Gardens Of The Pious #130 Apr 15th 2015

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AI: Summary © The segment discusses the book Guardians of the Pious by the Grace of Allah, covering topics such as the first segment, fourth chapter, and the meaning of "help," as well as the use of "help" in the book. The speakers emphasize the importance of men being considered figures and being a member of a group, as well as the need for privacy and disrespect during online shopping. They also mention legal cases involving missing loved ones and the importance of fasting during sex, as well as the need to avoid sexual references during fasting. The segment ends with a recap of the shaping of cars and houses during the pandemic.
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love our God is the Greatest. The moment only glory to Him. The only good ole miss to be the best and give his best religion to them. Allah God has been greatest. The one and only Glory to him on any given was to be the best and give his best religion to A salaam aleikum wa Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi wa Kapha was Allah. Allah I begged him the dean of stuffer. Let's see Mr. Mustafa sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa seldom at the Sleeman Kathira all Praise to Allah alone, we praise Him and we seek His help. Whomsoever Allah guides is a truly guided one and whomsoever Allah leaves us say, none can show him guidance brothers and

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sisters. Welcome to a new episode in the series of Guardians of the pious by the Grace of Allah. Today's episode is number 153. And that is going to be the beginning of chapter number 35. The first episode in explaining the chapter which is known as help with XlG Island, Maura, or the husband's white concerning his wife.

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Remember, never we and may Allah have mercy on him, began the chapter with a single area. It's number 34 or the fourth chapter of the Quran, which is Seurat Anissa Surah Nisa is a whole chapter that is named after women because it dealt with women issues, or main concerns, women rights, and also with their duties towards their husbands, their family members, and so on. So look into a number 34 And this is a beautiful idea. It's kind of long, we're not gonna be studying the whole area, but we'll only study the segment which deals with the husbands right in this area, and also with regards to what will make a woman superior what will make a woman righteous. So Allah Almighty

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says area nakawa Munna Arlen Nisa

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EB mAs of Bala law, who bow bow whom Allah ugly beam, Philip who

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will be in fact who mean him. So sorely had to call Anita to have your wall to wall EBV Mahaffey of our law.

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As I said, this is the first part of animal therapy for the remaining part we handled before in another segment.

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The meaning of this area as Allah Almighty said, area deja vu Rue Kawa, Mona Harland, he said men are the protectors and maintainers for women.

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Because Allah has made one of them, to excel the other and because the spin they support them from their means. Therefore, the obvious women are devoutly obedient to Allah and to their husbands and God in the husband's absence, what Allah order them to God.

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What is the meaning of the word called?

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LP wema have been misinterpreted by some people as superiority.

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So that's why you find some people say look in the Quran says that men are superior to women. But we have in the Quran also in skeletal Herat, Allah lot Almighty made superiority only for the righteous ones. Regardless of the gender, regardless of their complexion or mother tongue, he said, Yeah, are you and so in a holla canal commune Zachary Mwanza Jana, Cujo, Benoit Elita Rafo. in Accra, Macomb and the law here at Oracle in Allah Holleyman hobby, and I believe will study this area over and over and over. All mankind we created you from a single male and female you have the same origin. Then we made you into nations and tribes in order to know one another. Indeed, the noblest one of

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you is the one who is more righteous, more pious, and indeed, Allah is all knowing well acquainted, indicating that only Allah only Allah can tell who is more righteous and accordingly who's more noble to add

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in another area Allah Almighty forbid that when may admire themselves by saying that I am more noble, more righteous fella to that cool and full circle who ILM will be manator CA,

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Fellow to the code enforcer calm do not admire your service do not praise your service Allah knows best who is truly righteous. In the light of this act, we understand that the following fact that superiority is given only to those who are more righteous. The determining factor of superiority is pious piety and righteousness. The second fact that no one can really admire themselves and say that I'm righteous or I'm better than others. Rather, it is only Allah subhanaw taala who determines only Allah is the only one who knows who is more noble, and who is more pious.

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So super unity was not given to agenda over another, no to a confliction over another, or to a mother tongue or ethnicity over another, rather, in Surah to nutlin numbers 97 Allah Almighty says Minami la sala Han means zakat in our own answer. Wahoo Menon fell no one will hire Tom for you button will enter jersey and home at your home we accent America and we are maroon whosoever does saw your hand Good deeds, righteous actions. Whether a male or a female means Zachary now owns we make no distinction between the good doors based on the gender any other factors were who are most men. The only term is while the person is really a believer, fella no he and now who hire Tompa

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yerba, so we shall give him a goodly life whom is it he or she whoever means that Karina was whether it's he or she, while energy is here now and we'll share with him all males and females, men and women at your home we shall compensate them and give them the reward according to the best of what they used to do. Here the Ocklawaha as many of the Morpheus three, such as Abdullah have now best may Allah be pleased with him?

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Radi Allahu Anhu man interpreted our moon as O'Meara on Atlantis I am Amir means a leader in charge. Protector, Guardian responsible does not necessarily mean superior, does not necessarily mean better, as we explained earlier, so he's in charge. And there are other Hadith which will confirm this meaning right now. So that's why we chose a Regina Luca Wellmune guardians, protectors and maintainers of women. Why? Because Allah created him this way. He equipped them with the proper means to be protectors, to be guardians to be maintainers while he equip women with other means, which when men look at it, they think it's a sign of weakness. And we said no, it's not a sign of

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weakness. This is perfectly fine for them to maintain these qualities. Women are more emotional. Men are more physical, why they have more strength to use their mind and intellect more while women are more emotional, because that suits their job bearer. You know, bear in the child breastfeeding, you know, looking after the babies and until they grew up, the person will be a grown up man. And he will be married and have kids and the mother would still call him baby. he is or she is her baby. She's the one who raised them and foster them more even than the Father. So this quality of allowed with our emotions is more befitting to have an extra dose with regards to the woman then with the

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man who has to go out, work hard, earn the living, support the family, handle different situations, protect the family in the Hadith the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam is a man methadone family he for who Shaheed woman murdered her elderly for washing Shaheed if one died while defending his honor, trying to protect his family members receive a rubber book into

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his house, who's going to step out to defend the family, the wife, or the husband, who's willing to to expose his life to the threat of even getting killed or seriously injured, the wife or the husband? So each one is given qualities to suit the task for which they have been created Regehr Rocawear Munna Allen He said, Be my fab doll Allahu Allah whom Allah bobbin where we met and Felco mean Mr. Lee him. The second means, why they were given this trust are being protectors and maintainers are being guardians, and nataka spending of their wealth, which indicates that support in the family financially is simply the duty of the husband, not of the wife. And he said, we've

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shared with you many a hadith before how Abdullah had numerous roads wife, whenever she wanted to pay her own Zika. He said to me, she said, You're my husband, I cannot give my Zika to my family members. He said, Yes, I'm eligible to collect yours, okay. But you're not eligible to collect my Zika because I'm responsible to support you financially to feed you too close you to vote bed on the table. But you're not required to do that. She said, let me ask the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, first, there upon she went, and she asked the Prophet salaallah Salam, and he approved that. So if the husband is poor, the wife can pay her Zakah to her own husband, and she will receive double

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word, what if the wife is poor? Can the husband pay her from his own account? Of course not. Because it is your responsibility to suffice for the for all their needs, your wife and their children will be met and fell Coleman and wildly him

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when sister called me, and this is one incident out of many have a few incidents like that. And she said that I am the one who is the provider for the family. It all started when my husband got laid off. So I started working. And for the past four years, I am the one who's working and taking shifts, and working hard and traveling abroad and providing for the family. And over the years, he became so lazy, he liked the job of sitting, the babies, even a babysitter at home than raising them, washing the dishes and he's a good cook. I'm not gonna deny that. But I don't feel like I'm married to a man. I'm so tired.

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And I advise her what she needs to do over the years. And I advise that what he needs to do. But simply, he was not able to work anymore. He became more into staying at home. Even after the kids grew up. And he got married. He's more than willing to raise his grandchildren, but not to work, not to provide for the family. She is the one who pays him his allowance. If she does not give him money, he would not have money in his wallet.

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She said I feel like I'm not married to a man. Both are Muslims. And both are practicing. And eventually, years later, she said I've already made up my mind. He's not willing to change. And I cannot live with him anymore. After three or four decades, she does not feel that she's married to a man. And these guys have you know, wisdoms. I'm not gonna say we're from, but they're not Arab. I'm not gonna say because these are Arab and cultural traditions. No. Things like that happened in America happened in the West. A woman needs a man needs a man who is protected, who is financially responsible for the whole family for her to pay the bills to pay utilities to send the kids to

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school, that she feels that she has a use of force Subhanallah first of all, you had to call Anita to have your word to lilikoi be be Mahaffey of Allah. Then Allah Almighty describe the traits of the righteous wives for an utet obedient to whom,

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obedient to Allah,

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and obedient to the husbands whenever the husband asked her to do something that pleases Allah. But if he ever asked her to do anything that is in contradiction with Allah's orders, or to do something that Allah has forbidden or dislike. She's not even allowed to obey him. No matter what happens. Connie tat Allah's obedience is number one.

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Have you watched too little YB Dima, ha

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feel of Allah, which means they got in the absence of their husband, they got their husband, they got the wealth, they guard and protect their secrets they do not reveal their secrets. Whatever happens behind closed doors is not revealed to the public, not even to her sisters or mother or family members or friends. This is our privacy. What else be my Highfield Allah which means this is a command that Allah ordered you to God your husband to protect his privacy to cover and conceal his false and errors and not to share what goes on between you to the public. And the same was given as a command to men. Okay.

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So these are the traits of the righteous women righteous wives, whom Allah subhanaw taala promised that if a woman were to obey Allah,

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offer her five daily prayers fares during the month of Ramadan girl her chastity and obey her husband in whatever that is within her capacity and in a command that does not contradict Allah's command or enter command which is not a prohibition for Allah subhanho wa Taala then it will be said to her into Paradise from whichever gateway desire on these foundations. On these foundations, Muslim families are based established and flourished

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whenever the couple live together as competitors in Abdullah Haguenau best sort of the Allahu Anhu mazet Kawa, Munna Amara,

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every entity, whether it's huge or little whether it's a country or state or a city, or a community needs a leader, we have to elect a leader, the Prophet salaallah Sana mercy is a quantum selasa for a mirror. If you happen to be three if you're traveling. If you happen to be only three people, you should appoint an Emir leader. No one says that this Amir is the most righteous

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and the dearest to Allah. But he's competent, he is more qualified to lead the caravan to make decisions. While consulting the rest of the community.

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Each vehicle only takes one driver at a time. In my last visit to the UK, I

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rode with somebody in a car where I found that in the seat next to the driver, there are paddles for accelerating and the brakes. As I said, this is a learner car. So when we teach people how to drive, the instructor sits away from the wheel, but he is in control. So if the person who's still learning makes a mistake, he steps on the brake. He can only step on the brake to slow down the car to avoid you know, but who is in control? Who's leading who's driving who can do that only one person at a time that is a minimum of ltym but also Allah subhanaw taala older that should be matura

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the true should be matura. Even with regards to breastfeeding on worldly that will go under the Hoonah hola Anika mula in Diliman Radha yootheme Marva. In this ayah Allah subhanaw taala says, For in order for swollen and thorough them in Houma watershed, Warren, if they both decided to wean the child to stop the breastfeeding, even though this is the job of the wife, but you guys have to consult each other, you have to do matura even in a decision like that, when to stop the breastfeeding when to do the weaning. So the Matura is prescribed in the Quran. That is the meaning of this beautiful area region Ohkawa Mona island he said that they are not fist fighting, and each

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one is claiming leadership. Everyone knows the job. Everyone knows what they need to do, so that they perfect the job properly. The following Hadith,

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which is the first Hadith in this chapter, chapter number 35. Your husband's voice is Narrated by Abu Hurayrah Radi Allahu Allah, Allah Allah rasool Allah, He is Allah Allahu Allah, he was a lamp either there are Raju atta, who Isla Faraci fell on TV for Bertha Albana Allah, Liana tal mela eager to help to spear with death upon Allah. This is someone Hadith agreed upon its authenticity in watch the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam assayed whenever a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond,

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and the husband spends the night and

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I agree with her the angels cursor until the morning the hadith is collected by Imam and Haryana Muslim This is a very serious Hadith. Yeah, and it has been rated by other means, such as the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, I said, when a woman spends the night away from the bed of her husband, the angels cursor until the morning, and that's a sound narration as well. And in another one, the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam assayed by him in whose hand is my life when a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond, the one who's above the heaven, become displeased with her until the husband become these becomes pleased with her. What is the meaning of all of that?

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Again, some people will take things out of context and say, look,

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they treat women like slaves,

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and a man rapes his wife and stuff like that. It's not like that at all. Number one, this is talking about ordinary conditions. Imagine there is a Hadith a sound Hadith, in which the prophets Allah selama said and it is narrated by Javelin Abdullah Radi Allahu Anhu man,

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that if a man happens to see from a woman, anything, which he may like, and he's pleased with family of Jaya Illa, Marathi, he let him go home to his wife and let him have an intimate relationship with her father in the Lika Yahoo mafia NAFSA.

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If anything tempts you in any woman, a beauty queen they have seen, you know what? If you're married and you go to your wife, and satisfy this desire, lawfully with your wife in having an intimate relationship, that begs this desire that dismisses this desire, Hollis because basically by the end, there is an urge. And once you take care of the urge and satisfy your desire, you don't have this temptation anymore. You would not be tempted to look at this woman or even contemplate an idea of having a relationship with a woman who is not lawful to you. And that's why a Nabil Salah SlMs aid, all young men, Jamar Shara Shabaab, if you can afford to get married, if you are at a marriageable

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age, you have the urge to get married and you can afford it. Do it. Do get married as soon as possible. Why? For in the whole hot Boolean bizarre or I follow little Forge, because it is better with regards to assisting you to lower your gaze. You know what, when you're married to a woman whom you love, when you're married to a woman who pleases you and you see her and you please her when she sees you said, You satisfied you don't want to see any other woman's I wanna. You don't want to have a chat with a woman who's not lawful to you. You know that this chat may incite fitna.

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Okay, your desire? No, you don't want that even a colleague at work. That said, because you're satisfied, you're happy. Imagine when a person goes home. And his wife had been busy with the makeup with the chat with her friends, or or the shopping. And when he comes home, the house is not taken care of. She's not even walking. She only wants to spend money. Okay. And meanwhile, she doesn't give him his right. She doesn't share bread with him. So when he asked her in, I'm not reading now. I'm tired, or whatever reason. And there is no legitimate reason we're talking about in ordinary condition when she does not have any legitimate reason. And the husband has the urge. And he is

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calling his wife for his right to satisfy his desire in a lawful fashion. She doesn't have any legitimate excuse because if she does, the case is dismissed. He has to understand that she's sick, she is under pressure. She is tired, and whatever reason which is legitimate. Okay, but if there is no legitimate reason, in this case, wherever the prophets Allah, Allah, Allah selama said in this hadith will happen to her.

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And by the way, don't you think it's only one way that the wife have to please and satisfy her husband's desire and that's it? No, it also goes both ways. And this is all stemming from a number to 28 of Surah Al Baqarah, in which Allah subhanaw taala said well of Hoonah Miss Liu lezzy, Allah He Knebel ma roof, for women, for the wives, there are rights similar to those which are due upon them. Bill maruf on the basis of kindness,

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you give you fulfill your rights, you fulfill your duties, you have rights to be fulfilled. So if the husband is not fulfilling his rights, is not supporting the family financially.

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He's abusive. He insults and beats his wife and slaps on the face. And she feels like she cannot share bit with him. Is that legitimate?

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Will insalata nutlin Number 126 Allah subhanaw taala says, we're in our cubby tunefab People will be missing the marrow Kibito

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which means whenever you have a chance to retaliate, retaliate to the light of that which you were afflicted with. But he also said in the last segment of the Iowa in sabar, Tamila, who are highroller slavery, but if you endure that patiently and you do not retaliate if you do not take action that is even better for you before Allah subhanaw taala because Allah has prepared a greater word for the patient once but it is your right if the husband does not support the family financially, if the husband is like some of the sisters will call us in the husband drinks, the husband hangs around women and I'm afraid that he is going to transmit some STDs to me. Yeah, you

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have all the right not to share bed with him. You have all the right not to give him his right in proportion. This is what Allah subhanaw taala said within 228 of Surah Baqarah or 126 To be continued in sha Allah after the short break please stay tuned.

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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh and welcome back. Since this is a live edition, I would like to remind you with our phone numbers for those who would like to give us a call area code 002 Then 01 double 02464583 alternatively a code 00201 Double 0250 Double 125 Double 08679 and the email address is [email protected].

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We will talk in about the duties and the rights both should be maintained. And I remember an incident which is rated by ZDNet Aslam. May Allah be pleased with him that he narrated that Rama Rama hottub may Allah be pleased with him once was patrolling the city, the Medina and you heard a woman from behind closed doors. He heard that she was reciting poetry that she made up and she said that oh well. I had a lady who was what the journey boo. We're rockin Hola Hola. Hola. Hola, Eva who follow Allah Hey, Lola Hachette Allah, He will hire Lucha caminhada Sorry rijo anybody. And this is very, very powerful poem that the woman expressed how much she was missing her husband. And she said

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I'm desperately in need to have my husband next to me right now I want to share a bit with him. And she said by Allah had it not been for the fear of Allah and modesty and shyness. My bed would be moving by now. Like you know, having a relationship and haram but because of the fear of Allah and because of the quality of our higher I understand Mr. Malhotra bro the Allahu Allah, unlike rulers who see people dying out of hunger, and they say, What can I do for them? No. Rather, he reacted to a desire of a woman who is missing her husband, and she wanted him to share a bed with her. So he immediately went to his daughter Hafsa may Allah be pleased with her, one of the prophets wives? And

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he said Hafsa Yeah, buena. Yeah, my lovely daughter, for how long could a woman afford to stay away from her husband? His she said, between five to six months maximum. She's answering in the light of you know what women experienced back then. Because women would stay home while the husband would go in a caravan whether to ashram or a Yemen to earn the living and come back a few months or to travel in a war on a battlefield. She said five, six months. So right away together the commanders of the Army, and he said that every single Muslim soldier to join the army should not stay away from his wife more than six months.

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And keep in mind one month going

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back and forth Yanni one month traveling and one month returning back. So if any army is traveling abroad maximum period as soon as you should stay away from his family for months, in addition to the two months of you know allowing the journey to travel back

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Can fourth. So why did he, why did he stay this low? And this is something that has been established more than 1400 years ago, because of this woman right, which represented the need of older women.

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They need their husbands to be with them. And because of that, you find difficult hap, the Muslim jurist have spoken in cashflow Cana in the Hanbali folk in the Shafia effect. The scholars of the OMA stated that if a husband travels, and he does not return, and his wife is asking him to come back and he does not return, she may take the case to the court and the judge orders him if he doesn't come back, he has the right to separate the wife from the husband, she can find another man because she's in need, she may fall into haram. So Islam treats the problems by approaching them does not only treat the problem superficially, he has there are some energy six, be patient,

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observe, fasting is hardcore and do exercise. But the problem still possessed, we have to uproot it. And there is a solution. What if the couple both agree, you know, for us to raise our kids, you have to travel abroad, you go to the Gulf and you stay for years, in order to make, you know, to give us a better living, and I'm busy with raising the kids, I don't have a problem. Otherwise, no problem will not impose it on them a particular lifestyle. But this is also an advice to every person, every employer whom ALLAH blessed, or you may say tested with wealth. So he has a big company, and he has employees coming from Sri Lanka coming from Bangladesh coming from Pakistan from India from

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Afghanistan. And these guys support in a big family. You know, some people take their passports away, they keep it in their pockets and deprive them from going home. If they ever dare to say I want to go home my mother is sick My father has the way my wife is asking me to come back. You know they say no, not before three years or four years haram. Haram. Definitely haram oppression zone. And Allah the Almighty will not forgive that. As long as the person does not forgive that the person who has been oppressed. Rather, if you and Allah to bless you and increase your provision, and bless your work and protect you from calamities, protect your children, protect your daughters, and your

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sons and your grandchildren. You know that this person is you know, leaving behind a big family have an HR find out about those who are married, if it is possible to bring their spouses if they don't want to, or otherwise if they're happy this way. Every year they should go back to check on their families to see their needs so suffice for their needs. And their needs are not only financial we're not machines where human beings learn from Mr. Malhotra or the hola Juan and learn from the hadith of some people only read it from one side which is oh, I asked my wife to share it with me and she refused to the angels are cursing her. What about the other way around?

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What about the other way around? The following hadith is Hadith number 282 Masha Allah, we've learned a lot brothers and sisters, but we just hope that we actually

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will win willing to implement what we learn or even some of it in this hadith

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Abu Hurayrah Radi Allahu Anhu narrated and Rasool Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Akkad lay your head Lulu Marathi and daSun I was able to hash a hidden inlab izany while at Zona fi beta he Ellerbee is now motif upon ally. And this narration is integration of LML Buhari.

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Abu Hurayrah. May Allah be pleased with him they rated that the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him said it is not lawful for a woman to observe, fasting, especially voluntary fasting without the permission of her husband, when he is at home. And she should not allow anyone to enter his house without his permission. This is a very sound Hadith

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talks about one of the husbands rights actually to the first one is that a woman is not allowed to fast, especially voluntary fasting without getting permission from her husband. Why? Why not? Fasting is a great quality. The prophets of Allah selama said man sama Yeoman few sebelah bad Allahu Bina who have been a nurse

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Sabina Khalifa imagine fasting only for a single day, for the sake of Allah, according to some of the commentators of the Hadith, according to others means on the battlefield V. Sebelius Allah, Allah will distance this person from the fire of hell, the distance of which maybe a covered in 70 years of traveling one day you fast. So if a woman wants to fast, what is wrong with that, no problem fast. But just make sure that your husband is okay with that. Because sometimes the husband is coming for more, he works on night shift. So he doesn't have a chance to see his wife. And during the day, he has a need to be fulfilled, himself and his wife is at home. And he's asking his wife to

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share a bed with him. And she says, Sorry, I'm fasting. But your first involuntary fasting, you know that if you have guests

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at home, and they came and you're allowed to bake your first if it is voluntary fasting to honor your guests, you will be rewarded though, but to honor your guests.

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Imagine your husband is asking you to protect himself to satisfy his desire lawfully. And he says, Sorry, I'm fasting, and so on and so forth everyday like that. That's why he said, get a permission from him that you're going to first today. What if the couple are in agreement that are Hamdulillah? Whenever she wants to fast, no problem, and he's fully understanding no problem. I mean, you don't have to get permission from him every single time you fast.

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The meaning of the hadith is to maintain his right in this respect, and in this regard,

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and disrespect and disregard. Sometimes, when the couple are fasting, even on Ramadan, they have this urge this desire and Subhanallah it's even greater, while fasting. Why? Because the shaitan wants to miss up their fasting.

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And her young Muslim narrated the Hadith

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by Abu Hurayrah or the Allah and said that he will sit in in the masjid and a man came to the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam and Cydia rasool Allah Allah Tala act, I had been destroyed, I had been ruined. He said, Why do you say such thing? He said work hard to actually. I have embraced my wife sexually during the day time of Ramadan while fasting. So now, while fasting, you're not allowed to approach your wife sexually. You're not allowed to do anything that can lead to having an intimate relationship, the foreplay in the kitchen and the hugging with this desire with this intention. Well,

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he said to me what happened? He said work hard to grow it I have I had sex with my wife while we're fasting. The Prophet sallallahu SlMs said

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Robert and Minuten three, slave,

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neck believing servant, male or female that will make up for that sin. I said I don't have any poor. He said okay. Fast. For two consecutive months, two consecutive months similar to the kuffaar of the heart, similar to the kuffaar of the in deliberate killing, in addition to the blood money, two consecutive months. Cydia Rasul Allah, I can in addition to that, he fell in this dilemma, because he had this desire while fasting, and I'm weak it can't. He said the otter MCT and I'm screen and then feed 60 poor people. They see the Rasul Allah we have no food to feed ourselves, how can I feed 60 poor people. So it says stay here and he you kept quiet Subhanallah somebody brought a huge metal

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full of dates, container full of dates,

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to be distributed in a charity. So the prophets Allah, Allah, Allah is lmsc to the man here, take this and distribute it and feed 60 people in order to ransom yourself from this major sin. So number one, violating fasting by having sexual relations and talking about complete sexual intercourse during Ramadan is a major sin. The person must see forgiveness number number two, the person must resume fasting, not to say well, you know, anyway, the first thing is, oh, you know, I can eat and drink and enjoy having another relationship? No, you must abstain from eating and drinking and resume fasting. Number four, you must make up that day.

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Number five is an answer or the kuffar. In order as I say you cannot just skip one and go to the next a list. If the first is not available, like having freeness leave or you cannot afford fasting then you can resort to feeding 62nd Guess what brothers and sisters

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this penalty will be due upon

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both husband and wife if both of whom were in agreement in violating fasting by having the sexual relation during Ramadan. But if the husband forced his wife, then only the husband is blameworthy, and only him must pay the penalty Subhanallah so while fasting, the mandatory fasting, there are limits.

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A young man came to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and said Is it permissible to kiss my wife while fasting? He said no.

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And subhanAllah in the same setting somebody else and Uncle Amon as a Prophet sallallahu Sallam about one kissing his wife during the daytime of Ramadan? He said it's permissible. And when their companions were surprised, because there are two different answers and in the same setting to the same question, he explained with the Gospel, the first one is to block the means which may lead to falling into sexual relations while fasting which is a major sin. The the kisses on the hugs from young couple, is the foreplay that would lead to having sexual relations. But from the uncles, elders, this is a means of mercy, like a person who's kissing his child or his sister, you know, it

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doesn't mean the sexual background Subhanallah accordingly,

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that the scholar said the applies to the voluntary fasting and also in case that she's making up the Miss fasting, women during Ramadan, they may skip a few days because of the menses. So they have to make them up obviously, but they have 11 months to make those six or seven days. So, oh, he was slaving in abroad or he was working night shift. And now he's taking a break he just arrived today. He arrived and he is so excited about you know, meeting his wife and share in bed with her and she hopes on fasting today. I have 11 months to make up fasting. Why only today? This is a meaning of the Hadith to maintain the husbands Alright. Is this some sort of a patient? Of course not. This is

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to maintain chastity of the entire community.

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Remember Hadees jabber that if a man says what pleases Him from any woman, what do you need to do?

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Do I see if it habit in order to stimulate yourself sexually so that you have a sexual discharge? No one levena whom live or do you him have you hold the god or chastity they got their private parts. But if let me known in the beginning of certain among the trace of the successful believers they got their chastity obviously except having a legitimate relationship with their spouses. Where else can I do it? So that's why the order that she should not first of all until the fasting or make up a mandatory fasting except for the permission if it is something that she has to get a permission before but there is a mutual understanding. Me and my wife we fast every Mondays and Thursdays

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Alhamdulillah. There is no need to remind there is no need every time to say honey can I finish tomorrow? Okay, there is a mutual understanding that Masha Allah we regularly fast Mondays and Thursdays. And he's okay with that. He's cool with that. Furthermore, we fast 13th 14th and 50s. No problem.

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Everybody knows that and Hamdulillah we and our children in the family say that we regularly observe fasting on the 10th of Muharram on the ninth of Ashura on the 10th of Muharram. That's our Shura, the ninth of the hijab, the Day of Arafah there is a mutual understanding. So if there is a mutual understanding, there is no need to get written permission every time. Okay? Unless if there is a habit, that there is confusion, there is a dispute. In this case, please, before fasting I'm going to be fasting tomorrow. Are you okay with that? In order to please Allah Subhan Allah to Allah and his messenger Salalah Salam remember brothers and sisters, their word is immense is beyond

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imagination is very enormous. It will be said to her, what holy Janata mean, are you aware we have *ty when She obeys Allah when She obeys the Messenger of Allah when she fares the five during Ramadan and observes the five daily prayers and She obeys her husband, if it is something that she can do, and it is not something forbidden, then in this case, it will be say to her entire agenda from whichever gate you choose. May Allah make all our wives this way. The greatest pleasure in this life is to have a righteous wife. And may Allah make all the husbands a Muslim has

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spoons rageous and caring for their wives. I mean the whole call we heard that was tough for Lady welcome. Just come to the end of today's edition of your program Guardians of the pious. Until next time, I leave you in the care of Allah wa salam aleikum.

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