Do you know why THIS man was mentioned in the Quran – Motivational Evening

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AI: Summary © The importance of fulfilling a man's mission is emphasized in Islam, including the need for faith and discipline in one's actions to show one's faith and fulfill obligations. The importance of helping people to see a positive change in their lives and empower their bodies is also emphasized. The importance of being mindful of one's behavior and not giving too many opportunities to outflatter others is also emphasized. The segment ends with a mention of a new video about being aware of one's behavior and not giving too many opportunities to outflatter others.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

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Mita Do you want humbled him that he was Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah, he was, he was a big man.

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Look, the man the WISE was actually a man who was not a prophet of Allah. But Allah mentals him in the Quran made people think he was a prophet, Look, man, the wise. And he was actually from a nova, which is today where Sudan is, which means he was an African man from Africa. And yet, when it comes to with them, we all know that unmask is the most wives, every rule and reclamation that Allah Almighty has stipulated is there for a reason and the purpose primarily, to ensure that we live our short lives on earth in the greatest way, to maximize not only the contentment while we're here, but the ability to navigate through the challenges and the curveballs thrown at us from time to time,

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during this particular phase of our living. And why I say phase of living, because our knife will continue into the hereafter, and we will be in the hereafter for a much longer time than we were on this. There are people who have died 1000 years ago, but they only do it for 80 years or 100 years. There are people for example, who died 100 years ago, and they live for 50 years. So it shows that the life after this particular life is definitely going to be longer, we believe, is everlasting. Completely. This short life, Allah wants me to fulfill a specific purpose. And it's only the gift of the Almighty that will make me understand that purpose. I've always looked at people who lead their

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lives as they you wish, as they wish, I do what I want. And I've seen many of them, if not almost all of them, lacking contentment, something lacking in their lives, I had happened to interact with people who are super sob and heroes. And in that interaction, they told me I'm searching for contentment is something missing in this life. And I tell them, obviously, there is a way of talking because you know who to who you're talking to, at times, they're not even Muslim. And you got to say, consider a connection with your Creator.

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What did I say? Consider a connection with your Creator. This evening, I'd like to tell you, my brothers, my sisters, consider improving your connection with your makeup, I promise you, you will have a level of contentment, and fulfillment even through the challenges that you will be facing on a daily basis because on Earth, none of us have a challenge free life, a life that has no challenges, no hardship, no difficulty, I have to have difficulty and so does the President and the Prime Minister and the king and those who have wealth and those who don't. And those who are in authority and those who don't, those who are powerful in terms of physical strength, and those who

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are powerful in terms of authority, all of us face challenges. And all of us have issues that we will have to deal with be the family issues, the social circles, maybe at work, maybe with other interactions, whatever it may be, but we have these problems and matters we're going to have to deal with, how do I deal with them? Well, if I deal with them, bearing in mind that I have a creator who's guided me towards how to deal with them, I will be able to do a good job. And if I just do as I please,

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then I may not taste what the Almighty wants me to taste in terms of the sweetness that he has kept. So my brothers and sisters, look man, the wise a great man. Why did Allah mentioned him in the Quran? What's the purpose? Imagine if Allah had to mention you and I in the Quran? by name? I mean obviously revelation is over, but I'm just giving you an example. someone's name is mentioned in the Quran.

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Surely there has to be a purpose, there is a reason and if it is mentioned in a good way with some praise or some beautiful words that you've said, that are repeated and Allah loves them so much that he had to put them in the Scripture and revelation that he sent down His own words, surely it means that they are indeed eternal.

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They say the dog

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with the people of the cave. The dog made it into the Quran. Do you know that

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It means it's mentioned in the Quran. It's mentioned in the Quran, the example of the dog, Allah Almighty gives it in the Quran. When Allah Almighty gives that example, he wants to show us so many things, the people, the young boys, who were fed up with society and how evil it had become at the time, they decided, if we're going to remain in the society, we are going to get sucked in to whatever evil there is, and we don't have the freedom of worshipping our maker at all. So let us go into a cave and worship Allah there. And Allah says, We cause them to sleep for 309 years in that particular cave, when they got up, they thought they had slept just for a day or part of a day.

