Obligation to the Creation of Allah

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Especially brothers and sisters Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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hamdulillah Praise to Allah subhana wa tada

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it's an honor, it's a privilege to be here with you today.

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And I won't take too much of your time in sha Allah the few minutes that we have in front of us.

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I'm also feeling quite tired. I actually was in another place today in London where I had a Dallas for about 45 hours was just finished a matter of time.

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The topic that we have in front of us

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and all of you or most of you or some of you may have seen the poster the title, obligation to the creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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this religion this deal,

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shall we say? Because religion is actually not a right term or a translation of the word Deen.

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This Deen that Allah subhanho wa Taala has blessed us with and has given us we should be extremely thankful to Allah of course.

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But what is this Deen Islam, the Sharia? What is it?

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Unfortunately, we live in a time where

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Muslims from different backgrounds and from different cultures, from different communities have their own understanding of the word Deen. They have their own idea of the word Islam.

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Many of us we have our own conceptions or understandings of what Islam really requires us to do or not to do.

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Some of us will consider Islam maybe

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Islam is to worship Allah come to the masjid and offer five time praise. Some of us restrict Islam to just externally dressing like a Muslim. Some of us we think Islam is just about the hot and be a good clean hearted person. Some of us we think it's just external worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala. Many of us we restrict Islam to certain different areas or different modes or forms of worship or different rituals. Sometimes some of the cultural practices are given the name Islam and Sharia.

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Whereas if we look at what really Islam is, we look at the teachings of Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Quran and Sunnah. We see that Islam is not restricted to some of the things that we think Islam is only about. And rather, sometimes we see that Islam has nothing to do with what we as or what our culture may consider to be part of Islam. Many things it depends what culture or background, you're from all different cultures, from the Asian subcontinent to the Arab world. people consider certain aspects of Islam which they consider it them those aspects to be part of Islam, but they have nothing whatsoever to do with Islam. So we have a preconceived idea, we our

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own understanding what's coming from our parents of four fathers and forefathers. We need to really realize and understand what Islam is, and we have to act upon Islam in its entirety.

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have belief in Allah, His Messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and then we must act upon all the rules and injunctions of Islam. Islam is a religion or a way of life which Allah subhanho data has blessed us with. And Allah says in the Quran, yeah, you have Latina ermine, who the Hulu is Cilmi cough, oh you who believe enter Islam in enter into Islam girl first and totally completely wholeheartedly. Do not take parts of Islam and leave other parts. Activate Islam totally don't just become a part time Muslim don't only become a half time Muslim, a partial Muslim. Imagine a football team you know, coming on playing half one half of the game and not turning up for the other half.

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Exactly the same example for the person for the individual who is only a partial Muslim, have a two minute be bothered kitabi una be borrowed. Allah Subhana Allah says do you believe in parts of the book and you overlook other parts of the book? Islam is a complete way of life. It's very unfortunate in this day and age that we find people just picking parts of Islam and just acting upon them and considering them to be good practicing Muslims. And we see flows and neglect in many other areas. Islam is a complete way of life. Allah says yeah, you will Edina. Hulu Hulu is Cilmi curve, flatten and to integrate

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Islam completely and do not follow the footsteps of shavonne do not follow in the footsteps of Satan. So Islam is a complete way of life. It's not restricted to certain modes of worship. It's not just about hygiene Amara, it's not just about fasting in the month of Ramadan. It's not just about coming to the masjid five times a day. It's not just about externally dressing like a Muslim, it's not just about keeping a beard. It's not just about wearing a hat. It's not just about praying, forget about revision, Islam has much more and has more much more to do with just dressing like a Muslim or just offering your prayer. It's a complete way of life and we must ensure that we become

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complete believers. And there are many different aspects the order might have actually discussed the different aspects of Islam they've divided. The laws, the injunctions, the rules of Islam into many different categories, the scholars, the early scholars, they've actually looked at the Quran and Sunnah and the the categorize the various rules and injunctions that are met on the Noah II, the do's and the don'ts, the commands on the prohibitions into five different categories. And we have different cut these five categories. And one of the first categories are pizza, of course, a Muslim has to first have correct belief and the correct Arpita and that's one category, one branch of the

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teachings of the Quran and Sunnah one branch of the teachings of Allah His Messenger so the law do you send them one branch of the guidance of Islam, but that's just one branch. After that we have four branches. Akita is to do with the mind to do with our belief what we must believe it, but we have other branches, we have four other main branches of Islam. And these are all the rules, all the injunctions, all the commands, do's and don'ts, the commands and prohibitions, they can be fit into, we can fit them into these four categories after aqeedah we have a bar that we have muamalat we have Marcia and we have a clock, these are the four main categories, a bar that is worshiping Allah

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subhanaw taala, one branch of the teachings of Islam is to worship Allah now everything that's to do with worshiping Allah comes into this category, everything that's to do with worshiping Allah from offering our son our will do and we offer our five time prayers and all the different Noah fit and the sooner that we offer and all the vicar that we do, and all the recitation of the Quran that we do and the article for the month of Ramadan and fasting and Salatu tarawih and pm Elaine and tahajjud prayer, and and also the curve which is also considered to be a bird from the Iboga category worshiping Allah Subhana, WA tada and hij, and Amara and fasting, all of this. All the

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rules relating to these aspects come into the category or into the branch a burden that's only one quarter, only one quarter of the teachings of Islam. Imagine a person an individual who is extremely punctual. With his five time prayers he performs will do in the best of manners, he performs his ablution in the best of ways according to the method of the Sunnah, and he ensures that he comes to the masjid five times a day. I'm not disregarding This is important of course. But imagine this individual. He comes to the masjid five times a day he is there in the first soft in the first row. He is there he comes before us and we just stopped and he's worshiping Allah subhana wa Tada. He is

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perfect with his sunon with his Knower, filled with his shahrokh prayer with his our being prayer with his family with his tahajjud and his car and the vicar and the recitation of the Quran daily recitation of the Quran. And this person in the month of Ramadan is extremely punctual with his fasting and even outside is fasting. And he performs etica the spiritual retreat in the last 10 days, and he is going to Hajj performing hajj, Alhamdulillah, every other year or left after every few years, maybe every year in Ramadan, who's going for Ramadan, and visiting the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala. This person, the one I've just described in front of you.

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If he is neglectful, despite doing all of this, if he is neglectful in how he deals with other people, how he deals if it's a man how he deals with his wife and his children, if it's a wife, how she deals with the husband, parent, if it's a parent that how he deals with his children, if he or she is a child, then how he or she deals with the parents and relatives and cousins and relations and people around you Muslims non Muslims, even animals, how he deals with people how he does his business, his trade, his finance, houses dealings, or if he's neglectful, he doesn't look at the teachings of Islam. He doesn't care. He thinks Islam is just okay look, I look like a Muslim

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hamdulillah I wear a nice job and I've got a good beard and I wear a scarf and over and I'm a man I look like a good Muslim. I am there in the masjid five times a day people say to me, you know Mashallah Shahada whatever because I look like a Muslim

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You can be diluted, you can be deceived. It's actually very scary. You know why? Because some of the scholars have said that if a person externally dresses like a Muslim, it's actually sometimes worse. Remember, it's important to even do these things, you know, be a bother is important. But sometimes what happens when we act and behave like practicing Muslims in terms of how we worship we are frequenting the masjid the house of Allah and we dress like Muslims. people consider us to be good Muslims practicing Muslims, when people start quoting us good Muslims and consider us good Muslims. We in within ourselves such subconsciously We consider ourselves to be practicing Muslims as well we

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don't realize that we actually committing major sins in the aspects of how we treat our family members or relatives or other people how we deal in the marketplace in the factory in the shop. So we forget we actually don't because you know, when someone people how they, you know, consider us that's how we start thinking about ourselves.

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So we don't think we are committing any sense. And we don't there's no, you know, desire to even repent to Allah, we don't make Toba. Whereas if a person is neglectful, in how he is externally but his more arm alert his actions are in accordance with the teachings of Islam, how he treats people, it's in accordance with the teachings of Allah His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, people won't normally won't consider you to be a good practicing Muslim, you will feel guilty. You think yes, you know, I am not punctually my prayers, I need to repent, a day will come inshallah, when you will repent, you will become a good Muslim in other areas as well. Because when people don't regard

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you as a good Muslim, then you feel guilty and bad. But when people look at you, and you dress like a Muslim, then we think yes, I'm a good practicing brother. We don't even see our own false.

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One of the great scholars of the subcontinent Chef moulana chef literary Rahim Allah He mentioned a small, you know, anecdote where he said there was an old man, this is old man who was really old, and he was getting close to his death. He had a disease, which was greed. And he was very greedy person, very stingy, a miserly person who used to gather all the, you know, wealth and dinar and Dirham rupees or whatever they had in the subcontinent at that time. And he used to hoard it and gather it and hide it in different bags under his bed bed. So the young children, you know, in his community, they knew that this guy is a bit tight, in other words, so let's go and days to go and,

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you know, tease him. So one day all these young children came to him and said, you know, granddad or uncle or whatever, you know, give us some sweets, you know, you've got some things hidden under your bed, and you know, what's in that bag? Come on, you need to open that bag of hidden something that is a go go. There's nothing here. They were teasing him. So he said, let me just use me, you know, think of an idea. So he just said, haven't you heard children? They said what? Such and such person down there he's giving distributing free sweets, Helwan, mitai. And sweets is giving free sweets go down this away. So do you know this is a free distribution of sweets? So all the children's sweet,

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sweet, so they all started running? So this old man he looked at them he started running as well. So somebody said to the old man, what's wrong with you? You just made this up? You know, they're running. So why are you running said if they're all running, maybe it's true, you know, there might be somebody actually giving sweets. He mentioned this and he said this is the example of the person whom is who is such he knows he is bad, his sinful he is guilty. But everyone says Marcia luscher Hodges or whatever. Then you get diluted. This person became dilute, he saw that all the children running. So he was deceived. He knew the reality that he is he you know, he just made it up, but

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because he saw the children, so maybe it's true. Exactly the example of the person who himself knows the reality that he is sinful. She is sinful, guilty, and neglectful of the teachings of Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but when everybody says Mashallah, Mashallah Mashallah share this ensures that you start thinking Yes, I may really be a chef. And that's dangerous. That's why you know these ideas of you know, long introductions are not not a good idea, man. Just facts and figures. It's fine. So people know you know where you've studied and where you've, you've taken from him even OCD rocky mahalo hora de Ahuja, Mama Timothy mentioned this at the end of the Shema,

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in where he said, you know, in the huddle, I am a de Lune Fernando, I had to come on Yahoo dudina, this affair of ours this it's deep, it's very important. let one of you Be very careful from who you from whom you take your religion. So we should not be taking our religion from every Tom, Dick and Harry and anybody who can who seems like someone who's knowledgeable. So therefore introductions were

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We have facts and figures who the shoe on who the teachers are and where you study final hamdulillah but extortionate praise, it gets to the heart. And when people really start considering you something, then you actually forget that you're, you're sinful and you're guilty, and you're just a human being. So, this is a reason why we have to be very careful. Especially if we are externally portraying ourselves to be good Muslims, we dress like good Muslims, we practice

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the external aspects of Islam, then we must be extremely careful that our morality and our transactions and our dealings and our behavior our conduct towards others is, you know, up to date. These are the branches of Islam, Akita and then I said the four branches sorry, but that person was

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cut and hygiene Amara and fasting on wahba even so far and must be heard and salutations and blessings on Salawat on the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at everything, but this individual is neglectful of how he deals with his family members and his relatives and fellow Muslims. Then this person is actually just acting upon one quarter of Islam is a quarter Muslim. The one I've just described imagine 15 minutes before salaat he is in the quarter just a quarter of Islam why because from the four branches is only acted upon one branch the other three branches we have number two, no Arusha Anwar millet section second and third. And I want to just talk about briefly Why should I

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monitor so we have Marcia which is the branch that deals with social conduct more Alisha and we have more limited financial dealings and the fifth and the final or for the fourth one if you keep up either on the side is a HELOC can good character. So Marsha laminate, we have a Baghdad Akiva Let's start with the first one up either side, then you have a bad

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worshipping Allah. Number three more Ashura, social rulings, how you deal with your parents, how you deal with your children, how you deal with their relatives, how you deal with your husband, how your dealings are with your wife, with your children, with people around you, your workmates, your college mates, your university mates, your your, your, you know, your employer, your employee, how you deal with Muslims around you, non Muslims around you, and even the animals that all comes into our shadow. And number

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four muamalat It's from the word tyerman, which really deals with financial dealings, financial dealings, how you do business, how you do trade, how you conduct your business. And number five, Allah which has to do with the issues of the heart, ensuring that the heart is you know, free and empty from all the spiritual ailments and diseases and the heart is adorned with good character traits, which is based of course on the Quran and Sunnah. So now, this is what Islam is. Let's just look at these two branches in the time that we have in front of us more are shorter and more ominous. I just want to briefly give you a small synopsis of the branch category of Maharashtra and

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marmelade from the five branches Arpita. That's a topic on its own. But that's worshipping Allah, we have more eyeshadow Mama 10 o'clock I'm going to leave a clock out as well because that's a category and so why should I mama just briefly, we have the branch of Islam, which is Marsha. Marsha. It's an Arabic term is from the word shalom. Shalom means to live.

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It means living with people, Allah subhana wa tada has created us in such a way that we have to live. We have to live with people, right? We all have to recall and just go into jungle and live by our own selves. We have to we have to live as humans because we have to live with people. There'll be conflicts. There'll be people around us We live in a family we live at home we have parents children, husband, wife, grandchildren, nephews, nieces, we have people around us we have relatives, you have cousins, we live in a community in the locality we come to the masjid there are people around us. We deal with people in the community. So ensure Marcia is to live with people. And there

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are rules in Islam connected to more Arusha. Why should amend means to live because you have to live with people. And the way a lot of us have hardened with it has created us is that we are all different. There are differences even the way Allah has created us. There's a difference. No two human beings live sorry no two human beings look the same. No two human beings have been created the same. Every single one of you here looks different from the other. Each one of us here we are different from

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The other, that's the way Allah has created us, even to the point that even you know, our fingerprints are different, you go to some places, like if you travel to America right now they take you in the taker, you know, your print of your thumb, every human beings, you know, fingerprints are different from another, that's the way it was created us. Even the lines on the hand are different. one human being from the other. Now, we live with one another, but we've been created differently. Our thoughts are different, the way we think is different. The way we see things is different. The way we understand issues of life is different. Now, if you put these two things together, we have to

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live with people. And the way we see things and we think about things and the way we look at life, our perspective on lives, different the natural consequence. And the natural result is that there'll be difference of opinion, right feelings will be hurt, because the other person who you are living with, if you're a husband, your wife will not do things like the way you want 100%

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otherwise, you'd be living with your own self. You know, your wife is different. She's another human being. She has a different understanding a different brain. She has different understanding of the world, your children have been created differently from you. So Allah has created all of us differently, yet we have to live together the natural consequences, and the result is that our feelings will be hurt. What do we do? Do we fight and argue about that? No. Islam says that this is this is the test, living with people despite being different for from one another. That's the test. This that's the test in this dunya how do we deal with these differences? If someone hurts our

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feeling, then do we get angry? Do we retaliate? Or do we have sovereign patience? And this is the reason why there's a hadith in the salon of your mama telling me the weather messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said minoo lady you Holly to NASA voice Bureau.

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Muslim in la de la Holly to NASA.

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The beaver who lives and mixes and interacts and intermingles a believer who intermingle mingles with others, and then exercises solder and patience on

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on the harms and difficulties that he receives from other people is far better than a believer learn how to nurse who doesn't mix with people who doesn't live with people who doesn't intermingle. And that's why he doesn't have to exercise Subbu while the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is saying in this Hadith, that you can have two people, one person says, Okay, you know what, I won't live with anybody. I'll just go and live by myself in on the north poles in the south pole or somewhere, you know, I'll just live on a top of a mountain. Of course, you know, telling a blind man don't commit sin with your eyes don't look at nudity, you know, blind mine, of course to mean Well,

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he can't see anyway. So if a person goes and lives by himself somewhere, it's very easy if he says, You know what, I don't harm nobody who's there to harm. Imagine, you know, my Heroku query, but you know, I fulfill there's nothing I don't have nobody. There's nobody around you. That's not the test. And that's why the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the Heidi minu lady you Holly to nurse in the sooner for the moment, Timothy rhodiola, who I'm a movement, a believer who mixes intermingles with others, and then how sober and patients on the harms that he is receiving is better than the one who doesn't mix with people and doesn't have to exercise patience on subak. So

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we have to live with people at home as well. We have to ensure brother and sister, it's not enough that we come into the mercy that we just offer our prayers and we act like Muslims. Are we Muslims at home? Who Ashura you know? Our Muslims at home? We could be the most pious of individuals in the masjid. But we go home and we don't treat our family well. As a husband. We don't treat our wives well. And some of us we use Islam to oppress and suppress our women, which is which has nothing to do with Islam. oppression alone, it's a major sin in Islam.

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Allah says what I should do.

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Again, the word Russia, wouldn't it be my rules? Treat them honorably? Treat your women your wives in an honorable way facory to Muna Shea and fossa and Takara who share with Allah houfy hidden the hidden kathira you might dislike something of this, but there is much good in them. Every human being every human being is a combination of good and bad to the point that the scholars say that even a stopwatch or a sorry a watch. A watch where which is not working the battery

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stopped working that clock. If this clock, there's no batteries in it will say the truth two times in 24 hours, they give you the truth on two occasions.

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If it stops now 815 now and then 815 in the morning will tell you the truth.

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Every human being has something at least two good things to offer. And that's why a husband should realize sometimes that okay, the wife is you know, she's not doing this. She's not doing that she doesn't have these qualities. But there are many good qualities that you can think about and overlook the bad qualities and this is why Allah is saying for our Santa Clara who she weighs out of lo fi in Iran kathira Allah has placed great good in them.

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And the problem today that we see is that sometimes the manda has been once his wife to become exactly like him, the way I think you must think like me what I eat, you must like that as well. how I do things you she's a different human being. Allah has not created her, like you she is different. You can't expect your wife to become you know, totally like the way you want things to, to take place. We have to learn to overlook and forgive. And the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam actually mentioned in 102 holy apartment. A woman is created from a rip we were in our pajamas with

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the and the rip the nature of the rip is that it's cooking. Some people use this hadith to to condemn women it's not a condemnation is actually pointed to the reality that the messenger sallallahu alayhi. wasallam is telling the man that look, your wife is different from you from your perspective. For you, she might look bent, but she's it's not that she's the beauty and a woman. It the beauty in a rib is the crookedness, which means that a woman is more fragile, more gentle, more emotional, so learn to live. And that's why the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that there has to be Maha cassata. If you try to straight into straighten the regular breaking, if you

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try to make your woman, your wife, she's emotional, she's she's fragile, she's gentle, she's sensitive, and you try to change that. You'll break it meet you'll you might have ended up in a divorce. Because that's the beauty of a woman if she does if if a woman is not sensitive and gentle and you know, emotional, that she's not a woman, you know, then you should have married some some men or something. No, you shouldn't Of course not. But this is the beauty of a woman. And you know, we always remember the Hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that they have they not decide to clean with deeming they they have you know they are deficient half alcohol and half brain.

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What does that mean? If Okay, if they have half a brain, then you should have doubled at her. You should have two times more support and more patience. You should be thinking more two times more you should have more reflection in your mind. Woman is she's not the subtle apple. So these are the things that are meant as as a husband must realize who actually ruined my roof is supposed to be Nisa, Hydra messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that I advise you sincerely to treat your women in an honorable way. They add to it to come in rather than Abdi for the for the Allah who you do have to me Do not strike your women, you know, you strike your women and then at the end of the

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day in the night, then you become all lovey dovey with her. This is the you know, meaning of the heaviness of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, treat them well, as a Muslim, it's not enough that you just you know, dress like a Muslim. And in the masjid, you come and that tone you go and you become like, some kind of a boss that nobody can even speak to you, your children, your children with love, we need to treat our children with love and with attention with care.

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One of the chefs used to say that, you know, somebody came to him and said, You know, when I go home, my family members, my children, my wife, they can't even when I come everybody is so he was so proud of the fact that you know, when I go home, there's so much old and there's so much respect that you know, everybody they can't even people can't even move. So why when you go home and you become some kind of an animal or a tiger or something. That's not what Islam requires. Islam requires that when a man goes home, then then he gives the rights to his children to his wife to his children, shows that love and mercy even with young children look at the messenger sallallahu alayhi

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wasallam not just his own children, but children of the community. Can an abuse of Allah who it was sending me azulon saw he would go and visit the people of unsought Will you send me more others sybian him, William said he wouldn't greet you would make Salaam to the children of unsolved first. Imagine this is the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he is initiating Salaam small child comes he's doing some first brother am an adult. What does this kid Hey, get out the most you have too much, you know, messing around, even the way we tell our children how to behave.

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The message should be full of love and mercy. And that's how we bring the hearts they start loving Islam. Because nowadays they think Islam is just all about just people telling us off. It's just all about you know, don't do this, don't do that. Get out this that. No we need to we need to show love to our children because the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he assumed and saw you send them or other sybian him he would greet them first Williams

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and he used to place his hands over the heads.

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The way he treated his son, his grandchildren, so you do not have an Paseo de la and Houma both of them. You know there's a hurry to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was lying on the floor on the ground. And one of them has no poseen was you know, he was holding the hands and his feet were on the feet of the messenger sallallahu Ellison's feet and then he was climbing, climbing until he climbed onto the chest of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and then the messengers are listening boats in close. He said, If you open your mouth and then he kissed him on his mouth, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would pray salah and they used to jump over him in Salah

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with one hand imagine in Salah nowadays, my Salah you know I'm worshiping Allah, this is the Messenger of Allah who Salah is better than the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Salah in his prayer. One of them's on the you know, back and one on the shoulder and they're jumping and climbing over him with one hand he places them down gently and then he goes into sujood and then it sits down. Because there are these are small children. This is the love that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam would show even with children and even the women wives I mean the why the women are listening as well. They shouldn't get away with it as well. You know, with your husband's

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the tongue the women have this problem with the tongue. You can recite all the Quran all day long and do all these cars car and just be hotter is the car and one usage of the tongue will put you right down

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the Hadith about the tongue Mahalia Cubana Sophie Narada woo him Hassan. It was similar to him. Nothing places a person deep into Hellfire except the sins of the tongue. In the appellate level kennametal ma you look at her Berlin a seven sometimes say something with his mouth he doesn't really think it's that important. But with that, one statement is in Ruby her in an Arima, Arima VENA Machina palmolive. He goes so deep into the power of how the distance which is between East and West, tongues women, especially men as well, especially women, they need to protect and safeguard their tongue, the sins committed by the tongue backbiting, which is a major sin in our community.

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People don't even realize the people who are practicing seriously people who consider themselves to be practicing backbiting LIBOR LIBOR to a shell domina Xena. This is not a hadith but it's a saying of the early setup, but the meaning is true. The LIBOR is bad is more severe than even Zinner Rocco put a bird in Coachella the rights of the servants of Allah come before the rights of Allah imagine here's sometimes women did that just in Ramadan the reading year you know, the Quran and Sunnah the phone? Okay, let me just pray pray this is pick up the phone. Oh, yeah. Did you hear about her daughter in law that Yeah, the mother in law? Oh, you're she's a very bad daughter in law. Yeah, she

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doesn't do any mention business. You know, all your recitation is going down the drain with one statement that you've talked about someone in an evil way. And that's why these, you know, free minutes that we have on our mobile phones that disastrous, that's what I say, you know, I know when he called these minutes, you know, 100 or 500 or 1003 minutes, you know, 500 Tilbury minutes, that's what they are.

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If we don't utilize them in the right manner, he bites a severe sin. The Quran says Surah Girard is full of Mashallah, the best or the most important

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ruku or the surah, you can read we should actually learn the surah the meanings of it, have a data sonnet surah Allah gives us rules of how to how to, you know, deal with one another in terms of the rules of Wireshark, you know, in general confers upon whenever infected by you, oh believe is when someone comes to you with the news

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butterbean

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which means to verify the authenticity of the news that somebody is coming to you with, if someone comes to you and says, oh, he said this or she said, This finance or that such and such person said this, don't make a hasty decision further, but you ensure, make sure verify the authenticity, many of the problems that we find in our community. And this, you know, conflicts. That's another topic, actually last year. in Ramadan, I gave a whole series of talks, whole Ramadan, family disputes, causes and solutions. We looked at 1010 different reasons that contribute to the family conflicts, because we find every family more or less, you know, everywhere in the world that are conflicts. We

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talk about global conflicts. We've got

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conflicts in our own homes. If we can't solve those conflicts, how are we going to resolve the whole world, we can't live with one another in the family. And it's one of the major problems when I talk to so many people, it's every more or less every family, this conflicts brother with a brother, father, with a son, son with a sister, brother, sister, relative uncle Dana talking to them, and this person is not talking to that person. And there are disputes within the family. And that's why I actually made you know, we did a whole series on and mentioned, covered 10 major reasons or family disputes. And the solutions

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are kind of remember the list right now. But one of the reasons was this, that

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one of the reasons was this Yes. If we don't verify the authenticity, of the information that people come to us with,

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Allah says and to Cebu olimpija hurtin for to speak who Allah file to mean, Don't be hasty in what you do because if you go ahead and do something, then you might regret the situation later on. And to be who identify to demean This is one of the major causes of family disputes. We don't verify authenticity, we don't we don't we do not verify the authenticity of what people are telling us. We believe everyone in anyone

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and then Allah talks about this more in the next few verses. Yeah, you're Latina, which can evoke a theorem in a bun. Oh, you who believe a voice Kathy are much suspect, Eastern ibuka thira men have been avoided much suspicion, suspicion, you know, suspecting people, we see okay, you know, she's like this or his like that or she's doing this or she's doing that or he's doing this avoid it's a sin in bargarh one isn't some suspicion is sin.

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suspecting people without any proof, whatever that

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you know,

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suspecting is about whatever it may be suspecting people of things, which we do not know whether they have actually committed or not a major sin each turn you boo, Cathy ramen have been in about a month. And then Allah says what I just said. So somebody might say to themselves, that look, you know, this is the order the Hikmah the wisdom, amazing, you know, Tara tea by order that Allah has used in this verse, in these few verses, Allah says, avoid suspicion, don't suspect people on you know without any proof, somebody might say, Okay, you know what I will,

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I would suspect someone baseless suspicion, I will go and verify. I'll make sure I will, I will go and research. don't suspect someone that has done this sin or has done this black magic or has done this thing or has done that, or she's done this don't suspect. Somebody says, you know, he's guilty of this or this sinful activity, somebody might start to say to themselves, I will go and research investigate. As soon as that foot comes, Allah straightaway says what are the Justice who do not become a judge Seuss, do not become a spy, do not spy, you do not work for the FBI.

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What I just said that's not your job. This is what allies telling us seriously, that is not our jobs, to go and look into the affairs of people who's guilty of what sin we are taking, you know, a loss job, that's not our job. We have personal done good opinion about people. Every time we see someone even if we think they might may be guilty of something Islam says, personal done in person have been nominated by the tiller from the worship of Allah to have good opinion. It's a very important quality to have to have good opinion. You see, someone may be doing something, there's 101 reasons. You know, you see someone just walking past or coming out of a for example,

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they might have just gone there to ask the time they might have Think about all these things, or they might have just suddenly wanted to go and use the washroom toilet or or they went to ask some directions or they went to do this or they make excuses for for your fellow Muslim brother or sister. This is what Islam says each time you book a theorem and have been but we go the opposite way. You know, even if there's more possibility of that person not committing something, we actually make our mind that we see someone we start suspecting them. Yeah, this person like this, like that, like that. When you see a Muslim we have 101 thoughts in our mind every time we see someone from

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that group is from this group is from that mosque or from that community? Is this a Sufi Salafi, Wahhabi is there's nobody is there is this guy's ugliness corrupt to his htrf to st or TJ or I don't know what 101 thoughts

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and we will give him such a look. See as this you know, fellow Muslims, we give them looks as though you know, they are not even human beings. And then we tend to anonymously say

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Hi how are you everything you know we smile, at least is better than a non Muslim even though if it's from another group, we are good with non Muslims or when it comes to Muslims is from this group and that group at least smile, at least give the Salaam of Islam the messenger sallallahu Allah He was sending one of his Sunnah was to smile at people. Jared Abdullah Al Bashir of the Allahu anhu states Maha Giovanni Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Mundo Islam to one our anila tabasum a few witchy since I became a Muslim since I embraced Islam, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam never kept or placed a barrier between myself and himself. And never did he see me except

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that he smiled in my face. And this is one Sahabi saying, imagine the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would smile with every single Sahabi. And that's why the companions would think they would consider that they were the most close they were the closest to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Once a hobby I think it was a little bit of delay, and I'm going to ask the Allahu Allahu if I remember correctly. You mentioned the messenger solo, and he sent him a Yoda solo messenger of Allah, Who is the most beloved to me. Okay. So then who said oma? And he said after, after that, who said off man, he said, I just stopped that you won't get more disappointed, because I really thought

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he was said I was the most closest to him, because that's how I found and then at least number two, and at least number three, if not, then I just stopped. Now he actually really thought that he was the closest to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because that's how the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam would make his companions feel he would give them that love and attention. And this is a lock on the character of the messengers of Allah. Unfortunately, we live in a time seriously brothers, you know, we, we restrict Islam to rigidness and strictness and harshness, and we reserved within this part of sydnor to be reserved, where is that going to come

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from? It's contrary to the teachings of Islam, you become some important person in this in the Muslim community, like a share, who is someone like, you know, and that's it. We think that's it. We're way up there on cloud seven, and we're harsh and you know, everybody, you know, we can't even smile, because the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he would you would be one of the people, he would sit with the people, he would sit with the people, when a non Muslim or somebody from the, you know, from the mushy Kuhn would come and ask the Sahara men minko. Mohammed, they would, they would need to ask who is Mohammed amongst you can recognize Mohammed?

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There's one incident when somebody one of the, you know, someone from the opposite army came and asked is a momento Mohammed? You know, that he asked the Sahaba companions who is Mohammed amongst you? So the other person said, Can you see that person they heard original Abu Taki This one was quite, quite white, in his complexion, the one who's just leaning against that wall, that's Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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This is the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So Allah says in that vs Sora, gerat, each Caribou Coffee, ramen have been

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avoid suspicion, do not suspect people. That's one of the main reasons why we have all these conflicts in the family, because we start suspecting people of things, without any concrete evidence, and then Alas, is what I just saw. So do not go and spy do not become a jasoos that's not your job. Do not go and investigate and research and look into the private affairs and matches of people. Yes, there are exceptions like for the police in an Islamic country or when they're looking for crime. There are exceptions but generally that's not our job. Rather, rather Our job is that even if we see someone guilty of something man cetera Ivan satola, who you know who Yeoman piano,

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when someone hides and conceals the faults of others alone concede his faults on the Day of Judgment, we all have false we are we are we have a responsibility of concealing the faults of other people. So Allah says, What have you just said, so do not go and see spy? Do not go and look into the private affairs of other people that's not your job, then somebody might think this is the 13th on the order of selection. Somebody might think, look, I'm not not going to suspect suspicion is how long? Neither I will, you know, go and research and investigate and look into the matters and affairs of people. What about the situation where I know for a fact this person is dead, you know,

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it's not suspicion. There's evidence and the evidence is that I never had to go and search for it. It happened in front of my eyes. The brother told me himself that he did this thing last night where he was drinking consuming alcohol in front of me.

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Then what Allah says Allah Yaga Baba, Baba, even if you know, do not talk about that person behind his back.

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a moment or two before the Allahu anhu mentions this in his tafsir Koran, the reasoning or the Hikmah, or the wisdom behind the 13

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Have these three cents that just shows and then sorry,

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Sue have done bad opinion, then to justice and then Reba, what?

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Do you not backbite if somebody is guilty of a sin, then the

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duty and responsibility of a good practicing Muslim is to offer sincere naseeha and advice and guidance in the best of ways, in the most gentle of manners. Keep on explaining our job is not to name and shame. We're not there to tell people you're guilty or you're sinful. No, our job is that this person is most of this person's got some kind of illness, someone who has a cancer we don't become angry at someone who has cancer. You got cancer get off from here. You do become angry with someone who has a physical ailment or a physical disease or illness or sickness. No. Likewise, this guy is spiritually ill. We need to offer sincere advice in the sea high guidance with love with

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attention. Look at the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam again, his example in front of us better Arabi and famously didn't abuse Allahu alayhi wa sallam a villager came into the message of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam started urinating in one corner. The Sahara started looking at what's this guy doing? urinating in the masjid?

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Is urinating in the masjid? Imagine in any of our massages in the UK? Somebody who just starts urinating probably in five minutes you need you will need to call an ambulance You know why? Probably come out of the blue and a black eye and a bruised face.

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Shower definitely not here but in some mustard maybe people will become angry. What are you doing? Don't you understand? Look at the messengers of Allah It was a mistake to the Sahaba de la know that Oh, who leaves Okay, let him Let him finish number one let him finish don't stop him now in the middle of him urinating because two problems one is right now he's polluting the corner if you stop, if you stop him will run there and all that you know how line will become polluted and number two medically it's wrong as well. You know, to stop someone from urinating in the middle, it's harmful for him. We can clean this up later This is harmful for him. He said, leave him and then he said to

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the Sahaba that afterwards going, you know

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pour some water and purify the place. And then afterwards the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam went to him the Arabi who was a someone who had recently embraced Islam and in an extremely gentle polite when he explained him and he said brother you know this this is a question in the hill my surgeon latos law Holy [???].

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These massage it houses of a law places of worship. They are not appropriate for things like urinating or enema here liquor law he was salatu wa Corrado Quran. This is for the recitation of the book of Allah to offer salah and to remember Allah and the recitation of the book of Allah explained to him in an extremely gentle way in another rewire this person said from our a to maybe the same Hadith or another Hadith, but I'm not exactly sure, but similar maybe the similar instance or another incident, but after the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam explained to him in a very gentle way, he said from A to A Sanam allimand Minho, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I have never seen

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a better teacher than the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. These are there are ways of teaching is actually a beautiful book

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shehab the Fatah Buddha Rahim Allah who is a very famous Hadith scholar of the second part of the 20th century, or Rasulullah sallallahu. It was a beautiful book. It's been translated into English and I encourage all of you to pick this book up and read it. Or Rasulullah marlim, a prophet, the teacher, the prophet, the prophet, who was a teacher, his ways and his methods of teaching.

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different chapters is actually written in Arabic, but translated into English, a beautiful book, how the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam towards especially if you're a teacher, but all of us we have to, we have our children.

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So if someone is guilty of some sinful activity, our job is to give them sincere advice naseeha for the sake of Allah in a very gentle way, we want them to become practicing. So we do our best to with the love with care and attention. We try to treat them we don't start spreading rumors about them, we don't start spreading the evil sin, the spreading news about the evil activities. We have to conceal and hide their sinful activities and are going back to the sisters that I was talking about the wife, you know, women at home as well you know, they just sometimes allow Mashallah. There are of course, good women, but some of the women they have this very bad habit of talking about the

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whole world except their own selves. Everybody's bad except your own self. It's really really serious. And towards the husbands as well. I know sisters are here on the listing. One of the most important things for the sisters is to control your tongue. How many men

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Husbands that I personally have spoken to say this My wife is so good but the only thing that she's got a problem with a month she just nag, nag, nag. It's just three days ago an email came, somebody said, you know, what do I do? She's got all the good qualities she prays, but she's just next to

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seriousness, this is you to realize this will have an impact on your marriage later on. Maybe not in one year, two years, three years, four years, five years, six years, maybe 10 years down the line. slowly, gradually, the man will start losing interest in you because of your tongue and because of your mouth and because of the way you speak. And that's why the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he talked about looking for a good wife, he said Allah can be careful.

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of one one Taku or Harmon will RWC three good qualities to look for in a wife. He said one of the good qualities is to look for a woman whose sweet mouthed sweet mouth and then he said the ones who are prolific in giving birth and who here who are content and happy with less, you give them less money, they are happy. These are three amazing qualities of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam prescribed in the Hadith.

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Being sweet mouth, it's very important the way the woman talks. If she keeps nagging, then it will create problems even on the children. Some women from the time they wake up to the time they go to sleep, they just yell. They just keep on shouting and shouting and shouting. This is not the way a Muslim does not shout, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Hadith, when you look at his qualities lahmacun Sahaba he was not not somebody who would yell. Very rarely he would yell he would never shout sallallahu alayhi wasallam backbiting tell baring relating information from one place to another, the messengers of Allah, Islam says

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gotta get the tail bearish shall not enter Paradise. In another Hadith in the center of a mammoth pyramid, he said,

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What are you doing? Sharon? nursey oma pm at evil witch hazel witch Hey, the worst of people you will see on the Day of Judgment is a two faced person, a lady at heart will be watching, we'll be watching that individual is the worst of people on the Day of Judgment, who comes to one group of people with one face and goes to another group of people with another face. You go to the mother in law with another face, you go to the daughter in law with another face. And some people you know, that's their job, they just track the match. They strike the match, burn and then they run away. They start the conflict. That's the job Islam says we should try to you know, reduce the fire some

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people their job is nothing but to create the fire. You know, they like controversies. They like to create those, you know, problems in the family. Oh, he said this and she said this and then this take a step back and watch everything. That's the job of shape pond, that's where she had binders, makes people fight and then you know, sit and say yes, relax, let's watch free ticket to watch this, you know, drama taking place. And that's some communities and some families. That's why it is dramas, episodes, Episode Number one, episode number two, you could probably do a whole documentary or a full one on the dramas that take place in families, Muslim families, with the in laws and the

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mother in law and the father in law and the sister in law and the nephew. And then in the whole, you know, extended family. Really, you can have a whole documentary series because it's a drama after drama after drama. People have too much time on their hands and they just have to have nothing better to do than just have a fight in court with one another. We should get ourselves busy engage ourselves with fruitful activities. Those people who engage themselves with fruitful activities. They don't have time for this nonsense. They don't have time. If someone has a you know, habit of reading books, you don't have time you've got things to do. You're interested in reading books. It's

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a very good way of, of taking your attention away from the consequences at home, get yourself busy, engaged to activities, just keep on doing things. So you don't get involved in all the family controversies. And seriously those people who actually keep themselves busy, they avoid all these feminine controversies. So women as well with your husband's the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in a hadith

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and Morocco is a solid Hamza. This isn't the sooner nofima tirmidhi elmarit with a solid Hamza was sama, Shahada og soldier, the harlot in gentlemen a bourbon shirt, a woman who offers a five time prayers and

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observes the fast of Ramadan and obeys her husband, she will enter Jenna and paradise from whichever dose she wants. There's another Hadith which some of the non Muslims they, you know, raise objections to local to Iran. And yesterday I had American Nisa yesterday and as virgin if I was to order the messenger sallallahu Sallam said, If I was to order and

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command

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Anyone from prostrating making suju in front of another human being than I would have commanded women and wives to make sujood and prostrate in front of their husbands.

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Allah has given husband this rank. Women need to realize Allah has given this rank. You know, in a family, you have to have someone who's a boss. In a family setup, you have to have someone who's in a meal, wherever there's, you know, two people equal, you have a conflict everywhere, you know, any place where you have to equal people, there's always a conflict. And that's why in and family where the woman does not consider her husband, to be superior, there's going to be a conflict. But if the wife thinks is my superior, Allah has commanded me to obey Him and respecting, respecting your husband is one of the most important duties or responsibilities. That doesn't mean that you take all

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the pressure that he, you know, throws you away. There are ways but respecting one's husband, and then children as well looking after them. So women really need to control the tongue, Sins of the tongues halala it's just an area where you can commit many things without even realizing, lying tail bearing backbiting, false accusations, slander, swearing,

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you know,

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many sins can be committed with a tongue.

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You know, there was this couple where I mentioned this once or twice as often as couple days to fight. And you know, you know what happens? These are all the real situations, these are the real problems of the family nowadays. Unfortunately, I'm not saying it's haram and sinful, but our reliance more than do our asking Allah to help us and really tackling the problem and dealing with them our reliance is more on what go to the share, go to that share, give me It always give me this problems will be solved problems are not going to be solved like that. You have to deal with your problems. We have to do and then if nothing that is black magic is a big problem in our community.

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Every problem in the family. There's one woman who's really I've spoken to so many times, you know, a glass drops in her kitchen she thinks someone's done black magic season because she's now mentally disturbed everything black magic, I don't I'm not saying it doesn't exist it does. But we have to deal with these problems. We don't make therapy of our own children we neglect them we're too busy earning money we don't have time to spend with them and we don't have time to spend with them and we don't have time to look after them. And then when they leave the path of Islam we say black magic you've done black magic yourself by not giving them good tarbiyah this these are problems we need to

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you know we can't blame we like to blame other people than our than our own selves. So these are the real issues we need to tackle them at home if there are family problems why other family problems? what's going wrong? Am I guilty of neglecting the rights

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of my wife? Am I guilty of neglecting the help of my husband? Not that Okay, go to the chef and that's it Do I will do everything you do do as well. But you also take the means as Bob and do are both at the same time. No Tyrese is going to just make all your family problems disappear. Nothing no well he was going to make them disappear every time people for me Is there something to read family problems? No No there's nothing to read there's things to do

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that you read afterwards but there are things to do you have to do these things, then things are not just going to disappear like that. And this so this is family you know, husband wife this traveled a lot of conflict a lot of problems a lot of fights and argumentation. So they went to this one show and they said to him that you know we've got this problem and he spoke to the husband and the wife and and found out the problem and he realized what the problem is and give us some some worthy for some reciting something you know is there something to read or whatever you know give us some you know, they took some water you know, can you just blow on this water so we can drink the sheriff was

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trying to explain to them the look these are real issues that you need to tackle need to sort out these sit down discuss them you need to change your ways, no water blowing on it, whatever you pray is just going to solve your problems. But they wouldn't take that as you know as an answer. They kept on persisting and insisting and saying no we want you know give us some water you know blow on it read you know our problems will be solved the shattered Okay, is these guys that are listening. So let's go Shall we do so what he did was he gave them some water. He knew what the problem was. So he gave some water and said look, I've read some verses of the Quran and some had eaten them, etc.

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This you need to drink. I tell you the way you need to drink what happens you would you know the what the problem was he realized the root of the the cause of their dispute was that

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the husband used to be outside the house and he used to work as our husbands do normally outside. He used to come back stressed and you know he tired after a hard day's work from nine to five or nine to six job. He comes into the house and he's really tired. He needs somebody to look after him and somebody to you know, take the burden away to over from his head

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soon as he comes the wife saying Oh, but that thing's not done and that things don't burn and you didn't do this and relax you know, I'm just tired you know as soon as you go in the house and the wife starts nagging well this of course is gonna cause a problem that was the main problem and then he would retaliate and that's it fight argument until they go to sleep and it just continued and carried on so there's these people don't want realizing you know this problem. So the chef said, Okay, let's give you a watered down you know, class or you know, bottle of water said okay, the husband and wife or they say look, I've done some good blowing on this water I've read all sorts of

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stuff. You have to drink this water essentially the wife This is a very spiritual you know water now the way to drink this is that as soon as your husband comes inside the house, you have to take a glass and put in your mouth and you have to keep the water in your mouth for 10 minutes how many minutes 10 minutes take your mouth full Okay, in your in your mouth as soon when you hear the keys that he's come inside the house water

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if you're gonna net

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10 minutes he's also and he told him as well when you come as well when you see her once she takes water then you have to take water. So you go and take as well. Now she's angry after you do this. Nothing's happening. He said you have to do this for like three to four months. Every day as soon as he walks into the house straightaway water in your mouth. There's no no conflict after 24 months, things started you know calming down and they can share Mashallah you gave some very good water city I know I give you a very good water.

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Some of the shields they actually do that they just because people don't take no for an answer. I don't want to share history. This dobbies is somebody who's a writer. I'm not saying how long you know, there's a factor behind tawi amulets, whether it's allowed or not, you know, not everything is shared or not everything's allowed as a middle way. But we shouldn't over be be over reliant on these things. Our main means is do our asking a lot. I mean, who's going to who's going to solve our problems Allah I mean, the tower is itself there's nothing in it. It's really a law. So it is a law need a paper for the first paper of law we can ask a law with sincerity with our own words, it's

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enough. We don't really need that. At the end of the day, even though we'll leave remember, remember anything prescribed from the Sunnah if the messengers of Allah Hardison said such and such read this after this prayer without doubt we do that other than that those things that are based on experience I'm not saying it's better or anything like that, but we must not be you know, we must not give it too much importance because these things at the end of the day who is the one who is going to change a law if you ask a lower law you know, please you know this particular problem of mine please alleviate this you know difficulty from me I can remove that Allah doesn't need you to read

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something you to read something 346 times you know, after further on for 32 times after another man make sure that it's one tonight and one here and one there that is needed over that does not need that as a loss okay? Only if you read 346 that if you do 345 is not going to work. So ultimately, it's a law and we rely upon law and we have to deal with these problems. So going back to

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this so this is martial law times redefined by I'm gonna try to conclude I'm going to title no but this Mashallah, the way we deal with people with Muslims around us as well. We, you see, basically the whole loss or the summary of

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Marsha is the following Hadith and Muslim woman Solomon and Muslim Muna Melissa Lee, this is the essence This is the hula or the summary of, of acting upon the outcome of Islam on more Arusha. I still need to talk about Ramadan. By the way, I'm coming to Muhammad, I'm going to talk about 10 minutes in one minute, by the way. So

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that's the essence of martial law. We don't do anything we don't say anything that harms anybody else. That's the who knows. Anyone in this Hadith, Muslim moon, have you mentioned that earlier might explain that this is because they used to, you know, they used to be Muslims, they're Muslims, non Muslims, even animals. We don't say anything. We don't do anything that harms any creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala. That's the whole summary. Even when we go when we worship Allah, we go

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to the house of Allah, we make my wife, we want to kiss the black stone. We must not harm someone. If we are trying to kiss the black stone and we're pushing people will actually come back with more sin than any good, it's sinful. That's why these rules are in place the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he used to wake up at night to offer Salatu tahajjud and pm will lay the headed states calmer away than he used to wake up extremely silently on Easter.

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tiptoes slowly so that his wife, Chateau de La Hoya and her or whoever the she was, was not harmed. Imagine the messenger sallallahu it wasn't considering the sleep of his family. He's worshipping Allah not like all the you know, print out and bring the whole house down. Oh, you doing good do it. Don't disturb other people maybe tell them the look is good if you wake up at the edge, but this is how the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was.

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So even doing good deeds, whatever we do, we should make sure brothers and sisters that we do not say anything, or we do not do anything that harms any one of the creation of a law specially when we are in the eyes of the non Muslims. We are prophetic mirrors. We are the ambassadors of Islam and ambassadors on behalf of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Unfortunately we act people when they see as these non Muslims they see us they will not try to look at us. This is a an AMA and Abdullah and Lucifer, whatever. These are Muslims, that's how Muslims behave. If we come to the masjid and park our cars any way in any way and in any manner that we want and block all the

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entrances and that is there is a crime. The older man said that if we you harm someone and worship of law, it's actually more sinful for person comes for tarawih Sala and is blocking someone's entrance. Once in Leicester somebody blocked an ambulance entrance. And the guy was in the first step of the masjid

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and they had to announce in the masjid and he was blocking an ambulance entrance is a harm you've committed a sin rather you should have stayed at home. The routing is you stay at home and pray by itself. A person who did not offer a Salah with Gemma are in congregation in the masjid is far less guilty of a sin than the one who comes in performs the Salah with geomar but harm someone on the way by the way he drives his car or the by the way he's parking his car or the by the whatever he does. It's it's sinful activity. You should stay at home and this is I'm actually not saying this from my pocket. This is based on the Hadith. I have evidence for this. The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam sending one Hadi man aka lemonhead he sugarcoating it. Robin mo Saldana man in another rewire man Allah Houma la basura for the Accra Burnham, Solana Walia defeat at the one who eats onion and garlic and eats distasteful things. Let him forget coming to the masjid let him not even get close to the masjid and let him sit at home you should sit at home. Imagine this is what the messenger sallallahu Sallam saying do not come to the masjid. If you've eaten or consumed something that has an offensive smell to it and people around you will be harmed. Imagine if you know you Ramadan, what happens we eat, especially people living close to the masjid. We quickly do if for whatever half a

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semester in the mouth and a pastry and of whatever, the pastry whatever and quickly half in the morning Allahu Akbar, and the worst crime and I call this a crime a person can do is have a cigarette and come into the masjid smoke, stunning oscillometric quick food drugs. We just offer First of all, whether it's allowed or not, that's another question. But even if you want to smoke then at least you've waited all day long after your mother abandoned go outside when you go home. You can have it on your way, a few drugs into the masjid and you're offering Salah next to someone who will be harmed, it's a crime. Rather, if you prayed Muslim on the road or at home, you would be

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less guilty of a sin less guilty seriously. You should not come to the masjid because you're doing more sin than good by coming into the MST than harming someone. And I've mentioned this on many occasions, I actually had to move away in negative Salah in Ramadan with somebody who had just had a cigarette and was standing next to me and you can imagine if you stand next to someone who's just smoked, how it's difficult for you use it's actually worse for the other person next to you passive smoking is you know, I just broke my I just you know came out of my salon. It was in the first car and the guy came next to me and I couldn't it was coffee is broken. And I went to the next stuff and

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I started again. Somebody asked me is this allowed? It's allowed? What can you do? You know you can struggle throughout your three rakatan Naga prayer. So all these things we must ensure we are ambassadors for Islam, the way we drive our cars, the way we behave outside the way we walk, the way we talk, the way we go into the shops the way we deal with people. We should even non Muslim they should realize that these are angels who've been descended from the heavens, Mr. Mohammed Abu Hassan O'Shea Burnie radi Allahu anhu one of the greatest imams of this ummah, the students of Lima Abu hanifa are the Allahu anhu. May Allah be pleased with him Mohammed who has been a great Imam who

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used to live in a locality. In his locality next door to him there was a Jewish person, a Jew, who used to live this Jupiter's house on sale. Right. He put his house on sale and the price was double. Somebody came into

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Honey, she said, this is the prices, why is your house double price? He said there's two prices for this house one price for the house. And the other price is living next door to Mr. Mohammed don't have a buddy.

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This is a Jew giving testimony that if we should be living in an area community locality where even the non Muslims, they come and tell us what do you need, and you know, you live in this community, this locality. You know, there's so much good by you being in this in this community. But unfortunately, we live in a time where it's the opposite. They can't see the back of our faces, if they want us to go quickly. Because the way we do things the way we act, our conduct, you know, to the point that even the noise, the message of sort of local police, there's so much of our job, the

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the neighbor,

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there are rights of the neighbor, we should ensure at night when we're sleeping, do we know we wake up in Ramadan, we're waking up, but then we're waking up.

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If we wake up and make a lot of noise, and we're thinking and handloading spinoffs who and we were disturbing the sleep, we've actually committed a sin by waking of a soul is better than we slept through it and we missed a sinner but we didn't commit to harm. We can't harm them. The non Muslims, we come for taraweeh Sala, we can't harm people around us, the way we drive causes Well, we must drive cars in a way that Islam wants us to do this, there are rules of driving a car as well. There are rules, and I've mentioned this a few times before as well. If you want to know the rule of driving a car, how would you drive a car? There's only one simple

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one simple way of us understanding this is that what are the rules of driving a car? If somebody asks you what was what was the facts behind driving a car?

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You know, you want to know how to drive a car. You want to know?

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He imagined imagine for one moment, if the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was driving the car, how would you drive a car? There were no cars in that time. But imagine the messengers of Allah what is hidden behind this behind the wheel steering wheel? Just imagine for one moment, how would you drive a car? How would you drive a car? how calm and composed would he be? I know it's London and I know the traffic and I know you can get really stressed out and I can imagine I mean you know, if you come to less states easier, definitely. But still we need to try to be you know, careful in the way we drive our causes.

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And then the way we park our cars and and so this is the last on the summary about Marsha, we don't do anything. We don't say anything that would harm anyone from the creation of a last minute and that's more Asha and it's just like a synopsis of the whole so I've looked at Marsha Marsha is a very lengthy topic will need hours and hours and likewise more ominous but I'm tired so I'm not going to go into more I'm alert. inshallah maybe some other time when I come here, maybe we can talk about more amateur financial dealings, business dealings, how you are as an employer, how you are as an employee, how we should not deceive people, deception and fraud in our business major Hold on

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just two minutes on this because you know, maybe some people might or might not be alive by then Allah knows best. Allah, the longest verse in the Quran at Medina, the longest verse that Allah has mentioned in the Quran, the longest verse, not about Salah or about Hajj, not about Amara not about wearing the hats not wearing Juba, the longest verse in the Quran. Here you are Latina woman who is

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a Muslim and always we believe when you take a loan from someone, make sure you write it down. Loan transactions even a penny that we owe someone or we go to a law will have to pay back on the Day of Judgment. The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Hadees he asked the companions at the Muna manual Muslim Jr. who a bankrupt person is the Sahara said, according to us the bankrupt is the one mela dinar Hola Hola. dyrham the one who doesn't have money said no. The bankrupt is the one who comes on the Day of Judgment with all the good deeds. But Baba shettima has our Kalamata hakoda he has landed someone hates someone he consumed someone's wealth unlawfully all his good deeds will be

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given to pay back these people. Even a penny imagine we cannot brothers and sisters seriously, leave this world we must never ever be in a state where we are leaving this world and we owe a person even a penny. If someone leaves this world, it's very dangerous, even a penny. Even a penny that we borrowed. We must pay back Islam is very strict when it comes to more armella financial transactions to the point that actually taking a loan is actually not even recommended. We should only take a loan when there's extreme need. It's actually colorful Ola and mcru dislike to take a loan unless there's a genuine need and the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to make dua holders secure

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refuge from malaria. But a part of our sadhana derives from being overcome with, you know, debts and loans. We shouldn't take loans and if we do

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Remember, if we leave this world and we haven't paid people the money then Allah only Allah knows what the outcome will be. Yeah, you already know. koulamallah combiner can build bottom. So the way we do our business you know, the one of the last sewers and our end with this in the last juice of the Quran Surah Al Motta 15. While Alinea toffee phenol in a doctor or a nurse Yes, tofu Luma was a new one Yasser Allah Buddha.

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Was that surah talking about?

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We hear it in Sinatra, we are in the region, some of them praise. What is a pseudo talking about about wearing the long hats? No. What are you talking about? Loyola Muto. Fifi, distraction be to those who commit the major sin of the thief? What is the thief? The surah is most of the people of the thief inheritor of the fool foon moto 15 how to jump destruction be to the people of the thief what is the thief Allah tells us then what is the truth Allah

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Allah knows he stole food those people when they take through measurement and weight then they yes though food when it's their time to take from people through measurement and weight you're buying something you taking something through measurement and weight yes though food is the Father What is different means making sure every grain and every ounce every drop you get it receive it they just stole food and they you know the word is still food is like sucking every little bit exactly the the you know the the meter the arrow exactly to the top bit space left you affiliate of the sugar or the or the whatever it is the rice when Is there time to take yes tofu loom was a new soon but when Is

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there time to give others through measurement and Wait, you're soon they give a bit less? Allah says Allah you know like a nama bro soon Don't these people recognize that there'll be resurrected doughnuts we've already recognized that we allow you

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to luminol them for a big day. Yo, Maya Pomona Surah Al Ameen on the day, where everybody the whole of humanity will have to stand in the presence of Allah and give answer to every action of this.

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These verses are scary. Allah you don't know what I can do mineralium yo yo como nasolabial alameen dot feaf How many of us are careful in how we buy and how we sell? There's a hadith in Soren sunan of female materiality which we just read a few days ago, messenger sallallahu Sallam said there are certain people that Allah does not even look at them. Allah will not even look at them with mercy on the day of judgment and one of those people is moon fables silly Arthur who Bill holofil the one who sells his items that his goods and his commodities with false testimony or with false oath will holofil kirlyam what law his brothers like this what law it's like this only for you. I bought it

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for five pounds only for you six. How are you lying?

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There's a hadith in this unit of Hebrew merger with a messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said remember

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maybe even something like I can't remember the Arabic words. Islam you but you know who someone who sold a good and knew that it had a defect in it and did not disclose that defect will remain in the market in the anger in the Wrath of Allah until he does not go and you know, tell that person to take the thing back. Fraud deception. MANOVA Shana felice, Amina, the one who cheats is not from us, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, is

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the sign of a hypocrite. When you have difficulty when you speak your lie with a with a two minute Hannah with Allah for when you make a promise you break that promise when you when you meet a trustworthy person you breach that trust. These are all things to do with nothing but Islam that Islam. Unfortunately brothers, we live in a time where you know as I started going back to what I started my talk with, we have our own preconceived idea of what Islam is for some people it's nothing but the speed and somehow you know, just long for some people is just dressing like a Muslim some people is just, you know, Ramadan and so on. And if thought and that's it. It's this is this is

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not only Islam, Islam is a comprehensive way of life. From the moment we wake up to the moment we go to Steve from the moment we're barely mature, till the time we go, we die and we pass away and we meet Allah. Whatever we do, there are rules of Islam we should be a Muslim, not just in the masjid, but we should be a Muslim a believer at home, whether in the masjid whether on the road, whether driving a car with at the factory, whether the shop, as an employer, Muslim, as an employee, Muslim, as a husband, Muslim, as a wife, Muslim, as a son, Muslim, as a daughter, Muslim, as a father, mother, whoever we may be, whatever position we may be in, we should be Muslim and the teachings of

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Islam should be

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Our lives and with this inshallah and I pray to our last panel to Allah that He gave us the grant us the trophy and the ability to practice on some of the things that was said today inshallah. And may Allah subhanaw taala. Give make us all good Muslims. May Allah give us the ability to be good Muslims in our mo Arusha and Omar Ahmed in our Social Affairs, how we deal with people it's not it's not difficult, but it's not it's it's it's not impossible. Sorry. It's difficult, it's not impossible as well. Okay, it's, you just need a bit of concentration, we just need to really, how simple and for second koblin to hassle.

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We need to do self recognition, we need to think about how our lives are running and where we're heading to. We just have to have this conscious all the time, every time every day who we talk to someone for a moment, even when something comes out from our mouth. Remember chef Irani, Allahu Akbar one of the 40 moms. When somebody used to come and speak to him he would never answer. Somebody used to come speak to us to look down. And then after 30 seconds he would speak somebody asked him Oh, man, why do you do that? What is it take you like half a minute to talk and respond? He said he's under the height of intelligence Columbia official. Dr.

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Phil calamy. Oh, he's so good. I think for a moment whether it's better for me to talk or not talk.

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What is better for me to speak or remain silent? When can a human builder who will human hopefully Apple Hayden, Olia Smith,

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believes in a law and the final day let him say that which is good or let him remain quiet. So even before we speak with anyone, it's just it's a matter of a few days, our life, we just have to be very careful. And if we do make a mistake straightaway go and ask forgiveness. No problem, inshallah. That person will forgive you. There's nobody that cruel in this world who doesn't forgive you, but we need to take initiative, we have to ask forgiveness. It's it's very easy to ask for forgiveness in this world than to pay with our good actions in the next life. You may need to be we may have to be humble. Okay, but it's easy compared to what's going to happen in ARCA. So inshallah

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