Ramadan 2016 – Save Yourself Series – 26
Channel: Mufti Menk
Series: Mufti Menk - Ramadan 2016
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This lecture starts with rules and regulations concerning morality. One of which is rules guarding against accusing chaste women of fornication and adultery, this is a great sin in front of Allah and which we have to be very careful about because it is now common in the society.
Another crucial point in this episode is seeking permission before entering another person’s house and turning back when you are not welcome; learn to give people space. Those who have high rank should not swear an oath that they will not help those who are relative, poor etc. just because they have wronged them because there is peace in forgiving others. Cover your beauty and lower your gaze to save yourself from hell.
Ramadan 1437H 2016 from Bosmont Masjid in Johannesburg, South Africa, Episode 26
Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala Most Gracious, Most Merciful. Al hamdu lillahi wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was happy as we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household, all his companions, may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless them all, and bless every single one of us. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive our shortcomings, except the few deeds that we have done. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us Gentlemen, I mean, my beloved brothers and sisters who want to know is a surah that is named after the light and noon. And in the surah. There are many
rules and regulations regarding morality. Allah subhanho wa Taala opens the sutras by making mention of the sin of adultery and fornication. and thereafter Allah makes mention of a sin that is even worse than that, and that is to accuse someone who is innocent of the sin of adultery or fornication. Verse number 23, of this particular surah Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of people who have committed a very grave crime, those who have earned the anger of Allah subhanho wa Taala those who will be considered liars in not only in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala. But even for us, those who have accused someone else of committing immorality, when they don't have the
witnesses, they have not brought forth shery evidence that which is acceptable in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala for brilliant eyewitnesses to come forth and say this is what happened Allah subhanho wa Taala says, those are criminals. Those are people you should never believe anything they say, not at all, nothing, even if they are telling you the truth. In something else, you accept it because of the statement being made from someone else, but not from them. Imagine how bad that crime is. So Allah says they will then be known as liars. Listen to the verse number 23. Allah says, in Medina Muna masana. In fact, before that, verse number four, right at the beginning, Allah says,
When Latina moon Alma Sana t those who accused the innocent females, those who accuse the women who are chaste, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, from Allah Mia to be our back.
Then they don't come with four witnesses. If they've accused a woman and they don't come with four witnesses, then what happens? Allah subhanho wa Taala says Virgili to whom
they need to be punished
at lashes because they have come with a crime. And obviously this is under an Islamic court. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says,
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don't ever accept from them, any witness that they bet after that, never once it is proven that they were liars, and they had lied about somebody honor and dignity, then don't ever believe a story from them never. Allah says we're all
those are the ones who are sinners, to accuse people. So protect yourselves my brothers and sisters, not only from sinning in a different way, but from this particular sin where a lot of us think it's like to accuse people you know, these people are having an affair. Those people are like this, that one's had an illegitimate child. The other one this the other one that the morality, dignity and honor of a believer is very, very sacred May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deep understanding. So Allah says, Elon Lavina turbo mubadala, Nikola Tesla.
There is an exception being made of those who have repented after that, and they have made amends Allah subhanho wa Taala says, definitely Allah is most forgiving, Most Merciful. Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. The previous verse I was speaking about verse number 23, Allah subhanho wa Taala says in
Mena dunia will feel, wala Hamada Bonami indeed those who accuse of adultery or fornication or immorality, those chaste believing women who are innocent of it, Allah says they will be cursed by Allah subhanho wa Taala in this world and the next and for them will be a great punishment. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us really the reason I make mention of this with so much passion is because we say these statements sometimes considering it you
Simple, it's just gossip and people just get a kick out of talking about others. Be careful my brothers and sisters, the curse of Allah subhanho wa Taala can overtake a person just by them spreading rumor about another person. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about the accusation of our mother is
the purest of the pure form amongst the women whom Allah subhanho wa Taala has clarified her purity in the Quran. And Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about how people had created a tale about her. They accused her of the villa, I won't go into the story, but I want to draw from it the lessons Allah says verse number 11. In Aladdin,
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from those who have come with the false accusation of immorality against you from amongst you, they are from amongst you don't think that it is bad for you? It is in fact better for you. Wow. How can it be better for us? People are spreading accusations about us, about you about me about anyone else. How on earth can that be good for us? Allah says, Don't worry, it's better for you for as long as that is false. Obviously, in our case, if it is the truth, you need to be worried. But if it is false, you need to know that that is the best thing that could have happened perhaps Allah is elevating your status, you will go through the patience and the forbearance for the sake of Allah
subhanho wa Taala the support that you will bear, Allah will reward you for it another thing, any good deeds that they have, you will be getting them for free. Allahu Akbar, you will be getting them for free. And Allah subhanho wa Taala will clarify your name and your status when he knows that time is correct. Sometimes that will only be in the hereafter imagine because you are patient, you are a clean person. People spread accusations about you of any sort, any nature, they hurt you they harm you, but you carried on for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala suddenly, because you were patient, on the day of judgment, Allah calls you out. And Allah says for you is going to be a special place
on this day. Imagine when others are to witness that. And they are to wonder, what was the deed You did? I was just patient people spread a lot of rumor about me, but I was patient. My brothers and sisters, this is a beautiful verse, He teaches us restraint and the beauty of practicing supper and the reward of it. But my brothers and sisters, the biggest lesson of all, be careful not to spread rumor about others, save yourself from the punishment. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala safeguard us. And Allah says regarding the categories of people who heard the rumors, you know, number one is the person who created the tail. He's a criminal. He's a disaster. But secondly, those who received the
tail, they fell into several categories one, those who refuse to even listen. Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of this. Allah subhanho wa Taala says in verse number 16, Walla Walla, it's ammirato mucho una
llamada, Suba. Hanukkah, boo has done all the there was a category of people and later Allah makes mention of the same the believers should have when they heard the speech said immediately that no way we should not be uttering these words. We should not be spoiling our tongues with such words against fellow believers especially I shall never miss your tongue, by speaking derogatory about Asia, in particular, and the other companions of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam followed by the rest of the believers, because Allah subhanho wa Taala says, true believers are those whose tongues are saved and protected from speaking evil about the companions of Muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wasallam if you hear someone bad mouthing the companions of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam Voila. He they can never ever call themselves true believers. Allah subhanho wa Taala warns us immediately the true believers should be saying Subhana kochava bows down on it. You no Glory be to Allah Praise be to Allah subhanho wa Taala this is indeed a fabrication it is a slander against these people. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us and guide us imagine if we were to be speaking bad about the companions of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam those who were chosen by Allah subhanho wa Taala to be in his company, then what would happen to the rest of the team? How did it get to us?
It is those who want to cancel and delete Islam that make people believe that the companions were not good, so that they can introduce into the deen that which was not there, may Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us and forgive them.
And may Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us all. So my brothers and sisters Allah says wisdom
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the news that was actually received and relayed by the tongues. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, You have spoken with your mouth that which you do not have knowledge and you think it is something minor. You think it is a small matter but in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala it is absolutely major It is something very big.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala safeguard that sometimes we are facing destruction in our lives, because we have forwarded a WhatsApp message because we have liked a post on Facebook because perhaps we have said something because we have made an utterance because perhaps we have spoken on the phone while we were laughing and joking. accusing an innocent person and your life is turned upside down and you don't know why am I sick? Why am I struggling in business? Why am Why is this going wrong in my family? Why is my marriage now in trouble? Why am I not happy? Why am I not content? It's because sometimes have one statement? Something you did you accuse someone you spoke bad about someone Be
careful, save yourself a lot of us are suffering struggling and we are searching for the solutions of that particular struggle or those sufferings in a different direction altogether. When Allah subhanho wa Taala clearly tells us that these are the type of things that will actually destroy your life, this world and the next May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us listen to verse number 19 in alladhina
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la Hamada le movie dunya. Iran, those who love to spread tales of immorality or who love to spread immorality itself among the believing males and females, for them will be a severe punishment in this world and the next. So safeguard your tongues my brothers and sisters, it's not worth it. Not at all. rather think best about others than to mess your tongue with that which is hurtful, untrue, incorrect slander, and it will result in our own downfall. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. So this is why Allah says those who love to spread tales of immorality, you see the term alpha means immorality. When you spread immorality, people who encourage others to be immoral, you forwarded a
pornographic clip to someone else on WhatsApp, for example.
And you didn't realize that was forwarded to 24,000 people as a result, and you are busy sitting saying Oh Allah, forgive me. People are enjoying the sin that you encourage them to watch stuff, Allah and you are busy asking Allah subhanho wa Taala to guide you. And you haven't even thought that what you did was wrong. One of the conditions of seeking forgiveness is to admit your error. Allahu Akbar, we didn't think it was wrong. We just forward it. What was it? Come on? Don't you laugh? Sometimes? Can you take a joke? Or Oh Billa? What type of a joke if it's something sinful, you're not supposed to be joking about it.
You don't joke about sinful matters. My brothers and sisters, I cannot send a nude image and claim that it's just a joke. I'm laughing laugh at it. Please. No, it is bad. It is wrong. It can result in our downfall. Allah is saying when you spread immorality among believing males and females dropping the level of morality between them, then you should know you are a person whom Allah has cursed. And Allah says you will serve you will taste severe punishment in this world and the next. So therefore my brothers and sisters, let's become a little bit more careful about this. Let's seek Allah's forgiveness. Oh Allah forgive us. And let's become a little bit more conscious about what we
say what we do what we utter. May Allah Subhana Allah Allah grant us ease. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us.
Thereafter, Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of seeking permission before you enter someone else's house. It's very interesting because Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions these etiquettes in order to know and in fact, they sometimes would be such that we wouldn't realize that Allah has given us the right to do certain things. So Allah says, Oh you who believe when do not enter houses that are not yours until you make yourself known to them and you seek permission to enter to enter the house was number 27 of
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Oh you who believe. Do not enter homes that are not yours until you make yourself known until
Make your presence felt you would actually knock to receive all achieve that permission to enter before you enter the lesson that is better for you. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding the next verse, Allah says if there is no one in that house, it's not your house. Don't enter the house and guess what Allah says? Wa t La La como Ruggiero? Fujiko as gala calm. If you are told to go back, go back, it's better for you.
Imagine you go to someone's house, your friend's house, you knock on the door, they don't answer your knock on the door again, they still don't answer and then they tell you. Please go back come back later another time.
Nearly all of us would actually feel so bad. We might never go back to that house. Do you agree? We would feel bad. But Allah says it is the right of that person to tell you, you've come to my house at the wrong time and busy doing something you are going to disturb what is the point of going to someone's house while they were busy. They are now entertaining you and they've left what they were doing. And as a result, they are waiting for you to go I'd rather go when they want me to sit. When you visit people, my brothers and my sisters, what should I say my sisters and my brothers. When you visit people you need to know when to go and how long to sit for Allahu Akbar. You don't just go and
park there all night, and all day until people start giving you 20 different signs that they really need to go and you're still sitting No, you need to know when you go for a short period of time, you would be loved. I'd rather people think this man came for five minutes Let him come again. Oh, I'll bring him back. Then the next time if they see me and they would say no, not that guy again. He's gonna sit here for two hours slavery Allah May Allah forgive us. So Allah is telling us these rules in the Quran because they are extremely important. We take them for granted. I remember when I was young, I visited with my mom a certain house some of you might know the story. And we saw a sticker
on the door. And my mom she wasn't she didn't read English actually. So we told her that you know what it says on the on the sticker here. It says we are very happy at your arrival. But we will be even happier when you depart.
My brothers and sisters she never went back to that house. Although we tried to explain to her it was just a joke. Don't joke about things that would hurt people imagine someone telling you welcome welcome. But when you go Oh, I'm gonna have a party. But Allah subhanho wa Taala help us my brothers and sisters. The moral of it is you need to know when to go you need to announce you need to seek permission you need to make sure today we have the mobile phone Mashallah phone them message them ask for permission. What are you guys doing this Sunday? And please, when they tell you we going out for a picnic? Don't say we're joining No not at all. No way. Allah subhanho wa Taala for give us
give them their private time give them their time. You we want to avoid tension in the oma we want to avoid hatred amongst ourselves as families and so on. So consider the others give them their space, visit them short period of time Subhan Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease and goodness, you know nowadays just as well, many people are on the diet. So when they visit you they tell you look, I'm not going to be having anything the tea that you're offering me I don't want it so panela I'd rather just do with a little bit of water. And they really mean it. Because there was a time when people used to come and they park until the sun musasa out then they know now we're
welcome Allah subhanho wa Taala grant Huskies So, my brothers and sisters don't go there to expect something go for the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala the relationship that you have, you want to go in order to develop the beautiful relationship, this is what it is all about. And Allah subhanho wa Taala tells that to us in a beautiful way. I want to go back a few verses, you know the accusation against a shadow of the law, who was the daughter of a Baba Casa de la and as well as the wife of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the mother of the believers of the law and
at that time, there was a man who was spreading this rumor and he was a relative of Abu Bakr Siddiq, Allah when he was a poor man. His name was Mr. hypno Asahi, Allah Han and at the same time he was poor Abu Bakr Siddiq used to spend on him. He was related to them. He was a Mahajan. He admitted he john. So when the rumor was spread by him as well, Abu Bakr Siddiq Allahu anhu said, while la he I'm never going to spend on this man again, how could he do this? You know, a lot of us. You do good to someone. And when you hear that that particular person is spreading rumor about you, the minimum is you say, right, I'm cutting it. I don't need all this. But Allah subhanho wa Taala instructed Abu
Bakr Siddiq Allahu anhu regarding something beautiful, and Allah says those who are those who are available
Choose those who have been given virtue from Allah subhanho wa Taala. Those who have been given sustenance, those who have been given something from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And those who are granted a high rank by Allah subhanho wa Taala is known as alpha, for them is the virtue of Allah. It includes so many different aspects of life. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, they should not be swearing an oath that they are not going to spend on someone who is a relative who is poor, a person who has made hegira etc. Allah says, forgive and embrace, wouldn't you like a lot to forgive you? For Indeed Allah is most forgiving, Most Merciful. Verse number 22 and the verse after that. Allah
subhanho wa Taala says, one yard
Allah to him.
Me, you should forgive and you should embrace Wouldn't you like a lot to forgive you as a result of you having forgiven someone else? For Indeed Allah is most forgiving, Most Merciful? Brothers and sisters, these are the days of forgiveness, we know that.
Can you find it in your heart? To forgive those who have wronged you? Can you find it in your heart to forgive your relatives? Can you find it in your heart to forgive those who have perhaps done something against you, your family members, your friends, etc? If you can, you need to know there is a far greater chance that Allah will then forgive you. These are the verses verse number 2223 of surah. No, may Allah subhanho wa Taala help us many of us, we think to ourselves, no, I won't forgive them. But I know I will get the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Try it. You don't have to associate with him every day. Sometimes someone has wronged you. And they have wronged you
in a very bad way. Forgiveness does not mean you now need to go and park with them. So if we're using that word so many times tonight, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease but what I mean is you don't have to go and sit with them for so long. You don't have to go and interact with them in such an intimate way to say Oh, to prove that I forgiven you know, you have forgiven them from here. Salam aleikum. Wa Alaykum wa salam, there is nothing wrong in not wanting to have more than that to do with them. No problem but you forgiven them don't mix the two. One is to hold it in your heart. So you have nothing to do with them and you are so angry all the time, and you have a burden on your
shoulder. The other is to say oh, well, I make you bear witness that I've forgiven this person, I will greet them they will greet me back, but I don't want to have much to do with them thereafter because I don't want to be bitten again. Nothing wrong with that. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide so I was mentioning this because it's important for us to learn that Abu Bakr city
was being guided by Allah subhanho wa Taala and that guidance is for us all. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of an absolutely important point. Today we speak about hijab and people say Mashallah, you know how important hijab is across the globe, the hijab is being fought in some places where they want to ban it and they have banned it in some places. So Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks to us about hijab in Surah, two new and Allah subhanho wa Taala starts off by speaking about lowering the gaze. And can I surprise you?
Allah subhanho wa Taala instructs first the males to lower their gaze and then the females after that, the next verse speaks about the females. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says verse number 30 have sudo to know, Colin meaning I do mean Abbasali him why follow for Raja home, tell the believing males to lower their gazes and to protect their private paths protect their morality.
Subhan Allah, many men think the rules are only for the women, right? So the men, they say we can stay. And because they heard that, you know, the first look is okay. So you find you know, from the right corner all the way to the left, the brother is staring, and His eyes are so open, you know, so panorama, and you tell me what do you think say, give me the first one.
The first one. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. That's not what it is. The first one here refers to a glimpse that might have fallen as a result of you trying to look where you were walking or what you were doing, etc. So you happen to look and then you look down, that is called the first one. The first one is not when you follow it up with a complete solid look that follows it through our Billa Allah tells you here tell the believing males to lower their gazes and to protect their morality, chastity, and at the same time, protect their private parts. It's very clear these are the words used in the poem. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us protect ourselves. Then Allah says
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same instruction. After that to the females, let them lower their gazes and protect their private paths and let them not expose their beauty. Let them not expose their beauty. Whatever you consider beautiful from your body, learn to coverings Allahu Akbar. Go and say that sentence 10 times and then look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, when Allah says cover your beauty, what is beautiful la kabara Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us that's Allah, He says cover your beauty people argue and fight. So I tell them perhaps maybe you have uncovered something because it doesn't fall in this category. I need not say any more. May
Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, my brothers and sisters, let's understand this is the rule of Allah subhanho wa Taala. The problem was us and I'm going to say it as it is. We tend in our homes to dress up when we are going out when we are going to see others not realizing the man in this house is supposed to be the one that we dress for the one that we try to attract in such a way that he looks at us and he's like so hon Allah Oh Allah, I thank you for what you blessed me with Subhana Allah, but the difficulty is we will dress you know to the to Subhana Allah as we're leaving the home. So when husband comes back, you know what happens? We busy smelling of food, onions, fries,
etc. I remember once when I made mention of this, someone sent me an email saying well What should I do if my husband likes the food with onions and the fries and so on and so forth. I have a choice either I dress up and he brings a cook to cook the food or I cook and he has to make do with how he sees me May Allah forgive us. But my brothers I have a very important point that we take for granted. Did you know you two are supposed to dress up for your spouse. Many people speak about how important it is for the wife to dress up for the husband. nobody speaks about how important it is to look smart when you go home Mashallah look smart. You know you were on beautiful clothing when
you're going out you're guilty as well. Let's stop. You know only telling the women we need to be told as well. The wife looks at you and you know you're looking scruffy and fluffy May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease. But at the same time you need to be a person who looks such that when your wife looks at you, she appreciates to the gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala upon her so my brothers and sisters, after these verses of lowering the gaze and covering the beauty and protecting chastity, Allah subhanho wa Taala ends by saying
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in order for you to achieve success, repent all of you believers to Allah subhanho wa Taala so that you will be successful. You want success, keep repenting to Allah, ask Allah forgiveness, that is the way forward. Remember what I've told you this evening, if you were to adopt the goodness in it, you will definitely save yourself and your family members and the environment that you live in from a lot of tension.
A lot of problem a lot of sin as well. Imagine there are some people who don't like to leave the home because they are so happy with what they have inside the home. That's why the Hadith says the Hadith speaks of a Naja Naja meaning success. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam asked his companions Do you know what is success? He mentioned three things he says I'm literally center control your tongue. When the asaka bayto. And your house your home should be spacious enough for you that you don't need to leave it unnecessarily stay at home. That's the second thing. Third thing. A gala for the attic, cry cry when you've committed a sin cry over it. repent to Allah subhanho wa Taala so my
brothers and sisters these are beautiful words of advice. Absolutely amazing. I quickly want to make mention that tomorrow evening we will be having the final of these episodes in the month of Ramadan. And at the same time, I will not be completing the entire plan because the idea is to draw lessons from it. But we will complete it in episodes to follow thereafter beyond the month of Ramadan. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all goodness May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all success. May He grant us forgiveness May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us through our problems and issues. Remember when you are suffering go back to diagnose the reasons by looking at whom you have wronged
what you have said about people seek forgiveness, ask Allah to forgive you and ask them to forgive you and you will find your doors opening May Allah subhanho wa Taala open all our doors of goodness for sal Allahu wa Sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad Subhana Allah Subhana Allah homoeopathic, Masha Allah Allah Hi, lantana Schofield