Ask Musleh – What do you do if you’re in love with someone who isn’t interested in you?

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Santa Monica warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters Welcome back to ask Muslim. Today's an important question. You're in love with Mr. or Mrs. Right, but they're not in love with you. So what do you do? How do you deal with that? Imagine if you're engaged and you're trying to deal with all of those things with your potential spouse, but they on the other hand are just not interested or things are just not working out. So how do you what do you do from that point forward? First thing brothers and sisters, as you want to understand is the foundation of how to deal with these kind of problems. And that is Allah azza wa jal is in control of everything in the Quran and suited to room

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verse number 21. Allies so Egypt clearly starts off the verse by saying that it's from the signs that Allah azza wa jal has created spouses for you. And then it continues what Jared avena kumala de waterhen, Allah azza wa jal places between you love and mercy. Now listen to the verse very carefully. Allah says that I am the one that places that mercy and love between you, it's not something that you're going to do on your own. It's not something that based on your effort based on everything that you do to try to impress that person to make their relationship work. Allah is clearly telling us no matter what you do, I'm the one that's in control. So you may want it so bad,

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but at the end of the day, if Allah hasn't given it to your eyes and written it down for you, you're just simply not going to have it. So that's the first thing is to understand that Allah azza wa jal is always in control of the relationship. Number two, a lot of people when they get caught up into this kind of a relationship, or the engagement time, they get caught up with, you know, things that you're going to miss out with that person. I mean, they look like the perfect Muslim, they look like they have all the qualities that you're looking for in your life, but there's only one thing, it's just simply not working out. Well, what I want to say in sha Allah, for a person who probably is

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dealing with that is, maybe you want to stay away from focusing on what you're missing out, and focus on what Allah azza wa jal may be protecting you from. Because you don't know that if you do get married to that person, that once you start living with them and you start living life together, they may not be the person that you expected them to be, or that engagement lifestyle is very different from the marriage lifestyle. So perhaps Allah azza wa jal might be protecting you from something that you yourself can see or can't understand. I can tell you, there are so many cases that I've dealt with in my life, where two people got married as a happy couple, a couple. But

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during the marriage, it just turned into an all out war between each other, they started hating each other fighting with each other, and things just went downhill. And so panela eventually ended up in a divorce. So that's the second thing that you might want to think about. Third thing when it comes to dealing with this kind of situation, is to also understand that you might be putting forth each and every single effort to make things work, but that person may not be doing that towards you. What that could be telling you is they're simply not interested and you need to get out of that bubble of emotion and love and connection with that person. And look at them as a human being and know the

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reality that look, this person is just not interested. And perhaps Eliza Jen may change or replace that individual with somebody better for you. So Be positive, be optimistic, hope for the best in sha Allah. If it doesn't work out with that person, then hopefully in sha Allah, it'll work out better with somebody else. You just never known that you might be living in North America or in Europe, but your future spouse can be in the middle of China somewhere, or you might be in the middle of some other island or country somewhere in the world. And Allah will take both of your hearts and attach it to each other. That is one of the most beautiful aspects of marriage. So I hope

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that insha Allah, no matter how the relationship goes, at least this video would bring some hope to you and to your hearts. May Allah azza wa jal make it easy for all of you guys will send them more and more to lie to you about a cat

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trying to do all the right things to make the relationship work, but

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it's too much. I want to just get to the question.

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Like starting to give a hobo all of a sudden, okay.

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Every single one of us have to understand is that in the Quran,

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suited to Rome in verse number.

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Is it 21? Guys?

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Yeah, I think it's a sin Mr. alikum warahmatu Allahi wa barakato brothers and sisters Welcome back to ask Muslim. Today we have a very important question.

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That's it