Surah Yusuf #22

Nouman Ali Khan


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Part 25-27_ Race to the Door


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The speakers emphasize the importance of protecting oneself during difficult situations, avoiding fearful behavior, and holding people accountable for their actions. They stress the need for a balanced approach to learning from past experiences and avoiding manipulative behavior. The importance of trust in government and the need for people to trust leaders and officials is emphasized, along with the importance of strong balance sheets to ensure the integrity of the United States. The speakers emphasize the importance of trust in government and the need for people to trust leaders and officials in order to ensure the integrity of the United States.

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dead commies have been wildfires

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DB was in Ghana for me, so

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he probably should have said the memory of the time in the center for Hakone hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam O Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah He.

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Let's get right to work. Now we are in channel

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number 25, I hope to cover until I am number 27. And some of the you know the key feature lessons that are that we can extrapolate from this. The thing to note, first and foremost, I remind you of the principle again, we'll put on has a brief way of telling the story. So if Allah mentions a detail, then that detail becomes strategically important not just for the story to move forward. But for us to learn something from it so. And if so many details are skipped, you can certainly skip some other details, too. So here you have, when we get into Item Number 25 or less, as was double combat, they both raised for the door, they both raised for the door. Now this raises a number of

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questions. The first question is we saw we heard before was unlocked until she locked multiple doors. But now he's not running to the doors he's racing for they're both racing for the door. Now that obviously gives room for a lot of speculation. What comes to mind perhaps is you can have a room with multiple doors, some of them leading to more inner corners of the house or other quarters, move further, you know, the room within a room within a room kind of thing. And then there are some doors that lead to the main hallway, or the more public area, or they open up to actually the more public accessible parts of the house or opens up to the living room, etc, etc. Right? The idea and

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Bob would maybe suggest also the main door. So there may be smaller exits or maybe a door that leads to a closet for something or something or some other bedroom you know now even nowadays, they have like this jack and jill type rooms, right. But one connects to the other. But in ancient in older architecture, it was actually pretty normal to have rooms connected to other rooms instead of a hallway, binding all the rooms together. So it seems he makes a run for the the main door. But how do we move? The second question that comes to mind here is how is the story moving forward, the last thing we saw was that she said something and he responded. That's the last thing we saw that

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conversation is definitely not happening. While they're racing. That means things are so rather calm. And she's having a conversation with him. And he's responding calmly. And he's actually giving her a reasonable response to come to her senses. But it seems that she starts to approach him closer and closer. And he's realizing that this is not a good thing. So he's pulling back to the point where if you don't just say those words and start dashing. That's not it's not a quick transition like that. But rather, he's retreating, realizing this is not a good thing. She's inching towards him. And he realizes this is not okay thing. So he turns around, and maybe he's not even running

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yet. But the moment she grabs ahold of his shirt, he realizes this is no good, I need to get out of here now fast, right. So even though he was about to take a dignified exit, he now decides to make a run for it before things get any worse. And that may be a very plausible explanation for why the shirt gets ripped. Or, you know, I would also think you're so funny, some a young man can run a lot faster than an older woman. You know, even if she was a younger woman, he's physically probably more capable of running away from her, not to the point where she can catch the shirt. But the idea is, I think that he didn't see the state of emergency, he thought he could have a dignified conversation

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and walk out of there without trouble. And as he's heading to the door, turning around and going the way he should, she grabs a hold of him or she gets too close to grab a hold of him. And now he's making a run for the main exit. Now the main exit, even though let's just assume that she locked out one, two, because he already told us

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she locked all the doors. If those doors are locked, and he doesn't have access to the key, maybe it's a latch that you can open. But maybe it's not maybe it is by key, and only the owner of the bedroom has the key that's possible.

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In the lead up already, you just get the idea of something locked up. So let's just assume worst case scenario that it's locked in. He doesn't have the keys and how does that make sense to run towards the door? Well, that's the best he can do. And if you make some noise or even bangs on the door, if that's the

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indoor servants on the other side, others on the other side can't hear what's going on. So that's his best bet. But even if you assume that that door is locked, that he can open it, the imagery is very powerful. The imagery is of someone locked in a place where they are trapped to do the wrong thing. And there are urges that are, it's not just the situation or the entrapment. But there's also human urges are human, we're all human beings. And yet, even if you see a door that seems closed at the time, make a run for it. Like, no, you shouldn't be complacent in a situation and say, Well, you know, what can I do? The doors were closed, no, go bang into the door, crash through it, do whatever

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you got to do? Did you even take a step to save yourself? Or did you just look at the surroundings and say, well, the doors are locked? What could I have done? Right. So that's the powerful lesson here is, even if the door is closed, make a run for it. Even if you think it's unlikely that something will work out, go for it. When we get tequila and

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whoever is truly fearful of Allah, Allah will make a way out for them and, you know, use the word fearful, but dukkha is something more than that, you know, how far or how is fear dukkha is actually to protect yourself because you're afraid. So in practical language, if you were afraid of a thunderstorm, and you close the windows, you exhibited, you acted in accordance with dukla. If you just sat in your bed, and you were scared, that was hope that wasn't the point. The point means that take a precautionary measure because of your fear, you follow? So it's not just a feeling of fear. So usually, sometimes it's a half duck one, which people will assume to mean, what have fear of

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Allah? No, no, it's the action to protect. Because the point actually comes from the Arabic word we have higher and higher means to protect, and it actually needs to protect yourself. Obviously, someone takes extra security measures when they're scared. Right. So the fear is kind of understood when you are doing something to protect yourself. What I'm seeing here is he sees almost an impossible no exit type situation, and he's gonna run for it anyway, what's done?

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The other interesting thing is, if you want to be very liberal about it, you would imagine she's trying to catch him. He's trying to get to the door. So he's racing to the door while she's racing to him, right. But the IRS says they both raced to the door was stuck up and down, which is also interesting. It's very telling, why would she want to race to the door in the in the Koran, some say this is because the Quran is using brevity in speech. What that means is, the Quran is being brief. Basically, you can understand on your own, she was trying to catch him, he's trying to catch the door. But the way to put that in brief languages, they were both running to the door. I however, do

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I accept that explanation, I'm more inclined to another explanation of this, which is actually she in fact, was running for the door. She knows that he's made up his mind, she knows what kind of character he is, she knows that he won't falter. But she's not going to give up on her and entrapment.

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So if hate and that didn't work, if her trying to seduce him didn't work, then she'll try some other tactic or some other kind of abusive way. But she's not giving up on him that easily. And she wants to and the only way she knows this will ever is ever going to happen if you remains trapped inside. Also, maybe she realized she just tore his shirt. So she better keep them inside. You know that that might be the case, too. But I would argue the here the more prominent case seems to be she ran for the door to make sure the keys not still in it are the lightest properly or get in the way of it, you'll have to move me out of the way before you get out of the door. She wants to stand between him

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and the door and he knows he's not going to touch her. Right. So she's trying to set that trap up for him. And that's also representative of something. You could be as pure as use of at least at home, you can leave from a good family, you can't get a better family than the son of his heart, or the son of the apple, the grandson of his half and the great grandson of a grandma Lisa, that's a pretty good family. You could be the purest soul. But Allah might put you in a situation where you're trapped to the point where your shirt can get ripped off.

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And, and the wrongdoers that want to make you make you slip will use every track, they can lock every door they can. And when you try to make an escape from the door, they'll try to get between themselves in the door between you and the door. So what Ally's telling us in this ayah is you don't have to look perfect. Now. Sometimes fitna will look for you, you don't have to and you're still human, you can still fail. Even if you say this wasn't my fault. This is, you know, user friendly sound doesn't have a choice to put himself in that situation. He's a servant. If he's gonna get called to the room, he's gonna go to the room. That's what he's been doing his whole life. And he's

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obligated to do so because he also master that's, you know, providing for him in order to be a cinema flyer. So he's in that state, but a lot of times, people put

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themselves willingly by choice in a situation, and then they say, while the doors were locked. Why did you walk in? Why did you go to the situation? Why did you go to a situation that you knew is fit enough for you that you knew you have weakness to you, you knew you had susceptibility to you went in there. Now you don't have an excuse if the doors gotten locked, or somebody ran after me or my shirt got torn, etc. So you put yourself in that situation. But alive stitching is here, not only you surprised, I wouldn't want to put himself in that situation. But he didn't intentionally put himself in that situation. And you might find yourself in a situation like that, where you didn't

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put yourself in that situation, but somebody is obsessed with you. Somebody went crazy for you, somebody did something crazy to you, that can happen. And in that situation, things can get pretty aggressive. This is the second time we're finding yourself in a salon losing your shirt. Right, so and so a lot of people have questions about the shirt, what's the value of the shirt, the story, the shirt keeps coming up one way or the other, there's gonna be three times the shirts gonna happen. This is a second one, first one you guys already know. And there are some thematic observations about the shirt. For example, people talk about how,

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you know, it was it was used as false evidence in the first case, and it was used to prove the truth in the second case, right. So in both cases, it's got it's being used as evidence, but once falsely and once correctly. So that's one other say, Well, those who believe that the shirt even in the case of, you know, you have to buy some wasn't ripped,

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because the the put blood on it, but they didn't rip it, which I don't buy, but they make the parallel, well, one shirt was ripped. And that's why you prove that it's that, you know, she's lying, and the other ship shirt wasn't ripped. And that's how you prove that they're lying. So they kind of tried to make that parallel, I see something more than just the use of evidence, I feel a level alum. My sense is that the shirt represents dignity also. And not only did the brothers of use of Harrison abandoned him, they also humiliated him by taking your shirt.

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That's, that's an act of humiliation. And that's something he didn't have control over.

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And him walking out of the, you know, this woman's bedroom, if he does escape with a ripped shirt is also humiliating, put yourself in that position to understand like, when we look at, you know, the these events in the Quran, when we think of them as a story, we fail to understand these are very real situations. And if you if you were in a situation like that, and somebody was coming at you this way, and nobody else knows about it, and everybody has respect for them, and you're just a servant. And you're coming out covering yourself because your shirt got ripped. How humiliating would that be? So what we're finding is that one of the most honored people that ever lived use of

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aneesa so honored had an entire Sula. Now a small one, not, if you will, but like a short surah. Like not the story of you know, the things you think By comparison, the story of the Kaaba being rescued, right, from the army of the elephants is an another key for a lot of newcomers coming along.

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But also

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to be

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done. And how serious is that event, the rescue of the camera. And then you've got the story of use of a salon, which is a story about dignity. And it's, you know, 100 plus is, and that this is the brand's way of putting weight on something and how honored is a Friday Salaam that a love hook the final revelation, he made him such a pivotal part of such a unique part of it that no other prophet gets their story told in this way. Like you're so funny Sangha is so dedicated in one place, the point I'm making is one of the most honored human beings that ever lived and more honored now because of the Quran than ever even before. And that human being is living a life where he's being

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humiliated by his own family at one point.

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And then he's being humiliated by people he trusts or interest he was entrusted with, and people that were supposed to get you right by him, and he was doing right by them. What Ally's telling us is dignified people can get humiliated by those around them.

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And they may be part of their trial. This does and if a lot of not spared as there is profits from such files, then we are not immune to that. It will come our way one way or the other. There could be a part of it where it's our fault that we did something like I said, you put yourself in a situation you don't get to complain later, how come the doors not closed? How can my shirt Well, you haven't handed out to another may have their hand in that that's fine. Would you had your hand in that too. You have to own your part of the mistake. I have to own my part of the mistake. But the other part of it is even if you live a dignified life, even if you didn't do something wrong, it can

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be that there can be very dubious, you know, very, very ill intentioned people who do not think of your dignity when it comes to their needs.

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When it comes to not forget needs, when it comes to their wants. So they can run right over you and not care about what that's going to do to you. And so long as you're not, you know, in some cases, they don't even care if you're physically harmed, but so long as you're not physically harmed, they're like, what's the big deal? It's just a little humiliation, okay? Everybody, that's no problem. When someone doesn't have respect for themselves, it's very hard for them to have respect for anybody else. It's very difficult. Right? And clearly, her actions are illustrating that she doesn't have respect for herself. So why would she respect the honor of us?

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So anyhow, she, you know, they run towards the door will come over and she tore his shirt from behind. That's the part I've already explained before, you know, working through it. Well, and finally, at the high level,

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and they both found this interesting language, they both I'll translate this as they both stumbled upon, because, uh, you know, in thought in Arabic is different from wisdom, which I gotta find, like, if you're looking for something, and you found it was a little bit dark, which I found that was

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unfair means you weren't even looking at

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it. Like you. You weren't expecting it. And there's a doughnut on the table.

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That will be impacted. Because I thought that was destroyed them. And here there is a piece of general sitting right there for me to devour and get back. So the point is, is that, in fact, our alpha Wi Fi actually means to stumble upon something that you weren't expecting. They both found the word uses they both stumbled upon, which suggests that they were not the the man of the house was unexpected at the time. And she wouldn't have done the shady business she did if she knew that the guys at home. So she was only trying this tactic, if she went out of the way to lock the doors, he definitely checked the schedule to you understand like that there's a scheming involved here that

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would incorporate that. But for some reason, now the house has come back home for some something or another. And for some reason, what he needs is in that room,

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it was designed the you know, the life story in such a way that what he needs is in that room. So he says, He ran to the door. And they both stumbled upon, they both stumbled upon Now listen to this line of say either ha, let them by now, in a shallow way translate. They both stumbled upon her husband right at the door. That's the translation. They both they both stumbled upon her husband right at the door.

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And it's interesting that when you say her husband, it's ignoring this part.

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Right? It's not mentioning him, it's only mentioning her. Right? They could have said they stumbled upon their master or his master. It could have been the identity of the husband could have been attributed to us. But it's attributed to her. Even though the first verb is they both found or they both stumbled upon. If they both stumble upon him, guess what? He's struggling to open the door. And clearly she's caught up with him. Because by the time the door opens, they're both there.

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They're both at the door. And she's kind of yanked him off the door. And maybe he has the key from the inside. Are you surprised I was able to open the door, and he's right there. He's about to walk in. Or maybe he would say what's going on in here, and the door opens and he's right there. So okay. So now why I say, you know, in the Quran, if you study marriage, and husband and wife, the terminology for husband and wife, you don't find, say, give us typically for a husband or wife, or so you don't. You don't. This is the only time and say it actually means leader and authority. Also sada means leadership, like Saudi Arabia, the plural is used for the leaders of production.

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Why use this term? I think there's a literary sense here with love with Donna ogham, that she did not respect any authority.

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She had no respect for the mention of a llama other line.

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She had no respect for the fact that he's trying to say I'm honoring my middle my lamb. You know, my, the owner of the house is at least from her point of view. That's what he might be saying. But the only authority she could ever think of as someone who has some say over what she does is who is the husband? So it's actually Oh, so you only recognize him? And as you're saying when he's in front of your face. When you stumble upon him at the door. Now he has authority over you. What was his authority when the doors were locked? Clearly he wasn't your say and then he wasn't your leader then. So in a sense, an ironic use of the term to save now she recognizes his authority. Now she's

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afraid. Now, you know, she's going to say something. Now we're at the door. You're suffering from shirtless, torn, he's probably painting she's probably you know, in some state or the other, but all of a sudden she becomes a different person. There's a split transformation and she is someone that you will not recognize from a second ago. A second ago. She's the pursuer she

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The crazy lady, she's running after him. She's doing everything wrong. And she's the one imposing her authority. And now all of a sudden college, she says she cried out, managers out women

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in the jury, so he pointed this out to me, so awesome. Listen to this

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the extended vowels as if to illustrate the cry that she made the wheeling.

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And she's dramatize it in a split second, you know, Oscar award, you know, performance, where she's just devastated and broken. And she's such a victim because he was trying to take advantage of her. And she finally found her husband might say you this here, my husband, my rescuer. Oh, my god, you're here, watch. And she says mergesort will be Annika so I'm two ways of translating this. I'll go with one dramatic translation and the other dramatic translation. One dramatic translation is?

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What should be the What should we know? How should we reward someone? What should be the reward for somebody who wanted evil for your family?

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Someone who had evil intentions for your family? How should we reward a person like that?

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You see, the word reward is important here. She didn't say how should we punish a person like that? How should we reward the person like you know why? Because you sometimes getting rewarded isn't the job user. excellent suggestion, whichever toggling whichever Council, we've dealt with this, whichever this reward, reward reward, right? She knows he's proud of him. And now it's like she's saying, Are you proud of him? Are you proud of him? Huh? What do you want to reward him with now

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you want to reward somebody? What should be the reward of someone who tried to be evil to your own family. So first of all, she's crying, she's playing the victim, then she's going forward and saying, Oh, you still think highly of him, you still think you should be rewarded.

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So she's trying to drop him with the words.

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So he's, she's very skilled, like, if you guys play video games, when you have one target, you can only shoot at one target at a time, then you lock on the other target, and you can lock them. But there are some weapons you shoot at once, and it's phrased,

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that's what she's doing. She's helped to hitting multiple targets at once. Man, she's that does genius. I'm in awe. First of all, the switch from good over here like, you know, Scorpion and Mortal Kombat, sorry for the video.

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But first, first of all, from the evil Get over here, I'm the authority to hold my hand victim, I can't believe this is happening to me, Oh, my God, my husband and think I think I do. The switch to the victim is so split second, it's amazing. And then on top of that, there is what should be the reward meaning turn has changed your opinion of him right now. All those times he thought he was worthy of reward, fix that. And then she says when every word she says man, for money or other, what should be the reward of someone who intended.

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She's not talking about his actions. She's talking about his intentions. She didn't say what should be the reward of someone who did something wrong to your family, who intends something wrong with your family. And that's the key. In an investigation. If you want someone to pass judgment on somebody else, then you don't go after that action.

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You have to paint the picture to illustrate their intention. If you can get somebody to judge the intentions, then no matter what action they do, they will say but you probably did this good action for that bad intention. I already know your intention. So now I can interpret all of your actions for the wrong reasons. You see, because once you've got somebody clocked for the wrong intention, then they can't do anything right. Then it's all done. You see, if you just if you don't judge somebody's intentions, if you first look at the action, look at the evidence and then try to conclude perhaps from evidence or, you know, testimony or whatever investigation, then you try to

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conclude intent. That would be a neutral way of investigating criminal investigations should be like that, isn't it? A lawyer can't go in front of a judge and say I, you know, this guy intended to do this, this this. You can't prove intention. The intention happens inside the heart. You can show us a chain of actions, a series of actions, statements, evidence, and these evidences are enough to ascertain Okay, this person had this intention. But this was intentional. This was not an accident, right? But here she knows that this is a time where emotions are going to run high. The man is going to see his wife and she's crying and he sees use of and he's not thinking straight enough to know

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which way the shirt is red.

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He's got a rip shirt. And he's trying to cover himself. How badly it's ripped we don't even know about by the way means rip vertically. So it's basically like it's, it's not a shirt anymore, it's become a jacket backwards.

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That's what's happened. So it's torn open. Right? So he's trying to cover himself in some way because he's embarrassed that he's exposed. So he knows that his colds are, you know, off, there's something off about his clothes. And then on top of that, she's crying. So emotions are running high. And now he said, she says, This is what he intended. This is what he wants. So she's trying to paint a picture with premeditated this, but he planned this. So everything that she was doing, she's flipping the script and turning it on him. Now notice also the play on words, the words for her Wha What? Yeah, well, what actually comes from the same origin as irata

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urawa that she attended in person that she wanted him to slip for himself. And the word for intention that's used here is the same origin, as if Allah is showing us and in a gas that's flipped, it was her evil intent, her seductive attempt, and she's trying to make it look like it's him. So that's the intention piece of this man, or rather, the applica. Someone who intends evil, such unthinkable, such an unthinkable thing. So be honest with your friend.

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You're gonna let someone go the justice to your family. What kind of married

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somebody get another man can do that to your wife, and you're just gonna take it. That's the kind of man you are. You see, when she says family, your family? She didn't say, what should be the reward of someone who did this to me. Right? Or to an innocent person? No, she's trying to get at the chivalry and the possessiveness and the manhood over a husband challenging it. What kind of man? Are you? What are you going to do about it? How? You're just gonna let him get away with it?

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I'm holding back from my acting performance. Well, I'll get puppets for you.

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But the idea that she's now you know, you aggravating him to the point where he's like, if I'm going to do something, you know, what are you going to do? Just Oh, you want to think about it? Hmm? Well, you want to examine the evidence. Oh, really? I can't believe you.

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This is how you protect your family.

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I've already told you what happened. And the thing is, when with people like that when they're wrong,

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then in order to make themselves right, they get more dramatic, louder, more aggressive, because somehow raising your voice makes you more correct. It doesn't. Well, it can be feel pretty compelling at the time. So she's now made this dramatic scene where she the criminal is portrayed herself successfully as a victim and, and questioning her will be an act of injustice, because she's such a victim. How could you question someone who was a victim came to you crime? And then on top of that, how can you question your own family and not siding with her mean, something's wrong with you? Because you're not enough of a family man.

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So why am I telling you when she shoots her weapons, they come out in every direction. Just like those doors were locked. She's he's hitting multiple doors, right tackle shot, it's really manipulative, what she's done. And it's very powerful that every phrase catches a psychological, you know, agenda. And it captures a psychological agenda towards her goal. Now, what is her goal? Her first goal, arguably will soon argue her first goal is to deflect blame from herself. Right her first?

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Her first goal is to take blame off of herself.

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I'm distracted. Sorry.

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So something about Islam.

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Yeah, yeah. Okay. Thanks, Valerie.

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My wife.

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Okay. Her first goal is to not let blame Come on her. So I'm going to defend myself and the best defense is put all the attention on him flip the entire story and make him look like the villain. Her second goal may also be, oh, he's gonna reject me. I'll show him what happens when you reject me.

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I'll show him. You don't you don't walk away from me and I don't burn you. I'm going to let you go. And I'm going to have the world hate you.

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If you walk away from me, I will rip you to shreds. And I will make sure everybody else does too. In fact, I'll have other people do my job for me.

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You see the vindictiveness because she's been rejected, because she didn't get what she wanted. Now she's turned this way. When I'd rather be

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in that she says no. So so one translation was it will do those two dramatic translations. Yeah. One of them is what should be the reward of someone who want intense evil for your family, except that they should be thrown in jail

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or use in our documentary, or you know what better yet

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Some painful torture.

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This should get tortured painfully.

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Because she's basically saying,

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she's saying, I got torture. I got her. He should be heard back. You see what he tried to do to me? And the fact that she's in Dublin and even first she said she should be thrown in jail. Yeah. And that could have been enough, he should be jailed. But she went a step further and said, No, he should be tortured. Now that that could be for two reasons. It could be for vindictive reasons. She wants to see him suffer. You hurt my feelings. So I'm gonna hurt you physically. I'm gonna make sure you bleed. I need to see you in pain because you hurt my feelings by rejecting. And it's justified in her head. The second reason can be she's going out of her way to describe torture and painful

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feel painful hurt. Why? Because that will make her look more like the victim that so badly hurt. Look at what she's asking for. She's not even saying it wasn't a big deal. Just let it go. Just go to jail. No, no, no better yet some painful torture. As if everybody will think Wow, he must have done something real bad. That's why she's asking for painful torture. So it makes him look worse when she says this. So the wire can be even more passionate in their victimhood when they're calling for this, this calling for this justice, you know, in the illusion of audibility. Now, let's pause here for a second. Let's see, let's say somebody's back then, when she got out the door, and she

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made this cry had an iPhone

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and the iPhone and they were recording? Yes. They were recording her testimony, recording yourself recording, the husband like freaking out like losing his mind. And in the past. And it posted on YouTube. And they posted on Facebook, and they posted on Instagram, and they post on social media. What kind of comments Do you think you're getting? We're gonna get away?

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Who is the world going to incinerate?

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Are they going to say she's lying?

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I guess are they going to say that she has evil intent?

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Are they going to say I can't believe some of these animals? Who is this person they should be jailed. No, torture is worse, we should execute in public. There would be a lynching online.

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From the video footage from this, which says yes or no. Yes or no. What I'm trying to get at is this works,

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to this day, to this thing. And mafia justice is actually now a way of life.

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We watch footage of anything from a racist, you know, exchange, police brutality, abuse, whatever, we see a 10 second clip and the world goes crazy. Then you find out it was actually a 32nd clip. And there was a lot more to the story. And we didn't know,

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right? Or the one side never got to say their piece then. And it's too late. And if they do try to say later, they'll say you're shaming the victim.

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You're blaming the victim, they're the victim, we're gonna stand by the victim, look at this video, they're clearly the victim. Right? So you can you can manipulate evidence, you can manipulate a mob and create a, you know, a reality that can railroad people that you can absolutely do that. And that's the attempt she's making with use of

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a law and

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the only thing that should happen to him is either you should get thrown into jail, or at the very least, people management.

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user ryzom is as much in shock at her ability to be a transformer

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as anybody else because a second ago, that's not what she was no victim.

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If anybody was running, and wanted to escape, it was him. And when she hears he hears this outcry, and this dramatic, you know, clean in front of the husband trying to, you know, exercise the husband's emotions by the time she's yelling and screaming, who's also showing up.

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servants, family, anybody in the house is like, what's going on? And our problem is getting the word already gathered at the door guys to open the door, who was only at the door. My husband, like no, everybody showed up, like, there's other servants cooks or whatever. There's a security guard. And it also seems the most plain reading of it is some of her family. Her cousin, her uncle, whoever was also at home, or the husband brought him home with him. So some of his own emotions. And he also was now shows up at the door. And now this is taking place in front of them. And now Yusuf Ali Salaam says he,

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actually, she's the one that tried to seduce me.

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He's not going out of his way to be emotional, or he's not giving the full. You know, actually, he's just saying very calmly. Our that the NSC, in fact, she's the one who tried to seduce me. calm, cool.

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But his testimony is not as not nearly as dramatic.

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It's not nearly as convincing because it didn't move me emotionally.

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Cuz what's my feelings get moved. That's how I know something was true. And then just look at his face. He's so calm, how could he be telling the truth?

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Just look at it. He didn't say anything else. If he was innocent, he wouldn't have a lot more because he would have satisfied my personal, you know, desire to be convinced, because until I'm convinced you're clearly guilty. In court, we say innocent until proven guilty. In the world of speculation, we say guilty until proven innocent. And what is guilt? Look at his face? Clearly, he's guilty. Look at those eyes. That's it, those are guilty.

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guilty or presumed guilty, because we've seen it a million times, right? Oh, I know what guilty people look like and that guy and then tell you guilty.

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So we because we somehow have insight into the unseen.

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And we presumed such innocence and guilt on on other people.

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Every case, when it comes to justice, every case is unique. Every situation is unique. And no case can be judged based on your experience of a previous case. If you do that, that's actually by definition, injustice, when you lean this way, or this way, when something is making you lean against someone before they even say something, whether it's their appearance, whether it's their you know, your prejudice against their, their gender, whether it's your presence is the fact that you don't like that you'd already didn't like them.

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You have other prejudices. And if they get in the way of you being judged, or me being just, and this is exactly what you know, Daddy,

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you know, our dynamic needs to be fair adult also needs to deviate,

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to deviate from course to turn over. Unless in

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the mainstream, stay away from deviating in courts. That's the closest thing you can get to

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justice itself, finding our biases against somebody who don't like them. Because what's fair is fair. What's right is right evidence before the evidence is blind evidence doesn't have emotions. A judge can have emotions. But today, obviously, the more compelling messages, the more emotionally captivating it is, the more truthful it becomes. And that's just not the case. That's just not how life is. That's not how justice works. That's definitely not but that's how mob justice works. Now, on the one hand, you've got

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the NFC, think of it from an injury point of view, the syllables in her speech, now just

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And in

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any, and he says,

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Actually, she tried to seduce me.

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That's all he says. He's got nothing more to say. How does she try to seduce you? What are you trying to say? No, I'm gonna say, What? What did you just say?

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I said, Well, I have to say,

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no more. And everybody's up in arms. Obviously, you have a servant, no matter how good and you've got servants, generally, and you've got a royalty.

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And she's a female. Who's it? Who are they gonna sign her? Who's everybody gonna sign with her? And by the way, employees might even side with her. Because if they don't side with her, they could lose their job.

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And even if they think they've seen other behavior from her, and the cook is going,

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Because they know her, right? They live with it. So even if they're rolling their eyes and saying, I know this is bogus, they're not going to say anything. Because if they say something, they'll get in trouble. their jobs are on the line. So what is the answer? It says, You don't mean

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a witness from her own family. I have to mean family can mean house here, I would suggest that means family, a witness from her own family testified spoke up. And this is important, speaking up and testifying meaning there's a group and everybody's up in arms. And maybe maybe the the owner of the house has had use of grabbed by the servants while she's crying because he hasn't figured anything out yet. And there's a commotion. In the meantime, her uncle or cousin, whoever he is, he's just looking at him. Looking at her. He's kind of like he's seen. He's seen life. You know, he's watched some Judge Judy episodes or something, where he's just looking at her and looking at him. He's

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And it's like something you say.

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Calm, and you can tell he's gone by the language. It's long winded speech. It's actually long speech. Let me tell you a speech. He says in Canada, he sued them in Poland, for sadhaka.

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In Ghana,

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if it happens to be the case that his shirt was ripped from the front, then she's telling she's spoken the truth and he is from listen to the left translation.

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He is from the liars.

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He is from the lions, I'll come back to this. And if it is, if he happens to be that his shirt is ripped from behind, then she lied. And he is from the truthful.

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So he is from the liars. And he is from the sofa. It's interesting. When it came to her, you say she, she told the truth, or she lied. Just two words, she told the truth, she lied. But when it came to use of how do you describe him, he is from the truthful or he is from the labs, he could have just said, well, by the way, you didn't have to say any, all this, all you could say is look at a shirt.

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Because cuz he sees if his shirt is red from behind,

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there's no if he's right there.

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It's not like they're gonna go find the shelf in the window, the shirt in the window somewhere, he's got the shirt on, it's right there in his hands. So you don't have to say the word if. And it could also be that by this time was so funny. So I was kind of holding on to a shirt. And it's also coming just in his hand, because ripped out from behind. So like, let's open this shirt up. Let's look at what's going on with the shirt. But the language is so drawn out if it happens to be the case that his shirt is ripped from the front and she lied. And he's from the truthful. Here's a much more brief way of saying

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if his shirts look a shirt from behind, she lied.

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When you say she lied it already as soon as what he told the truth, you don't have to spell that up. And you don't have to give the alternative scenario either. So this is a pretty long winded, you know, thing to say? I believe the long witness of it plays an important role for a couple of reasons. One of them is that this is a high stress situation, and everybody's yelling and screaming or commotion. And he's just calm down, and just help you when you spell something out and give people time to think in a high stress situation, then they're like,

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because if you just say she lied, and she don't know, what are you saying? Oh, no, let me finish what I'm saying. Just hear me out. And when you spell it out like that, what does it give you? What does it give the audience the mob gets ready to Lynch with their pitchforks has already been burned down? What does it give them time to do?

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research, calm down, bring the temperature down, let the brainstem cell start working again. Right?

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And then he says, you know, and if it were the case that his shirt was torn completely, like, all the way through from behind, actually first pieces from the from the front, then she told the truth, then we have to believe it. Because how could he be running from her? And she wants him and his shirt is ripped from behind? What is your standard on Washington? That doesn't make any sense. But he didn't just say she told the truth. And he lied. He said he's from the is from if she told the truth, and he's from the life. Now why is that important? He's from the liars. You see? If I say to you, you lied.

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You like that? I'm talking about one act.

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But if I say I can't I count you among liars.

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You are You are among liars? As far as I'm concerned.

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What are you saying? You're not just saying you lie this one time? You're saying you cannot be trusted with anything? Isn't it? So it's his family. It's her family. He's fear, but not really. And he's trying to assess the situation. But he won't make a character judgment on her.

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But he will say there should be a character judgment made on you. So for better or for worse. So the first, which is why he never said she is from the liars. Or she's from the truth. He's not going to make a character judgment on her because she's actually not on trial, who's on trial is so anything he says can be taken. If he is considered among the truth for me nothing. And nothing he says will be of any value. If he has been I can't even because it's his testimony that's really on trial, not hers. She's a master of the house, he has to prove his innocence. He's on the hook, not her. So now, from that point of view, if in fact a shirt is red from the front, then she told the truth. And he

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is from the liars. He's telling the owner of the house that means you can't you trusted him all this time with all these responsibilities. If you can't even trust him with your wife with this house. He can't be trusted with anything. This is not a singular incident. No, no servant of yours, that can do that can be trusted with anything is all and I can guarantee you if this is what's happening, then he has scammed you and cheated you and lied to you in many other ways. So you need to investigate every responsibility you gave him and rethink maybe you have them too much trust too quickly. If this is the case, you see. So it's actually pretty wise advice because if some criminal

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was proven to be wrong,

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Such a serious crime. And you You didn't trust him with so many things. And you have to wonder what else did he mess up? Right?

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Because he can't be trusted with something sacred like somebody's wife. Now, can you trust it with the bank account? It takes them a lot less shame to steal a lot less shamelessness. You know, it would take a lot less your listeners to do other, you know, shady things with the amount that you've been given. This takes way more Audacity. This is way more obscene. So he says he can't be trusted at all. But if it is the case that his shirt is ripped, clearly from behind him, nobody

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is ignored. Oh, she was this one time. But I mean, let's not make a judgement. She is boundless, though, right? So she like because he doesn't. He sees that the bosses are the masters conflicted. And Yusuf is a favorite of his is angry, but he's still trying to figure out how to weigh things. And he says, Well, I'm in a society. And he is the kind of man that can be trusted no matter what.

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Actually, even in a pressure situation like this, he had the guts to tell you that she tried to seduce you what husband wants to hear about his wife, she tried to seduce another man.

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It's a brave thing for use of David say it to the guy's face, she tried to seduce me, instead of saying other words like that's not what happened. Or let me explain, he could use safer words, right. But these are pretty offensive words to hear for her and for her husband. But he was so blatant, blatantly truthful, that the man who's passing judgment on this as an independent witness is actually saying the kind of gutsy that took for him to say what he said, actually means he can be trusted in any situation.

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He can just be trusted.

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So this is the scenario that we find the story move to at this point. And in this scenario, what Aleksandra has taught us is, as I tried to walk you through, you know, this, the testimony part, and the running from the door part and the changing of the story part and the victim, the culprit, the wolf becoming the sheep, the sheep being painted as the wolf, that whole park, these are all very real things that happen in life. But as a caveat, the last thing that I want to share with you is some use of honey salon perfectly innocent. And in this case, the minister's wife perfectly guilty. 100% 100%, guilty. We're not use of

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Sometimes we're partly innocent, partly guilty, but partly guilty, partly innocent. It takes two people and sometimes you are completely innocent and something wrong. And other times you're not completely innocent, you have done something wrong. Also, my advice to all of us, when we when we learn from the stories of the fun

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to take from them, and to put ourselves Oh, you know what that means? I'm like, use a funny sound, they did this to me.

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You're gonna make that jump, then you better be as innocent as Ooh.

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And if you're gonna say this person is like, you know, the minister's wife, if you're gonna make that job, you better know that that person is no good in them whatsoever.

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You understand? We don't have that kind of clean slate. So you can say that some of this can apply in this situation, in some respects. But when we try to put this on ourselves, we have to be honest about what part of it was our wrongdoing? Even if, for example, you did this much wrong? They did 10 times more wrong. Okay. Well, you'd still did one time. Wrong.

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That doesn't respond that doesn't justify their 10 times wrong that they did to you. But that doesn't erase your wrongdoing either. Right. That has to that's just justice. Justice is if you're even 1% wrong, or somebody's criticizing you, and they're 1%. Right, that 1% should be acknowledged. Yep, that's right.

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I don't agree with this. But this is right. This is this is in fact, my mistake. You see, like with the case of Busan exam, when they tried to kill him for the death of the soldier.

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He says I did it.

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I did it at the time. But you know, there are other wrongs. They tried to kill him without a trial without finding out what actually happened. There was no proceedings there just yet.

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scheming to kill you. But the part that was he was accused of Did you do this wrong? Since Yeah, I did this wrong,

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that I didn't commit.

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So you have to acknowledge at least the part that you did wrong. And now have other things piled on top. In his case, when he has done nothing of what's being said.

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Nothing of what's being said he can come out straight and say actually, she's the one who registers me.

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That's the truth of it.

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And, you know, he I don't believe that he wouldn't even said those words about her. Had she not tried to slander him. Like he wouldn't even even said those words. He would have ignored because you know, we he would have been more forgiving and honoring of the family.

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Whatever. But the fact that he got slandered, he has to at least speak up as interesting, instead of saying I'm innocent of what she says, he actually comes out and says, actually, she's guilty of something. Now, I had no hand in this.

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So a balanced approach to learn from the stories of the brown, male or female. And the final thing I want to say, as a reminder to myself and everybody, that in this case, there is a female that's flipping the script, playing the victim and all of that. But that doesn't mean this is a lesson only to be learned by females. The brothers of Yusuf Ali Salaam are jealous. And that doesn't mean that only brothers do that sisters don't do that. Right. So this isn't about gender, there can be some things that are attributed to a gender in some respects. But this actually isn't about a gender. This is about manipulative behavior. That that's what this is about. We're missing the point. If you

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and I started thinking, this is a lot, incriminating females over males, or brothers or sisters, we're missing the point. As a slave of a law, when you and I read this, we're learning what not to do, what to look out for, wherever it comes from? Can such behavior come from a man? Absolutely.

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It can absolutely come from a man. Can there be, for example, harassment at the workplace by a man?

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And when he is about to get caught, he flips in and says, actually, she's been wanting to whatever it can you flip it? Sure. Can somebody use their credibility, their social status, whatever? Can they use that to claim, you know, to be read somebody else put their reputation on the line and in, you know, destroy somebody else's character? They certainly can a man can do that a woman can do that. This is not about whether it's a man or a woman. So don't, don't I don't want you to get caught up in that part of the problem. This is the game of shape on

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the babina. Do you become enemies to each other? Don't move, don't move, let's not lose on the point that's being made here. What's also being taught by way of the testimony that was recorded is when there are lots of noises about the intention and how evil The intention is, how manipulative The intention is, and she was very passionate about it. Maybe it's a good thing to step back and hear testimony that is neutral.

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testimony, that's neutral. The other really interesting thing about all of this, and I'm gonna leave you guys with

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Where did this all this happened?

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This happened indoors, this happened at the door of the bedroom? Yes. So who knows that you suffer is innocent? These few people. And the testimony that's happened is for people that are involved in this case, yes.

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And what spreads outside? So this happened in the bedroom, or in the hallway? Well, let's spreads outside, do you think it's going to be exactly what happened inside?

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By the time one of the cooks goes home and talks to his wife, it talks to his brother talk to his cousin, the kids over here, they talk to each other? By the time this is spread in Egypt? Do you think it's the same version that happened here? Was there some what though, this is called Mitch masala added some spices added to the story here in their exaggerated form, or their means being made about?

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Or their blogs being written and others, you know, speculative articles, op ed pieces? Is that what's gonna start happening? Yeah, the thing is, testimony happens in a environment where the actual witnesses to the event are there. But what spreads far and wide, what spreads far and wide, is not actually what happened in there. It's the version of it, that's the most entertaining.

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So that's actually what spreads outside and use of additional instances that can spread outside.

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That's not going to spread outside the scandal about his wife will spread. But nobody will come out and say use of did no harm, then have to say that.

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They're not gonna, you know, go out of the way because one of the gals proving his innocence. That's not juicy. You know what you see, Oh, she liked him. She wanted him. She fell in love with him. Exactly. Those are the words that are gonna spread.

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When I met her like this, a sensitive delicate matter like this happens, and the proper authority should get involved. A court if there needs to be a court trial in a court trial needs to happen if the family needs to sit together and sorted out and the family needs to sit and sorted out. But the larger public will only give rise to hearsay. If there is an actual conflict, the right people need to be involved. This is the same way when a husband and a wife have an argument, right? Or they're about to fall apart.

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And they say we can't communicate with each other. We need to figure this out.

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Find someone sensible from his side, find something from her side. He doesn't say she should go talk to all her friends on Facebook and tell her tell what's going on. And then she should make memes about how her husband treats or whatever, or posts and videos and whatever. And he should do the same thing with all his friends and his mother and his grandmother. It is you know, whoever and then the whole community is talking about them having trouble that's really going to help the situation. I think

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Who's the current one when there is a conflict, either solving yourselves or get the right people involved

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and solve it, fix it. Because the larger the getting the mob involved, that's only done by those who have evil intent. So it's interesting that right now, so far as we read it, she's the villain, right? But actually, in some sense, she will also become a victim. If you're looking at it entirely fairly, she will also become a victim, because whatever she did wrong, that's going to get blasted outside. And she's going to be humiliated publicly for whatever wrong she did. That's not the pay for it. That's not that's not justified to do that to somebody for their wrongdoing. The criminal proceedings should happen, Justice should happen. But that kind of basic hearsay base shaming, that

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should not happen. That's not okay. So the chronic pain is the sort of balanced picture of how you know we are to look at such situations we allow them to protect all of us and protect our dignity. And we allow them to make us of those who people are safe from our hands and our tongue, and are the emotions we have in our hearts. I pray that allesandro makes us the kind of oma that when we say Salaam to each other. When we say Salaam or the konak went away, what do we actually mean? I am a source of peace, safety and calm for you in every way. And I pray Allah gives you that too. And when somebody responds, they've actually delivered their actions and their intent to us also, so that we

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actually become an Ummah of peace and calm, especially when it comes inside our families. These conflicts, they don't happen between distant people. These conflicts happen between friends and families and people that are close in your life. And so this is where we have to look out for, you know, these kinds of freedom Eliza to protect all of us and our families from these kinds of trials. Baraka lovely, wonderful