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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. I

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hope you guys are all doing well, my Shala brothers here telling me why don't we

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let people in on our little banter in the car here, and people in the chat myself.

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So I thought, yeah, not a bad idea. hamdulillah

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so if you guys are doing well

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Hamdulillah you know, sometimes when we're on a journey, we tend to forget that

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there are a few small things, few small rules that we we actually

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need to live by, right.

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We're Muslims number one.

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Number two is

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we're taught to we taught what is known as the dua of the journey, which we shouldn't forget.

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So that's like Subhanallah these are Karolina had our makan Allahu Kalinina in Isla Penang callicoon.

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You're basically seeking the help of Allah to be able to navigate your vehicle

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and to be able to

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be protected by Allah if you if you know the longer to Allah, Allah and the Sahaba suffer, oh Allah you are the companion on journey on the journey. When khalifa to finance you know, you leave behind your loved ones in the care of Allah. That's something also very important.

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Allahu Maha when Elena Safar Anna Hatha, oh Allah make easy for us on this journey of ours right?

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What we uncovered, and oh Allah

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let its distance be crumpled for us making sure to make the journey pleasant easy.

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Allah humane Nana sadhu, Kofi sefardi. Now Hava

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Albir, our tap wa O Allah, where we ask You

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for this journey of ours, or in this journey of ours on this journey of ours, righteousness and God consciousness, so make us conscious of you all the time. You know, a lot of people have perished and died on journeys while they're driving.

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So we're seeing, Oh, Allah

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said, Look, if he's suffering, I'll be the one we asked you or I asked you on this journey of my

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god consciousness, righteousness, Amina Lima, Lima. And oh Allah.

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I asked you deeds that will be pleasing to you, right?

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Allah Houma

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in an hour Lupica, so you you're asking Allah to grant you the goodness of the journey. And then you say, Oh Allah

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I seek Your protection from I seek refuge in You from

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London in an hour we'll be coming What I thought is a failure averted malady was William Kennedy family when you know, the harm

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or the negatives of this journey,

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that which is unpleasant to the eyes. And that which is a bad outcome, something which is bad in the gym, meaning protects us from accidents, protect us from harm protects us from evil, protect us from sin.

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And then you see

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free money when and you know, protect us from that which is

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bad or evil, a bad outcome in our wealth.

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And in our families, families that you have left behind, as well as those who are with you perhaps on your journey. That's a good thing. So to be conscious of that, to make that dua it's important. Now, if you don't know that to at least say Bismillah when you're starting your journey, at least say Bismillah when you're starting your journey

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because that will be really beneficial hamdulillah

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mashallah, you know, you have to be conscious of the speed traps and that's something amazing because

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while we're not bad speeders, like we like to speed and all of that, but what's important for us to know is

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now not all of us, without exception, become conscious of the speed traps. Because we know and we realize that this is going to result in us being penalized punished, punished by the law, pay a fine

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And finally is a few dollars a few pounds. And so we slow down, we make sure we follow the rules. Alas, if and even if we're coming at full speed.

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When we, when we see or we know that there is a speed trap what what happens, everyone breaks, you must notice everyone breaks, and people actually know they will break.

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And when they do break, it's funny because

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they break, knowing that I'm just saving myself from the final as soon as they pass that particular speed trip, they start speeding again.

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But the point is, Allah has speed traps as well. Maybe not exactly a speed as in going quick or whatever, but he has his own limits. It's like you have a speed limit. Allah has limits.

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What are those limits? The things that are harder.

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And so you're supposed to slow down each time and if you don't, you will be punished. So people say if Allah is so merciful, why did he need to punish people? I say, Well, if this country is so modern and so beautiful, and so much for the rights of the people, why does it punish people who go beyond the limit? Just the speed limit? Come on, I was just driving my car a little bit Cricket was so safe, it was lovely. It was amazing. Why do you have to find me? Come on what type of oppression is that? Where's my human? Right? Well, that's exactly what we're saying. Doesn't it sound stupid? When you went over the limit that was decided by some guy who was engineering the road or a group of

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people, he decided this road 70 other road 100 other road 120 kilometers an hour, whatever the general speed limit is going to be this and that. He's a human beings who decided it and we stick by it. And we never ever say they're oppressive because

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they're oppressive because they have a limit. They don't want us to do what we please. And

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and at the same time, we never ever say that.

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We're not going to pay the fine. We don't. And actually we've it's you know, it's it's so inhumane to find a person just because they were driving fast. Or

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just because they crossed a limit that was created by men.

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Allah has limits and He is the Most Merciful. You know, you say it's a modern country, modern countries have sophisticated ways of governing the speed of the people. Very sophisticated, as you would not say that it's a backward country or it's people who are backdated because they have put limits and they're punishing people for limits. Yet it's a rich country. They don't need the money. Same way. Don't ever think Allah is

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punish those who have transgressed. Don't ever think that? If he wants, he may not punish. He says in Allah, Allah and Pharaoh knew Shaka big.

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Allah will not forgive those of a certain sin, which is known as Schilke association of partners with Him in worship. Besides that, he says, I can forgive anything, whether you've asked for forgiveness, or you haven't, it's up to me what to do. So we're hoping for the Mercy of Allah, we all hope for the Mercy of Allah. But

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you know, what?

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Don't ever come up with a line that if Allah was so merciful, what's the need for punishing people? Because that's the case, try not paying your fines, you'll end up in jail. Every place every country as modern, as sophisticated, as much as they might uphold human rights and everything else. They have prisons and their prisons are relatively full, to be honest. Does that make them any less modern? Any less forward thinkers and so on? No, not at all. It's part of the justice. If one has I mean, there has to be justice. That's part of Allah's plan. So there are people who say this, I thought I'll just quickly talk about this for a few minutes and maybe you can give me some of your

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ideas. Jana

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Yeah, may Allah Almighty grantees and goodness I hope you guys are all doing well, I have some brothers here. Maybe if there is a comment or two, I can't read it because I'm concentrating on the road. And perhaps if there is a comment of not making my let me know what's going on.

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If not, I think I think we might end up doing a few of these lives. On some of our journeys. I'm going to be driving north and south and east and west in the next few days. So mashallah, it's been lovely to be able to talk to you guys live.

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There was a question in the SOP. So if you don't have then the SOP

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which is approximately eight

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seven grams of gold

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or its equivalent,

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and you haven't held that nisab for an entire year.

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Then, obviously, Zakat is not compulsory, but you can give charities a lot of people give voluntary so the Guardian charities just for the sake of Allah. But as for the compulsory circuit, no, it's not compulsory. If you don't have me for official, lower

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what can you do to increase your focus? While I'm focusing right now on this road you can imagine so basically an example I want to give is when you're driving at high speed, for example, say more than 100 kilometers an hour and you're on,

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you know, the driver's seat or driving seat, you've gripped the steering and mashallah your hand in your hand is on the steering. And you have your foot on the pedals.

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And there's a lot of traffic and people you know, driving all over people coming and going, let's say it's a dual carriageway. How would you concentrate? What would you do? Can you look to the left and right and keep on and you know, sip your tea and do whatever you want without any

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without any worry? No, you you're going to have to push yourself to concentrate. Because you have to end if you feel a little bit sleepy and dozy you got to get off the track and take a nap perhaps stop at a point where you can rest a little bit and eat. So perhaps more important way is the concentration

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and the focus in life.

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Each you need to have good friends you need to have a good circle of people you need to push yourself to do certain things. You don't push yourself you just gonna lay around and that's it. You got to get up in the morning you got to start off with Salat al Fajr May Allah make it easy for all of us. I find it difficult when I'm traveling sometimes to countries where the salah timings are way off what I'm accustomed to.

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It's not I mean, it's difficult to it's difficult to remember

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and your body clock the automatic natural body clock doesn't function as well so if you're a person who's

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always likes to

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pour who's been fulfilling your Salah on time, all the time then what happens is

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at a point you end up waking up without anyone waking you up so you when you travel and you go into a zone that is not yours and it's very different from yours end up waking up every hour or two just try to check the time once a time Salah what's the time Salah what's the time Salah and then it messes up your rest but Alhamdulillah it was worth it.

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But if you you're not focused you're not even going to be bothered. May Allah make us able to inshallah concentrate on that one yeah.

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People asking you to speak up for two months.

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That was the other day.

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That was the other day just caught imagined I imagined for years. I see the reason why I don't lecture in other languages. There are scholars who lecture in those languages and

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because English is my mother tongue should I say?

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mother tongue means the language that you grew up speaking from the beginning to now English. So as much as I do speak several other languages. But I'm gonna continue straight. Okay, okay. So you guys might have heard that the guy saying in one kilometer continuous straight. Let's see if you pick up something strange. Okay, so basically

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wama Arsalan and Rasul in inlab, Elissa Nicomachean

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continue straight. Okay, we will.

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So

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on we Allah says, when we've sent a people, or we've sent messages, you can use straight to the people in their language

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and their language. So if you had to translate or if you spoke a language that wasn't actually yours and so on, you know, the power of the message and the ability of getting the message across mean,

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as grand

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Yeah. So it's good to speak a language that you're a master of rather than language where you're going to make blunders and people may understand you might make a mistake in trying to explain something important and it's gonna be problematic.

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So yeah, if you just want to say hello, how are you and what's going on and just the social, you know, getting on with your discussions and that's okay, but to give it

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talk in a language I think you'd you shouldn't be a master of it, especially if it's an important subject or one day inshallah

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so we'll do is not so difficult. It's not a difficult language you know, it's written very similar to Arabic then just a few letters of Urdu that are different from Arabic, the rest of them are the same and a lot of the words actually have similar meanings. So it's not difficult all do is is a beautiful tongue. Mashallah, now and I do speak to do by the way, yeah, I speak quite a few languages, like I said,

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steps to help you quit smoking.

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Steps to help quit smoking.

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Just rip up your box and that's it. Don't ever buy

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anything again. What else can I say? You need willpower and and you know what, you can do it, you should do it. You must do it. Imagine meeting the Prophet Mohammed Salah Salem and you have cigarettes of shisha Zoo? Or cigar or whatever else. I mean, come on, what a big embarrassment. And would you like to meet him? Well, if you'd like to meet him, then just prepare yourself by just quitting things that are

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that are not you know, not good.

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Steps to quit smoking. Again. You need to be determined.

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And you need to seek Allah's help. And you need to be serious about it. If you're serious about it, you'll quit. But let's see. Let me try and so on. Doesn't help that doesn't help.

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We can't just try you need to do it. I'm not a medical professional, but from a spiritual perspective. Yeah. If you're determined willpower

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perhaps you know

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you eat healthy you exercise or gym properly. I think it's beneficial mashallah, you wouldn't be able to quit. If you had determination, willpower and the help of Allah with that.

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exam results are coming out this week.

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Results.

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exam results are coming out this week. If you don't get your results, you know what you can do? You can write again, repeat no problem. Repeat. It's okay. If you've made a mistake in your Salah, what do you do? Well, you do so you do so. And if it's a big blunder, or you broke your zoo halfway and you're disqualified from your Salah,

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then you can actually

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you you go and redo that salaam, in fact, funny, there's a joke, somebody you know, there was a football match. And I'm not into football, to be very honest with you, I barely understand much about

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the teams and what's going on. But I like to say a few things now and again, because a lot of those who derive benefit from a few of the talks that I've done, they're into football and into so many other things. So I show a bit of an interest in it without actually being totally interested in. I don't know you understand that. So there was a match. Yesterday, I think it was a big one was

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Manchester United and Liverpool right. So what happened is Liverpool seems to have lost my writer problem. Yeah. Liverpool lost

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Yeah, so that's exactly what I was saying. Someone sent a little little tweet saying Liverpool without money now money is Sadio our brother mashallah lovely lovely brother is shifted out of Liverpool in Liverpool without money is like praying without without Salah is invalid means salah,

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salah they talking here about the guy I think, right? They're talking about mo salah. That means you can't just achieve alone you achieve with, it's like a team effort and so on. I found that quite funny.

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And strangely, I'm giving an example of your Salah.

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If a person, Salah is invalid, they repeat their salah. And if that is the case, then if you failed an examination do did you try your best? Yes, you did well, then don't worry. You don't have to be first. You don't have to have got all A's you don't? I think not. Not everyone who gets all A's are actually nice people.

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They're not pleasant. They're not always pleasant people, and they're not always successful in life. So success in life is not only determined by I mean, the only thing that determines it is not or should I say I mean worded differently. Your success in life is not connected to your results per se, but many other factors and many factors sometimes not even your results. So it's it's very interesting to see. I like to ask people questions, you know, and see very successful people ask them

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how far did you go, you know, in your secular education, a lot of them

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they either didn't do well they were dropouts, they hardly went to school and so on. And they very successful in dunya terms, you know, in the worldly terms, and then you find people who were highly highly intelligent they got all A's everywhere and they struggling in life.

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So that proves that you know what?

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It's a very temporary congratulations that people will deliver you to say wow, congrats all A's Wow 16 A stars Whoa, you broke the world record Guinness Book of Records. Guess what? That doesn't even give you a ticket to the to the first step of contentment in life. Not even you may be in martial art. Congratulations to all those who did well, Mashallah. It's a good thing. You worked hard, and I like it because you're focused and you achieved a lot. But how's your character? Man? Are you You arrogant? Or how's your Salah? How's your relationship with Allah? Because you were to die in in a year's time? How did all those A's help you? I mean, are they going to put your all level

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certificate on your chest to say listen to the angels to say, treat them well, they got all A's man. So while that may help you for the few years, you're in the dunya and that's a good thing. I'm not saying no, but try to balance it man balance it with the goodness of the archetype. I think if you get well if you get a view of God, intellect and intelligence and so on, it should bring you closer to Allah.

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It should make you more regular with your Salah it should help improve your dress code, not of people.

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The dress code could be improved the modesty when I'm talking of Islamic modesty and you know what I'm what I mean. I might word it broadly because of the age we're living in, but you know exactly what you've got to do. So come on, get on with it inshallah. Radical.

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You had a picture of it once, and how does it work?

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Oh, what is hijama Mashallah. hijama is

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a cupping.

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It's a sunnah method of

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perhaps

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treating yourself to improve your health.

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Cupping, where the it's either wet or dry, the wet is preferred. And this put a few

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little slices, small, little incisions, small little slices, with a little razor

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in different parts of your body. And they put a cup and they suck out all the dirty blood.

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And it definitely helps like people who have who are struggling with me grains, headaches, sometimes pains in the body and aches, and even just sometimes problems with superstitious matters. If it really is confirmed, Jama will help. So you can do it

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at any time,

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on any day, but the effectiveness is greater if you were to do it on the sunny days.

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The odd of the second half of the month, closer to the meaning the lunar month

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you can ask the specialists in JAMA. And they will tell you this date and this date. And if not no problem, you can do it at any time to be honest with you. The timing? Yes, there is a preferred timing, but it's not the only time however, the benefit of it is tremendous. I think once a year at least, you should do it. And if you're not well, you can do it a little bit more regularly, like once every six months maybe.

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And then see and don't go overboard

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to go about an odd number of cups is good to do.

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I remember someone had a problem with their sinuses and so on. And they had these little cups that were done

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around there.

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Well, some parts of the face and some Hanalei to help the head and that so yeah, that's a good thing, passion

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to deal with parents that don't accept your marriage proposal.

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How to deal with parents who don't accept your marriage proposal?

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Well, the question is why are they being unreasonable? Or is the person the candidate that's they're really not worth it? Sometimes I fought cases of people who, whose parents rejected the marriage proposals. But those parents had some good grounds man, they were telling you listen, you crazy this is the mother of your kids or the father of your kids. Are you sure you know and then people get into it and they regret later and they say oh, my father was right. Too late. Your father's died already. By the time you realized all of this

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and sometimes we don't listen to our parents. We just don't want to take their advice. And you know what their advice is very, very good. In a lot of cases, parents care for you. So the problem with us is we give and donate our hearts at will we watch too many movies. Sometimes we too involved in the

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made up world when I say made up word, yes. We're talking of social media. The standards have changed, everything is gone. You don't even know what you're marrying for. If you're marrying for what they look like tomorrow morning, in fact, the same evening of your marriage before you even married. A lot of engagements are so long during the engagement they've already met. Someone else was prettier and more handsome than you are so heartless. It's over because the whole criteria was wow, you see the start? I'm getting married. While there are other stallions in the same start, Masha, Allah, Allah Subhana. Allah, Allah bless all of us. So

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it's difficult because you, there is no one way of dealing with parents who have rejected a marriage proposal. Sometimes they are right. Sometimes they are correct. But you are too deep into that relationship for foot to allow yourself to take serious genuine, solid advice.

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That's what it is. You're too deep. So if you had involved your parents from the very beginning, on the outset, you can vote your pitch, it was so easy when they say no, for you to just drop it like a hot potato, because you know that you know what?

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I'm not attached in any way. If my father says, No, it's a no. When your parents have lived for you and worked for you and spent on you and sacrificed for you? Don't they have a slide saying we're gonna get married too? Don't they have a slight word of guidance? Should I say? I think they do word of guidance, that's fair. They can tell us they can. The end of the day, that decision is yours, but

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they have a right to guide you in not just the right they have a duty to guide you to tell you. Now, if they're being unreasonable, then perhaps speak to someone respectful in society community in the family, whom your parents would look up to.

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If they're being outright racist, and you know what? Marrying outside your tradition, your culture is halal, it's permissible, but it's tricky. If the people are very rigid. In their culture, it looks nice and easy. You've got to think of several factors. Where do you live? Where do you live with, you're going to live with your folks and extended family and a person's coming in from another culture altogether. They may not like it at all, it will be so depressing for them if your culture or their culture is, is, you know, very different, then there might be a few issues. And you've got to take that into consideration. That's why I say if you're financially independent, and you're

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going to live totally separate, you probably would be able to get along much better than if you're going to be living in the faces of extended family who might not appreciate the difference in culture.

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So while it is halal and permissible, and yes, there's nothing wrong with it. And I've fought for so many people.

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But I tell you what, it's not

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something that can be done without thinking.

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It has its challenges, ask the people who are in they will tell you, that's true. A few months into the marriage, they'll tell you very true that it has its challenges. So in sha Allah, that's a good word.

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Yeah, if you get someone respectful to talk to your parents and see what happens,

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people say should we can be married without our parents

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blessings, under certain circumstances, if they're very unreasonable, then that can happen. It can happen where the willie you would shift to the Imam of the masjid or someone

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he would become your

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guardian and get you married. In an Islamic country. It's a Tavi. So the judge does that and they can bypass your father

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and

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that's not impossible, but like I said, it's a last resort it's only when it's only when and if people

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are being totally ridiculously unacceptable and unreasonable charlatan.

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Give us some advice on how to keep some

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suburb

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Okay, advice on how to keep suburb again, you need to hate to restrain yourself and there's a lot of self control. There's a lot of

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dua there's a lot of liquor there. You know, like the prophets I seldom speaks about

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How you can avoid or you can protect yourself when you're getting angry not to allow it to get to a point of venting

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so

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drink a bit of water I will be live in a shared panel regime. So I'm sure when it comes to sub

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somebody can be for so many things sobre la bella, you know, when something calamity has struck you, how do you pay somebody? Well, if calamity has struck us, then we best sub only by getting closer to Allah. I spoke about it last night, probably the video might come out in a few days time

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to the audios out already, maybe you might see it. But I spoke about how to deal with sadness.

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And I said that, you know, it's only through Allah that you can deal with yourself. And this is a long term commitment. That was the word I used. That was the phrase I used long term commitment. You want to deal with your sadness, it's a long term commitment to Allah, that's what it is. And slowly we're humans we will falter we will we will sway this way that way, but you know what, you have to actually come up

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and when you have to be strong, you have to try and inshallah things will improve.

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So you want to

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help yourself, bearing patients, develop your relationship with Allah through they can through is still far through communicating with Allah, through supper, through Salah through prayer as well. Is that even with somebody or salah, seek help through supper through patients and prayer. So if patients and prayer are mentioned together, then surely prayer would help you to be patient.

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And your patients will help you to pray, masha Allah, may Allah make it easy for us.

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Similarly, trying to increase your knowledge, knowledge is very important. Learn to help people reach out to others and Allah will help you try and create a circle of people who are going through the same problems and then you see how, how it becomes it's much better.

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You have both young coilovers and older advice would you give to young followers with less responsibility on my advice would you give to the elders have more responsibility?

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advice to the young and older followers that young are not always less occupied, some young people are much more occupied and older people.

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But anyway, I think you know, what we've lost in the Ummah or we're losing very clear is something called personal one.

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To think good of your brothers and sisters, you know what social media has given rise to thinking the worst possible thoughts, of people of scholars have, and people say what they want, when they want how they want without even thinking that these words are going to come back to haunt you. Hence, a lot of people are suffering and struggling because you know what? They don't realize, you know, you think you're, you're so

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you think you're so good. But you've been saying bad things online and Allah is making you pay for it now because you have hurt people. And the justice system of Allah is such that you cannot escape it. Be careful, be responsible. The youth need to be very responsible. Keep on going try and be as responsible as possible.

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And Allah will grant you,

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you know, good responsibilities, something really great. Mashallah.

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Anyway, so, this evening, I have a few words that I'm going to be saying Shama

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at the motivational evening, what would you like me to say? What do you what's a good topic? What do you think I should talk about? It's just a motivational evening. It's not, it's not a team.

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Talk, it's more

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motivation.

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And usually, when I have motivational speeches, I concentrate on topics of relevance. Something that is relevant to the age, the time the people, something they must be going through.

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So do you have any ideas perhaps, someone said, you mentioned about social media? How can we develop ourselves to stay away from envious thoughts?

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Yeah, how can we develop ourselves to stay away from envious thoughts that also it requires?

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Wanting to

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understand

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The plan of Allah learn to love Allah and love what Allah has given you and understand that Allah has blessed you in a unique way. And he's blessed others in their own way. And if you're going to be envious, you're actually going to be picking a wall with Allah who is the giver and the decider. So I'd say it leads to jealousy, full blown jealousy.

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And that is that will eat away at your good deeds because you're questioning Allah has authority over everything. That why did you give this person this? I mean, who are you to question Allah Allah has given them and one thing I must say a lot of the times is

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a lot of the times

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what you see online is actually not a reality.

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You see people mashallah their beautiful skin beautiful, this lovely, a lot of it, a lot of I'm not saying all of it, but a lot of it is just makeup plastered or sometimes it's filters, and but everyone is human. That's why,

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you know, respect to those who can appear even with their flaws, so that they can help others feel normal. Do you know there's a country here in Europe somewhere where they were banning or they were talking about or they did ban some filters.

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Filters

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that would basically show you as perfect, and which country it is, but there is a country.

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And I was reading it. And I'm thinking to myself? Well, the reason is the amount of depression there is because everyone feels that they're imperfect, including the people you looked at as perfect or depressed because they're imperfect, in in real life. But when you looked at them, you are depressed because of them. They are depressed because of you. How's that both of you are depressed, all of you are depressed. The reason is, we all think that the others are perfect, but in real life, they not come on Come What a joke. What a joke. Come on, be happy with who you are, without all of that, you know? So may Allah make it easy?

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May Allah make it easy? Yeah. So

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we were speaking about social media, right?

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It's very tricky. There is something there is a lot of advice that I could give about social media and a lot of it number one, limit your time on it. Number two, don't take seriously. No chance, don't even take things seriously. If you want to, if you're if you make

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content Alhamdulillah do it and, and do and make good content that is meaningful, and that you will be proud of on the Day of Judgment Insha Allah, and there's no harm, you can make good content and Sharla. And make as much as you want to keep going, keep yourself occupied with something positive.

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When you're just going to sit there and watch and comment, be careful, every single thing.

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You're going to be held accountable for every single thing. So please be careful. Please be careful.

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May Allah make it easy for all of us all over? Obviously, I may talk about social media sometime, and how to navigate but one more point. There is a lot of hacking going on now. So if you don't know how to use social media, please learn about it. Sometimes people are communicating with you. And that's not the person you think.

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You know, it is it's not the person you think it is.

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So you don't know how to look for a verified account how to check for

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people whose accounts are valid, and you know what, you're wasting your time.

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You literally. And another thing is, if you get emails from people you don't know No, you don't open them.

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If you get if you do some anything looking suspicious, even the things that don't look suspicious, sometimes you got to be suspicious of them in the sense that I've

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been turned off completely on

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and off.

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auto download, it shouldn't ever download automatically because people embed a bug on on a photograph.

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And subhanAllah you just got a kick and it's done. It's done. Then you if you're hacked, your pages are gone. Your accounts are gone, everything's gone. Well a particular something happens. Another thing is turn on two step verification, turn it on. It's worth it. It's worth it. Because one day when they try to hack because there's another step, they won't be able to hack the whole thing.

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So these are few pieces of advice. That's that's general advice, not even Islamic advice. But a lot of people don't know how to use social media people say oh, I've been talking to you for the last two, three months. Remember, I traveled somewhere and someone made me these hit this certain type of headgear when they came to give

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Did you mean said oh mashallah, uh you know, I promised you this and I said what were said no, I've been I've been talking to you For how many months on social media I said no, I don't even wear these type of hats man. And then I just they started showing me all this communication I said just look at who that is. It's not even me. It's not even the verified account. It's and I have no idea who it is. Anyone can just come up and call themselves a name be careful. Anyway, then I took the hats and I you know, I accepted the gift and I even wore it I still wear one of the next thing but to be honest with you, it was just a kilometer exit left wow

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wow, that's poor patrol. Mashallah, so that's the kids kids have done that that's what I was saying. If anyone noticed they would have

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they would have laughed at it. You know, ways you can decide you can choose a lot of different themes of person speaking to you.

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theatres excellent left, where it

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goes Mashallah. So I just left it on because of the kids mashallah hamdulillah

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All right, guys, I think we've come to an end in sha Allah, may Allah bless you guys and we will talk against left

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Oh, here it goes. I gotta turn this off quickly.

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And 200 meters up the road.