Mohamad Baajour – A 3 Words Hadith that will change YOUR LIFE

Mohamad Baajour
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the use of concise speech in Islam, including the use of three words to describe individuals and actions, and the importance of not expressing negative opinions or feelings. They stress the need for gentle leadership and following rules to avoid getting into trouble, as well as the danger of backbiting and the importance of memorizing words and actions. The speakers emphasize the need for caution and awareness about potential consequences of backbiting, and emphasize the importance of learning to use words and actions in conversations.
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Madonna rasool Allah

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first called Jeff Bezos and

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another finance doc and Hadith Kitab Allah. Well, Hayden had you had you Mohammed in Salalah alayhi wa salam. Well, Sharon Aomori to her, we're calling the 13th bidder. We're calling that in. We're gonna let him finish. Tomorrow mama dad, my dear, beloved, respected brothers and sisters. I ask Allah subhanaw taala to keep our hearts steadfast on his Deen till the day we meet him. Amina Robert Alameen

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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has been given many blessings from Allah subhanho wa Taala

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one of these blessings

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that Allah bestowed upon him is that

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all oto Jomi and Callum

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he was given the blessings of concise speech

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very few words

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that say much.

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Like for example, when my wife came to him,

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and he gave an advice to him while he said Yamaha he gave him three statements. Yeah, Moorhead it tequila hyphema Conte. What they say Al Hassan tempura, were Harlequin NASAA. Before you can Hasson

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fear Allah have Taqwa of Allah wherever you are. Follow a bad deed with a good deed it will erase

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Sit and treat all mankind with good manners. Three statements summarized Islam. This is what concise speech mean whole Islam. The first two are a badass and the last one is muamalat. Right? The whole Deen isn't this three statements. So this is what concise speech mean? Today's hadith is not three statements. It's three words.

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And this hadith is so eloquent.

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It is a Hadith that you if you're ever given an opportunity to speak about leadership.

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One of our shields.

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He was in a conference, talking about leadership. He got up and he said these three words Hadith and it was the best speech in the whole conference.

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Because he's quoting the best men from Allahu alayhi wa sallam.

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If every leader if every Imam

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applies this hadith with his congregation, it will be an amazing congregation. If every father applies this hadith with his family, it will be a peaceful, home full of love and harmony. If every teacher applies it with his students, if every president applies it with his people, there will be prosperity. What is this hadith? Three words, I mean, mirror to the movement.

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The believer is the mirror of his fellow believer.

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Or another narration of mean mirror to actually the believer is the mirror of his brother.

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Now one Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says Mirror Mirror means mirror. Mirror does not mean image photo X ray. Mirror means mirror. Just like when Osama sai Salam said if a fly, fell in your food, dip it and continue drinking or eating the food. We all know the Hadith. I cannot replace the fly with the mosquito. Okay, so here Rasulillah Salam said mirror why mirror, lend me your heart and I beg Allah to make my words go from my heart your hearts.

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Number one.

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The mirror does not lie.

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The mirror does not lie. If I stand in front of the mirror wearing a white Sobe white shirt

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and it has a stain on it. The mirror will tell me you have a stain.

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The mirror will tell me you have a stain. Similarly, the believer is the mirror of his fellow believer. I see my brother. I see my sister doing something wrong. I have to inform them and tell them this is wrong.

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This is the true believer.

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I see my sister posted her picture without hijab on Facebook, some brothers thumbs up, masha Allah so cute.

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No, you, the believer would not do that. What does he do? Which brings us to the second characteristic of the mirror. The mirror is very gentle.

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One pebble will shatter the mirror. So what do we do? personal private message to the sister to the brother whomsoever have done something wrong. Because an nnessee Hatfield mela for the her. Giving an advice in public is a scandal is a disgrace. So privately, I will text the brother I will message the brother I will message the sister. This is not right in a very gentle manner just like the mirror in a very kind wise manner.

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And do not feel bad if someone gave you an advice yaki constructive criticism Do not be upset. Unfortunately immediately we get annoyed if somebody is giving us advice thinking that we are perfect. There is no perfection except to Allah azza wa jal Omer Radi Allahu Anhu used to say, Rahim Allah whom written an E Layyah. Or you will be Allahu Akbar, the understanding of this Deen. He said he used to make a DUA. May Allah have mercy on the one and listen to the word he used, who gifted me who

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gifted me my faults, who gifted me my shortcomings, Rahim Allah whom written as from Hadiya Isla you will be

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in a gentle manner in a kind manner I tell my brother, I tell my sister, this is what you just did was wrong.

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This is the true believer

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and I'm not worried

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I'm not worried

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what will people say about me? Will they be upset with me the true believer just like Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam law you may not have had to come. You are not a true believer until your love to your brother. What you love to yourself

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from that foundation, I am speaking to you. You tell your brother, Allah Hey, I heard the Hadith amazing three words. The believer is the mirror

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of the believer and you are my mirror brother. And what I love for myself I love for you. This is not right. Very gentle. The way you approach the problem determines the outcome.

