Beautiful And Simple Advice We Can Give Our Children
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The third Jumuqutba at the American Nationaltic Forest Service is a message of dedication to youth and children, emphasizing caution and avoiding sin. The message also highlights the benefits of taqwa and the importance of not being discouraged from doing something. The speaker gives three advice for the succeeding weeks of the airplane season, including treating people with good character, showing respect towards others, and being conscious of one's actions.AI Generated Transcript ©
I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that just
as he has gathered us here today on
this day of Jum'ah, may Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala gather us along with our families
and in the companionship of Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam and his Sahaba without any accountability
or hisab on the day of
judgement. Brothers and sisters,
in light of
the fact that we just finished Ramadan just
10 days ago,
and in light of the fact that this
3rd Jumuqutba at epic is try we are
trying to dedicate this qudba, and the message
to the youth,
and to the children.
Nonetheless,
of course every single message of the Quran,
every single hadith of Rasulullah
can be applied
by both
men, women.
It can be applied by children. It can
be applied by the youth. It can be
applied by the adults,
and it applies to everyone.
Keeping that in mind, I want to share
with you a simple hadith of Rasulullah
today.
And the reason I I chose this hadith,
is because this was the message of Rasulullah
that he gave to Mu'adh ibn Jabal
right before he was leaving for Yemen.
And this was not just one message that
the prophet
he offered him, but he offered him many
advices.
But the key thing about this advice was,
as many ulama have stated,
that this was the last interaction
between Rasulullah
and Mu'adim Anjaba
And this was a time
where this separation,
and this farewell
message
was very very impactful,
and it was very heavy
on Wadhimun Jaba
Because one of the things that Rasulullah
alaihi wa sallam he said, as some ulama
have stated, that this If this was the
last message given by the Prophet to Muadh
ibn Jabal, he said to him, that next
time Muadh, when you come to Madinah,
you may not find me in Madinah.
Can you imagine
a Sahabi hearing that I'm leaving,
and I come back to Madinah,
and the prophet
is no longer gonna be here?
Do you know the amount of pain,
and the emotional
situation,
and the feeling that Mu'adh radiya allahu anhu
is going through.
Now keeping that in mind, what kind of
advice
would Rasulullah
alaihi wasalam give to Mu'av?
It is like a farewell advice. What advice
would he give him?
That is the hadith today that I have
chosen for this khutba. And the reason why
Another reason why I chose this hadith is
because
many times, parents they think that what advice
can we give to our children?
What advice can I give to my own
teenage
boys or girls?
If they're going for a vacation,
and they're going away for some time, you
can share this hadith of the prophet
with them. If they're going outside, your boys
or girls,
they're going out to have a good time
with their friends, share this hadith of the
Prophet
If they're going away to study,
and you may not see them for a
while, give them this hadith of the prophet
If you have a friend that you may
not see for a long
time, you can share this hadith of Rasulullah
because this is a very deep and impactful
message.
Three things that Rasulullah
he mentioned in this hadith.
The very first thing that he said is
That wherever you are,
be cautious of the fact that Allah
is watching you.
Always be aware that your parents may not
be around you, your friends may not be
around you,
and there might be no one around you
who knows you. And think about the hadith
and the words of the prophet very carefully
here.
Amazing.
He says, wherever
you are.
Because you could be in a faraway land,
that no one around you around you knows
you. And usually when that happens,
shaitan comes to a person and says that
even if you do something that is wrong,
or you go to a place where you're
not supposed to go, but who Guess what?
You have no one around you who knows
you. No one could identify you.
No friends are around here. You can easy
get away with this sin.
And this is why
his message is very profound. He's saying,
Wherever you are, if you are in your
room alone with your with your phone, or
your laptop,
You can go somewhere with your friends, and
you will not be caught by your parents.
Remember,
You could be going and hooking up with
someone, and meeting with someone,
and just in That could probably engage you
in some haram down the road.
Before you're even thinking of doing something
that is considered as wrong, remember that your
parents may not be watching you, your friends
may not be watching you, but Allah
is certainly
watching us.
And this is why we had Ramadan.
This is why we heard this message
continuously
in Ramadan.
Why was arramaban given to us? So that
we implement and we develop taqwa in our
life. That wherever we are, Allah is watching
us. Allah
he says in the Quran,
You know
means like giving this advice,
this Like you're about to die.
You're about to die, and what kind of
advice would you give? What kind of a
wasiya would you leave behind
for your children? Allah says,
We gave this advice to the people who
were given the book before you.
And we're giving this same advice to you
too. What advice is Allah giving us?
Be conscious of Allah
And we have heard throughout Ramadan what are
the benefits of of having taqwa in our
life. And perhaps the most important benefit
to keep in our mind at all times
is, that brothers and sisters, when it comes
to Allah, when we commit a sin,
Allah does not punish us immediately.
Though it is recorded in our book of
deeds, that such and such sin was committed
by such and such person, at such and
such time.
There is no details that are left out.
But what happens is that when a person
has this habit of committing sin, after sin,
after sin, and there is nothing that is
stopping this person from committing a sin,
then what happens is that sometimes calamities
will come from Allah
as a eye wakening experience.
Something that will make us wake up and
smell the coffee. But before those kind of
experiences
we come through in our life, or before
Allah sends us, sends upon us
his wrath or his punishment,
this is why we always try to apply
taqwa in our life. And the more taqwa
we have in our life, the more Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, he will protect us in
our life, insha'Allah.
Especially for our young students, for our youth.
Keep in mind, your life,
nothing is established in your life. You're still
studying to earn a career, to earn your
degree. You still have a whole life ahead
of you right now. If you displease Allah
now,
then what kind of a future will
will give you? On one end, we are
sinning to Allah
On the other end, we're asking Allah that,
You Allah, help me in my studies, help
me in my career,
help me establish an, you know, whatever you
want in life. It does not make sense
that on one end, you're displeasing Allah, on
the other end, you're
displeasing Allah for a better future. These 2
don't go hand in hand.
And that is why I have seen students,
the
they have such a high level of taqwa.
They come to the masjid. They are doing
They're reading their Quran. They're going out and
giving dawah. And subhanallah, you see those kind
of students. I'm not making this up by
just standing here on this mimbar. I have
seen students who are extremely religious.
And subhanallah, at the age of 23,
they have finished their PhD. I've seen those
kind of students. I'm not saying this, that
the only reason you become religious is that
you can get your PhD, or you can
get good grades in school. No. First of
all, as a be as a human being,
as a slave of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
it is our duty that we are cautious
of the fact that Allah is watching us.
And we don't do anything that can displease
Allah
So that is the very first advice given
by rasulullah
alaihi wasallam.
The second advice
is also a very beautiful advice given by
the prophet alaihi wa sallam in the same
hadith. And this is a hadith narrated,
by Mu'adhir Mir Jabal in mentioned in Turmidi.
The second advice is,
That
always follow a follow-up
a
a sin with something that is good.
When you commit a sin,
always back it up with something that is
good. Now, why do you think the prophet
is saying something of this type? There's there's
a reason for this. See,
the idea of sinning, and when you commit
a sin,
no person stops when you commit the sin
once.
Yes, a person may stop that sin
sometime in the future, when they've seen that,
how much it has created a negative impact
in their life.
But often, if a person does not get
caught,
and they're finding some kind of satisfaction
in that sin, they will continuously
commit that sin. And what happens is that,
eventually,
it becomes like a snowball.
Have you ever seen a snowball coming down
the mountain? It's so hard to stop that
snowball, and you cannot do anything to refrain
you To protect yourself from that. It would
just squash you and move forward. Have you
seen I mean, you've seen avalanches, you've seen
these kind of things before, you know exactly
what I'm talking about. When it gets going,
it's hard to stop committing that same sin.
And eventually what happens
is, when there's nothing that When a person
gets bored of that one sin,
then what happens is that they will try
to take greater challenges. They might This that
one sin may even lead them to a
greater sin.
Why did Rasul alaihis salam give this advice?
Because what he's trying to tell us is,
that when you commit a sin, and you
have this inner guilt in your heart,
back it up with something that is good,
so that you break the continuity of that
sin. Before that sin turns into a snowball,
and before it comes in, it turns into
a situation
that you cannot stop your sin, and you've
become addicted to that sin, before that sin
can turn into a snowball,
do something that is good. Why? Because the
Quran says,
That
when a person does something that is good,
Allah multiplies it, and the in the good
deeds they wipe out the sins. There's a
hadith of
of what happens to a person when they
sin, and they sin, and they sin, and
eventually that sin turns into a snowball. What
happens? The prophet says that eventually this person's
heart becomes black. It becomes dark. And when
the person's heart becomes dark, and it is
devoid of the nur of the Quran,
the nur of Allah
then no hadith
can affect that person. No hadith can penetrate
that heart, no ayah of the Quran can
penetrate that heart. That person can experience something
very dramatic in their life, and yet it
will not have an impact in their life.
This is when a person's heart becomes
absolutely dark.
It becomes dark, and there is no in
their heart. The reason why it became so
dark, is because a person continuously,
they committed a sin, and then the sin,
and then it just kept on going on.
This is why is
telling
even if you make a mistake,
even if you commit a sin,
no problem, we're human beings. Just move forward,
but back it up with something that is
good. You've seen something that is haram, go
outside and help someone.
You've done something that is wrong, go outside
and do something for someone. Or come to
the masjid, or read Quran, or do some
or pray 2 raka of qiyam.
Do something
that breaks the chain of the sin, and
the continuous
sin habit. Otherwise, if we don't back it
up with something that is good, and we
delay it, then that sin will become may
become a permanent habit
within our life. So this is the second
advice, a beautiful advice given by Rasulullah
The third advice
that was given by the prophet
is
that,
Always treat people with good character.
Today in our deen, brothers and sisters, and
this is for everyone,
before our Ibada, before any salat came, before
zakat came, before Hajj came, before any good
deed
came. 1st came Akhlaq.
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam when he says in
the Hadith,
I have been sent to perfect
character.
I have been sent to complete it.
Completion means that something has already started it,
started, and now you're completing it. It's not
as if Rasool al Salam is starting this
from the scratch, and from the get go.
Meaning that even before all this came, even
the Quraysh,
and the people living at the time of
the prophet sallam, they had somewhat of good
character. They had hospitality.
They would treat their guests well, and so
forth. So the point is that a lot
of times in our understanding, what is Islam?
Islam is the salat.
Islam is coming to the month, coming to
the masjid in the month of Ramadan. Islam
is reading my Quran and so forth. And
no matter how I treat others, and what
I say to others, and what I do
to others, it is irrelevant.
In the month of Ramadan. You know how
many times we got this complaint
of people littering the the, the parking lot.
People going to the police academy, and leaving
behind trash. They are allowing us to use
their parking facility, but on the other hand,
this is what we're showing. This is our
akhlaq that we are showing. You can we
can come to the masjid, and pray iqiyam
all night long. But if this is what
we're doing, then none of this matters.
This is why in the time of the
prophet, there was a woman who was a
great
She used to worship Allah, and she used
to do dhikr and read Quran and so
forth.
But she used to treat other people harshly.
She used to be rude, and she used
to hurt other
people. People were being offended
because of her akhlaq. What did the prophet
say? That none of the good that she's
doing matters when her akhlaq is suffering, when
her mannerisms are suffering.
We saw that people are breaking gates.
These You know like in Madina Villas, there's
a gate where people are coming through. People
are breaking the gates, damaging property.
This is This shows our akhlaq. So what's
happening is that we are focused on the
spirituality,
whereas the very verse The very first thing
that we need to be focused on, which
is our akhlaq, that is where we are
lacking.
This is where we are lacking, and this
matters first.
Before any Ibadah came, first came akhlaq.
The prophet alaihis salam, he taught us akhlaq.
He taught us character. He taught us mannerisms.
That is what we need to apply in
our life.
Honestly.
So it does not
matter what the world thinks of us.
We might go outside,
and if the focus is just that we
wanna have that honor and dignity outside
our house, people have a great deal of
respect. It does not matter especially for our
kids. Keep in mind, you can go outside
and get 1st place competition in the Quran,
but if you are treating your parents with
disrespect,
that shows that your priorities are wrong.
You can go outside and get 1st place
in any competition.
But if your akhlaq is suffering, your mannerisms
are suffering, and this goes for the children,
this goes for the youth, and this goes
for the adults. If our akhlaq is suffering,
then everything else does not matter. It does
not mean I'm not saying by any means
that you focus on the akhlaq, and you
let go of your Ibadah. I'm not saying
that. What I'm saying is, the focus has
always been just the Ibadah, and the akhlaq
is suffering, and we need to also make
sure that our akhlaq is taken care of.
We treat each other with dignity and respect.
We don't do anything that can harm anyone,
that can hurt anyone. Even Rasulullah
he says,
Even
keeping something away from the street, or removing
something that can cause difficulty to others, even
that is a sadaqa. That shows our manners.
So these are 3 advices
given by Rasulullah alaihi wa sallam. And as
I said in the beginning of the khutbah,
these are three advices that you can give
to your children before they go to school,
you can give to your t day children
before they go to school, before they go
for a trip, before they go out to
hang, hang out with their friends, and so
forth. Anytime you're about to give any kind
of advice to someone, someone may say, do
you have any advice for me? I may
be leaving any advice. You can give this
advice. 1st advice of the Prophet, always be
conscious of Allah wherever you are. Advice number
2 is,
when you do something that is wrong,
move forward, back it up with something that
is good. That is a that is
a And number 3 is, always show your
akhlaq, and always exhibit the akhlaq of the
prophet
I ask Allah to make us from amongst
those who will apply these three teachings in
all aspects of our life.
Straight lines fill in the gaps.
There's a lot of space inside the main
hall.
Brothers in the back two rooms, please make
sure the rows are complete.
Please make sure the rows are complete.
There are no gaps in the middle. Sisters,
please make sure there are no gaps in
straight, sisters.
straight, sisters.