The Ideal Muslim Society #05 – Dangers of the Tongue

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inshallah Tada. Okay

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala shorefield Ambia you will mursaleen Nebia now Mohammed Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa ala early he was happy he urged marine want to stand up soon. netic la isla Yomi Dean, unmarried brothers and sisters Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. Welcome as we continue our journey with Senator Joe Roth. And as you see in front of you today, we are heading into verse number 11. And this is a extremely, extremely important and comprehensive a of sort of typical Joe rotten of the entire poor n. And so what we're going to do today is we're going to look at verse 11, and 12 B is Nilla Huhtala, we have

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lots to discuss. So I hope you're comfortable. And you've got what I have here, I've got my tea with me.

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And if you've got tea, let me know in the comment section. And whatever it is you're drinking, if it's coffee, tea, water, juice, anything, let me know what you have. Let me know where you guys are tuning in from. And let's get right to it. So let's take a quick recap of some of the things that we've been talking about. Verse number 10, we were talking about this particular verse one of my favorite of the entire Quran in the MENA Illa falsly, who being a hall icon with tapas, Allah, Allah, Allah Contura moon, and this was all about what true brotherhood is, this was all about when when there are problems in your friendship, your relationship, it doesn't matter. But the point is,

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it's with your community, that this is the A, that helps you when I navigate through some of those struggles, some of those fall outs and repair them for us. So the whole that was the key word in this entire idea that it is an article it is

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a part of our faith, a part of Amen. That when you have problems with your fellow or brother or sister that you work out to those problems. And we talked about and we spent a lot of time discussing that. The choice to just sit and do nothing is not a choice. We as believers have a Latina and men and amongst me known and mean that we don't have that right to say to ourselves, okay, I'm just going to live life and I don't need to talk to that person anymore. I don't need to have a relationship with that individual anymore. I'll just move on. And that's the end of that. We don't have that choice. This a approves it for us. Slidell is a command from Allah subhanho wa

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taala. So we talked about what this meant, what was the intention and so on. And this point that you see at the bottom there guys, that is really important right there at the bottom, where Allah subhanho wa taala.

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From these as we learn Allah's command is to make peace amongst ourselves. Okay, so let's get right to the next verse. Now Allah and Silla Jen will talk about the concept of respect but very specifically, in terms of the choice of words and the attitudes that we use. When we talk to each other. That's what this verse is about. Next verse is going to be when we talk about each other. This one here, Allah says, Yeah, you will Athena aminu, or people have even less her alma mater, Coleman Arsa in your cool new HiRam min Han, that do not let some men ridicule others. They may be better than them with the intention to show that illustrate that they are far more superior than

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others. And we're going to talk about all of this in a minute. Let's just get a good overview of the A and then the A continues while on his own.

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mean nice in nice in your corner Hi Ron min one, while I tell him his full cell Comala Turner Bezu Bill Laporte, big Sally Smith fullsuit barrydale Eamonn woman lamea to buffer, Willa iica Houma la de mon. And the same message is given to the women that they should not ridicule or put down one another with the intention that they want to illustrate they are better than them. Do not defame one another no call each other by offensive nicknames, how evil it is to act rebelliously after having faith, and whoever does not repent, it is they who are the true wrongdoers, so let's break this down.

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Mocking that's the word that is the most important in this area. So Korea law Yes. Hora Palma min con. La Yes. Yes, hard comes from the word Satya. And so Korea literally means to make fun of, to laugh to mark to embarrass to put down. So if you take a quick overview of this am mocking does not only imply using the tongue, but it also includes mimicking somebody. So just by pretending to act, or walk or behave like someone else.

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So people do this all the time. You know, you heard the way that person speaks, did you listen to their voice, look how that person walks, look how they dress, look, how they sit, look how they stand. It's just even if you decide you're going to make fun of the way somebody moves, walks or interacts without actually saying anything that is also part of Sofia. So So hurry, I can be anything that exemplifies and illustrates you making fun of someone, but with the intention of putting them down, just putting them down embarrassing them, or putting them on the spot, making pointed references to him laughing at his words, or his works, or his appearance, or his dress, or

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calling the people's attention to some sort of defect or blemish in him so that others may also laugh at the person. So look what So Korea continues to be scholars explain that Sophia also entails just pointing out blemishes, marks, you know, look at the mole, look at the pimple on his face, all of that stuff is part of Sofia. Now, why is this a problem?

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I want you to think for a moment, any of those comedians, or pretty much like all movies and shows out there, there's always going to be a moment where somebody is going to make fun of someone. And they're going to do it intentionally, just to you know, put that person on the spot, make fun of them. And everybody gets a good laugh, like comedians do this all the time, they'll like talk about the Spanish people or you know, the blacks, the whites or something. So they'll take a portion of the crowd, and then they'll just hammer a bunch of jokes about that person, or about that group for the next whatever, for the entire show. And if you listen to that stuff enough, this is one problem

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that comes out of this is that you start to believe that that is how those people really are, you start to believe the thing that, you know, started as what you might have assumed was an innocent joke, but it wasn't. So that's the first problem here.

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So it creates a sense of superiority above others. That's the second problem. So the first one is, you actually believe this stuff. And it's very easy for somebody to be convinced by it and laugh about it. And especially if they see what was talked about on that show or with the comedian, whatever the case is, and they make the connection in real life immediately becomes alive. The second problem is the superiority. That's usually the most common reason why people have so So Korea, it's to basically put someone down. You know, everybody, all of us, right? All of us, including myself, we all go through some kind of Sophia, all of us go through it. You know, sharks

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and Imams go through this every day, all day. You know, look at his age, look at his style. Look at the way that he speaks. Why does he choose that topic? He doesn't know much about this or that or Who does she think she is? Like we do this to each other all the time.

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And what that does is that you start to lose respect for that individual. And this is one of the ways that Koran highlights how a human being becomes desensitized to saying and doing the right thing. You know, just a few days ago, I was watching the show, and there was a kid being bullied. And the reason why this kid was having such a tough time dealing with this bully, is because he was sort of like a one man person standing alone, nobody to really turn to his friends had abandoned him and so on. And this bully was making fun of the way this kid looked his hair, his clothing, his backpack, everything that he had on, and he just turned it into a big joke. And most of the students

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started laughing, and they sort of went along with the joke. And then eventually turned to a point where that kid had to pretty much begged his mom to buy him news, new clothes, buy him a new backpack, and he even wanted to leave the school and go to another school. And you know, the mother gave him as much strength and willpower as she clicked to her son. And eventually when he quote unquote, and this is obviously not the way you want to deal with things like them, he kind of just got used to it. And that's when those individuals, some of them started to rethink what it was that they were laughing about what it was that they were making fun of. And some of them came to their

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senses. And the point is, is that for that for an extended period, what was now something serious and real and true. It was a joke for many weeks, many months. And it was literally like emotional and psychological torture for this poor kid. That's a huge problem with Seoul, Korea, because you never know if you're offending the person you're talking about. And what is a joke to you may not be the joke, may not be a joke to the person you're talking about. So it potentially hurts others without you knowing a thing about what you've said. And this is another big problem. It's that insensitivity. You know, you become completely lost and desensitized that Wait a minute. This is

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like a big laugh for me. And everyone I tell the joke, everybody else is supporting me and laughing with me. But I've never took the time to sit and understand what that person feels, what they may be thinking. So this is sometimes where people who find the strength will be like, what's so funny about that? Why you guys laughing about that? Why would you guys make fun of me like that? So they'll come and pop up with those remarks. Then a person who's making fun of everybody by say, oh, yeah, it was just a joke was just so that's not the point. Even if your intention was just the joke. This is the problem is that so Korea played a major part in this joke. And it doesn't it's not funny

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anymore. That's the whole point. Then another reason why this becomes a problem is that it creates mischief, and insensitivity towards people's feelings.

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Which is basically what we've been talking about. Thus far. So this is what So Korea is. And going back to the verse, just so that all of us can see that. Just

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let's go back to the verse real quick. So that's Sophia, that Allah subhanho wa Taala after mentioning Sophia. Now, always remember students keep in mind, remember how the verse began, yet you are Latina, and Natya Yohannes. All of mankind is guilty of some form of Sophia. But this area is concentrated on people of Eman why it's as we mentioned to all of the verses that we've gone through thus far, that started the same way. You are people of faith. You have to be an example. You've got to take leadership in this considering and thinking about how others feel. So before you turn something into a big laugh, put yourself in that individual's position. Put yourself in their

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position. You know, they might talk funny, they might have a strong accent. They may not be as educated or as eloquent as you. They may not be able to pronounce certain words clearly or fluently as you would. And it's not something that you react by laughing or embarrassing. And when you hold yourself back and you

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Think about those things. That is an extension of your faith, your extension of your Eman.

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So that's the first part of this verse. Then the verse continues, while I tell him is to and Fusa comb while Atlanta Bezu. Bill a club. That's where we're going to look at next. Okay.

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I have this example here at the bottom, that edemas route or the olive Warren was known so So Korea was happening even at the time of the prophet Ali has Salatu was Salam. And eponymous route was what you and I would refer to as a midget, and he had really skinny legs. And one day he climbed a tree, and it was a windy day, and so the wind was blowing against him, and it exposed a portion of his leg, some of the Sahabas when they saw that they reacted by laughing at Ebner Massoud. Remember ignoramus, rude who he is, he's one of the companions that is known first and foremost, because of his knowledge of the poor. And if the Masaru Dora the loved one who once said, If I know that

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somebody has knowledge of the poor N, and I don't know that, like I don't know what that knowledge is, I will travel to wherever that individual is, and seek that knowledge. eponymous route when the Sahaba is now we're laughing at him. The Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam told these companions, do you know that the thing that you are laughing at will be heavier on the scale of righteousness, then mount or hood than the mountains of Orford? So in other words, be careful what you're laughing. Because sure, it might look funny now. But the value in terms of sacrifice, sincerity, in terms of reward will outweigh all of the mountains of put together Subhan Allah, and that's Optimus Rhodiola

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horn. So it's just something to sort of keep in mind.

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Now the next part of the Asia, Allah subhanho wa Taala talks about while at tell me zoo and full circle, but there's a question at the top there that I want you to look at. Why does the A is separate male to male and female to female. So why did the I is that alias for power woman home, I sent a Akona Hiram min home. So the first section of the aya spoke to the men. And when the men commit Soria with men, then the next part, the women when they commit Sofia with women, why not just say, right? Because it almost sounds redundant, doesn't it? Why not just say, Don't commit sorry with each other.

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Right? Because, you know, critics of the poor N love to do this. They love to sort of point out what they in their minds from their perspective. It's redundant. It's, you know, it's stretching out the sentence when it's unnecessary and blah, blah, blah, and so on and so forth. Right. But we know why. Or at least some, you know, scholars mentioned why the separation first and foremost,

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it's really easy to push out a generic command to everybody, okay, just don't make fun of each other. But it's more difficult for you to concentrate on the people that you're closest to. So usually the sisters the ladies are most of the time closest to other ladies. These are some of their best friends. These are people that they pray with, they break their fast with they spend time mici with each other best friends and same thing with the guys as well. Right? We pray beside each other, we interact with one another more when we're at them Sajid when we gather as a community, so this is kind of poor ends way in separating the two crowds and giving each of them an exclusive warning. So

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don't think that that rare moment when the guy is talking to the ladies and the ladies are talking to the men, it may be that might not happen as often. But that doesn't matter in the sight of Allah. Because Allah says that even with the people you are closest to that best friend or that person beside you, in Salah and at the masjid that colleague, that best person closest to you. This same ruling applies the same ruling. So that's one wisdom why it's separate is to sort of give a concentrated message of emphasis to

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both sides. This is not tolerated or acceptable by Allah in any way, shape or form. So just keep that in mind. It's very beautiful and very powerful at the same time.

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Now we come to a let me zoom in for a second, while I tell him he zoo, tell me zoo, we all know this word from Lomasa. And tell me zoo is finding flaws in someone, whether it's true or not, and to be condescending towards someone, this is another so this is the second portion of the is another big problem. Unfortunately, in our communities,

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we do this to each other all the time, unfortunately, in our communities, well, let tell me so InfoSec can tell me so Allah described the people who do this, who look for faults, you know, I meet, you know, very often I meet people who will listen to my talks, who will come into my classes, will listen to my hotbars only to pinpoint, only to focus on the mistake or the weak point, or the you know, one sentence you may have mispronounced and hold that I, you know, expand it, and make it very visible, not just to the speaker, but everybody else. That's what I tell him he Zoo. And Allah says insulet Luminesce, why you liquidly him as a T Luma. Z comes from the same word. Allah says

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while while that's a curse from ALLAH given to the people, or to the person who does that, so this is huge. This is a caution that Allah warns us with, that this is a serious problem that Allah is paying attention to. So that's the first point here. Now, who is Allah talking to in this AI? That's where you see number one and number two there in the middle. So some of the rudiments say that you don't have telling me zoo with each other. So you and your fellow brother or sister. But another meaning is really interesting because of the word enforcer calm and foster calm at the end of this a year here at that, don't commit tell me zoo to yourself. So that's the second opinion, where

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scholars say is, this A are also highlights that you don't find a flaw in yourself and put yourself down as a result. So you know what this sounds like? It sounds like when someone says Men, I'm worthless. You know, I'll never get this on never finished a sore, I'll never be able to study, I'll never be able to memorize, I can't do this. I'm just, I'm done. I can't figure this stuff out.

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That's what I tell him he swung for a second. So this a also highlights for us. That

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to help us to remain positive.

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All it's all about just keeping positive with yourself to thinking and being optimistic about you.

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How many people we know need this idea. It's about putting in and, and gaining strength from within pushing yourself to be able to not give up keep trying to keep working at it.

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You know, this is an A every student that attends any class needs to be reminded

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that, you know, the excitement is there, the thirst, the hunger at the beginning of the class. But as teachers and anybody out there who's a teacher, you know, fully well, the starting of the classes, one thing, the ending of that class is a different story. Right? You might start off with a full class, but you graduate or you end with just a handful of students.

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So sometimes what ends up happening, some of those students do this to themselves, put themselves down. So that's just where to learn. But in life in general, you know, somebody will say,

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I've done too much wrong, why start fixing all of that now Allah will never forgive me. Allah will never accept me. Allah will never have mercy on me. Now, how is Allah gonna help me? Look at all the things I've done? Like I'm destined for the fire which are yet to be things like that.

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It is fundamentally wrong to say that to yourself,

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Why because he's still alive.

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When you're still alive, that is a indirect indication that the doors of Toba and forgiveness are still open. So as long as you are here, you should and must be positive. Don't put yourself down, just because you have one fault or flaw. What about the 100 of good and strong qualities that are still in you? What about those? So Well, I tell him so unphysical why I said that we do this to each other all the time within our communities, is just think about how easy how easily people in general, point out the flaws of their fellow brother or sister. So you might like, be really good friends, you know, with with, you know, this group of Muslims or what have you, right? Really good

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friends with a group of people until you go out, then you see one of them the way they eat, or the way they drink, or the way they dress and you're like, oh,

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wow, you you really eat a lot. That's telling me someone for a second. Let's not point that stuff out. Maybe that is maybe you are right, maybe that is a flaw. Just stay quiet. If you want to address it, address it in a more appropriate way. Quietly, alone, with kindness, with humility, with wisdom with knowledge. That's what's being highlighted here. The next part of the I Am,

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Allah takes the conversation one step further. While at Tana Bazoom Bill lowcarb

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do not use hurtful words. So Canada zoo, are just

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words that are offensive. Right? So basically a lot of what we've talked about so Korea, and not telling me soon, these are, quote unquote, offensive themselves. Now Allah is going to hit the nail on the head and address specifically words that are very obvious, unacceptable, inappropriate offensive. So cursing and swearing. You know, a lot of young people ask me this, what's Is there any a and the poor n that says that we shouldn't swear, or we can't use you know, particular word or this or that? Yeah, this is it here. There are others as well. But this is one of the well that they now bezel that do not use hurtful words, build a pub, or even nicknames. And apart from the word

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LACOB, even nicknames, good or bad. So what is this talking about? You know,

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in most cultures,

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probably all cultures, everybody's given a nickname, everybody's given a nickname in some way, you know, somebody wouldn't be like a good, you know, carpenter works really well with his hands. So he's given a nickname, the handyman or whatever, sorry, another person might eat a certain sweet or have a certain drink, and their nickname is given to them after that drink or that sweet. That's all okay. This am, what it's telling us is don't do that to the point where people forget the real name of that person.

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Everybody will call them based on this nickname that culture or society or friends, pushed on him or her. And like I said, cultures do this all the time. And that's what Allah Allah is highlighting. It's not just the fact that now, you know, this nickname carried on for so long that people don't even know what the true name of that person is. But in addition to that, in addition to them, it could potentially be embarrassing or offensive. So that's built on top. So these are things that Allah is telling you and I don't to do. If you do give someone a nickname. That's one thing. But when you staple that nickname on their identity, where people forget who that person truly is,

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that's what the AI is talking about. So if you ask, Well, does this aI mean that I cannot have a nickname at all? That's not what the AI is saying.

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Because why in the beginning, Allah says well at Tanner Bezu. So because the word TANAP is is attached to build a cob, and we know that it's attached, we know it's linked. There's one sentence because of the letter back that's attached to build a pod, because they're linked together this way. Allah is highlighting a certain aspect of nicknames that he says don't do. What aspect is that? That's the one that's hurtful, embarrassing. It's weird. Doesn't make sense. Okay, maybe

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The five people in his or her friendship circle will understand the point of that nickname. Fine. What about everybody else? Everybody else is now starting to say the same thing. Start to say the same thing. They start calling the person by the same name. You know, unfortunately, like I meet people who do this all the time, right? They'll be like, Yeah, my name is Mohamed, but people know me as you know, Bobby.

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People know me as a kid you not his real one, right? I met any man. Not in here, another place another country. And his name was Mohamed. But he said that people know me know me as the mailman. So you can just call me mailman. What am I gonna do? Brother mailman? You kidding me? So are shell mailman? Like, what do you want me to say here? No, I'm gonna call you, Chef Muhammad. I'm gonna call you brother Mohammed. That's your name. So that's what the A is talking about. But it continues.

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This part of the Asia highlights and takes it even further. So look what happened with Seoul, Korea. We have well at Telhami zoom, we have the Alucard. And we also now we have we have 10 Ebisu. So you have four things so far. So Korea, telling me zoom, XR bazoo. And then I'll pop. Now we're going to the fifth and it's all in just one a year. Now we're gonna go to the fifth part of the a beat Salus Mori for soup. barrydale, in Big Sur is Shame, shame, shame

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that you are given a name that is offensive. It's filthy. It's nothing good about it. After you were given Amen. So this here, Allah highlights and addresses the most extreme. What's the most extreme here?

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Beat Sally Smith was so bad words are terrible after you have faith. So these are the people who swear. Again, we all meet Muslims, I'm talking about Whoa, it's just part of their tongue. You know, they'll say, you know, that curse word that you were taught never to say? He's like, Yeah, oh, no, I'm just used to saying, Oh, I I bet no, seems like this everywhere. Oh, I just swear, like, you know, no big deal. And then some Muslims try to be clever about it. Look at the example I put in front of the screen. So some will swear, but do it indirectly, alluding to the bad word. So they'll say What the fudge you and I both know, what the word fudge should be or what that person intends.

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So what are you implying, that's what Allah cares about. And so to even just say What the fudge is unacceptable, because why you're still implying the same thing. But you're trying to play tricks, you're going through a hybrid way, and trying to sort of allude to it but not say it doesn't matter, the phrase that you use meant it, that's what Allah is highlighting, Subhan Allah, you can't play around with him subhanho wa Taala there's just no room for that. And this is one of the things that makes poor ends so beautiful and so complete.

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That it highlights nuances that you and I interact with, we probably even use, and not to realizing that wait a minute, that is also what is being highlighted in this a or in these a yet. So it is not the etiquettes of a believer to swear. So you know, when I get asked about you know, cursing and using swear words by anybody. These are some of the things that you want to use to respond to that beat. So listen before so unbearable. Mm beat, sir is like shame on you. What a waste. How could you? That's a bit sir. So it says if Allah has reached to a point in this part of the area where he's just warning you to a point like what's wrong with you?

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You have Eman.

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You have faith. And you talk like that. And you use those kinds of words. I don't care if you're joking. I don't care if you didn't actually quote unquote, say it. But you alluded to her.

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You switched it with a nice word. But you didn't you're not actually talking about fudge has nothing to do with fudge. So you're alluding to the same thing. So there's Allah saying, like Don't play games with me beat Sally Smith who sue for Sue from the word fish spawn something that's inherently corrupt. It becomes decayed and old and sets off an odor after some time. Like if you don't know

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Dress it becomes a habit and people just get accustomed to it, no matter how filthy or dirty it is, that's called Fiske. So Allah is saying that these kinds of names, if you use it and you repeat them enough, you become used to it. So people will start using the sentences I just get accustomed to, because why they can just say to them, Look, you know, I'm not actually swearing. So now you know, that in the Koran, whether you actually say the word explicitly or not, does not matter in the sight of Allah. So keep that in mind. SubhanAllah. So this is not the etiquettes of a believer, particularly when the same tongue is pronouncing por en en vicar. So that's one thing to just

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reflect on. And keep in mind students that, you know, at the end of the day, you call yourself a person of faith. And a person who has been blessed and honored with Amen. Just look what Allah has done for you. Allah put you in a place in life, where you acknowledge and affirm La ilaha illa, Muhammad Rasul Allah, like, you have this shahada with you, and you carry that in your heart, you carry that as a part of your life. As a matter of fact, it is your life, and you live by La ilaha illallah, you make all the decisions in your life and they all revolve around La Ilaha illa Allah,

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but then the tongue does that.

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If you can't have one and not the other, like, you just, they will always clash with each other. You can't have both of these things existing at the same time. So this aim is helping you and I to sort of clean up some of the bad habits when it comes to the tongue. And then finally, for this idea, Allah subhanho wa Taala then concludes let me just go back to

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me, so let's move to soap barrydale. Eman woman lemmya Tuber, then ever does not make doba for all that's been mentioned here. Felt hula, Ico humo volley Moon for that individual. They are certainly amongst those who have done wrong. May Allah protect us from being amongst them Allahumma me. Let's go on to the next verse.

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Why assumption and Backbiting is dangerous? Okay, we know it's wrong. Why is it dangerous? That's a that's a strong word to use. So remember, keep in mind the theme of this sorta it's all about building a healthy society. And that society starts off by building a Islamically healthy home. So you're starting with your family, and you want to be able to sift out and clean up some of these have bad habits if you're guilty of them. So this next verse, verse number 12. Here Allah subhana wa tonglu will highlight some very specific things with regards to the tongue. That is unacceptable to him. Subhana wa Tada Yeah, you're letting me know how many verses started with yo yo Latina um, and

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when the Sora this is probably like the fifth one. And we're only in 12 out yet. Although there's 18 verses. So we're getting we're getting close to the end. But just think about are we four or five? Yeah, you're Latina aminu is already happened in the sorta so this is Allah really really pushing the message to you and I people have Amen. So people have Eman, aged attorney will Kathy are on Kathy room mean of one in a bearable one FM so let's look at the first part. Avoid many suspicions for indeed some suspicions are sinful.

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So a LUN is the Arabic word for suspicion or making assumption. And one literally is to assuming the intent of the other. So just assuming that you know what that person is thinking, or is going to do, or has the meant behind his or her words without actually verifying that's called ven in another sort of insert it so that Eunice Allah says woman yet Tibi or federal eating vanilla, in vanilla you who need mental help. So in another sort of circuit units, Allah says

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that assumption is the thing that most people will do and will follow

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Subhana Allah like in Lahore, and Allah is telling us most of you are going to be guilty of this. And if you're not doing it, you're following it. Just assuming, you know, you see like, you know, guys

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girl walking somewhere the mall or whatever, you know, like, God wonder if they're married. Maybe they're not married, I didn't know I didn't hear they were gonna get married. This am literally says Just be quiet.

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Assume that they're married, case closed, unless you know for sure don't talk about it.

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We do this to each other again all the time. You know, this is everything about building a healthy society, how we talk about each other. So we already addressed when there are problems between each other what to do, but honestly who Bina Holly

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Now Allah is concentrating on the tongue. When you talk about each other, when you say things to one, when you label each other in this area now, now you're not even talking to that person. You're just making up an assumption of what you think that person is doing, or has said.

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It's completely unacceptable. Like as a matter of fact, it like it's just one of those things that really truly, it doesn't make sense why people would do that.

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We're gonna talk a little bit very shortly as to, although this is the worst type of lie, and most people will believe in it. Why do people follow this stuff? Like if you know that, okay, you're hearing some information about so and so. But it hasn't been verified. You didn't actually talk to that person. We took an A like that as well, right? where Allah says ninja confesses on being a bit fatter. They you know, like, if somebody comes to you fast, sick, somebody who's corrupt comes through with any kind of news or information. If it's about, you know, confirm it, find clarity in it. So that

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instruction has already been given to us. So why is it that people still do that? Well,

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there are many answers to this. But one of them who doesn't like juicy gossip?

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You know, I'll tell you who doesn't like

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people of faith. True. Amen. They get uncomfortable.

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When somebody is making an assumption on behalf of someone else. We need to hear that or if you're guilty of doing your Eman kicks in, and it doesn't feel right. And you don't want to do it again. You'll do it once or twice, but you'll realize no I can't do that. I can't talk about the person that way. Now keep this in mind assumption opens the door for Heba.

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Okay, assumption opens the door for LIBOR. So if it starts off this way, and the Prophet Ali's thought was salon tells us a year Cornwall run for in novena EC W. Kevin, our Prophet alayhi salatu salam said, I warn you of assumption, because this is assumption, the worst type of lie. So that's another reason. So it's the whole culture and the idea of the thirst for gossip, the thirst to hear and learn information that others don't have access to. You're the first person or you've been given some sort of knowledge nobody else had. And you know, kind of makes you feel a bit proud. Kind of makes you feel like wow, I actually Yeah, I know that.

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Processing says that's a worst type of lie you just heard. Why is it the worst type of lie? Because it's completely fabricated chances are you might be right but that's not the point in this i Allah is saying just don't do it at all. Don't assume about anybody. So that's important.

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So now that that's been said and done,

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Allah says each tenable, each tenable. Let's go on to

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each Teddy boom, literally means that it comes from the word gen one and Gen bone is when somebody is like sitting right beside you like your neighbor or something, right? You're sitting on a bus, the person right next to you is B, GEN B, you know is right next to you directly there, you're good. There's nothing between you and that individual. That's the word that's using that Allah is using to protect yourself from assumption age 10 He will cathedral mental one. So protect yourself. So how is the instruction given to us to protect ourselves from assumption? Allah is saying, watch out and be careful of assumption.

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As if it was right there whispering into your ear.

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Like it's right there.

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24 hours a day, watch out, you know that part of the verse

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sort of highlights just how common this happens. Like it's going to be part of literally every single conversation you have out there Subhan Allah, may Allah protect us. May Allah purify our tongues, may Allah protect us from the evil act of assumption Allahumma me.

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Now this is, you know, believe it to believe her confidentiality is the next part of the verse, Then Allah subhana wa Tinus, as well as just says to to just assume, don't spy on one another. So you see the door for Libra is now starting to open because why the assumption wasn't addressed. So the doors of Libra start to open.

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The first step into this world of backbiting

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right here

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just says Sue,

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that just says, Sue, this is forbidden, because the intention that comes with it 99% of the time, it harbors evil intentions. That just says Sue, is somebody literally with the intention, trying to dig out more about that person, whether it be visually just spying on them visually spying them on spying on them in conversation, listening, wherever he picks up the phone, can I just hang around? Oh, that's what he's talking about? Well, that's what can hear the person on the phone. That's the decision. Somebody leaves their computer open? No, there's the email. Oh, that's, whoa, that's just so you know,

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counseling is happening in his office. But because it's a sister, the people in office are just like, Oh, I know what's going on in there. It's just so inappropriate. That's to just say, Sue, law says don't do that.

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You're a person of faith. If you don't have something to work with, then it is fundamentally wrong and forbidden for you to assume.

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Yeah, it's one thing when you're being cautious. That's a totally different intention. So don't mix the two. If you're trying to caution somebody say, hey, look, you know, doesn't look right. And maybe you should, you know, not do your counseling like that, you know, probably not sit there because you're hearing things you shouldn't hear. That's a different scenario. Because the intention behind that is you want the best in terms of protection for your fellow brother or sister. That's fine. That's not assumption. This is the separator. The assumption leads to this where the person gets thirsty for more and more and more. So go back to assumption. Now, somebody assumes that that

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person,

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they'll be like, Oh, my God, I saw them walking together. I think they're married. That's the assumption. Now, if nobody says, okay, look, look, we shouldn't say anything, because we don't know for sure. Maybe they are married, who knows right? One person in that conversation now goes to the justice. Why? Because then probably like, Okay, well, they know their names. Let me look up on Facebook, maybe they wrote that they're married, and you go and check out their Insta. Let me go and figure out let me just kind of like, watch when they get in the column. See if they come in the same car together. See, you literally become a just Seuss, right? You become somebody who's spying. Now,

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if that continues, that's when the person now falls into the real, the biggest problem of all, the lever.

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And the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam told us about that either. I'm not going to talk to you about the leap, I'll just say share with you. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam forbade backbiting and talking about anybody, even if it's the truth, even if you're saying something good.

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Even if you're saying something good, no right to talk about unless that person is their present. And usually 99% of the time the person wants to be present. Even if you're telling the truth. You might be talking about like, I don't know, a

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group of people and be like, Yeah, I think she's pregnant. Because I see her, you know, she looks like she's pregnant. You don't get to make that assumption. You don't make that's backbiting because why, even if it is true, that person didn't allow you to say anything, and they're not present. So even if you're saying they're half the profit, hourly social services, don't do it, it is still a lever. So their presence is everything. Now there are some instances when LIBOR we're talking about somebody is permissible. We're coming to that next but this as is well a young barrel do come barrel door that you don't back bite on

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amongst yourselves, don't backbite one another. Okay, so that's a clear explicit

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command. Don't do this. Okay?

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Before we look at the consequence, when is backbiting allowed? A lot of people ask this question, right? These are the six areas that the scholars have collected.

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It's mentioned in pretty much any fifth book any image more, if you'd like collection. Mm hmm. No, even TV and others, all of them mentioned, generally speaking, these six areas, so the first is oppression, somebody is literally oppressing you, wronging you abusing you. So the husband, the wife, children, somebody the you know, community, whatever the case is, and you want to be able to warn, you want to go to the authorities and report that person or tell them arrested or something, go to a counselor, you can make reference to their name, you can say, you know, this is what he did, to me, this is what she said of me, this is what I've been dealing with. And you know, these are the

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problems that come come out of that. So oppression, this is not considered backbiting. Number two, stopping evil. So you see somebody doing something wrong. And let's just say you can communicate with them, right? Maybe there's a language barrier or whatever, right? You don't have access to you can. So you can go now to the people in charge and report that individual and say, you know, I saw them do this, I saw him break the glass. I saw him steal from the masjid, I saw him break into that house. So to stop evil. So if you're calling the police, you can literally if you know the person or their name or what have you, you can literally say that right? Not considered it backbiting, seeking

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fatwah. So you're looking for direction, you're looking for answers. And it involves certain individuals or particular business or person, whatever the case is, right? I want to marry so and so this is the qualities that he or she has, I would like some advice about that person. I'd like to know more about their family. So seeking a fatwa, some sort of direction that brings you closer to Allah is also not considered backbiting. Number four, warning the Muslims. So, stopping the evil is one thing, but now you want to put out an official warning to everybody be careful of so and so place or such and such person or such and such movement. not consider the backbiting, right? Because

