This is Love #09 Allah Loves Noble Manners
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So in sha Allah, we're gonna be talking about Hadith number nine.
And the title of the hadith is Allah loves noble manners.
So, in it here the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam said,
A Hepburn Nursey Ilahi SN o home, hello pa
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very kind of, it's a short Teddy very few words, a Hepburn, Nursey il ally.
The most beloved of people to Allah are the people who have the best character.
The most well mannered, our most beloved to Allah has origin.
So if you want to know how to be close to him, Subhan Allah to Allah and how to be a beloved of Allah azza wa jal, you know that your task is to acquire the best of manners to strive to get that, because when you possess this Allah as Odin loves you.
And that tells us a lot about where we're at today and where we're supposed to be.
Because there's a strong call correlation,
a connection between good manners and the Amen.
So, the more Iman you have,
the more your manners reflect that they will be the best because your iman is strong.
And if your iman sinks and dips, it will show itself in your manners. Right.
So, because of that strong correlation, when you look at the state of the OMA today, that is struggling in its manners, you understand that the cause of that struggle is that there is a deficiency in Iman.
Right? There is a deficiency in Iman that brings on the deficiency in character.
And if our iman and our iman is not just simply by it, I mean a feeling that you have
or that I am close to Allah as zodion but also a practice and knowledge. Because you could have a person who goes to the masjid, who prays but does not understand good character. So they could lie and they could cheat and they could steal, not seeing the connection between the two. So, when I say that, when your iman is strong and high, I mean
completely mean in terms of what you believe in what you do and also your knowledge of Allah as soldiers. So when that Eman is strong, then you will see it definitely reflected in that person's behavior or his attitude, how he deals with his neighbors and families and children and wife, all of them. But when Iman is not then characters collapse.
we would not be if we understand this hadith we would not be in the state that we are today.
If we love it, Allah azza wa jal and we knew who Allah is. Because if we loved Allah, we would love to be loved by Him. And when then we understand that our character should be better. If we loved what Allah loves, we would love the believers, and we would treat them better. We would know that we owe our families our love and allegiance and respect and kindness, right? The only the best of you he said Alayhi Salatu was Salam is the best to their families or the best of their spouses, and I am the best to, actually. So it means that the best is the best in how they treat other people around them. So if we want it to be the best, then definitely it needed to be demonstrated and how you deal
with your wife, especially when you disagree with her or she disagrees with you.
How you deal with your children, how when you fight with your neighbor, how you withhold your harm, and how you treat him in the best reflecting the character of Islam. Not slogans. But I really mean like a character that you feel at that moment that Allah is watching you. Any word that I will say will be written for me or against me, if I assault him, I will be in the wrong and Allah will ask me about this. So your taqwa withholds and protects you from committing sinful acts and sinful deeds protects you from bad character and bad manners. But if you look at us Muslims how we deal with each other today
They in Muslim countries, non Muslim countries, outside the masjid inside the masjid, you will understand that we don't really know what good character is. We don't know forgiveness we don't know seeking excuses for people lowering our voices, how to walk, how to talk, how to address other people. So there is a need to return to Islam and Islam with character. Islam with luck is not just simply I'll pray and I'll fast and give Zika see the Prophet alayhi salatu salam in the Hadith that we all know because we keep hearing and we keep repeating. He said Allah you Salatu was Salam in NAMA, where if to Luton Mima Mecca Rima la laughy. In November 8, two I was only sent to complete
the noblest of character. I was only sent meaning like my only mission is to complete the best of character, as if to say sallallahu alayhi wa sallam some of it was there, the other prophets brought it. But Prophet Muhammad Ali is Salatu was Salam took it to the end.
He brought it in fulfillment in completion. It was incomplete before him and he is Salatu was Salam until he came and he taught people how to live in how to act. And this hadith is very interesting, because how do you understand
the statement of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam when he says my exclusive mission as if the only thing I was sent to do is character, but you understand Islam has Arcada? And has law?
