Ramadan 2009 – Cape Town – Day 16 Parents Children

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Salam aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah who Allah Allah He was happy he nominated a Buddha who above all praise is indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we ask Allah subhana wa Jalla to grant us every form of blessing and to accept from us the standing in Salatu tarawih as well as the fasts that we have fasted thus far, and we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us from those who can fast the entire month of Ramadan and accept it from us. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala that He grant us forgiveness for our shortcomings during this blessed month. And at the same time, we should always

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be from amongst those who realize the value of this pleasant month of Ramadan, the beautiful spiritually elevated month of Ramadan. It is indeed from Shay fun when a person feels lazy in the month of Ramadan. And when a person wants to sleep all night without remembering Allah subhanho wa Taala We ask Allah forgiveness inshallah, and we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant us every form of spirituality, not only in this month, but inshallah even outside this month, the topic I have chosen, the topic of discussion affects every single one of us. What does Allah subhanho wa Taala say about parents and children in the Quran.

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It is not necessarily the relation between parents and children. But over and above that it is also the gift of children, the gift of parents. Some people don't have children, whilst others don't have parents Subhana Allah, not that they didn't have parents but they lost their parents somewhere down the line. So Allah subhanho wa Taala declares this gift the gift of children and Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in Surah to shuara that he is the owner he is the complete decider. He is the one who will decide what you will have whether or not you will have children, whether or not they will be male or female, or whether or not you will have both May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us all the

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best. So Allah Subhana Allah Allah says in Surah two Shula displaying his grandma and his greatness, he says, Lil he goes

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to one of

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the skies and the earth and whatever is between it and entire creation belongs to Allah subhanho wa Taala he creates what he wishes subhanho wa Taala Glory be to Him.

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Yeah, Halima.

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Enos. Oh, I have only me Shaka Zulu. I will use a widow mukaan

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inasa wah

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wah tema, Allah subhanho wa Taala says he gives whomsoever He wishes, only female children. And he gives whosoever He wishes only male children as a test. And he gives whomsoever He wishes, both male and female. And he does not give whomsoever He wishes. Any children at all. So Han Allah, that is Allah, La.

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muse. Aloo he can never ever be asked about why he has decreed something, but those who him whom he has created are always answerable to him Subhan Allah, that is the grand year the greatness of Allah subhanho wa Taala on at this juncture we make a dua

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those who have children may Allah make your children the means of your entry into general inshallah, those who have parents may Allah make your parents the means of your entry into general inshallah, those who have children may Allah make those children the coolness of your eyes inshallah. Those who do not have children may Allah subhanahu wa taala grant you children and offspring through His mercy and those whom Allah subhanho wa Taala has decided to take their children away. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala grant him the patience to go through that great test, those whom Allah has decided to take their parents away. May Allah subhanho wa Taala elevate their status as orphans I mean,

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so Allah subhanho wa Taala then tells us that it is incorrect to question the decree of Allah or to be upset about when he has decided not to give you any children. That's his decision, be happy with his decision. When he has decided you will only have females. That's his decision. When he decides you will have males that's his decision. When he decides you will have both. That's his decision. Listen to what he says. He says that there was a group of people or there was a pagan habits amongst those pre Islamic people who used to get upset whenever they were informed of a female child. They were they felt it was a disgrace because this child was

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Not continue their lineage, rather the childhood continue the lineage of another male. May Allah subhanho wa Taala never ever make us from those who are upset when we are informed of a female child.

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So Allah Subhana Allah says in Surah two regarding those people were either a Bush era had

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almost what

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Amina Amina, oh, Emma, bushy Robin, when they were given glad tidings of a female child, they became angry, and they were upset and they hid themselves from the community because of the bad news that they considered it to be. May Allah subhanho wa Taala never do that to us. While law he to have a feeling in the heart against these the gender of the child that is born for you to have a negative feeling in your heart about that is in fact an Islamic behavior. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us.

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And may Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us healthy children in sha Allah, and May He grant us as well good health, may Allah subhanho wa Taala, Grant cure and Shiva to all those who may be sick and Ill I mean,

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then Allah subhanho wa Taala warns us about how people used to kill those daughters off. They used to take the daughter away. And they used to bury that daughter, the female child. And they used to say, look, let's play a game the game is we will dig a grave for you, we put you in there and we're going to dig it back up after a little while and we will then take you out. And then when the child went in, they covered the grave and went away because that was the only way they could hide that bad news as part of your law prohibited major sin Allah says in the Quran or mo data. So Elance v.

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co t likes that female who was buried the little baby shall be asked on the day of the AMA Why were you buried alive and those who buried her alive shall be brought to the book May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us all.

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Then Allah subhanho wa Taala informs us that even when it comes to not having children, your reasoning for that may be on health grounds, when you would like to space your children and so on, on health grounds are complete inability when it comes to physically mentally and so on. But it is prohibited not to have children fearing that you won't be able to financially look after them because that sustenance is written from Allah subhanho wa Taala and it is prohibited not to have children fearing that they might start sharing the wealth you have and decrease the amount that you are holding Allah protect us. It is our duty remember one thing in Islam we are meant to have as

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many children as possible Alhamdulillah that term possible changes from time to time and with people, from people to people. So some people it is possible for them Mashallah to have 10 children and even more, whereas some people it is only possible for them to have two or three May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us as many as possible. I mean, but that having been said, we should realize that the more the merrier in the Sharia. The reason is, if you were to have 10 children, and you were to give them a good upbringing, and even five of them were to succeed, and five of them were to earn. You know, let's go back to materialism. Five of them were to earn 10,000 rands a month. How

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much would you be having in your family? 50,000 rands if you gave them a good upbringing, they would come in hand over to you a minimum of at least 1000 rands you would be sitting happy Mashallah to say just as well I had five children Mashallah or at least five of them are looking after me Subhan Allah. Whereas, if you only had one or two what might happen Allah grant us all good children inshallah, even if they are one or two, but what might happen, the probability and possibility of him failing is also greater, and then succeeding is there but obviously what would happen is there are only two, if anything goes wrong with any one or two of them or both of them. Then Subhan Allah

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we might find that old age we will be scratching our heads, looking at each other and saying we should have had more children Allahu Akbar, Allah subhanho wa Taala makers from amongst those who can make the correct decision. So Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in Surah, Al anon, and this verse is repeated in Surah Surah in slightly different wording, Allah says, Allah taco to know Allah that can mean

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for do not eradicate your children just because you are poor or you are fearing poverty. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us insha Allah more and more in terms of sustenance. Remember one thing and I'd like to just spend a moment on this.

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When you have a child, the sustenance of the child is written if that's how

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sentence is written, it will have to get to the child whether it is through you or directly to the child. So if you are feeding the child, Allah has written that food for the child, then naturally by you feeding the child, Allah subhanho wa Taala will have to give you first, because he's written for the child. And this is why there are so many people whom when they have children, or when they undertake to look after orphans and so on, Allah opens their doors because Allah knows that in order to look after those people, we first need to give this person here who has undertaken to give them May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us a deep understanding of the Sharia. Then Allah subhanho wa

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Taala tells us the importance of lineage in Islam. In Islam, your lineage is sacred, the Sharia has been sent to protect five things. One of those five is your lineage. We need to know who you are by your father's name that is sacred. It is extremely sacred. It is something that Allah will never ever accept anything besides Subhan Allah. And this is why in Surah Allah says it very clearly. Who there only Abba

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EMA. Allah speaks about the orphans and Allah subhanho wa Taala says you should be calling them all those children who are taking a step. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, You should be calling them with their father's names. If you don't know their father's names, the Father's name means so and so son of so and so. That is the Father's name. If you don't know the Father's name, then you should call them the servants of Allah Subhana Allah. And Allah says, We will not punish you if you made a mistake. If you were ignorant, you didn't know or you made a mistake, you will not be punished. But for those who intentionally do that, they are defying Allah's creation. A lot decided to create you

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through a certain men and a certain woman. It is prohibited for you ever to deny that may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding.

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And this is why at times of divorce, sometimes we have females whom out of spite, they remove the Father's name and surname. And they put theirs that is completely prohibited in the Sharia. It is a major, major, major sin. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us all. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala give us steadfastness, that spite is actually COVID it is this belief in the gifts of Allah subhanho wa Taala. How can you deny the lineage that Allah chose when he created certain people, and sometimes, Allahu Akbar, people then contaminate the minds of their children to the degree that they are then happy with that surname of their mothers or with the name of their mothers. Let me inform

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you in the Sharia. Only a child who is illegitimate takes the mother's name. Only a child who is born out of adultery takes the mother's name, only a child whom nobody knows the father takes the mother's name. And in the Sherry, there is only one person who took the mother's name who was a prophet of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that was Jesus Isa Ali Salaam May peace be upon him. He was known as the son of Mary Subhan Allah, the son of Miriam, he Southern ammonium Subhan. Allah Allah makes mention of that in the Quran, because there is no father and Allah was not the father, he was the creator. He was the supreme creator, he created he sallallahu Sallam miraculously, he says, In

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de la he cannot le Adam, the example of Jesus May peace be upon him is similar to the example of Adam and Allah creates in four different ways one is, without male without female, like Adam, may peace be upon him, then through a male without the involvement of a female like Eve or Hawa. alayhis salam, then, through a male, or should I say through a female without the involvement of a male like Jesus, he sallallahu Sallam May peace be upon him, and then through male and female, like the rest, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to respect those males and females who gave birth to us. I mean,

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so Allah subhanho wa Taala warns us about that in solitude. It is something extremely sacred, where we have heard let us go back. Now comes a question. When a woman marries Can she take the husband's name? The answer is, if she really has to inshallah they won't be a problem for as long as she is not cheating and deceived.

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People and I don't think that is the case nowadays because there is something known as the D will column, which means a hidden statement between two names. You need to know what is that hidden statement. So if you say Mohammed Abdullah, you are saying Mohammed the son of Abdullah, so the son of is the hidden statement. But when you say Khadija Abdullah, you are either saying Khadija, the daughter of Abdullah, or Khadija, the wife of Abdullah, so it depends on that hidden statement. And what you are referring to, I would say that preferably even on marriage, a woman's rights is to maintain her own identity. Some might argue and say no, you are going to confuse people. I think it

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is more confusing when someone is called by the husband's name because we need to know who she is, whose daughter is she, where did she come from, and so on. And on the day of the AMA, you will be called with your father's name, and I'm repeating it's not a mistake, you will be called with your father's name. And this is why it is the father's beauty to name a child. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says that Subhanallah you need to make a blessing to ask for your father who has given you a good name for you shall indeed be called by the name that your father has given you, including his name. And this is why the rite of naming in Islam belongs to the Father. Thereafter, if he wants to

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give it to anyone else, it's up to him. And the mother comes next Subhana Allah so the parents are the ones who will decide the name if they if they happily would like to give it to someone Alhamdulillah but remember, culturally, if it is our culture that we aren't gives the name or the uncle gives the name that has nothing to do with Islam. If the to whose rights it is, allow that person to do it, then it will be okay. If not, then we don't want to debate in Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us protection. And may He give us understanding. Once I arrived at a certain community, I won't say which one. And I had a man I asked him What's your name? He gave me not a double barrel

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name, but a triple barrel name SubhanAllah. I told him Why are you calling yourself with three names? He says because there was a dispute between my my father, my mother and my aunt. And so in order to solve the problem, my grandfather wins. And he registered all three names to Hana Allah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us the right is the father's. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us that when you have children, they are a test for you. They are a big test. And if you don't have children, it's even a bigger test. Allah says in Surah, Al Anfal wa llamo

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como la Dooku fitna

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a beautiful verse Allah says you should remember that your wealth is a test it can be a means of your entry into heaven or entry into hell. Your wealth that you have is a test from Allah subhanho wa Taala. May Allah make it a means of entry into gender for all of us inshallah, and your children that you have can either be a means of entry for you into paradise or into hellfire. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make them a means of entry into gentlemen paradise inshallah.

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And then Allah ends that verse by saying, remember what is with Allah subhanho wa Taala is far greater the reward with allies greater some of them have a Syrian say that is more for those who don't have children at all. To say that when you don't have children, it is also a test. So Allah says children are a test having them or the lack of them both a very big test of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So all those who don't have children, remember one thing together with the two hours that we make for you tonight, may Allah subhanahu wa taala grant you offspring through His mercy. Together with that we say if he has decided not to give you remember he has kept a bigger reward for you than

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he has kept for anyone who has had children or conditions that you surrender to the decree of Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant that to us, then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us the same thing in Surah Taha born in Surah, Gabon, similar verse is repeated, then Allah tells us look part of the test. You cannot love your children so much that they distract you from the will of Allah and from the command of Allah. No. Can you love your children so much? Or no? Can the children love their parents so much that when their parents are going wrong, they don't bat an eyelid? They don't correct their parents. So Allah is telling us

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that and this verse, Allah subhanho, wa Taala makes mention of in Surah tuna, the sutra named after the hypocrites.

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Who Come on,

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don't come.

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Don't ever let your wealth or your children distract you from the dhikr of Allah Subhana Allah Subhana Allah when Allah has given us wealth and children, we should still find ourselves fulfilling the commands of Allah. In fact, in a bigger way, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant us protection

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and we

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Ask him to make us from amongst those who are thankful to him at all times. So Allah says, Who am I he has filed Anika una, he can whom will call soon. Whoever allows their wealth or children to distract them from the remembrance of Allah and the commands of Allah, it will be a point of loss for them that Allah never grant us loss rather, May He grant us goodness insha Allah, then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us something very powerful, very important. Allah says, some of your wives and your children are actually your enemies. So be careful of them. Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar. Allah says some of your wives and children are your enemies, so be careful of them. One might wonder

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what does that mean? Let's go through it inshallah. Let me read the verse firstly in Sumatra Goblin. Allah says, Yeah, I you

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I mean, as YG como una de cama de facto, oh, you believe from amongst your wives and your children are your enemies as well at times, so be very careful of them. How do we interpret that? Let me inform you, it's very easy.

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There are two ways of interpreting it. When they hinder you from Alice command, they are your enemies. And when you are doing wrong, and they don't correct you, they are your enemies. So if someone wants to know how their wives or children will become, or are their enemies, they need to ask themselves,

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do they lead me astray in any way or when I am astray? Do they correct me or not? May Allah Subhana Allah grant us an understanding. So if and a lot of women very sadly, sometimes promote haram without knowing without realizing, when it comes to the issue of polygamy, a woman will prefer that her husband has an affair with a mistress, but she will never ever allow him to get another wife. That means she is the enemy of Allah protect us because she is promoting you to go to hell by committing adultery, just for her reputation in this world. Allahu Akbar, Allah will drag her and you into hell, Allah not do that to us.

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And this is a clear issue. I've mentioned it clear cut.

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Alhamdulillah we are in the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala Radha, we decide and realize that look where the law of Allah comes into play.

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Then Allah subhanho wa Taala US law comes first we should not distract the men from the law of Allah, nor should he distract us from the law of Allah.

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If he commits a sin as a result of our arrogance, Allahu Akbar, Allah is telling you be careful and be warned. Don't tell us that we did not warn you. May Allah Subhana Allah protect us. May He soften the hearts of the females For indeed, men are most men are polygamous, by nature. There's nothing a woman will ever be able to do about that lo Akbar. If we want to defy that we will be promoting the lewinsky's of this world may Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us understanding.

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Then Allah subhanho wa Taala informs us that when a man is committing a sin, if he's if his children or his wife, or his wives, do not remind him and bring him back to the path, then indeed that is a point of loss, they become his enemies. May Allah subhanho wa Taala not do that to us. And we don't want that to happen. So this is how a person can become an enemy of yours, without realizing where you then decide to give preference to that female or to those children over Allah subhanho wa Taala Believe me, there is no wave of running away from Allah subhanho wa Taala. Allah subhanho wa Taala Quran does understanding and Allah tells us look,

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when you have wives and children, and when you have wealth, all this is part and parcel of the beauty of this world. It is temporary, it is completely temporary. You have a husband, you love him so much. One day he's going to die. Definitely, then that is temporary. Allah says if you prepared your palace in akhira, then inshallah you will be smiling all the way. But if you were only worried about your husband, when he dies, you die with him, Allahu Akbar. What that means is no more happiness in your life. No more looking forward to your own life, no more concentrating about anything. And the same applies to children. Allah can take them away before you and Allah can take

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you away before them. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us protection so Allah says in Surah Allah imraan

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then he Kamata

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dounia Allah.

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Allah says, For men the desires have been beautified by shaper and the desires of females to panela the desires of females Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of this has been built

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Define for men and the children.

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He wants many children and he wants lots and lots of wealth. That is a desire that everyone has within their hearts kornati Tara huge mountains of wealth.

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And Allah says and the conveyance and the places of abode, they want beautiful places of abode and beautiful conveyances and so on. And they want cattle and they want well, Allahu Akbar, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Yes, it's not wrong to have within the limits of Allah subhanho wa Taala. But remember, this is only provision for a short while after that. What is with Allah at the place of return is far more important. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to make us from those who can take heed in sha Allah. So Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us as well, in Surah will have the same thing. Al Malou una Xena

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m Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala says that definitely your wealth and your children adjust the beauty of this dunya but what is with Allah is far better the rest of the good deeds are definitely more lasting with Allah subhanho wa Taala and they are better for anyone who has hope. And the term baqia to solly had some of the books of the seals say that is the remembrance of Allah when someone remembers Allah they are conscious of Allah, the Salah, you read this czaka you have given and so on. The upbringing you have given your children, the type of schools you've sent them to the type of Quran they lend, when I say the type of Quran, obviously this one Quran but the recitation they

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how much they know of this religion all that is the duty of the parents from a very, very early age. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us mindful of our duty. So Allah subhanho wa Taala then tells us now, shifting shifting from the parents, to the children. Now the children need to also consider their parents, Allahu Akbar. So far, we've been speaking about the parents. Now Allah says the command Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in Surah Nisa, barbudan la wala to Shri konbini. She will be involved in a Sunnah worship Allah. Do not associate partners with him. And remember to be best to your parents. Remember to be good. Remember to be kind, remember to be dutiful, towards your

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parents. That's what Allah is saying. It's a command. It's an instruction.

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Then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in sudo, to the Salah, wakaba buka, Allah Budo

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de Sena, Allah has decreed he has commanded that you shall worship none besides Him, and you will be best to your parents.

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Why does Allah make mention of parents? Immediately after he makes mention of himself? A simple answer, Allah created me and you, in order to bring me into existence, Allah used a male and a female. So it was Allah who decided who that male and female was. If we disrespect either the male or the female whom Allah chose to bring us into existence, naturally we will be going against Allah subhanho wa Taala will May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us protection. There is an exception when it comes to obeying parents and inshallah we will come to that a little bit later. Let's look at what Allah says. Allah subhanho wa Taala then also prohibits being evil to parents. So one is the

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command, the command of being good, and the other is the prohibition of being bad. This is one of the only acts of worship where Allah says, In fact one of the few acts of worship where Allah instructs you to do it, and warns you from not doing it or prohibits you from not doing it. Salah is another one. Zika is another one. And parents is also being good to parents is another one as well. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala make us more mindful of our own parents. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, in

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Kibera, huduma okina, Huma, if any one of them have reached old age in your presence, Allah says it is your duty to now look after them, or at least you should try your best to look after them. And the last is never utter one word of disrespect to your parents never falada Coloma.

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We spoke about it yesterday. So hon Allah don't even utter the word off to your parents. Not even that. That is disrespectful. Allah says Don't do that.

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Don't be repulsive.

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was never Don't be disrespectful in any way towards them wakulla hola como la Karima. But at a very honorable word, a beautiful word to them, when you want to talk to them, talk to them with utmost respect and dignity. So panela your agenda is through your parents daddy says, destruction be upon the one who has seen either one or both of his parents or his at old age and they have not resulted in his or her entry into Jenna, through their service. Subhana Allah.

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Let me take you for a moment through history. What happened to myself and yourselves. Allahu Akbar, the parents that gave birth to us the mother, Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks of her value. And Allah subhanho wa Taala warns us regarding how we treat our mothers, because they held us with great difficulty and hardship in their wombs. They did not sleep, they had sleepless nights for almost the entire gestation period, in most cases, towards the end, as you became heavier, you became a bigger burden, but they became happier Subhana Allah that you were actually growing. When you kick they got up from this leaf but they were happy that you were alive and kicking Subhanallah look at us. We

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sitting here today we don't even realize where we came from the difficulties they've been through for us Subhanallah there was so much hardship, they couldn't sleep, they got sick, they couldn't keep the food inside their bellies because of us.

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Then Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about how we were given birth to Allah says through great hardship and difficulty I'm sure

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we would acknowledge that most women are a whisker away from what they think is actually the end. They will tell you I thought I was dying. So Hannah law and that's when the bundle of joy came May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding and yet we are born and we don't realize we don't understand the value of the same mother who gave birth to us. Law who we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us respectful inshallah. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in these verses wakulla, Durham, Houma Kamara Bayani savini you make sure you make a dua for your parents. You make sure you ask Allah to bless your parents, because they looked after you when you were helpless. When you were

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helpless, they looked after you. This is why take a look at the prophets of Allah subhanho wa Taala they made to offer their parents look at know Hannah is Salatu was Salam. He says a big goofy Lee Bani Walid Ania

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t mo Mina.

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Mina Mina, Oh Allah forgive me and forgive my parents and forgive all the believing males and females.

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Then Ibrahim Ibrahim Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of Ravana Sydney when he won a mini Nehemiah tomohisa Allah forgive me, forgive my parents, and forgive the believers on the Day of Resurrection the day of account. And Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of many other to us. Allah says Allah Subhana Allah in Surah, two about the good child, Allah says, Allah be me and ash Khurana meta keleti.

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O Allah grant me the ability to be thankful, Allahu Akbar, grant me the ability to be thankful to Allah for the gifts you have bestowed upon myself and my parents who had Allah and you yourself if you make the drought, you would be a gift that Allah has bestowed upon your own parents.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding then the dog continues to say, well US Navy do reality and your law purify my progeny for me, give me a good progeny good offspring Yama. So we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant that to us. Do you know when this was being made Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks of a good child, a good child.

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Fallon, Bella,

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Bella, in Asana, when men then is born and gets to his peak of strength, 40 years old, Allah calls 40 years of age, the peak of life. You are at the top of the mountain we said last night and in fact today, we are at the top of the mountain of Ramadan. 15 days now we're going down. Now, the Buddha that we spoke about comes into play and Allah

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and it's amazing how the same happens in life. We also have a Buble period in life that is 40 years before 30th anniversary you must know now you're sliding downhill. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding

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So Allah says when you get to the peak of your life, if you still can make dua for your parents and you can thank Allah for what he has given you. Now you are a true believer Allahu Akbar. May Allah subhanho wa Taala keep us from those who are steadfast, those who don't forget our parents. So Allah subhanho wa Taala then tells us regarding how the mother has held the child in her womb, but Allah says in Surah lookman what was seen in Santa Meanwhile in the hammer Allah,

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Allah says, the mother has held the child who has helped all of us let's put it that way, with great difficulty and hardship, great difficulty and hardship. And Allah subhanho wa Taala then speaks about the breastfeeding the suckling period, Allah says

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well hemlo who was in saarloos Allah una shaha amazing and Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in Surah, Luqman Wolfie saw the movie ma anish guru Li Li, Allah says the weaning is in two years. And in another p in another verse, Allah says the gestation as well as the weaning is 30 months.

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Now, if you take a look at these two verses, there is no contradiction. But I have come across questions from non Muslims who say there is a contradiction in the Quran. On one hand, they say the breastfeeding period is two years, which means 24 months. And on the other hand, they say no, it is 13 months. The answer is no. read the verse and read it clearly one speaks about breastfeeding, the maximum period of breastfeeding in Islam is two years, then the child is weaned. And Allah subhanho wa Taala in the other verse speaks about the gestation period together with that 24 months, which makes 13 months and in the Sharia. We believe that the gestation period is nine months. That is

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obvious, but the minimum of it is six months. So if someone were to ask you in Islam, what is the minimum gestation period? You would say six months if they say what is the evidence for that? You read the verse Warhammer lwrp, saarloos, allatoona Shahada, the carrying the gestation as well as the weaning? That the months, you subtract the 24, which makes two years and you get remainder of six months, where Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding there is no contradiction in the Quran, nothing at all.

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Allahu Akbar, there is another verse where Allah says, He created the earth in six days. And another place, he says meaning he created creation in six days. And one place he mentions four days in two days, that is only part and parcel of the creation, not all of it for and a few verses later, Allah says another two or Allah says two and after that, he says four days, if you add them, they come to six. But if someone does not know addition and subtraction, they will be the only foolish ones who think there is a contradiction in the Quran. Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us. Then Allah tells us that you will not obey your parents. When one thing happens. When one thing happens, you don't obey

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them. When they instruct you to disobey the Creator, then the creator comes first. That is a powerful point. So Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us that even if your parents are non Muslim, you need to be respectful to them, you need to be dutiful to them you need to be have a good mouth towards them. You need to look after them as far as you can. Only when your parents instruct you to do something unacceptable. islamically then Allah comes first, then everybody else next. So this is one thing Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of Let's read the verse in surah and Kabuto we read it tonight in the verses Allah says, what jaha can eat sushi cabbie mela is Allah ke Fela Houma.

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when they are struggling and striving to make you disobey Allah or to associate partners with Allah when they want you, to divert you and distract you from from your commands the commands of your Creator, then you do not obey them but you must still live with them with all humility and goodness and kindness. Subhana Allah over and above that, those are your parents. Love Akbar, Allah subhanho wa Taala. grant us the understanding that Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us the examples of others in the past, who have been very, very good to their parents and very dutiful to their parents. Allah speaks about yahia alayhis salam in Surah Maryam and Allah says What about me while he died, d O

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yahia Allah His Salam was definitely dutiful to both his parents and Allah

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Anahata Allah says, and he was not from amongst those who are sinful and arrogant May Allah subhanho wa Taala keep us away from sinning or from arrogance towards our parents, as well as arrogance in general. And Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about Jesus he sallallahu Sallam May peace be upon him.

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Allah says he was very dutiful. In fact, Allah says that he said himself that Allah has made me dutiful to my mother, because he did not have a father. He had no father he was born miraculously. According to us. Jesus is not the Son of God. He was born without a father, miraculously, just how Adam alayhis salam was born, or sorry, was created. And Allah subhanho wa Taala tells that to us, so he was neither the Son of God nor was he God, no, was he a part of a trinity? He was a messenger of Allah subhanho wa Taala, who was born to the Virgin Mary without the interference or involvement of any male Allahu Akbar. That is a message we have for those who believe otherwise, may Allah subhanho

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wa Taala protect us.

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So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, He says in Surah Maryam wa

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Allah has made me dutiful to my mother. And Allah has made me from amongst those or he has not made me from those who are arrogant, those who are haughty, sinful, loud mouth, those who are bad mouth and so on. So those were the qualities of the Gambia and mo Salatu was Salam. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us another duty of parents and the duty of children as well. Allah says regarding the parents lidija de nasi Bhoomi mataro calverley Daniel Boone wedding Nisa NOC Bumi, moto calverley, Daniel uporabo, Nami

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Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about how when you die, there is a share of the wealth that will be going to your children, the males will have a portion the females will have a portion that is from Allah subhanho wa Taala you have no choice in that regard. Subhana Allah so that is also part and parcel of the link between children and parents that is mentioned in the Quran. Regarding the laws of inheritance. A lot decides how much your mother and father will get how much your children will get male and female, and we spoke about it a few days back Subhana Allah, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us good Muslims inshallah. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us another very

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important point, be just when it comes to even against yourselves or against your parents or against your relatives. That is another verse where Allah speaks about your parents, your children, your relatives, Allah says, Be just stand firm for justice. Don't just take the side of your father because he's your father, wherever he is wrong, he is wrong, correct him, and you may even reprimand him within the limits with respect. You may tell him my father, you are going wrong. My father This is unacceptable at times if you don't do that. You could be from amongst those who are an enemy of your own father, whom your father will then on the day of the AMA catch by the neck and say my son,

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you saw me doing wrong? Why didn't you tell me you knew about it? Allahu Akbar. Allah subhanho wa Taala make us parents who can also learn lessons from our own children. I mean, so Allah says, and this this is in Surah Nisa, Allah says, Yeah, you had a Latina man. Oh no. Nina Kono. Amina be Lucas.

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Oppo Robbie, Allah says oh you believe stand firm for justice, even if it is against yourselves or your own parents. Even if it is against your relatives, what is right is right. You must not be swayed from the principle of what is right in Islam. Never. Allah subhanho wa Taala warns us of that. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us yet something else. Allah says

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if you love your parents more than Allah, you've got a problem. If you love your children more than Allah, you've got a problem. If you love your wives and your brothers and sisters and your relatives and your wealth and your business and your deals and your health and and what have you more than Allah, then you've got a very big problem. Allah says then just wait for the punishment to overtake you because you cannot love someone more than your Creator. The Creator who gave you the life comes first Subhana Allah. So Allah says, and this is in Surah a Toba cool in Cana Bye Oh como una Oh, come ye

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Allah says See, tell him alma mater Allahu alayhi wa sallam,

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if you love

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or if the love you have for your children, for your parents, for your spouses, for your brothers and sisters, for your family members for your wealth, for the business dealing that you are fearing you might lose. If you have if you love that or if you have love for that more than for Allah and more than the love you have for the messenger and more than the love you have for the struggle in the path of Allah subhanho wa Taala to achieve the closeness to Allah subhanho wa Taala then just wait you will enjoy for a moment and Allah subhanho wa Taala will punish very very soon. Allah subhanho wa Taala never do that to us. And this is why Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us

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Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in Surah Al Majid Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, You will never find a person who believes in Allah, loving their parents or their offspring, when those parents or offspring have earned the Wrath of Allah subhanho wa Taala by defying the Creator Himself. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us from being Renegade And may Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us from reneging from our Deen. So Allah says in Surah mucho de la la jado comi Mino Nabina

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mean, Allah says you won't find people who believe in Allah, truly loving those who have defied the creator even if it is their parents or their children or no matter who it is. Allah says they won't ever befriend those people who have defied the law and His Messenger, Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from amongst those who have good parents and May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from amongst those who can be good children and who have good children. inshallah, remember, if your parents have passed away Your duty is to make to offer them. Remember if they are alive, Your duty is to serve them. And remember, if you are a child, and you would like good children, you need to be a dutiful

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child as well. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala His goodness, the one of the most important points or points where there is a discrepancy. points where a child begins to debate with the parents is at the point of marriage. And I'd like to end this talk with one of the most important statements we've added in this particular talk.

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connected to the marriage of a child whose decision is who should marry your daughter, or your son. It is the decision of none other than your daughter or your son. That is one thing where the child comes before the parents so panela so the parents must not think that they have the right to decide who their daughter will marry. No ways they don't. They have the right to encourage and guide but the upbringing they've given that child should automatically be such that it will lead the child to make the right decision. So Hannah law today we send our children to the most rotten of schools, if I can use that word, then when the child comes up with someone they want to marry, you say no ways,

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but you are to blame. Why did you send your child to that school? The child who has a heart the child has eyes, the child has normal, natural, basic human instincts, if you want to suppress them and oppress them, after sending and splicing to the Satan's den, then who is to blame Allah protect us. So this is why it's important we realize from the very beginning, protect your children. Give them an upbringing, the topic of marriage must be open between yourselves and your children. Because the right of getting married and who to marry is the individual who is getting married. We may guide them Yes. And if they are if they want to get married to someone who is completely unacceptable,

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unacceptable in terms of the Sharia, someone who's not a Muslim, for example, who doesn't even want to turn to Islam, then Believe me, then we have the right to interfere. But even if there is a non Muslim who wants to accept Islam, we might want to guide our children try to advise them try to discourage them, but that's where it stops. The final decision is there. It is better nowadays. To let your child make a mistake and come back still loving you. Then to stop and block your child from something they always believed was correct. When they get married later on to someone of your choice. They'll blame you for the rest of their lives. We're having destroyed their lives. Now Allah

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subhanho wa Taala keep us as parent

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Who our assets to our children and the children. What I've said today is not a green light for you to go to your parents and say, right, I've been telling you, and this is what it is no, we need to have a good relation. And at the same time, we need to realize when you are getting married, if you made a mistake, that's your business. Don't repeat the same mistake for your children. If you were forced by your parents, that was your problem. That is why in Islam, the girl has to be asked as a child before she is given off. Do you allow us to get you married? Or here? If she says no, it is no without even an evil feeling in the heart. If your daughter says I don't, then I don't know Allahu

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Akbar. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deep understanding really. And the same applies to our sons. May Allah protect us from forced marriages because people are looking at Islam and thinking that Islam is a very primitive religion where people are forcing their children to be married and marrying them off and so on. That is not correct. Well, ah, he's got nothing to do with Islam. In fact, we have not even understood the religion and we have mixed it with culture. And we have been then tied down by the shackles of culture May Allah Subhana Allah forgive us all, and grant us the best at this at the same time. Let me end on a note saying that inshallah We ask Allah subhanho wa

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Taala all forms of goodness in the dunya as well as in the earth Hara was Allahu wa salam ala nabina, Muhammad Subhan, Allah Subhana Allah Mohammed Ganesha to Allah, Allah elantras