Channel: Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari
shall love to continue with the program. We are inviting our honorable scholar of steam, medical City Hospital along Tyler, a brief introduction. The shape is a student of the Islamic sciences. And he has studied in a number of countries including the United Kingdom, Pakistan, as well as Syria. And he has formal authorizations in the disciplines of the Islamic sciences, including fit. That's why we call him the one who gives legal verdicts. And he continues to inspire the youth through his courses, as well as his speeches. He's attended the IRS, as well as a number of youth trivia events that took place in the past here at the Islamic foundation of Toronto. It's been a few years, but we
are very pleased that he is back in Toronto, even though it's very short while and you can visit his website where all his work is there. He is also also authored some of the books in the Islamic sciences. And the website is dell.com. He also has a Twitter and Facebook account, and you can follow Him and be his fan on his social media pages. So with this brief introduction, we request or our worship was to Mohammed
to come forward and deliver a speech on the topic of the pure hearted,
fusino is the
last Sunday, last Sunday,
he was having his father
alone I found out with him
need a lot of help.
Especially the brothers and sisters.
First of all, I would like to thank
committee, organization volunteers for arranging this very important program. inviting all of us today, our last panel God accept everyone's efforts. It's an honor and privilege to be here with you that shut us up
with a very close dear friend of mine, that I
attended the utopia conferences which are taking place actually quite a few of them around 2007 2008 910 I think about four years, five years, the past few years, I haven't attended them
Mashallah masala Foundation has been known for we can call them the pioneers in arranging these youth programs. Many, many years, I don't know, what 1510 years at
conference you had last year.
Except the evidence of this foundation is legit this organization, the volunteers, the hard work done by shall use by his team, data reward, also the system's no program takes place without ethics and volunteering of the systems. Now, everyone, except for the soil, a very important topic that we have today. And I was very happy to see this very important.
Subject being discussed. I am not, as you may know, from my accent, not from Canada. I am from the United Kingdom, and from England, but I know I have been following what's happening here and actually the same in our country. We are going through the same things in terms of the curriculum, that sex education. And so the same things are in the UK as well. We just had an election and some of these things were actually discussed by the Muslim communities. So this this topic is a very important topic.
I want to make my topic or my title, as mentioned, is the pure heart, I want to talk about the heart. I want to talk about modesty bashfulness. To an extent, I will also talk about some important responsibilities for the elegance. And also for the youth, how the elders and the youth, the parents, and the younger generation can work together. I also want to talk about how at home, at our homes, we need to have an Islamic environment, and also briefly maybe touch upon in terms of the curriculum and the schools. But there's a big responsibility
alongside the efforts that we make in terms of what we want our children to study. And sometimes what happens is that our focus, rightly so Muslims are standing up our focus, sometimes it's only and solely on
the curriculum, or what's the bill that's being passed? What what are we doing about our responsibility at home as parents, what are we doing at home, how we are bringing our children so I want to talk about all of this religions and connected with each other, the pure hearted Muslim or Muslim Islam places a lot of importance, a great deal of significance, importance on possessing, having a heart that is pure in the Arabic language heart is known as
the Quran says to Pharaoh,
and been studied on the New Testament, nothing will benefit, no, well, no children, nothing will benefit. And the next slide, this is
the thing that will really benefit someone is a heart that is pure study, one study is found not pure. Another word for pure is by
pure heart, that if someone meets a woman who meets a love, a man who makes a vow with this key, some pure heart, I want to define this. But just to mention start off with this, if this doesn't apply, then that will benefit a believer in his grave in green in the next life. The message
he was sending was once asked
a University of Bonn,
who is the best of people who is the best of human beings, is a cool Luma
Kenobi, so to be the Son, every person that is truthful in their tongue, and their heart is.
So the companion blog.
Truthfully, we know what that is, for what is hard to be.
the most beloved or the most righteous person who has these two qualities, truthful tongue and heart is to me, this is a sound honey. So the companion said,
What is this?
Listen to the answer of the messenger.
He said, You know who is the one who has hard to move? What is that? He said? The
law is Murphy
has this hard to to notice?
Is that hard to just be unhappy?
It is full of God consciousness, full of a lot of consciousness, always connected to Allah, who is in the heart, nothing beats key pill shiny, silky clean up. There is no, there is no sin.
There's no bad thoughts in the heart. It's kind of the mind and the brain and the heart. And that's another topic. There is no synonyms. There is no transgression it there is no enmities, there is no envy jealousy, clean hearted person.
Sometimes people keen hearted people, if they will take an oath allowing me to happen, we might
Investors is just an innocent person, not short of innocent. Those are the ones sometimes the most beloved toolbar, the clean hearted people, sometimes we think this guy's not sharp,
clean, as well. Another topic where numbers mentioned that the man was a person of gentlemen. And when he was asked what he was doing, he said, he sleeps at night and he has no enmity nothing negative towards anybody. So anyway, 10 minutes of the heart, what is this telling us of the heart, it's a pure heart. It's a key heart. And it's not it's connected, the mind is to be the force of pure, the desires of the information of pure
the thoughts, the reflections, the pondering,
everything is pure, the person is pure, inside, and that reflects that person's external reflects that person's outside. Purity inside reflects purity outside. And this is the same with today's topic is modesty. modesty is actually reflected by the pure heart. So when someone has a pure key, internal sound, internal key heart, then that reflects on the external, that person would have modesty. modesty starts from the inside. And what is the is not just covering, it's not just a job. It's not just an improv. It's not just wearing a scarf. It's not just wearing a hat. It's not just it is guys. But more than that, modesty
is about how a person has difficulty, calmness, composure, how a person thinks how a person talks, the Messenger of Allah, it was certain in how you would converse with people softly spoken of the modal verb the lower angle was bashful by nature, a handsome man, softly spoken, never raised his voice. This is what you call modesty. We sometimes misunderstand what modesty is, a husband who speaks softly to his wife, that's a modest husband, a wife who doesn't like us, speaks softly, a man or a woman or modesty, doesn't swear, doesn't stand it does not have a parking argument outside your column is dignity and respect. This is where you put higher the way a person eats, does I came
across a hadith recently the messenger sallallahu wasallam. he disliked a person when someone was eating collectively to take two days in their plate. When you're eating alone, no problem. Why? Because when we're eating together, it's disrespectful to sort of be extra greedy, like sometimes pizzas are coming in over students. You know, you've already each one
of your pages that are finished. This goes against higher finished your one piece of you don't show greediness calmness, what are Sakina politeness gentleness, the way a person walks case is low, not just restful gazes, but just generally the messengers of Allah He already was it was seldom when he would walk, he would not just
look at men, he would not look up,
He would walk and so he is descended from a hill. That's how the measure of
walk does count calmness, composure. There's respect in the way we eat, the way we consume food. That's why the rmse and modesty which is the external manifestation of a pure heart, what is the definition? The definition of that is you stay away from systems without a doubt.
The revelation is that it's an it's an attribute. It's a character trait or characteristic. It's a hole. It's a trait. It's a quality. It's an attribute that prevents a person from committing a sin and enables a person to do good actions. But along with that, it also relates to a person avoiding that which is considered to be inappropriate in society. Some things might not be unlawful or inappropriate.
In the books of it is known as
you might think. We can't even do them.
You know, the example
given by the bottom line the books, things like someone just standing, or walking and eating, and you know, like, the way that you're walking on the streets and eating, that's also
i'm just giving an example, the classical books in the olden times, the teachers don't have to do when they saw the students that are walking on the streets in Egypt, that would ban them from studying for a week, you can't go and correct your love and your character.
It's going into your model, we live in a time yourself. The problem is weather systems we live We live in a time, when we are desensitized, we have moved far away from the traditional values of the traditional culture, even in the West, the non Muslims in the West, even their culture.
Look back for 40 5060 years ago, there was modesty. There was higher, there was bashfulness. People, you know, part of modesty. And it's not just one this is not like I said, it's not covering, it's not just covering, covering, it is not just covering, because part of modesty, which is the external manifestation of your heart is also in pregnancy. So there's nobody, it's actually makuu disliked, to be naked, alone, in one's bedroom. Unless
they say when you scholars explain how the various schools, when someone's changing clothes, there's a need when you're taking a bath or a shower. There's a need for intimacy between spouses, there's a need. But other than that, it's not a good idea to just be naked. And classically, traditionally, people will even when there was a need. I remember my grandfather
He would go into the bathroom with his you know, they have that monkey.
Like he would take his bandwidth that water is when he was old, no way. But I'm going to expose myself when he doesn't believe
that's what they were traditional values, people very careful. That's why I have these things that have modesty before a law. This is modesty before. It's not just about who sees me and a woman's being seen by it's about that. But it's more than that. It's beyond that.
So this modesty is an external application of purity, the purity, which is the purity of the heart. Like I said, the word binding is mentioned as a hobby for the messenger. So
in our human nature.
Indeed, Allah is pure, he does not accept anything except the pure,
pure that's why the Quran says
pure men are for pure women. impure, men are impure women.
A man is impure in his heart, and he wants a pure wife.
if you want to be your wife, full of chastity, full of bachelors, and full of modesty, and that's the beauty of a woman.
Again, you know, our, the way we consider things have turned upside down. Because we're living in a culture society. A woman who is someone who's outgoing, courageous, honest, talking, shouting, screaming, confident, good qualities to an extent.
We think that person has some good qualities, but the one was looking down not talking too much. I'm syndrome.
A good character.
Have no one shared once from the Gulf somewhere, that there were two two sisters. And one of them needs to talk all the time. The other one has to like stay quiet.
So somebody said, you know, one of the sisters seems very intelligent. He said, No, no, no, you could understand that. He said, the one who's quiet is the more intelligent one. Because in our culture, the one who talks too much is a sign of
like, you know, your brain. Okay, just talking, talking, talking. The one who's calm thinks your brain isn't functioning. We say the one talks more is more intelligent. So calmness
is also part of purity of the heart. So we will
In a society where things have turned have changed. So anyway, higher is all of this before us to handle data, it's about wisdom. It's about talking with wisdom. It's about bashfulness, the Messenger of subtle love.
ashamed to hire
more bashful than a virgin woman in her chamber.
On the first night of marriage, the woman No, we won't even understand that because a woman in a first marriage nowadays no longer
has that time.
Even the example we want to understand, because we live in a society that
is probably already selected in order to protect us. But, you know, that's why, you know, in the books have they discussed ruling? When he went when he goes to ask them the father goes to seek permission from his daughter? That's such a such a proposal like, Okay, give us permission now. I'm going to conduct your marriage.
So if she says,
that's a yes. Because a woman will not say
I want to get married.
That's the society nowadays gonna say no.
Smiling is not an indication, and I'm going to teach them about marriage. Take explicit permission, because times have changed. I'm just going back to a real traditional pure society was very different in people's minds. They awakens their desires, they
try to do the whole sort of the way the thinking process in every part of the world, traditionally, in the Arab world, subcontinent, North Africa, talk to people, traditionally, to places like that, traditionally,
those traditional values. So the messenger, sallAllahu, Alayhi, wa sallam, he was more bashful
when someone would talk to go down and talk.
You would be you'd be like, modest, not what I'm saying. Not saying here that you sort of become too shy on your economy Do you want to do the messengers of a lower lead army, he was the head of the Indian Army, he's the head of the Muslim prayer. He, he did so much service despite being so passionate by nature. So it is no contradiction. There could be someone who can do a lot of work very intelligent, very confident as well. But with bashfulness for a woman, the beauty of a woman and a man
It enhances the beauty of a woman.
I know many brothers who say the one wife was like, was bashful.
I don't know different people have different tastes.
It enhances the beauty.
It's not just about I'm trying to complete the picture. It's not just about coloring. It's about the way the words the language used is the dignity the words use, we use slang language today,
the voice being raised or not for men and women.
So, this is higher. And this has been mentioned you must have heard today throughout the course of the day, many have been from the messenger. So
he said that the higher higher and
higher is nothing but
once somebody was the message
passed by a man and he was rebuking another person saying
you're too sharp. Come on.
You know, we just want you to shine. So the messages of love it seems to be really laying the borders.
Because higher and modesty and fashioners is part of faith. It's thought of imminent, imminent knowledge of the company, one of the great companies scholars, he thinks that there's two types of hire, one is created and other
This is what he says that you don't good character.
He says some people are born with good character. They are
different people, different sub languages have an intelligence. So they have an alien disregard and others have to work for it. Some people are just born calm, cool, collected, gentle, like in England received cooler the cucumber.
And some people are just by nature, rage with anger.
But that's the challenge of the person who's calm collected the challenges in another area. Everybody has different tastes and different challenges. So hire some people.
He says this is one of the greatest,
greatest miracle that alone can give anyone and others acquire it and actually the ones who acquired the reward is greater because they went through a struggle they went through
the opposite of higher is what
either would fail or shamelessness. So in Arabic we say
meaning of the messenger some of
the talk about this fascia, the messenger sort of
Chamonix Lumia, suburban, he never used to slander.
He never used to somehow fit a slot in a race to get in the market. There is no narration when it's reported that the messenger of a loss of a lot more and even send them yelled.
one of my teachers was once mentioning that from he related from his teacher
that you want separate two students that have been married for 55 years, five, five years, in 55 years of marriage have never raised my voice and my wife
imagined never raise again domestic abuse and violence and I'm not saying also that domestic violence is only for men happens for women as well. I know that many cases
because sometimes sisters you know,
brothers as well. Sometimes subsistence I think that if we do it within minutes, okay, you know, men can get away with it.
But this in this example, he said I never raised my voice. This is foiling the message of
is fashion, luminous shamelessness,
shamelessness, our society is filled with chooses. And it said, Some of it's our own fault. And some of it's not our fault. We live in this 14th century, okay? It's not our fault. We live in the West, maybe partially.
But we've chosen to live in a society where you walk down the road.
The city has billboards, internet, phones, but we can do a lot. A lot is in our control. A lot is in our capability capacity. We can complain all day long. And sorry for being frank about the curriculum about sex education, we don't do anything at home. Because it's higher this modesty, purity of the heart, brothers and sisters starts at home, you know, from when you know when not when your child is six, not when your child has five, challenges for many challenges. Three, not when your child is too many challenges one out when the wife is pregnant before that's,
that's when it starts that we need to work. We need to work on that.
Before you get married, choose where you will plan to seed. In other words, before you get married, Don't be selfish. As a man or a woman. Don't think about yourself, what kind of wife I want. What kind of husband Think about your future children. What kind of Mother I want for my children.
Is this man fixed enough to be the father of my future children, the rights of your children begin before your own marriage.
Because you're choosing the father, you're choosing the mother. And then it starts the thought of campaigning about the curriculum, about sex education, about the modesty about the good upbringing starts from then from marriage. How
how Juniper when the wife what type of food you eat, the headache stays in
head it goes on to mention kulu muffin out of the
Open eaters eat food, not just
eat your food, you eat pure, you yourself will become your hearts. Your children will become what is pure food. You know what Pure Food is. everything related to police rolls up to the actual act of soldier to the way in which the food was prepared. Who quoted
a wife, a mother or a husband in Mexico is cooking. While making the sea half of our food is being cooked.
Food is being cooked. The half the time to
cook food was reciting one to three Jews of the Quran. Baraka and new blessings and light is in the food. That food you eat, your children will be pure. And you go and eat KFC or
you go and eat whatever whatever. Folks, it's not at all you want to go down that road or debate who cooks it to the care of the cook without concerned about who's cooking or the swearing when the cooking
when that has an impact you are what you eat. purity in the home from the food that we eat, eat healthy food. You know this takeaway restaurants and things like that. Sorry, I know some people might have a business and
another one at home your business give you lots and lots and lots of Baraka. But we should not have a habit of eating too much outside junk food. junk food brings junk mindless
junk foods. Pure Food brings pure thoughts pure mind
how and the time of cooking food, food while watching Bollywood.
Your childhood the food becomes a man hungry grows up.
And if she's really listening to a shave, Coco, she's got some machines or whatever. And she's listening about a companion potty shot of your loved one which is listening to that photo, give it to your daughter grow up like
when she's breastfeeding. Again. That's the problem. A lot of people don't want to breastfeed today. A great great, great duty of another.
It's a brand breastfeeding is an amazing way.
When you breastfeed or you're watching bollywood,
or Hollywood or Hollywood, there's Hollywood is Bollywood and in Bangladesh is Dollywood in Pakistan's Bollywood
if we're watching that, that's how our children grow.
While the mother is pregnant, read the books. What we want the mothers to think has an impact and this is not just islamically there's research done on it. What you eat has an impact on your child what do you think that's why classic in olden times some of the kings and the soul found that amusing or needs to do when their wife became pregnant for nine months is to take away some lush rivers and good theory so they just relax. While you could do that,
for nine months, see greenery just relax no tension. During pregnancy, there's no tension that child grows up with good if you're fighting as a husband and wife or the child is in the stomach, that child is gonna come out as a fighting child. But how automatically battle
put the Quran
when when a woman is pregnant kita
his wife's galaxy that was a woman is pregnant at that time specifically to avoid sins and anything distasteful or anything despite all of this contributes to the healthy society at home pure homes. And then when children are born
again, we don't we desensitize we don't realize
Mother Father daughter son born watching Bollywood. How is that even possible? Seriously, I don't get it
from like your own sister brothers, like, you know, bollywood, I don't want Bollywood is, everyone knows what it was. I don't know how bad it is, whatever now or whatever, but it must be like really, you know, dancing all these kind of things going on.
Together. How do you how do you like watch that? See nudity on the screen and then like
it's just not possible for anybody with a sound nature.
So these movies at home, we do that at home, and then we go to school. And now we're going to complain about
the fact that we can do a lot to bring up children in such a way that they'll be you even means anything negative, they will be the first ones to stand up. This is impurity, you didn't grow up pure
this lewdness or immorality or shame.
That's why the honey messages are
if you lose hyah, if you use modesty has two ways of the two meanings of the 21st mesh.
If you lose higher than you will do whatever you want, you will not care.
If you lose modesty, you won't do anything because then nature becomes distorted. Now what protectors are mean all of
the nature that comes fincar are salema
sound disposition, when that becomes the greatest calamity is when the sound disposition is distorted? When right look strong, round seems right? How about that?
That's a very bad thing to be.
When things just doesn't do anything for us or to us.
They'll protect us. I mean, that's what the messages are about. When you lose modesty,
you will do whatever you want in another having
a shame. No.
Shame shamelessness is never found in anything except it.
It makes it look ugly. and higher is not found in anything except that it has
many examples and I'm going to just mention one or two and then we'll talk about some really important things just for five points in conclusion, to do some like real issues.
The Companions to come in so many examples before so usually Another good thing to do at home we need to take practical lessons. These programs are practical lessons.
Have I have any brothers or sisters take time out in busy lives I know connectivity at least once a week if not more.
At home together as a family. Read a book the biographies the CEO of the messenger Salah love it we send them completable concealer, tell one of your children, you read give them many times,
sit together collectively eat together,
eat together and then read, read the biographies of happy young female companions of the message of some of
the main companions have grown to love
a pure wives of the message of some of the mothers of the believers, each one of them is role modeling for you notice each one of the main companions role model for your sentence for our sentence reading from
many, many examples
a loved one who was known.
The most higher
and dimensional operation was 160. I showed that he was sitting on his you know clothing was you know his land was exposed. A worker on 11 rented to permission he was granted permission he came and sat down a message of some of my friends that have remained
Then I'll clean up the old one. Again he gave permission he carried on he was
and then post monkey message.
After they were left, he was asked, why did you change your position?
He said, should I not be shy and have higher from the one whom ages.
He is bashful by nature disorder tells us that sometimes we need to, we need to consider the feelings of others. Sometimes someone's more vegetables than we should try to be careful of not doing things which will, you know, sort of be to their dislike, just taste over the long run, who also example of higher and modesty.
I mentioned this later, he wants he said,
I had a problem with having pre ejaculation fluid, muddy.
The men have this medical problem. And it's not like a major problem. It's quite common.
I want you to know, do I have to wash it off?
Is it obligatory? Yes.
I was ashamed of asking a messenger instead of a coup de Lima.
He, because his daughter was in my marriage.
Our talk about his parents talking to the children in the next section.
So he said,
I said to my friend, Ben without you go and ask on my behalf, I can't ask him because I'm married to his daughter. Because my father in law, I've got a problem with this is passion of that nature.
he says that he wants
he said oh people
have modesty higher from Allah for one liter cpld by him use hands is my possession is my life in
football when I go to the washroom bathroom actually cover really those times the washroom bathrooms are different.
I cover myself with my cover,
only exposed that much which is necessary is to hear and women around me I saw a gentleman after modesty before my Lord will last.
You know when
the house that I live in, my husband passed away.
And then my father passed away he was very open.
So when I used to go the graves workshop spy I used to like
to pass away. So I knew my father and my mother to be too careful about my hair being exposed. It's in my own house.
for the loved one who passed away and he was very, I never used to enter that place because he was really exposing him in my head
just out of high up before on
passes away and left this world of quantum next world but it's just an absolute pinnacle.
You know the famous story many of you have heard Mousavi
Mousavi Steve Martin.
Long story short, you know, when he was fleeing from Pharaoh, and the people because you know,
he punched someone in the guy died and he left Miss of Egypt.
He was going through
what am now what?
When he arrived at the water of Midian
which he died at home.
Yes. He found a group of people watering the animals
that regard, and from away from that group.
He found two women.
They were like waiting on the side.
For those men one that gentleman
Dig into the system Yuko
But they didn't. And they were not system that is going to barge in and you know, push them manually,
like some suddenly do. Kiss a black stone
is another story. Rather than a reward for kissing a black stone, we come with all the things for number one army whether men or women pushing or shoving. And then men and women are like that. Anyway. So what should have been?
Done? He saw these two systems. He said,
What's wrong system is anything okay? Call it
We are able to water our animals until these shepherds don't go for Abu Dhabi. We don't have no mini grant to help us how far is an old man he can't leave the house
for sacado to service upon me. If I'm sorry for assistance, sometimes we should help to see someone in need.
Did the job he filled it for them awards he was a well actually. And actually, the officer who mentioned his wording that they we know what they did is to be very stingy. So when they used to finish watering is massive rock on top of the world. Nobody comes in takes 10 people to lift that rock. How do people tend
to have that energy?
login without spending a lot of power.
Afterwards they went home.
This is in between the versus
condition exactly which part is the Quran which parts of the country. They went home. The father has
that unusual usually you come back home early, like what happened. Normally you come late because very difficult. So they told him the whole story. So then they found a father who was a father who have different opinions. But many say it was a prophet of Allah shrine with some categorical but most likely.
So he sent one of them
to go in
for a job. And
afterwards, one of the daughters came, one of them came to me she is
the way she came in a modest way.
And for this quote, he wants to reward you for the help you gave us. Then he went
And then afterwards, then sure if it was him disappoint him. No, the daughter actually said to the Father, that when he came home, oh, my father,
your own? We don't have any. We don't have any brothers. There's no man in the house. Why don't we just employ him in a higher man is
the best person to employ you is the one who has two qualities. Number one, muscle man, powerful. How did they know that? Because you lifted that rock
which was lifted by 10 people. And then the second quality. He said to me is trust worthy. You know how they knew about that? Because the way he dealt with them. He wasn't saying
In the name of Islam No. Which would have been a
real modesty that attracts people
assisted attractive by monasteries.
and you know, the most common teachings they explain that, you know, when they'll go into his house, you know what, who's sufficiently sensitive to her? Don't look ahead.
I don't want to walk behind you because you have to follow you. I don't know where your house is.
Tell me from the back. Right, left. Next
time we can develop or just follow.
And sometimes we need to give directions like he has to be just like I can't hear him.
Probably, then some commentators say that he told her to pick up pebbles and throw like, pick one this way. Pick another one this way
he would did not put one gaze on her.
And that affected
and you know, when she said, Oh, my father
as an employee
it was actually an indication that you know, what, what am I marrying him.
And I'm gonna talk about this at the end what is not continue higher, which we think is higher cultural things which are not higher. Adult attending the father is a really nice brother. I've heard about you. There's no relationship. I know. I've heard from system.
There's nothing wrong with us.
Then should peace be upon him proposed
in New Orleans.
I want you to marry you often one of my daughters. Again, in our culture, how can the girl's father propose like, assuming that that's not against higher were we not supposed to have higher we think is higher as cultural.
And total can ask a father
a woman can propose to
as long as it's all legitimate as I was going to talk about this and doctors mentioned it here is an easy Buhari were among the rowhani. But a lot of it has a chapter heading.
A man presenting his daughter to a righteous man for marriage. As you mentioned, Heidi, we're our own.
how some of the total
when she lost her husband, as my mentor?
My daughter's we don't know.
Would you like to marry her? Simple society has no
cultural restrictions? Or
did you ask them for granted in Bangladesh? No, no.
Simple key no fap society, too much restrictions. Marriages was simple. There's no like, you know, all these cultural things.
not really like contemporary at this moment in time. And he went to a bunker. Are you interested? He just didn't respond after the messages proposed. And I told him, you know, when when you said I didn't want to say anything, I knew the message isn't that mentioned.
So I didn't want to disclose this. So anything, that's why I didn't see the message.
But anyway, the chapter heading, and there's a few other chapters, that a woman can present himself to a man
but with chastity with purity with with, you know, with looking down with cases being low.
