Mohammed Faqih – The Ego Factor
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The speaker discusses how they chose a topic that made them feel like the last speaker of the day, and emphasizes the importance of forgiveness and human nature in resolving conflicts. They stress the need to acknowledge one's weaknesses and vulnerability, and to not allow others to see what they see. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of learning oneself as a human and not just looking for what is on the other person.AI: Transcript ©
May Allah Subhana, Allah bless you, 111 salatu salam, ala rasulillah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I have a confession to make. Ironically, I chose a topic that is a little complicated, maybe too heavy. So I'm just going to say something simple about it and talk about one aspect
of it.
But when I, when I chose this topic, I didn't know that I was going to be the last session of the day. And I thought it was very important. And but then when I saw myself on the schedule, when the schedule came out, and I saw that it was going to be the last session, the last lecture, I was like, I have never had, you know, this is like a very important spot. The last lecture is usually what people wait for, right? You keep your, like you saved the best to, to be the last thing. So I was like, it got to my ego.
And I like, wow, I'm the last speaker of the day, you know, I've never had that spot.
usually reserved for people like Getty, almost in a manner.
So anyways, I was like, great. And then when I walked into the room, I was like, my ego is really being tested right now.
So I really want to tell you that I'm very grateful that you state,
I feed off the energy that I get from my audience, and I really, really appreciate your dedication, and you're staying here.
You're my heroes tonight, you made my day, thank you very much, may Allah bless you.
What is the ego
you know, something that that many people tried to explain, and the more they try to explain it, what happens?
It becomes very, very ambiguous and elusive.
Some people tell us that it's something bad that you need to get rid of. Yet, when we look at what ego is, we're told that it's your sense of yourself, or the I in you, as you write, and your perception of yourself, or what you are worth, or how you're perceived. Right. And it could be? Well, for most people, it's very inaccurate, it's not accurate, how we perceive ourselves. The reason I chose this topic, and yesterday, I talked about forgiveness, the power of forgiveness is because I have noticed that many of our conflicts and issues that we have, whether it's with ourselves, or with our loved ones, or issues that we have with our society, or things that we have
against anyone, and to be, quite frankly, also issues that people have against their Creator, a loss panatela. And there are more and more people just, you know, getting really agitated and angry and upset, and, and there's a lot of despair in the world. So and, and I like to help myself, and people reconcile with themselves with a loss of handle with and most importantly, with their loved ones, and with everything around them, right, find peace, and
resolve many of these conflicts that we have. So, so yesterday, I spoke about forgiveness for a very, very short period. It was a very short lecture. And today I chose to talk about one of these elements that I think are key in resolving many of these conflicts that we have. So I'm going to skip right that and talk about one area that I wanted to focus on. That can help us, right, because we usually were very obsessed with people's egos we say this person has a big ego. My husband has ego, right? My wife, she's got serious ego issues, right? It's the ego of someone else. Yet in reality, it's really your own ego. Right?
When people when you consider yourself
a victim in every single situation, you're not a doer, you're someone that was done to right. When you want validation, right? You're not going to get anywhere. When you look at other people, you judge them, yet you don't like to be judged, but you judge people. I thought that if we can focus on one of the elements that I wanted to bring up tonight, which is human nature, right? Just understanding yourself as a human, giving yourself a break, giving others a break. Understanding that other people are humans as well. Your parents are human beings. They're flawed. They're meant to be flawed. They were created fly
Right, your spouse is not perfect, your children,
they're not perfect, and they will never be perfect and stop trying to make them perfect.
Stop pushing them to be everything that you want them to be or everything that you wanted to be.
Because they're not going to be
when you are so hard on yourself,
and you can even manage to forgive yourself.
And you are angry at yourself and you forget that you are a human.
You're flawed, you have deficiencies, reconcile with yourself, forgive yourself and learn
to perceive yourself as you are. And I thought that one of these most helpful resources that we have is the Quran itself. Because it talks to us. The Quran told us when Allah Subhana Allah told us about human nature, the good and the bad.
Allah subhana wa tada in the Quran was saying that human beings have the capacity, the capacity to do such and such, and the responsibility to do such and such praising human beings and saying that human beings are honored in at the same time, the params, very pragmatic, very, very practical. And it's a very honest book.
It's very honest book, The dishonesty doesn't come from it, it comes from us from the way we read it from the way we approach approach it from the very selective engagement that we have with the poor and when we only look for what we want to be validated. So the Quran tells us that humans are weak. The Quran tells us that we as human beings have issues. So remember that you're dealing with human beings. And again, I'm not saying make excuses for everybody. All I'm saying is just remember that you're dealing, whether it's yourself or someone else's ego, you're dealing with something that is flawed, even if you think or the other person thinks that they're perfect. So what does the Quran
tells us? Right? Real quick, Allah subhana wa Taala tells us that human beings, right, we have ignorance, right? We make ignorant decisions.
Allah subhanaw taala says in the who can have a lumen Jolla.
Right, no matter how enlightened no matter how bright one might be, there are a lot of things that actually what we don't know is by far greater than greater than what we know.
Right? So remember that the other person is has Johanna has some ignorance.
Right? Don't expect people to see things the way you see them.
Don't expect people to see you the way you see yourself.
You the way you see yourself could actually even be inaccurate to begin with. You may think of yourself to be something that you really are not. Right. So remember that.
Another aspect of human nature is a loss of Hannah data sets in and is a wholly human being was created and is in a state of anxiety. Either Mr. Chabot zoo, our ms Ohio Manoir, we panic. We're greedy. Right? We have this working against us. So remember, state of anxiety. You know, one thing that many children don't understand, is the level of anxiety that they cause their parents. And it's not their fault.
It's not their fault. But it would help if they understand how a parent feels about a child. You know,
knowing what I know, now, I wish I have a chance to go back. Because my father used to say to me, you don't know what what you do to us. And I was a good child.
Really, really good.
But he's like, you don't know what you do to us. And it's not you. It's just you're trying to find your way in this world. You're just being yourself.
But Had I known I would have been a little more courteous. And he used to say there are certain things that you won't know until you have children, you would know. Right? There is a level brothers and sisters, I'm going to tell you this. Those are those of us who are blessed to have both or one of our parents. Remember this. There is a level of vulnerability that comes with being a parent.
Right? You can take certain things, you yourself can take certain things, but you won't
Be able to bear these things happening to your own child.
And that's why it's not appropriate to attribute a child to loss of data, there's a level of vulnerability that comes with being a parent. Right? So just understanding that, that we are susceptible to this, we're weak we are, we were created in a state of anxiety. As human beings, we have greed, these things are in the poor. And I can't give you the references just for the sake of time, but please look them up, go and look up. This is what I want you to do if the only thing I'm able to accomplish tonight is just to tell you go back to the core and look up what the Quran says about human beings.
And how much of that is true with you and try to understand other people with whom you may have some kind of conflict or misunderstanding in the light of these verses in the light of what Allah Subhana Allah said about other humans
and stop blaming it on their ego.
For what is speaking to you is actually your own ego.
I say this and ask Allah Subhana Allah to make you and I have those who listen and follow the best for the lives listen to I love you all. salaam aleikum wa Taala
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