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If You Dont Forgive
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I'm Lila Madonna Stein on istockphoto when I was little I mean surely I'm fusina comienza tr Melina mejor de la huhtala fall mo de la la woman your lil fella her the Allah wa Chateau La ilaha illAllah hula hula shriek Allah wa shadow Ana Mohammed Abu rasuluh Salatu was Salam O Allah, Allah Allah He was happy as mine I'm about your Palazzo john Philip or Anil Kareem bodalla Billahi min ash shaytani r Rajim yeah you Latina Amano Taka la haka, Ducati. velata, Mouton. illa Anta Muslim moon, we praise him subhanho wa Taala, the king, the master, the Sustainer, the creator of the seven heavens and the earth and we send peace and blessings upon His Beloved Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
My brothers I remind you, and I remind myself as Allah subhanho wa Taala reminds us in the Quran Are you believe have fear of Allah subhanho wa Taala have fee that is most deserving towards him, and to not die except in the state of Islam, to not die except in the state of submission. My beloved brothers
our Deen is made up of a lot of beautiful things. Our Deen is made up of a lot of very bad acts of worship, some of which are very easy. And some of which are very difficult on the heart. Tonight, where he today where he does speak about that which is difficult on the heart. You see my brothers, there's a lot of things in our Deen we do it. Some of us depending on his character, it comes natural to him.
Why? Maybe he's a tough character. He's a strong person. So anything in ElDeen, which is making a statement out loud, you find he's the first one day, some of us growing his beard in this day and age, even if he's not the most religious person in the world, he's happy to do it, because having a beard is a statement. And he wants nothing more in this world, but to make a statement. So you find that this act of worship for him is easy. So he does it, and he does it with strength. But there are other things there that are very difficult, that are in fact more rewarding than some of the actions that are apparent and that our actions of statements
are cut very short, because time is of the essence. My brothers, I wanted to speak to you about a topic that absolutely no one in this whole today. No one and I mean, absolutely no one is free from this topic.
And that's the issue of forgiveness.
If you've been hurt,
or someone has hurt you before.
And by no means am I here now to talk to you about the you know about the rewards of forgiveness. And that if you forgive that this is a noble thing, and that he makes you a good person. No. Today we're here to push buttons. Today we're here to put so to a wound that we don't like to talk about. Today, I'm here to tell you that if you don't forgive,
if you don't forgive, then woe to you that they you stand before Allah subhanho wa Taala you see many of us, we tend to think that forgiveness is an option that I have that if I want, I'll forgive but if I don't want, but I'm gonna hold on to this to the Day of Resurrection.
I'm gonna hold on to this to the Day of Resurrection. La habibollah does work like that. Because a part of being a believer, a part of being a Muslim, a part of being the follower of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam is to have a heart that forgives. Not only does it forgive, but it loves to forgive
regardless of the crime.
So because I'm sure your mind is already going through a process, or he's probably thinking he's probably speaking about forgiveness on small issues, like issues. No, I'm here to tell you today that there is absolutely no scenario, no issue, no situation that you could put forward before me. That gives you any right to not forgive your Muslim brother.
Nothing and this is being this is real being this is the Dean of the heart. This is the Dean of breaking the nafs the dean that no one likes to play with
the deen that no one likes to play with our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and let me make things clear. By no means am I saying
You need to forgive because the person that you're forgiving is worthy of your forgiveness. That's irrelevant. today. I'm here to tell you that you have to forgive. Because you forgiving one another has nothing to do with the individual though there is benefit, but it has everything to do with you and Allah subhanho wa Taala
the Prophet of Allah says, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, forgive one another, have rahama amongst one another. Why?
Why? Because the Muslims, why? Because they're deserving of it. He says, Have mercy, show compassion towards one another while prophet of Allah. He says so the one in the heavens may show mercy and compassion towards us, towards you.
today, let's hashtag today's hood bear as Let it go.
Let him go my brother, let it go, my sister no matter what is happening in your life, no matter how geometric shape on has faded your scenario or your situation, it's only from shaitan. And the key to everything is to just let it go and then
let it go. Why? Because that's the center of Your Habib sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He says he says show compassion to one another. Why? So the one in the heavens can can show compassion and mercy and forgiveness towards us. Today we live in a world where it's praised. The more you hold the grudge, then the more it's praised. And common terms Forgive me on some people told me brother, it's Friday. And it's inappropriate to use this sort of language, but we're here to deliver a message. I'm not here to speak appropriately and no one walks out understanding what the hell I'm all about. Now we're here to speak a language so that we understand today we live in a culture we want to forgive
is a sign of work. It's a sign of weakness, bro what you think I'm wrong?
You think I'm a grown kid? You know why in the world brother, it's become an issue of pride. But the hell do you think you are Jani
he on God's green earth do you think you are to hold something and carry it in your heart and look at the language? I don't forgive to the Day of Judgment. Wow, man. Really?
What sooner is this?
What is this?
Because it's most definitely not from Islam. And it's not certainly not the Sunnah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
To hold on to grudges. For what?
For what one more in my brother's examples. I don't have time but examples. And I'm sure every one of you knows the scenario. One lonely Blood Brothers, blood brothers. They grew up they came out of the same womb of the same mother. They circled on the same brace. They lived and slept and grew up in the same bedroom
from the same flight from the same
era and speak to one another. Why?
Because his wife said and my wife said
with your life
How does it possibly see the day the same mine but the one who I grew up with
to get him between me and him?
What is this?
Father and son that don't talk to one another?
Knights Knights that grew up on the streets they live boy, brother. We did have us together, huh? Yeah. We were like that in her boss.
10 years I didn't find within 10 years. I'll take a bullet for him bro.
One drama, one incident and all hell breaks loose.
With the hearts go man.
Husband and wife for 1015 years.
Yeah, we we had a divorce.
Why? Well, what happened
was my wife showed me a post once on the internet. A woman was having some troubles with her husband. She's asking for advice. She has three kids. I quote three kids, husband and wife. You shared the same bed for years. You ate from the same four years. Brother how big could your drama be? Brother? We're human beings then we'll make some mistakes. You're not perfect. I'm not perfect. But why is it that when a drama comes nananananana This is unforgiveable Why? Why?
10 is marriage keys between she's asking for advice her husband whatever you need
so one of the sisters in a nice hijab Mashallah she writes back to the sister and I quote then we theme
wow man just like that The hell with him
just like that bro
we forgot all the good times just like that The hell with him
What is this man
so then there's always a scholar amongst us who comes to me yes my brother and I get phone calls all the time. Brother All I want is my half
asking for anything more than my half brother. Is there anything wrong with what I'm asking cuz I'm not asking for an inch more and not an inch less so in his mind shape and he's making him think brother that's your right cuz doesn't Allah say and look, I love how we quote a lot of Quran that suit my knifes doesn't Allah say in the Quran? Brother tooth for a tooth and an eye for an eye?
Yeah. All I want is my heart.
When I got married, the chef came and her family and yo and let's start with the Fatiha. Why? Because it's the opening of the crew and they said that the hearts can flourish, and we can come together. But then when there's drummers it's my lawyer versus your lawyer.
When the kids are with me on the weekend, your mom's above your mom's
Then when the kids are with the mama, then when the kids are with the moms, you know throughout the week, your father's a 123 she wants the floor in the toilets with him day and night.
Well, man, just like that, just like that.
The brother forgive let it go. No way brother, my heart, my heart.
I tell you fine.
So the brother system is anything wrong. I tell him rather than like there's nothing wrong with you asking for your heart. There's nothing wrong with you telling me I for an eye and a tooth for tooth. But I'm telling you this now that if you open this door with people amongst gonna open this door with you on the Day of Resurrection, and if I'm opens the door of tooth for tooth and annoy for annoying.
You're in a world.
Every single one of us has troubles in his life. Every single one of us has made mistakes. Every single one of us is a sinner. And every single one of us is hopeful and wishful that when I stand before a lot on the Day of Resurrection, Allah is gonna turn a blind eye and forgive all my sins. You can't even forgive the person you grew up with for years of your life for one issue.
You can't even forget.
The people told me brother, but it's my heart. It's my right. Let me tell you bluntly, brother, there is nothing in this world. The only heart you will ever have is when you stand before a law in front of the real judge in the real court, then and only then will you ever really get your heart This one will never ever ever do you justice.
Were really my brothers were mighty Where are we man? Forgive me you're not from a bit too. Before my My heart hurts me hurts me.
What do I say to people who before the drama. They're the most religious and God fearing and Allahu Akbar and brother were like this and, and and all I forgive you and I love you for the sake of a law. But as soon as you step on my toes, what was once a noise is a piece of velcro throws the ball Kamiya your little descender alemi Well, man, what happened? Cause what happened?
He disrespected me.
Let it go, man.
Look, no for you. For Allah sake.
Let it go. Let it go.
there is those that show mercy and compassion towards one another.
The one in the heavens who showed mercy and compassion towards them.
You see my brothers, you know what I love about the Sahaba. The Sahaba were real people. Many of us we like to praise the Sahaba so much so to the point where we start painting this picture like they never did anything wrong. What are you very wrong. Sahaba did a lot of things wrong, but that's what was beautiful about them because they made mistakes then the way they dealt with them mistakes
What makes them so special and so unique?
My time is short. One particular incident.
After one of the battles there was beauty of war, gold, silver, swords, shields, stuff like this.
So the Sahaba gathered, there's a lot of its money.
So they started sharing their opinions as to how they should distribute this wolf. And please don't listen to the story for the sheer entertainment of it.
Live the story brother tried to imagine I'm not sharing with you all Disney fairy tales. These are real stories of your father's
why not to entertain you but to learn? Because you know what my brother's The truth is?
When really push comes to shove, we don't follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam deep down. We're gangsters. That's what we are men.
And being a gangster doesn't necessarily mean you got tattoos and used to sell drugs on the streets. Well, I know.
There are more gangsters than any youngster on the streets that I can ever be
gangster with your character and your attitude.
We don't follow rule of law
we follow people like Tony Montana in Scarface yeah and Tupac in barbaric shoe and the way that see brother that's that's that's the way it is cuz that's how it is on the streets brother.
What Dean is discipline?
So the Sahaba
Ah, man gave his opinion, then gave his opinion on the matter.
For those of you who don't know,
Abu Dhabi is Arab, Arab Arab biani. He makes an Arab few like he's among Arab.
You can't be any more Arab than what a Buddha was.
sabitha also gave his opinion.
Try mosques. I was in Canada, the brothers mosques.
mosques are waiting in courts to deal with the issues. Why? Because but I gave my opinion, and this guy disrespected me when we were in the meeting. So now it's me versus him in mosques are going to war with each other. Why?
Who's headed? But I gave my opinion. What and he went against me.
Does he know who I am? I've been here for 10 years, brother. This guy's only been on the board for five years. These are the people that are leading our masajid Mashallah.
subhanaw taala gave his opinion.
Then the next person was bilello are the Allahu Allahu Bilal is more of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Bilal not only used to be a slave,
but an Abyssinian slave, meaning he was black. So as far as society is concerned, talk about being rock bottom. But you see slam came to break this.
So when belaire gave his opinion, he says our Buddha I disagree with you.
Allahu Adam. I think this is what we should do with the wolf
subwoofer. Imagine being put on the spot in front of everyone. He says even you Your Beloved, even you son of a black woman, even you're gonna disagree with me today
is a big words.
So Bilal, rightfully so got very upset. He picked himself up and went to the Prophet of Allah.
Now, I want to pause you for a minute
because I want to prove my point that we don't follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah saw Salam we follow the Sunnah of who
shot Tony Montana, Mashallah. And molana Tupac.
When we hear the story of the Sahaba we exclude our life and our societies, because it's different times. My brothers, I want to ask you sincerely and I want you to answer sincerely, this act, that bill ended by picking himself up and going to the Prophet have a lot to complain. What is this code in this day and age that we live in today?
He's a snitch.
Brother, we have a drama. You pick yourself up to don't complain. What do you woman bro?
That street language. You see, but Glenn was interrupted by your Tupac and your Tony Montana bill and was affected by your profit. Do you claim that you follow? You see Bilal had something in his heart. So he was
Someone that can help him with his situation. You and I nananananana that makes me less of a man, not Habib. I am gonna hold that in my heart for the next 20 years, I'm gonna fresh him back by him, wipe the floor with him, slander him with any opportunity that I can get for the next 20 is
but I won't go to someone that just might be able to help my situation.
he tells the Prophet of Allah, the prophet of Allah became furious. So the Prophet of Allah he comes, he goes to where Buddha was, and he grabs up without a hitch, he grabs up without
talking about bridging up this right now was reaching up.
And he grabs a Buddha and shakes him and says, a Buddha, you are a man that still has Je li in his heart.
So to the Buddha.
That little data is not what he said.
That's not what I said.
Let me tell you the difference between a man
and a so called man. A real man is a man when he when he acknowledges that he really was in the wrong. He admits that he's in the wrong
subwoofer lowers his head. He understands that he hurt his brother. He understands he upset his profit. So how did he deal with the situation?
Did he stop praying at that Masjid so that I don't see Bilaal? Because that's how we deal with our issues is not
overall de la talanoa after acknowledging that he's in the wrong, he picks himself up, he goes into the streets of Medina looking for belaire of the law. And then when he sees and he finds bln, he goes to bilello publicly leave this with me publicly in front of everyone. He goes to be land in front of everyone and gets down on the floor and says to be led
by a law, I will not lift my head off the floor and to use the phone to tweak your food and let it be known. Right. Right now in Medina. Which one of us today is the honored and which one of us today a billion is the dishonored one
Come on, man. How come I haven't heard this story before bro.
So what I'll do
is vulnerable is on the floor. He acknowledged Paul Jarrod Paul Johnson the right.
What did he do?
What like an opportunity that most of us would love to have with those that hurt us?
Is the real forgiveness is to forgive from your hearts and see whether you can do something about it or you can't. You see there are many of us who have issues and dramas with other people and we paint on the outside and our brother in law him and I forgive him for the sake of Allah. You little Kazemi little spinner. The only reason that you claim that you forgive him it's not because you really forgive him. The truth is, is you can't do anything to this guy anyway. So really by default by the fact that I physically can't do anything I disguise my weakness we thought now I forgive him for the sake of Allah but deep down in your heart
deep down in your heart if you got the news that our bus hitting your by your heart will start to do the DAP keeper
somebody has told me and I was
listening Allah Hebrew one long line I forgive him one line he I forgive him bottom forget cuz wow Mashallah really
you forgive but you don't forget? Well, I got news for you.
If you forgive but don't forget, you didn't forgive to begin with.
See this topic is not as juicy as what you first thought a Why? Because it's hard on the knifes because this is real Dean.
This is real Dean.
So what did bill do?
bill gets them on his hands and knees. He kisses her on the forehead. This is Apple that are you serious. I forgive you for the sake of Allah, done finished dusted, never to be spoken about again.
Not drag around for 1015 years
not forget the fact that it was before this that we're both on the that we're both on the same battlefield fighting for the same Lord.
See, we don't have this in our societies anymore man.
Why? Because today weakness is seen as what forgiveness is seen as a weakness but a lot hubby. That's a real man.
Because we claim that we follow Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam brothers told me all the time cuz I'll die for his honor. lie here I'm ready to die for his honor. I say well, Masha Allah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala reward you for such a noble intention. But brother will know he I don't need you to die for his honor. I need you to live for his honor. I want you to live like him. sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, your beloved prophet and of course you see this this is the size of Rasulullah we don't want to talk about what my brothers are taken over by Allah forgive me if these words are a bit harsh, but I tell you now and this is my own personal opinion. One more he even our love for the
deen even our love for the Sahaba is a love of dunya
nobody he loves Amara no hottub must love probably one of the most loved he's definitely my favorite. Nobody he loves armor of no hottub because he had permanent marks on his cheeks from crying out of fear of a law. Not cuz we love America because when his name was mentioned, the California is the shaking the knees. No one loves
because he had permanent marks on his shoulders. Why? Because he was servicing the community in the late hours of the night when everyone was asleep and wasn't watching Obama for that.
Because he was a man rather when he rocked up cause everyone Baku,
the prophet of Allah who we claim we love
because I'm sure you're thinking in your mind. Voila, brother, may Allah reward you very much. Goodbye, very emotional, very touching. Because you don't understand what this person did to me is unforgivable.
And I repeat, there is absolutely no scenario, or in case he shot your mother, he shot your father, he raped your child. I don't care what scenario you could possibly throw at me.
Forgiveness is the key.
The Prophet of the law for 13 years in Mecca, lived this with me 13 years in Makkah
had dust thrown in his face. They killed his companions. For what? For what? What crime did he do? What crime did he do? What he looked at someone's sister? Why he didn't cover up his money at the end of the business transaction. What did he do?
They boycotted a man his family for three years. Sahaba said we were eating the leaves of the trees until our droppings. Our droppings became not the droppings of animals for three years.
They divorced his daughters
in front of the Prophet publicly. I'm not telling you Allah you know what that I started sending around on Whatsapp Video about what Nanananana publicly live in front of the Prophet and his companions. They grabbed sumaiya a woman
they grabbed up publicly, they opened their legs in front of her husband and her son and they read the speed to her private parts until they killed her.
They exalting from his land maca absorbing for 18 months in Medina 18 months he was crying. Why? Because he was missing. He was missing the cab so much.
They start these pregnant bapa as a result, she lost her child 806 A few months later, she ended up dying in Medina.
He buried every one of his children while he was alive except for Fatima.
In Ohio, you know it's one thing to go to war and kill. That's fine. He killed the men. In Ohio they massacred the dead. His uncle Hamza they cut his nose off they cut his ear off diabetes liver out him took a bite from his liver and spit on the floor.
Sahaba said when the Prophet of Allah sin Hamza who
We never seen him cry like he cried when he seen his uncle Hamza in narrations. He prayed janazah for his uncle 70 times.
So much, and so much
And then when Fatima came
and now he comes back victorious
with an army of 10,000 companions
and the army the which Arabia never seen in the lives of
men who at the drop of a word, were happy to give their lives just to see him smile.
He enters into the muck, he enters into the harem of mK 10,000 soldiers surrounding and those people that harmed him for years and years and years.
And I'm asking you to forgive your Muslim brother. God forbid I should ask you to forgive the father or be labeled on the payroll scholar for $1 or more you want more you mop the floor with me.
So I'm not even gonna dare to go down that road. God forbid we should follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu a brother.
He enters into the harem 10,000 soldiers surrounding the harem those people that harmed him for years and years
where they're gonna go now, bro.
Talk about the tables Tony.
So he looks at them.
He says to them and and what do you think I will do with you today? What do you think I will do today?
They said you're an honorable, generous person, the son of an honorable generous person.
The Prophet of Allah turns around and says to the kuffaar it's horrible for antimo tilaka to go every single one of you are free. I forgive you.
Was this sooner in our lives man?
Where's this Dean?
a coup call.
In Alhamdulillah Madonna sino Salah Al Habib Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
will know how to so many more stories I wanted to mention man
but I'm out of time.
My brothers I said to you before
that you forgiving is not an option that you have.
You forgiving is not an option that you have.
I said earlier about you know the man that says to me brother Allah says to for a tooth, an eye for an eye.
He but what does the law say after that? same verse. What does the law say after that?
Allah says yes, you have the right tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye. But those who forgive then this is better for them.
You want good or do you want better?
Yeah, I'm sure someone has hurt you in the past. And I'm sure they're the worst person in the world, but it's not about them.
It's about you and Allah.
And don't you dare think that now looking over our drama was many years ago Alhamdulillah since then, you know, yeah, we don't talk but since then, you know, I've started praying. Now I wear a hijab. And you know, since then I've grown my bead handler. I've been able to get camera and hedge a few times has it's done. It's finished. It's dusted Allah. Allah Rahim. La Habib works.
The Prophet of Allah He says, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He says every Thursday,
your weekly actions are collected and they presented before Allah and Allah can forgive whatever he wants whoever he wants.
He says except,
except to our Prophet of Allah.
He says, except the two that don't talk to one another, regardless of who's in the right and who's in the wrong.
He says Never mind. Allah subhanho wa Taala won't even look at the actions
until they fix what's between one another.
Until they until they fix what's between one another. So you could go to Hajj not once but do it 100 times and go to ombre in between every 100 years. And you can read the Quran day and night. All of you action so long as your brother is upset with you and there's no peace amongst one another. Everything that you do equals to a big fat zero in the eyes of Allah.
Did you think we're just gonna walk into paradise?
Is that what we thought?
You think that we're just gonna waltz into paradise Mashallah cuz I grew my bead
alone push you to every last minute
the voice that we don't forgive
people told me brother will lie It's about the principle now. It's not about principle. Maybe sometimes it's principle. But let's get straight down to the core why is it that we don't forgive?
is something called pride and arrogance that's in the heart man.
Who is he to disrespect me like that bro?
Doesn't he know who I am?
You see this pride and this arrogance?
This will bring the end of you
The Prophet of Allah says anyone sallallahu Sallam anyone with an atom's weight of pride. an atom's wait. Never mind seeing Jana. He'll never smell its fragrance
scheifele Islam even taymiyah he says an amazing line.
He says it amazes me
how the one that traveled through the passage of urine twice.
Every one of us traveled through the passage of urine twice. When you left your father and you entered into your mother as a sperm. It says it amazes me how the one that traveled through the passage of urine twice How can this person still have pride and arrogance in his heart?
Lie in my brother's
a lot of a lot of the call. A lot of a lot of the issues that we're facing the core of it will lie his pride and arrogance and, and, and our lack of ability to forgive one another.
You know when you forgive?
Even if you're in the right, even if the person owes you money, even even even even one law you know when you forgive
you feel like a mountain has come off your interest.
And again, I don't forgive because he's worthy of my forgiveness. Who do I forgive for?
Your life forgive him for the sake of Allah because I have so much sin in my life that I'm I'm wishing and I'm praying that you turn a blind eye. So I'm ready now to turn a blind eye to him.
So you turn a blind eye with me