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the game the intention behind that is the overall overall safety and security of everyone else, not considered backbiting. Number five, openly transgressing when somebody is openly and publicly doing something wrong or offensive, like you see somebody drunk, right in the middle of the street or on the sidewalk, and he's just shouting abusive language and words to people coming by. So you want to like, you know, warn people look, if you turn that corner, you're going to see a guy there, and this is what he's doing. So just be careful, not considered backbiting, for obvious reasons. And then finally, Number Six, for identification, right. And that should be obvious as well, when you need to

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identify anybody for whatever good positive need or reason behind it. And you need to ID that individual. And again, the purpose of that is valid, it's important, it fits into one of these categories, somewhere, there's a need, then, of course, you can identify that individual by their name, and not considered backbiting. And this is unanimous, by the way, these six areas here unanimous amongst the LMS. So just keep that in mind. I get this a lot lots of muscle like, look, I want to tell you about her, I want to tell you about him, but I fear backbiting, know if you need help, if you need direction, if you need an answer from me, then you've got to give me a full story.

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If not, it's it's one thing when you have to give the full story so that you get the right answer, as opposed to giving the full story just because the person you're talking to is interested to learning more or knowing more, two different things. One is definitely labor and the other is so just keep that in mind the six areas and with that being said, we conclude this Asia, ALLAH SubhanA winter Allah then tells us the consequences of people who don't stop backbiting.

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i Your Hibou I had to come in yet Kula lamb he he may tell so we're coming to it in a minute right.

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LACMA ahi Mater.

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Do you love that you should consume an

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eat the flesh of his brother, Mater is not the same as Muay Thai or mount Mater is like the body has been sitting there, and it's laid there for some time.

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What happens to a body when it's left there for,

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you know, a period of time, I don't want to describe this to you, but we should all know, right, we should all be at least, we should all sort of have an idea, when, when you leave even a carcass, there for some time, what ends up happening to it. So gradually, when it starts to change in that way, that's Mater. Now when you think about those images, especially of a human being, it's really uncomfortable.

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You know, I remember a while ago, I saw a post of somebody who put a picture of a hand. And they were showing the status of how a body decays after it's buried. And so it showed, you know, the discolor, then the exposure of the skin, and then what's beneath the skin, then the skeleton Nnn, and so on, so forth, right. And I think that image has been taken down, because it went viral, it was all over social media. And I've handled that like many people just kind of felt like uncomfortable. If I would say, looking at that image, it just wasn't the kind of thing that you know, you'd want to see. And be reminded at least that open and that explicit, okay, fine. This

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area, though, Allah just give

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and he taught us how you're going to feel that if you can imagine eat flesh of some of someone like that just laying their fat carry to moon, you're gonna be disgusted by it. What is the wisdom behind this imagery?

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The wisdom behind this, this is what I will conclude with Inshallah,

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how would you react and how you feel when you think of consuming, you know, a body like that that's just been laying there decayed. So that disgust and that the discomfort you feel, just imagining that

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is the same way you're supposed to feel when you hear backbiting or you back by yourself.

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So, if on social media, you remove that image, okay, fine. Everybody was comfortable by so it was removed. What about all of the sentences and the paragraphs of people talking about someone else?

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How come we don't get uncomfortable and want fat to be removed?

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surprisal here really makes you think,

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really makes you think. And it changes your attitude and your approach to the subject. The one who back bites is cursed by Allah. How? Because it goes back to the same sort of why you Lulu equally whom as I tell Luminesce

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Luminesce and humans are

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all pretty much the same thing. You know, the person was going to find faults and spread that and talk about it all is intertwined and connected to one another, you know, ultimately at the end of the day, regardless of what your intention is, you're still backbiting you're still doing this. And that's the thing that Allah subhanho wa Taala does not want and does not accept. So going back to the verse, students to conclude

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what Tapachula in Allah Tala Rahim, Allah subhanho wa Taala then concludes to have Taqwa of Allah, that indeed he is most Merciful in accepting your repentance and forgiveness. This as you see in front of you will be next week's a insha Allah Tala. Again lots to hatch out and uncover in this beautiful verse. So stay tuned for that Bitly link tarla so here's where we will pause for today guys, I pray that Allah subhanaw taala allow us to receive the message and the lessons of this beautiful surah I pray that Allah subhana wa Taala purify our hearts and purify our tongue. And may Allah subhana wa Taala protect us from all that displeases Him and bring us closer to all that

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pleases Him love and money for Jazak malo Hira brothers and sisters. Thank you all for tuning in and I look forward to seeing you all next week be vanilla heater. So take care stay safe.

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was salam Wa alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh