Nadim Bashir – Muhammad the Best Example #11 How He SAW Treated his Spouse pt2

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The speaker discusses the importance of showing respect and helping in difficult situations, including parents' teachings about not doing anything outside the house. They stress the need to show compassion and love, finding balance in relationships, and not using nick Hadiths as a token of respect. The conversation ends with a discussion about treating future generations with respect and love.
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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Bismillah Khan are 100 Local Bill Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Muhammad wa ala early he was heavy as marine and in our previous segment we had began discussing how did the Prophet sallahu wa Assam treat his wives and today we will be continuing into that, that how did he treat his spouses? The next thing is that the Prophet SAW along while he was some made it a point to be very respectful to his in laws, to be very respectful to the family of his own wife. I sort of the a lot that Ana was the Prophet sallallahu it was some was asked the who is the most beloved to you, who is the most beloved to you? And he said, ah Isha.

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And he says that, then the person asking the question, he rephrase the question, and he says that what about from amongst the men? And what did the Prophet alayhi salam say? He could have said, Oh, worker, but he said her father, showing respect, today Subhanallah you know how many stories I've heard, where today men, the way they talk to the inlaws in such a vile way, in such a rude and disrespectful way. Subhanallah like sometimes when I've heard these kinds of conversations, like I cannot believe it, that how a man sometimes how husbands can become so disrespectful to their in laws. Remember, they said yes to you, you propose to them. They said yes to you. They've always

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tried to be respectful of you. They've always tried to be caring of you. It becomes our responsibility, what we learned from the province of Salem, that to be respectful to your in laws, be respectful to your family, to your wife's family. When huggy generally a lot of unhappy passed away. So many times Khadija sister will come to visit the prophets of salaam to he treat her with rudeness and disrespect. Never. We also learned that the Prophet SAW Selim, whenever he was sacrificed, and here, whenever he would distribute meat, he was sent to send sometimes meat to the family, friends of Hadith out of the Allah that Allah, this is showing that the Prophet Allah Islam

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is respecting the family and the friends of his own wife, though she may have passed away. But this is the love and respect to the properties I'm showing towards the family. Next time when it comes to our own in laws, we have to show a certain level of respect to our in laws. The next thing that we also first learn about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and which he was very much against is that whatever happens between a husband and a wife, there's a lot of things that happen between a husband and wife, that should only remain between a husband and a wife. There are things that you should never ever disclose about what takes takes place between you and your wife, amongst your

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friends. And believe it or not, I mean, this is something that times that goes on people, men are sharing with other men, the time that he has spent with her wife, once again, this is completely in fact, you know, one thing that we learned from the Prophet salallahu audio, some that this is one of the worst of all the people, one, the worst of the people are those who disclose to others, what took place between them and their wife. So this is why it's very also important, that part of the Amana part of that showing that love to your wife is that whatever has happened to her or whatever is going on between you and her, you keep it amongst ourselves. And there's only to share that and

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share that with others. We also learn from the Prophet sallallahu it was some part of showing love and helping and being there for his wife is assisting around the house. It is very important that if a man feels that he's above and beyond of helping another house, or that you know, subhanAllah I see today that even parents, I mean, believe it or not, parents are teaching their children that do not do anything, you know, do not help around the house, because you got to assert your dominance, that always put your put your wife in her place, you know, be you know, be strong against her or be assertive against her. And you know, if you need to put her in your place, put her in her place, but

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do not help her around the house to show that you are the man of the house. Really honestly think about it. As parents you're teaching this to your children. Think about it the problem was there would he'd say that to his own children. The problem is somebody not have sons he had three sons. They all died in their in their infancy. But if the property is some is there, do you think he would approve of that? They you teaching as parents you teaching your own son that do not help out around the house? Because for some reason, their masculinity will be diminished. Like honestly like parents, what are you thinking? What kind of advice are you giving to your own children? What are

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you telling your own children? These are wrong advices remember, if you are like the profit center, you're going to be helping around the house.

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I'm not saying you do everything around the house, but you should be helping around the house. Just because you have around the house, you will not lose any dignity, you will not lose any respect. And there will be peace and love in the family. This is what Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam he did in his own family. If you think that if we think that we are above and beyond the prophets of Salaam, then that's a different problem altogether. But if we say that we follow Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he will always help out around the house.

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Another thing that we learned also from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that there is nothing wrong in using nicknames that are acceptable. For example, the Prophet SAW Allah who it was some sometimes he will call a I Isha as I wish, or a wish, he will use these kind of nicknames, these were acceptable nicknames, and the Prophet alayhi salam, he would use these nicknames as a gesture of love, as a gesture of, you know, compassion. So if, you know sometimes, you know, in our culture, you know, sometimes, you know, people may call their, their, their wife, as you know, sweetheart, or you know, honey, that's absolutely fine. You know, you cannot say that, Oh, this is a

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kuffaar practice, and is not absolutely allowed know, anything that any kind of nickname, or if there's a certain, you know, certain name that you use for your own spouse, that is acceptable, and she loves it and is acceptable. And so the houses that the wrong and using that the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he would always use that, in fact, you know, sometimes it's, you know, it's pretty, you know, I mean, you can call pretty cool, or you can say just, it's pretty neat that when you know, husband or wife have that kind of camaraderie and that love, and that, you know, that genuine compassion amongst the two that they can use nicknames, you know, in favor of each other,

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and you know, call each other by nicknames and so forth. But something that is acceptable, okay, you cannot use a nickname, that is going to be considered as unacceptable. We also learn from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that

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if your wife has a certain talent, letting her use that talent, to help the community, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he taught it show the Lavon has so much that out of all the y's across them, she narrated the Most High Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salaam, the Prophet of Islam is teaching her and she's going to become a good cause of it as a teacher for the future. So if our wife is good at something, that she can help and contribute to the society, then as husbands, we should never stop them. Of course, there are always some situations. And we have seen a times that that the wife she is her primary focus becomes outside the house and doing all the good, and

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she's neglecting the rights of her husband, she has neglected the rights of her, you know, family members, you cannot do good while neglecting your primary responsibilities. So yes, you should not just the men should not just completely stop them. But at the same time, there has to be a certain balance if your wife can do and contribute to something good in society, letting them do that. And of course, they need to understand not the expense of the the rights of the founding members. Finally, brothers and sisters, I will say this, that there can be so many things that we can talk about when it comes to treating our wives. Here's the last thing I'm going to say.

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How as a father, how would you want your future son in law to treat your daughter? I want to ask you that question. Would you want your future son in law to treat your daughter with love and respect? If the answer is yes, remember that your wife is also someone else's daughter, your wife is someone else's sister. And just like you would want your daughter to be kept under love and respected by your future son in law. The same way you have to show the same level of respect. And the same level of importance applies to your wife also. This is what the property son was taught us. And remember the way you treat your wife, your sons see that your sons see that your male children will see that

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and then they will eventually treat their wife the same way too. I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala they give us the ability to treat our wives with dignity and honor and respect. The way the Prophet saw saw him he showed love dignity and respect to his wife's also immunoblot I mean, does that Kamala Hyde assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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