Khatira – 3 Ways to Overcome Rejection

Nadim Bashir

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The Prophet's family experienced tragic deaths, including the death of the uncle and rejection of women by his children. The emotional state of the mother of the Prophet and fear of rejection from children are also discussed. The rejection proposal made by friends, marriage, or business proposals is emphasized, along with the importance of not letting people go and not giving up on expectations. The segment also discusses the challenges faced by people when they receive negative information.

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Once I should have the Allahu anha was sitting with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam. And it was the time after the Battle of heart. And for anyone who has studied the the scene and the events that took place in the Battle of ohada. It was one of the most difficult times upon Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there was a time where he had to even retreat for a very brief moment, because he was wearing a helmet, a metal helmet, and the helmet had broken, and it had lodged into the cheeks of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And you had the Sahaba of the Allah and him seeing this, and they're coming to the aid of the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa salam, not only that, but you have Sahaba the Allahu Anhu very illustrious Sahaba who lost their life. In fact, the most hurtful death to the Prophet saw some that took place in the battle hood was none other than the uncle of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Hamza or the hola Juan and all this took place so you can possibly imagine how much pain the providing some he went through on the day of art Yeah, I shudder the Allah on her when she asked Ross was salam was there any other day that was more painful to you? Then the day of Oh heard, and he sort Allahu Allah He was salam said yes, indeed. It was a day when I went to thaw if the day I went to thaw if because

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that day I was already going through a lot of difficulties in my life. And when we say the seal of the prophets of Salaam, that Prophet SAW Allah some losses uncle just right before that the prophets awesomes uncle Abu Talib was a person that even though he did not believe in Allah subhanho wa taala, he stuck by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, even when there was a three years of the extreme boycott that took place, a Bhutan could have, you know, disassociated himself from the province of Saddam, but he said that this is my nephew, I'm going to stick with my nephew. So the Prophet SAW Selim, all this is going on, his uncle passed away, you have Hadith or the Allah Whina,

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that the Prophet alayhi salam did not marry any other woman, as long as Khadija was in his life. And her deja vu Allahu anha, gave birth to six of the seven children of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So you can imagine how much pain Russell was or someone's going through. And then he goes to thought, if why, because he's looking for support. And while he's there in thought, if instead of welcoming him, instead of being receptive towards Ursula salah, they were rude with the Prophet alayhi salam, they were extremely offensive and disrespectful to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And of course, I don't want to go through the entire story. We all know exactly what

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happened to the Prophet how to use some was driven out of the city, he was pelted and he says, I think you sound to his wife, our mother, I showed the yellow Anna, that while I was live, while I was leaving, there was a time that I had no idea where I was going. Because when a person is in an extreme situation, you sometimes you're just trying to get out of the situation, you have no idea where you're doing. So he says that then I found a garden, and then I met a person there, but then you're adults and so forth. But the point I'm trying to make is why David mentioned this story. Because many of us in our life, we go through something called rejection in life. Sometimes there's

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a proposal we get rejected, it could be a marriage proposal, it could be a business proposal, there are sometimes plans that we have one person turns it down, sometimes we get betrayed by one person, a friend of ours, sometimes we have a very close to three friends and then they disassociate as associate themselves from us, and we feel that we have been rejected and we have nowhere to go. The reason why I mentioned the story is because when we feel rejected in our life, remember that Rasulullah sallallahu it was some experience something similar and I will say this, that there are three things today Inshallah, of course there are many things I can share. But today, keep it short.

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And think three things that inshallah you can remember, whenever you feel rejected in life. Whenever someone gets you know, someone treats you in a way that you feel like you that is not the way you are to be treated or they reject you. Then in that case, there are three things that that can be done. Number one is always remember that Allah is in your corner. Look Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as an adult, he was rejected. But even as a child he was also rejected when when

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In all these women who came from out of town from from out of town to Mecca, and they were grabbing all the children, they were going to other rich people's homes. I want this child, I want that child. I want this I want that child, the one child v one child that was left that no one would come close to was none other than Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Imagine the feeling the emotional state of the mother of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, Amina that she sees no parent. You know, one of the most difficult things that a parent has to go through in life is to watch your child suffer. To watch your child go through pain is one of the most difficult things

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that a parent has to go through. And when a parent sees they, if they're rejected, they can deal with it. When they see their children getting rejected, and their children not getting a fair and good treatment. Wallahi kills them inside. Can you will possibly imagine the emotional state of Amina at that time that all these children are being taken and my child, no one is coming and taking my child and that is when Halima her husband said at that night when she was also presented. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she reluctantly she refused at that time. And then that night, the husband said that oh Halima, all the women are going back with some child, you're going

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to come all the way here to Makkah, you come empty handed, you're going to go back empty handed you rather go back with something. This is the definition when Allah is in your corner. She took the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and her fortunes changed for eternity. It is mentioned that later on two years had gone by no one would generally come and beg to keep the children she came back to the mother of the province of Salem begging please let us keep the child please let us keep the child and she said that what is it that you want this child so bad, and that is when she said that as soon as we took this child, then he changed our he changed everything that we had. So always

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remember that when we get rejected, we may feel that there's nothing going on. Every you know the world is caving on us and the world is collapsing on us. But always remember that you have Allah subhanho wa Taala in your corner. Allah does not just reject people, Allah does not let go of people. Allah Subhan does not just dismiss dismiss people just like that. Allah subhanho wa Taala will always be there for us. Just like he was there when we were born. Just like he was there when we were growing up today. Also, Allah subhanho wa Taala is there when all the prophets all the Umbria you stay there story. There was always a moment in their life that they felt like Hollister

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is nothing more but they read they taught us the stories teaches us that oh they always turn to Allah subhana what to Allah when the use of it he Salam he was a man who was forgotten Think about that for a moment. A forgotten man in prison. No one will remember no one cared Two people came he told him that remember when you go back to the king take my name for Ansel shape on Nicola be fella betta fish Sydney be the Aussie Nene. He say that even more years, but every single time while he was inside the prison, he never turned away from Allah subhanho wa taala. When people will come he will give them Dawa to Allah subhanho wa taala. So the very first thing is always remember that

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Allah is in your corner. Number two, something very important is that do not put too many hopes and people do not have high expectations from people have your expectations and always turn to Allah subhanho wa taala. One of the biggest challenges today that we see the biggest problems that we see is that we have too many expectations from others. And sometimes we feel that we're always going to get the best treatment from other people. And only to find out later on that one person that I may have loved so much, or I felt that I was so close to one person, they are speaking ill about me, they are turning their back again against me, or they're doing something against me. Remember

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brothers and sisters, I've said this before so many times. And I'll say it again. And please remember it. If there's one thing that you have no control over is what people will think about you and what people will say about you. No one has any control over that. No one has control. So why are we so put so many times putting our expectations on other people. When you expect nothing from anyone and you get something you will be happy. That's how it is. Imagine if you're going to file your taxes and you're expecting the government to give you back $1,000 And you get back like $500 or $200 You're still gonna get disappointed. Imagine expecting nothing from the government and the

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government sends you even 50 bucks. Okay, I'm gonna go Starbucks now. Okay. That's how it works, right? You when you expect nothing, and you get something back, you're gonna be happy today the biggest problem we expect too much from other people. And we don't expect anything from Allah Subhan

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on what Tyla always ask Allah subhanho wa taala. Finally, the most important thing is when a person get is on the wrong end of rejection. Do not take out that anger on anyone else. Let me tell you why. Musa alayhis, salam, and Hodder, when they went to the town. What did they ask for? They asked for food. They asked for hospitality. What happened? They were rejected, right? Yes or no, they were rejected. Now Musa is some could have said that, you know what? Okay, fine. I'm not gonna do anything more. But when hudud what he saw was that there was a wall that was collapsing. Did he take out his frustration? Or being on the wrong end of rejection being rejected? Did he take out that

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anger on the wall? Did he let that wall fall down? No. Because at the end of the day, even though I may be rejected in my life, if I take out that anger, that frustration on anyone else on anything else, I'm no different than what they did to me. You have to we have to always be the bigger person. We always have to do the right thing. And that is what Heather did. And later on when Musala you said that you you'd fix this. You fix this? And while they are above and up for Houma, and they rejected from even showing us the basic level of hospitality. What did he say at the end? He says can a doctor who can Zula Houma what can boo hoo masala Ha, this was the right thing even though

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yes, they did not show us they rejected us. But this was the right thing to do. A Muslim always does the right thing. A Muslim does not take out the anger of one over the other when Rasul Allah Allah son was being persecuted in Makkah and a man came to him I need help. He could have said that you know what, bro I need help myself to go find someone go go find the help from somewhere else. He not say that he did the right thing and he helped him out. So whenever we are in need of help, if I don't get to help, that doesn't mean that I don't help anyone else. If I get rejected, it doesn't mean that I take that that anger on anyone else. Always be the Muslim. Always do the right thing and

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Sharla these are things that we can do Inshallah, whenever we feel rejected, and remember more than anything else, if I ever get rejected in my life, remember that the prophets and the Gambia they went through higher levels of rejection, and they always turn to Allah subhana what to Allah is not the end of the world. One door closes another door is always open by Allah subhanho wa Taala I ask Allah subhana wa Tada to make us amongst those whose hearts are always at the state of peace. May Allah subhana wa Tada help us in our challenges. May Allah subhanho wa Taala remove our difficulties amenable Ottoman does not come to LA Hey assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu what's going on

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