Is It Okay to Avoid Jealous Relatives

I don't speak to my brother

because he is always jealous of me.

Am I allowed to stay away from him

and his family?

Brothers brothers, reminds me of Yusuf alaihis salam

story.

Okay. So firstly to presume that someone is

jealous of you is a sin that many

people don't realize they're entrapped in. Sometimes

a person might not be jealous of you.

There may be your brother or whoever and

you think they're jealous of you. You gotta

be careful of that too.

But nonetheless, if there's toxicity coming in,

try to hold it exactly where it is

when it's a family member. I give you

a reason.

If you have children, your brother has children,

There is a little bit of beef between

you and your brother

and you stop your entire family from communicating

with the entire family. Those are cousins.

Those are cousins.

What would probably happen is in a few

years time, they're gonna grow older. They're not

gonna invite each other to each other's weddings.

You're gonna have broken relations with a second

and a third generation.

By the time the second or third generation

comes in, they're gonna look at innocent children

who were real cousins and say, that's a

bad family. Watch out. They do they do

magic or they jealous and so on. Don't

talk to them. And the whole family becomes

bad as a result of you and the

little idea you might have had of your

brother. And even if he did have a

weakness of a bit of jealousy or a

little bit more of the jealousy, you could

have kept it between you and him. But

let the families at least interact

on occasions on the day of Eid.

There would probably have been intermarriages

at some point between

cousins, second cousins, third cousins, whoever it may

have been. And we have a duty in

Islam to solve matters especially when it's within

family.

So it's wrong to say, oh this guy

is jealous of me. I don't wanna have

anything to do with him. Is it okay

for me and my family not to communicate

with them and their family? That's your brother.

Those are cousins.

You have a right. If that didn't work,

they, the cousins, what's their crime?

Sometimes they go to the same schools. They're

related. They have the same surnames. They don't

talk to each other because the fathers or

grandfathers have had a problem. That's not fair.

You you putting them in You know we're

talking about healing the ummah. How is the

Ummah going to heal when you when you

don't even want your own relation with your

brother to heal?

I think we need to make an effort

to try and resolve matters. Talk about it.

Speak to your brother and be open about

it. The difficult speech that is necessary

needs to happen. Be responsible enough to come

and say, listen guy, what's the problem? Why

do you always do this to me?

Have this hard conversation

in privacy between you and your brother. At

the end of the day, it's blood. And

talk again and again. And even if you

have to argue a little bit, it's your

brother. Don't let the kids see it. They

don't need to know what happened between brothers.

When something happens between my brothers, I mean

myself and my brothers for example,

even if like you know these are my

nephews, right? Their their fathers are my brothers.

If I were to say something to them

and they were to say something to me,

I would tell these guys, you stay out

of it. That's my brother.

How's that?

Because he's my brother. I love him. We

grew up together. We were there. We would

have naturally some differences. And that's the reason

why

when Sheikh Ibrahim was making mention about how

shaitan comes to make you think someone in

your family did something. You know when you

go to Iraqi,

sometimes some of them have nothing better to

say. The easiest thing to tell you is,

listen sister, someone's done magic and you know

who it is. It's within your family.

Now that's a standard statement. Have you noticed?

The reason is

every single

extended family has to have some politics.

There's no extended family that doesn't have politics.

So naturally you always a little bit anxious

about someone.

You always have a slight bit of a

tough relation with someone. The minute you hear

that, you automatically

know a name.

You put a face to it. You say,

Oh, that's so right. I was expecting. You

see, I told you. Didn't I tell you?

Look what he's saying. But that's a standard

statement. A little kid could have told you

that. They lied to you. They just made

you feel good. What did they do? They

destroyed

innocent relations

between you and your family. May Allah forgive

don't fall into the trap.

don't fall into the trap.