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You have to be extremely gentle.

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if you clean 10% 20% of the stain, the mirror will tell you

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if you clean some of the stain, the mirror will tell you.

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Your brother used to be addicted to alcohol. And you found out and you advised him and you found out that from

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every single day now he's drinking once a week Ma sha Allah Allahu Akbar continue go ahead you can do it. He used to smoke one pack now he's smoking five cigarettes. Go ahead mashallah go ahead continue you can do it.

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Encourage them.

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Do not keep you know reminding them of the past.

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The mirror does not exaggerate the problem.

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When you come with a small stain, the mirror does not show the stain it's huge. Similarly, if my brother if my sister committed a minor sin, I do not tell them you are careful.

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And similarly if they committed a major sin, I do not belittle it.

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Them mirror tells you exactly the size of the stain

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when you clean everything,

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listen carefully when you clean the whole stain

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the mirror does not remind you of the past. When you come back and stand in front of the mirror. Or last time you came you had a stain never.

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Never Allah Subhana Allah Allah says in the Quran beat Sally small forsook by the Eman.

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My brother used to

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drink committed adultery maybe did with Reba.

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My sister used to not wear the hijab maybe do not pray. And now Allah guided them. And then they started

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giving Dawa to others. Oh,

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you're giving Dawa you forgot who you were.

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You forgot that you are a singer you were a rapper you were an actor. You are a musician. Never remind the person who became close to Allah do not remind them of their past. Have you ever stayed or stood in front of a mirror and the mirror tells you the last time you came you had a stain? Never Subhanallah how eloquent is this example of the mirror.

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The mirror

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the dirty spot and also shows all the clean spots.

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Your whole soap is Masha. Allah spotless, but you have a stain.

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Do not concentrate and make your whole judgment about the person because of that stain. And this is this happens a lot between the spouses. My wife made one mistake I forget all that 20 years of beautiful stuff. The husband does one mistake

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And the husbands can relate to that.

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The husband does one mistake. She forgets 1918 23 years of amazing stuff. My sister, look at the

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other stuff. He has a lot of great qualities. My brother she has a lot of great qualities. You only pick on this one thing and you forget the rest.

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The mirror shows you both the stain and the clean

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the mirror

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when you come when you come to the mirror,

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and if you have stain in the back of yourself. The mirror does not tell you you have stain in the back of your throat.

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I came to my brother

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needings some advice and I'm telling him about my problem. i Let's assume I have a problem with my brother and I'm telling my my friend.

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Oh, you have a problem with your brother. Last time you came you had a problem with your mother. You had a problem with your sister. You had a problem with your spouse?

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No, no, no. I'm coming to discuss this. Let's discuss this. We do not bring up the past and we do not bring up things that I have no clue about what happened to them. I cannot see that stain in the back.

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Counts concentrate. Listen, Allah one of the greatest

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secrets of successful relationships is just listening. Listening sometimes we talk to one another and we cannot let the other person finish his statement

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the mirror

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this is probably the most important

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characteristic of the mirror. Listen carefully.

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The mirror does not store the image.

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The mirror does not store the image.

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I'm standing in front of the mirror

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and I left

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and Hakim came in front of the mirror. The mirror will not tell how come

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you should have seen stars visuals.

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a major sin that many of us belittle.

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We speak about the brother we speak about the sister in their absence. And we find so many excuses. Oh, I can tell him in his face.

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Oh, it's true.

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So as I said them, when he was asked to define backbiting, he said,

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speaking about your brother in his absence, they said yeah, that's what Allah it's true. He said, This is exactly what Reba is. Because if it's not true, it's slander. It's Bhutan.

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And the danger of gleyber is so bad that you go on the day of judgment. And the person you have back bitten, he's standing there with the currency is Hessonite and say at the currency at that time, no money. It's good deeds and bad deeds. And that person standing there and you thought you're harmless. The journalist right there, and he's standing right there and waiting. Yes. Have you been what do you want? Remember? Everything's clear now.

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Everything is open. It will make you then to adorn law firm income Coffea everything is presented openly. You have spoken behind about me behind my back. You spread rumors against me. I'm sorry. Allah He saw he's not gonna make it happy.

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I need 5000 Hassan.

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I need 10,000 has an army please. I'm sorry. And then you look and you see a line.

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Spam Allah, how dangerous is backbiting? Sometimes backbiting could be

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without even

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like somebody asked can I back bite when I'm alone? Maybe 20 years ago was impossible. How could you back by to neuron now you can back by two neural on how texting.

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Right You're alone and you speaking about the other brother or the other sister to the other person that you're texting to your backbiting them or

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backbiting even sometimes you don't say a word.

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He asked me, how's brother so and so?

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Brother I'm fasting

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at the C word that's back that is that indicates something good.

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Look how easy it is to fall into backbiting. And my brothers and sisters, if you are in a situation, people are backbiting because unfortunately many of our gatherings they have backbiting. You ask the people to stop if they do not stop, excuse yourself. Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatu you leave otherwise if you stay there and in order to you know amuse everybody you kept on shaking your head your partner in the crime

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colocado had the stuff that a lot of stuff in our photo right.

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Smilla salat wa salam ala Mala and via by that

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I mean to me I want you to memorize this hadith three words and two of them are the same. So all you have to memorize is the word but at Al min mill at Al movement. The believer is the mirror of his fellow believer.

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The mirror

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panel does not differentiate between black, white, rich, poor Arab Agim.

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It gives the image

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I always talk about this. This is one of the sicknesses that we have in our heart. Nationalism.

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We have to be very careful. Yeah, one.

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We have to be extremely careful. Allah told us the definition of who's the best. And trust me it was not the RMB it was not the enemy. It was not the black it was not the white. It was not the rich. It was not the poor. It was not the fat, it was not the thin a chroma come in the law he at Koco.

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The best of you, the most honorable among you, in the sight of Allah is the one with more Taqwa Abu Lahab

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the leader of his of his tribe in jahannam.

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Bilal Habashi.

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In Jana,

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we do not go according to dunya status.

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The mirror this is how the believer treat the other believer.

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Every morning we stand in front of the hour in front of the mirror and we fix ourselves we fix our hair sisters fix their hijab, we fixed our make sure that the shirt is Ireland's clean.

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we have to choose

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that friend

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that can tell me the truth

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about myself.

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Choose that friend

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that is a true mirror.

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When he sees you doing something good, he will assist you. And if he sees you doing something wrong, he will advise you.

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He will stop you.

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If the mirror is dirty, it will reflect the wrong image.

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So make sure you know who you hang out with. Because if you take the advice from the dirty mirror

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you're gonna get the wrong advice

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said and nurse whom I didn't come at in a while feedback. People are like mines of gold and silver Allah He there are people I know and I love dearly. They are really like gold and silver.

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And there are people whom Allah told us in the Quran

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they will tell one another or they will

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announce on the Day of Judgment. Yeah, where you let him lay tiny Yeah, where you let her lay it any lamb Fula and kalila

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whoa to me. Are you wish it

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did not take so unsourced, my friend Luca abalone and EVIC. Bader is journey after I became righteous, and I became from the people of the massage, and I stopped wearing the hijab and I started praying on time, and I stopped doing the haram. He came and took me out from that. I wish

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I did not take him as a friend. That is the mirror. Now look, imagine you're looking at a dirty mirror. It's gonna reflect the dirty image. So who is your friend called Lehman to Arusha Aquila, come and tell me who's your friend, I tell you are who you are.

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My brothers and sisters.

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This three word hadith

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is a foundation and o'clock in manners.

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Let's apply it between us and our spouses between us and our children, between us and our congregation, between us and our employees, between us and our colleagues.

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Wallahi you will see an amazing, amazing response. If big if if you are sincere. You're doing it for the sake of Allah and you're doing it to apply what Rasulullah Sallam told us? Allah Hoonah Khanna has center aphylla kana Kana has center Falconer has seen Atlanta. Your Allah just like learn this. Ya Allah just like you have perfected our creation perfect. Our manners Allama fildena de novo Seraph NFE emaline with a bit Akadama now on sadhana huddle, calm will caffeine Allah mo FECKNER Lima to Hibou Watauga Allah Medina haka

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we're in Burkina Machina, hola Maya or hamre him in a criminal Crimean hablan I mean, as far as you know, whether we yet you know, Kurata yo, but Jana Lin Kina, Imam, Allah mountsorrel Islam Allah Islam Muslim in Allah mon Sol Islam Allah is a Muslim in Sri Lanka. Well, Mushrikeen Rabbil Alameen Robina dunya Hassan, Hassan walk in either now, Rob Donna lattice of clove and the entire data will have led me led on Kurama in

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in Allahu Malaika tell you some Lunarlon maybe you had ladina somebody he was telling me Taslima Allahumma Salli. Ala Muhammad Ali Muhammad cannot Sunday Tada Rahim Ali Ibrahim in Naka Hamidah Majeed Allahumma barik ala Muhammad while early Muhammad Camelback Tada Ibrahim

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Ibrahim in Naka Hamidah Majeed le como la sala.

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Please stand up and close the gaps close all the gaps inshallah Tada there's a lot of gaps here in the second row. And anytime you see a gap in front of you please fill it up can move your carpet with you brothers in the back rooms come to the main hall please

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atmosphere to suffer from international solid

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straightening the lines is from the perfection of solid

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a shadow one number have

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long all hanging out a solid they hate me on a fella but then bomb at this slow left don't click the bomb at the sauna. Allah one two bottle love one bottle love

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semi Hola halimun * the

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hola hola Kalam

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hola hola como

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hola como

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Sena M E kumara nathula A Sena e kumara

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Sani going off to La just a quick reminder inshAllah 430 Today we have a youth hotbar so if you have your kids that come out of school 334 415 420 Inshallah, bring them here for 30

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