Mohammad Elshinawy – The Venom & The Serum #09 Trapped In Love

Mohammad Elshinawy
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the concept of "by the way" in Islam and how it relates to actions and behavior. They also touch on the idea of "by the way" being used to describe actions or behavior, and the use of dams in relationships and the potential for women to become sex partners. The segment then touches on the concept of love and how it can affect behavior, with emphasis on the benefits of lowering one's gaze and avoiding false assumptions. The speakers also offer advice on protecting one's love for someone and offer advice on achieving one's goals.
AI: Transcript ©
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Allah Allah He also here Jemaine will begin the name of Allah All Praise and Glory be to Allah means find his peace and blessings be upon His messenger Muhammad and his family and his companions and all those who adhere to his guidance.

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Welcome back to a debt with Doha, the disease in the cure or the poison and the venom and the serum. This is our nine and second to last class in sha Allah in our summarization of this book, by an im Rahim Allah, Allah. And we chose to entitle the major theme or the central theme of today's section of the book, being trapped in love like in love with someone and then you're trapped and you're not sure how to work through that or fix that. Doesn't need to be fixed.

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We can talk about that as well in sha Allah Tada. But we left off two weeks ago

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with eternal fame Rahim Allah Allah speaking about after the greatest of all crimes which is to set equals with Allah. We spoke about the gravest sins within Islam, which are spilling blood, murder and illicit relations, Zina fornication or adultery.

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Before we transition into haram love relationships, there is a connection there is a flow. And so let us speak about a bit of what we did not cover when we were discussing the danger of Xena of

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fornication. So Allah azza wa jal says,

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and so that it's thorough while at caribou, Xena, and don't come near

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unlawful sexual relations, whether inside or outside of marriage, they're unlawful, right? Obviously, your partner in marriage is lawful well as a caribou and don't come near Xena in now who can have a Heisha or sebelah it is an abhorrent act a Fantasia and a horrible path sir as a biller, a horrible path.

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And so first of all, Allah azza wa jal, it is worth noting is not prohibiting you from Xena only, rather, he is positioning it in a way most wise to cause you to see Zina as a point on a continuum to an event that is led up to buy a series of events before it. Don't come near it. I'm not just prohibiting you from it, because that would be unwise. If you get close to it, you will commit it. And so wisdom dictates that you are prohibited from what will cause you to slip into it. Don't come anywhere near it, or else its claws will grab you or else you will become a captive of it. And Subhan Allah for those whom Allah has permitted to climb out of this abhorrent act, this fascia,

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those who fell into this and came out, not everyone comes out, not everyone reforms and comes back to Allah azza wa jal, though the door is always open, so long as you're breathing, but not everyone comes back, because it blackens the heart in such a wicked way. But for those who do come back, it is quite often that they say, I have no idea how I did that I never thought it would actually lead up to that. I can't believe I actually fell into that I never thought it would. And this shows us the great wisdom of Allah saying, well as a caribou Don't come near it, because it is a horrible act, but then continue on to the act. Then he says that the back end of the idea or the phrase was

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that as a biller, it's not just the act itself that is bad, it is a horrible road. Meaning besides the path to it, and besides the act itself, the path from it the path after it

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is an ugly path. And a part of that is all of the dangers of Xena, which we already discussed in the last session. So we won't go back to but also it is just like any other gratification in this dunya just like any other drug, you get slipped the the the novelty wears off, right? It is new, enjoyable, never enjoyable like that again, and so you move on from it to more

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awful steps after it and that is why I will claim Rahima hula takes the discussion on Xena and connected very deliberately for a lengthy section in the book with same * acts now with the acts of the people of Luth Alehissalaam and he begins

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Aside from Sutala are off and solitude and sort of aged as well, all the different accounts he paints the picture of look at exactly what they were like and you will understand what kind of path Zina leads to. This is now the the outcome or the aftermath of Zina of haram relations. He says Allah azza wa jal said while loop one is Allah they call me he and recall to them or Muhammad one load Prophet load Alehissalaam said to his people, people have said doom in English Sodom and Gomorrah are the

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historically the two tribes that lived with him at tunel fair he shatter Massa kakum be humming a hottie mineral al Amin, are you really engaging in this fascia? So notice the link Allah called Zina a Fantasia and then when it got to the people have loads in a different part of the Quran, but look at how parts of the Quran point to each other. He's saying number one, notice he's telling them you are actually committing the Fantasia and not a Fantasia you know, like Amen But V men, right the most rightfully described with the word man, Allah saying when it came to Zina, he called it a fascia indefinite article, no le flam, meaning it's an awful thing. But when it came to this, he

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called it alpha hisher. The most awful act to show you that it is a gradient and in a more extreme manifestation of taking this path lightly

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attached to an alpha Heisha you actually engage in this the greatest Fantasia Massa come behind me in a hottie mineral Alameen, which nobody before you has ever done.

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And you know, some people tried to argue that like there are records and the point is nobody as a society have ever stooped collectively to that level. Nobody has ever done that before. So when they took us in are likely not just that they sort of proceed into this, but they did something they became something that no one ever became before, which is an entire society that is bent on the sexual act with anyone and everyone with in any way in every way when they have a biller. And then the next idea goes on to say to intercom letter tuner Regera Shehan, mean Duni Nisa Bell Antoon como Mazuri phone, you actually approach other men Shaohua 10 OUT OF LUST out of this sexual appetite

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mean dune in Nisa, and you ignore women or like instead of women,

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Bell Entomb como musli phone rather you are a people that have been rendered into access

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to things he points out here also, he says that he points out that the alternative is there any Allah who would not cite load balanced dilemma saying this if it were not correct? What is correct, that women are a sufficient alternative for you?

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So why would you turn to your fellow man, right? Women are as efficient alternative for you. And then he says, well, Anton como Mazuri foon rather, you are a people that fell prey to access. Its excess, you went here and so you want more? That is the nature of this dunya whether the sexual appetite or any other appetite, it is like saltwater. If the more you drink, the thirsty Are you get and so you have to know that if a little bit isn't going to be enough, a lot will also not be enough. You understand? That's what he's trying to tell them. You're doing this despite the fact that a sufficient rather a superior alternative exists. You are just the people that are captives of

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your access, just going from one access to another poem and mystery food you know, it's rough is to go beyond limits into access.

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Allah azza wa jal then says Why am I cannot Joab hakomi Here and there, his people gave him no response. Il and Carlu actually Zhu Min Korea, Chico, they responded in no way but what they had there was no logical response. There was no virtuous response. There was no intellectual response. They went straight to aggression. They said nothing but after the Jew who mean Korea to come remove them from your town that people have looked mean low to La Salam and whoever follows Rutilated Salam, anyone who's not sort of in approval with our lifestyle that we've chosen now. Pick them out, remove them from your town, in our home owner Sunita Haroon because they are a people that

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are purifying themselves. So I mean, just purifying themselves. They're accused

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losing them have something that isn't an accusation, right? These people are committed to purity, get them out.

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And this shows you that you know, purity is something that is naturally praiseworthy, like we may get confused without the way of Allah without the revelation of Allah on what is and isn't purity, but the concept of purity is universally approved of how do you insult someone by saying they're trying to purify themselves, right. And this shows you this is universally human, yet they're trying to charge them allege that they are being a purifying people, which means their natural humanity has begun to turn on them has turned on them, they have devolved in that regard. They have sort of become completely reduced to these unnatural ways. But then also think about the fact that they're

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being aggressive. You remember when we said on the different types of qualities that shaitan tries to drag us through once you get into the carnal appetites, and then there's like the predatorial appetites, that have to follow this is what's happening here. They became these licentious, meaning these, like, forgive me for the terms but like lust driven people, and so they turned aggressive.

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Everyone has to not just accept us, but be us, and approve of us and cater to us. And it's not very different from what you see nowadays as well, right? With the canceled culture and the forced indoctrination of even a child and sort of sexualizing them early in the school. This is the path the Quran turns the lights on for you, even before you see it on the ground. The Quran is telling you, this is this is the way it works. This is the conveyor belt.

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And then Allah azza wa jal says what yah hoo como is another place in the Quran

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and his people came to him so when Luca alayhi salam had the angels and he hadn't yet known that they were angels visiting him at home his people hear that he has guests foreigners new people on the block very handsome also right the angels come in the most handsome forms Allah says what Jaya who and there came to him Oh Moo hoo his people these evil people came Johanna E Lee in a in a haste they were all in a rush chasing each other to get to his house first woman Kabir Lu can Oh yeah, I'm not gonna say yet and they were already entrenched in this lifestyle of wrongdoing call a call me her hola Eva naughty, who knows how to how to lock him. And he said to them, all my people, he tried

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to hold them off from attacking his guests. There's a saying, Oh, my people here are my daughters. They are a pure alternative for you. Some scholars said he wasn't actually offering his daughters here, meaning his biological daughters. He is the elder of the town. And so his daughters meaning the women of the town, or he could have meant also these are my daughters. If you are to repent and reform and become Muslim, then you would be allowed in that case to marry my daughters.

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Here are my daughters it's a pure alternative for you for Temple Law how Allah to Zuni fee fee So fear Allah and do not humiliate me

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with regards to my guests on abductor, I guess for me and do these heinous acts against them. And then he says Elisa fee comb Raju Loon, Rashid, is there not a single upright man amongst you?

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Which indicates what

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that they were all on this. Everyone was like this. Well, either biller hardly anyone in the town who was not committed to this obscene lifestyle. He's trying to tell them there's not a single one of you, who is not so deep that he can snap out of this any longer. See the obvious evil in this? And so they respond to him and say laka alimta Mallanna FIBA Antarctic I mean happen we're in Nicoletta, Allah momento read. They said to him, you know, full well, we have no interest in your daughter's and you know, what we demand?

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And then Allah azza wa jal says Fela magia, Bruna and then when our command meaning our command to punish them was discharged to the angels right when our command came to them. Jalna LEA has Fila Ha, we made its top most its bottom most meaning he lifted the earth of the town. Some of the narrations mentioned to the port so high, and so fast that the angels of the first heavens began hearing the yelping and the barking of the dogs of the town.

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And then he turned it over and he crushed them inside of it.

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He tossed them back down into this earth like that. Well, I'm Burna Ali ha ha ha right they mean si G li mumbled and we pelted them also over the punishments they received is that we cause to rain down upon them.

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Stones made out of mud. That mumbled means piled on, like no blood. You can even hear it in the word navug. Right. It's piled on.

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A torrential rain of clay, make clay stones made out of mud.

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Why these punishments in particular, if mill clay and Rahim Allah Allah, He says, and others, Allah chose to flip the earth with them, because they chose to flip the natural order that Allah had set in humanity for their procreation, their reproduction and their harmonious living. Thus it was perfectly suitable that the earth be flipped with them.

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And why did he send rain down upon them because rain is ordinarily the source of life, the water of the rainfall is the source of life. And they also abused the water of the human being the liquid in the man that is the source of life, and they use it for other than its ends. And thus this was befitting of them

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and elsewhere and so the legend when Allah azza wa jal was speaking about the people of loot, he said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, la Maruka, in our home laffy Sokrati him Yama hoon. I swear by your life, oh, Muhammad, they that the people of that town of Luca la Salam, they were in their intoxication, wandering aimlessly.

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So that's sort of the transition that in the lithium Rahimullah wanted you to see, from

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Xena, to what will naturally become of Xena, if it has not stopped before it starts there is no guarantee on how far it would go. It is intoxicating. And so that intoxication begins very early, and it could get beyond control out of control and beyond measure. And so let's bring it now back to as he does the concept of love, like being falling into being madly in love. And how that too could be blinding.

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So how do we reverse it? Once you find yourself in love? Well, do you need to reverse it? Is it haram to be in love?

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What do you guys think?

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Now obviously with your with your wife, even with your wife, it could be haram and with your nan wife. It could be halal. There is a riddle for you.

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If not your spouse, and you didn't do anything, you just found yourself deeply infatuated. Let's just you know, indulge the love at first sight theory, then you're fine. You didn't do anything wrong. Right? It's just like you saw someone and you can't get them out of your mind. You didn't do anything haram. You saw them. You lowered your gaze, but you're in love. Okay, then you're not in trouble.

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Even though they're not your spouse, you got to fight it, resist it, don't entertain it because it'll sort of foment and drive you into bad places. And then how can being in love with your spouse be haram?

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If it intensifies to the point that it compromises your relationship with Allah azza wa jal subhanho wa taala. Right.

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Are there are there no red lines? There are red lines.

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And so what happens if you're in love? And you're not married first of all get married. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, ma are a two Alma little mutawa Dena Mikela Nica I have not found a more effective remedy or a better remedy or any remedy he said for people that are in love for love birds like marriage, get them married, if you can get them married, get them married.

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Number two, most of this is from the hammer hammer hold lob with its that a lot of like, definitely and with that he had like mixing and matching and consolidating from other places and maybe unconsciously I pulled from other books of his number two, you have to fight yourself to remain conflicted about acting on this love in impermissible ways. So if you are looking over and over again, if you are talking, if you are meeting if you are this haram, you can never allow yourself to say it's no big deal.

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Because then you would never ever try to remedy it any any longer. That's the second thing.

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And remember that sort of you don't have to speak to everyone.

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In a language we should understand this idea of like falling in love

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Before marriage and dating to get married, and this whole this is like fantasy. This only exists in Disney. You know, the University of Pittsburgh, I believe was was the publisher of this study years ago.

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Do you know the percentage of people that actually get married to their first love, and you want to guess

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it's less than 1%. Which means what? Which means more than 99% of the time,

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the person you fell in love with,

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and like dated, I'm talking about the wider society on Sharla. Not Muslims are not many Muslims. But that's those people 99% of the time you fell in love, did whatever you did together. And then you broke up, why did you break up because the love expired because you started hating each other now, which means you will have a whole lot of regrets moving on into the world with regrets and insecurities and sort of cobwebs and skeletons in the closet and like, and also trust issues, emotional trust issues, like I've been used up and spit out and you know, when you're in love, you're going to share with them your deepest, darkest secrets and sort of all of this. Now you have

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to live with that for the rest of your life.

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So it's not what

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it's not as advertised. And also Abdullah and Mr. Withdrawal, the Allah on he mentioned, a very beautiful, beautiful brain hack for when you find yourself in love and you can't get married, right? For whatever reason. He says, if you find yourself infatuated with a woman, and obviously sisters, you can reverse this on us as well feel free.

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Recall her more rotten dimensions. He said that he said for the record, man attina. Recall the the foul aspects of her, like stop imagining you're in love with what you're imagining. You think she's sort of picture perfect. Night and day now and 30 years from now, right? Does she not sort of like go to the bathroom like everyone else? Does she not you know age like everyone else that I remember a brother.

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He used to say to the Shabaab when they say you'd like they're stuck in these relationships, like you, man, you're not you're not in love with anybody. You're sort of like infatuated with her physically. And I can prove it to you. They say no, we are in love. You know, I can prove it to you. I want you to imagine her double her weights right now. She's 150 300 If she's three grades 600, whatever it is, right? Would you still be in love? It's a good brain hack, isn't it? Like, wait a minute, why do I love her less? I thought it was just you know,

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you love for a reason. You may not know that reason. And that reason may disappear. And it's like the curtains go off and say whoa, what just happened there. And so try to sort of bring to the fore the reality of what this feeling actually is this fixation is really about number five, reflecting at length, reflecting lengthily on sort of the use of

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sort of the use of the part of the story that is being you know,

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suggested here is obvious.

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So many people fell prey to, you know, the the love injection.

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And they committed such regrettable acts because of it. It's because Yusuf alayhi salam was of the few who resisted, that he became used to it and that he became something worth mentioning. Right? If he had not resisted what would he have been?

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Not just a nonprofit, he would have just been like everyone else, everyone else. But it's these moments of triumph of conquer that made all the difference.

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And especially because I'm oversimplifying, obviously, if no claim says especially because his test was so much tougher

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than meets the eye.

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You see, because Yusuf Ali Salam was a slave. Right? If you deeply consider the story, he was a slave, meaning he was in the lowest class of society. So it's not like he was going to lose any status. If he got caught committing fornication, right? It is LIFO he's at the bottom of the totem pole. There is no lower than this. So I'm good in that sense, right? And then also, he's able to claim says he's a foreigner. You know, sometimes it's not status in society. There's just shame in front of people that you care about your family members. And that's why people historically when you want to do something wrong, you do it out of out of town, you vacation elsewhere to do these evil

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acts. He's a foreigner. Nobody knows him. No one's gonna hold it against them. You're not disappointing mom, dad or cousin you're not bringing shame to the family. Nothing. I'm a foreigner. Number three, he has he's young. And obviously, the libido. The drive in younger people is more intense. Number four, he's not married. He doesn't have any sort of alternative.

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way to, like, quell this storm. And the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said that when one of you see something and finds themselves around, let them go home, because it's all the same at the end of the day. He said, The Guardian Soto said, I'm paraphrasing, of course.

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Number five, she invited.

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She was the one who invited.

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You know, in the email Allah says here, that most men, obviously we're excluding people that have tough for people that are conscious of Allah, fearful of Allah. Most men are always willing.

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But they're just afraid of her reaction.

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Right? They're afraid of her screaming and humiliating them, or afraid of just the feeling of inferiority of being declined. Men can't tolerate this. Right? It is like the biggest turnoff in the world. Right? He says the majority of men are like this. He said, There's a small minority that actually likes the decline, because they take it as a challenge. And so they take, they're driven by it that I'm going to conquer. But the idea is, most men are afraid of the reaction. And so they don't initiate, they wait for the signal.

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From the other side, socially speaking, he says, But now she's the one inviting, he's not the one sort of initiating, which makes it even more difficult. He says, and not just is that the case, she's also threatening.

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So it's like the positive and the negative reinforcement. And not just Am I inviting you to something that is natural, ly desirable, but I'm a woman of status that will make it hurt if you don't, you know, I have sort of a carrot and I have this thick, I have everything.

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He's on top of that he's in her home and the door is locked, right? And he knows the hours of the house, the schedule, when the husband comes home and doesn't come, everything was in place to make this

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a matter of the utmost difficulty when you reflect deeply on the story, and how he was saved by ALLAH from this.

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This is of the greatest remedies to a person trapped in love. Number six, he says, lowering the gaze, and there is he says heaps of benefits here. He mentioned like 10 benefits for lowering the gaze. I'll summarize them for you and five.

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He says number one, simply it is compliance with Allah Allah Xeljanz command because Allah commanded you call me Nina. I'm sorry him tell the believing men to lower their gaze while bullying me naughty aluminum Saudi him the next day and tell the believing women to lower their gaze.

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He says in the location of every good in this world in the next is where obeying Allah complying with his commands and the trigger for every harm and loss in this world and the next is walk in disobeying Allah and try trampling his commands. So it's his command. That's number one. That's a reason enough, he says number two, you lowering the gaze armors you are obstructs shaytaan from targeting you. So shaitan has this poisonous and potentially lethal arrow that he casts at you, right? If he gets you to look, that's mission accomplished for shaitan because from there he he wedges into your armor, right, he gets in with his boys in his arrow, and then he kindles the flames

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of desires inside you until they rage they rage uncontrollably.

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Number three, he says lowering the gaze generates within the heart a unique sweetness, both the sweetness of triumphing against your lower desires, but also the sweetness of having an intimate nearness with Allah azza wa jal, there is a weak Hadith that says this, that Allah will replace them for lowering their gaze with a sweetness in their heart, the sweetness of faith, but that concept is very much established.

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Number four, he says it retains the hearts focus from being spread thin. Listen, listen carefully. It retains the hearts focus, we're lowering the gaze retains the hearts focus from being spread thin, and you're looking at everything and everyone and everywhere. This distracts the heart and disperses sort of the attention of the heart. Rendering no reminder or intention long lasting enough to be productive.

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I always think about the scroll on social media, powerful reminder

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cause you to formulate a sincere intention. And then you flip and see something else and it's all gone.

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Right. So lowering the gaze retains the hearts focus from being spread thin, which would in turn render no reminder or intention, meaning good intention long lasting enough to be productive for you

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Number five, lowering the gaze strengthens and illuminates the heart fills the heart with light, allowing the light of God's guidance the guidance of Allah to radiate inside this heart. And He cites for you he asks you to notice why Surah neul, the chapter of light the 24th chapter of the Quran, it's called Surah Noor. Why? Because it contains I had to know the ayah that speaks about Allah's light in the heart of the believer that light of guidance. Yeah, the law who didn't know that he may have shot right, that profound idea. In that same Surah, just three or four verses before it, Allah is speaking about what lower your gaze

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and this is why many of the Salah, the early Muslims, they used to say whoever lowers their eyesight. Allah unleashes their insight, when there was no hope of luck, Allah hooba Sirata whomever lowers his bizarre his eyesight, Allah unlocks his Masirah his insight.

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He says and when that happens when the heart is illuminated, and the inside is activated, he says goodness naturally floats to it from every direction does if like the good of the world, is floating. And then your heart the light gets turned on in your heart so it finds your heart, he says and when it darkens when the heart darkens when it goes dark, the stormy clouds of afflictions of hardship of adversity of sinfulness, a sail the heart, it's sort of consumed in the darkness.

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And he says that this is not just when we say like the darkness and the light. This is not just about opportunities for a bad opportunities for good deeds and you miss out on it. He says also, when you're bossy at all, your spiritual perception

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allows you to recognize Elmo hillclimb and multiple people that are genuine people that are not genuine. Like it develops for you a sixth sense.

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You know, you think about people that live very hedonistic lifestyles, people that just party all the time and just waste their nights away. And they all know that they're you using each other, exploiting each other. Right? But it's as if they are blind to the most obvious thing, right? We all know there's a rotation here. We all know that these things get split up and passed out. We all know that the guy who came and told you Hey, how you doing tonight? He's just like a preamble. Because he's gonna ask you do you have a cigarette? Or do you have a lighter? Right? It is the most in genuine relationship.

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Through the vasila you're able to see what should ordinarily be very obvious.

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I've never been in a club by the way, just I hear. Okay, I hear.

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Number seven. The seventh remedy to being trapped in love, he says, is to resist being idle.

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Don't trust yourself in a void free time lounging around, being idle, resist idleness busy yourself? He says with learning to love something more than your object of love. See you how do you stop loving this so much?

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Learn to love something more than you love this. He says or learn to fear something more than you love this haram love of yours. You know this reminds me of a Sally Ramona. Hola. Where did she go? There your

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daddy Rahim Allah He mentioned I believe in it here. He says

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about how faith begins with fear. It's actually a profound theory. It's not it's well established.

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Imagine you're sitting at a meal

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that you love. You love this meal.

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And some random kid just walks up to you and says the plate is poison. Someone put poison in the food in the kitchen for you. Burnout is one of the poisons I saw them is you have no reason to believe this kid. You don't know who he is. They're a little kid. But because the stakes are very high. The fear is very real. This is like my life on the line. I'm able to say you know what? I'll skip this one.

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If the fear is strong enough, it'll be effective. If strong enough to counter this passion of yours, have to love something more or to fear something more than you love that object of your love that you're trying to remedy yourself from. And so what he means by that he says, actively pursue the Word of the Year love

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to feed your determination for it.

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In other words, it's not a light switch. You have to rationally choose. I'm going to pick this I'm going to pick Allah

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His pleasure, before it actually starts becoming something you'd like to do. I'm going to do this because I need to do this. I'm gonna learn to love this serving Allah not serving myself. He says if you don't actively pursue this, the knowledge that you have like the theoretical technically God is supposed to be loved more than other people and it will not benefit you and the desires will eventually become your God.

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You know, he cites the idea where Allah azza wa jal said in surah.

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or is

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zakura when Allah azza wa jal says, For our aid, and many taka Isla who Hawa were Albula hula, who Allah Have you seen the one that has taken as his God, who, what his desires, and Allah misguides them upon knowledge, meaning, despite the fact that they had knowledge, Allah Who knew they had knowledge, and they kept ignoring it, they didn't pursue it. So Allah misguided them because they didn't want it. They knew it and didn't want it. They didn't pursue it. They didn't exert the effort towards it. So they were misguided despite the fact they had the knowledge. The AI continues to say, well what am Allah seminary he will Calbee and sealed upon their hearing and their heart wotja Allah

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Allah Vasari here a shower and placed upon their vision a barrier for men.

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familia demon of Allah, Allah so who can ever at that point, guide someone Allah has misguided Subhana Allah to Allah.

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And he cites that one of the self one of the early Muslims used to say about this concept of worshipping the object of your love, meaning other than Allah, He is one of the seller who would say, look at their understanding. I would rather commit Zina for decades, then fall into a

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fall into being madly in love with someone. Why are they saying that?

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How can an Irish be worse than Xena?

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Think people

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because Aishe could run the risk of becoming shear.

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Right? There are people who left the faith due to being in love. Right? And so the Zina that I hate but I did, right. I got weakened, I did. Could be less damaging. Then there ish, that is living inside that continues to grow. I could sacrifice anything and everything for it at some point in time, and this is also why he narrates that even our best the great companion cousin of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, if not best, one saw a man being carried at Hajj. And the man was sort of like,

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emaciated he was just very malnourished he was falling apart. And he said to them, what's wrong with him? Like, what kind of illness does he have? And they he said, they said to him be here.

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He's madly in love, he's captivated with this sort of excessive uncontrollable love.

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And so if not, at best about the Allahu Anhu we're seeing a demonstration right in front of him of what love can do to someone and cost them their life could potentially cost someone their D in their afterlife. He spent all of Arafa that year, doing nothing but seeking refuge with Allah from ash from falling in love in this

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devastating way. And you know, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would do something even better than what if not best for the other one whom I did, which is he would ask Allah who would have been famous speaking of earlier to grow a superior love, he would ask Allah, Allah who was ELCA let that another eat our Jake was Shoka Italica IC O Allah, I ask of you the bliss of looking upon your face, and was Shoka Lika Can I ask you for the longing to meet you? Let that be my greatest passion? Meeting you not getting united are reunited or permitted to marry or being with Are you longing to meet you? I asked you to grant me that. I'm sorry that I had you.

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And he narrates that in some of the slides, some of the old

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remnant narrations of bento

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Surah Al the Israelites that Allah had said, Bala shall call Abrar Li Li Ka e were Ana de la Li Ka him ash had to show

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that the pious are those who spend a lengthy time longing to meet me. And I am more intense in my longing to meet them.

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And about the idea that we're in Allah azza wa jal said there's an idea we're not Lovato to Allah said men can i Oh Julia ka Allah He for in Agile Allah Hina at will who has sent me your Alim whoever is hopeful in meeting Allah let them know that the meeting with Allah is enroute it is coming.

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And he is the All Hearing all knowing one of the early scholars of the Skia and dissolve he used to say about this area. Lemme Alima Allahu Subhana who shed that the show pit show. Shed that the show P O Lea he La la la. When Allah knew he ends the IRS saying Allah knows right Allah knows who is sincerely longing for him. He says when Allah the glorified knew how intense the longing was of his Olia of his near servants to meet him, where Anna Kulu but later that will definitely occur, and that their hearts never come, will never come will never be at peace until they meet him Baramulla whom agilon When our Eden Lelli Lydia car, he leave the car in Tuscaloosa home in a he said this

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idea to let them know that there is a pre determined appointment for when it's gonna happen. In other words, out of compassion for those that love Him, and those he loves most, and him knowing they'll never have their peace until they're with him. He said to them, whoever is looking forward to meeting Allah know that the countdown has begun. It's only getting shorter, every minute. That was the purpose of this idea, according some of the early scholars.

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And of course, nobody has a more enjoyable life than the lover of Allah azza wa jal, the one who Allah is their supreme love, the one who lives intimately acquainted with Allah and longing to meet him. And this is a hatha yoga. I'll end here in sha Allah, what is it how to play Eva? You know, Allah azza wa jal said

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man I mean a Salih humming decade in our own fella who are movement whomever works righteous

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deeds, whoever works righteously, whether they are a male or a female, well who are men and they are a believer, of course, fella no he and who hired them by Eva? Then we will give them the goodly life

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why don't I just the end, Nahum Agia home BX any mechanical? Yeah, I'm alone, and we will repay them with their award for the best of their deeds. That means what the goodly life and their award means the good the life is here before the fuller award there. The godly life is referring to the dunya and he's saying many people think the godly life means like prosperity doctrine, God loves me so he's gonna give me a child are gonna give me money, you're gonna give me fame. He says, but Allah gives us to those he loves in those he hates.

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But the goodly life is an experience life that can't be matched in this world.

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And he goes on to explain a bit of it or tries to. He says, a goodly life is where the worries are all consolidated, and the ambitions and concerns are all aligned. And when a person is quiet, they are with Allah. And when speaking they're speaking about Allah and when they're acting, they're acting for Allah and their heart pumps and pulsates with the love of the Divine with Allah and they live by His special aid.

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He says, And when you read the Hadith of the LDS, those nearest to Allah,

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Allah says, in the Hadith, Elia what what Makarova Illya Abdi, and my servant doesn't come closer to me with anything more beloved to me than the obligations, and he continues to come closer to me within 11 with the voluntary deeds until I love them. And then I become their hearing and their sight and their hand and their foot and I grant them what they ask and I protect them from what they fear.

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He's saying, Nobody can understand this, so long as there is like a corrosion on their hearts in this hadith. Nobody with a thickened heart thrust can comprehend what this hadith means. How can you people look at this and say, Wait a minute, how can you be driven? How can life be enjoyable? When what drives you? Is what Allah wants and not what you want? How can you be someone your whole life is consolidated in it

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By covering the obligations once that's done, I want to get even closer with the things I don't even have to do the voluntary. He's saying because they don't understand that their devotion to Allah, the his his rationalization for you, but this is this is a level he's saying can only be experienced can be explained. We're just trying to explain it as best as words can explain it. He says their devotion obligations then no FL gets them loved by Allah. You see the remember we said the idea of rationally saying I'm gonna prefer this until I like it. You remember this? He said, that's what happens. That devotion that they offer, gets them loved by Allah. And so as a result of being loved

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by Allah, what happens? He grants them greater love for Him.

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That is why it consumes their thoughts and their motives. They don't even care anymore. Is it obligatory or not? I want to do this, I love to do this. He says and also, Allah not just grants them superior love for him, which lightens the burden of devotion. He also protects their love for them.

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Like your love has security mechanism, meaning you put in some effort, then it does get easier. That is what he's trying to tell people actively pursue it, it will get easier. And then he recruited for that or invoked the story of Ibraheem Alehissalaam he said Ibrahim alayhis salam worked so close to earn Allah's love. And so he began loving Allah so much

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that Allah began protecting him.

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And he think of the child of Ibrahim Ali Sam, he had a child very old age, so he's gonna love him more than any other parents really, because I don't know if I'm gonna have another one. And I've been waiting 80 years and so when his heart was about to slip, right, and love that child at the expense of Allah protected him and said, Hey, listen, slaughter the child.

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So once the reset was hit, no time loss, no relationship compromise. He let him keep his son, Allah was protecting his love of Allah for him through these exercises of devotion.

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And this is probably a good place

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to stop before our final leg of the journey next week in sha Allah azza wa jal, which is how to do our part in protecting whatever Love of Allah. We cultivate, we actively pursue at the onset or at the conclusion of the study in sha Allah, Allah does like a little later on or SallAllahu Sallam Avada kind of Vienna Mohammad Allahu Taala

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