Social And Family Conflicts

Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari

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Bismillah you're you're watching the

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cinema.

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Rahim Al Hamdulillah motto on the star you know who want to start Pharaoh who want to study when I wrote a bit later on surely and fusina amin say Dr. Maria, Maria de la, la la la, la la vida de la, y shadow, either in La la la la sharika Kela

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Mojave bonobos Watanabe Mohammed Abu Allahumma salli ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala he

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was heavy in elementary, Sunny the dean, alumni alumni and found out when

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Hannah kolomela

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came of my original

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juris respected listeners brothers sisters, once again a Salam or Aleikum, wa rahmatullah wa barakato. I welcome all of you once again,

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to my daily

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discourse on the topic of family disputes, family conflicts, causes and solutions.

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After a gap a few days, the last time I spoke to you was on

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Thursday,

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we were discussing the causes after mentioning the importance of maintaining family ties, the importance of keeping harmony and peace within the family,

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within the family and within the household. And I mentioned many verses of the Quran and many Hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam, in this regard, and then after that, I went on to mention, and outline the causes of families disputes, causes of family friction, and the solutions because we really need to know brothers and sisters the solutions, so that we practically take something away with us remember, all of this is to improve ourselves. All the talks that we hear all the discourses that we listen to, and all the programs of the oleonard, the scholars the shoe, all of them are for one purpose in order to become a better human being in this world, so that we have a

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better alpha in the next one.

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That that is what is our objective aim, purpose and goal. So

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we look we're looking at the solutions causes and solutions. And if you remember, in the previous week, I mentioned two causes. So far, two major causes and reasons for family disputes and family friction. First one I looked at was having an incorrect intention. And I discussed that in detail with you. So the solution was to correct our intention, maintaining ties and being good towards people, for the sake of Allah not for any worldly return or gain or anything like that. And the second cause was that we have diseased hearts, and not purifying our hearts and our souls. And on Thursday, I spoke for an hour on the importance of purification of the soul and purification of the

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heart. And we discussed how that has an impact how not purifying our souls and our hearts and having a diseased heart and having jealousy and hatred and enmity and envy, especially envy and jealousy that are talked about in detail has a direct link an impact on our dealings with other people and especially in the family, you know, within the family, household and in family relationship.

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Now we move on to cause number three.

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So far two, if you remember, you should make notes of this brothers and sisters, you should you should make notes of this so that inshallah it's beneficial for us so we can be better human beings in this world so that we have a better aka two causes mentioned so far, correcting of intention. The cause was incorrect intentions when we are good to people and the solution. And the second cause of family disputes was

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diseased hearts, non purified souls and hearts so the solution was to purify our hearts and our souls. Today I move on to brothers and sisters in the next hour or so well, literally less than an hour now, before we start

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to cause number three

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cause number three

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is to do with money. Money Matters.

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Money Matters not money matches, but money matters.

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There's a difference between money matters. And money matters. And I'm sure you know what the difference is. Money Matters, mean many issues,

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many problems, problems to do with, with money being involved. Unfortunately, we as human beings, we have these diseases, again, connected to the heart of greed, health, and love of the dounia level of the world, which is a spiritual disease. And we are really selfish, human beings. And therefore, because of that, each one of us we want the dunya we want good for ourselves, we want all the pleasures, we own all the wealth, we want to be rich, we want to gain more and more, even if it is at the expense of other people.

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And that is one of the major reason one of the major causes of family friction and disputes. Because when we have this disease, of love of dunya love of the world, then you know what happens? We don't see them, whether it's our father, whether it's our mother, whether it's our wife, whether it's the husband, whether it's children, whether it's relatives, whether it's Muslims, non Muslims, whoever, whatever, whenever we just don't see, because we are deeply engrossed in the love of dunya then it doesn't make a difference. If the person next to you is your brother or anyone else. Really, it doesn't make a difference. So this this disease of love of dunya the messenger sallallahu alayhi, WA

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alayhi wa sallam said in a hadith about dunya, Rasulullah

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Hubba dunya ratso Khalifa the

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love of dunya and love of the world love of materialistic things, love of material aspects is the root of every evil and evil prop fiction is an evil. So you can generalize that evil to fiction, fights and argumentation. This is a heavy, inconsolable armored, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is saying like level of junior level, Junior is the root, root of all evil, and family problems and friction and social unrest, and social conflict is an evil. So, love of dunya is a major cause of friction major, and we all know this for a fact.

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Look in the world, you will see that most of the crimes and sins that take place, the root cause is level the

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level of linear level of linear means not just the pleasures of the world, having too much love for the pleasures of the world. And having read

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look at most of the you know

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murder, killing, theft, robbery.

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You name it. oppression, oppression in the world we see it's because of it's because of love of dunya wars take place in the world. As you all know most of the wars.

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there they're not wars of really ideology ascent as such, but they are wars to do with oil and wealth and money and supremacy in the world. Right. So was friction major friction

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on a world level, to all the way to the friction within the home, connected to level donia. We need to really seriously take out this level of dunya from our hearts. It's a spiritual disease we need to we need to remove health, greed and love of dunya dunya remove it and replace that with the love of Allah Allah subhanho wa Taala with the love of his messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was

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really the opposite of that opposite of love of dunya his love of Allah His Messenger zuid abstinence from the world having no concern of the world. We use the world to extend the meat. We use the world to the extent of meat, but then after we don't love the world, this world is too short. You know there's a tradition

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attributed to a sadhu Salatu was Salam who said that

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the world is like a bridge. This is attributed to ERISA. ERISA, Jesus peace be upon him. The world is like a bridge. So just cross over it but don't build on it. And this is exactly just like the Hadith

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messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam couldn't fit dounia and naka de Bono, Sabine

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live and remain in this world as you are a traveler, and not just a traveler the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Bell, bureau Sabine, live in this world, as you are not just a traveler, but a passer by you just passing you're just passing, you know, when you're when you're driving on m one or M 69, and six o 62, m 66, or whatever. And 40 when you stop at a service station,

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that service station is like the dunia We are on our way to our final destination, you start building properties after properties of the property and of the service station. You think you're going to live there forever, you don't. And that's how this dunya should be. Seriously, that's how this should be brothers and sisters. We need to remove this love of dunya and this only comes about constantly, constantly think about death okviru vichara has emitted that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Remember, abundance death has even loved that. He said the thing that breaks your pleasures, the things that don't let you have pleasures, that death going to in a hurry to

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come. And xerocon Oh boo, boo her inner to the Hara. Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that you know what I used to forbid you from visiting Greece. But now Allah has ruha go and visit graves because in to the Kuru Kuma Hara, because graves and graveyards go into the darkness in the middle of the night will remind you of your death. You have to remember this world is so short, as I was saying, in a talkie, just not yesterday, yesterday and the day before how to talk. So if somebody heard me yesterday, and the day before, one in one message, and one was just slightly outside, Lester, then I apologize for the repetition. Because, you know, sometimes I know that he can bug if

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you hear something from the same speaker three days in a shot. So I really apologize, but I'm thinking this is another audience.

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This dounia

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This world is our saying, just you know, the the lifespan that we get

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brother and sisters, you know, the lifespan we get average right now is about 60. Seriously, it's about 60. And that's if you get the full average, if you get the full average, you know what if you're 40, you've got 20 years ago, if you're 50, you've got you might get bit more, you know, but average is like 6065. And I normally say that when you get 30. It's like you're on a log for nobody gonna lock you up, the boat is going up, up up, when you get to 30. You're there. And then you go backwards. When you're 31. You're not 31, you're 20 920-827-2625. And you might just get a leap from 25. Straight to zero to death. Seriously, that's how the short this life is. It's not worth it.

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Imagine your next life. How long is the next life? next life next worldly life?

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How many years we're gonna live that

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eternity.

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Not we're not going to live next in the next world for 10 years. 20 years, 100 years, 200 years, 300 years. 1000 years, 2000 years, 3000 years for eternity. Imagine 6070 years of this life and eternal life of the hereafter. Is there any comparison? None whatsoever.

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Emily dunya Cabeza de Vaca ecoffee. I'm

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Audrey baka ecovia.

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Work for your dounia as long as you need to live in this world, and work for your next life as long as you need to live in the next life.

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So work for this dunya for 6070 years, we need to earn money. I'm not saying we need to we need to have we need to acquire money, we need to earn a livelihood we need to. But it's just to get us by our ultimate aim. An objective is to have a better next life by doing good deeds in this world by avoiding heroin activities in this world, by avoiding harming anyone in this world, by serving the community by serving humanity by doing good actions in this world, so that the next life which is eternal, eternal life, never ending life becomes blissful, and peaceful and pleasurable for us and there is no sadness and there is no sorrow and there's no grief or no punishment. That's what we

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want. this dunya is just very blackness to short. We say you know, we will say that as well. Life is too short. Life's too short. We know and unless you sort of look at us and said yeah, Takara was time we become short on the day of judgment comes. So really we need to try to remove this level of donia the messenger sallallaahu it was said

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limb says In addition the son of Mama tirmidhi

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locality dounia tadeu and the law Hey Jenna Martin masaka kafir Amina Shabbat Amma,

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if the value of the dunya

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was

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as equal to the value of the wing of a mosquito, in the sight of Allah subhanho, wa Taala, he would not give a disbeliever, the woman does not believe in Him, even a drop of water to drink sharp, sharp,

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mouthful of water.

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If Allah value dunya, he will not even give a small amount of water to someone who just believes in him. But there's no value of it in the sight of Allah, that value is what

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you could have the best mentions in this world, the best cars in this world, the best code in this world the most money, you could be the richest brother or sister, it doesn't really do anything. Because you know what, at the end of the day, the one who has 500,000 pounds, the one has 5000 pounds, both of you are going to the same place in the same graveyard, under the same ground and the same kind of clothing, nothing less, nothing more, you're not going to take nothing with you, you're not going to take your car with you, nobody's going to put bury you in your, you know, 60,000 pounds car, and then I'm going to park that car below the graveyard. I'm not saying you can't buy a car.

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I'm not saying that. But I'm saying not, we should not have level these things.

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We're not going to take, you know, if we thought we'll take our cars with you, maybe it would be worthwhile buying it. You know, there's two things, it would be worthwhile. If somebody gave me you a guarantee, if somebody gave me a guarantee, you know what I guarantee you I have if there was a guarantee that I was going to live in this world for about 300 years 300.

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Somebody said, without a doubt or if there was a guarantee from God, say for example,

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let's suppose

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let's just suppose if there was a guarantee that we will live in this world for 300 years, you know what I would actually strive and struggle a bit in in earning a bit of money and making life a bit good for me. And for my children.

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If there was a guarantee for about 300 years, that would make me you know, really work a bit harder in terms of dunya and trying to you know, spend more time in the dunya, then for the author, there's no guarantee you could just go like this, and nothing will take nothing with us brothers and sisters nothing.

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We will not be buried in our graves in our you know, cause

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that's what the pharaohs used to do. You know, if you've been to Egypt.

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And I mentioned this in the talk as well the other day, what do they do? If you've been to Egypt, if you've seen the pyramids, and not just the pyramids, other places, you know what they used to do? They used to bury their Pharaohs and make kings and their leaders in their graveyards. In a like a massive room. That's why if you've been in the pyramids, there's a big pyramid, the middle and the smaller one I went in a couple of years ago, we went to Egypt. And I went into the middle, the middle pyramid.

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And right in the middle of the pyramid that's literally was a you know, grief, where one of the pharaohs was Pharaoh and Pharaoh was buried, and they are buried in rooms in that room. You know, when the Kings used to be or their leaders used to be buried, they would bury them with all the gold or silver, their belongings, fruits and vegetables and bananas and apples and strawberries and everything sees the least regarding all that. And they would read you know, write all these good luck messages on the on the walls and pictures and things like that, and then put the coffin in there. And then everybody would go. He's to think, okay, now all these golden silver this guy is

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going to use is going to study it is going to another world he's going to buy and sell. That's what needs to gather. So they used to think that, you know, if we don't use all this in this world, we'll take the rest to us and in our grave into the next life, all this gold and silver and all that all the money that we're earning, we'll use some of it in this world if we die, and we can't use most of it, or all of it or even half of it. Fine, we'll take it with us in the next life. We're gonna do some business in the next life

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with the buy and sell some properties there and we'll use our gold silver. That's what they used to think.

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That sounds really twisted and, you know, funny to us. But if that seems funny, then we're more twisted because we know for a fact they thought they would take their stuff and their wealth with them. And then they would really, you know, give too much importance to jr over Arthur. We know for a fact that we're going to take nothing with us till we deal with this world as though we're going to live here forever.

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Love of dunya brothers and sisters, I'm going slightly off track but level of dunya we need to remove it's the root cause of many evils.

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So Kali hottie at the messenger sal Allahu Allah, Allah says in the Quran yohannes in de la Hee ha

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run a common hire to do

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whether you're running a combi lahiru or people, verily the promise of a law is how it is the truth, the promise of a law which means that you will die, and that the next you will, you will be raised in the next life after will come, the day of judgment will arrive, we will have to die. You know what, there's no difference of opinion between any two people about the

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eventuality of death, occurrence of death.

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We all know Death is inevitable. Without a doubt Death is inevitable. And also we all know for a fact we are absolutely sure and we know for a fact that we do not know when our death will come.

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Right we know for a fact. So Allah says in the law he has

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the promise of a law is true by the word render common hire to dunia wherever Rhonda Camilla Hello rule. Do not let the dounia the life of Veronica manhyia to dounia the life of this dunya Don't let it deceive you don't live in this world and think you know what? Yes, I'm still young and I've got time. We don't know. me. I'm attorney Maha Boonen, FEMA, Kathy roominess as well for all two things regarding which most people are in deception, health and free time, we think we've got a lot of health and free time. Who knows what guarantees that in a couple of months, somebody could just tell us that we've been diagnosed with cancer, we have a safe Salam in Europe, in Europe, but we don't

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know. It's all in, you know, in the hands of a loss of hundreds, there's no guarantee people pass away in their 20s 30s there's no guarantee whatsoever. So it's hard that you have don't have the level of dunya in it. You know, because if you have the level of dunya in it, you have the love of the world in it, it will make your this life miserable, and it will make you miserable. Both seriously both. You know why? Because if if we have, if we have the love of dunya extreme love of dunya in this world, then we will be pleased we won't be at peace because remember love of dunya doesn't bring about peace in the heart Even money. Many combine everything by peace,

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tranquility,

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Harmony at home. Never money cannot buy that. There are people who are extremely poor, just relaxed in jungles who have so much peace and tranquility in their life that some highly rich people would never even think and imagined and begin to even have that kind of peace and tranquility. And this is why the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Lisa Lavina and Catherine Arab mala Kindler, Raina, Raina knifes rich real richness is not by having more wealth in the Marina. The real richness is the venom laughs is the richness of the heart, which is being content, which is being at peace.

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A person's monthly yearly income

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is 10 K. And another person's is

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100 K. But the one who's,

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you know, yearly, his wages, his 100 K is still you know, thinking and struggling and his his unrest in the heart and mind and his bills are extra and he's paying this and he's paying that and he's just he's always, you know, under pressure. And our has got 10 k doesn't even need to count his money. He's just relaxing, eating. So Moses and budget and relaxed,

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who's more rich, no doubt that the one who's got 10 K is much more rich. It's much richer. It's really in the heart. I'm not saying that doesn't mean that it's you shouldn't know. Sometimes the one has more if the one who has more but doesn't have levels. And that's what I'm going to come to. I'm not trying to say here that don't earn earning the livelihood is is a thought of obligation because we'll hire you for a button battlefury that is an obligation, but we should not have love of it, use it. Use the world, earning a livelihood, it's important, it's necessary, but we don't have love of it. And this is a very beautiful example given by Rumi Rahim Allah about the dunya You must

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have heard of his example.

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He says that the dunya is like a boat. When you're in your boat or in a ship. The dunya is like the water around.

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The boat watch on the right is watch on the left had water behind the water below you water so that water is good you using our water, as long as the water is around you using it fine handling, the the moment the water starts coming into your boat inside of your boat, then it's going to be disastrous for you it's going to drown you. Likewise the dunia should be around your heart. Use it live in this world just live in this world use it to get by to the next one. Your ultimate objective is the next one.

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So dunya is good as long as it's on the sides of your heart, like the waters around the boat. As soon as the dounia comes into your heart, it will drown you out. Beautiful example we need we need to utilize it. mm even taymiyah Rahim Allah

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He gives a very good example another beautiful example of the dunya he says the dunya is like you know what?

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Make your toilet and your bathroom and your washroom.

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He says it's like just like a washroom or a bathroom. toilet.

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You can't have a house you can't do without a bathroom and a toilet.

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Right?

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But that's you can't do without it. You can't do without a junior you need money you need to go to live in this world. Just like human being cannot exist without a toilet you need a toilet when you buy a house. You have to have a toilet. But is that the first thing you go and check when you buy a house? Is that the first thing on the list of your you know, priorities? First thing I want to check out how good the tool is? Is that where you spend most of your time?

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Definitely not well,

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not supposed to.

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Even though some people like spending too much time there more than needed.

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Which is not good.

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We should go there. Stay there as long as we need to be there brothers and sisters. This is one of the etiquettes and then depart. need to leave as soon as possible asap.

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Don't sit there reading your newspapers and magazines and don't sit there using your mobile phone and texting around and don't do things that you're not supposed to use our country to the etiquettes of using the washroom. It's not a nice place to do things like that. Every area that it has a job, the job down there is you know what the job is you do that job and you leave. Okay, so it's not a place to chill out basically. Anyway, so

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alamelu Tamia Rahim Allah gives a very beautiful example of the dunya he says dunya is like the toilet the washroom.

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You have to have a washroom, you have to have a toilet.

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But toilet is not at the top of your priority. It's not at the top of your list of priorities. When you go and buy a house, it's not the first thing you go and check out it's not something that you spend your most your time in. He's just there because of a need. So therefore we need to earn money, we need to get a job we need to get a good job we need to get a healthy job we need to earn money because we need to earn a livelihood we need to feed ourselves our families and Allah subhanaw taala has actually made it an obligation upon us. Because when halali for you, baton, Babel, Fariba, that earning a livelihood is

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an obligation after the obligations, but do not live live sorry, do not let the level of Delia come into the heart, do not let the level of dunya come within the heart. This is very important, do not let it come because as I said, we're going to family conflicts and disputes because if love of dunya comes into the heart, then it will make your this life miserable. Because you know what? Like the Hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam where he said that the even Adam, the son of Adam, nothing will nothing will cease, nothing will fill him.

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Look, if he has one value of gold who want another one, and nothing will fill him up. So if we have love of dunya, then nothing will fill us up. And we'll just be and unrest will be will have pressure will just be always agitated. Even if you have a lot of money one more and more and more. And this level of dunya will create problems and friction within the household within within the family, your relationship with other people will deteriorate because of your level of dounia because you do anything to get your hands on that particular deal or that contract. Wherever you do anything whether it's an expense of other people. And you know what this this is a trait of an animal at the

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expense of others, you know, animals cannibalism, each one another. They don't care. They want to feel their stomach even if it's an expensive another to the point that the father of the child eat

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have its own offspring in within the animals if you know within the animals what happens? The male mates with a female, and then the female has to actually protect its offspring

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from the male who she mated with, because that, you know, Father, so called,

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is there to attack an eater.

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The newborn, this is an animal instinct, at the expense of other people just wanting to fill in fill up one's own stomach, to fill one's own pocket to get pleasure and wealth at the expense of other people exploit other people's vulnerability, exploit other people's weakness. This is an animal instinct. So level of linear will cause all of this to happen. any relationship

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you know, if there's a husband wife relationship level, it's gonna cause problems. The messenger sallallahu alayhi, wa aalihi wa sahbihi wa sallam said in one Hadith

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at a computer backup, in nahoon.

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Or Harmon automobilia. See, he's describing a type of wife and a type of woman that a man should marry. So the messenger sallallahu alayhi, wa sallam mentioned three qualities.

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Sweet mouth people, sorry, sweet, sweet mouth, women marry women with sweet mouth.

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Not literally, he doesn't mean literally, but who's who speak in a pleasant way, love a beautiful way of speaking. And actually, that is very important in a marriage, especially for a man, both man and a woman. But you have a spouse who is whose tongue

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is full of sweetness. Not someone who's always you know, sour and bitter in the way they Converse. And the second will antiqua Harmon, the one who are prolific and giving birth. And then the last quality the messenger sallallahu alayhi, wa aalihi wa sahbihi wa sallam mentioned was what automobile yessir marry women who are happy and less than content with less, who are sorry, marry women who are happy and content with less. They don't have the level of dunya in the house. Because you know what, if you're going to marry to a woman and your wife has extreme amount of love of dunya, she'll want to handbag and a pair of shoes every other day of the week. That socially every

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time she one nation, one nation will not petfusion will not dress this outfit that outfit. She's got 40 pairs of clothes in the closet and still have stomach Smithfield. So behind Allah, there are people in Africa who have never worn shoes in their lives.

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They walk bare bare footed, and we have sisters who have 40 3020 pairs of shoes in the ownership. That is ridiculous.

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So this is what the messenger sort of love and use. And I'm saying you have problems because your wife will want more and more from you from the husband is going to cause problems. Likewise, if the if the husband has love of dunya love of the world can cause problems can call friction in the household. Why? Because for him, his work and his job and his level of wealth and his level of money and his car will mean more to him than his children and his wife.

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Have you he'll be willing, he'll be willing to do anything to get his hands on another car, to get his hands on some other car. And more money. And you know, with the extreme This can lead to people have sold their wives and their children in some areas of the world where they actually make their own

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wives and children commit prostitution and things like that in order to get money.

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So this level of dunya if the man is has never been here, he'll do anything. Likewise parents and children if you have you know love of dunya parents will be stingy or be greedy will have heard us will have love of dunia the father and the mother that they have more of a linear than therapy of their own children, more love of dunya more time being exerted and put in

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acquiring the wealth of the world and having extreme love for it even though you know they have sufficient amount and not and violating the rights of the children.

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So, level of dunya will create these problems and frictions within so therefore, the first point here and inshallah we're going to break after that I've got some very important things to discuss. Now, maybe this topic we carry on tomorrow, this this third cause, but after the break, I have some very important things to discuss in terms of how level of dunia will and sorry many matters and many issues. How

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They have an impact within our family setup and how quote, friction and disputes are caused. But anyway, this first point was to talk about that we need the cause of love of dunya we really need to remove the love of dunya and love of the world from our hearts, replace it with abstinence with love of Allah subhanho wa tada a love of his messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and this will come about by thinking about death as much as possible. We need to realize that we need to know we need to understand that we have to die one day and death is very close and this life is very short. If we do that in sha Allah and make dua you know that Allah subhanaw taala removed this level of dunya

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from from our hearts. Shall I end with this and we'll have a short break and we'll come back after the break to the Santa Monica Kumara

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Sara Marie Kamara

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no human 100 loss Hello.

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Welcome back. Sharla carrying on with our discussion in the last half an hour or so before Ramadan, less than half an hour by 20 minutes.

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We're looking at the third cause of family friction and family disputes. Why do we have a lot of problems at home a lot of friction, a lot of disputes a lot of fights and argumentation. We've discussed two causes and looked at the solutions today we've started with the third cause. And as I said, the third cause is actually many issues, many matters. And just before the break, I talked about the evil, of love of dunya that many of our problems and majority of our disputes are caused because we have this animal instinct of wanting to violate other people's rights and take the pleasures of this world at the expense of other people and have never done it in our hearts. So we

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need to remove that now talking about moving on to some specific issues connected to many issues.

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And family

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disputes.

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First point I want to talk about is

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the issue of taking a loan.

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First of all, my dear beloved brothers and sisters, we should really make a habit of not taking a loan. Unless if we really, really, really need, you know, taking a loan causes much anguish,

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much depression with upon your own self and caused a lot of problems within society. I myself come across so many disputes. I mean, I talk about all these things after a lot of experience brothers and sisters seriously because I have a lot of you know, because I answer a lot of questions and a lot of these kind of disputes on a daily basis, I have to come across where people are now they're so too cold to so called, you know, really good friends, practicing Muslim brothers, who apparently look and act and behave as absolutely practicing Muslim people. But the dispute that they're going through enmity, that issue. And that contract or that deed has caused between them is that is that

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kind of enmity that you will not even have it with your worst enemy. They actually literally, absolutely hate and abhor one another and this major friction and disputes and sometimes it leads to physical, physical stuff.

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So therefore, this is the reason why the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sahbihi wa sallam historymakers dog, he's he's to seek the protection and the refuge of Allah subhanho wa Taala from Dane minerality, Dane aluminio to becoming irrelevant in vain, Allah, I seek your protection and refuge in You from being overcome with debt. Therefore, if you don't need to brothers and sisters do not take a loan. And actually this is a ruling folk Aha, the jurist of the various schools of thought our classical scholars have stated that you know, if there's not a need, and actually it's wrong, and it's not desirable to take a loan, it is only permissible to take a loan, if there is a

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genuine genuine need if you really have a need because, you know, it causes problems. It causes problems. So that's, that's the first thing about Dane and then

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be very, very careful about these issues. A lot talks about taking a loan in a verse in the Quran. You know, the longest verse in the Quran, Allah talks about the the longest verse in the Quran is not to do about Salah it's not about prayer and sacrifice and Hajj. The longest verse in the Quran is called and termed as a a to Medina. Medina Medina is from the word Dane. Dane is means a loan, right? They means a loan.

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come this is the verse of the Quran, Allah subhana wa tada is talking about them. He's telling us the rules and etiquettes of taking a loan, you're Latina, I'm an O you who believe that the yen can be dangerous when you take a loan, without Bikila edgerly musalman to a fixed time, but to do write it down, write it down, write it down on a piece of paper, if Mohammed has to even if it's two pens, even if you're taking two pounds, if Mohammed is borrowing or taking a loan of two pounds from Abdullah, that he should write it down. This is what the Quran is telling us that you know Mohammed such and such on this date on this day took a loan of two pounds from Abdullah on and you know, will

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this money will be repaid on this particular date after one month or after two months or after five months or after one year or one month upon demand. That whenever

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you know

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the loan is demanded, one month advance should be given advance notice should be given everything written down. clear, clear cut crystal clear have witnesses what should you do either by item? What are you Barbara khatiwada Shaheed have witnesses you sign it, the creditor signs it that that assigns it and the two witnesses will sign it and make a photocopy give it one to the data one to the creditor to one photocopy to the one witness the other photocopy to the other witness. This is what I was saying be very clear. And I'm going to talk about some of these issues in quite detail tomorrow about you know, determining ownership.

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But being alone really create a lot of friction, a lot of problem in our society. A lot of problems. People take money they don't want to give it back mattala nudelman messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in the Quran Allah says we're in Canada or Salatin, Anna veritone Ilana Sarah, Anna Sadako her lack of in content alone. Do you know what if someone's taken a loan from you someone someone owes you money and are sort of in Canada or saw that person is in difficulty? He's in a difficult situation. Things are tight for him. For Nevada de la mesa, give him respect. Give him time you know, be gentle with him. Be gentle with him. Especially if you have money, be gentle.

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Find a hora de la mesa, I forgive them inshallah, this is better for you this one like Subhana galaxy. But in the Hadith on the other hand, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says napoule avani Bowman, the one who has many to pay back. But he's just delaying. He's just delaying. You know, tomorrow. Next week, my bank account and credit card Oh, I'm getting money from someone else. Whether you get money from someone else or not. If the time is due, you must give him back.

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You must give it back brother sister. It's a major heroin major sin regardless of how much Salatu tarawih prayers a god hydrometer after Amara Ross drama, you're going every other year and you're going out with harmony, every Ramadan, and you're doing all the different nerfing and recitation of the Quran whatever you're doing, you dress like a Muslim, and you wear the niqab and you have the hijab and you have the beard, but if you are violating the rights of other human beings, then that is a major sin, and that will not be forgiven by Allah subhanho wa Taala. And to that person does not forgive you ever even a penny that we owe to someone in this dunya seriously, we will have to

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pay that on the Day of Judgment, and not with currency but with our actions without a deed without armor. And this is why there's a Hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam where he says he said to the companions of the Allahu Allah, He said at the Guna, Malmo. Please do you know who is a Muslim who's a bankrupt person, the companions of Allahu wa rasuluh O Messenger of Allah, who know best we do not really know who a bankrupt a muffler says.

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They said, Sorry, muffler Sufi. Nirmala dinar, Allahu Allah Durham. According to us in the dunya we think a bankrupt person is the Sahaba said and this is how we would think as well is the one who doesn't have any money no dinar No, there have been no pounds, no dollars, no wealth. If somebody broke, then he's a bankrupt and messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, No, that's not really a bankruptcy. You know, he said, I'll tell you who I really am.

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shootings and bankruptcy, a bankrupt person and broke person is the one who comes into who comes in the Presence of Allah subhanho wa Taala who comes on the Day of Judgment, who will come on the Day of Judgment, with abundance of Salah with Salah in abundance with prayer with fast with that God has rewards with a lot of recitation of the Quran, good deeds wa salam, ala Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam all the good deeds lacking, but da da, da, da, da da da. That but he hit someone who is slow swore at someone he consumed somebody else's money and lawfully, he needs to give money to someone who's taken a debt to do and paid. The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said this will be the

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most bankrupt person because you know what, he'll have to give all that money back with his good actions. And if all his good actions have to go, they will have to go and then our time will come he'll have nothing left to pay. Somebody will come and say Oh, you know what, you took three pounds from me. You didn't pay me my three pounds where you want you can borrow me three pounds and you didn't give it back to me? And there'll be no good deeds left then what will happen? Mila safer so this is a scary

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then that person will be given the sense of other people, Sins of other people and then eventually be thrown in the fire of hell. Never save us all. Nobody ever saw me Allah save us all in Europe. Seriously, it's a very, very delicate thing we need to think about this brothers and sisters. Allah says in the Quran yo yo la Vina Aminullah otaku? Amara combina con bill Barr how you Ludhiana ermine Kuru Amala campaigner combi BA degree in in Turku in an akuna the Jonathan hunter Oh min come Oh, you who believe Oh Muslims. Yeah, let me know that. I'm welcome bye combiner comm bill bottle do not consume wealth amongst you one another's many do not take one another's wealth, and lawfully in a

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haraam way, Bill Baldwin invalidly il and takuna t Jonathan Antara unless if it's a mutual deal, based on mutual consent, mutual agreement, only if the other party has agreed to give you that money to only if the other party is at ease, only if they give their consent and the permission and the happiness only then otherwise, all of this on the

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piano. Brothers one day yo yo monosyllable adenine, Allah says, One day you will have to stand in the presence of the Lord of the Halloween. And we have to give answers for all of this. So we really need to be very careful family conflicts and disputes take place, and family friction, one of the major causes is loans. So the first point, do not take loans unnecessarily if you don't need to go, especially with family members, you know, don't and if you have to social contracts as well don't take loans, if you have to then take it but then be very crystal clear. Pay back on time, pay back on time,

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not following your loan.

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And be very, very careful.

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From whom you take your money and wealth and give everything give give people they do

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give people this is justice This is either in the law Yeah, I didn't either, you know either. Either means justice either really means giving people they do their due, right? That creates balance within this within the society.

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We have we have these rights that we owe to other people.

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So be very careful. And likewise,

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gifts, sometimes another point exchanged at the time of marriage and he got

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this problems. Because in laws give gold, they give jewelry, they give something to the son they give something to the bride that gives them into the groom. Nobody knows who's owns what and what's been given to whom and when and how and if, seriously, problem. Be very clear. When gifts are exchanged. If you want to give someone say, look, this belongs to you, it's yours forever. I will never take it back from you. And if you say and if you don't want to give it like that you want to just borrow it, then tell them this is for you to borrow. This is you don't own it, make a witness. things should be clear. Make your dealings clear. And actually I'm going to talk about that point

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separately, maybe tomorrow, making our dealings, crystal clear.

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Fraud and deception in our dealings in our in our you know business dealings cause a lot of friction within a family

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and generally in a social on a social level.

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deception and fraud

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Which major since the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said men are Russian athletes and in the one who cheats us is not one of us.

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You know, when we buy and sell something, this will cause friction, okay? Because when we buy something, it won't be pure will will mix. We'll make something else is selling milk with a bit of water in it. Nothing's pure nowadays we don't live in a pure society. You know, some, some people do this repackaging. I don't know if you've heard of the repackaging.

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I don't know how people can do that giving less. This is called the thief.

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You know what the truth is? And I will talk about this a lot. You know, there's a verse in the Quran where Allah subhanaw taala in the last suit of the Quran, sorry, the last juice of the Quran. Allah subhanaw taala says while you lil mo Puffin, and levena is a fellow alumnus, yes, the food or is that kallu who was the New York

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Marathon Yeoman Alvey, Mumia Oman nestled

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in destruction, Wayne, destruction and punishment of the Fire of Hell before those people who commit the sin of the thief we live in

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a levina era katello Allah nursia stole food. When these these people won't be unto these people who committed the sin of the thief, they will enter the fire of hell. And what is that sin Allah says this in the last juice in the last juice of the Quran. And levina is a catered alumnus he stole food.

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These people when they go and buy and when they have to take things from their family members and relatives and from the shops and from people when they have to take by way of measurement and

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weight and measurement when they have to take things. Yes though food, they want to take every single bit of it every inch of it. You know you go and bicycle you know, fill it up, fill the bag upright to the top. So when it's their time to take by measure or by weight, they will make sure yes, though food every drop every inch, they will take. But

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if the you know if it's if they're on the other side of the fence, whatever, Caillou who was a New York City, when they have to give people by way of measure and weight your room. They give a bit of less they get they give less. This is all I say. They don't fill it up right at the top. They're selling sugar, they're selling wheat or selling body.

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Whatever the selling, they give less

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dates. They're giving less whether caralluma was soon. And then Allah says Allah, Allah He can soon Don't these people realize Don't they know?

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And I don't know they don't these people who commit this major sin and the whole of our own food that they will be resurrected. They will wake up again in the next world. There's life after death. Leo, many of them don't realize that they'll be resurrected for a great day. You may or may not nasolabial alameen.

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On a day when whole of mankind would have to stand in the presence of rubble. I mean the Lord of the worlds

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This is what Allah is saying to us. I'm just translating the verses of the Quran, numero uno de la bella alameen

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food deception and the Hadith the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Men are Russian athletes, Amina, whoever cheats us is not from one of us. You know what happened? The messenger sallallahu alayhi salam once went to the market of Medina. He saw his hobby, a person setting some dates. And he saw the dates. There were some nice fresh, brilliant, beautiful dates right at the top of the basket. He put his hands in it. And at the bottom, the basket was filled with all

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defected dates and dirty sorry filthy dates or sorry, dates that were not

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there were not good dates.

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And essentially what you're doing, you've got bad dates here and right at the top you've just put some good dates, so that you sell it

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and the messenger

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became angry and then he said this. Minerva, Shanna felice, Amina, this is the Hadith in Sahih Muslim, so he authenticated Howdy, whoever cheats us is not from us. When so therefore when you sell as well, this issue needs to be if you advertise something has been pure, say it's pure, because your customer will call back. If something's got a defect in it. Tell them it's an obligation. The messenger sallallahu wasallam had is a synonym new manager, men Barbara eibon.

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I even Lem you begin Who? Lem? Yes, Alfie Mattila he well I'm eager to tell sooner I have an email even imagine whoever sells a commodity an item that has a defect in it and he does not reveal or disclose that to his customer. He will remain in the anger and the Wrath of Allah and the angels will curse Latin of the angels

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you know the people have a better setup salatu salam peace be upon him, they were punished because that's what they used to do these to do four days to do deception. And there are many, many other examples as well. So these things cause friction, friction.

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These call these things cause disputes and problems buying and selling

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many examples giving less wages or as an employer as employee not working for your full time full hours. And many many things you saw a lot of time has

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come please God so I can't really carry on but there's some other issues that I need to discuss on the same topic this third cause of family friction, family conflicts and family disputes, connected to money matters. I have a lot of other things to speak about inshallah. Tomorrow, some very important issues within the family about you know, making sure that our ownerships are sorry what we own everything, all the dealings are identified and clarified, etc. So we shall I will carry on with this point with this point tomorrow, which is like a locker for listening today. okoto Cody had a staffer Allah wa sallahu wa salam ala Sayidina Muhammad Ali, he was happy he was selling was Salam

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alaykum. warahmatullahi

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Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen Shangri La Mata who want to stay in who want to stall fiddle who want to study

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when our will to be later elementary and fusina woman say Dr. Medina, Mayor de la Loma Linda Who am I?

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Allah wa shadow Allah Allahu Allah wa shadow. Wahhabi Bana was watching our eternal Mohammed Abu rasuluh Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayidina Muhammad Ali Baba Vina pahari Marine Elementary

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in Allahumma, aluminum and Corona when Fina Tina was panicle Loma Linda Indiana and Tina in

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this respect respected listeners do brothers or sisters

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assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. I welcome all of you once again

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to our daily discussion and my daily discourse and my daily talk

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on the topic of family conflict, family disputes, causes and solutions.

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For those of you following this program, and this discussion,

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you would know that

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we are discussing

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cause number three of family disputes.

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The first major cause of family conflict and disputes within the family was

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incorrect intentions. And I discussed that in quite detail in the solution to it. The second issue or the second main root cause for many of our disputes was

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which I discussed in quite detail was that we have

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not worked on our hearts and we have diseased hearts. So the solution was the purification of the soul and purification of the heart and then discuss that in detail as well.

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And then yesterday, I moved on to cause number three, which was the issue of wealth and Money, Money Matters. And I talked about this in quite detail and inshallah even today, we need to discuss this issue in quite depth and detail. How many issues and many matters contribute to contribute to many disputes that we find ourselves involved in? How money and wealth contributes to many of the conflicts, and many problems that we find ourselves involved in? How wealth has a direct impact on much of the argumentation and friction that we find within our families.

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Within our social circles and within generally Muslim communities.

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And the first point that I discussed yesterday that the first thing to do is that we need to really, it goes back to the heart, we need to start working on our hearts, and we need to remove the level of dunia the love of the world of budoni are so I think I mentioned this, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the love of the world is a root cause of much evil. So we really need to work on our hearts to remove this level of dunya. And then I went to mention some points regarding these many issues. And that's where we are at right now. And I want to carry on mentioning this in quite detail.

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Many matters and many issues, brothers and sisters has really a very strong

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connection with disputes and friction and argumentation and problems. Really, many, you know, as, as we said, the headings are so cool, you have the it

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many causes much anguish and many problems that we find ourselves in

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is because and due to due to money.

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So these money issues, we need to be really, really careful about many issues seriously, we really need to be careful. And I mentioned this yesterday, then more I'm alert you see, more I'm alert means our money dealings, monetary dealings, financial transactions, financial dealings, monetary dealings. We need to be very careful. Islam is just not about a Baghdad worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala. Islam is not just about salat,

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and sown and Zakat and Hajj and oma Islam is not just about

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keeping a fastening Roma bond and offering tarawih prayer. Islam is not just about wearing a soap, having and growing a beard and wearing a hat or wearing a niqab and hijab it is much more than that. It's not it's about those things as well. But beyond that, how we financially deal with our fellow Muslim brothers, sisters, and not just Muslims, even with non Muslims, our monetary dealings, Islam has a great role to play in that.

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You look at the verse of the Quran and the Hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam they deal with Miranda, that financial monetary transactions, financial military term transactions. If we think that Islam has nothing to do with our financial and military dealings, the way we deal with people the way we make claims, whether it's any claim, it whether we're buying, whether we're selling, whether it's renting, renting property, whether it's loans, whether it's debts, whether it's credit, whether whether working whether wages, whether in being an employer, whether you're an employee, whether you're making claims, you know, the program discussion showed before my this talk

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was about tax, credit and child benefit and this and tax, all of that we need to be we need to be very, very careful. We need to know what is high learn and what is haram in Islam.

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We could fast all day long, and we can offer our Torah we pray and do all the sharpening. But if we are not acting upon the rules of Islam in terms of our financial monetary dealings, if we are eating haram and eating haram does not only mean eating pork, not just the ingredients that not the E 467. Not just the four seven ones. Eating haram means even the money that you use to buy halal food, you can be eating vegetables, but if you are using haram many and lawful money to buy those vegetables, those vegetables become Haram. So it's not just about e 4962. E 471. Sometimes we get overly obsessed about ingredients and we take you know like a packet of chocolate and 960 but what about

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income? Did you lie and take this money? Was there any deception involved? Was there false claim claiming Was there any fraud? And I mentioned this yesterday the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Amanda Shanna Pele semina, the one who cheats us is not from us the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam our beloved messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who we claim to love, and we think we love and we think loving is only sending blessings on him sal Allahu Allah said we must do Sahaja Allenby as much as we can.

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But we can send blessings on him all day long. But if we are cheating, that he says that you know what, you're not you're part of me.

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Imagine think think about this for a moment. Dear brother system. We need to think about this. We included all of us. Seriously, we need to think about this. Let's think about it for a moment. We are claiming and we want to love the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said when we're selling

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the house

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And we'll never be in the heavy barbell. I mean, we want to love him. We want to send blessings on him, which we call a solid, a solid Alan Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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and we claim and we want to love him. So we sit there and we say X amount of times I sent 1000 times Sala word Allah Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, Friday, Thursday, do that, brother, it's very important and you get log loads of reward, loans, this amazing amount. But

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if at the same time, if I am sending blessings on the messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the reason is that I want to achieve proximity to him, I want to achieve closeness. I want to become close to him, I want him to become my beloved, I want to be beloved to him. I want to attain and acquire and gain and obtain his shefa his intercession on the day of judgment on the day of piano on your piano, and I want to be close to him, right? That's my objective. So I am sending blessings on my messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but at the same time, if I am cheating and selling something, I have a shop, a newsagent, or whatever, grocery. And you know what I'm adding things in

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and I'm cheating and I'm deceiving my customers. Now. On one hand, I'm saying you know what, your Rasul Allah I want to be close to you. I'm sending through Sharif Salah worth adding Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but on the other hand, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is saying, I don't want to know you, man or Shana Felice. Amina The one who cheats, and this cheating was specifically to do with selling MANOVA Shana Felice Amina, this is a Hadith, a hadith Sahih. rigorously authenticated in the Sahaba of human Muslim Rahim Allah pickups a Muslim you find this heady? And I mentioned this yesterday, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once attended a

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market place. And he saw a person selling some dates. And at the top of his pile, he had some good dates. And at the bottom of the pile underneath was some you know not so good dates, out of date dates, out of date dates, right? So they had gone bad. So the messages that allow Allison and paste his hand in that basket, and he said to him Subhanallah What's this, you put all the nice dates at the top. So people just come and buy and all the ones which are not which are out of date, which are not good and which have become bad, and the bottom of the basket.

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And then he said when he said that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam said manager Shanna felice, Amina, whoever cheats us is not one of us who ever cheat us is not from us, from us. He doesn't he doesn't want the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam doesn't want a peasant who cheats to be part of his, you know, community. So we need to think about this. Brothers and sisters, we really need to think about this. More, I'm alert financial transactions, very important. fraud, deception, lying, and generally trying to, you know, just get anything and everything in an unlawful way at the expense of other people causes problems because if we cheat someone, then that person

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will come and say, You cheated me you've got a business deal going on nothing, you're not clear cut, and I'm gonna talk about some delicious times short, we don't have too much time if I thought I can about 45 minutes, but I really want to get onto some very important points that I think inshallah will really benefit us.

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But we need to be really careful. I just mentioned a small incident and I'm not going to mention those points.

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Many of you may or may have heard of the name of one of the great scholars of the subcontinent Indian subcontinent shave at Uman, maulana Ashraf Ali, a tannery Rahim Allah, may Allah have mercy on him. He was one of the great scholars of the Indian subcontinent as we have Scott, as you know of our past from all around the world.

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Many people, especially from the Asians background and Indian subcontinent, have heard of his name, and your mama chef Maulana Ashraf ali ali thanjavur Rahim Allah. Now, we know about him. And we know a lot of things about him. I've mentioned a small incident about one of his students, somebody who was spiritually connected and related to him, somebody who had studied the, the path of purification of the heart with him, somebody who had given back to him, this person actually was so considered to be so high spiritually that the shave actually gave him permission, gave him ijazah to go and, you know, take a bite out from other people and you know, seriously

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take permission from other people and teach other people he gave me jaza. So one day this the student who was now in his 40s 50s, and actually he himself, came to visit the chef. He came to visit the chef and he said he came

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And the chef so the chef greeted him said, Mashallah, when did you come? How did you come? He said, Oh, I came on the train. He came with his young son, who was 13 years of age. So he said, Okay, oh, Mashallah, you came by a train said, Yeah, I took the train and I came on the train. So he said, how much you have? What's the fare nowadays? How much is the ticket train ticket price nowadays? So you said Oh, no, it is is this much they pay this much, you know, rupees or whatever. I said, Okay, so how many you paid for your son? It was just general chitchat, general conversation. They said, Yeah, my son. Yeah, I paid half price ticket for him said, Oh, you paid half price when you said yeah, I

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paid the full fare. And my son, I paid half. He said, Why? How is your son? You know, until What age do you pay half fare? So until the age 12, you pay half fare. And after 13 you have to pay for So you said How did you say to my son's 13. But he got away with it. He looks like 12 is only one year. So I just told him, you know, like, give us How often is he get he can get away with Trump. So the shark looked at him and said, Hold on our water in

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the water. I mean, to be like,

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how can you even think and imagine you to give half of fare, your son is 13. The price is when you when you're 13 you have to pay full fare. And you think chef, I gave you permission, you think you've reached a high level of spirituality, you do our being and shut up and tahajjud salah and fasting and Zakat and this and that and teach and do so much good things. You know why you have not even smoked the fragrance of Islamic spirituality and Sufism, you're nowhere practicing and he revoke the license that you just have that he gave him and said you know what you you you've in this instance, you've committed major sins, you've committed the sin of fraud, you've committed the sin

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of deception, you're a thief, because you committed the sin of theft, because half price you've you've stolen, go and pay the money back and then we'll think about it.

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This is Islam. This is our Deen. This is our religion of Islam. It's not just about worrying along Fabiana amama.

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If you've got a business, you've got a business, you have to be very careful, no for deception whatsoever in any way, shape, or form.

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To make a bit of extra money in this world, as I said yesterday,

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this all goes back to the level of donia. And that's what we need to remove. Yesterday I said you know some of the things a lot of the things that are involved in fraud and deception. Well, I mentioned. So I mentioned about first of all the point was about Dane, I mentioned that look, we shouldn't in order to avoid family disputes, in order to avoid disputes and just not just family but general social disputes. We really need to be careful. I talked about briefly yesterday about taking loans and said look, you know what? Don't take loans unless absolutely necessary. Don't take loans because loans and credits the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sahbihi was a learner

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himself, you know, in a hadith he is the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his datas applications is to make a dog. He's to be fine. He's to seek the protection and refuge of Allah from minerality Dane Ola either, please save me from being overcome with debt.

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And many problems that we find in our societies and within the families is that connected to taking a debt and taking a loan? Someone takes a loan they don't pay on time, and I talked about this briefly yesterday. And I mentioned that the longest verse in the Quran Al Karim, Allah subhanahu wa taala

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says, the year you have Latina women who either take the iron to Medellin, in either agile in Muslim men who want to buy in a comparative home will add an O you who believe if you take a loan, if you take a debt if you take a loan from someone

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to a fixed time, but to boo hoo, write it down. Let us cry. Well, you have to be in a competitive mill either through either through justice, let a scribe write it.

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When you have to come along,

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write it down, be very clear. And then make sure you pay on time.

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And the one more palani bolman. The one who has many despite having many answers. You know what I pay you next week, next week. Next week. So many people involved in this seriously, they have money, they don't pay debts on time, it's a major home, Major, no matter how practicing you think you are as a Muslim, you're no way practicing impossible. If you are not paying debts on time, you are not practicing full stop. That person is not practicing, regardless of how long grown beard he has. He is not practicing. If he doesn't have a genuine reason and he is intentionally deliberately not paying people's money. And he's consuming Yeah, you're Latina Herman Kuru Amala combiner combo

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bottle of a season of Quran do not consume a new

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awfully the wealth of people,

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everything, all the goodies all the practicing, as I said, the Hadith, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, This person will be considered to be a morphus. On the day of judgment, he'll be considered to be a bankrupt person. The greatest bankrupt person is the one who will come on the Day of Judgment with a lot of salads, aka fasting, this that hashomer are going hij every three, four years and going, Amara, every and Ramadan, but everything will be happy, you'd have to give it away. Because you know, you owe money to this person, you owe money to that person, you owe money to this person, you owe money to that person. You tell someone that you know what, give us the money,

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you will invest it in a business, and you deceive people. And you don't want to give you've you've lost the money. You've eaten away the money out, we learn from our world we learn from our own, I cannot emphasize enough the gravity of money issues brothers and sisters.

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We think we're practicing that. We're not practicing, we must realize that when you're practicing, we are major sinners, if we if our monetary dealings are not good, if you are involved in fraud, and deceptions and things like that.

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So be very careful about that. And that's why we have all these conflicts and problems and we have people become enemies for life. to people that need a business deal. We can't do a business deal in a cordial and courteous way. We can't. Because we have all these issues. We don't have we don't do it in the right way.

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Because I had already Allahu anhu they were businessmen, Abu hanifa, the Allahu anhu was a businessman Subhan Allah, I tell you something I remember the story about so you're gonna imagine about hanifa and not a man been forbid, or the Allahu anhu, whom we all came to love and follow. We all had a lot of us not all sama chef is in America, some humble, right. But many of us we follow Abu hanifa you know, remember hanifa before he became the Imam of the Muslims, and the jurist and the fapy, he was a businessman, he used to have a clothes shop, he used to sell clothes, and clothes, textile shop. So number one if you really couldn't do business

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so there's a story about him that he had a shop and in his shop, there was one roll of a trough right that had some clothing that had some defects in it, but it wasn't too visible. So he wasn't physically working, he owned the shop but he had workers working for him. So he told the workers that you know what, this particular garment or this this cloth or this clothing has some defects in it so make sure that whenever a customer comes you make sure that you tell and inform and disclose this defect to the customer and say look, this is the price if you're gonna buy it you buy it if you don't, no problem.

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He gave those orders to his workers.

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So anyway, after a few weeks, once he came back to the shop and he said yes what's happening and then he is checking on his shop and the workers and how much selling and buying has been done. And then

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he asked about the that that cloth or that clothing that had a defect in it.

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So the worker said oh Subhanallah you know what I forgot? one customer came you bought it by you know, I forgot I forgot to tell him and disclose to him that he had some kind of a defect in it there was something wrong with that cloth or that clothing or that garment

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and then the worker said that but you know what he's very negligent it's very small anyway, so he won't even realize if you're someone like me and if I own the shop I would say Masha Allah Baraka lo fi commercial is just cute and clever worker who has you know, that's that's how you sell you know, cat things, pass it by

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shala you know great person you probably you you know, give him high wages and rises raises pay

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for the low end stuff for a lot of stuff that a lot of stuff that Allah how Noah caught

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him, how can you even imagine and how can you even do that? He said go throughout the whole city, and in Malabo hanifa, himself went searching and looking for the customer making announcement after announcement after announcement, who was the customer who came to our shop to buy such and such garment and such as such clothing? Who is the customer who is the customer went from door to door Subhana Allah from toe to toe until ultimately and finally they found the customer who actually bought that garment and then amount of money for the loan. And who said to him that dear brother, I am extremely sorry, please forgive me. We forgot to disclose this defect in the garment to this is

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how much you bought it for. If you want it, by all means keep it but this is the defect. If you don't want it, you can give it back to us and we'll pay you you

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money back we'll refund you.

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So this is Abu hanifa. And these were our early predecessors. And that's how a Muslim is. And that causes you know, Allah here, Allah gives Baraka, you might think you might lose out a bit of money. But seriously ask those brothers and sisters who Alhamdulillah are very careful of not being involved in deception and any fraud or anything like that any cheating. And a very clear cut will lie. Ask them, they'll tell you they have so much bad luck and blessings in their in their wealth, in the provision in the system because Allah gives, ultimately this is again going back to our pain and our our call and our reliance in Allah subhanho wa Taala. Ultimately it's everything is in the

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hands of Allah. Allah is the one who sends customers Allah is the one who gives Baraka. Allah is the one who withholds and gives, who will learn it will markley. He withholds any gifts, it's ultimately in the possession in the order in the power of a loss of Hanover data. So you get blessings and Baraka and you won't have fun disputes as long as you have a simple life you will make more friends than enemies,

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if we are involved in these kind of dodgy dealings will make enemies and as I said, paying debts on time please, for the sake of Allah do not consume the wealth of other people unlawfully. It's a major sin. It's a major sin. It's a major sin. On the day of judgment, we realize how major it is.

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May Allah save us on Armenia hub? The verse of the Quran yaku Amalia for Yama. bohlmann India my Kuru nephew, baboon him Nara, was a a slowness IRA. Allah says those people who consume the wealth of orphan people Vollmann, and in general, those people who consume unlawfully the wealth of others, the old people money, and they don't give them unless they are taking and consuming in the stomach, the fire upon him now, which means on the day of judgment that we put in the fire of how, what is known as a euro, this wealth is like fire in this dounia and what is known as our era, and they shall soon be entered into the fire of hell of a thesis, and they are on so many issues rather than

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sisters Be very, very careful, even a penny that you owe someone, make sure and ensure that that Penny goes back. There's a story when someone that was a really nice person who actually passed away somebody saw him in the dream afterwards that he was in general, but he had a small snake on his lips, a small snake, I don't know how true the story is, or not. I read it somewhere. I heard it someone once. I don't know the authenticity of it right now. So I can't claim that it's absolutely authentic. But somebody saw him in a gym. This was a very pious person. And

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they saw that he had a snake. He's in Paradise, everything's good because he was very, very pious, but one small form of punishment, which is that he had a small snake on his lips. So the person who saw him in the dream asked him in the room what's happened, you know, Mashallah, how was everything? You said, Oh, Allah, everything went? Well. The only one thing that I have, you know, this, this small snake on my lips, that the stinging me and biting me, is why it's just one thing.

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You know, a few days ago, before I passed away, I borrowed something from my neighbor. And I haven't I was supposed to give it back to them. And I borrowed it from them, and I haven't given it back to them and I died. And this is the punishment. If you go to my house on this place, in this cupboard on this shelf, you'll actually find, I don't know where it was. And please go and give it back to my neighbor. So the person woke up, the one who saw the dream, he went to his house and actually literally found that particular item on the exact spot where the person in the dream told him.

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So he went and gave it to the neighbor. Then that night, he saw him in the dream again, and the snake had been removed and such as Apple, our brother for helping me out and handling that commodity and the item has been returned to its owner. And Allah has now freed me from this punishment.

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It's not we should not take this lightly brothers and sisters.

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Our financial monetary dealings we need to be very careful. We need to make friends in Seoul and have friends in the ARCA Allah and His messenger. We need them to be our friends. If you want to avoid disputes and fights in this world, for a bit of money just for some extra money and we involve ourselves in deception. It's not time seriously is headford dunia you had bucola was HUD FEMA in the nest you have brokenness, don't show interest in the dunya Allah will love you This is the Hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is heard if ik dunya you have book Allah was had female in the nurse you have brokenness shows abstinence, disinterest in worldly matters materialistic

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matters. You have broke a law. Allah subhanho wa Taala we love you was the head female in the next book.

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And show disinterest in what people have. People will love you. If you show interest in people's wealth and people's money, and then people will think, you know, this guy's just have to one thing, if you do not show the interest in people's wealth and people's money and people's, you know, mentary things, people will love you. For the sake of Allah, you want to make friends in this world, then we need to be very careful with our dealings. So, credit and loan issues, be very careful. pay on time, pay on time, pay on time, and be very careful. Make sure everything's written down when you take loans in order to avoid future future disputes.

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Many rulings and I tell you many makes all these disputes actually, before I go into one or two other points.

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If you look in the books of the Hanafi, scherff, aromatica henneberry, especially the Hanafi books, especially students who are listening, they would know many things are considered to be moku, or haraam or unlawful or sinful because of they have one phrase one text and to fully eliminate Azhar because it results in argumentation and quarrels and disputes. How to learn and know how to fully eliminate the fleet eliminate de Leon eliminates it manassa means argumentation, quarrels, disputes, friction fights, right? So that's what Nunez means. So many rulings in Islam. And many rulings have been sorry many kind of dealings, and many monetary transactions and deals have been considered to

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be unlawful and sinful and mcru or haram. But Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for the simple fact that they lead

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to disputes. They lead to problems and friction. And Islam abhors friction. This is the reason it's simple. So panela this just came to my mind right now, many of these rulings, many monetary rules of Islam have been prescribed for the simple fact

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that they result in disputes and Islam hates disputes by for example hoarding, hoarding. Because look at the books of Hadith. There's Hadith and it looks look at the books of filth, it's unlawful to hoard the car, you know, what hoarding is,

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somebody creating monopoly, somebody who, for example, there's a shortage of a particular commodity item in the market. And the person just gathers and holds and keeps everything to himself doesn't sell it to anyone waits for a time that you know what, when nobody else has this commodity in the market, when there's a shortage of this particular item or this commodity sugar or whatever it may be, then I will sell it at a price that I want and to whom I want, so I will have monopoly I will create a monopoly This is haram in Islam is haram Okay, it's an idea this is holding his heart on Africa. Now the reason is that because it's going to cause friction, it's going to cause you know

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people are going to hate you dislike you in the community.

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There's a hadith the messenger sallallahu Sallam said now you'll be bothered but how often will you be on how literally burden when someone brings some commodity into your town into your village and you go and say sell everything to me and you you deceive him or, or for example, you live in a city somebody you know, bringing wealth and commodity into your own city and you say you know what, oh in my city, the prices and you is like this, like that, and you deceive this person and you buy everything from him. And then you go into the city and you sell it at a price that you want and you're the only sole distributor I'm not saying being sold distribution around the salon, but you

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know, to, to to

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exploit people's vulnerability that's Haram in Islam.

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Seriously, that's haram so when there's a shortage you say now people are desperate. Now even if I sell it for 20 pounds, item really was market value was 10 pounds of people would definitely need to buy it. Islamic islamically that's not allowed.

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Even when we do business, we need to do it with brotherhood with sisterhood with with the objective and aim of helping humanity. This is Islam. This is Islam. This however the Allahu anhu they will do business, you know, in what way that's how Islam spread. The Sahaba radi Allahu anhu the companions of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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They went too far and distant lands, not to propagate Islam. They went as merchants as businessmen. And there's an incident where there were two companions and Sahaba without their own and they had shops you know, they had their shops across one another. A customer came to once hobby.

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Or one companion said, I want to buy this. He said, Okay, can you just go across the street, there's a shop there and the person the brother is selling the same item at the same price, buy it from him. So the customer said, Why? You know, if you're selling the same item at the same price, why do you want me to go to him? Why can I not just buy it from you? It doesn't make sense. He said, You know what? The reason is, the reason is that we both opened our shops together. At the same time in the morning, since we opened our shops, I've already had five customers or three customers, my brother down there has not had not even one customer. I want that just as I've made profit today, I went to

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Rosie and risk assessments to go to him as well. I want him to get some customers as well. And I want him to be blessed by the provision as well. So therefore, please go to him. So my brother is benefited. So

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that's, that's the true spirit, even in business dealings. Do you think that that brother across the shop will ever had some kind of hatred, envy, jealousy, disliking is hard for him? Never. They'll have absolute love for the sake of Allah in their hearts. Because there's no competition there because they they're doing it for the sake of Allah.

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So that's what when you don't have level Junior in the world, that's when you don't have love of dunya in the world.

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So, yeah, you know, these issues, deception, fraud, cheating, we need to be very careful cheating causes a lot of the family friction, family problems. And I mentioned yesterday, people you know, they don't give genuine pure things and items. You're selling milk, adding a bit of milk and water in it. How long that money you made on the extra part. That will take you into the fire of hell unless Allah wishes to forgive you.

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Some people as I said yesterday, do this repackaging. You know, repackaging. It's a major sin deception. This lying deception, fraud, cheating, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what did he say? What's the Hadith that I read? Now Shannon Elisa mean? The one who cheats us is not from us. He's not from the Muslims. I tell you what, seriously? simple fact the messengers of Allah Islam if you do the literal translation, the messenger sallallahu Sallam says, Whoever cheats is not one of us, meaning is not from us Muslims. And Muslim doesn't cheat. I don't know. If Allah the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, the sign of the hypocrite are three and in our fear

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rewriting in another narration. The fourth one is a had a caddy when he speaks he speaks a lie.

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What either what either when he makes a promise, he breaks that promise. What is that to mean? 100 and when he's given a trust, he breaches that trust with the house. And when he argues he becomes fouled.

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These are the signs of a hypocrite. A Muslim is not a cheater. He doesn't do repackaging stuff. He doesn't do repackaging stuff. He doesn't, you know, add some, you know, sell some water, claiming that it's Zamzam water and then adding his own water from his house and saying that this is pure Zamzam.

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That's That's cheating that's deceiving. Right? Because you've said, I mean, you can tell you're not selling it if you're giving it to someone and you say, look, this isn't some water you've added a bit more because they're no problem. That's fine. But if you're selling someone and you say clearly that look this is pure thumbs on water, and then you're adding like half of it is your tap water less than water river water, then that's cheating brother. Seriously ask we need to ask about these things. If we didn't know ask scholars and find out what is actually wrong. When we sell things. The hadith of sunon of Lima, Peru manager rumba I even let me begin who Lamia selfie. Makati la mala,

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the one who sells something with a defect and doesn't disclose it. The angels curse him and he's in the anger and wrath of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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Okay, and and also I mentioned yesterday about

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why Lulu puffy alladhina Dr. Nasir yes stole food, or either caralluma was rude. I mentioned this verse and I translated it. And I don't know what I can remember.

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When you give people a law says that these people who when they have to take by remeasure movement and weight they take fully but when you have to give to others, by measure and by weight, then they give less, and are you gonna order economical food? Don't these people realize that they will be resurrected, and they will be given life back after death. You'll know your own natural herbal allomi Don't they know that they will stand on the Day of Judgment before the Lord of the worlds a lot of panel data and then the day that they have to give a sub and accounting for everything. don't realize this. You're your own natural European admin. So this is

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The a very important verse, which we talked about yesterday, but fifth meaning that you know, when we give by measurement and wait, we must give exactly you right of everyone. Even as an employee and an employee, many family problems and conflicts take place because of employees and employees,

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wages and salary, for example, giving less wages to someone who employed someone they worked exact hours and you gave them less wages. How does it sinful, giving wages late unnecessarily and the one the person who worked for it is begging for you to give him his wages, the messenger sallallaahu it was serving the hadith of Sunni blue manager, he said,

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A JIRA a JIRA, who pull a JIRA a JIRA, who, Abdullah jufa. Erica, give your worker his wages before his sweat dries. Soon enough. Lima Peru merger Don't delay giving the wages as an employer give wages on time and proper wages, giving less is the thief why Lula mapa 15 whoa and destruction and punishment of a fire of hell be unto those people who give less in measurement in weight loss we frequently share in giving less wages. This is in Surah in the last juice of the Quran, surah tofu

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where you limit for 15 likewise, as an employee worker, you're not working full hours and then you're demanding you know, nowadays everybody's demanding this right and that right? strike, we demand for pay increase. But you know what? We have seven hours of work. Have we made sure that we've spent every single minute of that seven hour working? Do we deserve that wages and that salary? If we have spent half an hour in our personal

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activities and work and we are expected to work, then that half an hour wages is haraam and sinful Give it back.

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Who sees the hour early scholars they would you know, they would actually make a point. They when they used to work in one is to teach if they made a mobile phone call for some personal activity, personal they phoned home and spoke to their families spoke to the wife for five minutes, but make a note. Five minutes I spoke. So five minutes please cut off from my wages.

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So hon Allah This is Islam brothers. This is Islam. I'm going to end with this. We're going to take a break after the break I have some very important other issues of specially connected to family, how family dealings in terms of money inshallah we'll come back after the break Joseph

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Smith, R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah tala back carrying on Dear beloved brothers sisters dissonances salaam aleikum wa Taala carrying on with our discussion on this topic of family conflicts, social conflicts are displayed disputes and conflicts and friction causes and solutions we're talking about monetary issues and monetary matters and how they have a direct impact and link to problems within our relationships. Now getting more specific moving on to becoming more specific with the family issue itself.

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I told you about some general issues before the break. Now we move on to the family, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Some have said this is a hadith. Some said it's saying I actually could have not found this as a hadith in any of the authentic books but it's a saying of even if it's not a Hadith, it's a same of a Sahaba a companions it may be what we call a hadith mobu for a makua is a statement of his hobby or a companion or a Tabby which states

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the Ashoka when he was a journey, listen to this very carefully brothers and sisters we have about 15 minutes left in Sharla before we start

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pay and live and remain and stay as brothers, the Azure live as brothers. But what I am a local a journey but transact and deal when it comes to many issues as strangers Subhan Allah This is a car ADA. This is a principle. This is a principal. This is a car that we must all drill into our hearts and into our minds. We should write them with gold on to our hearts. engrave this guide this principle on your hearts dear brothers and sisters. What is the principal? The eyeshadow can what can

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remain and be with one another like brothers? Yes like brothers and

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Sisters, be cordial. Be loving, be caring, be polite, be considerate, be gentle, be nice, be affectionate with one another. But when it comes to many matters than be like strangers, meaning, be very clear, Don't beat around the bush, be very clear, crystal clear when it comes to monetary matters. And I give one example of that already, by coating the verse of the Quran about taking a loan. So just be very clear. If you can't give someone a loan, Sorry, brother, I love you for the sake of a lot. But you know what, I can't give you any brother, I love you for the sake of I'm not sorry, I cannot give you credit. Seriously, I'm not in a position where I love you, you can come to

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my house. Yeah, you can come and you can eat video to my house. No problem. But you know, my shop, I have a policy, I don't give credit. Just be clear cut, give him a hug, give him a kiss on his forehead, and kiss his hands. And see, you're welcome. do follow me today. But in the shop, we have principal sorry, you be very good. But be very clear about your dealings. This is very important, specially within the family with many of our problems that we find ourselves within an in and many family conflict conflict issues that we find ourselves in and we see a because of not practicing upon this car either not practicing upon this principle. Right? I mean, we see many examples of this

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many. We have a family, for example. And I mean, I have come across this a lot of times, and this is all I'm telling you through experience. Like we have, for example, a family. Now you have a family business, right? You have a home family business, the father started the business, the first son works for the business, the other one's still studying at university. He's going abroad, his guys degree, he comes back and he works. And then the third son is working. Nothing has been clarified. Nothing has been made clear. are the sons or partners in the business? If they are, how much share does each person have? How much share each person has? Is the Father has? Does he have a quarter of

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the share of the business and the three sons quarter quarter each? Or are the sons or the son working as an employee? Has he been employed? So where are his wages and salary? What is he just voluntarily helping free of charge? And does he know that has he agreed to that? All of this needs to be clarified brothers and sisters, we really need to clarify it. And sometimes when this is mentioned to people, and people say oh, you know how can even talk about these issues? It's family issues.

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You know, I told him I mean, how can you talk about this between brothers and fathers? And then you know what happens? When, at the moment, don't talk about it.

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Don't talk about it right now. Don't try for anything right now. But you know what happened? What will happen? One son gets old, he gets married, he takes some money out of the business, he takes more the other one gets married, he takes less. One had a bigger wedding one had a smaller wedding. Or, for example, the father passes away inheritance issues, who owns what massive disputes, I know for a fact I know, it happens and he does, it has happened.

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And then there are major problems where two brothers are each act are at each other's throats. And people actually come in murder. Because of this. People want to kill one another. They're thirsty for the blood of one another. They want to see the face of the blood brother for the rest of their life. Because of what a bit of dosh in this world because of money, because I'm not clarifying. And then later on, you go and ask a scholar that this is the business and this is inheritance, our father died, you've got a business now can you calculate? What is the scholar? What are you going to do? Because nothing was clarified who said okay, when you started the business, how much money did

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you put in? How much did you own raw the shares? Or at that time? We didn't even talk about this? How can you clarify now it's too difficult. It's just so difficult to clarify this issue

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as a move to be very difficult seriously. I'll give you another example.

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People buy build houses or buy properties, or you buy a house, it's within the family. It's really in the family. The father put some money in the eldest son put some money, the other son put some money in the wife put some money, who's putting how much money in what capacity?

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Does it mean that if you're, if you're investing 20% of the

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price to purchase that property, that house, then you have the 20% share? Or is it just a loan that you've given to your father and he's gonna pay you that loan back? Nothing is clarified. I know many examples like that are in front of my eyes. A house a property is made in India.

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Father's passed away. He was a grandfather's house, he passed away and nothing was done no inheritance and then the second son, and then later on now there's three grandchildren, the three brothers who owns what was it?

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The dad and who gave who nobody knows nothing. Nobody has a clue. And then everyone's gonna fight. Oh, I put this much money and this much belongs to me and that belongs to you and this land belongs to me and that land belongs to you and till you die you're just gonna fight, fight, fight, fight argue. You have misery, Misery, sadness in this life and the hereafter punishment as it is because you might be taking someone's unlawful and someone's unlawful, right?

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Nothing is clarified many disputes that we find ourselves in. We know it's a major problem. It's a major problem.

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Inheritance issues within the family. Islam is so extreme. When it comes to sorry, inheritance matters, Allahu Akbar.

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Islam is very, very, very extreme.

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It's a major sin to deprive anyone of even a penny of their inheritance. When the father passes away,

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do not deprive your sisters of the inheritance, and don't make them forgive you give it to them in the hands and only if they wholeheartedly, willingly, fully, totally, wholeheartedly give it back to you. Even God said choose, it's yours you take it.

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If you deprive your sisters of inheritance, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Even a small piece of land, a person who deprived another of their inheritance alone will place them seventh, you know, seven times below the earth as form of punishment.

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70 sorry, so

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we only took one small piece of land from as inheritance or lowered, put them 70 lands below the ground as a form of punishment, major sin

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man Kata amirtha khattala human piano, the one who cuts off the inheritance of his, of the rifle person, Allah will cut him off on the Day of Judgment, inheritance issues, be very careful. As soon as a person passes away, distribute or divide at least or calculate at least the state the father passed away, you might think you can't do that. But second day, third day, as soon as as soon as for the sake of Allah. If you can't distribute it, at least calculate it and say okay, exactly this much is own this much this much this much goes to the brother this much to the other brother, the sister divided calculate it and tell everyone that this is your right. And then as soon as possible,

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distribute the wealth for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Even a penny extra youth capital I have kept in my possession, I will be answerable on the Day of Judgment. And family problems occur. You know how many times

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how many times brothers and sisters become enemy for the rest of their lives. Once their father or their mother or parents pass away, you need to become more close. When your parents pass away, you need one another more than before. You don't become enemies. Now brothers and sisters. If it's money,

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it's money isn't really, you know, it's just a short life for the sake of a few pounds, even if it's seriously even if it's 1000s of pounds for the next 1520 years. Why bother?

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But beaver if you have your rightful right, ask for it. But for the sake of Allah clarify everything

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in this world,

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even with your spouse clarify everything, if as a husband and wife you both own everything jointly, then make sure that that is explained. disclosed.

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And it's

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clarified.

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And a proper record has been made of that. And people are notified that you know what this has belongs to me and my wife 50 50%. Then there's rules of inheritance after that, go to the scholars course the experts and learn about the rules of inheritance and neurath. But be very careful and very clear.

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When you give someone money, like as I said the house was built a family house, the parent they built a house, right? They built a house. Now the money is being given by the sons and you know, one son and the other son.

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What intention do you have?

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Is it a loan? That you're forwarding to your father that looked at your house? I'm just giving you 20,000 pounds loan or are you becoming a partner you have a share in the property.

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When you ask that I remember a case that came to me the rollers intention when you give the money to your father, was it a loan or was it an investment

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The answer is given that at that time, we never even thought about these issues. We don't think about those issues because we think within the family, it's not important to

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it's not important to clarify these issues. That's what we think that at that time. We are we are not we don't need to clarify those issues.

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But later on when we have major problems and major fights and disputes, that's when we realized that we should have clarified and that's what that's why the statement again, that I showed you can

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What

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can a journey be that I shouldn't Sharon Kalahari.

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Live in the mean, live and remain like brothers and sisters, but transact like strangers be very clear about your transactions.

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Ownership must be determined, must be distinguished, how much each individual owns must be determined, must be clearly determined, must be distinguished. If there's a property, how much percentage each member of the family owns must be in clear terms determined, everything should be proper clear, there should be no ambiguity. Nothing should be kept ambiguous. There should be proper records and accounting taken of everything. So make sure brothers and sisters within the family generally make our mama let our dealings clear. dealings clear Hola, if you make our dealings clear, we will save ourselves from much anguish and much problems and many of the fights and calls and

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disputes that we find ourselves in.

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Okay, so inshallah, I'm going to end and conclude with this. We have a few minutes left for if thought and I will leave some time for you to do too. But these were some issues I mean, this topic is very detail and very lengthy and I cannot mention everything, you know, I've just mentioned a few issues, general issues, general guidelines, if there are any specific issues related to FERPA then you need to go and speak to local human you need to speak to your local Mufti, you need to speak to local scholars of what's allowed and what's not allowed to do for the sake of Allah with the right intention. Okay? Don't try to avoid something Don't try to dodge something, go to the right person

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and and ask a law that Oh, Lord, whatever answer I'm going to get our act upon it, whether it's in my favor or not, but our issues to do with tax and things like that. I don't have time and I don't want to discuss it over over the radio, but go and ask someone you know, go and ask someone asked a reputable, knowledgeable wise scholar of wisdom of age of knowledge, and seek his advice and seek her advice whether it's a female scholar or a formal scholar, and ask whether this is permissible or not. There are a lot of things that we need to learn about, learn the fuck off more and learn the effect of business dealings, learn the facts of financial transactions, and then implement them in

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our lives. Insha Allah And if we do that, we will save as I said ourselves from a lot of the friction and problems and disputes we find ourselves in and we will save ourselves from anguish and from sadness and from sorrow in this world. And even in the next life You shall love We will save ourselves from the punishment of the Hereafter, we will avoid the wrath and the hubbub of Allah Subhana Allah Allah will love us for it. We will have a better this world and a better next world inshallah Jazakallah halen for listening barakallahu fecal Milla bless you may Allah bless your Ramadan, your fasting, your CRM, your Zakat, and your Torah we make to offer the Muslim anomic draft

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for your family your children make dua for me Make dua for everybody inshallah, I will come back tomorrow 6:45pm till iftaar with this discussion on family disputes, causes and solution, so we've finished the third cause, which has to do with money issues. inshallah, tomorrow, I will move on to cause number four of family disputes and the solution Chaka Chaka lo Heron was Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh