Benefit of serving others
Channel: Mufti Menk
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20 Jan 2023 – Zamboanga – Philippines
Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi wa sallahu wa salam ala Baraka Allah. May Allah Allah,
Allah Allah He was
my beloved brothers, my sisters in this beautiful city of Zamboanga. We are so delighted to be here after such a long pause. And I commenced by making a dua for our late brother Ralph Tang, who was the one who introduced us to this part of the world. May Allah forgive him. May Allah have mercy on him. May Allah Almighty grant him Jana confirmed those say, I mean.
When we were born, our parents gave us names. And it's the duty of our parents to give us good names. Do you know my beloved brothers, my sisters, if you are not married, something you need to know that one of the rights that you your children have over you, the children that you don't yet have, it's a duty that you select for them, a good mother or a good father. What that means is, when you are choosing a spouse, you make sure that you bear in mind that this person is going to be the mother or the father of your children. And this would make you select someone who is responsible, who has a connection with Allah, that means their deen is in order, their character and conduct is
in order. Because if you don't do that, what type of children do you expect to have a person who is only interested in themselves and they've never served others they've never given others? They've never been mindful of their duties towards others? How do you expect them to look after your own children that you may have with them if you marry them?
So it's very important Islamically to look at the character, the conduct of a person, after you have looked at the deen and normally, if someone is religious, it is expected that their character would be in order. But if you look at the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him when he spoke about marriage. He didn't just say look at the deal. And that's it. He says, Look at the deen and the character. Do you know why there are some people who might be praying five times a day and they might be reading lots of Quran and they might be giving lots of Zika and they might have gone for Hajj and Umrah so many times, but their character and conduct is failing. They are people like this, you would be
shocked at how they are talking but they are there for Salah five times a day. That's why you look at both. And a sign of true religiousness is that the person's character reflects that.
So if you have someone who is truly religious, it will humble them, it will soften them it will make them respect everyone else and so on. So I start this way for a reason. Although we are talking about the merits of serving humanity.
It is important that you select a proper parent for your children even though you may not have children, if Allah has blessed you with children and hamdulillah And if Allah has blessed you differently such that you might not have children, but you have so many other things. It's a blessing of Allah, you don't know what might have been had you had those children that Allah has got given you. The same applies to those who are married, Allah has blessed you with a spouse. Sometimes Allah blesses you in a different way. But you need to recognize that way. You need to understand what is it that Allah gave me Allah He has given you a lot just because two or three things you
don't have that you wanted. You think you are not blessed by Allah, but you are blinded to the millions of blessings that He has showered upon you may Allah subhanahu wa Jalla grant us an understanding.
So as you've chosen your spouse and inshallah you are blessed with children, one of the things you would do is to give the child a name, right. What name would you give,
say some names.
Abdullah Abdul Rahman Meriam Khadija Amina Fatima what else? Mashallah.
Another name? Sandman what else?
MashAllah so many names that I can't even hear that Mashallah. My brothers, my sisters, you've given a good name. Do you know what it's your duty to do?
Teach them about Allah. And it's your duty to teach them about their duty unto their maker, whoever made them. They owe worship only to that supreme deity and no one else. What makes Islam unique people say, what makes Islam unique is that we worship the one who made us alone. No one else. I do not render an act of worship to anyone or anything besides he who made me wherever I was. 60 years ago, for example, the one who was my Lord, then is my Lord now and the one who will be my Lord after I pass on. I owe him and him alone, my worship, I need to teach this to my children. How many of you have taken the time to sit with your children and talk to them about Allah? Sometimes we ourselves
don't have enough knowledge. So we are found wanting May Allah subhanahu wa taala, grant us goodness and give us the ability to be there for our children. My brothers, my sisters, when the child is young, and they are growing by the time they get to two or three years old. What do we do? Don't we start looking for something? What do we start looking for a place a place where we start looking for a place to send them to do what
to go to kindergarten right? How old are they? Now they're starting earlier when I was young, we were five they used to send us to kindergarten sixth they send you to school.
Now it's earlier three they already send you to the kindergarten will advertise we change nappies or mashallah, we change nappies, let's quickly send one and a half they're gone. Mashallah.
Mashallah, what type of school do you send them to? Where do you send them? It's a good question. So we send them to school. Why? What's the reason? Initially, you just want them to learn how to read and write my brother, my sister, your duty to teach them about Allah, they might not live more than 10 years, they might not live more than 14 years. What about the interval? If they were minors? It's a minor matter. But the minute they achieve adolescent and age of majority, it becomes a serious matter. Did you teach them about D? So what happens is once they are completed with kindergarten, we select the best schools for our children based on our budget, am I right?
We choose the best schools we the child has now gone to mashallah, you are so proud to where to where does your child go? You say the name of a beautiful school, say the name of a school here in Zamboanga that is taught
by Shama Look, look, you see this academy and that one, and this one, everyone is excited. So, you know, if this child has gone to the school to say, Oh, wow, you know, she sent the child to that school, and everyone's excited for what what did you send them to the school for many times one of the prime intentions is that we want them to graduate so that they end up getting a good job. Am I right?
Look, everyone said yes, they ended up getting a good job, because we want them to survive on Earth. And we want them to make sure that we have given them an opportunity that they have not been prejudiced against, they have everything and here goes, it's your opportunity to earn and to get a decent job and a good salary. After you have qualified in a nice way, good results, we will encourage them, and we will continue to tell them to do this. And to do that. Guess what? They might not make it to the end of secondary school.
Did you tell them about that? Oh, my son, work hard. But you might not make it up to the end of secondary school. We don't talk like that to our kids. Because people say Don't be so negative. Well, yes, I agree. Don't be negative, be positive by teaching them about Allah, and about the fact that we are going to return to Allah, we don't know when. But when ever we are going to go back to Allah. It is something amazing. Just like the birth was amazing. The death will also be even more amazing. Why? Because we are returning to Allah and we are returning to our maker, we have no option. Those who don't like death, have no options, but to die. So what's the point? I'd rather
prepare for it and be happy about going back to Allah? Yes, I'm concerned. That's why I prepare in order to get back to Allah.
And so you need to fulfill your duties Unto Allah speak to your children about why they are on earth. Allah wants you to do two things on earth. What are those two things? He wants you to fulfill his right as a lord and the maker who made you the right of Allah. He wants you to worship Him the way He taught you to worship him. That's the right way.
Allah is known as cupola he, the rights of Allah. He wants you to fulfill them fully. So pray please pray to Allah, it's your duty, because he's your maker he made you pray to Him, pray five times a day be honest and so on worship Allah in the best possible way.
Remember Allah in your account you know we as Muslims, we say Likud and calm we're referring to so many things. One of them is to repeat beautiful phrases taught by Nabi Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam to us, that will elevate our status and we will be praising Allah Subhana Allah Alhamdulillah La Ilaha illa Allah Allahu Akbar La hawla wala Quwata illa biLlah Hill allele of him these words of declaration of praise and greatness of Allah, when repeated, they are very powerful, they will protect you and elevate your status. So repeat those words, keep them on your tongue, teach your children and your family about them, teach others about them. It's good, you will get a
reward when you have taught someone for what you taught them when they practice upon it.
So mashallah, here we are, we've prepared a child and he got a brilliant job. He got a brilliant job and hamdulillah what does he do? He starts getting his first paycheck. He gets his first paycheck, how much is it? They say, Wow, he has 100,000 pesos? Is that a lot of money?
good salary, right? Mashallah. He has 100,000 You know, I sent him to the best school. And then what does he do? There comes a time when he starts getting a million and then 10 million and then 20 million, and then 50 million and every day he gets up early, he goes to work, he goes to business, he he does this, he does that. And he comes back in the evening, and he goes to bed and what happens is, he will earn more and more and more until one day he dies.
When he dies, what does he take with him from those millions?
nothing, zero, he took nothing.
So imagine, we are born with nothing.
We fight all our lives to get something and then we die with nothing.
Right? That's exactly what happens. But if you were to deposit what you earned in the bank of Allah, if you are to deposit it with Allah subhanho wa Taala you would realize that that is what will come with you if I have a million pesos. And I ate so many. I kept so many. And I gave a charity of so many what is going to come with me when I die which one of those three,
the charity agreed.
So that is why we need to strike a balance, strike a balance between what this worldly life and the next I told you the first duty that Allah wants from you out of the two is to fulfill his rights. He is your Lord. He taught you what to do by sending you messengers. So thank Allah, levada, mon NAMA,
meaning. Bertha V Missoula. Indeed Allah has favored the believers, when he sent to them the messengers,
the messenger Muhammad sallahu alayhi wa sallam is that not a favor, they came to you to tell you how to worship Allah. The beauty of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Jesus may peace be upon him, Moses May peace be upon him, Abraham May peace be upon him and all the messengers, none of them told man to worship them. They said Worship Allah.
You know, when a person is a fraud, they will call towards their own Grandia I'm a big man, I have this come respect me honor me. I'm someone big and so on. Fraud, man. SubhanAllah. One of the signs that they are truthful is when they are calling you towards some goodness, and they are not the ones who are actually being worshipped or they are not elevating themselves within their own statements. No, they're telling you to worship Allah. It's a fair statement. Worship Me Who made you that's what they're saying, Whoever made you, you put your head on the ground for him and say, Are you who made me You are the highest that is Allah.
What's a powerful message? So Allah says, We favored you by sending you a Messenger. What is the second thing that Allah wants from us? The second thing is something known as a cupola. Imagine the rights of
by others, the other humans, the other slaves of Allah, what are their rights? When Allah created you, he didn't make you alone. When you came on earth, you already found your mother, you found your Father, who chose them, who chose your mum and who chose your dad.
The fact that you did not choose your mum or your dad is already assigned that that is going to be a test. It's a test, we believe as Muslims and As believers, we are here on Earth. In order for Allah to test us, we are sitting this examination on earth and we will graduate and go to Jannah in sha Allah, that's what we believe, we will go to paradise.
What is a sign that you are tested? Do you ever write the questions in your examination here on Earth? Oh levels, a levels whatever else in my high school, do you write the questions? No. So when someone else has written the questions, you know, this is a test. Allah has chosen certain things for you that you have no choice about nothing. And I can tell you something very interesting that is already assigned that you are being tested. Number one
who chose from amongst us that he or she wants to be on earth
did you ever think about it? Do you want to be did you choose to want to be on earth or you are here? You are here? Why? Because Allah put you not because you chose Why are you in Zamboanga and I am in Zimbabwe It sounds similar but it's very very fun right?
The reason is Allah chose that's the correct answer. Allah decided who are my parents and who are yours? Why are you not born for example, somewhere in another land to different parents? Why did Allah not asked me who do you want to be born to look here is the catalog just select who there is here and inshallah we will just give you this thing here? No, John, foolish right. Imagine if that was the case catalog you got to choose before you want
to be my mother. And I want that to be my father. Oh problem. They're not married.
Big problem. May Allah grant us goodness it is a favor of Allah. Learn to love who you are. That's what Allah tells you love who you are. Allah made you he chose for you. He put the soul in this body to these parents part of a test how will you treat your parents how will you carry yourself? Learn to love yourself and respect yourself as Allah may view the world today is teaching us to dislike ourselves. We look at ourselves and my lips are too small.
I cannot kiss nicely they put something inside.
Now I can kiss Masha Allah. Allah says Love yourself how you are love yourself how you are Subhanallah yes, if there is something abnormal, you can correct it. If there is something wrong, you can correct it. But to go out of your way, I don't like this. I like that because I saw it on TV. That's why when did I see on the internet? So I need to change my eyes. I need to change my cheek or needs to come out big here. I need to do this do that. La ilaha illa Allah, you will spend a lifetime Do you know most of those who have made big changes to themselves? Later on? They have regretted it but then it's too late.
And they are too embarrassed to say I regret sometimes you look at them, and you can say what happened to you? What happened to you to Panama? And a few years later they just took so ghostlike Allahu Akbar. May Allah subhanahu wa taala make it easy for them. And May many he make it a lesson for all of us. Allah He many people do many things they are embarrassed to tell you how badly they regret it.
Because had they told the rest of us the whole industry would have closed May Allah Subhana Allah Allah grant us goodness, my brothers and sisters you have a duty,
a duty Unto Allah to love yourself as you are in terms of how Allah has made your hair how he has made your eyes, your nose, whatever else it may be, just say Alhamdulillah Are you okay? You are healthy, thank Allah. If you one thing is missing in your health, thank Allah for the other 20 things 50 Things million things that are okay.
Now Allah Almighty make us happy with ourselves. Don't worry as you are. Allah loves you, He made you.
So we owe our parents because Allah chose them for us. When we say saving humanity you start off with your own parents. What about bocce
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Allah has declared that none shall be worshipped besides him. Like I said, Just now you worship your maker alone. And he has declared that you shall be kind to your parents, you shall be kind to your parents.
You know, sometimes there are people who are not Muslim, they are interested in Islam. And the parents think that you know what this person is going to become harsh and extreme and so on, which is wrong.
I always tell them go out of your way to be even more kind and dutiful to your parents go out of your way to prove to them that you know what, I'm a much better child than I was before. I'm going to serve you. I'm going to love you. I'm going to give you and wherever I can. I'm going to listen to you as well. Subhanallah It's your duty. Allah wants you to obey your parents in what is good, and what is acceptable to Allah Subhana Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah says, if they tell you to do something that is displeasing to Allah, then you do not obey them in that matter, but you still live with them in goodness, and in that which is acceptable. May Allah Subhana Allah Allah grant us
understanding I mean,
so Allah wants you to do that number one regarding your parents, then in many cases Allah gave you siblings, your brother your sister, Paula he it's a challenge. It's a test you did not choose your sister or brother not at all. You did not choose who is going to be your uncle or aunt, your nephew or niece, you did not choose your grandparents or grandchildren, your own children you did not choose. So every one of them is a test it will be tough, it will be difficult as time passes, you tend to part ways why? Because of worldly matters. You are fighting over money shame upon you shame upon you. You are going to die in a few years facing Allah what I was fighting all my life fighting
for what money? peso, what is pesos? You're going to go to the RTR in your grave? Even if they put the million with you in it? Wallahi it means nothing. It will be embarrassing to mention it to the angels Subhanallah What will you buy? You have a million What do you need? I need to know where is it? If you did not spend it in this world, you wasted it. I'm not saying it's bad to earn we all want to earn May Allah grant us Halal sustenance, and may Allah grant us the ability to appreciate and make us use it in the correct way. Whatever you have used in the correct way, whatever you have spent to feed people to help people to reach out to people that is going to come with you in your
grave that is going to come with you in your grave. Because the Hadith says is a matter of know, when a human being passes away in Qatar, Allah Who Killed them in
his deeds are cut off from him. It stops everything stops, the rewards they stop except from three things. What are these three things? One of them is a charity that he has given or knowledge that he has taught or a child who is making dua for that particular person. A child who is making dua for you, you gave them such a lovely upbringing, that when you pass on they say Oh ALLAH forgive my mother, grandma, Jana have mercy on her that supplication is the most powerful gift that your child could give you. Subhanallah Subhanallah
so sadaqa sadaqa jariya something you have given the benefit of which continues even beyond your death, that is going to help you after you died.
My brothers my sisters, do you know Islam is a religion
that makes it compulsory upon its followers to share what they have with those who don't have it.
It's the only religion on earth that makes it a pillar of faith. Pillar of faith means
from among the primary fundamental teachings of this faith
is that if you have something you need to share it with those who don't have it. It's not just for you, Allah Akbar, did you think of it? What am I talking about?
Which pillar of Islam is that?
Come on, say loudly.
Zakah what is the cat Allah says, You have a lot don't you? You have how much do you have? You have more than so many grams of gold worth of money or valuables?
You are not a Muslim unless you share this with someone. Allah Allah. Allahu Akbar. How's the faith? Tell me how is the religion Subhan Allah
You are not a true believer unless you share what you have. How much do you what do you have? If you have a mobile phone store and you have 200 mobile phones, and they are sitting there for a whole year five of them, you have to give those who don't have. If you don't, you can't call yourself a Muslim.
It is the only religion that makes it a pillar. I know other religions have taught charity. Charity is a word that depicts the voluntary nature of the giving. It's voluntary, charity does give a chance. The word zakah is not voluntary. It's compulsory. That's why there is no proper English translation for the terms is a car. Because if you say charity, but this is not voluntary, it's compulsory. And if you say tax, which is not a tax, it's actually somewhere between the charity and the tax. It's something you have to give so it's the it's Allah telling you listen to some of them when I give you you have to share it. That's why my brothers and sisters don't love the things that
you have so much that you cannot give them away to someone. You must be able to say no problem, I will give it
less than I
mean to hipbone, you will never achieve true righteousness until you spend from that which you love. Until you spend from that which you love. Why does Allah not want you to love that which he gave you in terms of material items too much? Because you will lose focus, your journey is going to the hereafter and here you are on earth amassing as though you are going to live forever and ever.
So because you should not lose focus, Allah says don't love it too much. It's going to come in the way in the way of what family members it's going to come in the way of wives, children, parents, brothers and sisters, uncles and aunts, it will create a war
because you love wells too much to hipbone Elmaleh and gentlemen, you love this well so much.
Remember, when you reach out to others, Allah reaches out to you.
You have a problem. Help others with a similar problem. See what happens to you. You are unwell, reach out to others who are unwell. See how good you feel you will be better
Can Allah houfy O'Neill Abdi MacConnell aberdovey Amina, he must have heard this hadith already a few times. Allah will continue to help his slave for as long as he is busy helping another he or she is busy helping someone else. Are you busy helping someone ask yourself right now? Who am I helping in my life? Whose life do I make easy? Ask yourself? How many are they? Is it everyone you interact with? Or is it a few people? Or is it someone or no one and you do better than what you're doing right now.
You do better than what you are doing right now. All of us you want the help of Allah meant to help other people.
If you want something,
empower others and Allah will empower you with what you want. It's not enough to just say Oh Allah, I want this Oh Allah I want this I want this. Allah says you know what? You want me to give you goodness and you don't even want goodness for other people. That's why jealousy is prohibited. In Islam. Jealousy is prohibited because you are fighting with Allah. Allah decided to give your friend something and not you when you become jealous.
It actually means Oh Allah why did you choose to give them give me man give me
that's jealousy. So who are you fighting with? Not with them if you see someone has something you don't have to say you become jealous you look at them. I have envy. You want to block them stop them fight them try and you are trying to block something Allah gave them it's gonna bother you not them.
So don't be jealous in nonhazardous they are cool Hassan EarthCam Quran
the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam jealousy will eat your good deeds like the fire consumes a dry log.
It will eat your good Don't be jealous.
Rather Be happy for others. Oh Masha Allah, Allah has blessed you pray for me that Allah blesses me to.
Now you're talking business. Allah has enough. Allah has enough to give everyone
you know If Allah Almighty He says in the Quran if
We had kept sustenance and the provision the giving and distribute of distribution of sustenance in the hands of men.
They wouldn't have given anyone
lamb spectrum crushing it and in fact, they would have held back saying maybe it's good to finish Allah doesn't hold back he knows it's not going to finish. Allah gives hello to them li guna fossa in Medina be even sec to Eden. sec to her she I tell you
what canon is.
Allah expresses how miserly man is, if man had the ownership of the treasures of the Mercy of Allah subhanaw taala
they would have held back the distribution wouldn't have happened, why fearing maybe this is going to deplete, maybe it's going to finish. But Allah says no, we gave we distribute and we will give everyone whatever they deserve and even what you do not deserve Allah gives you. Allah says in the Quran we give the believers we give the disbelievers we give the obedient we give the disobedient all of it is part of the test. That's the reason why it does not mean that you are close to Allah, you will have lots of this worldly life. In fact, when you are closer to Allah, you might not have that much. Look at the prophets of Allah may Allah has peace and blessings be on them. How much did
they have? Most of them have very little.
Most of them had very little but they were closer to Allah than anyone else.
If you look at this day and age, we have technology. We have our phones we have taps with water, we have hot water, we have electricity we have the internet we have cars, planes, we have jets and we have so much more. Why did Allah Almighty key keep Nabi Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the others Jesus and Moses and Abraham and Aaron and lot and Solomon and David and all of them may peace be upon them all? Why did Allah keep them at a time when none of this technology was existing?
If Allah wanted he could have made them now.
One of the reasons that we understand is because Allah is showing you that all of this in the eyes of Allah, Allah is Allah and Allah He Jehovah, it is not worth even the wing of a fly in the eyes of Allah. What does it mean nothing. They didn't have anything not even running. No human taps. You know how we have a tap turns on, water comes out recently, or maybe now in some parts of the world they have to walk kilometers in order to get water.
Today we have lights flicked, and it's done. Some parts of the world they have to light a fire. They find it difficult to this and that.
So all of this means nothing to Allah. It's just facilitation for men. But men becomes more and more miserly, more and more miserly.
Learn to help others look at the companions of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him.
They were successful because they cared for one another. One of the reasons why they were successful, they cared for one another. Each one stood up for the other, they protected one another. They helped one another. They were there for one another. They were very successful. The problem with us we are there for ourselves, what is there in it for me, my brothers, there's nothing there just to reward from Allah. reward from Allah. I can do Salah Tura cartels, thoughts, get a reward from Allah. Mashallah, you want to run away from helping people, you want to run away from being there for others. Remember, Allah wants you to do certain things in Islam. It's not just one pillar,
there are five.
The Salah is one, the other one learn discipline through your fasting. Another one. You need to reach out to other people. Look at them speak to them. Well, Allah warns you about your tongue. Allah warns you how you speak to other people. Be careful. When you talk to one another, watch those words. You need to save by being polite. What's the point of someone coming to you and giving you something but they are swelling you maybe you won't take it unless you're desperate.
I have seen with my eyes, guys throwing things at beggars. And the biggest is I don't want it you know what? You either give it with respect to getting lost Subhanallah
the beggar is right. You can't say no, you're a beggar take it. Allah will make the tables turn.
It is an honor to be able to give
It's an honor to be able to give, if Allah wanted, he could have given everyone equally or they could have given those who don't have.
But he made it such he's giving you an eye and opportunity to rise and shine,
has given you an opportunity to rise and shine. That's why.
When Allah speaks about giving in the Quran in surah, Baja, he speaks about the beggar.
In surah Baja, Allah speaks about the beggar guess what he says? Allah says,
ill of Allah,
as for the beggar, as for the one who's asking you,
it was easy for Allah to say, as for the one who was asking you give him right. It's easy for Allah to say, as for the one who's asking you give him Allah didn't say give him because he knows, you might not be able to give him or you might not want to give him because you are doubting maybe is he or she genuine or they are a fraud, it can happen. There are many people who are very wealthy, but their job is just to go out and beg everyday. If you see that, what should you do?
So that's why Allah didn't say when someone asks you give him Allah says when someone asks you Do not rebuke him. Why? The respect is more important than the giving Subhanallah you thought of this?
Allah wants you to respect them. I might think this person is a fraud. I might think this person has a lot of money. They're cheating. They're deceiving, or they don't deserve minimum I do is I can just smile and keep going. Did I rebuke him? No. Did I swear them? No. Did I insult them? No. Did I expose in a way that? I don't have evidence? No. But I didn't give no problem. Allah says you did the right thing. You follow what your heart said? move on now. Subhanallah but you didn't review.
rebuked means don't belittle them. You who are you? Why are you here every day, you have hands you have feed, go and find the job you are so this, you start swearing them insulting them, belittling them in front of others. Allah says don't do that. Don't do that. You want to guide them you may do so this implies I have a job. Let me offer you.
For I think it's a good idea. Go online and try and apply more and more and whatever and so on whatever you want to say. Don't rebuke and insert That's why Allah says what I'm gonna say.
As for the one who is asking the beggar, do not insult do not rebuke them. Do not belittle them.
It's your duty to treat them well treat everyone well my brothers and sisters. Today, I want to raise a very important matter before we start serving humanity. Learn to serve your own kith and kin who are close to you, your spouse, when I say spouse, either the husband or the wife depending on whether you're male or female.
Learn to serve your spouse by firstly respecting them that honor is something unmatched if you cannot do something for someone, but you have respected them Wallahi it was enough. It's enough.
Don't shout and swear at your spouse. People get angry. Oh, especially the men sometimes they get angry with their women such that they start swearing belittling, insulting accusing, Allah is watching. Allah knows what you're doing. Be careful. The problem is nowadays, it's the other way around as well. The guy's wife says hey, Abdullah.
He's so worried this is an issue.
I want to see what my wife is. Why do you need such relationships? And can Allah why do you need such a relationship? Be respectful to one another, someone says your name that your spouse you should be so happy
and it should be coming. Many of us are guilty either way. improve it. You know what's the problem? The problem is when people who look so religious when their spouses complain about them we cannot believe that this person spouse is actually complaining about them in a way that is unacceptable. Subhanallah unacceptable.
The Prophet peace be upon him used to call his wife with sweet names.
somewhere is someone know? Some might be saying well, you know she's not sweet, she's bitter. So what do I do?
May Allah grant us ease call them with sweet names Mashallah.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam never ever swore or yelled at his spouses. Do you swear and yell at your spouse?
See the answer is muted.
If you do so can you say I'm a good Muslim?
You cannot say you're a good Muslim if you swear and you yell at your own spouse Charity begins at home. Remember Charity begins at home. You want to show that you're a good Muslim you are doing your Salah you are dressed properly you are mashallah earning halal. Watch out how you treat people and you cannot start with the whole world and forget your own family. A lot of the guys outside the house they are so nice and in the house they are very different outside the house and Masha Allah, Allah,
and Allah and you are wondering why are they seeing mashallah, mashallah so much outside when they come back inside the superstructure Allah in the house. That's not how it should be.
In the house, we should be even better than what we are outside. empower them. If you do not say words of empowerment to your children and your spouse who is going to do that.
You need to say beautiful words, tell them how good looking they are. Tell them how lovely they are. Help them through their problems and issues in their in the home, assist them wherever possible. You don't just sit back and say right, that's it.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a true understanding. So we talk about serving humanity start off at home.
And that is the reason why when the circle is becoming broad, after your family members, who is next to you know who is next, your neighbor, the one who's next to you on either side. Sometimes behind sometimes we have three neighbors, sometimes we have two.
And when we say neighbors it goes beyond that also those who interact with you everything why? Because Allah wants you to earn paradise through serving humanity.
When you see something,
the Hadith says MeLuna can just sit in one believers or like one body.
In another narration, Allah Almighty says the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam actually, which is also from Allah subhanho wa taala.
He the sticker Minwoo Tada Allah who sat
beside you and from if one organ is in pain, one part of the body is in pain, the entire body
is in pain and suffers insomnia is restless, until that path is better. You know, if you burn yourself on your finger,
you won't sleep. But that's only your baby finger. Can somebody cut it off and go to sleep? They can't say that. That's foolish. Cut it off, I suppose I might die. Am I bleed to death? Who knows? You can't do that. But if your finger is burning, and your whole body is restless, and until you heal that or do something about it, the same way we should be as an ummah, all all of us and humanity at large. If one part of the globe is suffering, we should all want to do something about it.
It's like a huge ship that we are all in look after the ship. If you don't look after the ship, we will all drown.
And that's why when there are collective matters on the globe to discuss, everyone sits together to discuss look what's happening. Let's try and eradicate this and stop this. And let's try and help him this way. And that way. It's part of your duty as a Muslim.
are a true Muslim, a true believer it reflects because you have a concern. Concern for everyone.
Like I said earlier, we are concerned about our children. The problem is we've only taught them how to amass they went to school, they got good jobs, they got more and more and more money. Did you teach them how to spend? Did you teach them how to give. There are many wealthy people whose family members complained that they are miserly. They say the richer the person the more miserly they are. Sometimes you work for a very rich person, they won't even pay you. They will squeeze you and squash you but they have millions more than others who will pay better. It just happens sometimes. That's them failing the test. That is them failing the tests that Allah has tested them with. So don't
allow that to happen. My brothers, my sisters, when Allah gives you keep a portion of it and share it with others. When you see someone in need, try to help even if it is small, five pesos, 10 pesos or a good word. You cannot give them something sometimes because you don't have
Just say, May Allah make it easy for you, I pray that today will be a good day for you. May Allah grant you, did you lose something by praying for them? You did it. And the beauty of praying for others is the angels pray for you with a similar prayer. You know that? May Allah grant you may Allah give you and the angels are saying, Oh Allah give this person like that and more.
Give them more than what they're asking. So I want to ask the question here. If the angels are praying for you, with the prayer that you are praying for others, what would happen when you are cursing someone else? Good question, right?
Yeah. That's why people say, you know, my mother curses me every day. What do I do say that curse will not work? Why won't you do it? Because Allah is just unfair. If you deserve something, then you have a problem. If you don't deserve it, do you think Allah is going to do that for you? When someone comes in May Allah curse you say who you think you are? Allah?
May Allah curse you. That's what they will keep on saying even if there are Muslims, May Allah curse you. May Allah curse you. They keep on saying this. I tell you, my brothers and sisters, do not be intimidated by those type of words.
They will only be put into action and effect if they are deserved. Because Allah is the most just you really think just because you're a parent, you have the right to curse know, sometimes you might be wrong.
You don't have the right to curse, pray for them. And the angels will give you goodness. I used to say before that you know people make dua for destruction now not destroy, you know, Sidama destroy you. So they say May Allah destroy both of you, and another guy can't May Allah destroy all three of you. So what happened? Each one is making dua for destruction of the other, and we just see everyone being destroyed. What's the point? Can they say May Allah empower you, my brother, I pray Allah bless you with the best. And the angels are saying they're gonna give you even better than what you are praying for the sky. What a blessing look at the benefit of serving the benefit of thinking and
caring about others.
So my brothers and sisters, here we are in this beautiful city of Zamboanga. Do you know
there was a time when people told us and even now, people that don't go to some Blanca, it's very dangerous unless it but when I go there, I feel so peaceful.
We are sitting with such lovely people.
It's amazing. I think the rate of crime here is even lower my wife.
It is our duty as part of serving humanity to maintain the security and stability and the peace of the region we live in. Go out of your way to respect everyone, even those who do not share much with you. Learn to respect them, you are living in the same region, you are living on the same earth. If you don't, you are going to destroy your own city, you will be destroying your own region. Don't allow someone to come here and make you become intolerant of others make you I spoke about being disrespectful, don't even be disrespectful. Didn't we say earlier you don't want to give you don't want to help? It's okay. But don't be disrespectful.
Imagine you're living in one area you need to survive here you need to worship Allah here. Part of all of that is to reach out to the poor as well. You are not going to be able to fulfill your duty and Unto Allah if you are going to be fighting and killing one another. That's not possible.
Allah says to us part of your duty is to stand up for what is correct. And learn to respect each other. Someone might not imply you someone might not have chosen your faith, perhaps they belong to another faith. What is your duty to them? You have to serve humanity by being good and kind to them. Didn't I say earlier? When you are a Muslim, you are kind to your parents who are not Muslim. Go out of your way to prove to them who we really are. I'm going to be compassionate. I'm going to come I'm going to help this and you are now 65 Don't worry, just sit I will come and give every month I will give you something you don't have to worry. Oh but your mom is not even a Muslim. That's the way it
should be so on. You feed her one day maybe before she dies, she might say to Allah, Allah and Allah right. It has happened and if she doesn't, it's between her and Allah. It might hurt us and pain us but it's okay. Meaning it's not in your hands. It happened to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam when Allah revealed the verses in a colada demon
Wallah King Allah demon me.
You will not guide
Do you wish Allah is the one who guides whom He wishes? Did you fulfill your duty? Yes, don't worry about the rest.
So there goes we will serve we will protect you don't cheat someone you don't deceive in business you build you grow. The future generations will remember you for the goodness you stood for your children, your grandchildren and thereafter they will remember you by name. Many of us we've done nothing.
Who will remember us? They are waiting to forget you actually.
Can I ask you another question?
We know in history names of certain people who have contributed towards our community societies, our religion, our maybe city, our country, we know names, right?
How many of you know the names of your great great grandfather's?
If I asked you what is your father's grandfather's name? For make it more interesting, your grandfather's grandfather's name
and say, I don't even know my own great grandfather's name. Let me think one, I think in this part of the world, we will know the great grandfather because as Muslims were always taught to give a name another name another name, right? You know, your great grandfather, but how does it go from there? How many can you name?
How many of you can name eight of your grandfather's put up your hand? Eight of them put up your hand.
I don't see any hands a few hands.
Eight of your grandfather's if you can name them, I think stand up and give us the names let's hear.
No one is prepared to stand up you see. So we will be forgotten but not with Allah when you have done goodness, I swear no one will know that you and I existed, no one will know in a few generations, it will become irrelevant. There are people more important than me Wallah. We don't even know their names where were they who were they, but they were your great grandfather's you know you are the grandchild, the great great grandchild of such a man
Subhanallah we are lucky if you know it.
Leave a legacy so that at least one day Allah Almighty will grant you, gentlemen, those paradise when you get to Paradise you have succeeded. And the way and the path to it is to fulfill those two things that I spoke about at the beginning, your duty Unto Allah your duty unto the rest of the creatures that Allah made because he made them, I want to end by telling you, the people in your family, in your community, in your surroundings, the people you will meet with interact with, are chosen by Allah to be there at that particular time in order to teach you how you will react, you know, when I'm traveling.
A lot of the times I tell the brothers who are with me because it's difficult to meet everyone I would love to sit and meet every one of you mashallah, it would I would love to do it. But from a human perspective, it is impossible. from a human perspective, if there are 2000 3000 Here, for example, if I were to spend one minute each with you, I would need to live in this area.
I would need to live in this area. But it's impossible. Now. I want to tell you, if you didn't plan anything, and I am traveling, and I and someone they didn't know I was going to be there, they knew nothing saying we went to to eat somewhere and there is a family eating there as well. I decided to go there and Allah made them decide to go there. In that case, I bumped into them according to me, right? Give them time of the day why Allah chose them to be there at that time and that place not you you didn't plan it, Allah.
The other day I was in Pakistan,
two days back.
And at the traffic light, we stopped someone on in the car next door
to greet them Salaam Alaikum. How are you? Good to see you and so on. Why? Because that was we bumped into them just coincidentally for us. But for Allah, it's not a coincidence. It's not a coincidence. Allah chose him. How will you react? Will you react in a good way or a bad way. The same applies when you are sitting here today. Most of the time the people near you, you didn't choose that they're going to sit near you. Be kind to them. Don't be selfish, greet them make easy for them make space for them.
And Allah subhanho wa Taala will make space for you like in Salah when we are going to fulfill Salah with JAMA, the congregational prayer. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam says if you ate something that is strong smelling like onions or garlic, don't come into the south until you wash your mouth. Why? He doesn't want you to harm other human beings. He doesn't want someone imagine
how what concentration every
someone is breathing out this one light happens. You are supposed to come and you know what you start your Salah and you can smell a beautiful scent. Oh this person they put some atom and you're just like this mashallah, you it's so nice and such a beautiful feeling. Imagine the intricate detail of how to be when you are standing next to someone Islam taught you about Islam taught you about how you should be when you are standing next to someone. If you are working very hard, make sure you have used some underarm so that that person the perspiration is not smelly, because we are human beings. Imagine standing next to someone in prayer they are trying to say guide us to the
inner self and guide us to the straight path and next best thing there is something really smelling perspiration they say what straight path is this night?
What did you do you damage the person's concentration? They cannot concentrate anymore. If Allah tells you to watch out for that, do you think he will allow you to harm someone physically? Do you think he will allow you to harm someone with your time? Do you think he will allow you to harm someone in a bigger way? Not at all, even your smell? You should not harm them with Allah. Allah
even your smell, you should not harm them. May Allah make us good smell. You know whenever I whenever I read I said I mean So the angels can make a more powerful your afternoon.
When I read about the prophets of Allah Allah Salam,
the Sahaba of the Allahu and Roman his wives they see as a miracle from Allah, his perspiration used to smell better than mustard Subhanallah
Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam it used to smell better than mustard.
So there was one guy
he came to me once he said you know my wife is complaining said when I told her that I would like to you to smell my my perspiration because sunnah is for the wife is supposed to smell like mustard. And say my brother, you misunderstood this whole Hadith. It's only about the prophets of Allah is not about anyone else. So only the prophets Allah Allah Allah says there are certain things special. As for you and I you need to wash even when going to bed. Make sure you're going to bed your body odor is good decent your spouse sitting next to you. Imagine you are married to someone and you're saying
imagine clean yourself please apply good perfume be smell good, look good. That is your spouse Subhanallah and make sure you are thinking about it. Some people don't think about it. If Listen, okay, something came to my mind and let me say if it is haram for you to stand in the surf with another person because of your garlic and onion mouth. Imagine sleeping in bed with your spouse with the garlic mouth you think it's going to be permissible Subhanallah imagine kissing them with the garlic mouth out in La Villa.
Yes, it's dated biryani
Oh, they're seeing duty and I even forgot about dunya Mashallah. I was here in Zamboanga some time back. They did a challenge. I think it was here. They said will you try some duty and I said I will eat Don't worry, we'll be big. You know what?
When I ate it, when I tried it, I think some of you might remember the time when I tried it. I just told the brothers you know everything when you eat you say Bismillah this when you eat you say a hold of Allah.
Meaning, you know what is duty? May Allah Almighty protect us?
Is it really healthy?
It is really healthy. I will believe you but it's not far off. Like I thank Allah it's not something I have to eat like, you know, it's not fun. So we won't eat but even if you eat it if some people don't like the smell I remember the first time I saw the word durian was in Malaysia.
We were in Langkawi and we jumped into a taxi and it says no duty and allow
what is duty and the guy says you don't know duty and I said No What is doing? He says something very smelly.
So I jumped out of the taxi and I went to the to the hotel. I told them I need some duty and they said we don't allow it in this hotel. You don't allow good and this hotel okay must be really bad. So then I asked one of my friends data, what he's doing and they described it in one small sentence they said
Subhan Allah may Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive let me not say about, okay? You won't hear the description.
it tastes like heaven but smells like hell
is it through?
Has one Allah
that Allah grant us forgiveness? Anyway, the point I was making is, you know, talking about serving, one of the beautiful methods of serving people is not to harm them.
In today's world, many times,
people don't realize who their friends are, they are let down by their friends you confide in someone, the whole world knows about it, because they tell you you know, what is the password? The password is? Don't tell anyone but let me let me tell you something. So they will tell you don't tell anyone you know, this, this this, that one will go to another one. Don't tell anyone you know this, this, this. One will go to another one. Don't tell anyone, the whole of someone that knows it. And each one is saying, don't tell anyone. Don't tell the people from Manila, because we know what this is. And then the whole of Manila knows and before you know it, the whole world knows they will
write on Facebook do not tell anyone but
those are not friends, they cannot hold your secret. They are not friends. A friend used to be the one who helps you today a friend is the one who does not harm you.
A friend used to be the one who helps you today, a friend is the one who does not harm you. You can tell people I don't need you to help me all I need from you is please don't harm me. That's all. May Allah Almighty help us to serve humanity at least by not harming them. And at least by going beyond that as believers we will go beyond and we will try our best to be the best to everyone we interact with the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him he was so kind to everyone so kind to everyone you know what the companion says
each one of us felt that we were his favorites
imagine how he must have been
each one of them felt that he was the favorite Wow
How must have had been amazing the way he you see someone mashallah you're so happy you greet them. But guess what? That's the way you greet everyone because you give them importance. May Allah help us to learn just a page from that, you know what, I don't know how long I was supposed to speak for. I forgot. But I've spoken for an hour and inshallah we'll leave it at that. May Allah bring us again to number one. And may Allah Almighty help you and all of us. May Allah make it better than Armenian. May Allah make it a city that is safe and secure. And may Allah grant you prosperity in your Deen in your dunya and akhira. May Allah make us such that when we empower our children, we
think about the hereafter as well. We teach them Quran and the goodness and not only about this World War One and in hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa sallahu wa salam ala Baraka Allah, Allah Muhammad was Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh