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what taco la la de la una be one or ham in LA con la Cooperativa. Yeah, you hola Deena Amira taco la De La Hoya punto cola serie de la, la La, La La comme de Nova calm. Ma, la hora Sula. Takada who is an Ali Eva. What about

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a lawsuit subhanho wa Taala Allah in the Quran

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in surah, a nor Surah

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Surah Nora is Surah 24 for those who want the reference

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and

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the 22nd verse of that sutra,

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after

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about 1112 verses very, very powerful verses addressing a crisis

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that

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paralyze the Muslim community.

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For

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weeks, during the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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after some hypocrites in that community, started to spread some rumors regarding the wife of the Prophet sallallahu and even sell them or mother, the mother of the believers, eyeshadow, the Allahu Allah.

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So Allah subhanaw taala revealed

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versus exonerating her exposing those who are behind this plot

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and also stating the punishment that should be applied

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against those who are responsible for this, and those who participated in this action.

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At the end of these verses, there's a verse that comes, that doesn't,

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if you were just to read it without knowing the story, without understanding the context, you wouldn't know what this verse

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how this verse is related to end to the to the whole story. And that verse, Allah subhanho wa Taala said, when I tell you Oh, don't forget Leeming como Sati I used to only well Masaki in our mohajir in one mohajir in a few sobre la jolla for Nia sua Whoa, la buena el Fiala hola como la foto Rahim. So Allah subhanaw taala in that verse, addresses someone or a group of people

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telling them

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that those whom Allah Subhana Allah to Allah has graced with bounties and plenty of wealth. Those who are blessed with wealth, like these people and a loss of habitat is talking about someone very specific. Let these people

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they should not

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swear by Allah subhanho wa Taala, they should not take an oath, they should not vow

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to

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cut off from their financial support and help cut off those

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who are their kinsmen, their relatives, or the poor, or those who have emigrated in God's way if you severely lead those who left their lands Mecca and then they came to Medina, or anyone who's doing something like that's making this great sacrifice, let them not to cut off these people from their financial help or support. Let them not vow from boycotting these individuals

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or such an individual when they are fully so Allah subhanho wa Taala urges them by saying and let them instead forgive and pardon and let go of the offense.

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Then Allah subhanho wa Taala poses a question

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Elijah Hepburn a young Pharaoh Allahu Allah.

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And then from speaking in the third person, a loss of habitat is now speaking directly to the person or the individuals or the believer or the believers who are addressed by this ayah. Allah says, Don't you want in the plural? Don't you want that Allah Subhana Allah forgive you. Allah to hipbone if you're a locum, don't you love that Allah forgive you.

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And Allah Subhana Allah is indeed most forgiving, Most Merciful. Let me just quickly repeat. A loss of habitat in this verse is telling someone

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right, who has vowed to cut off someone else from their help.

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Who has vowed to punish someone by not giving them any financial assistance assistance anymore. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Don't do that.

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Don't make such an oath.

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Allah azza wa jal has favored you. Don't you want to have a loss of heart to Allah forgive your sins. So therefore forgive him Pardon?

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What is this talking about?

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What is this verse talking about?

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You see,

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there was a man

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according to

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Bukhari, and Muslim and others, and you can look up Hadeeth 4381, of the collection of Eman Bukhari, may Allah have mercy on him or her at 4974 of the collection of human Muslim if you want to go over the whole story.

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When a loss of Hannah with Alexander rated eyeshadow, the Aloha, Anna

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Abubakar, realize that one of the offenders and one of the people that participated in this campaign against Chateau de la, his own daughter was none other than a relative of his very close relative of his

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by the name of Mr.

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And Mrs. lahab, an author was someone who migrated from Mecca.

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Someone that accepted Islam early on, and made this huge sacrifice less left Mecca and joined the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and the Muslim community in Medina, and many of these people didn't have resources, whatever they had they left behind.

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So a worker of the Allahu anhu was taking care of financially supporting him.

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And now mind you this happened years after the hit of the province I said I'm so for the long time avocado was taken care of, of misled. Whenever Mr. was short of money. Obrigado de lado covered it for him took care of him. And this was between a law between a worker and a law and this, this individual.

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And after all of this,

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Mr. Unfortunately, joined this campaign and committed this great offense, this grave offense against Isaiah, and he was one of the few people that were actually punished by the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam for his offense. He was actually sentenced and punished

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a worker of the law and said, after all I have done for him. He said, We're lucky that Mr. Hinchey and Aberdeen back to Libya are really at issue. After what he has said to Arusha. I will never give him anything ever again.

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For unzila law has origin and this shows you the greatest status of Oba Oba did something in a law who responded to him a loss of habitat.

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And how did a lot of us respond to him? Right, in the most beautiful of ways, praise Him Allah azza wa jal, even, even the best of people, and the greatest of the believers can sometimes make mistakes. And we all need someone to correct us and remind us right, remind us to do not only what is right or what is good, but what is better.

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Or what is best. I will worker had every right to punish Mr for what he has done.

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But Allah Subhana Allah to Allah wants for our buck, what is better, what is best?

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Because that's his status that's where he belongs.

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So Allah Subhana Allah to Allah said, Let not those whom Allah azza wa jal has favored in graced with plenty.

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That is a reference to Abu Bakar let them not punish and Allah Subhana Allah doesn't

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State

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or does not mention any of the qualities or the traits of the offender, but rather refers to the, to the offender with some of his merits.

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He was a relative of abubaker he was poor, and he was someone that was Mohajer feasable. In LA. He was an he was an immigrant that left everything behind for Allah azza wa jal, and he also made a serious mistake for which he was punished. Yet, you shouldn't punish this person long term forever and deprive him from the assistance that he was used to something that you did for a loss of Hannah with to Allah, and Allah azza wa jal called abubaker. And the rest of the believers who want to be on the same path of these great noble people, Allah subhanaw taala said, Well, yeah,

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let them pardon and forgive.

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Let them pardon and forgive.

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Let them not punish. And what's the difference between let them not punish and let them at the same time What?

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Let go because sometimes you may forgive or pardon someone, but you hold it against them in your heart.

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Not on not only that, Allah subhanaw taala says Don't you want a lot to forgive you? Whenever you make a mistake,

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and so he a bona fide Allah Allah co worker his response to that was better of course indeed. And not only did our Baccarat the Allahu anhu

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go back and and reinstated whatever he used to give to Messiah he said he vowed he made another vow to offset the first vote, will law healer and zero men who Aveda

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regardless whether he needs it or not, I will never ever stop.

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I will always send him money, take care of him forever.

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So now this is someone that committed an offense, the person who was offended by them forgives, and then they find within them the power not only to forgive him pardoned, but actually to reward Where did that come from brothers and sisters. That is the power of forgiveness that I wanted to talk to you about today. And remind you and myself to close this chapter, many people write saying this is the last hurrah of year 2018. This is you know, and people are thinking people have family that they are visiting or they have family that came to visit them. I we are interacting with one another we're trying to be kind and nice and everybody is trying to and somehow in law, it just amazes me

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how sometimes we're willing to go out of our ways to reach out to other people and show kindness to them yet. We have relatives that we haven't misspoke speaking to for a long time.

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We get excited sometimes about various campaigns where we go and help people who may have less or may be struggling

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with homelessness, hunger,

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or other issues. But we have family members and relatives that we haven't been able to get over what they have done to us.

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Decades ago in some cases, years ago, we can even get over that.

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We reach out to someone's mother or father to help them

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and to assist them and we get excited about that yet our own parents or grandparents haven't heard from us because we're still holding grudges and ill feelings in our hearts

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for something that they

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did long time ago.

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And in doing so we hurt no one but ourselves.

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When you forgive your forgiveness is not a gift you're offering to the person that offended you or hurt you.

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You're giving a gift to yourself.

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Because you finally free yourself and liberate yourself from these very painful memories that you've been harboring in your heart for a long time.

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Allah Subhana Allah in the Quran in surah la marohn

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in verse 134, second chapter, third chapter of the Quran, Allah Subhana Allah praises Allah, Dena unifi, Buena Vista rah, rah, those who give in times of prosperity, work Dada times of adversity, those who unconditionally give whatever they have whatever they can afford, as much as they can give, whether they are going through some

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adversity hardship or they're doing well. Then Allah Subhana, Allah praises the same people for another great quality of theirs, we'll call the mean unreliable and such people are capable of, because they're so generous. They're capable of suppressing their own anger and frustration. They don't let it all out on people, they don't take it out on people. They don't take it out on those who offend them, let alone those who have nothing to do with what happened to them. And this is very common brothers and sisters, we're all guilty of it.

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We're upset with something, we're frustrated, we're offended. We're under a lot of pressure and stress at work, or at school, and then we take it out on people who have nothing to do with it.

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spouses, children,

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parents, in laws, neighbors.

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And this is wrong. Allah subhanaw taala says such people, these generous people who give unconditionally, right a lot of praises, and for another great quality of theirs. They're capable of suppressing and holding and controlling their anger when I've been on enough, but that's not where they stop. They don't hold on to these ill feelings for a long time. They managed to get rid of it. They forgive in part and they let go. They let go of the offense will law who have been more sinning and such people and loss of Hamlet Allah describes as people whom he loves, because they are more sinning, they excel and doing good deeds. You know, brothers and sisters, we get very inspired when

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we look at history, and we see in the history of any of these great figures in history.

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And the greatest of all was prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when we read their history, there are certain moments that inspire us all.

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But not only do we get inspired by them, but other people, also people who may not be of the same faith, any reader of history when you go you come across a moment in history, where someone showed great level of grace, when it was able to pardon and forgive those who offended,

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committed great offense offenses against him or against his people. were like, Wow, amazing, Salahuddin. And before that, Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the moment when he was finally able to confront boorish and those who had abused him and his companions, and killed many of his not only family members, but his companions as well. The prophet SAW said, I've looked them in the eye, matter of unknown and if I don't become what do you expect me to do?

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And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to them, I will say to you what's use of Joseph said to his brothers, his brother's use of Allah, his Salah, what

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the prophet send them was inspired by the example of use of what his brothers did to him.

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His unimaginable brothers, please move forward. Squeezing fill in the gaps, so those who are standing can join us. What they did to him was unimaginable.

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Can you imagine? And that is stayed with him forever. Brothers and sisters, I'm not asking you I'm not even asking myself what expecting from anyone to forget to forget. Forget what has happened to you. The wise people don't forget they learn from what has happened to them, but they don't hold on

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to grudges and ill feelings and malice in their hearts because it's very toxic it's poises them to ruin their lives.

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Use Valley select what his brothers has done to him.

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prophesied Salim said to the Americans, I will say to you what you said to his brothers. That a three Valley Coolio no burden no blame on you today. Yes sir Allahu Allah. May Allah forgive you.

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His brothers

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later became profits.

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May I lost how to make you and I have those who listen and follow the VISTA for the listen to our suffer Allah Allah Allah Professor

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Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Abadi Ludhiana

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as I'm researching the power of forgiveness. I used to think that forgiveness inspires and empowers those who find the capacity within them to offer it but Subhana Allah

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You discover that forgiveness doesn't only empower those

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who forgiving pardon others, but also those who receive the recipients of forgiveness themselves can transform and change because of forgiveness.

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We close the first hautboy the example of the brothers reviews of

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what happened to the Mexicans who had committed the worst atrocities to the best of people of that of the time.

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They became the greatest of the greatest communities. And they went off to liberate humanity.

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Brothers and sisters,

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researchers who are studying this, the power of forgiveness,

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they're saying that this can heal wounds.

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They're saying this can save lives.

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They're saying this can

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spread peace.

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We live in a time where we are encouraged to retaliate.

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Get even

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you will not find peace until you get justice. Justice. Don't get me wrong, is the universal absolute value slam came to establish justice slam promotes justice.

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Right? Sometimes, we need much more than justice.

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Sometimes we need grace.

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We need love.

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We need forgiveness,

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to be able to ensure peace.

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Studies show that those who forgive him pardon do much better than those who actually get even and get their help.

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internally and externally.

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forgiving us brothers and sisters is such

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a noble practice that Allah azza wa jal in the Quran and vices all over the Quran. One of the most amazing parts of the Quran that I had just

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you know, I finally just just hit me a whole page where a loss of habitat talks about himself as a forgiving a lot. So we're gonna in that page tells the believers that you can, of course, seek justice, but Allah Subhana Allah in that page three in three different places within the same page, Allah subhanaw taala invites us to forgive and pardon.

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The very verse where Allah Subhana Allah says that if you are hurt, you have the right to retaliate.

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But Allah subhanaw taala says that however, if you're patient and he forgiven your pardon, you're better in the eyes of Allah subhanaw taala. And that is better for you.

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Last brothers and sisters, I want to say unless we start to expand our capacity to forgive again in a time where this is extremely challenging, in a time where people who get who go after the those who offended them, and get them and destroy them and expose them and get them to be punished. we cheer them for that. And indeed, courage is something that we should be

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celebrating and commending.

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And by the way, those who forgive get little very little recognition.

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Right in a time where By the way, we have developed ways to get rid of those who annoy us forever. We have ways to block them.

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We have ways to delete them.

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We have ways to report them.

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Right? We have that we have that Kappa, yet diminishing our capacity to forgiven. Right? Because I don't have to deal with that toxic people get rid of them from your life.

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Allah Subhana Allah invites us to forgive. I closed by saying on the Day of Judgment, Allah subhanaw taala this act of forgiveness doesn't stop. Allah will invite us on the day of judgment to forgive one another.

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And one of the most amazing, you know, Hadith is the Hadith where Allah Subhana Allah says, Allah azza wa jal brings two individuals, one of them will fund and the other

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and the offender is out of good deeds.

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And if this individual gets his claim against him, he will go to hellfire. And a loss of habitat will say forgive him and pardon him because if you don't forgive him and pardon him, he will go to hellfire.

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He's got nothing to give you to offer you. And the person will say, Oh Allah, I want my help. Oh, my right. And here

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The most just

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and then this person will be inspired to look up

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and he will see a palace unlike any other palace

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and he will be

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amazed he will just become mesmerized and he will be, he will be.

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He will ask a lot Well, I wonder who this belongs to. And Allah subhanaw taala says, For whoever is willing to pay the price, and then this individual will say oh Lord, and what is the price of such a palace? And Allah subhana wa tada says, pardoning or forgiving your brother. And he says, oh, ally, forgive him.

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This is an authentic hadith go look it up. I want you to do the work and the research because you get to appreciate it better.

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And a loss of habitat will tell him hold his hand and walk together to Jenna. May Allah Subhana Allah forgive us our sins? May Allah subhanaw taala pardon us. May Allah Subhana Allah increase our capacity to forgive others may Allah subhanho wa Taala give us the ability to forgive ourselves and the ability to forgive our children and the ability to forgive our spouses and our relatives May Allah subhana wa Taala allow those whom we have offended and inspire them to forgive us. We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us of those who listen and follow the best of what they listen to my dear brothers and sisters, our amazing dharwad department here at Darwin outreach department.

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