Healing Hearts

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah. He was salatu salam ala Rasulillah, who Allah, Allah, He was lucky to be here, Jermaine, when Allah Almighty tells us that He has created us,

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in order for us to worship Him, and that he shall test every one of us, sometimes

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people feel well, it's so boring to be on Earth only to be tested, not realizing that being on this earth is not the aim. The aim is what comes after this. This is only a pass time, or should I say, a passing place, a duniya da role model? Well, here are two Darel Makara. For Hulu, main memory, comm Lima currycomb. The world and this life is a passing place, the hereafter is the everlasting place. So take from your passing place, only that which will benefit you in your final, ultimate eternal place, which is the hereafter. Now,

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how can I prove that Allah Almighty created me to test me, it's quite simple. None of us has the full package, not one. No one has the full package. No matter who you are, no matter what you have, it's not the full package, you will definitely have some things and you will not have some things, you might have some things that facilitate for you an easy life, in certain aspects on Earth, but some things others will have, that do not have what you have. It's amazing, that's Allah. So you have a person really wealthy, but sometimes maybe they have family problems, and you have someone who's not so wealthy, but they have the best family relationships. And then you have someone really

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good looking, but they just can't find the spouse. And then you have someone who the world considers mediocre. And why I say the world considers me mediocre, is because the world can say this is pretty, this is not so pretty. And that keeps changing over time. You know, long back it was a little bit different. Now it's becoming a little bit different.

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But Allah has created everyone pretty and handsome and good looking in their own right. So to say the world considers someone good looking. Yet they may have an issue and a problem in some other aspect of their lives. When people look at you, they might think I don't think this person has a single problem. Agree. But you know that I have so many problems, so many issues, I struggled with my children, sometimes I struggle with my parents, my in laws, my health, my work, my whatever it might be. It is never that you can have the full package because perfection is for Jana, it's for Paradise.

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If Allah Creo if Allah had created perfection for this earth, and this worldly life, there would be no purpose in creating paradise. But he wants us to go through challenges, I want to tell you something.

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How many of us think that I've got so many problems. I just wish I didn't have these problems? Well, it's good you make dua to Allah, you call out to Allah, you cry to him, you get closer to him because you have problems. At times, if you didn't have those problems, you wouldn't get closer to him. But what you don't realize, and this is a very deep point, sometimes as a result of doors that Allah closed for you, he's opened for you what he actually gave you beyond other people. So say for example, you're a very wealthy person, one example just an example. You're a very wealthy person, perhaps that wealth has come to you because it's part of your package where Allah did not give you

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certain things. And you asked Allah and you cried to Allah and you got close to Allah and you were patient for certain things and because of that patience, Allah opened other doors

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for him number three, your son in the US surah Allah says indeed in Surah two Shara indeed with hardship comes ease, not necessarily the same is not necessarily connected to that hardship. It could be a different ease. One hardship in your life could have opened a door somewhere behind that you didn't realize was connected to this hardship. So thank Allah, if you can manage what Allah has put in your direction. Why?

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While asking Allah to alleviate it and working towards its alleviation, keep thanking him, because it's only if you thank him that you're going to get more many of us don't realize Allah put a problem in your life that you can manage. And there's nobody on earth who doesn't have a problem. So if he takes that one away, he has to give you another one. Because you have to have something, at least that you're tested by throughout your life from the beginning to the end. It's either big or small. If you can manage something and you're coping with something, remember to thank Allah for it, because it could have been bigger than what it is. It could have been worse, aren't we, as believers

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taught that whenever something goes wrong in your life, you should say, it could have been worse and thank Allah, you went through some challenge, you lost a job, you lost a limb, your health, perhaps you struggled with your health, you tell Allah Oh Allah, I thank you, it could have been worse. It's not easy to thank Allah when you're in hardship. But that is one of the ways to remedy the heart.

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Healing the hearts is a very important topic. It's not the first time we have this theme.

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But definitely every time we talk about it,

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it heals the heart even more, because you know what repetition helps you. Allah Almighty tells us repeat, because indeed, the reminding the continual reminding, will help those who believe why that kid fell in the car.

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Found, meaning remind For indeed, the reminding, helps those who believe we repeat things, we continue helping each other, we continue talking about certain things in order for us to realize when a person says it once, sometimes we might not pick it up, they say it again, we may not pick it up, we pick up a little bit when they say it a third time it sinks in finally, so I want to tell you, your package, you need to understand it. You need to thank Allah I am coping, Allah does not allow any soul to be burdened with more than it can shoulder. Allah will never test you with something beyond your capacity. But he tells you, if you bear patience, if you bear patience,

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regarding what I have chosen for you, then for you is paradise. Because patience is an act of worship that is so high and so great. It is designed by Allah in order to bring you closer to him in order to soften your heart in order to heal your heart as well in a way that the ultimate reward is you sailing through in the hereafter to paradise in NEMA, you have sabe Runa agilon

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Allah recompenses those who bought patients with a reward that is unlimited. So when you're going through problems, just thank Allah Oh Allah, I thank you. It's tough helped me through it. I'm not saying don't ask Allah to help you. And I'm not saying don't do anything about it. But I am telling you to thank Allah and to bed what is called a beautiful patients. Beautiful patients should not make you ugly because you're struggling. You know, I want to give you an example of my beloved mother.

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She used to have an issue with her arthritis

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on her knees, and Alhamdulillah she's had a double up and mashallah, it's helped and she's walking, and she's quite healthy. Alhamdulillah May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant her good health, she's in her late 80s. Okay. And before she had the up every time she was upset, and she was a little bit snappy, she was she's a very, very beautiful person, amazing in her characteristics. But whenever she was a little bit snappy, it took me a while to realize that she's in pain.

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She's in pain. So because she's in pain, she's irritant. Any small thing, she just gets upset with it, she can snap at you because she's in pain.

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And the same happens to all of us. When your mind is occupied with something you get irritated with your loved ones, because you're occupied with something. Imagine dad or mom is busy on the phone and the child keeps coming. And it's something very important if it's not important, put your phone aside and deal with the child but something very important. What do you do? You normally get irritated the child can come and say yeah, you know, you'll smile first say okay, okay, step aside, hey, step aside, and then it becomes move and then you tell them please come and get this command. I'm busy, right? Because you are busy your mind is occupied with something. Your mind is occupied

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when it's occupied man becomes irritant or

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Allah Almighty knows that when you are in pain when you are going through any form of pain, be it physical, be it emotional, whatever pain, it might be mental pain, if I can call it. It's not easy to be beautiful at that time. Beautiful in the way you speak, beautiful in the way you come across. It's not easy to smile, when you're in pain, something is wrong with me. My I've got a stomach ache, I've got a headache, I've got something happening and you expect me to be so sweet. And you expect me to be patient. Allah says, First bill soberano jameelah Jameela. He describes the patience that he wants us to endure or to do. He describes it as beautiful patience. You need to be understanding,

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listen, I'm gonna get a big reward to try and be the best person I can even during my hardship and pain. You know what it will do for you. It will help you heal your heart and you will not break the hearts of others.

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While speaking about healing the heart. Many of us break the hearts of others and we expect our hearts to heal.

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If you want your heart to Him, primarily make sure you haven't broken hearts. Make sure you don't go and abuse people this morning we spoke to the torchbearers here, our children who were here in the numbers from so many schools across the whole of Dubai. And one of the things we were saying is to develop your character, the way you speak. Many people don't think before they talk yet the brain is the differentiating factor between us and animals. You listen to an animal, what happens? It makes a sound that you don't understand and sometimes it becomes irritating. But if you listen to a human, the person's qualities are very clear from the way they speak. When they speak to you. You can tell

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this person mashallah Tabata Cola, you know what they really think before they speak they worded so nicely, Allah has blessed them in a beautiful way. That's how I should be. That's how you should be. That's how we should all be and Charity begins at home. You start in your own house when you're at home, learn to speak to your family members in the most beautiful way. What does it cost you? What does it cost you, you want your heart to heal, learn to heal the hearts of others and learn not to break them in the first place. And you know what, Allah will protect your heart from ever being broken. Allahu Akbar. Similarly, if you want paradise, one of the things that comes to hinder your

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entry into paradise is when you've done something against others, the reward of your acts of worship that were piling up actually goes to someone else all together. What was the point? You do your Salah, you do your Quran, you do your Sokka you are very charitable mashallah, you fast in Ramadan, you fast the Mondays and Thursdays and you fast, the middle of the month, a year and well being of the 13th 14th and 15th of the lunar month and so on all that fasting, but you're abusing, you're hurting, you're

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really making people cry, because you live with them, and you're not considered of them. In that particular case, you are hindering, you're hindering your access to janitorial for those for nothing. For nothing. Imagine for no reason, I'm hindering my path to Jannah. The path to Jannah is filled with sacrifice, and is filled with patience, you need a lot of patience. And this is why Allah Almighty expects us to do as much good as we can so that we can get into this paradise. Like I said, when I started your package, that's the word. Remember, it's your package, part of your packages, your marriage might be delayed. If your marriage is delayed, it's not the end of the

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world. You're not the first person don't give up. Some people say, Well, you know what I'm already 30 giving 30 some people haven't even thought of marriage at that age. I agree, some marry very early, maybe 20 and so on. There's no specific timeframe in Islam to say, you must be married by this time here.

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But there is there is an Islamic teaching that says you must try because in the trial, there is a reward, whether it's going to happen or not. And when it's going to happen, and how it's going to happen and with who it's going to happen. There is that is in the hands of Allah did you try? Yes, I did. Allah will reward you.

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You know, people say, I tried, it didn't work. And I got married. Very late. Very late. I found a guy or I found someone and I did my istikhara istikhara is when you're asking the guidance of Allah subhanahu wa taala in a specific way, and it was all looking so positive. Why did Allah make it so positive when I was going to end up in a divorce because now I'm divorced, and I feel I shouldn't ever have gotten married and I sit and I said, You know what? The fact that you went through it for the sake of Allah was already rewarding. That could

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Be Your deed that tips your scale on the day of judgment that would result in your ultimate entry into Paradise because you went through something and you struggled quite a bit, but you were still thankful to Allah, your struggles brought you closer to Allah and not

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drive you further away. That's your paradise. So Allah Almighty is telling you that you need to try in that trial, there is a reward. You're trying to fulfill something and then if it happened and it didn't work, in the divorce, there is a reward. Some people make their spouses struggle and they know the marriage is over, but they want to fix their spouse, Wallah he, the Almighty will fix you. The Almighty will fix you.

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Allah says for insocoat Bhima ofin three home B is

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in any marriage we need to understand this beautiful teaching of Allah where he says you either hold someone in goodness in that which is common or you release them with goodness

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but you don't have to hurt someone you got along well done Mashallah. I'm so happy for you guys. You got a beautiful home it like they say it's a house on fire.

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You know, I don't understand why they use that term. When you really get along to say like a house on fire. I wonder why have you ever thought of it? Does it make sense that house on fire house on fire is supposed to be something you know, negative. But sadly, in the English language house on fire means mashallah they get along so you get along with so happy when you don't get along? Allah is warning you to say he's watching what exactly you're doing. If you know it's the end of the road, you better part ways in a beautiful way with goodness, listen, we're not getting along. And we've got to go our own ways. And if the divorce happens, then you will end up divorcing in a respectable

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manner. If you have kids, they will remain some form of connection between you forever. Because you have children, you are the mother or you are the father of the same children. They will be contact communication indirectly in most cases, and in some cases may be direct, don't abuse that. I've known of a lot of men sometimes where if they for some reason, in some circumstances have direct contact with their ex. They make life a misery for that person. Wait, wait, Allah will come for you. Allah will come for you. If you are messing with a helpless person, you're not going to be able to get away with it for too long, Allah will come. And when Allah comes he comes in ways you may never

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understand initially, later on when someone reminds you, you say why am I struggling? Why did this go wrong? Why did I make a loss? I usually ask, have you harmed someone? Have you hurt someone? You know what you hindering not just your Jana, but even your worldly life. That's what it is. So make sure that you understand Allah Almighty is great. Allah has chosen for you a package live within that package. It's called destiny, your destiny is written. If it's meant that you were going through a divorce, so be it Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah thank Allah, I'm still okay, I'm fine. I can survive. There are others who are going through worse. And sometimes those who are going through

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words are thanking Allah when I travel, and I visit really poor countries and I see people under a tree sleeping with a little blanket that's halftone and they look at yourself and malaika and the way they smile, I think to myself Wallahi there are people living in palaces that don't have that smile. That's Allah, they are happy with that package. They have adjusted their lives based on what they have. With us. We cannot adjust our lives. I've lost a job for example, while I'm going to need to downgrade if I can't find a job, I don't become depressed, I keep looking for a job I don't give up I look for it again and again and again. And like we've always said it will come your sustenance

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is written. an Epson learn to move data stuck minute is you need to know that a soul will never die until and unless it has received in full every bit of sustenance that was written for it. You won't die until the million comes to you. The problem is people say I want it now.

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May Allah grant us the millions and the billions Mashallah. But with goodness, not not as a punishment sometimes when Allah gives us, He gives us because we're far away from him. And that's it. But sometimes he gives us as a means of us getting closer to him. That's Allah, it's part of your package. Do not let the blessings Allah has given you drive you away from him and do not let the challenges that Allah has placed in your life

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drive you away from him. Don't ever let either one of them drive you away. If anything you should be coming closer to Allah the more you have, the more you can perhaps be charitable yes or make a quick trip to Umrah is it not become easy?

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It's very easy a quick trip. We couldn't do that before. Now, once in a while you can say you know what we can what are we doing? Now there's a good answer you can say well I'm just popping in it's fine to say that popping into Mecca in sha Allah, I want to do an ombre thank Allah make dua seek forgiveness and we'll come back and how long did you take 24 hours 48 hours 72 hours it can happen those are good deeds, you using your wealth in the right way Mashallah. But sometimes I'm not saying that's the only way it's an example. Sometimes you could do so many other things. But if you use your wealth when you get it to do something, illegitimate, unacceptable haram displeasing to Allah

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who is losing their Jana who is losing their paradise as it is, we would have lost this worldly life because we lacked contentment in it. When you lack contentment, you end up looking for contentment in a place where it is not found. It's not found. In fact, when you end up sinning, you end up even less content if even if there was a bit of it, it goes. So remember, ask Allah subhanahu wa taala. To grant you goodness, ask Allah keep asking Allah to guide you. Like I've said, always the most repeated DUA and supplication ever is, the inner soya almost thing, guide us to the straight path. That's the most repeated supplication ever.

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The Muslims repeated billions of times on a daily basis.

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Why is it the most important and most repeated because that is the core of everything. When Allah has guided you ask Him for guidance. It's not enough to just think it's going to pop across and it's suddenly going to appear? No, ask Allah and look for it and search for guidance and make an effort to tread that path. Today on Earth. We see a lot of discontentment we see a lot of struggles, we see so many broken hearts. Do you know a lot of the time it's a result of sinful behavior? A lot of the times it's a result of having lost focus upon Jannah a lot of the times it's a result of having disconnected from Allah, had you been connected to Allah or attempted to connect or at least focused

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on that connection? Perhaps it would have been less or it wouldn't have been there.

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You know, sometimes people develop an illicit relationship, even if the person seriously wants to marry you. I know a lot of people who really lie that I want to marry you, and they don't want to, but because they show this interest that you know, I really I want to marry you inshallah. So I just want to get to know you. No, no, no, don't drop your guard. Do not drop your guard. It is the path of losing contentment because you losing Allah. If this person is really serious, they will be honest with you. They will tell you the facts, or they will be man enough to come over and do the right thing. But for them to just develop what happens your heart is gone heart. We're talking about

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healing hearts, you actually just letting go of it to a into the ocean, into the ocean that has waves that are going to swallow this heart.

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You just released it and what's happening you you're excited, it sounds nice. It feels nice. It shape on making it feel nice. But it's in the disobedience of Allah. So what will happen? A day will come when suddenly the relationship is over. And how did it end? It ended in a way that I'm heartbroken. I feel like I don't want to live anymore. I feel like What's this life all about? Hang on. If I can say one idiot let you down and you want to commit suicide. Come on. You becoming a bigger idiot. May Allah Almighty forgive us. You don't need that one person let you down because you allow them to let you down at times. They lied and you couldn't read between the lines. So don't

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give your heart away to someone. Give it to Allah.

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Hold it. Make sure you know when to proceed. And make sure you know when to hold back. If there is no proper marriage. I don't donate my heart, no chance. I don't donate it because it comes without the blessing of Allah. In that case, when there is the blessing of Allah, I can let go of it. I always tell my own family members that you know anything you found on this earth, you're gonna have to leave it so don't get too attached to it.

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Did you hear that? Anything you found out

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The Earth, no matter whether it's people, whether it's material items, whatever it was anything you found on this earth, you are going to have to part ways at some point. So do not get too attached the natural attachment to your children and your parents. And that's a natural attachment. But it shouldn't be so much to the degree that you can't let go Subhanallah imagine, I know of cases where the child gets married, and the mother or the father still interferes in the life and controls every aspect of the life of the child, you're gonna have to let go a little bit Come on, you have to let go a little bit more. And you might have to let go almost fully, they're independent, they're old,

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they're married, they cannot have you continue to dominate and control the entire life is gonna mess up the whole relationship. But no, we want that connection as though without us they're not going to be able to do anything, no chance. Without you. They might do a better job, actually. May Allah Almighty forgive us? That attachment is not so healthy. To a degree. Yes. But beyond that, beyond the point, no, no, no, you may have to leave it and quit it. Now my brothers and sisters, that family I'm speaking about the family unit. Do you know on the globe today, because of social media, many people are withdrawing from relations that are the healthiest within their own families. Your

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parents are extremely important. Your in laws are very important people. I always say

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if you want to be kind,

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Allah says you get a reward. Who is he talking about? He's talking about random people.

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Listen to this. Listen to this, when you're kind to a dog.

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Is there not a hadith that says you can get paradise?

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When you've quench the thirst of a thirsty dog? Is there not a hadith that encourages us through a certain story that tells us you could get paradise for them. When you're kind to a cat.

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There is another narration that also gives you good news that perhaps you might just get Paradise because of such a good deed. An example is given of someone who did it and God, goodness.

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Those are animals. Imagine if that was a human. Let's go to the human beings. I'm on the street, and I'm taught to smile. So I look at my brother and I say salaam aleikum, give him a smile. What did I do? Charity? Who's this guy? Oh, Allah. He I don't know. Allah, I have no idea. But why did you smile? Because Allah loves this deed. And he taught me the deed. But you don't know this person? Yes, it's a random person.

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If I were to give money to a person, a beggar, and I were to treat them respectfully, random beggar on the street.

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Is it not? A huge good deed in Islam? It is. What if that person was the mother of the love of your life? Wow. What if that person was the father of the love of your life? Do you know where I'm heading?

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Do you know where I'm heading? What if that person is the family of the love of your life? And you see them? Are you going to still see Santa Monica?

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Are you

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it's not easy. Sometimes because there's a bit of politics. Allah says you get a double reward because one is a reward of Taraba. One is a reward of relation they related to you. It's not just a random person. For an animal there was already Jana. Imagine.

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Some people might say, well, I'll stick to the animals. No, no, no.

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We got to get from there. To the random human beings, there's a big reward. If it is not just random, someone related to you somehow Wallahi there is a double triple reward. And if you're in laws, or your parents or your siblings or your uncles and aunts, well, your neighbors Wallahi there is a triple and quadruple reward. One is that of a neighbor. One is that of a relative one is that of a Muslim one is that of a human, all those categories. So the closer they are in relation, the greater the reward. Do you know why it's more difficult sometimes, because the interactions are a lot. When you interact with someone so much, you start seeing a little bit of their weaknesses, you

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start disagreeing with a few things you have you seen them once in a while. You're so excited, so happy, Mashallah. Especially when they are parents who are a little bit older. Do you know why there's a bit of distance sometimes because they might have to guide you and people don't like that guidance. Don't dress like this. Who said that to you? Who are you to tell me I can tell you I'm your father. Do I have a right to say yes, I do. Subhanallah I will be rewarded to tell you maybe the father's need to choose maybe a better way of saying things because the generations are changing in the way they perceive advice.

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But that doesn't mean they were totally wrong. They had the right. If you get angry if you distance if you no longer want to be

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In the company of simply because they corrected you Allah He there's something that needs correction here maybe on my part,

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may Allah make it easy. So there is a greater reward, the more they related to us, it increases my chances to go to paradise. So many fold, because they no longer just an animal and they no longer just a cat or a dog. In fact, it's a human and it's someone close to me. Imagine if that was your spouse. So here goes, here goes.

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How you come here Eurocom Li Li here's the Prophet sallallahu Sallam the best from amongst you have those who are best to their wives or to their family members. The reason is quite simple, because they're going to be in your face. They're going to be there all the time. They're going to see you at all times you've got to be so good to them in order for you to achieve your paradise not to make a hindrance between you and Jana to overdose.

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Family my brothers and sisters family is extremely important. You only realize it later on.

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So don't plug out completely. Sometimes you have to move because of numbers and sometimes because of convenience and sometimes because you don't want a problem it looks like it's brewing you have to move a little always learn never to burn bridges with family. Don't burn the bridge. There might be a little bit of turbulence there might be a but go out to maintain the relation go out to mend Lacell Watson who will McAfee in normal worse will will let the man either quarterly or Rahima who was ALLAH?

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A person who's a good maintainer of relations is not the one who has a tit for tat relation you do I do you visit I visit you feed I feed you send I send know a true maintainer of relations the Hadith says is the one whom when the relation has been severed, they make an effort to mend it. Whether you were right or wrong. That's my family. Nevermind who was right and wrong. Obviously, it depends what it is. If it's something major, someone committed murder or something, there's a different ruling, but we're talking of the general issues that people face, family.

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Why is family so important? Here's the reason simple. Because Allah chose that family for you. Allah Subhana Allah to Allah is the one who decided that you are coming onto this earth. You didn't decide.

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None of us is here by choice, not one. No one.

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You are not on earth because you wanted to be here, no ways.

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So when you go to the to the Acura, you will go in a similar fashion. Many people want to stay Allah says you are going you have no say in if you're going, you have to go, I am here, by the choice of Allah, I will go by the choice of Allah Alhamdulillah. I look forward to that day I tried. I'm a human, I sinned, I sought forgiveness because that's the way the earth works. And that's the way Allah has created human beings we sin, we do wrong things. We tend to Allah, we seek forgiveness, and we go ahead, make sure your good deeds are more than your bad deeds. So that at least when the scales up, placed, and your deeds go up, and you're watching your own scale, and you see tipping

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because of one good deed, one, it might just be your sub somebody is actually a big deal. And you it ways and you have eternal bliss, eternal bliss. May Allah Almighty grant us Jana. So Allah who put me here, chose a path to put me here, that was my mother, my father, he chose my race. He chose my color, my size, everything he chose, that was Allah, and he put me here

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as a test, and I told you at the beginning, it's proven that it is a test. Nobody has the entire package. Nobody, not one.

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So my brothers and sisters, what do I get as a result of all the struggles in this world, I might not get what I desperately want. Maybe not. I know people who

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and I have to say it because the numbers are increasing. I know people who want to get married, years pass years pass and you know what it's not happening and years past and they get used to the idea that you know what, maybe it's not written for me

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Wallahi if even that one thing.

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If you bought patience to the degree that you were satisfied with the choice of Allah for you, He will grant you paradise as a result of that sub.

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I promise you, when you see the reward of the patients you bought, you will thank Allah he will say Oh Allah, it was worth it. It was absolutely worth it. But in this world, I may not get what I desperately want. And this is not just about marriage, it's about anything and everything else. People are seeking ill terminally sometimes. Oh Allah I only ask you one thing. cure me. I desperately want cure. Oh Allah don't take my mother away. She's ill and sick. By the way, we pull

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For a moment to make a DUA, or Allah grant cure to all those amongst us who are sick and ill, and oh Allah grant cure to all those who are watching this live, who may be sick and ill, and to all of those who we know who may be sick and ill from our families and from the entire Ummah, oh Allah grant them all cure, say I mean.

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So, if Allah has not written cure for someone, the fact that you kept trying, you kept making dua, you kept having hope, and you died in that condition. That may just be your bonus entry into Paradise. Allah says, We love the way you were so hopeful, and you didn't know what we'd written for you. That's Allah.

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These are the struggles. When you get to Jana. What do you have? Wallahi. When you get there, you have what ever you desire, anything you desire, Allah will not let you down. You want to ask me? Will I have this? Will I have this? Will I have that? The answer to all of it is if you get there, when you are there. If you still remember those things, Allah will give them to you. But if you don't remember them, then that's what it is. So people say Will my dog be there? That's another one. I've been getting so much of late. Before it used to be will my cat be there? Now? They say Will my dog be there? Have you ever heard that? This guy saying to dogs? How many dogs? For dogs? La hawla.

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Wala Quwata illa biLlah. For dog will my dogs be in paradise?

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Someone asked me the question. You might have heard my answer, right.

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You know what I said?

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I said

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I'm just thinking about paradise. Imagine you chilling in Paradise, and you're so super happy and you're just looking at the gifts of Allah. And suddenly you hear

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it can't happen. I don't think so. I don't think there's gonna be barking of dogs. Come on. You're gonna say What's going on man? His dogs here too. No, no, no, come on. May Allah Almighty protect us. So for me, just the thought of it is no way is absurd. I can't think of dogs barking and all these sounds and noises of all these things here. See the brother with four dogs? How many would you like now? None. Right? No more dogs or dogs that don't bark. May Allah may Allah Almighty forgive us. But this is we don't realize we're asking for things in a way that we don't even know where we're going. People say I lost a child. My child, what will happen? Well, the child will be waiting

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in sha Allah and will fight your case by the will of Allah subhanahu wa taala perhaps intercede on your behalf with Allah subhanho wa Taala for you to go to Jana. But if you've lived your life heading in the opposite direction altogether, now come on, you're asking will my child be waiting for you? Your child will be waiting for you. But where are you gonna go? Isn't it a question? The same applies while I'm worried about my cats and my dogs. I forget about myself and that's the main thing. Allah says Worry about yourself going into paradise. Once you're there will Allah he will not let you down. What Allah He you will not be let down. Never, never ever so we work towards that in

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sha Allah. May Allah Almighty grant us eternal Jana, and may Allah Almighty bless every one of us with beautiful Jana, I was actually meant to speak for a little bit less, and then open the floor for some of those who'd like to participate with us not asking questions, but rather giving us a little glimpse into one or two of the ways perhaps that they were patient. Some struggles they may have had that made them closer to Allah Almighty, a way that Allah may have opened their doors. The idea is to inspire every one of us and to help others comfort their hearts and help their hearts heal.