Challenges of Youth at University
Channel: Mufti Menk
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Nile University of Nigeria, 27/11/2019
The concerned Sheikh Mufti Menk faces a room full of eager young adults, all gathered to hear him, wondering what advice he has for them.
So what does he tell them then in order for them to manoeuver the sharp corners and curve balls that university life will shell at them?
How does he guide them in dealing with shayateens latest subterfuge against the ummah, specially it’s future leaders? Think about it, if Iblis succeeds in corrupting one young man or woman at uni level, that’s one less morally correct leader for the ummah and one more inhabitant for the flames of Hereafter right?
Are you curious about the pearls that our beloved Sheikh gifts to the youth? That he keeps giving and giving to his listeners?
If you’re keen on avoiding Hell, if you wish fervently for even the tiniest dwelling in Paradise, please make time to listen to this talk. Not tomorrow but today. After all there is no guarantee either you or I will be alive tomorrow.
salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Mashallah Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. All praise is indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala blessings and salutations upon Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa sallam, his household, his companions, may Allah subhanho wa Taala, bless them and bless every one of us, and grant us every form of goodness me.
My beloved brothers, my sisters, if you were to be able to know what your neighbor is up to, it would either have a good effect on you or a bad one, based on what exactly they are up to. Right.
I thought I was supposed to speak in house.
So if I find out what's happening next door, it will bother me or it will empower me. And that is something that could be positive for me or negative.
If I have to know what others are doing within my community, they are either doing what I'm doing, which will encourage me or it will make me feel that I am perhaps a member of this community who is just like the rest of them, I hope those things are good things, but if they are doing things that are better than what I am doing, then I need to improve and I will be encouraged to to improve. But if society and community is doing that, which is
if society and community is doing that, which is lower in values in morals than what I am doing, what happens what happens
my brothers can be closed that door Chairman
because there's no there's no need to leave it open when there's no room in here right? And it is livestream they can turn on their phones inshallah, and we will people say why do you charge I see when it was free online, wasn't it? Did you pay to attend here today? Thank you, Michelle. So it was free.
now we can speak Mashallah.
Globalization is just like that. If I were to ask you, is it a good thing or a bad thing? What would you say? Can you put up your hands?
Is it a good thing or a bad thing? What would you say?
Again, I need to speak hausa.
Chef you need to translate for me here. There's no interaction from the crowd first time Mashallah. I think you've been sitting here for too long, right? Yes, yes. I'm so sorry about that. I thought Lagos had traffic for the first time Abuja actually had traffic. Maybe we're getting a
globalization so I won't ask you any more questions. It's okay.
Globalization has its positives and its negatives. If we are decent human beings, we will be able to distinguish between the positives and the negatives, benefiting from the positive and understanding the harms of the negatives. That is what we need to understand my brothers and sisters. Today we have the entire globe is within your hands in the form of a mobile phone, a device, the internet, whatever else you have technological advancement, the whole globe is in your hands on the globe, they are good people, they are bad people, they are different cultures, different religions, different styles, faiths, whatever else, inclination societies are all different. And you and I need
to know that the strength of your Eman and your belief in Allah subhanho wa Taala the belief that you have in your own value system in your morals will lead you going further in a good way or otherwise depending on how strong it is or weak. So, today we have a major problem and that is we who are Muslim who are upon the faith. We have values we have morals of a very high standing, we are unplugging in order to taste.
What is happening behind
a witness video there is none worthy of worship besides
the witness that Muhammad peace be upon him is his messenger
Are we done with the sound each other
It was good as it was. Is it? Okay, any more changes?
At shala? Let's hope.
And we close that door. And Sharma
The reason is there are a lot of distractions. One of the main ones is you know what, it's hot. And I know I'm not going to complain about the heat because you guys were sitting here so long
and several things one after the other, and the timing like we were late. We don't want to blame anyone or anything we were late and you were waiting right or wrong.
So that's why I'm here. It's the only question you've answered without me asking you in house.
Allah bless you Mashallah, I should blame myself more often I will get a better reaction.
So my brothers and sisters, we have to deal with issues we as Muslims are unplugging from Islam, I would like to say 10% of Muslims are actually serious about their faith. The other 90 are Muslim by name, and they have a small connection to Islam. I pray it is growing, but they're not serious about their faith. Many of us are Muslim by virtue of a name and a dress code and one or two things but we're not serious about our faith. The faith is far deeper. If you develop a connection with the house of Allah with the Koran with the dhikr of Allah, you don't leave the home without remembering Allah. That's just a small percentage of us we need to improve starting with myself.
May Allah make me strong army.
So my brothers and sisters, I have seen non Muslims who are turning towards Islam and who are turning towards values and morals after having swam in the waters of immorality. And they come out and truly appreciate the purity of the real life. When Allah gave it to us, what are we doing? We're actually losing our lives in technology. I promise you if we would just eradicate pornography, only pornography. We said with the sound inshallah someone playing with it, or is it just like a non University thing? You know, when they frighten you every little while they goes, Masha.
Allah grant us goodness, even the sound is upset with me today.
If we were to just eradicate pornography, we would actually change our lives
to change our lives. I'm not talking about this particular University, but tertiary institutions across the globe are facing a dilemma of immorality, because of pornography,
which is one of
issues that happened to be
facing, and wedding it's so carefully
facing a lot of our children, and a lot of the adults as well. It's not something that's only for the children, even the adults.
My beloved brothers and sisters, these habits that we have one law he it's not us that have all these bad habits, but myself included, we need to deal with any negative habit we have. We need to become better people like letting in the guy who's knocking right now on the door. It's not a bad habit. It's a good thing someone's going to attend to him. Although we sit close, it will make a little exception for someone to knock, there must be something happening, right? We need to work on it as much as I might feel a little bit irritated. No, no, no, you cannot. Your character and conduct needs to make you smile again, make you look at the positive again, make you feel good. No
matter how much you're sweating, you need to force yourself to look at the positive of it. It's okay, it's fine, keep going. A day will come when Allah will be pleased with you and you will meet him again, we're all going to go back to Allah subhanho wa Taala. My brothers and sisters, we don't take our lives seriously sometimes why we are in tertiary institutions tell me is someone not paying our fee, even if it is the university itself that gave us a scholarship. It is someone who is actually paying for a seat that we are occupying right here in this university, someone is paying for it. If you were to appreciate only that appreciation would actually make you work harder than
you are. And if you were focused, you would actually be able to understand that we need to succeed in the dunya as well as in the era. It's not only about succeeding in the hereafter. And it's not only about succeeding in the dunya it's about succeeding in both.
It's about succeeding in both this world and the next brother The reason why I said close the door is because everyone is looking there and not here. So there's no point in keeping on speaking if we're really not going to be concentrating. Everything is against us at the moment.
while speaking here, everything is against us including the weather and whatever else. So can we please have mercy on everyone here and shall we just close the door and that's it. I will finish in five minutes and then we can go inshallah. So, five minutes I said five Don't worry. Too big on failure. Good deeds are multiplied by 10 is about 15
it's out of love and speaking one line out of love. I'm just a father figure, perhaps an elder brother to some and maybe a son to one or two. I can't see any of those here. But yeah, Mashallah. Mashallah. So my brothers and sisters, we have a lot of goodness that comes out of globalization, we learn so many good things, technological advancement, education, we are networking with people business, Mashallah you can buy and sell, you can do a lot. And you can actually learn in terms of Islam to in terms of religion, you know, when there is a problem in the oma between two parties, you can actually go deep into studying both parties and checking what's actually gone wrong and
developing a middle path. Or if there is clear aggression on one side, you can make a stand an informed stand, rather than just follow with the follow the rest, you can actually have a lot in terms of knowledge. If you utilize this correctly. So many things are happening on Earth. Do you know that we don't even know the truth of a lot of what is said in the news? Do you know that? We don't know the truth, if you look at the social media is actually such that
leaders of the advanced world claim that there's a lot of fake news. So who am I? So Pamela, if you hear the President of a powerful country in the world telling you fake news, fake news, fake news, imagine, imagine what they must be done there. And us what happens to us we just get dissolved in it. We start believing we started hating our own brothers and sisters, based on fake news, based on you know, recently, there was a small advert that someone wanted to make with me regarding something, something that was supposed to be beneficial. So I told him, brother, I don't have time, he said, you know, just sit here. So I sent it. He said, Can you just say the following I said the
following and they recorded it. He said thank you very much. I went to him. Two weeks later, he sent me the advert Guess what? It looked like I was sitting in an aircraft and I've not been one.