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Amazing. And when they got up already, the time of all the evil and everything that they were going through, had passed, they got up into a new age where all that was non existent. And this goes to show that from time to time on Earth, you will find the rotation over a period of time of things people have habits. And later on, they have other habits. I know.

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In the five decades or so that I've been on Earth, I can tell you, I noticed motor vehicles one example there are so many so many even fashion in terms of clothing.

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Back in the day, they had bell bottoms, you know what bell bottoms

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you had bell bottoms go and find out okay.

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Then everything changed, and it became different, and so on until the circle almost completed and we started having them again. The same applies to motor vehicles, you find they had round lights back in the day.

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And then they came a time when some of these round lights came back. And now they're gone again. And now you have these little LEDs, there will come a time when the round lights will probably come back after a few years. What's this? These are circles, man gets fed up of the same thing all the time. Imagine if you had to eat the same thing every day in order to survive. And if that was just the way you were made, and that's what Allah's plan was, wouldn't it be so boring? Allah says, We blessed you, we gave you different types of food and drink with different tastes and different colors so that you can understand and appreciate the maker, you can get closer to Allah, if I'm eating and I

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have so many different types of food. Where should it all go back to? Shouldn't it go back to the fact that wow, there's a maker who designed the strawberry different from the raspberry different from the blueberry different from the Blackberry, different from the Mowbray And subhanAllah. They're all berries.

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Surely it's part of the sign of the greatness of Allah.

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The same applies to us. The other day, I saw a clip of a heart pumping. And they were showing like a scan of how exactly it works. And I'm thinking do you realize with what force your heart works, and it doesn't disturb you, you can sleep. But it's actually it's actually working throughout while you're awake and sleeping and whatever it may be. That's a miracle. Allah says it's a sign of our existence, if only but you think if only you ponder That's why Allah wants you to think deep. Look at the stars. Look at the moon. Apparently there's going to be a blue moon in the next few days. I don't know if you're aware of it, but find out and it's something amazing look at how it orbits look

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at what happens. Look at how the clock works and all of this. All this should lead you towards Allah Almighty. So you have Look man, the entire surah the whole chapter is named after a man from Africa. And like I said he was not a prophet of Allah. He was a wise man al Hakim.

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But because his name is the people say look, man alayhi salam they just add it may or may Allah's peace be on him, which is not wrong, but at the same time.

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Why is the question first thing he says? Yeah, Bonilla hola to Shrek be learning in a ship, gala Luna, Halloween, la Akbar when he was advising his son, and he must have given so much advice to his other children or the communities or whoever else it may be but Allah only mentioned the sun and what he said to a particular son. He says, oh my son, advice to you. Worship Allah alone. Don't associate partners with Allah just worship whoever made you your Creator is the only one worthy of worship Allah to Shrek Billa why? When you associate partners with your Creator, you have done the biggest wrong. That's the first piece of advice, worship Allah worship Him. Worship your maker, your

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Creator. And how did He create you? Well, I can tell you how he created all of us in this room today through a mother and a father. So immediately he says what was seen in Santa bhiwadi Dying

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Subhan Allah, Allah Almighty has instructed all of us to be kind to our parents to be respectful, to be kind to our parents, no matter who they are and what they happen to be doing. Be kind to them, be respectful to them, you may disagree. You may want to, for example, protect yourself from evil in the rare cases which are increasing, but rare cases where they may be really toxic human beings, but they happen to be your parents, Allah saying, I chose them for you. My test is will you be kind towards them respectful towards them, bearing in mind that when you were little, they looked after you they, perhaps in our cases, changed our nappies and did whatever else that had to be done, fed

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us and clothed us? Will you become forgetful of it? How many of us were so upset and we say, I was so nice to the sister, I was so nice to this brother, I help them I push them up, I help them grow. And now that they've grown, they're being nasty to me, now that they are now big, they don't want to know me now that they are someone they don't even want to greet or reply to the greeting having to be said that hasn't it happened to us, where you find, even teachers will tell you I taught this guy. But now that he's grown, and he knows something, he ignores me.

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When we do the same thing with our parents, and the parent is the first teacher and the first advisor, and the first person who actually happens to be one who looked after you. I know, there are exceptions where there are some people who have come to me and said, What do I do because my mother dumped me when I was born? Well, that's an exception. We can talk about it. Allah chose her to be your mother. And Allah Almighty tested her she failed the test, or who knows some goodness must have come today. I had a WhatsApp message that someone sent me from Algeria. And it said it was so beautiful that I don't normally put up someone else's WhatsApp status. But I decided to put it

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today. Simple reason. It says something powerful that Allah is saying to us, oh, my worshiper, oh, my slave, if you knew if only but you knew, if you knew how, if you knew how I manage your affairs, and how I've planned your affairs, you would realize with certainty, that I love you more than your mother and your father and your heart would mount with love for me. So just say Alhamdulillah.

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In order to get somewhere, sometimes you have to go through a place, it might be dark in that place, it might be cold in that place. It might be lonely in that place. It might be scary in that place. But as you're coming out of that tunnel, guess what you are where you want it to always be and even beyond.

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Don't worry, it's it's temporary. That's why they say the light at the end of the tunnel. They always say that because we know that whenever you're in a tunnel, there will always be light at the end. May Allah Almighty make it easy for us, but you worship your maker alone. The second piece of advice, be good to your parents because Allah chose a means of you to come to this earth by himself and decided who will be your mother who will be your father go easy on your parents. And that's why the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says, Read the rub. Jani, the pleasure of Allah, the happiness of Allah lies in the happiness of your parents. And the anger of Allah lies in the anger

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of your parents. Now, obviously, if your parents are angry with you or upset with you simply because you did not do something that was prohibited by Allah that they wanted you to do. In that case, excuse it, be kind to them and continue. That's why the same verses say we're in Jah Gala, to shriek Habima. Salah can be here for Allah to whom was Sahiba, whom IV dunya ma Rova. Look at the balance. Allah says, if one or both of your parents are trying to push you towards doing something displeasing to Allah, such as association of partners with Allah in worship, they're not happy with your faith. They're not happy with what you're worshiping, etc, or something made prohibited by

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Allah, they want you to engage in it. Allah Almighty says,

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you don't obey them in that. But when that immediately Allah says Sahiba, whom dunya marovo be a companion for them in this worldly life. In goodness, equitable terms, be nice to them, be kind to them to the best of your ability, no matter what those are your parents. I have a lot of people revert to Islam. They come they say their shahada and they say you know my mum, my dad, I say Listen, your mum your dad may not be Muslims. Your family members may not be Muslim.

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You've got to be kind to them, you've got to fulfill their rights, you've got to go out of your way to ensure that you fulfill your obligation towards them, set by Allah Almighty for you SubhanAllah. And a lot of the times, parents are obviously very skeptical about their children becoming practicing becoming Muslim because they think based on what they hear that this is going to be a disaster, not realizing that you know what, it's actually the biggest blessing. I've had parents, non Muslim who have come and said, you know, what I really appreciate my son used to smoke and drink and club and so on. And he's become so clean, so pure, he comes home, he looks after me, he actually

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makes me breakfast sometimes. Amazing. Amazing. Well, that's what Islam is supposed to be doing for you. You know?

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I hope the sisters don't listen to this video and then say, Well, you better start making breakfast, lunch and supper for us. SubhanAllah. It's just an example. It's an example at sha Allah. My brothers and sisters remember something, Allah Almighty will never mention the story of Look, man, if there was no proper lesson in every word that was mentioned by Allah in the Quran. So firstly, he asks us to worship Allah correctly worship your maker, he is the one who is old worship because

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the simple question that we always ask Where were you before you were born, maybe 10 years before you were born, wherever you were, when you leave this earth, you're going to go back to whoever you were, when you were with Allah, you're going to go back to Allah. So if I'm going to go back to the one who made me and I say, Oh, you who made me, I worship you alone. I don't associate partners with you have mercy on me when I returned to you and so on. Have I made mistakes? No, I haven't. I haven't. That's what Islam teaches you worship the one who made you, the one whom you are going to return to? It doesn't ever say the one you're going to go to? Always the term return is used to

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prove that you were there in the first place. When someone passes on something happens. That is negative as Muslims were taught to say in alila he were in LA Rajon, right? Do you know what that means? Indeed, we all and everything belongs to Allah. And we're all going to be returned to Allah. Notice the word return Raja means to come back, which means I was there and I'm going to go back.

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You see, it doesn't say that. Haha. It doesn't say I'm going to Allah, I'm returning to Allah. That alone proves I was there. I was already with Allah. I'm going back to Allah. Now, naturally, when that happens, you realize he is old worship. He made me and then like I said, your parents what next? What next? Yeah, Boonah came in solid Mubin mauto v one.

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Getty was be the Allameh sabak. Amazing, amazing verse, which has in it for massive pieces of advice. But they were just one word, one word, one word, one word. And it's humongous. What is it? Oh, my son.

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Establish your prayer. establish it. Don't be lazy to pray for your maker. He has blessed you with far more than you deserve. You owe him a little gratitude by worshipping Him and praying and enjoying the prayer. Why should I be a Muslim who's told pray five times a five? Pray five, five.

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pray five times five? No, for only five. Only five look at it and say I wish it was 10.

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I don't want to ask you the question because the last time I asked a question Who wishes that they would have been temporary as nobody put their hands up? I said, Well, I don't blame you because they ain't no 10 prayers. Alhamdulillah. So I won't ask that question. Again. I was embarrassed the last time but at the same time, Allah's only kept five so the question is inapplicable anyway.

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However, aren't we prepared to ask Allah help us to become steadfast without prayer, we pray for you, we will pray and we will ensure that we worship You. We thank you. We express gratitude to you. How do you expect express gratitude to Allah by doing what he expects? What does religion teach you in the first place to discipline yourself? I must be good character good conduct, talk to people properly and show that you are smiling. You are empowering those who are also the creatures of the same maker who made you whom you are trying to impress. I'm trying to impress my maker. My maker has made with me so many other things. Well, if I want to impress him, I need to have a decent

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relationship with the rest of those whom he made. So when you see anyone struggling on earth, for you out of the love of your maker to go and help them up, is actually a sign that you love your maker. Forget about them. I tell people the Quran says Allah who your Hebrew mercy Nene. Allah loves those who do good. Allah loves those who do good

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If I do good because Allah loves those who do good, I do not do good because I think you deserve it or do not deserve it.

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You see, if I were to do good to you only because I think you deserve the good. It's a tit for tat relationship. It's not going to be so good. I'll help some people won't help some people, I'll see a good cause of see for example, and a person who didn't do good things to me, and I see him struggling. Instead of anything I'll say, Ah, just as well. I'd be happy.

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The hadith the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says don't be happy at the loss of your brother. Perhaps Allah might alleviate their struggles and test you light up Hurry. Shemitah li Akik fire hammer hula way up to leak perhaps? Who knows? Maybe

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don't be happy when someone else is at a loss. If you want help people because Allah loves those who help. That's why be kind because Allah loves those who are kind. I always tell people do you want to know how how powerful a person you are in terms of what Allah has given you? Well, how many people have you helped up in your life? How many have you empowered in your life? How many have you built in your life? That is what determines the gift of Allah upon you? This is talking beyond the worship and beyond the issue of worshiping Allah alone and Imani yet and so on. We're talking about

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what Allah has given you in terms of your power. You were in a position? How many did you help while you were there? To come up? Did you? Or did you keep them down? If you kept them down? You didn't understand the plan of Allah, Allah rotates it by force by taking you away. Do you know that you become old? You were the big boss in the company. You empowered nobody in this company? And now you're old and you can't do things anymore? Whose fault is it? yours? Yours, when you could you didn't teach and train? Why do you think Allah Almighty tells us powerfully in the Quran in the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam about the importance of teaching? Well, if teaching and

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learning is so important, and we did not have teachers, what would we have?

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You would be the biggest loser if you knew something, and you died without passing it on.

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Biggest Loser.

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It's gone. It's over today. A lot of what we know is because people were given gifts by Allah and they shared it with us, they gave us we have electricity, we have motor vehicles, we have technology, we have the internet, we have phones, we have whatever, people who actually worked on it. And Allah has kept such a perfect system that Do you know what? In order for me to survive, I need to sell things because I came up with something, I'm going to sell it because I need to make money had I not needed the money, I probably would have been miserly and died with him and let the rest of them suffer. But because I need the money, I can't let them suffer anymore. So that's why

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now I have an aircraft and instead of just me saying, wow, look what I have. I've got to share it with the world and make the money that I needed. Allahu Akbar. You see, it's part of the plan of Allah. So you want Allah says every one of you is going to think differently you are you want to be a teacher, you want to be a tutor.

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As the brothers and sisters were walking in one sister walks in today, and says Make dua that Allah grant cure through my hands. I'm a doctor mashallah, that's a beautiful way of wording it Amin May Allah use you and all of us to do good.

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Why do we want to be different things? It's the plan of Allah. Allah has kept diversity not only in the food we spoke about, in our own likes and dislikes within the scope of halal and haram and within the scope of goodness you will be different share what you have us what you have your talent, your gift, and empower the people and give them it's a sign of the love of Allah for you and your love for Allah subhanho wa Taala you're not going to give back. So Allah says, Yeah, Bonilla, optimise salah. He's, he's talking about Look, man telling his son, establish your prayer, show that gratitude to Allah, enjoy it. I tell you, my brothers and sisters from this day on, don't be lazy to

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pray. Don't be lazy. The time comes, you're praying. Here we are. With a smile. I'm going to do it for the sake of Allah. I don't care. And I don't mind what people think that's besides the point because it's really far but my own neffs my own self within my consciousness. I need to think that you know what, I'm going to enjoy it. I'm going to get up I'm going to be so happy that I actually fulfilled my prayer. That's called a chemist Salah establishing the prayer.

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What motivated Muroff Oh my son, encourage people to do good. Encourage goodness, whatever goodness there is, share it, encourage it. Help the people and so on and encourage people to help others to you get a reward not only a reward, the purpose of your existence on earth is fulfilled. The purpose of your existence on earth is fulfilled because you're doing good and you're encouraging good.

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In the Quran, Allah Almighty speaks about people who encourage sorry, who would who encourage good but themselves they don't do the good

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at that moron

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NASA will be the word

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that loan Ankita but if Allah

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Allah Almighty says, Are you instructing people to do righteousness and you yourself have forgotten your own self Subhan Allah, Allah says you're reading the scriptures Don't you have sense. So work on your own habits and help others work on your own habits and encourage others to work on their habits, teach them reach out to them. More Bill Morrow have one handle Moncure whenever you see something bad and evil, number one, you do not participate in it, don't be a party to it. And number two, discourage people from doing that which is bad and evil and vice discourage them in a beautiful way. The methodology may change from time to time, but the core of the ruling will remain the same.

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The way I'm going to tell you things might change but what I'm trying to tell you is always the same. Because that's Hola. I need to fill my belly whether I fill it with fish or chicken or vegan or vegetarian, whether I fill it with liquids or fruits, or whether I fill it with beef, what have you, I filled my belly didn't I? I did. But with something different. What did I achieve? I got the energy I got the health I got the strength and so on.

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The same would apply if I am a person who really would like to discourage others from doing bad or encourage them to do good. I need to think is this a vegetarian? Is this person? Do they like beef? Do they like chicken? And I don't mean the food. I mean the methodology. Some people like beef, which means they might come say Hey, shut up and sit down. Okay, very few would probably appreciate that. But doesn't it happen?

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Doesn't it happen?

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I think nobody's saying yes. Because we're here in the UK, Mashallah. You're going to visit the Third World and you'll hear that all over the show. May Allah subhanahu wa taala, grant us goodness and ease. Nonetheless, that might have been slightly irrelevant in terms of methodology. But the point I'm making is, it differs from person to person. Some people love a very soft approach. Some people you need to be a little bit hard with them, push them a Come on, you can do it, you can do it, you know, you know. So this is Allah, telling us through the story of local man, that enjoin, good and discourage bad in a beautiful way, was Bill Allah Assad back the fourth piece of powerful

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advice, just in that little part of a sentence, he says, bear patience regarding anything that has come in your direction. Anything that got to you, be patient, go easy, take it in your stride. It's okay. It's not the end of the world. It's fine. You just thank Allah, you have a connection with Allah, take it in your stride, move, step by step and bear good patience. Sobre in Islam, is known as generally in the English language, we just say patience, but it has different departments, there is a restraint required to stay away from bad there is an energy and the power required to do good. And there is a general ability and a beautiful inner feeling to accept something that has happened

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to you that was beyond your control. Or even if, at the time it might have been in your control. But it became such that it happened. I'm driving a motor vehicle to the best of my ability and suddenly bang, and someone hits him to me, like broken, may Allah safeguard all of us, what are you going to do? You can't get angry, start hitting bashing, you've got to take it in your stride whether you like it or not.

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Thank Allah could have been both legs, it was only one look at those who perhaps have had greater suffering than yours.

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Could have been worse, couldn't it? Always tell yourself in terms of worldly items could have been worse. And I think we're taught that in many cultures as well. When something happens that tell you when it could have been worse, thank Allah.

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You know, I know a brother who had several kids in an accident, he lost some of his children. And he was so upset. I said, Thank Allah, you didn't lose all of them. He said, What do you mean? What do you mean? That's exactly what I mean. Then I realized, you know what, it's the wrong phrase at this particular moment when He's grieving the loss of these and I'm busy telling him you could have just lost the others. This moment was a little bit too soon for us to apply disinfectant to an open wound to see it burnt him a bit. It started really, so I had to just calm him down. No, no, no, it's okay. It's okay. It's just that Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us he says, You will never understand how I

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feel and I acknowledge I wouldn't. I acknowledge it may Allah protect all our children. It's only when you've lost a child that you would know what you're going through but take it in your stride what's been Allah ma sabak Whatever God to you, whatever affected you, whatever you were inflicted with whatever damage or loss, it's okay. Don't lose your entire sanity because of some

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thing that happened in your life can happen.

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It can happen in anything. We all have different lives. I'm not going to go into every single example I can give you so many that you know, certain things that are happening have happened maybe shall happen in your life.

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Patience is a patient's

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somebody messaged me today asking me about their marriage and said, You know, I just got married and this and that, and I, I tried to give them beautiful advice to say, this normally does happen at the beginning of a relationship where there are many teething problems, don't just break and walk off, it's still the beginning of the entire path. Yes. If they are massive red flags and some toxic behavior, that's a different issue. But generally, you know, you will have to be adjusting to this person you started living with and it's natural to have differences and we're navigating through it a year or two later, you start easing into mashallah we know each other, we can understand

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everything about both of us, and we begin to enjoy each other's company. Some people have a bonus it starts from the beginning, but a lot of people it's a bit of a struggle. That doesn't mean you give up a spirit spirit bear patience, a little bit of patience, Inshallah, things will happen, they will come right by saying this, I'm by no means telling you to remain in a toxic marriage. No, but I'm just giving you an example. Similarly, if you look at the rest of those verses, you will always find advice. That is general advice. There will always be an exception to something

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particular things like when Allah says, Be kind to your parents, I've had people come to me and say, My father did this and they mentioned a crime that's unspeakable.

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Should I still be so you know what, in your case, you can keep a safe distance, but do not be unkind. Do not be unkind. You can keep a safe distance. Don't be unkind. So we are balanced.

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Wala to Psalm 100, Declan nursing, wala, Tammy Sheffield are the Marwaha these words of advice of look, man to his son are connected to your attitude and your character. Don't give your cheek don't turn your cheek to people.

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Don't be arrogant. You're just one like everyone else. You know, turning cheek means like you you hot you flick your nose up into the air and you turn as though you're the only one on Earth relax. These are all human beings just like you. They were made by the same maker. And you know what? Today you might be in a position tomorrow you may not be and to this afternoon, you might need them. How many social experiments have we seen where people couldn't be bothered about others and a little while later, they're in need or something happens so much. So respect everyone Latos law at HUD dot Calanus the cheek of yours. Be careful not to turn it in arrogance. When it comes to the people.

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Well, at times she will or the Mara when you walk on Earth. Don't walk with haughtiness. No haughtiness. haughty means I'm feeling high and big. I'm the big man everyone else is small. Allah He no matter who you are, what you are, you are just normal. It's temporary, that Allah allowed you to have a certain position, you may have to rise to the occasion. Sometimes you happen to be a prime minister, no problem, you rise to the occasion you will have to drive in your motorcade, you will have to do certain things you might have a few guards and so on, deep down, you're still just a human being remember that Mashallah. Tabarrok Allah. Remember that? That's one example. But the same

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applies to all of us today you have something don't allow that to make you walk on the earth in a haughty way. May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us ease and then towards the end.

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He actually tells his son how to speak.

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Allah repeats this in the Quran. Look, man from Africa. His words to his son are repeated by Allah telling his son speak with a low tone a good tone. Speak properly, respectfully to people don't raise your tone. Don't yell and scream because the worst of the sounds is that of a braying s a donkey.

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Wallah. To the colonists yell at him she will or the Mara

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in the Kalin technical, volunteer believable dibala Tula in another place in the Quran, Allah says what do you think you're going to do by walking Horti you think you're going to get up to the mountains or you think you're going to make a crater on the earth by stamping so on?

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Walk us through the FIE machinic Walk in the moderate fashion. When you walk when you're in the public remember to fulfill the rights of the people what are they? Firstly, you lower your gaze all Muslims male and female, lower your gaze. You don't have to keep looking at every single thing. One wonders why is that the teaching of faith to protect your contentment.

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I always see when you have the latest of something you're happy. The moment that you see some

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thing later than the one you have. You're no longer happy. There was one year.

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I have s 23. When s 24 comes out, no longer the latest. So what happens many of us because Allah has given us we updated every single year.

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You have a vehicle you order 2024 What's the what's your favorite vehicle? Say something as?

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Audi Okay. Audi, you're supposed to be in Saudi if you wanted to drive an Audi but no problem. They said, what's the Saudi National Car? And I didn't know it was just a joke. The answer was Audi. I said can't be anyway, it was a joke. However, Audi for your sake, my brother 2020. For Audi, you ordered the latest? The top spec what happened? Soon as the 2025 model was just showcased on TV your balloon is punctured. What happened?

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Allah says, You know what? Did you even need to know it? It was the did you even need to know any you didn't. But unfortunately, today, the advertising is such that they want you to feel an emptiness in your heart until you get that thing. So then you work towards it and nail it. No problem, if you can afford it, and so on. It's okay. Ultimately, are you working towards paradise and goodness? Are you a kind soul helping people reaching out sometimes it's better to help orphans in an orphanage, then upgrade your vehicle. My vehicle has been so beautiful, I'm going to change it every three years make yourself a rule set yourself a rule that is if you can afford it, or two

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years or five years depending on your financial capacity. And in the interim, I'm going to use it and thank Allah and guess what, with the excess money that I have, I'm going to help orphans I'm going to do this I'm going to do that no problem five pounds, 10 pounds, whatever. That might just be your ticket to paradise.

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And the last piece of advice

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that look man says or that's mentioned in these particular verses in surah. Look, man

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what a loop mean, so tick, lower your volume when you're speaking. Meaning when you're addressing someone you need to understand what type of volume is needed for this discussion. talking to one person I don't think hey, how are your relaxed the guy is right next to you, man. Don't Don't raise your phone. You sound like a brain donkey, doesn't it? The guy sitting one person, how are you my brother what's happening? You might want to whisper depending. And then when you speak into a large crowd, you raise it as per the crowd. You might go to Hajj, for example, and you need to tell people I remember there was a fire in MENA in 1996 If I'm not mistaken, I was there.

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And people had to come out loud hailers and yell to tell the people were evacuating. And so that's a different story. You can't say I can't speak loudly because the Quran says lower your voice guys. There's a fire guys, there's a fire you got to yell at the top of you guys, there's a fight

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you will be excused. In fact, that's the right way of doing it. Right hamdulillah So, this lowering of the voice is some is a beautiful teaching. It means to have the correct voice for the particular communication that you are actually undertaking at that time. And then he ends up by saying in Ankara law, Swati law so to me, the worst of the sounds is that of a breaking breaking donkeys when you hear the donkeys they make a loud sound, you know, and you don't know what's happening. You don't even know where it's coming from people yelling at each other and so on. May Allah Almighty grant us goodness and acceptance and may Allah Almighty bless you all, Inshallah, I hope you enjoy

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this evening. I will still be coming back by the will of Allah subhanho wa taala. In the meantime, I'd like to hand over to my brother Baraka Luffy como salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah.