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The Khutba program at the Islamic Social Ownership in Toronto is a busy one for everyone, with a focus on addressing domestic and family issues and praising Jesus. The speakers emphasize the importance of sincerity, measure behavior, and following rules and etiquette. The importance of the heart and its relationship with the tongue in navigating situations and setting boundaries is emphasized, as well as the need to be aware of one's behavior and values. The community event is also mentioned as a way to be prepared to be present early.AI Generated Transcript ©
Welcome everyone to the Resilient Hour live from
the Islamic Institute of Toronto. My name
is Mamoon Hassan.
I am honored, and, I feel blessed to
be your host for today.
Today, we have a jam,
a packed program for you.
And as you know, the Friday edition of
the resilient hour, is a discussion about the
Friday Khutba that happened today. Today's Khutba was
delivered by Sheikh Muslikh Khan.
It was an inspiring Khutba, alhamdulillah, about, manners
and characters and the relationship between that and
Ramadan itself.
So before we begin, however,
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Alright. And before we begin, it is our
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words of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. I'm going
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Qari, Sheikhad Fataj Haydar Masha'Allah. May Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala bless him. Just give me one
moment while I pull him on here.
Be very honest with you. You have,
You've been amazing this Ramadan. May Allah bless
you. And the whole family actually, subhanAllah as
well.
How's, how's your father doing, Shah?
Yeah. He's okay.
Okay. We have about, go ahead and, you
wanna recite for us maybe,
7 to 10 minutes if you have the
time.
Go ahead.
Hello?
So that was, Shahadu Fata. He's a resident
party at the Islamic Institute of Toronto.
He leads,
our every single night. Him.
And,
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Alright. So
the Friday
today at the Islamic Institute of Toronto was
delivered by Sheikh Musleh Khan. It was a
on manners character and, there it should be
with Ramadan. Now Sheikh Musleh is on the
road.
Just so I can warn you all,
he's going to be in his vehicle.
So So let me just go ahead and
bring him on, and then we will see.
How are you doing?
Uh-oh. He's driving. Sheikh Musa, you're on mute.
So do you you you need to unmute.
Yeah.
No problems.
As you can all, tell, this whole sentence
of your on your Okay. Happened.
Alright. I I was trying to pretend I
was driving still.
Yes.
You are not.
No. No. I'm not. We encourage Mhmm. We
encourage safety at the Islamic Social Ownership.
Yeah. No. I'm parked up.
I'm in the parking lot here at the
Masjid, so I got time. I'm good.
Everywhere, really, all around the world. So it's
really a busy, busy time for everybody and
everybody out.
Been.
Okay.
Sorry, sir. Can you hear me? Yeah. Yeah.
It's just a little choppy, but I'll try
to to to make out the question. Mhmm.
Okay.
Go ahead, bud. Ramadan has been a busy,
month for everybody. I'm just asking how you
My Ramadan,
busy, busy. It actually had a rough start
because,
I just got really sick, but
I'm 95%
better.
So I kinda now starting to enjoy
Ramadan. It was a real struggle in the
first,
week or so. But
man, at the end of the day, you
know how it is. We're just happy to
experience and to be alive
and, experience another Ravadan
So that's that's the most important thing.
Barakalafi.
Alright, Chebousaf. Let's get into
quick for today's Khutba. So,
first of all, I I just honestly, just
the first question is if you could summarize
it for us really, really quickly inshallah, and
I kinda wanna talk about your motivation behind
selecting such
a. When you give,
what
what what what's the process that you go
through so you can actually,
think of a topic for it?
So my entire life, I mean, I've been
doing it now for almost 25 years. Right?
And it's never changed. The formula is the
same.
It's something that would grab my attention or
I would have learned or
some situation in the community
that needs to be addressed,
that's the that's the starting point for me.
It's gotta be either of those.
If I can't figure out or I I
I'm not qualified to address a particular situation,
then I will start just out of my
own, start digging through some of the issues
I know exist in the community.
Even though they may not be on the
the frontline, they're not beyond on mainstream.
You won't hear much about it, but I
know that they're there. So, for example, like,
domestic
problems, family issues, and things like that. So
then I would just make a choice. Okay.
I wanna address this issue
and somehow tie it into some current event
today, and that's really
as simple as that sound. You're talking about
at least a good week. Sometimes it takes
me a month
just to put my thoughts together for one
subject, but that's usually the approach.
Okay. So today's Khutba,
you spoke about so actually, let's let's summarize
a little bit. So you spoke about sincerity.
You spoke about somebody. You spoke about the
importance of akhlaq, and you tied that very
beautifully, Sheikh,
to the whole idea of Ramadan.
Talk to me a little bit, Sheikh, about
the relationship between each of these and and
the primary purpose of of of fasting really
in a sense. Well, like, why why did
you tie these topics with Ramadan?
You know, I felt, Mahmood, that, when Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala talks to us about the
ultimate thing that we're striving for in Ramadan,
is that perhaps you will attain some sense
of consciousness.
There was a problem in
understanding this verse that I experienced, that I,
you know, encounter with Muslims
each and every day.
There's a problem with how this verse was
understood by the average
layman Muslim
because the wording is so
simple. I mean, we are talking about taqwa
all throughout the year, not just Ramadan.
So, I started digging into
what Taqwa
is in Ramadan. Is there something unique? Is
there something special that we're supposed to be
focused on to make that experience different
and also to fulfill what Allah is saying
perhaps we may fulfill in the month. So
I just wanted to find if there was
a distinction between the taqwa of Ramadan
and the taqwa outside of Ramadan.
And it just so happened I found quite
a bit of commentary
on the subject. A lot of tafsirs I
went through,
particularly
Imam Al. He goes through a long conversation,
and, basically, he summarized,
three things
that
Taqwa aims to achieve and perfect in the
Ramadan only.
You know, you can do this in different
ways throughout the year, but in Ramadan, it's
emphasized
so much more. And that's what I based
my khutba on today, which the first thing
was sincerity. Number 2 was patience, and number
3 was your
not just with Muslims,
but with all of mankind.
So this
is aiming for us to perfect,
reinforce, and strengthen
these three areas in our life. And if
we start to see that develop in the
month of Ramadan, your sincerity, your sabr,
all of it's starting to develop this month,
then you know inshallah says
that
you know that inshallah
you're doing things right
and you're fulfilling the hadith of the prophet
that no 2 Ramadan should look the same
or should be the same. You're fulfilling now
this hadith that
this Ramadan there's a little bit more than
the previous and so on. So that's that's
kind of what I wanted to,
achieve today. And that's really wonderful, Sheikh. So
let let me go back to the beginning.
Okay? If you don't mind me asking because
I kinda always like to break things down
right from the beginning of it. The idea
of the word or the concept of the
word taqwa itself, Sheik. Like, a lot of
people always translate this into fear of Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala. I also hear a lot
of, imams who, translate into into consciousness of
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Break down to me the word itself and
what it means, Sheikh, to you, in a
sense, and and and how we can describe
this in the simplest way that we can
to, our viewers.
So, you know, it's it's not technically wrong
to,
refer to Taqwa and somehow
interpreted as fear.
Because in essence,
the most accurate way to define taqwa
is consciousness
or awareness.
Now if you apply that in your day
to day life
the things that you're fearful of you're always
conscious of you're always aware of the dangers
lurking around you you're always conscious of the
fact that okay at night I need to
lock my doors I need to close the
garage. I need to lock my car.
So and you do that of the fear
that
somebody may, you know, break into your house
or destroy your property.
So fear definitely
ties in to Taqwa, but it's not restricted
to.
And that's why I tell, students that
a more
comprehensive,
definition to this
term
is consciousness and awareness
that,
you are always conscious of your actions, you're
always conscious of Allah's instructions,
and you're always aware that
you've got to do your best to fulfill
those instructions,
to to respond to that. So you're constantly
thinking,
you're constantly,
aware of the decisions you make that you
don't,
you don't,
violate the parameters of taqwa.
Mhmm. So in essence, it's the consciousness
and the awareness, but fear and other elements
are tied into that definition.
Yeah. So I guess I guess really the
reason why I'm I'm asking this question here
because I,
I guess my perception of the word fear
is a negative is a negative feeling. Right?
Like Yeah. Or or you say, you know,
if I'm if I'm fearful of something, I
I run away from it. I I hide
from it. I am I'm scared of it,
and I avoid it in a sense. Right?
And sometimes,
when we try to kind of, I guess,
I guess
we describe our relationship with Allah
based on strictly fear. Right? Like, so so
then what what do you do? Do you
avoid a loss
Well, we know that,
being conscious of Allah is the complete opposite.
It means you actually go towards him. It
means you actually,
you you obey him.
Out of both, really, I guess, really fear.
I mean, fear is a part of it.
Right? But then also in in hope that
you'll receive his mercy. I know what your
thoughts are. You you know,
that's the beauty between believers
and everyone else.
Because
fear is a good thing for a believer
because they can interpret that and translate it
into something meaningful that gets them closer to
Allah.
Right? So it's not necessarily
a bad thing to be spiritually
fearful of the punishment of Allah or the
consequence of doing
wrong. Because what that does for a believer
now is that fear they internalize it and
it
pretty much puts them in a place and
it puts them in a lifestyle where where
they work hard and strive
to never fall into those
sins or those mistakes,
fear that they will upset the creator
and the consequence of that. So,
you know it's it's not necessarily a bad
thing but obviously in in the mainstream world
it may not always be health healthy for
you to live a life of fear
and, you know, and anxiety each and every
day because if you don't know how to
translate that into something positive it can it
can destroy you. It can break you apart
emotionally and psychologically,
but not for the believer. The believer internalizes
it to their benefit,
and it actually is a way and a
method
that our religion
taught us to get closer
to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
I like that. I really Yeah. That. Okay.
Perfect. So then let let's go into the
actual, the three elements that you spoke about,
about your. So you said the first one
is sincerity.
Mhmm. Talk to me a little bit about
sincerity and what it means and its relationship
to Ramadan really in a sense.
Nobody knows that we're fasting.
They will assume that because it is Ramadan
all the Muslims are fasting,
But in essence, I don't know the person
beside me and the next person I talk
to. I don't know if they're fasting. Like,
I would literally have to ask them or
they say it to me, which is really
none of our business. Right? And that's what
makes the sincerity it comes out and it's
illustrated so much more in Ramadan because
this fasting is so private.
It's only with you, and the only one
that will know whether you're doing it or
not is your creator. I mean, if somebody
chooses to tell everybody else, hey, I'm not
fasting because of whatever the reason is, that's
fine. But
if you just stick to what the fasting
is, the whole ritual of fasting,
the the whole experience of abstaining from these
things throughout the day
that is a level of submission.
It's it's very unique privacy and intimate submission
to Allah
that's only found when you're fasting.
So Ramadan aims to strengthen
that level of sincerity
so that when you graduate from Ramadan now,
you're not concerned about what people might say
or think about how much you're doing or
not because you've just trained yourself
that I'm only going to do
the right thing for Allah, whether I get
credit for it or recognition or not, that
is not of no importance to me. And
that's, I think, one of the aim behind
sincerity and its focus here in Ramadan.
I like that. That's really actually a beautiful
way to describe it, Shaikh.
I guess, really, also the idea is behind
sincerity is that fasting
is
levels. Right? Like, it's not not not everybody's
fasting is the same way based on how
you internalize,
fasting itself.
You know, I I I think there's there's
some discussion about, you know, and
some you know what I mean? Like, fasting
is different levels.
And the more sincere you are to Allah
in your fasting and stuff, and what you
abstain from,
in itself is actually like your level is
increased. That's why there was no real reward
for it. That's that's specific. Right? Yeah. Yeah.
And and that's why, you know,
just from a practical sense,
when our bodies are tired and weak during
the day,
we're just too tired to do anything else
except maybe listen to some Quran, rest, and
be ready for the night.
Like, just to be inclined to do something
wrong is exhausting.
Right? Just because you're in that state. So
even logically,
it's already working on your sincerity to just
focus
on doing the right thing and being as
sincere as possible.
Mhmm.
That sounds great. Really beautiful.
Everyone, if you're just joining us to this
live stream, we are talking to Sheikh, most
of Khan about his khutbah for today. You
can check out the khutbas and all of
our khutbas. Actually, every single program that happens
at IIT, we stream it live, and we
keep it on our YouTube channel.
Today's was delivered by Sheikh Musa Khan on
a man of character of Ramadan, and we
are, just breaking down the actual Khubba itself
into,
what the sheikh, meant really by it. And
we always wanna get some deeper understanding of
it. You know, Khubba's by the Khubba's usually
only, you know, 20 minutes long,
and
sometimes,
you know, as as Imam s and Kaldives
have to speak in general terms, right, in
order for people to use everybody has to
kind of get it. Right? Mhmm. So, if
you have any questions, and this is for
everybody, if you have any questions, I put
this here. Feel free to ask those questions
in the chat. Go ahead and type some
of these questions for us. I really, really
want you to be engaged and actually find
out
what the sheikh means when he says every
single word.
So,
there is nothing off the table here, Sheikh.
Right? All questions will be asked.
Anything. Alright. Perfect. Okay. So I guess that's
the first one is the,
concept of sincerity. The second, concept that you
talk about in the
was the concept of patience.
Yeah.
I mean,
where can one begin, right, when it comes
to?
You know, you have
over 40 plus verses in the Quran talking
about.
We are the of patience.
I I say this to students all the
time. I mean,
there is no prophet and there is no
additional scripture after the Quran and the prophet
so we are the final chapter.
That's why throughout the Quran, we're always told
to be patient with whatever trial,
the reward of patience. The first thing the
angels will come and do to the person
when they're given Jannah
but they'll come celebrating. Why? Because you were
patient.
So I wanted to
sort of capture
the essence of patience
not just with food and, you know, your
iftar,
but that the whole spiritual
exercise
throughout the Ramadan
during those fasting hours
is
it's it's mentally and psychologically
training your mind
that if something doesn't happen now
that you can still be calm and wait
and work towards it for when Allah decides
this is the right time for it to
happen. A really simple example is wanting to
get married.
Like,
there might be somebody, you know, found the
right person and they're just anxious. They want
to get married, but they still gotta do
this. They gotta do that, save up money,
parents gotta get on board, and lots of
other variables need to be in place.
But Ramadan, what it can do now is
when you're in that moment, you can say
to yourself, you know what?
I'm gonna do my part. And if Allah
has written this marriage for me, it's gonna
happen. And, I'm gonna keep working toward towards
it. And whatever Allah decides,
inshallah,
that will be the time. You start to
have a completely
fresh new outlook on life
and everything that you do and everything that
you experience, you're experiencing with patience. And, you
know, the last thing is that, had
once said, if patience was a human being,
it would be the most beautiful creature in
existence.
So just imagine if you live your life
with patience, there's nothing
on this planet
that could morally,
physically,
emotionally destroy you in any way, shape, or
form.
So I wanna break down this, this whole
idea of of, of patience because
so the feedback that we oftentimes get on,
I'm very certain about this quite as well.
It's just the whole idea is the fact
that the word page in itself has been
a word that usually sometimes is weaponized
in a sense in order for us to,
tolerate,
injustices. Right? To to able to tolerate abuses,
to be able to tolerate all of these
things. I I and I really want you,
Sheikh, to to be really clear about this.
I mean, with what's happening in the world
right now, for instance, a lot of things
where people where people actually just say, you
know, you be patient and Allah will give
you, will will get for you. You know
what I mean? Like, be patient and Allah
will find a way out for you.
I don't know what your thoughts are.
I mean, the thing is
you're patient, but it doesn't mean you do
nothing.
Right? You still gotta protect yourself. You still
gotta go out there and work. You still
gotta defend. You still gotta, protect your honor.
Like, you still have to go through the
process.
But the patience,
hopefully, everybody understands
very clearly. When we say and when scholars
tell us to be patient during these times
or what's happening in Palestine and other places,
what they're what we're aiming at, what we're
trying to get at is
the patience
with respect to the outcome
whenever
and however that outcome is.
That's what you have to be patient for
because we don't know.
However, in the process,
you still have to
do what you need to do to survive.
And, and and I think that that's the
part that just needs to whenever we tell
people, you know, just be patient through your
problem, be patient through this struggle and that
struggle to sort of be very clear.
The process you still continue working at and
doing your best and try to relieve yourself
of the pain and struggle.
But when this is all over
or when you get the or the results
you want,
that's what you have to be patient because
that's Allah's territory. We only put together the
equation. Allah decides what is on the other
side of the equal sign.
I like that, Sean. That's really actually a
really beautiful way of putting it, which is,
you know, patience on the result,
but the work itself has to be done.
Right? Like, you you you don't you're not
you're not you don't, you don't delay that
kind of work. And that's a a beautiful
thing,
way for you to describe this. Okay? Okay.
Alright. So that was the second element of
it. The third element, what you were talking
about is the and I think we're gonna
spend a little bit more time on this
one here because there is something that you
and I, have spoken about before, obviously. Right?
Which is, you know,
how we measure someone's
through their mannerism, through their softness, and through
the way that they actually mean. One of
the hadith that you mentioned today was,
in direct relations to how
a person
deals with his family
and how
begin at home. Yeah.
Now,
I'm very sure that everybody's demeanor at home
are a bit different than the their demeanor
outside. Right?
But but
I I guess, really, maybe you can elaborate
a little bit on on this point that
you made.
Yeah. So this whole subject of,
this is the area that I'm most passionate
about.
Because
I personally believe
that
and etiquettes in general
is the strongest tool
you and I have
to get the message of
not just Islam, but what's right. The most
appropriate thing
or response to any situation
must come with good Akhlaq.
And the thing is that
Akhlaq is not something you study out of
a book.
It's not something that is just part of
our fit or our natural inclination that we
know what feels right is right. Allah put
that in us. Nobody has to teach us
that hurting somebody is a wrong thing.
Nobody has to teach us that when you
help somebody or you're kind to them that
that's a good thing because we can just
assess how we feel after we do something
good.
So
what I wanted to do with respect to
Akhlaq is
is actually,
it just kinda came out. I just said
to everybody, like, this is the one area
that we seem to always need to be
reminded. We always need lectures. We always need
different pieces of advice
when it comes to our akhlaq. Why? Because
it's the easiest thing to lose. It's the
easiest thing to forget, easiest thing to compromise.
And, SubhanAllah and Allah made it the most
easiest thing for us to understand and utilize
when we need to. So what I wanted
everybody to,
sort of capture in today's Khotbah was
Ramadan
keeps us calm.
You know, if you're gonna get into an
argument,
if you're gonna get into a confrontation, if
you're if you wanna snap and you hold
yourself back
and then you calm down and then you
deal with the situation,
That's the akhlaq element of Ramadan
is that it helps you to
remain calm and think through things before you
jeopardize your fast and the blessings of Ramadan.
And how if you can do it in
Ramadan, then you can do it anywhere else.
Like, you could do it for the rest
of your life. So I wanted people to
see that
look at how good we can be in
Ramadan. Look how much self control you and
I possess.
And it's Allah's way of showing us you
have what it takes so you can continue
doing this for the rest of your life.
Mhmm. Mhmm. So, Shamash, it's actually a really
beautiful thing that you said, but I I
guess really I wanna not push back, but
I do wanna kinda, like, I guess, discuss
some of this, things that you said because,
like, this whole idea of the and and
a lot of times what what we hear
or we see is the fact that,
certain people are just they they're just different
in the way that they deal with things.
Right? Like like, some people are just little,
very short,
in the way that they behave, right, with
with things. Some people are just I don't
wanna call it rude, but culturally,
they may be short in dealings with other
people and so on and so forth. Right?
Yeah. And so there is a difference in
how you interpret, I guess, really proper akhlaq
between cultures and between people and so on
and so forth. You know what I mean?
There's so many different examples that I can
use. Right?
So I don't know,
if if you have something to say about
that or something that maybe you can clarify
a little bit what you mean when you
say akhlaq. What do you what do you
mean when you say demeanors? Is it what
what is it that you're meaning here? So
I'm really glad you brought this up. Right?
One word helps us with this situation. Right?
So so
just to kind of summarize,
we wanna now address
what might be offensive or rude to one
person is not a big deal to the
other.
You know? So a husband or wife, they
might call each other names like dumb or
stupid or something like that. Right?
But the one who's saying it to the
other may say, well, that's how I grew
up. We we use that word all the
time, and it's not a big deal to
me. But the one who's being called those
names says to them,
that was pretty rude. Why'd you call me
that? How dare you? That was really insulting.
So to one person, it's not a big
deal.
To the other person, it is a big
deal. So where is the standard? Where you
draw the line?
The answer to this is
absolutely
beautiful,
powerful,
and simple in the Quran.
One word,
and it's called marroof.
Allah tells
us throughout the Quran
and speaks to us on this concept called
Ma'ruf. What is Ma'ruf?
It's a universal
standard
that is applied in any situation when it
comes to our akhlaq. So go back to
the marriage example.
Even if I grew up
that it's okay for me to call somebody
those names,
Ma'aruf
reminds me
that that's not
the standard
of how marriages work.
You see what I'm saying?
Like, I have that despite I
it's still inappropriate.
Why? Because Islam tells us that's not the
way you talk to your family.
Like, you've gotta be the best to them.
This is not the best if you're gonna
use these terms.
So
is what I think is
the best way
to navigate when there's, you know, different
perspectives on what akhlaq is and what is
good and what isn't.
This one word throughout the Quran,
settles that, and it really gives a good
balanced approach.
And, you know,
with Maroof, the culture and the society you
live in and so on, those are all
components that,
help to define that a little more clearly.
But really and truly, the word itself even
pry like, individually or within your family or
so on, it can really help you and
bring a lot of clarity to your situation.
You know, I'll use a personal example. For
instance, I come from a household of 2
people and 333
brothers,
as, you know, 3 siblings. Right? And our
household is really loud. We are very active,
and and there's so much noise that you
go in when you come into our house.
And that's not just like the brothers. Like,
even my father and mother, for instance, they're
just basically really
I wanna use the word lively when we
talk about things. So we the the they're
joking with each other and playing practical jokes
and stuff like that. Something that actually happens
within our household on a
remember the first day I I accepted her
to her household. I remember the first day
I I stepped into the household,
I couldn't hear a sound. Like, there's nothing
like, nothing at all to be heard in
the house. Like, the a point where I
asked. I said, oh, where are your brothers?
She's like, oh, they're home. Everybody's home.
But but but at at what point, Sheikh,
like, this whole adjustment
happens? I guess, really, that's really the question
that I'm trying to ask. Like like, it
took me some time to start to realize,
for instance, in my personal dealings, for instance,
with my family and my my household and
the fact that certain things that I used
to say to my sister and to my
brother, for instance,
and that they used to say to me
as well,
are just really unacceptable
in her household. They are looked at as
something really, really terrible. Like like,
I I don't don't know if you just
wanna maybe talk to me a little bit
about this here because, again, you spoke about
this whole word of maroof, but that word
is it in itself as well is also
relative, Sheikh. Yeah. Yeah. So look.
Let's say
you and your entire family goes over to
your wife's family.
Would it be the same?
You know, loud, real funny, and exciting.
Or just generally, like, would it be somewhat
calmer and more befitting to her environment at
her at her house? Yeah. I I I
mean, obviously, it'd be toned down, but for
sure, I'm telling you, like, our version of
tone down is still
still a notch or 2 notches above her
level of just the norm. Right? Okay. Yeah.
So and why would it be toned down?
Yeah. I mean, it's just, you know, the
you're around strangers.
Uh-huh.
And, I mean, that's really the the main
thing. Right? You're around strangers. But So
yeah. And so that's the point. Yeah. You
see that consideration,
that courtesy?
Like, in my private
quarters at home is one thing,
but when I'm in somebody else's environment,
that is part of
you
deciding. Okay.
Mhmm.
You know, I have to be considerate, and
I have to be courteous. I'm gonna go
into somebody else's house and say, well, this
is just the way I grew up. So
we're just loud, and we love shouting. That's
just the way we
are. No. There's your iman is gonna tell
you,
you know, to respect,
to also find a balance and find a
medium between
what's okay for you and what's okay for
them. That thought process and that consideration
is is what I think
really, really helps you navigate
through scenarios like this.
Yeah. No. I appreciate that answer of yours.
That actually puts it a lot in perspective
for me. Right?
You
know, I mean, I I I can I
can say a couple of things that I
actually push on this, but I do I'm
conscious of the actual time itself? I do
have so many different questions that I wanna
speak to you about as well. Right?
But let me move on to the next
point here that that's been mentioned. Okay. Probably,
in in defining akhlaq,
you've made a a clear reference,
to the heart and its relationship with the
tongue.
Yeah. And I just would like for you
to elaborate a little bit of this because
this was actually really, really cool that what
you've said here. Mhmm.
So, you know, it came down to a
hadith of the prophet
that,
nobody's
iman
will
stand up and become firm unless
their heart is firm.
And the heart cannot be firm unless the
tongue is firm.
And the hadith continues, but I paused it
there and just took those two parts of
the hadith.
And, basically, the goal behind it was to
to really,
emphasize and work on the heart.
You know, if your actions and your choices
is one thing and that becomes somewhat challenging,
at least a good starting point towards any
positive change for the sake of Allah must
start in the heart.
Right? So
it's it's so
important because if you take a simple example
as
somebody who doesn't pray and they need to
pray or, you know, sister doesn't wear hijab
and she should wear a hijab. Right?
It's one thing when you say, look, let's
go to the Masjid and you're gonna pray.
Here's a hijab just put it on as
opposed to look
you're gonna have to appreciate why you need
salah,
what what salah does for you and its
comparison to the person who doesn't pray. Just
look at the two lies, look at their
contentment,
look at their level of peace,
it's completely different.
And that's what I wanted to achieve with
this hadith is that
no matter what you do,
you're gonna lose your e man.
If you don't have a steady, firm,
love for worshiping Allah in the heart. Like,
your and your intention and your sincerity,
if that doesn't come from a deep place
of
complete, complete love for Allah
within the heart, then you're gonna lose everything
else. And Ramadan is an excellent time for
people
to rehash and rediscover
what is in the heart
to,
remove anything that
is
useless or not beneficial to them, remove all
of that stuff out of their heart, and
work towards a life of purification
so that they could preserve their iman
and live a life pleasing to Allah. That's
that's what I wanted to to achieve with
that narration.
I appreciate that, Sheikh. May Allah bless you.
Again, once again for all of our viewers
who are watching us, we are now up
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All over the place,
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We are encouraging you to ask questions as
well if you ask have to ask some
questions to the Sheikh, InshaAllah. We are speaking
about manners, character,
and the relationship between that and Ramadan. This
was the topic of Sheikh Muslikh Khan's Khubba
today. You'll find the Khubba itself. He was
live streamed on our YouTube, on our all
of our social media,
accounts.
So you need to go ahead and actually
watch this.
Sheikh Musler, let's go on. We have, about
10 more minutes, So as well as another
note that I want to let everybody know.
Today
is going to be called at 7:33
local Toronto time. If you're not in Toronto,
don't break your fast at 7:33.
Again, if you are not in Toronto, do
not break your fast at 7:33. I see
that that's scrolling in the bottom of the
that's not your
time. So make sure, you break your your
fast on time.
I wanna talk now practically.
Practically.
It's very easy to talk about it from
a theoretical perspective.
I guess,
give me some examples, Sheikh, of,
I don't wanna call them evil demeanors or
evil but, like, certain things that you think
are prominent enough in the community that maybe
we should work on. And talk to me
about,
let's let's specifically be specific about them, and
how we can practically go about
fixing them internally, yeah, within ourselves and community.
Wow. Where where do I begin?
Patience is definitely at the top of that
list. Just
generic
day to day patience. Nothing like, yeah, cool.
We're not looking for that every single day,
but just basic patience,
judging people,
assuming that a person is this or that
without any communication, without verifying, without understanding.
These are some of the, like, more prevalent
issues
that we face and hear every single day
that is the source of so many problems.
Just following basic etiquettes and rules whether it's
at a or institute or a school or
where have you,
respecting
laws, like basic little things. So, you know,
for me, it's always about the parking
you know, parking in the fire route, parking,
in places that are completely prohibited.
Yeah. I I I just I don't know,
you know, I don't know where it comes
from.
Why
for for many of us, it's challenging to
just adhere by those basic rules.
I I don't know where it comes from.
I don't know if it's a cultural thing.
I don't know if it's a faith thing.
I don't know if they're just trivializing and
just don't care, but it's really, really is
a huge problem.
And I just feel like, these kinds of
reminders
should happen, you know, after every salah, like,
there should be some kind of a hadith
just reminding people,
about the importance of don't block a pathway,
don't pray in the middle of the sidewalk,
be courteous to your neighbor and that also
applies to the parking lot. Be courteous to
the car you're parking beside. Just little things
like that, I think, can go a long
way, and that's where,
we just really need to concentrate on.
Mhmm. And I like that. But you've also
speaking about,
I guess really these are external things that
happen,
outside.
Can I get some examples from
things that happen internally? Because you're also talking
about your,
the best of you are the best of
your families. Right? The best of you are
the best to their families. Right? Yeah. I
I you know,
honestly, I still wanna talk in general terms.
I don't wanna point anybody out. I do
wanna say I think it's really important for
us to talk in practical terms. What is
it that you can,
that that we're noticing, and how do we
actually work on them from that perspective? Because
sometimes
it's not an issue of anybody wanting to
be rude. It's not an issue of anybody
wanting to hurt somebody's feelings. Yeah. It is
at times I don't know. I I wanna
think well of people. I say you peep
just people don't know any better. Right? Or
people don't have the tools to get better.
Yeah. You know, Mahmood, it's it's a training
process. It doesn't happen overnight because you're talking
about for a lot of people breaking certain
habits they've been accustomed to maybe their whole
life.
They grew up in an environment or a
home where it was completely okay to snap.
It was completely okay to lose your your
anger. It was completely okay to just be
impatient.
And now Islam says to you that you've
gotta be the best with your family first.
The people that, you know, for the most
part would annoy you the most to it
because you're with them all the time. Right?
But here you are now. You're told
you're literally instructed
to be the best version of yourself.
That is something
that requires you to be conscious, to be
aware
when you do feel the urge to react
or do something you know that's wrong,
to be able to pause and remind yourself,
if I do this
in front of Allah, it's not right. I
may be punished.
I may be sinful,
and I don't want that to happen to
me. So
all of this on a personal level really
goes back to some of the things we
try to address
in the about your sincerity with Allah
and your patience with people and the reward
that it gets you with Allah.
As long as you
are aware and you pay attention to how
you feel and how what you wanna say
and do and be able to sift out
all the things that are wrong, I think
you you'll make a I think you can
make a lot of progress
in life. And one of the best,
examples of that is
I mean, before Islam, his temper got him
in in a ton of trouble.
Right? People were so afraid of it. They
didn't wanna go near him or talk to
him because why?
The last person we wanna offend is our
Umar because we know his temper.
Right? Even there was a time when
asked a woman for marriage,
and she said no.
And when he asked why, like, people were
like, that's Amir and you're actually saying no
to him. And she actually responded and said
because of his temper,
I need him to calm down.
So if with that awareness alone, it can
go a long way.
Yeah. I actually like the the fact that
you brought the the the, the example of,
of because
at times, we need to really understand the
fact that
manners are important in Islam, but they don't
really determine the kind of person you are.
Right? Like like like the type of religion
you are. That means you can still work
on yourself. Right? So it's not something that
you say,
I have that sit. I, you know, that's
just the way I am. I don't care
what anyone thinks. I'm gonna stay this way.
Yeah. You know, the best of Muslims had,
they they were short some some of them
were short in temper, but it's something that
they actually worked on as well. And some
things that they that people recognized
as something that was also negative about them,
but they still did a lot for the
community itself. They still did a lot
for the Arab
Muslim online. Yeah. And, you know, Mahmood, I'm
glad you mentioned that because one last thing
is
the prophet alaihis salatu wasalam, the famous hadith
in
the.
You know, I was sent here to perfect
beautiful manners.
That one hadith is it almost summarized his
entire prophethood
Akhlaq. In terms of Akhlaq.
The wording itself, like, I came
to literally
patch up all of the discrepancies
and the cultural barriers
and the misunderstand I came to patch all
of that up and put everybody on the
same page.
So if you take that same principle and
apply it wherever you go that you learn
to adapt and understand and consider.
You start off refining yourself before you start
and as a result of that everybody else
will appreciate
your company, appreciate you. And inshallah, it'll just
it it'll be good for everybody.
Bless you as always. Yeah. Talking to you
is just really fascinating, Sheikha. I I genuinely
appreciate,
first of all, our friendship, and I I
genuinely appreciate having you around.
You're
wise beyond your years, Sheikh, even though I
know you're a little bit younger than me.
But, may Allah
bless you and give you
So I mean, what yeah. I appreciate it.
You a minute or 2 to just give
us advice here,
before we, break up for Adan.
One statement of Imam.
It's one of my favorite quotes. This is
what I will leave with everybody,
and just use it for what it whatever
it
means to you.
Imam Al Shafi
had once said,
in times of difficulty when people abandon you,
just realize that that is Allah's
way of showing you that he wants to
take care of your problems and take care
of you all by himself.
So,
you know, if you can't find the support
or there's nobody to turn to or talk
to or there's no outlet available to you,
just realize and remember that the statement of
Imam al Shafi'i Rahimahullah
and, the fact that Allah may want you
to himself, and he will take care of
you himself. And as long as you speak
to him, Insha'Allah, Allah will take care of
everything. I hope that, keeps every everyone strong
Insha'Allah.
I'm just gonna add to it if you
don't mind.
I I guess really one of the the
the important hadith of Ramadan that everyone always
talks about. It's not it's not the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
If you're hearing Adhan, that's me and Oshawa.
Don't break your fast yet. So it's 11
minutes. Okay? Oshawa's a little bit east of,
where you guys are. So don't don't don't
break your fast. We still have a minute
or 2 to go into Allah.
The hadith that I want to share, Sheikh
Hazeq.
Being conscious
of yourself, being aware of yourself, and and
then this this whole self awareness
and being conscious of Allah
as well. Like, continue
someone
is
I mean, don't don't say I'm a fasting
person for the other person to realize, but
this is, you know, as all the scholars
always say. Right? Yeah.
This is this is a reminder for yourself.
I am a fasting person.
So I'm not gonna respond to him in
a demeanor that, so and so on thinks.
So I am a fasting person. I'm not
going to,
I I you know, respond in this. Just
just a a a 30 second, commentary on
that, Harishya.
It's it's beautiful. I mean, you did a
fantastic job.
Again, it just goes back to what our
redeem is all about. We are not a
dean, that is built on
selfishness.
We're we should be concerned and we should
constantly think about others and the the image
and the impression
I'm just gonna do it my way. It's
their problem. That is not a an Islamic
attitude to have. And, like I said, you
know, Shaikh, you you mentioned it very beautifully,
and I would leave it at that inshallah.
It's a pleasure to speak to you. Bless
you. I know it,
we have almost a minute before
but I'm gonna let you go because I
know you're outside and people are waiting on
you inshallah. Okay. Thank you very much,
That was our sheikh and our teacher, Sheikh
Muslikh Khan. He is the imam at the
Islamic Sutra,
and, his today was on manners, character, and
Ramadan. It It was a beautifully delivered.
I do wanna give you a couple of
reminders before we go. I think we have
about maybe
10, 20 seconds before we do anything else.
Tomorrow
is our community iftar that's happening at the
Islamic State of Toronto. It is always,
happens after a lecture that's going to be,
delivered by one of our shiur, Insha Allahu
Ta'ala.
Make sure you come early tomorrow.
Come at least an hour and a half
before iftar because you will not find space.
The past couple of weeks has been really,
really busy, Alhamdulillah.
So come a little bit early
It's, experience community, experience just a a loving
place to be, and also a a place
where you can
feel good about being
Alright. So it is now time for us
to call the Adan. I will
go ahead and do so, and it is
iftar time for whatever you are inshallah.
No. Sorry. For only for Ramadan. So I
ask Allah
to bless you inshallah.
And, until we see you again,
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