It looked like I was saying something from this aeroplane. And I didn't. And I'm thinking, wow, Hollywood is true, man.
They make you say things and do things that you didn't say or do. And it looks more real than the real thing. So panela, and people will say, Wow, look at this guy. I was sitting on a stool. I was actually just like that. I think you guys who are studying maybe, you know, that technology would say no, that's possible. Very possible. I can do it. So can Allah and yet we tend to believe things we tend to see things we need to learn to distinguish when I sat many years ago learning the prophecies of the Prophet Muhammad wa sallam, when he spoke about adultery being, you know, spreading being rampant, you know, now we realize it's a click of a finger. The witness or not those
who named they're
the winners are not those who actually got their prey who made that prey, that witness or those who managed to stay away. Now. Did you hear what I just say? A Winner is the one who managed to stay away your virginity is by far the most the most valuable possession that you have in that aspect of living. I found I found and what happens, the pressure mounts and mounts again, and it mounts again until you feel you are the one who is abnormal, yet you are the only one who's normal law.
You hear what I'm saying?
until you feel like normal people say you won't get married, you won't do this, you need to do this. You need to the pressures of society built to the degree that if you had a pressure cooker and you were to watch it, and that whistle is threatening to actually kick off and it's just not doing it.
And it requires a blunder or to to mess up a lot. Remember one thing Allah is merciful. If you have made a mistake, it's not too late to make amends. That's another side of the coin. If a person's been involved in pornography, if a person's been involved in any immorality, if a person's been involved in anything that is considered low in values,
it's never too late to turn to Allah. Allah is waiting. One of the reasons why we are here today is for myself to turn to Allah and yourself to turn to Allah in a better way than we have already. No matter who you are, and upon what level you are. We're all in the same
But I don't know how I'm going to end. And I don't know how you are going to end and you don't know both either. Which means, if I may, for example, be fulfilling five Salah a day,
towards the end of my life, who knows, may Allah protect me and protect all of us? Who knows if I will become worse or better? No one knows. I don't know either. I need to keep trying. And when I see someone perhaps who might not be so regular with that Salah we need to keep encouraging, keep promoting, keep giving people good words, so that it can help them to do what it can help them to become the best of people such that so Pamela, when they end they would have also won they would be upon their best days. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam used to say Allah how much Allah tala Yamuna, our Pharaoh ha ha ha Molina, Swati Maha O Allah, let our best days be the last days and let our best
deeds be the ending deeds, the deeds and the end. We ask Allah to grant us those good deeds. I mean, my beloved brothers, my sisters, remember something, whatever is out there. If it is something that will displease Allah, your true contentment lies in staying away from it, no matter what type of pressure is mounting upon you.
A lot of the times, my own children and the children of others, people say this child is going to university, what advice can you give them? And I say only one thing. Not more than one. Only one thing. I want you to promise me only one thing. You have to hear what it is.
Let's see, what do you think it is?
Fear Allah. What else? That's not the one thing What else?
Lower your gaze. That's not the one thing. These are very important things. But if I were to just say one thing, one thing, and I have and I only say one thing. And still I only say one thing, and I'm going to tell you the same thing, you only need to do one thing at university, just one over and above your work and whatever else. That's not my department, but me as a person, people who would look up to as a fatherly figure who might give you a word of guidance, here's my piece of guidance, can I say it,
make sure your friends are better than you. That's all closed, you can write an encyclopedia about that. If your friends are better than you. That's it your days at university wouldn't be the best days ever. And if your friends are worse than you your days in university will destroy your life. I know people who've gone in with no consciousness of Allah, they've had best friends, they came out the most conscious of Allah. And I know people who came from the best of families with beautiful conscious of Allah, they went in and they came out as though they didn't even recognize who Allah was.
I've seen this. So after my 20 years of experience, I can tell you, the best thing you can do for yourself is to have friends who are better than you. So one might say, Well, you know, what, what if that's quite tricky, because what if I feel that, you know, this person might not be better than me? What do I do? Listen, let me tell you something.
For as long as
Let me read it better, right? Let me ask you, let me tell you what I'm saying. If there are two people, and one feels that let me be in the company of that person, because they are better than me, like we were advised, right? And the other one says, I don't want to be in your company. And the reason is, I don't think this person is better than me, it can happen right? So what is the solution to that? You need to look at who is having an impact upon whom that's all. If the person who has positive qualities with greater values and identity, as a Muslim as a believer responsibility unto Allah is having an impact on the one who might not be that high in values and morals or
consciousness of Allah, then it is the right chemistry, it is the correct friendship.
But if the one who is closer is now becoming affected by the one who is into everything immoral, and everything, you know, abusive and vulgar, and everything that is low in values, then it is the wrong relationship. I came into the university I used to eat five Salah a day now. I couldn't really be bothered about Salah long enough.
I came in here. I used to read Quran back at home when I came here. I don't even know where my foreign is. Is that good? Your relationship with Allah? Trust me. Have you had any deaths in your university have students who studied here or were studying while they were studying? Yes, you have. I want to tell you is there anything you have written in gold that you will not be from among those?
No, I could go right now. Do you
Want to know before I entered this hall? What I told the brother? Do you want to hear it?
You won't believe it. You will never believe what I said.
I said, Brother,
Where is the brother? Is he here?
What did I say?
I said, If I die, my brother bury me where I have died. The as I walked into here, and there was a reason I said it. I felt a little chest pain as I was walking in
chest pain. And it was a very strange and weird, awkward. I broke into a bit of a sweat, you can actually see it. We will soldier until the day we drop. I just told him Let me say this because just in case I don't want people to send me back home, we bury where we die. So brother if something happens to me and I die, bury me where I am. Now.
Did you hear he said it himself? Meaning I'd said it. And I didn't think I would share it with you. But here I am sharing it with you. The topic and the discussion between me and him was about something else.
I can tell you what the topic was.
Please don't know. Can I please tell? Can I tell him?
He looked at me said chef. You see everything you see here? Isn't it a fitna for you? Did you hear the question? He asked me it is a friend of mine. I told him brother, not at all. I am a person who is doing this solely and only for the pleasure of Allah. I wouldn't mind the cancellation of delay or whatever else I really don't mind. I'm just here for Allah. And I'm going to go back, I really don't mind. And while I stand by what I've said, if you think it bothers me, and it affects me, doesn't, a million times I've seen 1000s of people, you know, go crazy when llahi it's not of my doing, and it doesn't affect me or bother me. If anything, it pains me sometimes it pains me.
Because why? We have a responsibility. You are our children, we need to reach out to you with love with care with affection. And at the same time with guidance. That's not easy. I need to come and talk to you, I need to tell you, please, we are watching the globe slide into something we don't like to see it. We are seeing wars that Muslims are fighting against each other. We don't want them. We are seeing countries we used to look up to doing things that we couldn't believe shaytaan himself would be ashamed of like, how, and here we are as people who are looked up to trying so hard. We can't be bothered with small little parties. No way. If we love each other, it's solely and only for
the pleasure of Allah, nothing more. Nothing more. I want to tell you something, I was flying a certain airline once. This is actually shocking. And that's why I won't name you the airline. Right. And there was attitude from one of the air hostesses, attitude, attitude. And I don't know my sister, you know what
in my family Subhan Allah May Allah forgive me, but I just wanted to show her because you see the way she was dressed and the way she was trying to impress. And then she saw this guy with a big beard. I wonder what she must have thought. But the way she treated us very badly, she treated us very badly. And I could see you treating x, y and Zed. So well, you walked up to me and suddenly you were so rude.
I said, sister, you know you have a job to fulfill fulfill it. I'm not here to be impressed by the outlook here. I have women whom You will never be able to compete with. So don't even try.
It's a fact. Yes.
What I mean is,
if you think you are here to impress me. See, even the microphone wants to hear what happened.
If you think you are here to impress me based on you know, just because of what you look like a I'm already impressed by what I have. So you are just here to do a service. All I need is a little bit of respect. You don't even need to smile, but just do your job politely. That's all. I really don't want much more than that. And if you if you think that you're a big deal, there are people who are a bigger deal than you who are appreciated by other guys.
Now Allah protect us from like, I always say, what's the point of trying to impress the women of the world, as a man or the men of the world as a woman? You know, this problem is not just a man thing or a woman thing. It's all of us. What's the point of impressing the women of the world as a man of the men of the men of the world as a woman when you have not even impressed your own spouse? How wait is it and this is why I say You know what?
Can you yourself with dignity, we are living in a hyper sexualized community and world at the moment. Everything is about sex. Everything this morning I was listening to a clip someone again, in one of the advanced countries saying, you know what, if they want to sell anything, if they want to sell milk, they need to sexualize it. You know, you'd have a naked woman with a bottle of milk. I mean, it's got nothing to do with you and your body for like a the milk was from a cow. If they call you a cow, you'd be embarrassed. La ilaha illAllah.
Allah forgive us, Allah forgive us. Really. So why why I'm saying this is because it's focus. There are bigger things on earth when your content, your content with a small circle, not a large circle. So I've spoken already for 25 minutes, that's halfway down by the channel and let me just say one or two things.
I want you to know something you know, social media, please can you use it responsibly, you don't have to show everything that you have or don't have. Some people show everything that they don't have and pretend like they had it. And so they are so sad. You know they will. Some people cannot show themselves in their real condition. They have to pretend you have to show your food and your drink and you're listening. Let's change that you really want contentment. You are looking for success. You're looking for happiness, you're looking for a good spouse.
Stop evil for the sake of Allah and push yourself to stop it. For example, someone forwards us something that is unclean or dirty or low in morals or values or abusive or vulgar overtone deleted. When you deleted tell Allah Oh Allah only for you I deleted and continue. What do you think will happen? When law he you will have ended great reward just by clicking Delete. And the same thing, the opposite of it is true. Where if you follow that if you keep on earning a sin, you keep on earning a sin until the day of kiama. Why? Because even after you've died, people will be forwarding something that you forwarded that was immoral, evil, etc, etc. And can I say one thing that just
came to my mind now, I've been faced with many cases where especially girls tell you that you know what, there is a video, there is an indecent video of myself on some pornographic page, which was taken either through hacking off by my ex boyfriend or ex whoever and whatever. Now they're either blackmailing me or they're doing x y Zed, and I'm totally suicidal, it's out in the public. Before long, the whole world is going to see it.
Okay, to deal with that, number one, don't ever even take a photograph of yourself that you would not like to be published online? Or if you were to find it having leaked online somehow, it would not cause that embarrassment. What's the point of taking a photo of your old self in the nude fourth? What did you you might say, but what's wrong? It's not harmless. Listen, my sister, I was taught, I was taught that you can take your phone, restore factory settings, take it back, do whatever you want. It's retrievable with a bit of software, everything. The only way to get rid of your phone is to take a 14 pound hammer, put it down on the concrete and knock it until it's broken
and throw it away. That's the only way otherwise you sell your phone you sell it to 2030 people is very easily traceable. They'll go back to that person in the village somewhere else. And they will have traced it through its little codes that they have on the phone. And they will get it and say Can I borrow your phone for 1,000,009? Why they want to name the 10th owner? Previously, they will de encrypt whatever was on that phone to check what how you chatted with someone else? You think Allah doesn't know all of this? This is reality. I will I'm not joking. You guys are at the university. I hope the technological department knows what I'm talking about. Very easy. Don't do
anything that you will be embarrassed with. Firstly, it might be because I'm a little bit worried about x, y and Zed. But more importantly, I'm worried about Allah. Why? I cannot imagine people in a halaal relationship video in their sex act for what did you do that? What did you do that for? Why? How? Why on earth? If it is there, please delete it. Please don't even don't even have it. don't have anything that you would be embarrassed with. Had it been made public because one day it shall be made public
to see what I'm saying. So that is a halaal relationship. What about heroin? How many people's lives have been destroyed? hamdulillah I don't know of anything, any stories here. But there are stories all over the world. There are people who come to me suicidal completely, and they really want to end their lives. And it's not easy to help. It's not easy. They require lots of counseling and they
And then there are people whom you think you are totally in love with. But you know what one day you will break up perhaps How many have broken up. Don't do that which will embarrass you the day that you are no longer with that person, even if it's a holiday relationship shouldn't be embarrassing. Not at all. That's why the Hadith speaks about being respectful even when you're intimate, be respectful. Today, we are at an age where people are no longer respectful. We do anything, you know, we used to call it monkey see monkey do now human now, you know what it is?
Human do? The human does it, the monkey sees it and replicates it. Like I said earlier shape man is embarrassed of some of us because he wouldn't even do some of what we do.
I promise you.
So the same applies.
But there is a lot of goodness on Earth, you know, don't become despondent, I think we're all good. We all have some element of goodness in us, all you have to do is nurture it by the will of Allah don't get sucked in. It's a whirlwind, Whirlpool. And people are getting sucked into this Whirlpool. Let's learn to swim away by the will of Allah. Trust me, it will be a happy moment for you very, very great happiness. Your small circle of friends who are genuine is better than having a whole world full of people cheering you on. Have you seen something I learned about social media? Have you seen my interactions on social media? Have you seen them?
How are they?
If I interact with someone, normally, I'm in control of the message, I will message people will like you people will hate you. People will comment people will accuse people will abuse and so many 99.9% of people will appreciate good work and move on. Don't get bogged down, no need to reply, go to Twitter. I rarely reply. In fact, not even but like I didn't see, I see a lot. I reply sometimes very selectively, very selectively. But if someone swears and accuses and abuses and says, Oh, you said this and you said that and I heard you said you know what? Relax. I don't even want to give them the joy of an acknowledgement. Leave it. You don't need to like me. It's okay. I have enough
will love me. Did I say that earlier? I have my family. That's why I tell the parents tell your children I love you. I tell the spouses, tell your spouse, I love you. I adore you. Wow, look at your spouse.
Wow, you know why? You gave them a look that nobody gave them. So when someone just looks at them, they say Don't worry, my guy actually looks at me better than this toolkit. My point. The problem with us is we have a deficit. And by the way, I was looking at a guide on the
meaning you know, I to pull off my glasses. May Allah protect us.
So my beloved brothers and sisters, these are some of the challenges we are facing. If you notice, I took off the gloves. And I just said it as it is. I bet it I don't think you expected an Islamic scholar to come in here and buried to this level. But we're lucky. We will not succeed unless we speak of reality. What is going on? Let's not lie to ourselves. People are losing their faith, their dignity, their morality, their virginity, whatever else you want to say, in a way that they would not have liked in a few years from today. When you grow older, and you start looking back at your days, and you start thinking if you were to grow older, and you start thinking, gosh, you know,
those were days I'm embarrassed of those were days and we want to grow older and look back and say I'm so happy about these days. That is why and I end with this. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam says seven categories of people will be VIPs on the Day of Judgment, they will have a special shade of Allah subhanho wa Taala. One of them is Sha Ganesha. avi banda de la de tala, a young person as they grew up in their youth, the age you are at right now bubbling bursting with energies and emotions and so much more. They nurtured themselves in the obedience of Allah. Allah says, when you were young, and you had all that energy, you could do what ever you wanted to do. But you didn't because
of me, you're a VIP. Come here. We want to give you a special rank today. You have the award you have the price, even if your entire click of colleagues at the in the classroom or lecture theater thought that you were the one who was backward on that date. You will be the one who will be smiling. May Allah grant us the good smile aku kolyada or sallallahu wasallam Oh Baraka Nabina Muhammad wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.