thing that you would think he finds most beautiful should be mentioned first, and be described as a beautiful day.

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But no supper is beautiful. And then hopefully Allah will bring them all back to me all together. Now look at the words hopefully or possibly, is there a guarantee? No. And now you understand even more why he says I will continue to find beauty and patience, because maybe there will be a reunion. And maybe there won't be a reunion. But regardless, submode will still be beautiful. I'm not going to say when this works out the way I hope then Allah did right by me. And if it doesn't work out the way I hope and I don't get a reunion, then the summer wasn't beautiful at all.

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No Sun is beautiful already. That's first, regardless of whether the reunion happens or not. You see that is so powerful that he understands that because for so many of us, if Allah does what we're hoping for, then patience is good. And if Allah does the opposite of what we're hoping for, then what's the point of being patient I didn't even get what I want.

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What's the point of that? He understands that subud is a timeless thing, and situations come and go. The constant in my life are not my children. The constant in my life is not the joy I get from people. The constant in my life is not even my own physical body and my health or my money.

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Nothing in my life is constant. But one thing that will constantly be beautiful, I will plant gardens in my garden and they will wither and die. I can plant a tree and it can grow and it can die, I can build a beautiful home and it can get damaged and get ugly. I can get a car and it can go bad things will come in my life, they can give me joy temporarily and they will go bad. They might not even go bad. But my the joy I get from them is no longer there. That can happen to my emotions towards them can wither. But one thing that will always be beautiful, no matter who comes and goes in my life. No matter what comes and goes from my life suffered will always be beautiful.

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But it would be nice to have my kids back to

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you see that? For some reason. Jimmy has Allahu and Yachty and he became gymea. Just because and I'm ready for the worst. I'm ready because Allah is preparing me to be ready for analog would never put me through a trial I can't handle. It's always going to be beautiful in the end. But my heart still wants what it wants. I'll let it and expect a human being to turn into an angel that has no wishes or desires. I desire my children. Even though I'm trying to find beauty in patients, which is a human struggle. It's not an easy thing to do. And by the way, the fact that he verbalized this, when they said this, I will find beauty and patience, you know what that means, even for a prophet to be

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in a situation like this, for him to cry out and say, I need to remind myself that patience is in fact beautiful, means every human being needs a reminder, no matter how strong their faith in Allah, even a prophet. Even a prophet needs to be reminded. So who are you and me. And sometimes we need to say things to ourselves, we need to verbally out loud, say I need, I need to come back to the basics, I need to come back to somewhere. I need to find that in myself again. Sometimes you have to have self talk. That's what he's doing. He's having a self talk, even though they can hear him.

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So he for some reason, Jimmy. So la, ti and Jamie are looking at the other beautiful thing in this ayah. Before I continue

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on, though it started with you have made something convenient for yourselves, your egos have done this allowed you to do something terrible. Who was he talking to? Who was his focus on his sons, the people who heard him in his life? Yes. That's what His focus is on. And immediately when it comes to suburbia, where does this focus go? It's like they've been erased from the conversation. And now it's just him and Allah, and how beautiful it is to have suburbs. And not you better bring my kids back, you better make this reunion allow will bring them back.

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There's this the solid nature of a person's relationship with a law that comes out, not when they're praying. Because in prayer, our connection with allies actually significantly easier.

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The real nature of our connection with a law will come out when we're dealing with people that hurt us.

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That's when you know whether or not you're bonded to a law or not. That's when if that conversation makes you say sovereign Jamil, and your focus is left because you know what happens with people is our minds. In our minds, we're constantly thinking about people,

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people that hurt us. We're the thoughts of them invade our minds. And we keep you know, what if they did this? I can't believe they did this? How you know how could they do that and not even feel anything? How can they get away with that? That's not fair what they did. And those thoughts are circling and circling in your head that poison is brewing and brewing and brewing. And every time you have a free thought free moment, the thought of those people and what they did someone at lahoma info Samurai in your life, whatever their egos made it easy for them to do those thoughts, recurrent recurrent recur? What is your kumaoni salaam do? You've done something terrible, it does hurt me.

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But I will not allow my mind to be clouded with the ugliness of your actions and your words against your brother. I will rather inject my mind my heart with the beauty that I will find in patience. And because I don't have hopes in you, I hope hopes and Allah I will be optimistic and maybe less plan is that he will bring everybody together. He can.

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Don't be Don't be naive with people don't hope that they'll don't expect that they'll turn around and transform but have hoping a lot. Maybe he'll bring all them back together. So La Jolla TMDB him Jamia it's incredible that he hasn't seen use of Islam in so many years and he's referring to him indirectly already. Again.

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Like maybe he'll come back to and then he says no one I lean on hockey. No doubt about it is he he alone. He's the one who knows he's the one who has all the wisdom.

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I don't

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know whether this terrible thing you're saying or what has happened because of either your stupidity or your allegation, or you made it convenient. I don't know the whole story, but I know one thing. Whatever plan you make, there's someone who knows a plan much bigger than yours.

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He knows what's really going on. He knows what my heart feels. He knows where Binyamin is. He knows where you surface, he knows what state they're in key knows their needs better than I do. And he always has a plan. He's always in his plan always has wisdom. And Hakeem in now who will de Mol Hakeem, he's the one who knows. He's the one that has all the wisdom, in the end, attributing knowledge and wisdom to a low Why? How do you know we're gonna come back Dad, what are you talking about? They got arrested, he got arrested, users gone. What are you talking about? He says you don't know. He, he's the only one who knows. And if this has history, I'm not saying this is a less plan.

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He said, I hope that's his plan. I hope Allah will bring them back. And he's the only one who knows whether he'll bring him back or not. And whether he brings them back or not. Either way, his decision will be a wise decision. And that's going back to the sub. My sub comes from where my sub comes from knowing that whatever I'm going through, Allah knows about it. He's an alum.

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And whatever he's planning for me, is full of wisdom. And I trust his wisdom more than I trust my own desires. So he's lucky. So after expressing his hope for how he wants the future to turn out, he then acknowledges his humility, Allah, Allah, but in the end, Allah knows better if that's good, good or not. And in the end, Allah knows in his wisdom, whether that's the right thing or not, I relegate that to Allah. But at least I can let alone know my hope.

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That's, that's all I can. All I can do. It's a remarkable statement of faith in in face of such a devastating calamity. It's hard enough, he's not even over the loss of use of as we will see, he's not over it.

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And while he's not over it already, now the loss of Binyamin on top

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so it's loss on top of loss. And in the Quran, Allah in another place in the Quran, Allah describes the concept of loss or sadness. And then another side you're barely dealing with that one and another comes on top of that one so sometimes your problems fall like Domino effects right? Like when's it gonna stop you're dealing with one catastrophe and other one comes in hits you. So let's have a Sabra. Come home and be hummin Nikita Salama Fatah como la de huitema, otaku Milan a bucola stallion for who

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Allah says he struck you with one overwhelming grief on top of another overwhelming grief. So that

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so that what, not that so when

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you start feeling bad about things you lose?

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What will be matakohe and you don't become too excited and happy about things you get with the things he gives you.

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So you understand something, what you get. And what you lose is only a small part of this journey in life in which we will eventually even lose our own bodies.

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Like gain and loss. Tim will come and Tasha within zero will come in when you grant dominion and kingdom and power to whoever you want. You snatch it away from whoever you want to assume into shock to the lumen Tasha, you dignify and honor whoever you want. You humiliate and make powerless whoever you want, but God can hide in any situation. All good lies only in your hand. In makalah coalition today, you are absolutely capable over everything. That is a resignation to Allah, that Allah azza wa jal is going to decide what's good or what's what's bad. And sometimes Allah says, I keep hitting you with one calamity on top of another. So you realize you're not in control.

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You stop trying to hold on to things as if you're in charge. You need to understand your place as a slave. You are in the middle of an ocean. Don't get mad at the wave that slaps you, Oh, another one.

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You're in the ocean. Understand how helpless you are. Learn to swim.

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Just learn to swim, learn to navigate those waves. Stop complaining about the waves learn to navigate your ship. That's what this is, you will be hit again and again and again. And only those who continue to persevere and work the sails and navigate their ship are going to get through. What's it and sometimes this is what Allah teaches you. It's not going to stop. I won't stop until you get and sometimes I will hit us with calamity only so we can feel different. That's what I learned from that is really important.

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He struck you with calamity over calamity. So you start feeling bad, over what you've lost. So wait, Yala, I went through all of that, because you wanted to change the way I feel.

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Yeah, because what you feel is in your heart and the most valuable asset you have in this life, that you will take back to allies, what is your heart, so sometimes your heart needs a tune up. And sometimes that tune up requires you go through difficulty.

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And sometimes one difficulty is not enough. So you get slapped with another one on top of that one, another one, and then all of a sudden your spiritual sinuses clear. And you can breathe. You're like, ah, I have clarity. Oh, that's what that means. I get it now. You know, the key like that. So I know my father in law who be matakohe. He's still human, he still wants his children together. But he still understands that all knowledge lies with a lot. He's the wise one, which is two pronged. If it doesn't work out. I know that a lot of you. I know that Allah knows what my heart wants. And I trust a lot of wisdom. And on the other when people question me, you're still hoping for the

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impossible? Yeah, because I have hopes with someone who knows way more than you, and who's capable of planning way better than you are. By the way, some people have looked at the word Allah Hakeem, at the end of this is Louis Kahn, which is a plausible meaning of hockey. Hockey means someone who stitches things together perfectly.

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So not just the wise, another meaning of the name, Hakeem is that which is stitched together, or the one who stitches things together, perfectly. So what that means is Elia is taking all of these events, and maybe these are scattered to me. They look like chaos to me, but they stitch together this beautiful painting in the end.

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And he's the one who knows what he's doing. It's kind of like, if you're watching a painter, or an artist do their work. You're like, why are you doing that? Why are you doing this suite?

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Because when the artist is at work, you can't see the final product, you're like, that color doesn't know what that color, what are you putting over there? You don't know when it's done. You're like, Oh, okay. Because you don't know how things come together. So part of the meaning of Hakeem that he's saying, Allah knows, and Allah knows how to put things together. So just because I see events that are scattered and chaotic and traumatic, I don't know how they fit into the larger plan, I will leave that alone. This this is a just a profound profound is from so many dimensions, especially the and this is the last slide, I'll leave you with how half of it was focused on people. And the other

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half was focused on the mid conversation.

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Right, he was talking to instance. And then he just started focusing on ally immediately, right. And that's teaching us a very powerful, lifeless life lifetime lesson, that in difficult engagement with people that we love, or difficult engagement with people in general, that we have to understand that Allah is always in that conversation. They may not find a lender conversation, we better. We better be in that conversation immediately with a lot at the same time. And we may feel no shame or hesitation in verbalizing that, like, talk to yourself and a lot directly out loud, not just in your head, not just in your heart, okay, I have no hesitation in having a conversation with Allah. He's a

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semi an alum. And that will, you know, speaking to a lot out loud, let me tell you, it has a psychological effect. It makes the conversation real to you. And if you first have a hesitation, like people are gonna think I'm crazy.

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You know what that means? That means you don't really believe in the unseen as much as you think you do.

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Because if you have no hesitation, speaking to Allah out loud, you know what that means? That means you can't see him, but he's very real to you. He's very real. But when you have a hesitation, speaking to a lot, a lot, like who's gonna think I'm crazy, right? If you have that among your family, to him, you're gonna think I'm crazy. Or you're having a conversation with a law so they can hear it? No, no, just so a lot hears it. Just acknowledging and less presence is fortifies your mind. It makes your heart become comfortable with the presence of the law in your life. And realize, oh, they'll give us that, that awareness and that presence of align our hearts and have us live with

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that presence our entire lives. barakallahu li walakum Flor, Hakim, one of our annual jaquith it will declare him salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato and