The Ideal Muslim Society #03 – Respect Privacy

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The speakers discuss the importance of respecting privacy and privacy in relation to men and women, as well as the use of patient language in dealing with challenging situations. They stress the importance of patient patience and finding the right person for the overall good and benefit of society. The speakers also emphasize the need for responsibility and clarification when dealing with false information and avoiding false rumors. They end with a invitation to join a webinar on sex and privacy.

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala shortfill MB will mursaleen Nabina Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa ala early he was Herbie here Intermarine when the standard be Suniti he Isla Yama Deen. Ama by our brothers and sisters As Salam or aleikum wa rahmatullah here about a calcium. Thank you all, once again for joining us as we continue our journey through this magnificent pseudo pseudo hoogenraad. And as you can see in front of you, today, we are on verse number four. And we will continue our journey with the sorum now we start to see, you know, an array of topics that are going to be introduced to us, and very interesting how

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the connection between topics that we are going to see and their connection in building that healthy Ideal Muslim society, the Ideal Muslim family, so it's going to be really interesting. And as you can see, in sha Allah Huhtala the next subject at hand is respecting privacy. And this is in relation to the messenger SallAllahu Ali, who was Selim and the time that he spends with his wives. This particular verse was sent down when a particular tribe by the name of Benny Tamim or benoot, Tamim, they were looking for the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, and they went to the section where the process salams wives, each of them had their own quarter or their own room. So each of his wives had

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their own privacy and their own space. So this particular Trump tribe or this group didn't know which quarter the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam was staying in. So what did they do? How did they get his attention? Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us now, in the Latina unit, do NACA unit do not come in water issue jurati axon layer Pilon, indeed, most of those who call out to you, oh, prophet from outside your private quarters, have no understanding of manners SubhanAllah. So what is the lesson here, there's a couple of things to keep in mind.

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A group from Ben Tamim as we mentioned, didn't know which house he was in. So they shouted out his name. So that was the only way that they could get his attention. So just imagine you're in your house, you're spending time with your family. And all of a sudden you hear somebody in your driveway, screaming and shouting your name. If you are in the position, like the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam is in I mean, he's a noble individual. He's a blessitt men. He's a prophet of Allah, he carries great honor and great status. This is immediately one of the things you don't do for towards people of honor and status. And you're going to see that here and one of these notes

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that we have. And so the first problem is that they wanted his attention, but they would scream and raise his voice. And we've already seen in the sort of, that that is inappropriate with the messenger SallAllahu it was. This is why Allah says act federal homeland ERP that most of them can seem to understand and comprehend and truly internalize what the lesson is about raising their voice to this man sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the private quarters were, as we mentioned, is the house or the houses of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, his wives, a rational, intelligent person, would be well mannered, and approach him with manners and fine conduct. So in other words, our scholars tell

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us that when you need to get the attention of somebody of nobility, status and honor, which is the last point you see there, shouting in general, is a sign of bad manners that you should never shout at all. Especially when you're trying to address a problem or trying to get someone's attention, just screaming out their name, screaming out their title, or just screaming at them in general, is completely inappropriate in any culture or society. So why did this happen? Didn't these people from Benu Tamim know the who they were reaching out to remember Benu Tamim is a group of veterans that lived out in the desert, and they were not accustomed to city life. So as a result, they're not

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interacting with people of different backgrounds and different cultures on a daily basis. As a matter of matter of fact, some of them probably never dealt with anybody within the city of Medina. They were always on the outskirts within the mountains in the middle of the desert away from civilization. So that interaction wasn't there. So that's the first problem that creates that barrier between you and the appropriate mannerisms and etiquettes that's required.

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When you're talking and addressing people of honor and nobility, and we see this all the time that you just watch the news, how people talk to presidents, kings and prime ministers and so on, there's a certain etiquette, there's a certain posture, sometimes you follow them. But the point is, we're not shouting at anybody, you're using the appropriate words, you're addressing that individual, by their title, by their appropriate name, all of those things. So rational, intelligent person should at least know and understand who they're talking to. And in this case, it's the most honorable human being, which is, of course, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So that is a reflection of

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good etiquettes. Take a look what Allah subhanaw taala says here,

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those who reached out and called out you so here's the next lesson in terms of the actual a itself. Now you can imagine

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the prophesy Selim is with his wife, okay? We don't know which one, but the point is, he's spending time with his wife, and somebody suddenly starts screaming out for you. Now, our version of that is, we probably don't have people coming in front of our home screaming our names. But instead, you'll have people that will call that'll text you, you know, trying to get your attention. Somebody doesn't respond to you. The etiquette of a Muslim, the advocate of a believer in general, is that you have what the Prophet alayhi salatu salam taught us called a concept called horsnell One. And personal one is when you think good about your fellow brother or sister, so the first thing that

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comes to mind, why aren't they picking up my call? Why aren't they responding to my text, or they're probably ignoring me, they probably don't want to talk that probably too busy for me see those kinds of reactions is the complete opposite of what is expected of us as believers, rather who Smith one should think good about your brother and sister, especially in times in cases where you don't know or you're not present, you don't have any knowledge of what's going on. And this is especially relevant to people when they are at home. You know, you could be working with colleagues, you could be going to school with friends, you could be seeing people at the masajid within the community,

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what have you. But as soon as the the leave your presence, and they go home, the whole point of verses like this is for us to take into consideration that we don't know what's happening, it's somebody else's home. So the bare minimum that is required of us, if you're trying to reach somebody, but you know, it's late, you know, they might be home, you know, might be it might be with family, so on and so forth. That extra step that extra, that little bit of consideration. And courtesy, if they don't respond to my call, fine, I'll try another time. That's what's being called out here in this area. And Allah subhanaw taala is saying that if you don't possess those kinds of

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etiquettes, especially with the people of nobility, then look what Allah says, Federal Home lawyer appealing, they have absolutely no ability of good understanding, good mannerisms, the appeal comes from the word Apple. Apple is intellect. It says if Allah is saying, like, they have no brains, they have no intellect Subhanallah like, what the next time you find yourself or somebody else is trying to reach you. And for people like us, like Imams, and so on. Our phones are going off non stop. And you know, when we can we answer we respond 90% of the time somebody is calling with a question, a problem, so on and so forth. And you know, it doesn't happen too often. But it certainly happens

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where we'll get a call, and we'll get it like 10 times a day, then we'll get it the following day, the following day. And even if you answer you take the call one of those days you discuss the problem person calls back again and again. And then it's that follow up then it's it's continuous. And that's just literally unbearable. It's not manageable. Because again, you know, you're consumed by so many other things, that it's impossible for you to devote each and every moment of spare time towards the needs of whomever it is on the other side. So all of these little things, this is what this essay is about. So respecting privacy. Now what does that have to do with building an ideal

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society, an Ideal Muslim community, it should be obvious now just respecting people's quarters, respecting people's privacy in their homes, if you need that, but you can get them try again a later time. That's the whole idea with this particular verse. So shouting in general, is a sign of bad manners, especially towards people of piety and status. Okay.

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The next area is a continuation of a&m

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Before and the title of this particular verse is patients always wins. So what kind of patients are we looking at here? Well no whom Sabat or Hattah tahajjud Elaine him Locanda higher level, Allah says that had they been patient, they meaning then tell me if they were just patient, meaning if they just gave him some time, okay, we don't know where he is. We don't know which quarter he's in. We don't even know if he's in any of these quarters. So let's just relax, wait a little bit, ask somebody around the misdeed message in the Message area, ask around somebody in the community. Allah says Allah can hire a lemon, that would have been so much better for them better, in what sense? You

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would have refrained from falling into assumption, like our Prophet Ali's thought was salam told us like the worst type of lie, the worst type of lie towards your fellow brother or sister is making an assumption on their behalf. So worst type of lie, we're gonna talk a lot about this in the next idea. So it's coming up in the rest of the session is going to all be devoted on to the subject. But in the meantime, let's talk a little bit about this A and especially the patients that Allah is looking for, in this particular scenario. And then Allah conclusiveness as well love will have fooled a Rahim. Allah is all forgiving an ever Merciful. So let's take a look at what's being

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highlighted here in this is, what is the wisdom in waiting in this area? What is the wisdom in waiting in this area? Number one, one of the greatest wisdoms is that you definitely learn not just to be patient, but to also develop that one and that good way of thinking about others, especially you don't know what their situation is, you don't know where they are, you don't know what they're doing. Just keeping yourself together, and trying different ways to get through it to get that person's attention. That's the deep, that's the biggest wisdom in this area. And by doing that, it leads to the most beautiful quality of a human being. And that is, as you see in your screen,

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Patience. Patience is not just okay, I'm not going to do anything. I'm just going to sit here and wait. That's not That's not all. What patience is. That's a fragment. It's a part of patients. The patients also includes forbearance. It includes endurance, it includes steadfastness, it includes perseverance, and it includes restraints. So just like you want to react, but you don't. So you might feel upset, and your anger, the temper immune, you want to say or react or do something, but you hold yourself back because why? If that was the case, you would cross a boundary that Allah put on you, Allah put those boundaries there. Just because you feel angry, just because you feel upset

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or just because you're feeling overwhelmed. Doesn't mean that the first reaction you feel or you think about you act upon that no, that's called sub when you hold yourself from reacting in a manner you know, is displeasing to Allah, you will hold yourself from that. That's what patience is. So it's really very different than just okay, you can't cry. No, you can cry. But if you're crying and complaining, Oh Allah, why did you do this? To me? That's the kind of cry You shouldn't cry. You need to have patience. When you cry. In that state. You are allowed to feel scared, which you can feel scared to the point where, you know, you're again, Oh Allah, why so much fear why so much pain

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all around me? Well, there has to be like, you don't want to speak up on behalf of Allah or to Allah in that manner. That's called being patient. If somebody really angers and upsets you, you want to go there, you want to you know, do something do you want to punch them in what kicked them you want to curse back like, that's what shaitan comes into us and just help makes us want to take that step and react, whatever it is you're feeling react upon it, but you fight that off.

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You fight it off. You have patience, and the peak of patience. There are several levels of patience. The top of it all, is of course as many of you know, the patients of yaku Bala Salaam in Surah Yusuf and it's called sub rune Jamil it's called Beautiful patients. That's the kind of patients where you don't even feel anything. If you do, it's just between you and Allah. You don't tell anybody or sad. You keep that just between you and Allah. Your tears are just for you and Allah, your anger and whatever emotion you're feeling and experiencing at that moment. You don't share it.

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or show that to nobody. Your emotions are exclusive between you and Allah. If you're at that point, then that's called sold on JVZoo. And the only way that you work on dealing with the problem, whatever problem is at hand, dealing with that situation is you're constantly playing, you're constantly praying, and you're complaining all of your complaints to ALLAH SubhanA with her, when you do that, when you fully rely on Allah, that's Sablon, Jamil. And our Prophet Arlene salatu. Salam told us in number Sabater, in the supplemental Oola patience is should be and must be the first initial reaction to any bad news. Any bad situation, your first initial reaction to somebody

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hits you, your first reaction shouldn't be to hit back. The first reaction is just calm down, be patient, and figure out what's happened.

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imagine if people did that. How Subhanallah how beautiful. This world, our communities, the interaction we have with how beautiful all of that would be. The first reaction is just hold on, keep yourself together. If somebody said something to you, or you heard a rumor, you heard somebody perhaps backbite it against whatever you pause, and you try to figure it out. There are three main types of patients. And these are the three in front of you, we don't really need to expand on it too much. Because they're they're pretty obvious patients in worship, you know, it's not easy to get up or Fudger every single day. And now as we get towards the the warmer climate we get towards spring

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and summer. And so at least to where I am fed, you're starting to become earlier and earlier. And it's already started to do that. That's not easy. Especially if you're going to work early in the morning, then you got to wake up like three o'clock and four o'clock in the morning, and so on. And to do that consistently throughout your life. That's not, that's not an easy thing to do. And especially there are so there's so much good turn all of the blessings and reward. But most of the time, we don't see any of that at this moment. We see that later. Because Neela heater Allah, so patients in worship in general. And it's not just to actually perform the worship, but during that

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act of worship as well. Like right now,

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you let's say you're trying to learn how to read por en. And so you're going through the alphabets, you're learning basic Arabic, that's a process, it takes time. And sometimes it could be it could get really frustrating that you feel like you're not getting this, your pronounciation is not getting there, or you stuck on one page, you can't get to the next page, which is getting closer and closer to actually reciting the Quran. But you keep working at it. That's patients in worship as well. Then you have patience in abstaining from the prohibitions of a lot. So patients and just abstaining and protecting yourself from how long when Allah says don't do certain things. It's

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tempting. Sometimes it is tempting, because why it's all around you. And then shaitan, you know, invites you and makes it all look so good. So appeal, it's so tempting. But you still continue to ward, all of that, you still continue to fight away from all of that. That's the second type of patients. And of course, as you see, the third type of patients is with the powder in the decree of Allah subhanaw taala. That is probably the hardest of the three is the last one, you know why? Because despite all that you've been waiting for, and striving for and hoping for, to know that at the very end, you might anticipate a result. But the result became something completely different.

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That's a tough one. That's really difficult. Just imagine you're striving and striving and striving to achieve this one goal. And once you get to the end, something happens or there's a shift in that journey, and you're unable to fulfill that goal, to remind yourself, this was the quarter of Allah. And there is one side point here that I want to mention about this third type of patients right? Often for us as Muslims, we kind of use this type of patients to shut the door on somebody who wants to event or complain. So for example, if somebody was striving to graduate within four years in some kind of program, and then they're reaching the four year mark, and they're going through their last

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semester after this semester. They will graduate

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In that semester, they failed one subject. And as a result, they have to repeat that subject. So they cannot graduate with the rest of their friends. And of course, they cannot fulfill the goal that they had set in mind four years ago. That's heart wrenching, that could be so heartbreaking for so many students. And then somebody says, Well, okay, that was the cover of Allah, what can you do?

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I understand when somebody says the other of Allah, we totally get where they're coming from. And we should and must accept that. But at the same time,

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it's usually is presented in a way that shuts the door on that person from ever feeling or expressing the kind of emotions that they're feeling. So sometimes they could be really overwhelmed with sadness and grief. Sometimes they could even reach the state of some sort of depression and anxiety. It really stressful for them. They worked so hard to reach that point. And unfortunately, they failed one subject and now they got to continue studying and everything's changed. Sometimes, for us to appreciate and accept the decree of Allah requires us to unload some of those emotions, unload some of those emotions. This is exactly what Jaco Valley is Salam did. When all of the sons

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are around him, all of his children are there. And they said to their father call to Tala locker, the etheric Allah. They said something. It wasn't nice. It was kind of rude towards the Father. And they're like, you're still grieving about us if like you're still going on talking about him. And then yeah, cool. Barley is Salam responds to the rest of his sons. And he says, paella in nama ash call bethey were Hosni Illa, he said, that I complain, and my worries, all of this I shifted towards. And I complain to Allah subhanho wa taala. The point here is this. He's allowing himself to express that emotion, of grief and sadness, and pain and tears, he's allowing himself to let it out.

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So when we tell somebody that listen, that's the color of Allah, there's nothing you can do about it. It's important to be sensitive, when you say that to somebody, especially after they've gone through a major disappointment, after they've been striving and working so hard towards the goal, and they got very close to it. But then something happened beyond their control, it's so important to follow that up with some form of conversation, or at least leaving the window slightly open, to allow them to sort of unload a bit of that emotion. This is good for our mental health. This is good for us overall. And this is something that our prophets and messengers all of them did. So they

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didn't just say pub dot Allah and that was it in a ball it bottled up how they felt and moved on. No, there's still that human in us, there's still a part of us that needs to express and unload. And that should happen within the parameters that our deen have set for us. And may Allah subhanaw taala always in forever, bless us and strengthen us with patients alone mean. Now, this particular area is the verse that we are going to study now for the rest of the session inshallah.

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So this particular verse is all about verifying, or clarifying news. So here's the next step in terms of problems or struggles when it comes to building an ideal society. So now the sorter is going to shift and start tackling the problems, we've already laid the foundation of what we need in order to build that healthy community, and how we communicate with our neighbors and and those who are part of that community. So we're done that in terms of what the surah has, the rest of the sword are now is going to start to tackle some of the challenges and some of the problems that arise that are extremely common, some of those common issues in any society. Here's the first one.

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And subhanAllah like this particular verse, guys, I know a lot of us have seen this verse, imams and Xu love to use this verse in their holebas and lectures and so on. When we talk about when you hear when you hear something, when somebody tells you something, whatever it is, and if you don't take the time to ensure that that's true. Then this is usually the verse that's quoted to you

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So you understand what the consequences of that is. We're going to look at every single one of the words in this particular verse right now in sha Allah right. So first and foremost in Arabic Allah subhanho wa Taala continues and he tells us, you will Latina M in in J A Confessio will be never even fatter b&o. fatter begun until Cebu, Coleman Beija hailer, for those be who fall tunity mean, or people of Eman or believers if an evildoer brings you any news that verify it, so you do not harm people unknowingly becoming regretful for what you have done. So that's the idea. And the introduction itself is quite profound. Now let's start to break this idea down piece by piece, and

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really, truly understand what it means to hear something and we're not talking about that you actually physically hear it. We also what's part of this a of our chain letters and messages. I mean, we're still in the pandemic, how many of you all have gotten messages on WhatsApp through email on social media? endless amount of messages talking to you about the cure for Corona, talking to you about conspiracies regarding the vaccine, about population control, politics and and the list goes on and on and on. I'm not saying to disregard all of that. But there is one important responsibility we all have that's going to be captured in this. So let's break it down. So here we

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Allah starts off yet a Latina

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isn't false news, unverified news relevant to all of mankind. So why is the AI just talking to us? Or people? If Amen.

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That's the first question. Why just the people of Amen. Everybody is a victim to hearing and listening to false news. So why doesn't the air you start off with yet a UI Ness? The answer goes back to how the sorta began. This entire Sora can only be appreciated, and internalized and accepted. This surah can only be appreciated if you have an atom's weight of Eman in you. Otherwise, the surah will start to feel really uncomfortable.

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really uncomfortable. As a matter of fact,

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one may also question that the sorta is a bit unjust and unfair.

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I've heard I've heard some of these comments in the past teaching the same sort of

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wise, I love paying attention so much about how I feel, okay, that these chain letters on these false accusations and messages that are constantly being thrown around, day in and day out. It's so many, like I can't be accountable for every single one. When you have a man, you confront anything that can Frank's you. So when Allah says yeah, you will Latina M and, again, it goes back to how the SUTA began. Allah is expecting you and I, as people of faith, to be leaders in verifying false information, when false information can Frank's you, you are not the you know, false info police that goes around the internet and just scans endless amounts of information and chain letters, and

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just calling them out. That's how your duty that's impossible for any person to do. Rather, if you see something or you hear something that you can voice or confirm, you can say something in return you can stop. That's the responsibility why because you are a person of Amen. That Amen in you should always encourage and push you to do the right thing for the overall good and benefit of society. So that's why the sort of began or excuse me, the area begins with you. Hola, Xena, Mo

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Okay, next.

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Allah then says,

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injure a comb facet.

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So injure a comb facet. So where are we we are right here.

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The evil doer the evil doer here is the fast sip. And jet ACOEM is the news that they come with. So let's start with jet comm because that's the order of the end then we'll come to the evildoer after

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words right? Jetta calm

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Jetta. Maggi on literally means that it arrived and it's right in front of you. So when I say to you, that you only deal with what confronts you, because you, it's impossible for you to go around thinking and wondering or figuring out who's talking about you who said, Well, it's impossible to do that. So what's the next step confront would confront soon, we get that from the usage of this word jet, a comb, it came, and it came, and it was brought to you in front of your face, in front of your screen, right for your ears to see, for your ears to listen to, for your eyes to see. So now that this news is in front of you, whatever it is, you know, somebody comes to you and says, Man, I heard

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so and so said something about you. Now that person is in front of you. And they brought up this issue that they say they heard from someone else. And when you listen to it, you're shocked. You're like, Whoa, are you are you serious?

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That's what they said.

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Now, that's jet. But here is like this is the the shift in the A takes a turn, that I personally never ever expected. As soon as I came across it, then it was like, wow. And that is the word, the word evil doer, fast, sick. So just so you can see it. It's right there in front of us, right? Fast, you can be never fast SIP comes from the word discipline. And fiscal means something or somebody that's inherently corrupt. It's their nature to be bitter, corrupt, lost, confused, always looking to stir up problems, always looking to perpetuate those problems. So even if they don't start at once they hear the carried on, and they add more flavor to the problem and shift that on carry it.

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Now this is where the big problem starts. Because that person has a lot tells us and suited to nor when they heard gossip, they should have stopped it right then and there. Right? Allah tells us that the believers, when they hear any type of gossip should stop it right then and that's how you cut the line of gossip is that it stops with you. You don't carry it on, you're talking about with nobody else. But this individual here, the one who carries that news, without verifying it a lot calls that person fast sick, the evil doer.

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So the one who gossips the one who carries stuff, false information or information that is not verified.

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Allah says you're corrupt. Subhanallah you're corrupt.

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You're bringing evil into your family, into your community. You're bringing evil within yourself. Just think about that. How many of us even think, along those lines? When we hear something without verifying it and then in addition to that, accept it and pass it on to somebody else? How many of us do that? Subhan Allah. May Allah azza wa jal give us strength. So the evildoer here Allah is calling that person doesn't matter who they are. Doesn't matter how pious they may be, because the head doesn't make any exception, doesn't say, well, except if you're a Muslim, except if you're a movement, except if you're this sort of nothing, that person to Allah Fess up. And then the next

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thing for those of you that study Arabic fast SIP is what we say in Arabic is is some fairy. What that means is that that's the person who is the doer of the action. So they are known to do this. They're known to do this, when they hear something juicy, something delicious. Pass it on.

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And then you might ask, well, Where'd you hear that from? Oh, don't worry, I heard it. Trust me, you can trust me, that sort of the response, you get nothing tangible to work with nothing tangible that you can actually verify and think about and work through none of that. So that's the evildoer. So we looked at the introduction of the API, we looked at the facet, who that individual was, we looked at how you deal with this kind of information, when it confronts you, and only when it confronts you. Here's the next point. So you have the facet. Here's the next part.

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Allah then says, fair to obey no. So be never infertile AM.

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Never is news that is truly profound news. Like it's not something that you hear on a daily basis. And that's usually what makes gossip gossip is that it's not just the regular things that you would hear and that's, you know, carried and spread around the community. But it's usually something that you're like, Wow, I've never heard oh my god, I've never actually

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spected that kind of hearing it for the first time, and it kind of surprises you at that moment. And then shaitan takes over and be like, Man, how would you keep that to yourself? Why would you want to stop that? pass this on to somebody else, you'll get the credit for knowing it too. And people will be like, Oh, my God actually heard it from Sones. Just pass it on that sort of thing. Next, never. So it's profound news. And it's news that could also change people's actions or their impressions towards you, or towards whatever is being talked about their opinion or their attitude changes as a result. That's never, it's not the same as harbor. So never is like breaking news. Then Allah says,

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verify it. And the word that is used is tap Fattah bait, you know, from Bagan mean is to literally bring something to a point where it is so clear. So to achieve a level of clarity, to the point where nobody can twist or turn or add or subtract, it's, it's clear. That's the, that's the place you need to be. And that might require some time that might require some work. But the point is Alesis factorybean. Here's the point. In between these two words, Allah didn't put something else in there like film matavai. And then after you heard this news, then you should try to verify it and see how it goes. The first reaction Allah is telling us to have is when you hear information, it

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doesn't matter what it is, your first initial reaction to that should be that you try to verify it. So how do you do that? That's up to you. That's depending on the nature of what's being talked about what's spreading around the community, nine out of 10 times, usually information like this that gets carried around is usually about somebody else. So if you hear something about a person, you shouldn't just listen to that or stay quiet. That's another problem that unfortunately, many Muslims that people in general have, when they hear this kind of information. They say to themselves, okay, okay, I'm just going to pretend I didn't hear that, or I don't want to get involved. Okay, just will

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tell somebody else. Sorry, Allah Scott, that was already that you got involved. You heard this, and you're in a position to say something or to stop it or to clarify it and you chose to do nothing. What did Allah say in this a effective AM, Allah didn't say to that individual that fast, simple brought the news, Allah is saying to anybody who heard it from the fast sale, that he you should take a responsibility and clarify that stuff. And clarifying also, part of that is just ignoring it. In other words, if you verified that it's false information, it was just a rumor, then leave it alone, that's called, that's also part of tambien. So this is a really profound rule and instruction

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that Allah is giving all of us, we don't get to say, oh, that's what he did. Oh, that's what he said, you don't get to say and just kind of leave it alone, like, Okay, I don't want to get involved. I don't want to say anything to him or her, we don't have that choice. And that's what this ad is highlighting to all of us. It's a responsibility on all of us, that when this kind of information confronts you, that the bare minimum you do is to at least verify whether that is true or not, especially, chances are that if you don't do that, that Muse is just going to get carried on. So for whatever, you know,

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then Allah subhanaw taala continues, and to be who Coleman Beija hella, so, so that you do not harm people unknowingly. How does that work? So think about when, if you if that individual didn't take the time to verify, and the rumor continued, and the false information continued to spread, then what ends up happening to the people that are being referenced to in that rumor? Later on, at some point, they might eventually hear that people were saying so and so about him or her. But until be who Allman Beija had said, you now start to harm a people or an individual, unknowingly. Gehenna here is like, you've become Jahir yourself, like you have no idea that the fact that you spread that

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kind of information, or you let it spread, or you didn't take the time to confirm it. If somebody was talking to you about somebody else, you didn't reach out to anybody to find out if this was true. You didn't do any of that. That

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How do you start to corrupt a group A people a society. So when rumors are let loose, and nobody does anything to stop them, or to pause them or to confront them, that's how you start to develop a toxic society. And relationships start to become toxic. That's where relationships start to fall apart, relationships start to break, family relationships start to break, all of this started. Because if you backtrack, at the very beginning, something was said about somebody that everyone heard, but nobody took the time to verify SubhanAllah. You know, I think that all of us listening to this today, all of us can relate to this in some way, shape, or form, I know I can, I can relate to

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this a a 100%. And I'm sure all of you out there can relate to it in some way. Insha Allah, so just keep that in mind that as that continues, and it continues to spread, then there are so many people that become hurt in that process. And then Allah subhanaw taala concludes that A and B says, for those be who ilm, Farrell tuna, D mean, becoming regretful for what you have done. In other words, you and I, who had that responsibility to say or do something, and didn't for whatever reason, whatever reason, unless you're going to regret it,

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you're going to be amongst those

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who will be in the state of net remorse and regret.

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You're going to sit there and be like, Man, subhanAllah,

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that person went into depression. That person committed suicide, that person isolated themselves from the community. Had, I only said something to stop the rumor, though, none of this would have happened. You start to think like that. You start to regret, I could have said or I could have done, but time went on and on and on. And the person convinced themselves, I don't want to get involved. I don't want to see anything, I don't want to do anything. Well, in that process of your silence, somebody else was getting hurt, somebody else was in pain. And Allah subhanho wa Taala put this information in front of you. Because you could possibly be the one that has the potential that has

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the strength to bring that to an end. But unfortunately, for whatever reason, chose not to. And that's the thing with gossip in general students. Gossip in general, it hurts people. It really causes a lot of pain in relationships, and it breaks apart those relationships. And then you have, you know, parts within that community, that don't feel any of that pain, like they don't feel any remorse and regret. Remember, for those Behold, this ending of the A is talking about people that at least had something good in their heart, but they chose not to do anything. They had some Eman in them. But still, it wasn't enough to kind of encourage them to do the right thing. Still couldn't

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find it in the cell. They knew what was the right thing to do, but they still didn't do it. They're the ones that feel the most remorse and regret. You know, some of the scholars said, the remorse that they feel, here is the remorse that they will feel on the Day of Judgment. When they are confronted by Allah and Allah questions. Why didn't you do anything? Why didn't you confirm that information before you listen to it and you allowed it to spread? Now that individual is punished in this in front of Allah and the net them the remorse and the regret they feel on that day. That's what the A is making reference to some of the elements said that this was actually on on the Day of

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Judgment, when they stand in front of Allah and confronted May Allah give us strength. Take a look at this hadith in front of you.

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The Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam says legged when Jenna Portet a pathetic tailed bear will not enter Jenna. So who what is that, but that? Take a look at the bottom. It's a person who conveys disagreeable false information from one person to another with the intention of causing harm and enmity between them. How common is that? How many contact do we have in our society? Here information, but they don't like the person that's being talked about as well. So they carry it on to

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like, yeah, he or she told me this. I don't want to tell you this, because I'm sure that's true. Even though I didn't I didn't confirm it. I'm sure it's true. Because deep down in their heart, they don't appreciate that person either.

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That person is called potete. Remember this word, and the Prophet alayhi salatu salam says they will never enter gender. You know what Sumerian has said about Hadith like this. So you have this hadith. You have another Hadith Our Prophet is telling us lie it hold Jenna 10 Mm, that, then a man will never enter gender, then a man is simply the one that back bites. So they, they hear some kind of gossip, and they pass it on to a group of people that don't want individual to a whole group of people. That's called minima. So that person will carry it on to several others. And that group passed it on to another to another process, and him says that person that a meme will never

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intergender now if you look at these Hadith,

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there's a pattern.

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If somebody does, or becomes a quartet, or in a meme

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spreads false information.

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They will not enter Jenna. So what about all of the other things they did? They're smaller, They're fast. They're hedge, they're Umrah. There's solder pot, they're charity, there's a cat.

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What about all of that? Doesn't that at least sort of wipe away some of these mistakes?

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Think about it.

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Some of our scholars say that these Hadith that are worded in this way, where Prophet Ali's sought to subsist, lie and hope they will never ever enter Jenna lair here again Arabic students to lamb net here. It's the lamp that prohibits what is to come after. So there's no possible way to change the sentence as long as that lad is at the beginning. So the Prophet alayhi salat wa salam is indirectly saying that if somebody is a tail bear, or a noose carrier, those types of individual, it doesn't matter how many Salawat they've performed,

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doesn't matter how much aromatase they've done, doesn't matter how many times they've gone to the masajid. And how much charity they've given, doesn't matter how much poor end they've recite. None of that matters. Because of this one issue.

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They cannot get into gender, those other deeds that they're involved in, is not enough to cancel this one out, so they can still enter.

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Think about that.

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Unbelievable. Think about that.

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That's how important this subject is, to Allah subhanho wa Taala these are things that we have to pay attention to guys, we got to concentrate on these things that are have become so common and such, you know, such a normal thing in today's culture and society, they could so normal to just hear stuff and just pass it on. And then if somebody hears something, and passes it on with the intention of making others look bad, and to humiliating, and embarrassing them, if people do that, that's the octet. Either way, doesn't matter what you've done in your life, it doesn't, it doesn't help you now Subhanallah that's what the tongue is all about.

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That leads us to the next A, which we will leave for next week inshallah. So next week, where we will do is we will get into 789. Inshallah, we'll take three verses next week, because again, it's going to shift our attention to other areas and other aspects of our lives that are absolutely essential, and crucial, in terms of creating sustaining a healthy society. Again, brothers and sisters, remember, we are not only focused on the community around us, but we are also including in this conversation, the community that we are responsible for, ie our families, our children, that nucleus, which is what makes up the community you belong to. That community is only as strong and as

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good as the families that make and build that community. So if you can start to sort of sift out and purify one family at a time, from some of the things that are being talked about in this surah then in sha Allah Who title

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With Allah's baraka and help, that trend starts to carry on to the rest of the members of that community. And before you know it, at least, it may not be a perfect one. But at least the majority of the members of that society will be of those who at least have a listener valid, we think good of each other. When they hear things about each other, they would at least take the time to find out and to verify, or at least talk about it. And if it's something that's really truly profound and uncomfortable, that rumor stops right then and there, you start to develop that kind of community. That's what we all want. And we're all capable of it. Brothers, sisters, like don't think that

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these etiquettes that are being mentioned in the disorder are something that you've got to be like a super, you know, incredible Muslim, and you've got to have, you know, sort of special powers in terms of your ability to solve problems, and to solve things. These are basic mannerisms and etiquettes we all should have and must have. So I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala continues to purify our hearts, and our tongues. And I pray that Allah subhanaw taala give us the strength to always and forever to the best of our ability. When we hear we take the time to confirm and verify. I pray that Allah subhanaw taala gives us that strength both mentally and spiritually. And

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ultimately at the end of the day, our goal is to create and preserve and protect a special bond and harmony between us in whatever community you belong to the thing that he terror. So I thank you all for joining me here today. And I pray that insha Allah Who Tala I will see you all same time next week be in LA as we continue our journey of sorbitol hoogenraad For Zachman level hierarchy where you without a winner and Hamdu lillahi rabbil aalameen Please take care of everyone may Allah azza wa jal keep you safe and healthy Allah I mean, are Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh