Hadeeth – Episode 18
Channel: Muhammad Al Bizry
Series: Muhammad Al Bizry - Hadeeth
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu wa salam O Allah surefit Hollywood mursaleen Muhammad in one early he was on my way up to Hadith 15 from Alabama with Otterbein. And now we're here today is a very important Hadith. It's a well known Hadith.
And it's jam packed with lessons. This Hadeeth in a nutshell deals with character profile. So slim said, believes in Allah. And the last day they did speaker maintenance of religion alone the last day that he mana his neighbor who lives in alone the last day, let him honor his guests. So it's about honoring people, it's about speaking good, not harming them. So therefore it deals with character.
So that's really not sure what added 15 is about. And the profile is sort of linked it with a man whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, and that's part of our currently man. So therefore, characters linked to him. And we're going to touch upon that briefly, although we have discussed it in the past. But we're going to look at more importantly, the relevance of mentioning herbalism. And the last day, why the last day? Why not? We're believers in the land angels who believes in Allah and the messengers. So we're going to look at that, the importance of the last day and why it's a recurring theme in the Quran. And we'll look at just one aspect from sorbitol delta delta, which is
relevant today. Then we're going to actually take the Hadith men can you know Billa helium lasted for Yokohama? only as good as he believes in Allah and lastly, let him speak good or remain silent. What does that mean speak good. We're going to look at that has two parts to it. And then the next part man, can you help me no Bella, who will do it? For you Kim Jong? Who believes in the law, the law said let him honor his neighbor another Hadith fella, you the Giada who did not harm his neighbor. There we go and look at who is the neighbor, we're going to look up particular etiquette and the rulings pertaining to the neighbor, and then mechanic mobiler who will
follow Korean bifa who believes in the law in the last day, let him honor his guests. So we're going to look at who is the guests islamically? What are some of the rights of the guests? How do you honor the guest? What do you do? What do you say, and not just the guests, the manners of the visitor themselves. So we're gonna look at the manners of both parties. Because this is very important because sometimes people come over and they visit, and they don't know how to visit their manners think, and maybe some things they might ask for things they may do in your house is inappropriate. So we're going to look at the manners of the visitor themselves. So although that's
not mentioned in the Hadith, but it's related and like I said, I'm always going to give you extra things from what you're going to learn from this hadith. Otherwise if I just wanted you to read then I would have to stay at home.
So let's start with Hadith 15 who would like to read anyone? Although I read it for you, but
for the long run you
Mashallah. Very good. I don't even have to repeat them. Excellent.
However, I will, as usual,
and Abbey Herrera Tierra de Allahu Allah, Allahu Allah, Allah Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. nankana you may know Bella well Yamuna acid fileopen, Hydra, Leo Smith, accumulated aerates. The profile he said to me believes in a lot and the last day Let him speak good or remain silent. In other words, only speak when your words are more beautiful than your assignments. However, there are exceptions. There are exceptions at times where you can speak not necessarily because your words are good in of themselves, but you're speaking for a higher purpose. And that is to prevent awkwardness or awkward situation, like an awkward silence. Sometimes you and someone else is just sitting there
looking at him. He's looking at you looking at him. It's very awkward. So here, you break the ice and you mentioned something like How's the weather?
So even though there's no real substance, it's not really words of goodness, like Islam and Nicola, but you're saying that Why? Because you're doing that to break the ice. And this is the noble purpose so you don't feel uncomfortable around so and so. And that's okay. Especially if for example, you're going to get married. And you go over to the wellies house and no one is there staring at you like that.
Because you want to marry his daughter staring at you the whole time. Right? And so you say something to break the ice or someone will say something to break the ice. I see this poem is skinny sweating, and the father is staring so someone will come and just talk about dunia and that's okay as long as what he's saying is not Haram. So we're going to look at that in more detail in a moment. The Hadith continues the profile is so slim said man can you know Bella he will Jamelia her fellow cream Java whoever believes in Allah and Allah
Let him honor his neighbor. So, at best on your neighbor, there's another Hadith because this hadith is wrong with Bukhari Muslim amines is another narration, which is similar in words, but of course they meaning Fela ijarah they do not, who believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him not harm his neighbor. In other words at best on your neighbor, and at least don't harm your neighbor. So if your neighbor is a Muslim, or Hamdulillah, you can on him even if it's a non Muslim, because he didn't say Giada hood Muslim, so I just kept it open, it's called Nikita, therefore, it's not specified. It's not restricted to Muslim, Muslim or non Muslim on your neighbor, be good to them, show
kindness, send them some food. We're going to get into this in more detail, of course. However, just to give you a rough overview, and if, if you don't want to honor them, then at least don't harm them. At least don't harm them. That's another narration. And the Hadith continues. Man, can you help me no Bella here, William will?
Follow cream boy who believes in the law and last let him honor his guests. So we're going to take the rulings and issues pertaining to who is the guest islamically? And how do you honor them and also manners of the visitor as we've already established. So that's a hadith. This is how the 15 in nutshell. Once again, you can see that this hadith deals with character and it's linked to a man who believes in Allah and the Last Day showing us once again, the importance of Eman and character we've highlighted this many times. But once again as you can see, this is a recurring theme. Therefore, just as we just as we place great emphasis on the man and Akita which we should also place great
importance and emphasis on character, character. You know, some brothers are long, Stan, when it comes to issues of Willa Baraka, only the brother is staunch is firm and he applies it so strict, which is awesome. But when it comes to character, it stinks. swearing here backbiting this person and causing arguments here. So some people they are this is an imbalance. And that shows you there though not the best of Muslims, they're not the best. No matter how much knowledge of athlete any man you may know and him have a deviant group she may refute. If your character stinks, you're not the best Muslim and you said this.
The prophet SAW my son because he said the best of believers are those who have the best character. In other words, if you don't have the best character, you know the best of believers. So we've already touched upon that many times we're not going to dwell on that any further.
Men can you know Bella, he will yummy. Notice the Hadith Israel believes in a lot and the last day it's not to believe in a lot and the angels it's not really believed in a lot in the messengers. It's not believed in Latin, the books why last day, many reasons. This comes a lot in the Quran and in the sooner because number one on the last day you stand before Allah, you see how they link to we believe in Allah and the Last Day so on the last day, you're going to stand before Allah so that's clean. That's one way they link intricately. Another way is that belief in the last day, person who has proper belief in the last day means to have proper belief in Allah.
In other words, to deny the last day to deny accountability to deny a bath or resurrection. you disbelieve, not just in that you disbelieve in
That's why the machico brush fall, even though they believed in the laws existence is we do. They would call the children Abdullah Abdullah, the prophets father was called Abdullah. So even the father of course believed in Allah. But they only believed in his existence. I didn't have total Eman. So they only believed in his existence, right and some, of course, part of Ruby a small subset, but really they were disbelievers, why disbelievers why because they among many reasons, of course they should but also because they denied the Day of Judgment the last day
and that's what we know as email even if a person of Himachal law so even if a person fulfilled all the four categories after heat, what are they?
There will be a smell Seaford will do here, and aloeswood
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because some time maybe three minutes, three minutes from now. So give us four minutes stop. Yeah.
So to believe in alarm is to believe in the laws will do this will existence so of course that's implied. But therefore it's important to mention. In other words, the person who delights allows existence is a gift. But why are we saying that? Because just to believe in Allah existence is not enough for him. So therefore, even if let's just say a person and all four parts or all aspects of belief in a law, correct, but they rejected their judgment.
They still perform.
So that's clear, but also why because belief in accountability means you're going to watch your deeds
When you believe in accountability, you're going to watch your deeds. You're going to watch what you say and watch what you do. So therefore you can see character, you're going to speak good or remain silent. You're going to honor your neighbor, you're going to spend from your wealth to honor your guest as well, because you believe there's accountability. When I'm spending, I'm going to be reimbursed by a large region. And even if I don't want to spend on them, at least I'm not going to harm them. Because I feel a lot of there's accountability. So a person who rejects accountability, they basically do what they want. Why to set up
a person who rejects accountability, they basically say, you know what, I can do what I want, I'm not going to be held accountable. But when a person knows is the when a person knows there's accountability there, what should they do like at work, when a person knows that the boss is watching, there's accountability, they're not going to check their Facebook status during work hours, or WhatsApp, or go on a five minute smoko because the boss is watching now, they shouldn't be smoking period, but you get the idea. Even on the roads, there's accountability, you speed, you're gonna get caught. There's a red light camera, for example. So when people know accountability, it
literally puts a stop to their bad deeds and put a stop to the evil they're gonna watch it. So that's why the red light cameras actually gives people Duckworth, RTA taqwa
not of course, taqwa of Allah azza wa jal, in that sense. So that's why it's a popular belief in Allah and the Last Day is crucial. And not just that you won't just focus on your deed in general, you're going to pay attention to the small deeds. So to
start it as zillertal Otto's agenda, which is the day of judgment, and how does it end from a Yama and myths that are brought in higher yada,
yada, yada, yada?
A person who will actually see an atom's way or respects worth of good and evil. So start with talking about this huge event here, this big thing they've done and it goes into this little detail, which is the atoms way of good or atoms way of evil, because the person who believes in accountability is going to even watch those small deeds upon the small deeds. And this is what the gaffer will say, Amen.
Okay, good. The capitals a yarmulke Yama Marley habit kita. What's with this book of deeds of mine, la Johan de la so he rotten? Well, I KB rotten in LA saw her. It didn't leave out a single thing with a small or large except it's archived preserved. Small things, my dear brothers, if the small deeds are going to be magnified on that day, examine the small stuff that's in the big stuff. Imagine the major sins.
So therefore, belief in accountability, it makes you aware and it gives you It puts you on guard for not just big deeds, but small deeds. And that's the beauty of zela starting with a big event, and then it ends with small things upon the big and small in it. Usually when there's an earthquake, what do people do? They grab that which is valuable and big and important. Yeah, maybe family, friends, maybe a laptop, or small things true. Small Things are usually deemed unimportant or you don't even see them. Or they're not valuable. But on that day, the ultimate earthquake, even the small things,
or a soda salt is
one of there's a lot to say about this. But because it's hard, it doesn't only deal with the last day, we'll move on.
the fact that my dear brothers you will see, you'll see all your deeds, even the small What does that show you?
Remember how we said every person every human is between a lost father and other? What's fun and what's added Shabaab
year, bounty and grace, very good.
In other words, you're between Allah's bounty and mercy,
his father, and the other which is
Every human, when Allah blesses you with something that's from his father, when Allah punishes you for something, it's always added. If you end up in Hellfire, it's from what was added, he can do what he wants, I thought of his other and if Allah gives you john Nash from his father, so on the Day of Judgment, everyone will see the good and bad and that's from a loss for them and others. So how is a loss for them because allows will rip you off of your good deeds, you're going to see them you're going to see your good deeds from a young man with finer rot in high euro euro, the higher you will see. And you also see the deeds that Allah multiplied for you that's out of his mercy. So
you'll see the lock but I did that on what gave me I 700 times a reward. Allah accepted that a little further.
Allahu Akbar I thought of a lot further leaves multiply, you see it. So in other words,
Elena Mojave in exactly the to Hawaii. He said every bill every person is between a lot further than others. So you can apply that with everything that allows we are done with his actions and attributes.
So you weren't on the dev doesn't just see the final result where you're gonna end up general Johanna, you're gonna see everything that leads up to that. Think of it like when you get a bank statement, you see the credit and debit, credit, debit, you're gonna see that and I'm gonna say the total, where do you end up so the calf is gonna see as well, he's going to see his good and bad.
So my dear brothers that shows you don't underestimate any good deed just at the speed.
Thanks to Panama, you're going to see that thing, a lot more you're going to see and How heavy is the head? How heavy is La la la. So constantly as you can see the crew and that's what this hadith goes on to mention, if you look at the commentary, among the ways of speaking good is to mention the cruel law. So that's connected to the day of judgment to speak, highest speak goodness, there's no room, there's no time for sure. Is that time to backbite? Is that time to speak ill of people, there's no time to swear and curse Why?
Well, we're only harming ourselves. I'm not talking about the instances where it's allowed. We know those particular times we're just talking about the times when there's no need and it's sinful. There's no time we'll know a person who sins The only harming themselves they don't harm Allah, the harming their souls and of course, they harm others along with it. And that's what's called However, when you follow your however your lesson desires to Hawaii you fall a Twitter with our comes from however Yahoo in Arabic means to fall, you fall in this world, and then you fall in the hereafter in the hair we are as Raka here, the fires called where we are. Because when you follow your however
you fall into the heavier, so you have to connected. That's what happens when we see.
And this also shows you the added level of the cafe is going to see the good and bad is going to see that what she did was good he's gonna see it. But of course, the fact that he has Cofer on his list that multiplies all of his deeds by zero.
When you multiply any number by zero, what do you get? Zero.
Alone multiplies the deeds of both a believer multiplies it. Yeah, it gives him extra and he multiplies the deeds of the cafard by zero. Because if Allah makes all your DS nonlymphoid, they are rewarded in Estonia.
But that shows you his other. Why?
Because he's going to see the evidences against him. A lot has been gathering evidence, literally a lot of records, everything. It's gathering evidence against the gafford. So he's going to see it. Imagine a lot of credit the cafr through mental fire, what did I do, but the fact that law allows him to play it out, you're going to see it, therefore you played it out, you done it, you're going to witness that. So Panama. And this also shows you the justice in the court of Alaska with an ultimate justice, that you will see the evidence against you. Unlike the so called Supreme Court of the toilet today. We are believing brothers and sisters are locked up for years on end without
seeing any evidence. The evidence does not see the light of day, why it's confidential, or its sensitive material, we can show you that I show you anything. You don't see it. But Alan's justice does. You have to show us he doesn't have to show us a thing. A lot enough to show us anything, but he does out of his other. How amazing is the laws of Israel, how just is a law, he doesn't have to show anything, he can just do what he wants. He's the Master of the Universe, yet he shows even the gaffer who's going to end up in hell for anyone who shows them.
Like, that's amazing.
And what's also amazing is that today, even in courtrooms even in courtrooms the terminology that they use in a court of law, sometimes it's very complex, it's very detailed, and very formal. And you don't understand the terminology they use in court, you don't understand.
But on the Day of Judgment, which is ultimate court day, you want to see your deeds, you understand how from the word yellow, deployed. From a young man with quite a lot of inhaler era, you will see it there's other words for that in Arabic, there's Shahada to see there's upside or to see, there's another ILA is to see all of these other words, what's the difference? Right here, this is where the word era came from. Raja Raja means to see literally and to see metaphorically. It's like in English, you can see something I can see you know, sitting, but you can say, I see. Meaning, I understand.
So that's what Yamaha means. That's what it is, is to see literally and to see metaphorically. So the gaffer and the believer, they will see the deeds and they will see they'll say, I see. I understand I stuff I will see you know, understand. That's the beauty captured in that word yellows panel, as opposed to the courts of today. Sometimes you go to court you don't understand why there are brothers are locked up. They don't know why. Well, I don't understand what's going on. So.
So this is the ultimate justice of Allah as opposed to the injustice of the
law, but everyone will speak in a way that they need they will be able to communicate and they will
understand everything. So that would understand your indicator to understand.
So alcohol and that's maybe it doesn't really benefit us.
There's no real action that's built on that type of knowledge doesn't really do anything for our action. So
as you can see, so Pamela, how important is the last day? So when you know that and you ingrain that in you? What is that dude that makes you speak good or mentor and makes you honor your neighbor, even if it's a gift and makes you honor your guest. In other words, it's going to make you get out of your way to do good, and it's going to make a godly way to avoid evil. That's why see the wisdom of the profilers that Saddam Hussein said he believes in a lot in the last day, he could have just said speaker to remain silent, true. Sometimes we just say that he speak good, please, bro, or mentor, and I'll just be quiet as long we just say it. But look at the wisdom of the property. So
slumming goes out of his way, he sought some to mention the last day as a reason behind them. So let's look at this. Now what does it mean to speak good. There's two parts of this.
Speaking good, this highlight is two parts to it. But before we take that
the word hide in Arabic.
is translated as goodness. But it means more than this. Because you could have said Falco, Falco, Falco, Falco, Jo, Jo, de, and Jordan, and Hassan. These are other words for goodness. Now higher in Arabic is connected to cinema.
And he literally means the cream of the crop, you say an MBA to nurse, the profits are the cream of the crop. They are the elite of the people the best the top, that's what healing means. The top, the cream, the elite? And why do they relate? Because I share letters hot and hot? Well, yeah.
These are the same letters that are sharing between these two words.
In other words, in other words, it's not just to speak goodness, it's to speak the best. Speak the cream of the crop. Choose the best words that you can not just good words, you can have mediocre words, but choose the best words. And it's connected to the word in Arabic.
And what is the correct to select to choose? Once again because this was the art contained hot? Yeah. So it's the select the best of the best of your words. That's what the profile is telling you. He's not just saying speak good. Choose the best ones, the best ones.
So he's showing you be the best even when it comes to speaking
solo and have some amazing advice. So what is this choosing the best of words and the cream of the crop? What does that mean is of two parts. Phil McAllen FC he won Filmora dB, two parts in the word itself make that the best make that the elites, but not just that the intent of the word and Mossad, the objective, why are you saying it to get to something good and noble as well?
In other words, Phil McCauley nuptse. He, the word itself should be good. Yes.
The good word literally in of itself.
But sometimes the person may say something which is permissible or it's good. It's not how long? It's good and of itself, but their intended meanings are evil. So sometimes this happens a person will say something in a gathering and he's referring to a brother we all know is referring to a brother and he says, Okay, why do you have to expose the brother like I didn't mention his name, bro. What What did I say? What did I say? Was it wrong?
The point is, the point is that it's not necessarily just the word it's Murat, Alomar and morado be the intent behind this
film upon now is McCall. So Mahal and Murat.
makaan is the word itself another word for cold
and the intent is a mirage
or maksud. Also, rather toxic or Maqsood rather
than what you intended.
So if you remember in sort of gerat, one of the Sahaba said to another
falana, the son of a woman that isn't everyone the son of a woman, You're the son of your mother, so everyone's a son of a woman, but that has an evil intention behind it, meaning you're a child of Zener. So therefore that word wasn't wrong wasn't bad, but the intent was bad. So as you can see, it's two parts. Now the LMS said however, however, at times
times, the word itself may not be good, but you're using a good intention. Therefore, this falls in the Hadith. As I've already given the example, there's an awkward silence in the room. So you might mention something just to break the ice just to lighten up the mood, even though what you're saying is not Victrola. It's not false and doesn't fall under Hadeeth or area. But just saying just to lighten the mood, that's okay. That falls in this hadith as even Arthur Mian mentioned. So you can just ask about the weather, you can just ask about a person's day. This is also intended in the meaning. So therefore, sometimes people say, if you have nothing good to say, it's not beneficial,
then don't speak at all, not at times you can speak even though there may not be a hadith or ayah, or something that you're benefiting in dunya or Deen doesn't have to always be the case. But there are limits it this is where what that people are saying holds truth, that if there's no consequences, meaning
you're sitting there in that room, and there's no awkward silence, and you're just talking for the sake of it and rubbish talking just just nonsense, or just talking. The only things that aren't beneficial, but they're not evil at the same time, you're just talking for the sake of it. That's blameworthy. Let's blame it. So it has to have one of these two, in other words, has to have one of these two, you either have a good word or if it doesn't have that at least make sure the intent behind is good. You're speaking for a noble reason. In other words, my dear brothers lesson we can learn is
a meaningful silence is better than meaningless words.
meaningful silence is better than meaningless words, and speak only when your words are more beautiful than your silence. So think of it like default, you should remain silent.
And that's when you speak when there's benefit there, as their element would say for inner circle in cannel, qalamoun fitball. For inner sakuta mean that if silence was from, if words are from silver, then silence is golden, beautiful phrase and beautiful prayer from the Arabs.
the tongue How much does it weigh? If you were to put it and measure it? A kilo? Much less. The tongue weighs practically nothing, but very few people can hold it. So aloha mustard, you're not going to mention some of the ways we can speak good. It goes on to mention not backbiting.
Not passing on. Rumors. I heard this, I heard that that's also false. Because the profile is circular. Moses said it's enough of a sin to relate and narrate everything you hear, or did you hit lettuce cos Did you see what's on Facebook Did you everything you read everything you see everything you hear, that's enough of a sin. That's another reason we shouldn't do that. So therefore it's better to just remain silent even though what you saw may have had some consequences but let's not spread it further in the oma so spread it in the room. So it goes on to mention that but there's a CLI which we all know so I'll leave that to you and reading let's look at now the next part of the
Hadith whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day let him go to his neighbor.
Love iteration let him not harm his neighbor. So that means at best be good to neighbor and at least don't harm your neighbor
the don't hand them back because you only have principles and although you can at times take your right but be better than that be burden. So if they are harming you like my neighbor, for example, he used to always put in his wife's chores, put them up over on our feet and all their filth used to fall into my yard so it's harming me so what am I going to do the same I went over and spoke to them I said Please don't do this and they stopped. So you know we don't always have to have my heart bro. We don't always have to you know blow up so we take the Hadith laptop, we're gonna take that I think next next week yeah. So there are ways on how you can stand up for your rights without exploding. So
even if they are harmful to you, okay we have also we have principles we are we are classy, they are classless. So we have we have etiquettes so therefore it uses etiquette and if you are expecting everyone to treat you the way you want you are asking for the impossible. People are gonna stop you around expected because Allah said this
either caught up a woman Jaden so either when it's gonna happen now if it happens when it happens expected for a bad man in the name of the owner. What either horrible Jaden, it's gonna happen unexpected. Expect the ignoramuses, right? That's not a word, but we use
so what does this mean be good to a neighbor.
So, here, firstly, who is the neighbor? Who is the neighbor?
Opposite left right behind who is the neighbor? There is a hadith that says 40 houses from each direction.
in the time of the Prophet Allah Switzerland, of course, this was our
A small distance but today 40 houses in every direction, it's a whole state. And probably, it's a whole suburb, right? It's huge. So therefore, therefore, it cannot have a mean said this Hadees might have some weakness to it
might have some weakness to it. So
it's if this hadith is life, which it seems, then we go back to a lot of which is the custom, custom. So, customarily, who do you consider your neighbor in Sydney? Personally, I think my neighbor would be the one who directly above a front sorry, directly to my right left and maybe the back and it depends even how you live you might live in a townhouse or a flat so as you can see, according to your custom, what do you consider the neighbor that's the neighbor so therefore this hadith there is some some other elements that it's weak so therefore even though I say men and law scholars said we go back to the custom of the people so your neighbor is the according to you what
you think according to your customer, and therefore it shows you mighty brothers
alone from whatever Islam you have a Shara, the scholar said custom the custom of the people is considered as long as it doesn't go against the Sharia and assemble the say Islam came to wipe out all customs every single custom because Georgia Hillier no Islam came to just wipe out the customs of their helia which were evil,
not the good customs. So there are good customs among the Arabs, among the customs of the Arabs was to honor the neighbor, sir, and to honor the guests. That was a custom among the Arabs. So Islam came to build on that so much so that the Prophet mentioned in the Hadith, but when there's a bad custom, like the Hubli bubbly, or the Gila, that's a bad custom. So therefore, that's what Islam came to remove. Of course, it's not as if Islam came to wipe out all customs
matava now allowed from October, it's considered it let me holla for shadow, as long as it doesn't oppose the Sharia. So if a customer poses the Sharia, like we said, the hubballi bubbly at a gala that opposes the Sharia is not considered. But if it doesn't oppose the Sharia at all. And it's considered it's taken into consideration. In other words, what traveling you find the Hadith a traveler is this distance, really the traveler? What's the distance for the traveler what you consider to be travel? So if you're traveling? Do you consider yourself a traveler or not? So for example, leaving Sydney to Melbourne, is that travel? Yeah, it is. We all know that's clearly
travel. When you're going to Melbourne you're traveling. What about what about when?
Some brothers say no, some brothers say yes. So some brothers to them. It's a it's a hike to along, maybe they don't have a car. You see, to them to go by bike or to go by walking, whatever, that's a hike and a half. Or some brother may live at the furthest end of Sydney. But to me personally, it's not I consider other considered travel for me. But some people do. Therefore we see how the difference, it goes back to the customer at the end of the day.
So that's the neighbor. So if they are harming you, then go about it in a nice way. Don't try to blow the situation and proportion.
Now, you might ask how do I honor the neighbor? Once again, as I mentioned, this is connected. We've already discussed that what's the killer? It's not specified good. It's open. In other words, honor your neighbor according to your abilities, what you can afford and what is according to your custom. That's how you honor your neighbor. So for example, the Arab overseas, it's among the custom to when you cook a dish, you send some next door. Yeah, but you do that here. You know, one sister, she started to do it when she came from overseas and her neighbor was, you know, an Aussie man and he Australia man who lives on his own. You know, a week later he came to us, please stop, stop
It was too much. So that was actually this month, because from the Australian medicals to do that, right? But so it's according to the customs. So you also got to look at the neighbor. How are they customs? So the pins, for example, it could be it's not just food and drink. There's other things. Other things. For example, you may be lowering your lawn
mowing the lawn. You may be mowing the lawn.
I don't know what I said. It's been a long day. I've been teaching since the morning. And then Labib mohalla
got me together, AWS, which I love, by the way.
And by the way, doesn't necessarily mean
just making dumb I love listening to us is a good way. So I mean, yeah, so anyway, when you are mowing the lawn, and there's a section for example, that's really like going into your yard and it's for the neighbor, you just do it for him anyway. And this is sometimes it's it's customarily among the neighbors that they do that they just when it's their turn, they'll also mow your lawn and when it's your turn you also mow their lawn or sometimes you find you take out the rubbish and the neighbor hasn't done that and the trucks coming. You'll take it out for him. So these are all just examples. It's according to the customer.
than just be good to neighbor and what if every Muslim was like that how many people would accept Islam? We just good to our neighbors be good to neighbor, you might when you move in if anyone's moving recently when you move in, take something take some cake and say look, I'm your neighbor I just want to let you know hey you guys and token of my appreciation for example.
Whatever Yeah, exactly who Okay, who's meant to do that it's according to the custom that whatever the custom dictates. And finally, goodness to the guests want to take this next week so we don't go into Quran.
Just take it now. They can now finish it. Okay. The Hadith finally goes on to mention whoever believes in on the last day Let him be good to his guests as well. Your guest now
who is the guest, the one who visits you islamically is a guest. Anyone who visits whether they invited or not. uninvited guests are still guests. Now he didn't even call me bro. I'm opening the door. He's a guest. Anyone who visits is a guest. In other words, even workman electrician, the plumber they coming to work they are visiting your house. They are considered guests so therefore honor them. The guy sweating working hard think I'm going to get my money's worth out of this book. Now give him some drink, give him some water say look have a break. If you know furnished furniture removalist for example, so someone who's visiting you, someone who's visiting you, they've come over
have come over they are considered a guest a guest
so you should honor them now how do you honor them? This is important. How do you honor them
try to give them the best of what you have according to means
not give them the best given your best because some people don't have the best they have poor so they are poor. Like when I was in Egypt I ate at the Bob's house the bob was the dominant we don't have really dominant here so it's very hard to imagine unless you go overseas and you see it they're not just door men where they open the door they actually live literally underneath the building with their family and they if you need anything they just do it for you want some shopping wants a milk they they do your that you do dirty with basically you got some laundry and they live very poor upon Allah. And he invited me the ball web and out of you know, common courtesy, I accepted his
invitation and he invited me to see and Sao Paulo The house was very bad. You know, very, very bad. Very bad standards just submit as the house to cement. And, you know, barely a rug to sit on. And the stove oven was like wasn't even a stove. It was just like some you know, what are they those those bottles of gas? Well, they called?
Yeah, the kerosene bottles that that was the that was the stove. It was very poor conditions. But that was an he really went out of his way to anime as Apollo v that's honoring the guest. He believes in a lot in the last day. It's not about you know, I want the best food bro. No, no, no. You gave me no frills. Maybe no frills was his best.
He gave me black and gold from IGA.
Sorry, man. That's the him the best esteem the best. Right? So let's not look down on people. So for them, they're the best. So are they going out of their way. But if you know, you know you got something cheap, and you got something good. And you deliberately give them the cheap stuff, or I'll give them the open bottle less fees. I want to
give them the vests so we know what it means. Give them your best doesn't have to necessarily be the best. You see the difference? Your personal best? Your PB right? That's what you should do. So I put him on Instagram did when he got the angels? Who were they? There were guests because I visited him. The angels were guests. What did he do? He went and got them the best the best animal is slaughtered. And notice. He didn't even ask them. He said would you like to eat roast chicken, beef?
or lamb? I said don't even ask your guests just give them this is another etiquette you can add to this list that does not ask just give a clean home.
There are elements LMS if you are going to ask you'd ask something like, Would you like something cold or hot to drink? They say that's a question you'd ask. Because if you say would you like some tea? why they're gonna say no thank you out of shyness. See? So therefore it's better not to ask, just give. But if you are going to ask them we'd like to coffee. That's something you would ask. So these are some of the etiquettes or LMS said about honoring the guest. Also another couple of issues about the guest.
Who do you start with? If everyone is seated and arranged you start with the rights. This is according to the Hadith, so it's not just the customer of the Arabs, shoo, shoo, shoo, shoo, shoo doing so starting with ibotta abishola Nana, it's not just the customer of the Arabs. This is actually a Hadith of the Prophet Allah so slam would start with the right he would offer to the right. As I showed you an asset the profile is what some would would prefer in favor the right his right hand and right in all noble things. However, if the people aren't seated and gathered in a way where it's arranged, they're just all over the place. They're just scattered like for example, I
Rafa, you start with the eldest start with the eldest. Once the profile is so slim said to one of the Sahaba Kabir Kabir Eonni, start with the Kabir the eldest because you wanted to give him a sweat sweat to someone is a gerbil meaning start with the Kabir the eldest. And this is part of honoring Allah.
In them in Egypt, Allah tala ikoma the shea butter, Muslim, authentic narration, whoever wants to honor Allah, you honor the one with white hair meaning the older person. So go kiss his head, you find it comes into the room nowhere to sit. Think who is this guy gonna sit man? No, you give him your seat. You give him your seat. This is how we honor the elder
shaped seating arrangement and your parents sitting in the middle.
So good question.
Okay, here it'll depend.
Here will depend on your culture and open on one two, on the custom because it depends among the Arabs or the Bengalis or the Pakistanis. It's different. So a lot of alum on how it is for each culture. But you will do it in a way we don't cause fitna so among the Arabs, if you don't start on the right, we're gonna start with the elders in the room or the chef or your parents, that is considered rude. So therefore, in that case, where is a conflict, you do it, the Sharia doesn't want you to cause conflict. So you do that in a way. You do that in a way that minimizes that conflict. If you can do according to the sooner that doesn't cause conflict, excellent. But if it is, if it
is, at the end of the day, this is something which is so not so something which is followed in the sense when we say so now, meaning optional. That is good, but it's not fun. But you should do it like this. But remember, it goes back to the custom because the profile is so slim kept open, he said, honor, do it in the way that honoring the people.
Now finally, manners of the visitor, so we looked at you hosting someone, but what about someone's hosting you? Quickly, some manners haven't got any tissues?
So when visiting, what do you do? Now? It's customarily today to call beforehand? Yeah. This is what we usually do. You know, to just rock up is not really the best way to approach visiting someone you know, and ring the doorbell that open he got the wife and kids everywhere. It can be hidden visit, right? So call beforehand, give them some time to clean up. Because as we all know, everyone cleans up when the doorbell rings. Yeah, you're right at the best cleaning you do ever when someone comes, so give them some time. Call beforehand. Also, when you arrive, don't arrive too early or too late. Okay.
Not too early to still cooking for example, it's uncomfortable. Firstly, with me, it's very difficult to arrive an hour early. In a nothing's ready and you're not even dressed. And then the house is like a bomb. The point is, don't arrive too early to your visitors. As visiting sorry, don't arrive too early when visiting done or off too late either. Let's say seven, maybe 710 715. But you know, nine o'clock and the food's all cold. Now you're leaving the people waiting for two hours. That's overdone.
Number three, when you get to the house, knock three times. We all know this. This is from the sooner
but not just that. Not just that.
If they asked who it is, you should say your name. This is actually a hadith profile Islam said say your name Don't say I say Anna Lola say, me. It's me. It's me. No, no, no, say your name. Your name. So power line is wisdom behind that because someone could say me and that person behind the things are sounds familiar another person that open it's not there. It's not them. It could be a stranger might be non Muslim. Whatever the case me. So you're not three times but you say your name when asked? You say your name when asked.
Now, when you not what else do you do? If you asked when you knock you turn away? This is from etiquettes not necessarily from a hobbyist, but this is something of scholars dimension now. So I've been mentioning things from the Hadith, but also things that the scholars mentioned. So turn away. Why? Because sometimes someone like a child may open the door. And if you're knocking and you see that in the gawking, you're gonna see something that you're not supposed to, because sometimes kids open the door, so you don't knock and just wait, wait, wait. So therefore it's from etiquettes to knock and turn away. And I experienced this in Egypt upon line. I learned that from there when
someone would knock and I'll look through the whole casino What's going on? They have not been run here in Egypt. And I think so they don't know that. And I wouldn't say anyone because actually, we didn't just turn away they went around the corner.
They don't want to see something. So yeah, look at the other so turn away you may see something, whether intentionally or unintentionally but there's wisdom behind that.
If you do happen to arrive uninvited then maybe ask Is this a good time? Or in fact, even if you arrive as an invited Yes, so when you arrive ask Is this a good time as among the etiquettes You can also write down
now when you enter, don't ask personal questions. Don't be a busybody, as we normally do slamming matar kumala yani, don't be nosy.
So sometimes people walk in, and they're looking around and checking out everything.
Mr. Buchi? How do you for this place? The checking everything, right?
Some people do that. Don't be a busybody that you know, are nosy. So don't look around too much. And don't ask too many personalized question, but how can you afford that on your salary?
Okay, maybe it was a gift. We don't know.
Okay, very good. That was the next point. You asked a lot to bless the house. So if you say something nice ask a lot to bless it. I Batticaloa cam, Allah bless this female bless your beautiful home. So that's, that's part of complementing. So you ask a lot of Blissett. And you can compliment and in fact, this is a great way to capture people's hearts is to compliment them. But not praised. There's a big difference. You can praise someone you're so knowledgeable brother, but you can compliment them on muscle on it's a nice perfume we've gone for example, with people when they they in a dress up, you know when you come over or when they fix the house. They're doing it for you. So
therefore together your way to notice that and say, you know, I really appreciate, you know the food and this is actually a good thing. And this is what Mohammed ALLAH hafiz Allah mentions in his book. Don't be sad. It's a very good book on how to give down. And he mentioned all of these beautiful points, you must buy this book, if you if you are. If you are involved in Dawa, and you want to know how to capture people's hearts. He's got all of these very good points and they're very brief on how to win people's hearts among them is to remember the name. Remember people's names? And also to to compliment but not praise the difference?
Yes, correct. Oh, sorry. So this book by Muhammad Ali fee is estimated by hieratic enjoy your life that I said don't be sad. Sorry. I meant enjoy your life.
Also, don't stay too long.
No, don't ever welcome your stay. Always overstay Your welcome. Which one? Is it? Yeah. Don't overstay Your welcome. Stay to Long Island, I would say in zorica.
consortia first off if if you visit, then keep it brief.
Sometimes people ask you because it's just out of custom. It's like the Arabs have a total total meaning Come in Come in. They don't really mean it.
Okay, what are you doing?
That's right. Yeah. This short leave it on us, especially in Egypt has happened a lot. And Elena. They're just saying it as word. So you have to judge according to the situation. So in Egypt, Holly Elena live in a last minute will pay for it. Okay. You woke up? No, it's not. Okay. I did that with one guy.
Because when I first arrived in Egypt, you have to get used to the etiquettes. He said Ali Elena live on us meaning Don't worry. I'll give it to you for free. Okay, just like Hello, Hayden. And also because oh, are we going
to lie at the baker will lay the brothers with it.
Because all the students doing a tough you know, so the point is, it depends. Sometimes people are meaner. If you're close with them, they'll say please stay and you can you got that relationship. But sometimes people say, you gotta judge. But this is as a general rule. Sometimes you can, of course, stay. But you have to be careful because you have to remember, people have lives as well.
You have to remember people have kids that have to wake up early enough to go to bed as well. So especially when you visit with your kids, and you're visiting people with kids, when you have kids, you realize that
you really want to get kids you brothers with kids know this. Once you get kids and people stay too long. It's very hard because
what is it? What is it?
Yeah, well, I and that's why ever since I've got kids, I hardly get visitors. I don't give visitors because it's very difficult. You know, and and it's all the cleaning up after and putting the kids to bed. So we have to you have to put yourself in other people's shoes. But of course sometimes Yes, you can stay in depending on the situation. That's why it goes back to the custom. So how long do you stay question according to the custom. So I personally with me, just so you know, I like to visit maybe for 40 minutes. You know, I like to just keep it short and sweet. Why? Because it makes them want to invite you again. maybe an hour, but it makes you money.
want to invite you again but if you stay for five hours till two in the morning and it happens, then I think and I won't know why I'm not avoiding uploading ever. He killed me that time. two in the morning he kept talking and didn't want to stop so you leave bad impressions. So ask allows us to make us among those who that have amazing character
with the creator and with the creation, amen. So Chronicle lahoma