So this daughter,
she kind of
requested her father indicated
to her father, she would like us as a husband.
See, America. And the story carries on. So these were some of the examples that we see. of higher and the opposite of that, which is shamelessness. Now, let's talk about one, the next one in a few points. But we have so many aspects of shamelessness. Today notice it is very, very sad. It's very difficult to avoid like I said, workplace billboards, internet you can't open any part of the internet without seeing
and these sad sadly we have these.
One of the greatest.
The Greatest Hits of our time is this.
There's places in the world. One of my friends recently visited Mauritania.
I went to many of those hours last weekend
and there was a conference that many Mauritanian scholars came. There's people who haven't seen this in their life scholars, people
Only one phone in the village where you get signal once a week you go and use that.
Forget internet and all of that. And Facebook and Twitter and WhatsApp are great means of fitrah they're beneficial as well. To great means a fitna WhatsApp is like,
you know, like I was saying that somebody said that in the olden times, we used to say, like, you know, I'll contact you the traditional way, you know what the traditional way was like, I'll send you a letter.
Now, I won't email you let me post a letter to you. Now, it's like, I'll contact you the traditional way. I'll email you.
So emails gone, like, you know, I still email. I'm still on the email hamdulillah. I've resisted the temptation. I still don't have WhatsApp. You might say, so what you've got Twitter.
But I just, I've never ever I just don't I don't know. I just don't like, what's up, but people went out. WhatsApp, that's farther. I'm like, What are you doing? for a living, you don't have WhatsApp. It's too much time wasted. Every middle of the night when
I woke up, to go to the toilet. To just come off the bathroom.
time is wasted. Marriages are broken. Seriously, marriages are broken.
people sitting at home, your family is eating.
The boys is playing on his game. The girl she's playing the daughter, the Father, the mother, everyone's on the phone. I actually recently sort of
Sorry, I mentioned this to some people
every household should have a
technology free tech free zone.
Every household one and a half hours every day tech free zone if you want a good family relationship 100 I started that in my house. And I suggested that to many of my friends in the evening, which includes the father as well. Phone bond has closed completely
the house maybe just keep one house one if emergency, something happens, but everything iPads,
TV, whatever you have, I don't know all the different completely. Let's talk physically. Let's talk husband, wife, mother, daughter, son, that's one and a half hours, just one and a half hours try it seriously, just take this from this lecture and nothing else. inshallah that will be beneficial. Every day, at least start with one hour.
Yeah, I'll do what the public tomorrow people do. The scale Come on, who's gonna put the hands up? Who will who will do that? I won't. But seriously, try it. One hour, one and a half hours. Completely, just all electronics off. physical relationship.
We have all these problems, phone all these means of flesh. Xena, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He mentioned in the Buhari one of the signs of
his work for Xena.
Xena will become widespread. That doesn't mean actual Xena every form of Xena, Xena lyonie another Xena of the eyes to see xinle ozone is Thema Xin of the ear is to hear
Luna xinle yet
the Xena of the hand is to touch Xena of the fetus to walk towards the evil while following juuso Depo caribou finally with the private parts may confirm all that others you know or may not all these forms of Xena the Quran says hola Takara bozena in no kind of Russia don't even get close to it forget doing Zina don't even get close to it. Which means all the means of Xena must be blocked by elders by youth at home. Quran says cada momento en la sala de Masha Allah Allah, Allah,
Allah Xena whom?
Allah Xena whom lifou gm Javi loon Who are the people of failure and success. Those who preserve their god their private parts, for many of the tug of war are
those who search for fulfilling their carnal desires beyond that, beyond marriage
Illa Allah, Allah Malik Taman home, yeah, so who preserve the private parts except in marriage and then beyond an outside of marriage. Allah says Allah ecomondo
Do these are the real transgresses all the means to Xena must be blocked?
Because, again, it goes back to the heart. It starts with the thought. It starts with the foot eyes. The eyes are the messengers to the heart.
Once we see evil things with our eyes, that's why the Quran says only meaning your whole domain of sorry him. Why photo Fujifilm tell the believing men to lower the gazes. And that after that,
God the private parts because the gaze is connected. That's the
introduction to guarding the private parts. So which means that casting lustful gazes with desire sexual gazes, that's what you means. It's best is better as higher to always keep the gaze low, whatever, that's normal hair, but
what is unlawful and what the Quran is saying that preserve and guard your cases, from casting sexual, looking at nudity, looking at obscene things, immoral things, whether in person or whether on the screen.
We live in a time and I know people have been Frank here. porn is one of the greatest problems rather than sister's biggest problem. It starts with the eye. That eye then translates all the filth and the junk into the heart and the mind. The thoughts are in there. In the beginning, people are disturbed, but then our fitrah is distorted. Things become over and over and over again, when we are sort of accustomed to filth and dirt over and over over again. We don't even realize that that thing is bad no longer anymore. We become desensitized. The filth no longer remains filth.
porn is one of the greatest problems, we must tackle this. It's never been as easy to have access to porn than it is today a
click of a button on this click of a button. Seriously, probably you guys don't know how the law protects you. Nobody knows. It's a click of a button.
That's how it's easy to access it. If we are giving our children seven year old phone, I seriously think we should not be giving our children their own mobile phones, then we complain we have no right to complain then how can we hand our nine year olds and he rolls their own personal mobile phones with the internet.
And then we're worried what they're going to do in the school curriculum. They have their phones, they don't need to go to you know the school, they just have to take their phones out and just go Google and just put sex and see what comes up.
Let them grow old. I personally would never give my child have his own mobile phone until they reach about 1920. Seriously, call me old school and old fashioned.
You can have your own phone.
But we bring them up like that have internet at home. They can't have a personal internet or a laptop or access to the personal in the privacy of the room. Have one in the central dining room. have internet at home? Not in the rooms don't give them iPads. 10 year olds 12 year olds, yeah, you need to do work, no problem use it. But it's here. And you know, the trick is that you know the screen. Don't keep it towards the wall.
That the back of the into the laptop or the computer should be against the wall. So as he was walking past, they can see what's on the screen. Children are very smart nowadays. Yeah, you know, they have 102,000 profile names and secret numbers and messages, something the father might see looks like you know, some some technical problem, but I don't know what that is. It's another technical problem. Very clever.
Parents need to be sharp.
So don't give access these are all the means.
Protect the gays porn as I was saying it's really destructive. And this is my first message. And the second message to the parents will I will mention, but seriously this is
preserve and guard your modesty. Young people, everybody, all of us. porn is destructive. As I said once, once someone gets accustomed to fill fun dirt
this person becomes desensitized then
people human beings, you know when they get married, this actually causes a breakdown of causes marriage breakdown. One of the great reasons of marital
Break down is because pre marriage, the man or the woman was addicted to porn. It's an addiction. It's got physical dopamine, dopamine or something, whatever it's called. There's there's a whole website on this is an addiction. And you know what happens? I read this whole thing, that this addiction, it starts off, the person no longer is satisfied with a particular brand of porn. They move on to the next one, then that doesn't do the job for them. They move on to the next one that doesn't do anything for them. When they get married their wives. They can't satisfy their wives. Porn creates psychological impotency.
You have actual impotency. This is psychological.
This man in his marriage cannot satisfy his wife. But if there's some porn, he'll able to satisfy himself
read upon this. And by Allah, I am not making this up. I've had cases, I had one sister crying, a wife and my husband, sleeping in my bed next to me,
does not have physical relationship with me. But his masturbating with porn in the same bed.
Like you've got a wife.
What's happened? There's more kick more buzz from the porn rather than the marital relationship, because it's just a mere sex object. That's what that porn does to people.
Bad Habits at a young age.
You know, some people think that you know what, I'll sort myself out at marriage. Believe me brothers and sisters.
If we do not sort our
these kind of
problems before marriage, we could be married, we will still have the same habit. Another example this brother wants was crying. Two, three years ago. He was an old man. I don't know in his full 50s or 60s.
He said I started the habit of masturbation when I was like 1516 I'm a grandfather I still can't come out from the habit.
Still can't come out from the habit.
It remains its long term habits. Young people think so while it's like you know a bachelor let's just relax and enjoy when I get married, then I'll settle down and then I'll sort everything out. Those who are clubbing will carry on clubbing, premium pre marriage clubbing we'll carry on clubbing after marriage.
Those who are womanizing or modernizing, I don't know whatever if that turns there. They will carry on doing that. After marriage, you won't stop them because it becomes a different cake. It's a different buzz.
Seriously, we that's why I tell a lot of my friends that you know before marriage that's why Quran says you know when people get married, what is the Imam recite the ayat of taqwa the verse of taqwa, here, you know taco taco, taco De La Tomatina 11 Muslim moon, and the other two,
you know, Taco Bell Camilleri. Holla couple minutes. Those three is verses of taqwa at the time of marriage, that sooner it's the what were the messengers of Allah Islam reciting Why, what's the
objective behind it is to remind us that before marriage at the time of marriage, and after marriage, the only thing that will preserve someone's marriage is taqwa after marriage, the actual marriage and even before marriage, before marriage live a life of taqwa.
If somebody and it's never too late, the doors of Toba are always hamdulillah open. You can all turn to Allah. But this I always suggest to a lot of my friends, if you want to get married, and if you've got some of these bad evil habits, don't get married now. Spend one year of chastity one year.
Don't masturbate today and get married tomorrow. Sorry for being Frank.
One year, preserve yourself. Then go and get married. One year taqwa before marriage, then it will help you in your marriage. You have to get into the habit of not doing those bad and evil acts. So all these things masturbation is it's it's haraam. There's no two questions about it's harmful
Don't let anyone tell you that there's nothing wrong with it. I mean, what are you gonna masturbate look at you know the ceiling and masturbate.
We're gonna think about
evil thoughts. It's a Xin of the brains in of the minds in of the acquisition of the intellect.
How can a person must have been without things
And this is no sin of the thought. It creates darkness in the heart.
And then that actually results in all these other evils and vices. I know people have talked about homosexuality and things like that. Lots of sexual deviances which are unlawful in Islam, but there are sexual deviances.
about homosexuality, people ask, look, we don't we can't change our religion, Christianity, Judaism, Islam, or reveal religions considered to be sinful, straightforward. halus there's no, you can't compromise This is our Deen. Yes, we don't hate a person. Just like we don't hate a person. We don't we don't get over obsessed as well people ask. You know, sometimes we get over obsessed with one sin because it's culturally like a taboo. So we don't you shouldn't get obsessed. Just like you know, someone doesn't pray fudger that's also a sin. someone's not praying for God that's also sin, someone's involving themselves in homosexual activity. That's also a sin. So the way you are unhappy
with this sin be unhappy with this sin. Okay, so with that balance, you know, just like you don't hate your brother or sister who missed the door Salah you don't hate your brother sister who's involved you help you encourage you still be friends, you be nice to them, you try to help them. And this is actually these things are actual set. You know, these are evil habits. Because you know, I'll tell you one thing. Most of the people who are in homosexual relationships
they're not they are not like faithful to one person very rarely.
It's they have multiple partners multiple and then the diseases and the illnesses and sicknesses. I mean, read up on that.
Some of the things the researchers have mentioned, and the messenger sallallahu Sallam was truthful when he said, one of the signs of a time will come when people will be afflicted with such diseases and such illnesses that your your father's and your father forefathers would have never had heard of them. They will kill you and there'll be no remedy for them. Sound Hades absolutely sound Hadeeth
STDs and AIDS and whatever, whatever.
So young people, protect yourself. We should all protect yourself. I'll just mention what we need to do.
Number one, nothing can happen except resolve. I know I've just just wanted two minutes I'm going to conclude Nothing can happen with our resolve. Firm resolve
No one's going to help us if we don't help ourselves, you know people say oh chef make this to our go to this amount.
Of course, but we need him resolve and we need to turn to Allah MiG da.
To to sort of help us and protect us from these things.
And elders should
explain in a gentle way. You know, once
a man came to the messenger sallallahu alayhi Salaam said O Messenger of Allah is only be Xena. Please give me permission, I will do Zina.
You know, two, three days ago somebody sent me a message. I would like to do Xena, Xena because of Musleh I didn't get what he was trying to say.
I like to do Xena because I must. I didn't really understand. He reminded me of this incident toward like I didn't think of him personally to the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam he said O Messenger of Allah please give me permission I want to do Xena
he wasn't like any mom today like me like stuff alive. We talking about you know, the messenger sallallahu Sallam said come here brother to Hippo Julio MC. Would you like someone committing Zina with your mother? Said la la hirasawa no messenger of Allah. Whether or not so you have buena Luma hottie him others don't like their mother's being fully catered with as well. To hibou Lee hollistic Do you like someone commit Zina with your auntie with your paternal Auntie he made listed with your sister with your daughter. Every time he said no messenger of Allah He said likewise, others don't like their sisters, someone committing Zina with her, the Auntie
he understood and the messenger sallallahu alayhi Salaam placed his hand on his heart. And he said Allahumma Allah homak fit number four has seen faraja who are by her elbow, Allah forgive a sin, purify his heart, and forgive his sin and preserve his modesty. He says since that day, the thought of Xena did not even come to my mind. sallallahu alayhi wa sallam explained to the young people in a nice way, but these things resolve we need resolve we have to do look. We have to do what we need to do. You know use of peace be upon him. He was seduced by a beautiful woman.
Beautiful Woman of peace.
of rank, the woman's giving money
of ranked and beauty.
What are the totality of EBT and NFC how well she bolted the doors. Everyone knows the story is not time. She locked the doors. You know what used to peace be upon him Did he ran to the doors, he knew the doors are locked. The mufa soon say that he well you know why he ran to the doors. At least I can run to the doors, the rest is up to Allah. Like I can do go to the door. I know it's locked. I have to do what's in my capacity. Leave the rest home and the doors open. I'll open it for him.
He said call the law
likewise in a hadith a woman you know seven young people who are under the shade of Allah on the day there'll be no shade. One of them is Raja Luna try to tune that Jamal in woman sub A woman a man who was seduced, cold invited by a woman of beauty and rank for color in half of them. Ah, he says I fear Allah. Like for the sake of Allah, we need this taqwa. We need this resolve. But it starts like I said at home darkwa marriage, you know, bringing up children good society at home, if you do all of this, and then alongside that, the rest of the things that we talked about today very important, Mashallah, you heard from some real good people today. Of course, we need to work for the betterment
of our children, we have to do whatever we need to rally we need to sort of, you know, we need to really do whatever we can do. May Allah subhanaw taala, protect our children the greatest responsibility, one of my teachers were saying that greatest issue for the Muslims in the West is not about the moon. It's not about times of prayer. It's not about aid. It's not about splitting of the moon. It's not about putting hands here, putting hands here mean loudly silent, you know, they're small issues, travel issues, in comparison to the preservation of the man of our children. The greatest, greatest responsibility
when we leave our children, will they be believers or not? That is a question.
That is a question they imagine. And if we can't guarantee that, then I don't know what we're doing here. Sorry. You know, it seems quite
harsh, but we have to we have to really work for our children. May Allah subhanaw taala protect our young children, our youth protect all of you inshallah, Grant me as well the ability to practice on what I said. Allah make things easy for the Muslims inshallah sokola Hanako. Korea was takuro la wa salatu salam ala se sadhana Mohammed Salim saramonic