Seven Important Advices for Students at Universities

Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari

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hamdulillah number two who want to start you know Who? Who want to study

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I was in Iran and

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especially brothers and sisters, first of all hamdulillah All praise is for our Lord and our Creator. Allahu Allah subhana wa Tada. It's an honor to be here today with you.

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at Liverpool University, I just realized that there are two major both our major right two major universities in Liverpool.

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For me, Liverpool have hardly been here. It's it's really far. I'm from Leicester. Now you guys are talking about Liverpool, Manchester, there's a place called Leicester as well, if by the way.

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For me, Liverpool haven't been here much. I think once before. This is the first time actually speaking here anywhere in Liverpool.

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I've known Liverpool for like one of the brothers said, for the famous football club. Well, two famous football teams. They say there's two major football teams in Liverpool. One is Liverpool, and the other is Liverpool reserves. So

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it's good to be here and it's quite ironic that I've come to Liverpool on a day where the football club is at the High Court in London

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for a battle on ownership affairs or whatever, but anyway, inshallah

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I want to time is very short with you, I want to what I want to do is just share 123467 points that I thought might be beneficial for all of us here today for students who are beginners who have just come and the older students as well. seven points. These are just random points. So I don't have a specific topic or a theme that I'm going to follow. These are seven random points on topics that I think are very important in sha Allah and Allah grant to meet the TOEFL the ability, the divine tofield, to say that which is beneficial for myself on board a few inshallah, tada Hamdulillah, all of us and all of you, you've come here for a purpose. You've come here to study, you've come here to

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seek some knowledge. You've come here to seek education and knowledge and we as Muslims, right and even non Muslims but Muslims in Islam, Allah subhanho wa Taala the Quran and Sunnah places a great deal of emphasis on education on knowledge, religious knowledge, sacred knowledge as well as secular knowledge. When Allah says in the Quran, called heylia Stone arena, yada, yada yada moon can those who have knowledge be equal to those who do not have knowledge. The scholars explained the commentators of the Quran that this is not restricted to sacred knowledge. This also includes in it secular knowledge, so Islam greatly emphasizes greatly emphasizes and encourages Muslims, to educate

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themselves to seek knowledge to do something worthwhile in their lives and serve humanity and serve human beings. Medicine is one of the greatest of sciences that Muslims have considered to be one of the greatest of sciences, one of the great Imams and I just discovered as well and many of you are medics or studying medicine, Mr. Musharraf, the Allahu anhu, one of the great demands of this oma, he said a little more human, animal appealing idea and while most people have done sciences worth studying are really only two he said Elon will feel at the end the science of religion, the science of which deals with your next life and will be done. And the science of medicine which is which

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caters for your body. So Islam places a great deal of emphasis on medicine on on wherever you're studying inshallah. But the first point that I want to share with you here is that in order for our studying in order for our coming to the university on a on a regular basis, in order for us to gain the reward from our Lord and our Creator, Allah subhanaw taala in order for us to be doing something that's rewarding

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in the sight of Allah We have to do something which is very important, which is does he hooni and that's the first point. And I really urge you if you can make note of make notes of these few points you shall as a reminder for the future Mr. Michel ferry also said l mu C. Donal Cotabato piden knowledge is something that you hunt for and then to to to capture that knowledge you have to write it down. So, first point is this Hey unia correcting correction of one's intention. correcting one's intention is actually very important in Islam, one of the greatest thing a Muslim has a weapon. If you look at the Hadith books, if you look at all the collections of Hadith, starting from Sahih al

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Bukhari and most of them the majority of them, they start with a famous Hadith, the saying the tradition of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam peace and blessings be upon him. He says, in rubinius.

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Verily, indeed, actions are by the intention, if somebody has a righteous intention behind a worldly act, then he gains or she gains the reward of that, which means that you see whatever we do in this life, even regular mundane activities for a Muslim eating, drinking, sleeping, conversing, interacting, studying, coming to the university also becomes an act of very burdah becomes an act of worship. You actually getting a reward for coming and studying here, but the condition is, your intention has to be correct. You have to change your perspective. You have to change your intention. You're going to come here on steady anyway, for Muslim getting a Korea pursuing a career and having

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a career and getting a job and earning money and having some wealth is a secondary objective. It's not it's nevertheless it is a objective. I'm not saying completely overlook that, but it's a secondary, secondary objective. The first and foremost objective for a Muslim is to please his or her Lord Allah subhanho wa Taala and war intention should you have like the brother mentioned the Hadith, and I read I think he mentioned it already. in that program. Note that you have students guide manifest that is a Hadith of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the salary of a Muslim manifests and Muslim in corbetta min corabi dounia, corrupt nafas Allahu anhu corbetta

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and Jamelia whoever alleviates whoever removes a difficulty a hardship for from a Muslim and this does not mean only Muslims it's not restricted to only Muslims in this particular howdy Muslim has been mentioned. But if you look at Islamic literature, all the scholars say generally all the Hadees unless otherwise proven when the Messenger of Allah peace and blessings be upon you when he says whoever does not harm a Muslim, Muslim Muslim, it's because at that time, he was only discussing and talking and focusing on the Muslims and they had the Muslim community and Muslims amongst themselves. Right so this is not restricted to the Muslims only whoever alleviates anything from

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anyone any hardship any difficulty, will law houfy O'Neill.

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This is another Hadith well, lo fi ounila mechanical arc dupioni. Allah remains in the assistance of his slave as long as the slave is in the assistance of his fellow brother or sister. So this is the intention. You will come here and study anyway change your perspective. You're studying medicine, why am I studying medicine, or whatever you're studying, I want to serve humanity. I want to do something positive in the community. I want to help the creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala to help. And this only happens brothers and sisters, this only comes about if we have mercy in our hearts, love and mercy only happens and we have to have mercy. The How do you think the sooner you remember

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Buddha would or Rashi moon your karma him or her moment fell out of your hand Command V sama, have mercy on this hand it is quite ironic because it doesn't say Have mercy on the Muslims in her movement will have mercy on the people on the earth. The one in the heavens, which allows the panel data not literally speaking, Allah subhana wa tada will have mercy on you. So this is what we need to create that love that affection. And with that it will result in us wanting to serve humanity wanting to do something for the creation of Allah, be positive, do something positive in the society in the community. So you have to change your intention. That's the first point and those of you who

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have not, inshallah, I hope everybody has that kind of intention. But if you don't, then right now, at this moment in time, look down in your heart and say, okay, from this minute, what time is it a 31 in a month.

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microkey watch here, right now. Make intention that okay all remember, intention is so easy. It doesn't require any role for any money. You don't have to spend anything. It's a near to army. You don't even have to say verbally, it's in the heart. It's in the heart. You don't have to even speak it and say it verbally. Just think to yourself that my perspective is I want to please Allah, I want to become a medic, a doctor, for example. Why? Because inshallah I want to help an assist if as long as I am in the assistance and help of others, allow will help me and this is a Muslim, a Muslim duty does not end with his duty towards his Lord. It goes far beyond that, a Muslims duty and

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responsibility is that he fulfills the rights of his load, and also the he fulfills or she fulfills the rights of his fellow human beings. So change your perspective, change your intention. And wherever you do even coming everyday traveling, and commuting weekly, daily, to the university will become an act of very bad just imagine, just imagine you take you catch the train,

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and you're traveling. And that's an act of very bad Subhanallah What a beautiful religion. You take a taxi you've taken, you've paid some money, you've taken a taxi, you've come here, that spending of money will be an act of very bad it's charity. Just because of that perspective, that you've changed the intention that you've corrected the Spirit who Nia Imam Abdullah in robotic one of the great emails of this oma he said Obama insulated took a boo hoo Nia were Obama in Kabir into Sylvania. Sometimes that action outwardly it sounds it seems very minute very small robot family in Serbia. But the intention behind it makes it huge in the sight of Allah subhanho wa Taala, the armoring

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comedian, and the opposite is also true. Sometimes we outwardly externally an act may be a great act of very birder, you're probably spending 60,000 pounds and giving a donation of 50,000 pounds to a charity, but the intention behind it, it's small, so Allah will make that act extremely small. On the day of judgment, the armor, the Nia intention has a great role to play. So that's the first point to Sharla. Point number two Reason number seven, seven, as I said seven random points.

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Point number two,

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what's the point?

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Can't speak what's the first point? Your first points was first point?

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I'll ask you at the end, inshallah. That's easy to remember correction of intention. Point number two.

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Don't come here and waste your time and I'm sure you won't be wasting your time you need to work hard islamically again, a Muslim wherever she or he does, right, a Muslim a believer has to put in the effort work hard, try their best and become an expert in the field that they are in. You have to be an expert you need to try to work hard you need to try to aim for the best you know number two, is is not good enough. And this is very important. Like there's I had eaten this is a sound heartbeat in the center for remember widowed and this is specifically relating to medics, but you can generalize it a messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he actually said Umar Rajan Baba

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Baba, any person, any individual who, like studied and he became a medic, and he

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got a bit of education in terms of medicine. Papa Baba, he's not really a puppy. He's not really qualified. He's not really someone who's an expert in his field, but he studied medicine he didn't really work hard. He's not qualified enough. He's not a good enough doctor because every time you go to him, he's giving you a paracetamol. You know, every time some doctors only thing you got paracetamol, paracetamol.

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Okay. I mean, we used to have a doctor that just got fired, by the way, but anyway, he is a qualified doctor. And so this this Have you been saying someone originally, Baba Baba, he is not really qualified. He didn't work hard. And then for another four who are bombing, this is a sound Heidi, and he starts practicing medicine. And he starts prescribing medicine and then if he makes a mistake for another, for whole bombing, he will be held responsible, not just in the next life, even in this life in a normal in Muslim country in when you have Islamic laws. There's actually laws that govern the practice. The malpractice of offer a doctor that you have to this compensation, there's

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penalties, expiation, so you have to work hard, become experts in whatever field

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You're in you need to help and serve the Muslim community you need to serve the general wider community. So be experts work hard, put in the effort to show low data. Number three, point number three. And this is relating to point number two is to value your time time is precious, especially at this age. However, it's just it's unique. It's the most important time for a human being, when they're all in their late teens, early 20s, mid 20s, from about 18 to 30. It's the parent time of your life. It's a make or break of your life. You know, value time, Hadith in Sahih al Bukhari, the Messenger of God sallallahu alayhi wa sallam peace and blessings be upon him. What did he say? He

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said, Now I'm attorney Maha Boone Fiamma Cathedral minuteness there are two bounties two gifts that Allah bestows upon every human but more born female Kathy Roman, a nurse, most of the most people, the majority of the people that are deluded, they are deceived, they are deluded, they neglect these two while they overlook them. They take them for granted. Number one, health health is a great right now and hamdulillah we all healthier walking, we don't realize the importance of health unless Allah forbid something goes wrong.

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Right and number two alpha time when you when you have time, we don't appreciate the great NEMA time is so precious for a Muslim Allah takes all by the time in the Quran will also hold surah you know in the last juice of the Quran, the last chapter will lastly in incentive you hustle by time verily humanities in last time when a lot takes a old by something. This means that that particular thing or item is great in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala. So value time time is like gold, a walk together like this got some of them said time is like gold, but the one who actually appreciates it. Don't waste time. Don't spend you know your evenings just going to your coffee and having shisha for

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three hours. Come on, you know your students don't do that. It's another debate whether it's halal or haram, I don't want to talk about that. But students don't do that. You know, you have a you have a

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you have an objective in life, you have a purpose in life. You're not one of those. We are not one of those who waste our precious time in futile activities. Every minute. It's like spend a minute you know, some of the scholars like one of my teachers used to say, Shockley with money used to say that, you know, when you time spend it, like, at least one pound, one minute is like a pound. So if you want to give somebody one minute, you know, think one pound out how careful are we? One pound, we want to throw one pound away? Just like that we'll think, is it really worthwhile giving this pound for this thing in return? Likewise, is it worthwhile doing this particular form of action or

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activity in this particular minute, every minute, every minute should be valuable. So appreciate time, value it and utilize it in the best of ways. Number four, and this is very important. I'm going to be frank on this point, but you know, has to be said

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point number four. We are studying in a university Alhamdulillah there's no, it's great.

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But

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the challenges in studying in a place like this are great for sisters and four brothers. Allah subhanho wa Taala our Lord and our Creator has created us with natural ones, natural desires, natural desires, you know we have all all human beings have been created with natural characteristics, attributes and desires and these natural

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desires within ourselves. We have anger Allah created anger, right? Anger, anger, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, a companion came soon he said O Messenger of Allah rasulillah oseni roaches give me advice, give me know see how making short is a lot harder. Don't get angry. Second time he came and he asked him the question is a lot of other third times that don't get angry. Now anger as you know, it's evil and we should not be angry we should try to control our anger. But yet Allah subhanho wa Taala still created anger within us. Why? There is a wisdom there is a Hekmat there is a reason for everything. Because there are certain times when you need to be angry. You

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have to be angry certain times. You can't be a pacifist all the time. So there's a reason there's a wisdom there's a hikmah behind a law of creating these natural forces within ourselves. Likewise, there is a very natural force a natural desire within the heart which is called lust.

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It's natural. There's nothing wrong. There's nothing to be ashamed of, you know someone has the sexual desire or lust within herself or himself. You don't have to be shy. It's natural. It's just like anger. Right? It's nothing absolutely sinful and this is the Islamic approach. You see Islam is a modern religion Jana come home at Masada. It teaches everything in moderation. We have two extremes. We have extreme to the right and we have extreme to the left in certain faith communities and classically and historically, they had this

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approach that lust is evil, dirty, sinful, full stop. One of the deadliest, since there is no right way of fulfilling that lustful nature human being has, you can't get married or you have this urbania it's in the Quran Allah says hora bernita.

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This is celibacy, or monasticism, without

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marketable, they invented it they invented it and introduced it upon themselves we did not prescribe it on them. The Hadith says less oral rota for Islam in the Sunnah Halima Budo there is no celibacy in Islam. So Islam takes the middle approach in certain faith communities, the extreme to the right is that see in order to procreate in order to attain proximity to God and to a law to become a righteous, devout saintly human being to be a good person you have to sacrifice everything which means control that's it there is no way of fulfilment of one's sexual desires, there is no way even eating should not be like you're going to enjoy food right now in some communities they had this

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understanding that you can't even enjoy food eat only just for the basic need enjoyment is actually against the struggle the Mujahideen that the struggle that a human being does in order to gain proximity to his God. Whereas we have another extreme on the other hand, which is in the present danger here that we see in terms of fulfilling one's desire in any way shape or form right there are no restrictions no conditions just in any way shape or form you can fulfill this is a natural desire in any way shape, or form. When I mean when I say in any way shape or form which means with whenever with whoever I'm with whatever.

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Nowadays it's whatever as well. It doesn't even have to be a human being. But anyway, that's another story. So in Islam, Islam takes a middle approach Islam says Look, it's naturals brother it's natural. You say you come to university Islam paces rules, allowances are not Quran surah moon

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moon alladhina Humphrey salata, him Hoshi Sharon Molina, whom Annie Lowe, Mr. loon, will Edina whom is the catify Loon. And then Allah says, he's saying these are the individuals who are successful in this life on the next slide, even in this life seriously, even in this life. It's not luck. It's on a flat moon they are successful because if someone controls and does what Allah Allah is saying right now, he has a steady life in this world as well. And the next life of course, alladhina humulene, Fuji him half moon, those who protect preserve God, their modesty, the private pots, and generally the body from fulfilling the lustful desires in an unlawful manner. And then Allah says,

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Illa Allah as regime only through marriage. This is the middle approach that Islam takes Islam places lose that outside of marriage, anything lustful fulfillment, and the gratification of one's sexual desires and lustful desires is prohibited. And lawful, sinful. I know you say, you come here, you know, this is a university Come on. There's so much fitna. Here, it's difficult. How can you control this is what Islam says control it. Allah says that look, anger is natural control channel it used in the right place, sexual lust and desire passion, it's natural, it's normal, control it channel it, utilize it in the Halloween, the Halloween is through marriage and nothing else. Islam

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places. restrictions. Allah says, What takanobu Xena don't even come close to fornication, let alone fornication itself. La takanobu. Zina don't even come close to it in Ghana for Asia because it's evil. And it was a sybilla It opens the doors to other sins. This is the only middle way. So as I was saying, You say you might say that it's there's so much fitna but seriously brothers just listen to this carefree. lust is a dangerous it's a dangerous spiritual disease. You know, once a human being man or woman. As I said, lust is not natural normal, but once they become the slaves of their lust, they don't control it.

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Don't channel it, they don't protect the modesty and God the modesty, then what happens? It's a never ending. It's a never ending disease, you can never be satisfied. And this has been proven

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medically as well, and it's proven through research islamically Of course, it's a never ending. One thing leads to another anyone who has this habit of fulfilling and gratifying their sexual needs and urges in any way without any

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Islamic legal moral restrictions. When they start becoming slaves to the lustful nature. There are two important natures in the human being that contribute to a man committing crimes and sinning and violating the obligations of his Lord. One is to sherwani or the other is via the angry soul and the lustful soul. I just a couple of weeks ago had a whole course on the lustful soul.

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It's very important to learn about these things. Now once we become slaves, then this never ending you might think, okay, you know, right now I'm young, let me just mess around when I get married, when I'm 2829 when I'll get to know when I'll graduate and then I'll buy a property I'll get three keys, job call house, you know, and then when my family is ready, family will never be ready. I mean, that's another problem with the families. Islam says marriage Yeah, Matura Shabaab, no messenger. sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Oh, young people get married because a hormonal buzzer it protects preserves your eyesight from

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from placing lustful gazes and guards your modesty. But we live unfortunately, and this is for the parents we live unfortunately, a time where marriages are so difficult, the more we make marriage difficult to and it's not anything Islamic Islam says marriage is so simple. One of the most simplest of activities you can do in Islam is marriage. It literally takes seven seconds, you know, I counted the seconds once, seven seconds, even the hotma sermon is sooner. You say I give myself to you, I accept you. Does. Anyone ready? No.

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It's very simple. Seriously, it's it's so simple. It's the most and it's one of the most beautiful acts, it's an act of very birder. Even the sexual relations between the spouses is an act of murder of the Buddha.

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But we make it difficult for ourselves, our parents, and these old self imposed cultural customs, who says you can't marry while studying at university who says 18 is too young to get married, who says 21 is too young to get married. These are cultural practices and customs until he this doesn't happen. That doesn't happen until my great granddad doesn't come from Bangladesh or Pakistan or somewhere and they have to comment, he has to comment, she has to comment until this is not his own restrictions. And that's why the more we close the doors for her on the doors of halaal. The more we do close the doors for halaal. The doors of her arm open up. So we have to remember brothers. Look,

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you might say at a university, it's very difficult. There's a lot of fitness. But as I was saying, once we become slaves to our lust, it becomes a habit. And there are people who had I know personally who came to me and mentioned the situation that they had

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lustful desires before they were married, they had certain habits, it becomes a disease, it becomes an addiction. And that's why recently in the wake of all these, you know, famous celebrities having affairs, like you know, one was a footballer from here, but now it's gone to Manchester, you know. And they're married. There are footballers and people who are married to have wives who, but still they can't stop Why Is anything wrong with their wife, their wife is probably a mortal. They might be the best looking woman in the world is anything they need the god money, everything. Why? I mean, in America, there was a, there was a research done, that the most rape was done in America in a

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country where sexual relations by consent, it's it's it's, you know, if somebody wants to have sexual relations with someone have a boyfriend, girlfriend is very easy, but the rate of rape is far greater than those countries where it's difficult to have fornication and unlawful sexual relations. Why? Because once you become addicted to this whole lustful area of your life, then having sex through consent no longer is enjoyable. You become bored now you want to try rape, that becomes boring. Visit prostitution, prostitutes, that becomes boring. And that's why people get into this lustful diseases. And I'll tell you one thing brothers and sisters, once you get a habit, don't

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think oh, I'm young. I sort myself out once you get married because seriously, if

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If you have habits before marriage, you will be 69 years old and that habit will still still remain with you. I personally am an old man came to me. And sorry for being Frank. I know it's brothers and sisters. He mentioned the problem he had, but it's a it's a disease. He said, I started this evil habit at the age of 16. And I'm 66 and I'm still trying to stop but I cannot stop and I'm married. I have children. I have grandchildren. So don't think before marriage as you know, it's okay. You know, what's once you get this habit of one girl and this next girlfriend, one boyfriend, next boyfriend, it just carries on ancestors as well. Don't take it for granted. You know? Oh, brother

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comes to you. He looks nice, smart. He's like a bit like a shell, whatever. Oh, he's very dressed well and everything. And he promises your marriage because you know what? 99% of the time he's not gonna marry you. He's gonna leave you in the loop. Are you gonna be your feelings will be hurt. It's just it's it's uh, it's, you know, it's a past situation. So don't think about marriage because relationships before marriage do not work. The Heidi lung. Tara limita have been in Metro Nika. Allah places Baraka and blessings in a union that is through marriage, before marriage, it's not gonna work. And remember another thing as well that if you think that, okay, we want to marry all

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the behavior before marriage is artificial. The brother is going to dress well, we'll see you Okay, I'll see you on Friday. Okay, we'll go to the restaurant. I don't know if you have any good restaurants here. You may do. And then he'll take you there. Okay, you go into the taxi, and then it's raining. You feeling cold cookie, take his jacket off has always been cold. And you're going to the restaurant and you know, he'll pull the chair out, sit down system, this and that. After six years of marriages are going to do the same thing. I doubt it.

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Seriously, it's all artificial. It's that artificial behavior. Once you get accustomed to that, and then you get married. And if it's not like that anymore, then it's gonna hit you hard. So don't go through because it's just artificial dating before marriage never works. You know, you say you want to get to know someone you can never get to know someone because you're not living with them. You're not paying the bills together. You're not changing the nappies of your babies. You're not going to Asda and Tesco and Sainsbury's with them. There are no responsibilities. It's just artificial. It's just one of you can never get to know anybody do it right fully properly. islamically find out

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everything about the person, potential spouse, and do a harmonica and and then you shall follow Bless you. And if you say it's very difficult, I'll tell you one thing if you think is very difficult, because there's so much written Islam says, even protect your eyes, lustful gazes even not just in Islam, even in Christianity, read the Bible. Jesus peace be upon him. He said. Casting lustful gazes are the opposite gender is one of the greatest of evils and since can lustful gazes. I'm not talking about just normal gays, lust with lust with sexual desire. It's a sin in Christianity and maybe in Judaism as well. And in Islam, Allah says in the Quran, many Nier automata

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up saw him in a minute he didn't mean up sorry. hinda tell the believing men and women lower your gazes. Do not cast lustful gazes are the opposite gender for sisters Allah said in the Quran para tadanobu Cole, don't be soft in your conversation. You know when you talk with someone of the opposite gender This is specifically directed directly to the sister. Allah says in the Quran for tadanobu Cole Don't be seductive and soft in the tone in the manner that you speak with someone don't say his brother Hello. Hola como esta Fatima Allah, Allah hemara because the one who's got disease in his heart to be inclined. When this verse of the Quran was revealed some of the female

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companions of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam they used to intentionally deliberately roughen the voices they should speak in a rough tone. Yeah, brother what's wrong

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so that he doesn't get attracted. This is important this is these are all rules because remember, sight aside the way you talk flirtatious flirtatious conversation, one thing leads to another one thing leads to another then before you know it you'll end up somewhere between you're not supposed to be ending up. So anyway, these are some things that are even if this fits now you have to control it. This is a test. You know that our sisters and our brothers we live in a community but we have it's a test. You could a story of use of Joseph peace be upon him it is solid, asleep. In the Quran. Allah says you seduced one hour that will let you have a baby and not say she locked the doors. You

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know the story. There's no time. And he What did he do? He controlled and he protected himself. He ran to the doors, the doors were bolted unlocked. He still ran because what what was in his capacity was to run to the doors. The doors, even though he knew were locked, but it was then a law who opened the doors for him so we have to control ourselves. Just imagine

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You know, we say Oh, I can't control my eyes I like looking at beautiful You know, look at the lights look at the creation of Allah look at you know there are only two restrictions on the eyes okay and I know time is short I'm going to try to conclude in the next 10 minutes

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there's only two conditions on the two restrictions in Islam on the eyes only to Allah has blessed us this is a near ama imagine for one moment

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you know just close your eyes and think sometimes you should think like that. Close your eyes and think, imagine Allah forbid if I never had a sight. Imagine Allah to coil off a bit louder Allah if Allah took away the eyesight. And then he said to us, I'll give your eyesight back one condition. Don't look at anyone lustfully Wouldn't you be would you say Oh, it's too much fitna. No, you know, it's too difficult.

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There's no excuse. Think of it like that. There's no excuse. So this is very important. There's only two restrictions on the eyes. Allah blessed us with these beautiful eyes. You know, it's an amazing nerima you can utilize these eyes in any way shape or form Look at the beautiful scenery. Look at the heavens look at the skies. Look at everything around you use your eyes to help in your life but two conditions one is do not look at anyone lustfully simple just two conditions and the other one is do not look at anyone with contempt. That's another rule that you look down upon someone and you think yourself to be superior and others to be inferior. Anyway, moving quickly. So that was number

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three point number sorry, number

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12341 number was at four Yeah, five number five. Okay, again, we live we are studying at the University. We have Muslims around us we have non Muslims around Islam places a lot of importance on maintaining General etiquettes and other being courteous and cordial in one's relationship with others. The Messenger of Allah again in howdy sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, Allah Muslim woman Saleemul Muslim moon emulation, ie the believer. The perfect believer is the one from whose hands and his mouth others are preserved, safeguarded and protected, which means that we must live a life inside University outside University in a way that no one and I mean, when I say no one, no

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Muslim, non Muslim human being and even an animal is harmed by what we do, or what we say, physically or verbally. That's the meaning of this hadith. We have to ensure when we're studying here. We don't we don't hurt other people. We don't know how many people the way we talk it's full of etiquettes it's either we have the perfect example for us in the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Lamia Cooney Nobu sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for Haitian Wormwood of a Haitian was a hobbit Phyllis walk. When a foreman whenever he will call the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was never fouled mouth. He was new. He would never curse anyone. He would never be harsh

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hearted. He would never be aggressive. He would be kind of alien, a nurse who had either Buhari he was the most he was the softest of individuals the most tender of individuals. ghanaba summon the Hulk and he was he would always smile. He would always love the Hadith of the Allahu anhu Oh, the hadith of gentlemen Abdullah Al beji. Anyway, he says Maha Giovanni Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Mundo Islam to wallarah electabuzz some of you would he never did the messenger sallallahu Addison see me Never did I greet him except that he had a smile in his face. It's a son of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi salam so maintain good Islamic etiquettes it's very important.

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Seriously brothers is very important and we you know, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sent by Allah Zahra. Merci, merci. You are so lucky. ihlara metal Illa Allah mean and this is an Quran and there's a hadith where the messenger sallallahu This is a beautiful Hadith is one of my favorite Hadees the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in one Hardy, he says to

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me, that I have been sent to you as a mercy

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as a gift I've been sent as a mercy given as a gift to you. Amazing hydrates which means that there is a gift that Allah is the worship Allah is the giver of the gift. We are the recipients of the gift, the Messenger of God. So Allahu alayhi wa sallam is the gift, this is he is full of mercy. And we have a responsibility brothers and sisters to to

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spread that Rama and the mercy of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to the rest of humanity, our actions unfortunately, you know sometimes, some of the non Muslims they are not to blame. They see our actions and they are pulled away from Islam because they see Islam through the Muslims.

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Many of the non Muslims they will not turn straight away to the Quran. Let me read the book, The Quran or the hadith of Bokhari. What does Islam say for them Islam is what Muslims are. For them Islam is what we do. So it's our responsibility to duty specifically in our universities, it's a great duty, that we act in a way that represents the true Islamic teachings, the character of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi, WA early he was a he was seldom, you know, in the Quran, Allah says that big code code cordial and courteous to Jerry will, jury is

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sorry, Belgium, there are three types of people a law says, Your next door neighbor, be extremely careful of his rights. Wasabi, Belgium,

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your next door neighbor, and the neighbor in your community. And the third person is the one with whom you have occasional companionship, your use, you're standing in a line, the one above ahead of you, the one behind you, their rights, don't do anything that will harm them. You're studying at the University, your fellow student don't do anything that will harm them. Show the good character of Islam. You know, there was a chef who was saying that once he he met a person who had recently This is quite unfortunate, recently accepted Islam, a river brother and he asked him he said what brought you to Islam? What was the reason why you didn't? What hadn't impacted you? What was the main cause

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that contributed to your embracing and acceptance of Islam? Was it your Islamic Society? Was it the brothers or the Islamic Society who Mashallah, you know, did a lot of good and, and and presented the true nature of Islam to you? And were you impressed by the Muslims at your university? You know what his response was? And this is really serious, because we need to think about this. You know what he said? He said, Alhamdulillah, all thanks to Allah that I met Islam before I met the Muslims. Had I met the Muslims before Islam, I wouldn't have been a Muslim today.

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Imagine how serious this is. We are becoming barriers for people coming into this beautiful religion of Allah. We have to we have to show the true nature of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam be like the companions be like the followers of the companions. One of the great emails of this Omen I'm concluding his name was Mr. Mohammed ignore Hasson O'Shea Bernie a great amount of this oma may Allah be pleased with him. He was living in a neighborhood where there were a lot of non Muslims he

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he was living next to a Jewish person his next door neighbor was a Jew when not you

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intended to leave the locality in the community he put his house on sale somebody came to view the property and he wanted to purchase this property The price was double they said what's wrong what's what's up with you you know the price it's double he said yes double one price for the property the second price

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is because of living next to this great Muslim Mr. Mohammed Neale Hurston This is how Muslims should be this is how Muslims are that when you when you leave the university even the non Muslims people around you, they think to themselves you know we're missing we're gonna miss you, you know you will a source of great good in, in, in our community in our society. So really try to try to maintain the Islamic etiquettes and there are numerous etiquettes of how to converse with people that are books written in terms of conversation how to listen attentively how to have a conversation how to meet how to greet how to host how to be a guest how to visit the ill and sick how to go and alleviate

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someone's distress and difficulty how to offer your condolences there are rules study them inshallah point number six and seven very short number six is try to have good company stay in good company remain in good company Allah says yo yo Latina Amano, taco la Baku Masada can try to remain with the righteous people, especially if you yourself are not sound and grounded in your personal Islamic practice. Then try to be around those people in sha Allah who will help you who will make you a better human being who will make you a better Muslim.

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And number seven, and the last point is very important as well and was alluded to by the one of the brothers is and you have a lot of courses here seek sacred Islamic knowledge, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the hadith of sunon of Lima, Peru murgia He says, follow me for you, Burton akula Muslim in seeking of knowledge is an obligation upon every Muslim which means

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That basic knowledge, basic knowledge is an obligation you have, you have the extensive knowledge which is part of the key fire, which is the knowledge that is deep. And that's the responsibility of the scholars but you have basic knowledge, every Muslim, male or female must obtain the basic knowledge of Islam. You must learn how to pray, how to purify yourself, you know, you can have any degree in the world, you could be the greatest of doctors in the world. But if you have not learned how to pray, then it's of no consequence in the sight of Allah. Really, you know, I talked about intention, you can have the greatest of intention, and you could do a world of good in the world but

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for a Muslim, if you don't know how to pray, you don't know how to perform will do. You don't know how to perform them also, you don't know the rules of the horror of purification of Zakat of of the other aspects of Islam, then it's of no consequence in the sight of Allah seek knowledge. You have a lot of classes here taking place like the brother, Shakib Rahim, one of my good friends, may Allah preserve him and give him a good rank and higher rank and May Allah give you the ability to take benefit from him and others who come here study the religious sciences, not don't study to argue and have debates, study to be become better Muslims to worship Allah to recognize a law to fulfill the

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rights of Allah and fulfill the rights of fellow human beings in shallow data and learn specifically Lastly, finally finally says absolute final and learn the laws related to your particular area of expertise. If you are a medic, learn the laws of Islam and medicine because Islam has laws in every area, every field, not our laws. Right and I mean and handle. I know in London, there's actually

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some of the university students have actually set up a an organization where they will focus primarily on medics, students to

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offer courses in terms of them learning about the various Islamic laws relating to all the medical issues like because there are laws connected to birth control, abortion, cosmetic surgery, organ transplantation, blood transfusion about life support machines, about euthanasia that are low so if you're in medicine, learn about all of these things because you can't be a practicing Muslim doctor unless you know the laws of Islam relating to your field if you're becoming a lawyer or a barrister or a solicitor to learn the laws of Islam relating to your particular field and your particular area in sha Allah tada so these are seven points and I apologize for going over time but before I finish

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I want somebody to mention all the seven points to me go on fire away

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okay, all of you point number one

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correcting of intention number two

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number two

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Okay, don't waste time value your time I mentioned that three but higher no problems no problems no problem that's number two number three

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sorry

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yeah work hard be experts excel in your studies number three number four

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sorry

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some kinda sorry

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yeah, yeah control your passions your desires and you know ensure you avoid sins generally all sins number five.

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Come on, she have a better memory than that number five.

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Anyone?

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Sorry.

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No, that was part of number four. We are being hired to be courteous Mashallah maintain

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number six

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remain in good company I'll help you remain in good company. Surround yourselves with good people. inshallah, that is a mean by the way, not to have any sort of interaction connection with a sinful people, someone who's not practicing Islam out of the will Earth and that's not what Islam says this is actually a very important point. That doesn't mean that I don't mean that for one moment. We have to try to help others to become good human beings and good Muslims. But if you're not grounded in your practice of Islam, it always helps to have good companies so that your support for one another and number seven, the last point

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learn about inshallah, seek knowledge seek sacred Islamic knowledge, learn about the rules of Islam inshallah, specifically relating to your particular area of expertise in sha Allah. And with this I pray Allah grant me that tofi all the future La Jolla was Sofitel la was an aloha Salam ala Sayyidina. Muhammad wa salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah.