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Hong Kong from the ‘At the Peak’ conference.

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam O Allah Shafi nambia, mousseline, Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa

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ala Medina.

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We always praise Allah Subhana Allah Allah, we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household, all his companions, and May Allah subhanho wa Taala, bless every single one of us and grant us goodness in this world and the next,

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my beloved brothers and sisters, if I have a big boulder or a rock that is blocking the path here. And if I were to try and push it, and I was unable to push it, what would I do?

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I would turn back and I would look at you wouldn't die? And what would you do? Would you just look at me and say, hi.

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Is that what would happen? I think so many people would rush to my assistance that the rock would just look at them and move. Don't you think so?

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Okay, maybe I'm being a little bit sarcastic. But what I mean is, so many would come to my house that I didn't need to worry how big the rock was, I would know that there are enough people here, just two of them, or three of them would be able to help me move the rock and I will be able to open this path not just for myself, but for everyone else as well.

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So why am I starting that way? Because if you take a look at community, just the word community, there is a column. That column has got nothing to do with the internet.com No, nothing, nothing. COMM And then unity. Without the unity is no community, you need to remember this. And unity is very different from difference of opinion. You could have difference of opinion, we all have differences of opinion, 100% of us, including those who really care for each other husband and wife don't agree on things, they really don't have the right the the same opinion on everything, but they love each other enough to be able to, you know progress in life and become parents. So much so that even when

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they do have differences that are seemingly quite major, they are taught that if you'd like success for yourselves and for your children, make sure you discuss your differences behind closed doors. Don't we say that to our you know those who are prospective Mashallah husband and wife for those who have hassles, don't yell at your wife or your husband, in the presence of your children screaming, shouting, and getting excited beyond the limit to say, you know what, why do you have roast chicken, I wanted roast beef. Big deal, Mashallah. Big deal, we can have roast beef roast chicken, but be careful of what you are portraying to your offspring, they will grow up thinking that this is

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normal. And they will do it with everyone, when they have a difference of opinion, they will start swearing in public, and they will scream and yell irresponsible, childish behavior. And that continues into adulthood because it was unchecked. And this is why for us to live as a community we need to understand.

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We need to really understand what is it that is required of me in society and in community so that I can contribute positively, bearing in mind that as a Muslim, something known as an oma is more important than the individual. I am the oma, it is an oma and I want to give you a few examples. But before I give these examples, let's go back to this issue of husband and wife we always say, and we've said this every single time, you can never have two people who think exactly the same. Is there anyone here who thinks that they think exactly the same as someone else on the earth? Anyone? No, not even one, not even brothers, not even father with child, you might have similarities, but

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there will always be a certain difference. That's a loss plan. Because it's part of your test. How do you live with one another when you are different? You are really different? You think differently, you have a different mind in this in the sense that some of the major items you might be thinking similarly regarding them, but they will always be differences and these differences to panela do not mean that you are disunited, and this is why if we were taught to stop talking to those whom we disagreed with, nobody would be speaking to anybody across the globe. We would all be individual people rather I don't like the color you're wearing. So therefore not talking to you.

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And that's it.

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And then what happens you go home and your son says Dad, I don't like the phone you're using not talking to you.

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And wife says you're smelling not talking to you.

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And your husband says the perfume of God has given me a headache not talking to so nobody's talking to anyone but all these issues I mentioned. They are petty they are small and even if you have a major issue, believe me, we impacted

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from amongst us who don't understand the method of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was the co founder of Quraysh. And these were disbelievers in orange, he did not use a method of silence Rather, he engaged them even more. And he went out to speak to them so much so that at one stage the Quran came in to say, Don't turn away from this blind man who was unreliable.

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These are the co founder of grace you're giving them you're lending them in here, you're listening to them not realizing that you've just turned your back with this particular man. You know, the verses.

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It is sort of

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in the 30th part of the Quran, I'd like you to go through the first few verses in meaning a little bit of homework, we can give you inshallah, and go and see why it was revealed and some of the opinions of the scholars, it is not because Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam his example was imperfect or rubella? No, not at all. Rather, because his example was so perfect that we were taught, you must accept admonition, you must know that no matter how high you are, no matter who you think you are, if Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was corrected, and he took correction, in order for us to learn a lesson from not because he needed it, or there was anything wrong with him,

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but Allah made him go through something intentionally so that the lesson could come to me and you when I have a difference, when I am corrected, how should I handle it, but going back to the lesson derived there from Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was engaging with the godfather of Makkah, in such a beautiful discussion with such great character and conduct that they looked at the beauty of Islam, they taught meaning they saw the beauty of Islam, they turned towards Islam, they accepted the deen in a lot of cases, if not most cases later on, and then they practiced it, and they put it into practice and teach or taught others engaged in teaching it to others. And this is something

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that happened solely because he engaged them in discussion. So for a person to think that you know what, because I have a difference of opinion, I must start labeling you number one.

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This is a problem. I must stop talking to you. Number two, I must spread every single thing bad about you. Number three, number four is you know what people do today without knowing you. They they would lie about you just because they heard about you something from someone else. It happens to all of us, without exception, but on different levels with if I were to ask you, okay, let's ask Mashallah. Is there anyone from amongst us who nobody has ever spoken bad about put up your hand?

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There, you are not a single hand, you see that? In fact, if I can't see you and stand up, let's see you. Nobody in your life has spoken bad about you stand up.

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Not one Subhanallah this would mean that that is part of your test. It's part of every one of our tests from Allah subhanho wa Taala. People will say bad things about you. But don't you belong to the same community? Don't you belong to the same family? Okay, can I ask you a little bit more interesting question. How many of us can say comfortably from our larger family? I'm talking a family, larger family, those who are related to you? How many of us can comfortably say that nobody who's related to me has ever spoken bad about me? Put up your hand.

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Wow, we close the circle quite drastically. Did you see that? And still we have a problem. So panela problem meaning is part of your challenge. So how are you going to address this you need to rise to eat knowing if it happens to every single person. It means it's part of Alice plan. And this is why we have so many examples in the life of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there is a difference between me differing with you in opinion and disunity as in I am disunited with you and so on. I need to speak bad about you. I need to make sure that you are harmed that you don't come up and so on. If a person is doing well in business, we become jealous. Why jealous? Because Subhana Allah,

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why does he have I don't have this man came in from overseas somehow he stays here and in about five years, he's already become very wealthy. I cannot stomach that. I've been here for 50 years, and I'm still a person who's struggling to make ends meet. Well believe me that jealousy is what's making you struggle even further. So Pamela, that's what drags you bogs you down. But if you say Al Hamdulillah Allah, you've blessed this man in five years, he's got so much blessing even more Allah bless me to Mashallah, you see, this is how we go as muslimeen we are taught this To be honest, you see something good. Don't just say why does he have it? He's this he's a that he's not supposed to.

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So we go and this is what happens. We go to all of the clients and we start telling them this man, don't buy from him.

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You know, he's a bad man, he supports this. And he does that. And he drinks and he goes to the club and we live. And even if we're telling the truth, it's out of jealousy, our struggle is to put someone down. by us putting someone down by us putting the whole world down, it does not make us any better. No, we have not worked on ourselves. Rather, we have worked on trying to tell people how bad someone else is. And that's it. And this is why this seeps through all the way into religion, where you see someone, and they're doing hard work very hard work day and night, and sometimes shavon, creeps into our hearts. And he starts telling us, you know what, this man is doing something

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overtaking you. He's overtaking you. So for as long as he wasn't overtaking me, it's fine. Leave him on the side, the minute he's overtaking me, I have a problem. So I need to say he's bad. He does this. He does that. And he does this and that. And this is why today, on a global level, I'd like to think and you know what, I'm going to speak without gloves, right? I'd like to think

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that there is not a single scholar on the face of the earth, who nobody has spoken against, just like how we have answered the question today about ourselves. So the test is yours, I have a policy and I invite all the other machines to have a similar policy, do constructive work. And you know what, people will see the light, teach them constructively in a positive way they will achieve the positivity they will be able to learn a thing or two. And do you know what don't waste your time bothering about others? May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us if it is something major, you may want to highlight it and that too, in a very positive way. But you may not know I give you an

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example, that every one of us makes mistakes, every single one khulumani.

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When I make mistakes, in fact that the meaning of it is all the children of Adam, are prone to error or would make mistakes and the best of those who who are those who constantly repent to Allah subhanho wa Taala My business is to constantly turn to Allah yesterday, someone sent me an email saying, I keep repeating the same sin and I asked last forgiveness. Now I'm losing hope, what should I do? And I said, constantly repent, you fall, repent, you fall again, repent, again, you fall again, repent again, as many times as you have to do that, because one day you will die. Let's hope you die just after having repented.

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But if you lose hope, and obviously this is another level, we are supposed to be quitting things for the health of the will of Allah. But if a person has a weakness, and they really repented, remember, repentance, the minimum of four conditions you need, admit your sin, admitted, regretted, ask Allah for forgiveness, and promised not to do it again, once those four conditions are met, you are forgiven. And if you have promised ally won't do it again, human nature makes you do it again, after some time, repent again, similarly, and by the help of Allah, you will be forgiven even again, but you don't just say, you know what, I committed a sin Allah forgive me, I won't do it. Again, I won't

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do it again, in the back of your mind. Tomorrow, last day,

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it doesn't work that way, it really doesn't work that way, we need to make sure that we have proper repentance. But the point I'm making is, every one of us makes mistakes, isn't it our job to help one another through the path rather than to attack one another through the path. So if I really love you, and if I really care for you, and I've seen you doing something wrong, a true Muslim would contact the person, either in person or someone very close to you, whom you perhaps would respect, raise the issue in a very respectful way such that we solve the problem, not just go on to the Internet, and say the world knows what's happening and start blasting. This person was in the

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nightclub, this person, this happened to them, sometimes we don't even know why and how and sometimes our information is wrong. You know, there was one specific scholar, quite a senior scholar. And I met him and I told him, you know, you have made a very big mistake and the people around him were angry at me, how can you say this? I said, relaxed. He's not an abbey of Allah. Remember, this is not a prophet of Allah. I am a little ordinary nothing. But I think I have the right to say something. I said, you know, the mistake you've made you believe those who are around you, those who are around you told you something, and you did not authenticate it. So you have

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harmed others with something that is incorrect and inaccurate. The man was crying. He was crying tears. Because why he was a good man, but shavon out of human nature, this man fell for some words that were told to him by those around him regarding someone else, and he did not know the reality and he just said it that you know what, yes, this is what happened and that's what happened whereas that was untrue and it harmed a great chunk of people.

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So I raised it, and I was considered a bad egg. Because I said that, and people started saying, This man here is terrible. And I don't mind to be honest with you terrible or not terrible. And I do not have the time in my life to sit back and start typing and start saying things about specific people, this man is like this. And like that, because I have my agenda that I'm worried about. And I hope we're all worried about the same gender.

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I have my paradise that I'm worried about, and I would like you to be there as well. And the truth is, if I see you doing something that is wrong, by right, I will come to you, my beloved brother, do you know what this is what I heard, this is what I saw. I know, it might not be any of my business, but I'm your brother, I don't intend to expose and so on, I just want to raise this issue, you might have an explanation. And you might have a little Jazakallah fair, thank you for raising this, I will bear it in mind. And I really appreciate it was my weakness. And I'm so you know, I'm so thankful to Allah for sending an angel like you to come to me to tell me and correct me and so on. That's the

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way this is how community will survive. This is how your family will survive. You tell your child, your child tells you you tell your wife, your wife tells you you tell your in laws, they tell you, you tell your uncles, they tell you, you tell your relatives, they tell you, you tell community, they tell you in a beautiful way. But if someone wants to expose, then it shows the intention is to disunite not to discuss and not to be able to close in on the disagreement.

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And what this means I can give you my own example, someone sent me an email sometime back saying shake, you know, you're a big deviant. And you've done this and done that, and so on. And you have a look at this clip. And I said Subhanallah You know what, I don't even want to look at the clip. But why not? I said because if that person was genuine, they would have contacted me, that's all they would have flown down to my city and said, my brother, there's something serious I need to talk to you about. But the fact that they've gone public, they do not want clarity. That's the thing. Because if they wanted clarity, they would not have done that they would have come to you in person

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and said, Listen, we are part of one oma, you are to the Shahada and I utterly that is bottom line, our link. Now going further, we have heard this and this and we have seen this and this and we'd like to highlight it to you and perhaps give you a chance to explain yourself, then I can engage you in discussion, because I know you are genuine. And this is why when you are advising people, it's important to know how to do it. Because Subhanallah if shaytan overtakes your heart, and for a moment you feel I just want to show that I have the upper hand you're at loss, you are cracking up the oma, you are destroying the nation such that the enemy is so excited about what you're doing,

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they will cheer you on forever and ever today, the disaster of the oma is not more so from the enemies of Islam. But believe me when I say it is from within, the damage from within is far greater than that ever that has happened from external sources, may Allah protect us. If I were to tell you who harms me in my life, I'll take names of muslimeen if I were to ask you, every one of you, and I can ask you right now, and you will answer me how many of us if I were to ask you who has harmed you in your life in a big way, and you have the name of a Muslim that comes up, put up your hand.

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Don't be shy, who has harmed you in a big way. And you have the name of a Muslim in your heart and in your mind, put up your hand, let's see the hands. There, we are enough for us to know the damage that has been caused. And this is why when we talk of community, we need to understand without unity, there is no community. And at the same time, when we have a difference of opinion, we need to know how to deal with it. We will never ever, ever, ever unite on one opinion never, because even the Sahaba of the Allahu anhu did not unite on one specific opinion. But we will have to discuss opinions because there is a scope of opinions that sometimes beyond that would probably be termed

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outside what is acceptable that is there. We understand that and we don't deny that but within that scope, there will still be differences of opinion amongst us. We heard about them today. So it doesn't mean that just because I raised my hands you don't raise your hands I say I mean you do not say I mean loud, your you say soft and so on. So suddenly I don't talk to you I recall the machine where I am. One brother did something differently. And after Salah everybody turned around and this was some time back, and everybody looked at him as though this is an alien from outer space from outer space. You know he was about to talk to you in some strange language in Islam.

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What happened here Subhanallah but that's how we treat members of the oma.

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My brothers and sisters, it's important for us to know that we love each other for the sake of Allah the minute you have the Shahada, and I have the Shahada that already is a link that is powerful. Let's work now beyond that. Let's go deeper in a beautiful way in a way that makes us feel already that we are connected.

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You know, sometimes you have Anopheles Shafi, Maliki humbly selfie, and everyone starts saying, this guy's like that this guy's like that, that you have shared the Shahada as a starting point, my brothers and sisters do not forget that there are people out there who are external enemies who are so excited when we start raising these differences. They say, don't worry for the next four decades, we don't need to look at the Muslims, because there is no ways that they can progress the way they are, they will only be Destroying Themselves why they are not a community. That's what it is. They are fragmented and they are small, and they are completely disunited. And guess what, they are not

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just fighting each other, they are killing each other. There you are.

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You have a starting point, it is a starting point. People might say What about this? What about that brother, work on your starting point, but don't go below it. Remember this work on your starting point, don't go below it. I give you another example today. And I said this yesterday in a different way. Today, for example, we have societies and communities we go to schools, and Mashallah we interact with people Muslim and non Muslim. We take from them so much. And we don't even ask them hang on, I need to ask you, you know, what? Do you believe that during ombre, a woman must cover her face? Or she must leave it open? And if you answer me wrong, I'm not buying from your shop.

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Brother You walk in, the water is there, you you take it or whatever else you want to buy you you go to the to you look at the woman who's not probably dressed properly, but you just seeing a part of her, you hardly sometimes acknowledged, you put your money, you take your stuff and you walk out and you don't even have a clue who that is. It could have been an enemy of Islam coverage. But there was something common here there was you needed something and they were offering it, you took it and you took exactly what you needed and you went away. So you benefited from a non Muslim? In what scope within what you needed that was allowed for you to benefit from them. Alhamdulillah and they will

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benefit from you. How many of you here are school teachers or doctors or lawyers or accountants or plumbers put up your hand?

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So many Mashallah. Okay. I tell you, I'm sure you have reached out to non Muslims. Haven't you taught non Muslims? Don't you have clients who are non Muslims and so on? Yes, we do. Look at them nodding their heads. So we are part of the broader community, we have to we must we will respect them, and they will respect us. But we have a difference in re indeed and religion. And we know the limits and the lines. And that's it, you know, but we will we are living in countries whereby we are faced with people who are very different from us, but you will have to catch a bus and maybe the driver is again. The driver is a gay, well, big deal. I will walk in and say thank you very much,

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sir. There you are. You might say I'm not a sir. I'm a madam. Well, thank you, madam, and walk out. Then you are he's corrected you. But at the same time you walked out where you now know I can't catch this bus brother, I've got to go for Joomla the man who brought me here was actually a gay big deal. SubhanAllah I got my Joomla because you are living in a society where you have to be realistic. You cannot just live a fantasy you will never live Subhana Allah, you will never live in society. Be real, be a Muslim. Be a person who rises to the challenges in a beautiful way. Perhaps the person might look at you greeting them every day and every other day. And they might come and

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tell you I'd like to know what religion you follow. You have one, you have one. Why? Because the mere fact that I have been interacting in a way that made this person interested even by an inch I've won that is community society. Look at this. I'm beaming positivity. But if I look and I say I can give you one example. This is a real true story. My sister lives in the UK. So she drives a car and you know they drive Mashallah, I don't know with us, our women, including my wife and family members, they drive vehicles when when it is needed. They go from point A to point B is females. Okay? So someone phoned her and told her and this is a true story. And today How are you What's

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happening? How's things everything she said Salaam Alaikum Oh, is everything okay? What's happening? My sister says Salam Alaikum she says okay, but it's everything well and something and I needed this from you and I wanted whatever it was a contract All right. So she says but I want to know why aren't you greeting me replying my greeting? She says because there is a shift in our community who has said that do not make Salaam to those women who drive cars. So I spoke to you but I'm not going to make Salaam to you. Okay, and this is a reality. We're live so the point was missed completely because number one, the shake was actually meaning that you know what, don't even talk to them.

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Exactly what how I started my talk, but it was misinterpreted because in real life you need them, you see, so they conveniently interpreted it to say you know what, don't make Salaam but everything else is okay. So I come to you. Hey, brother, what's happening man? Everything okay? Hi. Okay. Hi. And you come back and say okay, but now she understood there's something wrong. So then she explained, look, you know what, there are two things involved.

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One is that it's to do with a not just with a greeting, but that share whoever it is, is saying don't even talk number one. Number two is what about your own sisters who drive? What about the others who engage in the same you have a difference of opinion, you have a difference of opinion. So you follow what you believe is correct. We follow what we believe is correct. But what we are talking about is something petty, it is minor, it is within the framework, we are allowed to have difference of opinion in this regard. Subhan Allah, I give you a current live, powerful example. Do you know in Nigeria, there is a group of people who say Western education is haram. Fair enough,

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they are entitled to that opinion. But what they've done as a result is what is wrong. What is totally unacceptable. So now anyone who has a different opinion from this, they harm them, they attack them, they kill them, they try and they perhaps as you may have known, the kidnaps a whole lot of them. They've said so many things all in the name of Islam, and it has nothing to do with Islam, new and zero. So this goes to show that we as an oma sometimes, and I'd like to hope that these people, you know that they I would like to think they are not taking what they have from Islam at all. In fact, they are serving some sort of an agenda that we don't understand, as Muslims mean,

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something is seriously wrong. So if you look at the lesson we learn from that is when you have a difference of opinion, you are entitled to a difference. Yes, I have my opinion, you have your opinion, but how do I deal with you, when you have a difference. And when I have a difference, I do not become barbaric, it does not mean because I differ with you. Now you have no right to exist on the face of the earth. Because if that was the case, nobody would exist, like I started. Nobody, everyone would be fighting each other from the point of birth to the point of death. Even when we were little kids and we cry,

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perhaps what would happen, father would say I don't like the way he's crying, hello, protect us.

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My brothers and sisters, we need to understand each other, we need to understand the starting point that I'm talking about. That is the Shahada. It is a thicker bond and that of blood, when I go anywhere, I try to do my best to clean my heart for the sake of Allah, and to be able to walk out of the placing, I love every single person there for the sake of Allah. And I know I have differences, and I know I will, but I have a starting point of a Shahada that is far stronger than anything else. So I will talk to you I will greet you. I will and I will know sometimes that there are differences of opinion, but I still know that on the broader picture is such that we are all part of one oma so

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even if I have an opportunity one day to discuss these differences, I will do it in such a beautiful way that I will I will try my best to put forward my opinion and you know what, I will give you an opportunity to put forward yours, if you so wish to do in a way that we will be able to discuss maturely. Have you ever witnessed some some of the

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countries that have opposition that is healthy? When I say opposition that is healthy? I'm talking of people who don't just oppose you because they are opposition, you know, some countries where there is immature democracy, they will just oppose you use a one plus one. No, it's two.

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Yes, it is two Oh, sorry. It's three. Just because what you said they want to be different. Some people think that opposition means whatever the other say, whether it's right or wrong, just oppose. And if that's the case will lie. That's very immature. But there are some who are slightly more mature. What happens if you say something, they say something, and you know what, you might end up agreeing with what they've said because they raised it Subhanallah they have an opinion, someone tells you you know what? We'd like to do this and build a school here and do this there and have that and then they'll tell you look, hang on before you start. Why don't you do the sanitation? I

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don't want you opposition? Who are you talking? No ways you probably thinking of my downfall. They are right, do the sanitation first Subhana Allah, then you sold everything else? Are you talking of big things, you forgotten something from the plan. I'm just giving you an example. thumbsucker to be honest with you,

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a real person and the Muslim would be able to pick up where they need correction because none of us are perfect. That's the thing. I need correction to.

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And Subhanallah I get it, and I get it from those who are genuine, they will tell me they will talk to me, they will come to me, they will say look, this is what happened. This is what perhaps you could say it this way, and sometimes I might discuss and they will go away with something they hadn't imagined.

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But if we were to get involved in fighting and attacking everyone who we defeated with, believe me, we would have wasted all our resources and we would get No way. No way. And this is why I say my personal example. I would prefer to take the goodness from everyone who's giving goodness like I said we've had maths teachers. We've had biology teachers. We've had people who've been bakers and doctors and lawyers and whoever else who've been non Muslim

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We don't even share the Shahada with them. But we benefited mutually from one another within a certain scope that was permissible within La ilaha illAllah meaning the permissibility was within what I believe and Subhanallah I reached out to him and they reached out to me in this beautiful way, and that's the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala. If that is the case with a non Muslim, what about with the Muslim?

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What about with the Muslim?

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And this is why let's go back to the Quran and the Sunnah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam we've spoken about the meccan period and how he reached out to the non Muslims even in Madina munawwara he had a special place in the masjid. And today there is a little pillar there known as the one or two food, the pillar where he used to welcome the delegations that came. They were non Muslim in most cases, and they came in they were given a place in the masjid in one corner in one place, and they were told to sit down, ask the questions, listen to what the Muslims are doing, listen to the sermons and so on. And this was how he reached out to them yet they were not Muslim. Not at all. The bulk of them accepted Islam. Some of them did not.

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They went away without accepting Islam. This was this was a last way of in telling us that we need to reach out to others as well. They were treaties and pacts signed by Allah, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam or on his behalf. And you need to know that these treaties were even with the non Muslim.

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They were people who are non Muslim living in Medina.

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Even at the time of the death of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam Subhan Allah, how did you treat them?

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us forgiveness Really? May He grant us that guiding light to be able to learn the balanced lesson? Take a look at surah two naml I'm sure you know similar to the surah of the end.

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I love that surah we love the entire Quran but different suitors give us different lessons animal named after the end to me there is a beautiful example of unity in that surah powerful I tell you why one and notice Sulaiman the King Solomon alayhis salam Allah peace be upon him prophet Suleiman one and notice that this man is coming with his army so he announced to the rest of the ants you know what we will do? Take our family go to the side say I crashed the rest of them.

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I think as an OH MY probably might have been mela safe goddess. That's why we are not answered. That's why there's no Suleyman in our midst.

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Do you get my point, the one and tells the rest of them lie. Hulu Masaki nakum.

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Kala

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Lulu masa kena, comme la jolla.

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On the one end tells the rest of them enter your homes lest you are crushed by Suleiman and his army and they would not even realize what they've done. Because you are minute insignificant. So this was the community concern, concern for the whole society. If you look at the ends, what a great lesson we learn from the ends, they will carry something 10 times their size, but they do it together, the bolder I started the talk with

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the ends have a communication method that is unique, but togetherness, they will achieve destruction of a whole house, if they want to destroy it.

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They can start eating and before you know it, they are so so well connected under the entire foundation. They've been working quietly while no one was noticing, and they finished up do whatever they wanted.

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How many of us can just work silently carry on just carry on doing it one day, the fruit of your effort will be seen maybe after you die can happen.

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Take a look at the end again. You know they have a penal code amongst them. And I love talking about this because it's a fact. Defend analyze faces execution. Did you ever know that?

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We've done the experiment we've and we've seen it because I read it and then I I wanted to see it for myself and I did. You have a little crumb? And the end comes in you got to watch it happening. The end comes in and it sees the crumbs. The first thing it does it goes back to its people and says hey, I seen a crumb. Let's go Where is it? Oh Hong Kong. Let's go.

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Okay, so now what happens?

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It goes back to the rest and the rest start coming. You pick up that Crump. Take it away. Look at what happens. You know what they do? Amazing. I seen this with my eyes. They will come

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the one who brought the news. They will encircle him and they closing the circle and then they all leave and when they're all gone. There's only one energy remaining they did

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you lie to the whole community. So hard Allah. No, nobody's saying that. You should kill each other here. Not at all, but it's just the lesson that we

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Learning. The lesson is they have a system, they will help one another they won't cheat one another, they will be true to one another they will be able to benefit one another that's the ends look at the be the be another surah and Allah subhanho wa Taala the lesson in there is for community as well together they achieve they obey the instruction of the queen bee and they carry on. And if you see those little dead bees, it's because of a reason that they are they're going through it and you find out why are those dead bees just outside that whole hive let's go and find out why they are there, you may find out and you will be amazed and surprised they don't accept lies and falsehood and

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cheating. Today we lie to each other we cheat we are not only false to each other, but we talk derogatory even about our own leaders. So then who is going to lead us

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it's a problem you have if I have an issue with my father for example, he has an issue with me. The way we deal with it is

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we sit down talk to each other just me and just him and he tells me and I tell him and then we come up with a solution or sometimes we may just agree to disagree and carry on but we still love each other that's my dad. We have a sickness in society today. And believe me this extends through marriage and through everything else, you know you get married Mashallah normally you know your mother in law I'm sorry to say this I you know, I just wish I was a mother in law to be honest so that I could show people how it's done

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you know, your mother in law is from a different generation different breed altogether sorry, not breed but what I mean is Allah from it from a different type of thinking, sometimes different upbringing and different you know, generation and she will definitely have a thing to say she's been the queen in the kitchen for so long. And now the two queens Angela, and I always tell the brothers Brother, you know what, if you need to shift our shift out, believe me, if you have to, because to have two Queens in one kitchen, you need to have two big thrones, believe me?

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It's not very, very possible unless they have big hearts. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness. So

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normally what happens you say a thing or two that you you know, you might not digest. But are you not witty enough sharp enough to be able to solve the matter you got to live with her for the rest of your life? Some kind of law so you have to talk to her communicate. She doesn't mean bad. I'd like to hope I know there are some May Allah safeguard us not in Hong Kong somewhere else. There are some who are so horrible. They just come in with with this jealousy against this woman that you know what? You've come to take my son and guess what? I didn't ever want you. He should have just got married to x. But why did he get married to why your life is doom and gloom? That's it. It happens

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Believe me. I've come across cases I have cried. I've literally cried. Not cried for the movies we spoke about yesterday. But cry for reality. The condition? Yeah.

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tabookey Lima abacha Annie?

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Tada Hassan philomel Hi, Ronnie. A poet says it's so beautifully Oh people. Do you cry for the same thing that makes me cry? Don't you see what's going on across the globe? It doesn't make you cry. Well, we all cry for the same thing. So panela tears, tears roll down. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us really solutions to our weakness and our problems. So like I was saying, we have one thing she says you know what? You You don't just come down here at nine o'clock like a queen. You must come down here at six o'clock and make the breakfast for everybody.

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mother in law. So you look at her.

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And you walk out.

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Look, I'm talking reality. And speaking reality. I'm not speaking from like I said, we move the gloves. We want to say something that affects you. So So now what happens? You hate her so you don't talk to her. So husband comes back. Your mom's such a horrible person. You know, she's nasty. You know? Now you don't go and say exactly what she said. She was yelling at me in front of everyone. Look at how you spicing things up. Mashallah, okay, fine. But she meant it to say you know what, don't be lazy, but she didn't know how to tell you. And guess what you don't know how to understand the language. So now you've made a huge volcano out of nothing. And when a volcano erupts, it sweeps

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through not just the two of you, but through your children and through everybody else in a generation. And next thing you know, you might be separated and you might be divorced in all because according to you, your mom told you to get up at six o'clock and she was not a mom, but a mom in law.

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Imagine you have to live as a society community and you can't even live with your own immediate family. Where are you going to go? How is your earth and your world going to operate? You have a few more years on this globe to prove a point you make the difference? say oh my god, you know what? And this brings me back to the other with the woman you know, she was getting married and she goes to the the mother in law. Let me see if I can remember this one. So panela she says you know what?

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Yes, yeah. Wow, I am here. She the mother in law started explaining to her that I don't want anything to change in this house. You don't come here and start doing things, your way. Everything.

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will happen the way we do things. So she said no problem, whoever was cooking will keep on cooking, whoever was cleaning will keep on cleaning.

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If you want to keep on doing this,

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and I will just entertain your son. That's it.

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Now, the truth is, that's just a fairy tale in real life that don't happen. Because you have real people. And this is why your test is how am I going to change this thing. And if you're going to be bad as well, you get to bad people, it makes it worse it compounds the problem, so you're not going to be able to solve it. What you need to do is apply wisdom tech make, do I read your Salah cry to Allah, Allah, I have a problem in front of me. Let's call it a challenge. Allah helped me to solve it. I'm just new in this home and I really need to do something because I have to live as a community. And here we just a family that can't even live together. So panela This is why even if

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you look at brothers or sisters, we love each other, don't we? We have differences. We have differences. I know one shift, one said that two things can draw brothers apart women and wealth. And I said no, they can't. It depends on your heart. It depends on you. If you want yes, some people say well, you got a lot of wealth. You can you know, brothers can be split. Sometimes you get married and the women can split you But to be honest, if you have a man and you have that underlying starting point I was talking about when you are family, your starting point is far higher than just when you have the deen although the deen is much more important, but you have something more to be

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able to be connected with that Allah has chosen and you have parents even if they are non Muslim, to be good to them. That's something Allah chose. So imagine May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us solve our problems? My brothers and sisters, I want to pause and divert for a few seconds. And that is to tell you, if you have sons or daughters, please be easy on them. When I say be easy on them, I mean, engage them in discussion, convince them rather than instruct them. There was a time when you could just say do and they do it. Now to say Why? I don't want to. And if you have a son of the modern 22nd century, who tell you you say do you say you do?

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Believe me that's how it is. But the truth is, the reality is if you engage in discussion, son, wow, there's a beautiful motor vehicle out there an example and it's going to cost you $20,000

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I think there's too cheap Hong Kong, isn't it?

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It's going to cost you $20,000 son I know you can do it. All you got to do is gone work hard. Here's the job and just go there few months you'll have 20,000 all I'm telling him is son Don't be lazy, get off your backside and start going to work. But I'm introducing it in such a beautiful way Why? Because I've got a family to live he's gonna grow up and get married. He'll have children he will say when my dad wanted to tell me how lazy I was. He talked to me about the car I ended up buying it and guess what my laziness went

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it's just a plan it's a system. If we can do that with family What about the oma? Like I say do constructive work love one another? If you do not feel the love for one another right here right now. There is a problem.

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There is a problem. I don't know you you may not know me, I am sure I will have differences with you. But guess what? I love you for the sake of Allah, you are my brother, you are my my part of my oma our oma, we belong to one major family. And you know what, if you're a human being you are a human being and I'm a human being do so we share that in common. So I care enough for you to be able to engage you in beautiful discussion, sometimes only through character, and sometimes only through a mere greeting and sometimes only through a mere expression on my face. Subhan Allah, you know, we're living in the real world out there. It's not just a fairy tale where you sit on your own No,

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you have a mission to accomplish, and that is to earn the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. May Allah bless us. Let me give you a quick example from Surah number again, many things I mentioned, I just want to say to In brief, one thing mentioned is that RC and RC RC meaning the mounts Now, what is a mountain made of mountain is strong, it's powerful. You look at the huge mountains here in Hong Kong, Mashallah.

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And you will find how big they are huge, amazing, massive.

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They are made up of small particles of grains of sand.

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If I have one or two grains, I'm sure they are here right now they just flying around, no one notices they're

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the same same, when it is dense, and so much and all together doing the same thing. It makes a whole mountain.

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So if I'm my individual person, I achieve nothing as a community, because I'm worried about myself. I achieve absolutely no even in family, you are there with your own agenda. I must be happy as well that would mean even at the expense of the sadness of the others, or should I say at the expense of the happiness of the other so you make them sad.

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Because you want to be happy, it will not work that way. It does not work that way. Do you know Allah has kept something amazing? With regards to happiness and sadness? Can I quickly tell it to you? You get more happiness by making others happy than you would by making them sad. Think about it. That's our last plan. If you serve someone, you help them you reach out to them. You are courteous to them you make their day your day is made before that. Believe me, your day is made. That's our last plan. Why? Because you're supposed to live together. Your test is Jana, come show Oh boom. acaba de la Lita. Allah says, We have made you, peoples and tribes in order for you to know

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one another, to be able to fulfill the rights of one another to understand one another, not to trample on one another and oppress one another and frown upon one another. But for a mission and we've just mentioned it. So one grain of sand would be blown away by the wind. But the strongest of galeforce will not blow away all mountain.

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Take a look at the other thing mentioned in the surah Allah speaks about unharmed you know whether it's rivers or even let's say the lakes or let's for example, use the that of the sea or the ocean. What is it made up of? h2o? You agree? One droplet of water one small speck h2o, I don't think I'd be able to see this here in the atmosphere. You can see I'm sweating Mashallah 97% today, it looks like 101% humidity.

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We like swimming here, Masha Allah.

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So Subhan Allah, if you take a look at it, it evaporates so quickly. But if it's together in a cup, what happens? you boil the whole thing, what evaporates is very little, and you won't even notice it and you still enjoy your tea and you boil your water Subhanallah and if you have the whole ocean, what would happen to it, you would find it it can actually, you know, it's a force to be reckoned with not only do the ships move on it and so on, but if May Allah protect us, if that thing becomes a bit wider than the wave actually comes up, it creates a tsunami and the disaster May Allah subhanho wa Taala assist those who were affected by the tsunamis in the past, and may He make us not

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from amongst those who will be affected by it neither now nor in the future. May Allah protect us all. So my brothers and sisters look at the power where did it come from? If it was one droplet? Nothing. Imagine if those had to fight with each other. I always sit and think you know, if sand particles or water particles had in laws and and family members, they would all be together, you know, separated completely A long time ago, just as well. They're not imagine imagine listening to the sand.

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I can't imagine Allahu Akbar, Allah protect us each a new position, aren't you supposed to be a mountain.

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But that's what we're doing. We're supposed to be a mountain known as in Houma. But each one of us are

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with each other, the top and the bottom, the male and the female, the relative and the non related the scholar and the dollar everything.

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Allah protect us.

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My brothers and sisters, really I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant us a lesson at least from what is being said, I as you know, I'm very passionate about this. And I feel very strongly about working positively and about affecting people's lives in a positive way. You want to educate, go out and reach the skies. In fact, the skies are too low, you can actually reach beyond the skies, you want to do something achieved, your achievement is not connected to the lack of achievement of someone else. It's connected to your hard work and the help of Allah remember this. So it by me telling the whole world these guys are like this, and those guys are like that. It's no merit of

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mine, believe me half the time or more than half the time, I might be wrong, to be honest with you, I might be wrong. I have achieved nothing. But I can show people the way in a positive way. And this is why I want to end saying something. Okay, I know we're talking of community and society and building this society in a beautiful way, speaking about unity, and so on, because that's the whole theme. It says ID unity and I also added something called unity. Everything has to do with Unity, so panela. But I want to add something very important. You know, if you find yourself pointing fingers at others in a derogatory way, calling them bad and dirty names, you need to know that shaytan is

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getting hold of you.

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Because you are not positively contributing to your own life, not to the lives of others. I am not saying don't discuss your differences, but I'm saying do so maturely. And remember, you will never ever think exactly the same, but learn to love one another at least where you have things in common by the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And be careful of those who always try to just label and name and so on and so forth and do things in a very dirty way trying to harm the oma and trying to harm humanity at large just by calling people names in such a bad way that we crumble and we

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become little particles of dust rather than the entire mountain. May Allah subhanahu wa taala bless us all. And May He grant us goodness and may He open our doors or sal Allahu wa salam o Baraka la Vina Mohammed Subhana Allah Subhana Allah homovanillic shadow Allah Hyland.