So character is what? And is it more important than al Qaeda and law? So there are two ways to understand this hadith. And I explained that in the book, one is a hyperbole and exaggeration. It's a tool linguistically used to emphasize something I was only sent here to do this meaning one of my main missions, it doesn't mean my only mission. But one of my main missions as if it's so important that when you see me doing it, you'll think I was not sent to do anything but this because of how much I talk about it, right. Yanni, similar to when the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, he said masala Gibreel, you will see in a bit Jerry had government to ANOVA you already thought he said
Gibreel la salatu salam kept emphasizing the rights of my neighbor, until I thought he will make him an air of mine, like family, because who who inherits from you, family. So he kept emphasizing the right of the neighbor until I thought that eventually what is going to happen, that this is going to be the my neighbor is going to be part of my family he'll inherit from me. So that is what to emphasize. So here when he said that in salatu, Salam I was sent to complete the best of character. He is saying that this is my main or one of my main missions. So that's one way to understand it. Another way to understand that which is also really important is to understand character, not only
in terms of how you deal with other people, but a whole look, is how you behave with Allah azza wa jal as well.
So you have a whole look with Allah Hoolock with yourself Hoolock with other people, right three so hold up with Allah Zoetic includes your Arcada and your Eva caught up with yourself. Also character followup with people a bad and character.
And this tells you that in Islam, all of these are connected
and it is our mistakes when we disconnect them.
So is in Salah supposed to teach you patience. Right? And is impatience one of the best characters
and losing patience one of the worst character flaws that we have, especially in this age when you're impatient with everyone around you, so you see people white fighting over a parking spot
right and this is what Muslim but also non Muslims. So if you are patient, and if you are kind and gracious, would you find over a parking spot
or fight with a vendor over prices, right, or fight with the neighbor over something that they supposedly may have done or may have not. So you understand that Salah will give you patience, the cow will give you generosity with money.
believing in Allah azza wa jal and in the last day will magnify the next life in your eye and diminish this dunya as well. And when this dominium dunya is diminished, you're not going to compete.
for it so much, even if you lose some of it, you will be gracious with that loss because it's not as important.
And most of people's quarrels and fights are over the duniya people fight over money, right? That's kind of the main main reasons why people start conflicts nations, but also individuals. But if money is minimal in your eye, you're not going to be fighting so much over it. You can receive it easily, but also, you could give it away easily.
So you're not going to be behaved, stingy and a miser, like Islam will teach you otherwise. You're not going to be possessive. You're not going to be self centered. You're not going to be always thinking about yourself, where is this gonna come from? Because that's an important
step in the acquiring of good character, you can you say to yourself, I want to be honest, just like that, is it going to happen?
Well, no, it's not. So what is the practice that is going to help you be honest.
So you remember when you're fasting, you used to observe what you say more closely, because you don't want to ruin your fast.
So there is a Ibadah that makes you more aware of what you say and why you're saying it.
So if you extend this and you believe that there is an angel that is writing everything that you say, for you or against you, and everything will be read in a book, of a record of record,
that the good deed that you say one word, that elevate you in the sight of Allah azza wa jal until you're in heaven, or it takes you into the depths of hellfire, then it's easier to be honest.
So a bad encounter a good character are connected, and you lose one, you lose the other. And if you are a person who's worshipping Allah azza wa jal, but you notice that your character is bad, it means that there is not much emphasis in your event on good character. And that's why you don't see this cross over from one to the other.
Right? So Salah is not really performed, well, the cat is not performed consciously. It's fine. Fasting is not performed with deliberation, and consciously, that's why you don't get a lot from it. But if you do, and you're aware of the connection, then you will get a lot more benefits from it. But what you see sometimes is this imbalance
in how we live, we pray on time. That's what we're supposed to do, right? But when you set an appointment, you're late.
Right? So how is it that all of us are supposed to when this is Salah to June, I will always come on time, because we know that the salah will begin at particular minute, and we'll enter that particular minute. We know that schedule is begins exactly now and then ends exactly then. So Islam or is your life for you to become punctual and on time, all the time. So why is it that when Allah trains you to be like this, here, you fail to take that lesson elsewhere. Right? So Punctuality is in Islam, fasting Salah as a cow, all of this, but what you see sometimes is the imbalance I talked about a person prays, but could lie, but could be late. Right but could back bite, but could be
really rough with people
get feel very superior rather than feeling humbled because of that Salah feel superior and proud because of it. So that's the imbalance you could find those who are religious lacking manners.
And because of that those on the other side, they will say, Well, I have good manners. I don't need to pray and fast because that's what's important. I'm a good person on the inside. I don't hurt anybody.
And by that they're putting down salah, and the other laws that Allah azza wa jal loves, and we say, you need to maintain a balance between the two.
The imperfection of some people that you see in the houses of Allah azza wa jal or outside the houses of Allah is not an excuse for you to say, I'm not going to I'm going to overlook what Allah loves. The balance is, I'm going to wear hijab and be modest, regardless of whether there are some sisters who wear the hijab and they're not, that does not affect me. But again, when I met what, do both wear hijab and be modest, be an observant Muslim and Be kind.
Be considerate, be on time, right, be generous, be forgiving. So all the things that you see
other people doing and you
admire, you adapt,
and you add it to your life in addition to the other Ibadah and you allow both of them to support each other, remembering that Allah azza wa jal loves those who are best in character.
And we don't really follow the Sunnah of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, until any This is another motivation for
acquiring and maintaining good character is that you don't really follow Muhammad Ali is Salatu was Salam until you pursue good character and you are a person of good character.
So we're not you know, how we emphasize follow the Sunnah follow the Quran, follow the Sunnah. It's not only in
physical practice of worship, that we're saying you should follow the Sunnah, the way that the Prophet looked or the way that the Prophet walked and all of these things, all these are important and fundamental in establishing a connection between you and him. But you have missed a big portion of the Sunnah. If you don't adopt the character of Muhammad Ali is Salatu was Salam, a big portion because we just said that one of the main things he was sent to do is improve good character. If you ignore that most of his message then or a lot of his message will be ignored. So there is this hadith and this is on page 98. He said Allah His Salatu was Salam in them in a had become a layup.
We're gonna be coming image Listen, yo Malkia Matthew Hussey Newcomb are Hasina, calm Athletica. It says of those among you that I love the most and will be closest to me on the day of judgment, meaning they will be seated closest to me on the day of judgment are those with the best of character?
We're in the middle of a healthy Camila yo Abadi communio multi Amity Atharva Runa while watershed the Hakuna won't motorcy hipbone, it says one of those that I hate the most. And it will be furthest away from me on the day of judgment are those who babble talk a lot. A third third Runa will moto shut the corner. Those who twist their tongues and mouths when they speak, will notify the homeowner and they ask the Moto Fei hippo owner and the as the Prophet alayhi salatu salam who are those who said those are the arrogant.
So the last category, he said Alia salatu salam are those with bad character that those when they speak, they talk a lot just to dominate
the scene just to show off, so they keep talking about themselves and about their achievements. And, and watershed Deikun and watershed the corner they twist their tongue that means that they pretend to know. I know this. And I know this and I know that. And they make up words and they exaggerate pronunciations just to make make it so as if they are intelligent, and very profound in what they know. And when they speak. They speak with pride.
Right? So all of these things are signs of bad character, how they speak reflects how they feel, and how they view others.
But he says so he said that he saw to a salon because of their bad character. Where would they be? Where are this away from him and he salatu salam and who will be closest to him?
Because everybody who says, you know, we love Muhammad Ali salatu salam and we want to be close to him. So you follow his son, Nepal, the following his sunnah is what? What is your luck?
Because it just makes sense that the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. If he would want someone to be close to him?
It'd be a like minded person. Like, who would who would you be attracted to? And you'd bring closest to you. A person who is like you, not opposite, but who's like you. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam had the best of character who would he wants to be closest to him? People who are like him. So that's why he said that as salatu salam, these are the ones that I will love the most. Even if you never saw you, I would love the most and they will be the closest to me. So if you really say that I love Muhammad Ali is Salatu was Salam learn his character and how he behaved and then incorporate that into your life. Don't say one thing and live a different
A different life
but live the life of Muhammad Ali he are Salatu was Salam.
So a bad again to emphasize what is it do? A betta teaches you sincerity and teaches you humility and teaches you l
truism, that is you would favor to be altruistic person to favor others over yourself
to be content with what Allah had given you. To be hopeful that Allah will give you to be forgiving because you expect Allah's forgiveness to be merciful because this is how you get Allah's mercy. So here you see how even if you're not conscious, but you just simply a good believer practicing believer, if you're not conscious of luck, you're gonna learn them, because it's just embedded in Islam. But because we dissect Islam and separate it, and we take a little bit here and ignore the rest. We have failed to absorb all of the manners that Allah azza wa jal wants us to absorb.
As we said, also, when you worship Allah and you love him more than the dunya you're gonna compete for the earth era more than this life. And this will cause less friction and hatred and conflict on earth. Because we're not
at war with each other over the dunya. You want more of this you can take it because what I have is with Allah azza wa jal what I want is with Allah azza wa jal this that's what a Betta does. And there is a an dua from
the Oh before we get to that, also on the virtue of
personal Holub good character. He said Alia Salatu was Salam Amin che in your dolphin MYZONE ethylamine. Personal holo, it says nothing. This is on page 99 There is nothing that is heavier on this scale. Then good character. We're in Oklahoma Houston and hold up Leah blue will be Hadar Jetta Sahibi sold me was salah and the person who has good character because of it he could reach this stage of the person who prays a lot and fasts a lot.
Right? So one of the heaviest things in the scale when the scale is going away everything that we have done
is good character, your manners and that if you have that you could reach the level of a person who is engaged in a bear the orphan and it's of the best a bad a lot of Salah and a lot of fasting. Now you say to yourself with a why is that?
Why is that? Is because the person who's always in Salah he has to strive to pray, right? There's he's in jihad.
It's not always easy and the person who fasts a lot, he has to strive
too fast. It's not always easy.
And the person who has good character, he has to always be striving to maintain it and protect it and enhance it. Because everybody especially in an age like ours, everybody around him is going to pull him down. Everybody around him is going to challenge his character challenge his patience, challenges forgiveness, challenge his kind heart and tear try to take advantage of him cetera, et cetera. So if that person maintains it and survives that test and strives and he actually improves his character, then he becomes a mogul among those who had strived for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, and Allah elevates him because of it.
And the importance also of good character in spreading love, and he in earning the love of Allah azza wa jal, but also spreading love among the believers. He said, Aleve no ABI Taalib Radi Allahu Anhu. He said, men learn at Kelly Mehta who watch atma habito. He says the one whose words are soft and kind, His love is a necessity.
Meaning that you find it necessary within yourself, when someone is kind to you, to love him.
When someone is kind, even if they are not Muslim, right? You're not even thinking about it. You're not even conscious of it. You're not thinking to yourself, I should love them or not love them. But somebody is kind to you, what do you feel
warm feelings towards them. And if he is kinder and kinder and softer and softer, and caring and merciful, you will be completely in love with that person.
So it's not something that you could push, or you could resist. So this is a way for people to love each other. And if there is some tension between you and someone and you want to remove that tension, remove that friction, be nice to them.
Be nice to them, and I know I'm simplifying. I know it's not always easy, but it's an idea
It's an advice, be nice to them. Because when you're nice to them that will melt away all of those
what have been accumulating those accumulations over time it will take it away time by time because he can't help it Allah has so did had made it a FITARA in people's hearts that he will like those who are nice and well mannered.
And also he said Leu Salatu was Salam.
And extrema ut la nurser agenda is what is the thing that most admits people to gender? So the thing that most admits people to gender and he said Ali his Salatu was Salam ala to Allah was known holo having Taqwa of Allah and Good character, that the thing that will put you in Ghana the most is what is it these two taqwa in dealing with Allah azza wa jal and of course that extends to people. But taqwa
and good character, and that they asked him well, what about the thing that puts me poor most in hellfire, he said Al thermal Wolford, his the mouth and the private parts
and the mouth right, you understand that that's the key to good or bad character? How do people relate to you first, and most through your mouth? So if you're able to protect people from your mouth, and in fact, turn your mouth into a tool for good rather than a tool for bad, and you safeguard your private parts, Allah azza wa jal will guarantee gender for you because that is the guarantee of Muhammad Ali is Salatu was Salam. Right? And it seems simple enough, right?
Safeguard your private parts and you know, haram, and also protect people from your mouth, don't say haram things that upset Allah or upset people, right? That go against Allah xuejun.
And if that's the case of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said, I guarantee agenda for him. So good character takes you through Jana.
You may say to yourself, I'm not you know, I don't have the strength to pray so much or fast so much, I can go to Edge those many times, I can give a lot of money. But maybe Allah has given you the treasure trove of being a person of good character,
then you take advantage of that, because that could be your path to Jannah. Another person, their path could be salah, another person on the other path could be fasting, another path, another person, it could be sadaqa. And maybe one of us, or some of us it could be good character.
none so now the DUA that I wanted to talk to you about is there's an incident when Ahmed or the or the Allahu anha she said that we are that the sahabi Radi Allahu Anhu. He spent the whole night praying or portion of the night praying for Jana. Yep, key way of cool so when he was praying and making dua, he is crying and he is saying, Allah who sent the healthy fasting Hello p here Allah, you beautified my creation, so beautify my character. That's his dua. The whole night is saying, Yeah, Allah, you beautified my physical creation.
So beautify my character. So, in the morning, she said, I would doubt that the whole night this is your entire day out why so it says here on muda it says the Muslim, his character would improve and we beautiful until it will put him in Jannah and hit character would worsen and become ugly until it puts him in hellfire.
Right? His character could be so good and keep improving until it puts him in Jannah.
And the opposite, so Hadith and it's not mentioned here where it mentioned a woman was mentioned to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, there is a woman who prays and at night, and she fasts, but in the morning, when she wakes up, she hurts all of her neighbors with her tongue. She causes this person and that person, meaning that she engages in sin, but she does this a bad as well. He says she's in hellfire.
He says she's in hellfire. So imagine Subhan Allah, that Allah azza wa jal could give you the good fortune of praying, and how many people do that at night and fasting and how many people do that but you could drew in all of that with bad character with how you mistreat people around you, and because you don't think it is relevant when you arrive
In the day of judgment, you will find that that you're bankrupt. And all of your has another been given to somebody else. And then it was mentioned that the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, a woman who is very moderate in her a brother in her salah, and moderate in her fasting, but she's very kind to her neighbors and families and people around her and he said, she's in heaven.
So this is what Allah azza wa jal wants from you, not an imbalance where on the one hand, a lot of a bad bunch that you hurt people, or on the other hand, the opposite of it. You will say, I'm a person of great character, but you neglect your worship of Allah azza wa jal, both of these are wrong. And both of these are incomplete. Until you fulfill Allah's right and through that because of it. You fulfill people's right? So this is a dua that a person can adopt and it's fact it is a dua of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam Allahumma Kemah has sent the healthy for hasin hollowtech Because I know somebody is going to ask me this is great to have good character, how do we have it? There's
one of them is do and one of them is to recite this dua, Ya Allah azza wa jal, you have beautified me.
And you don't need to be a beauty queen to say this right?
know you just need to simply look at yourself and praise Allah azza wa jal for the fact that you have eyes and you have ears and you have a nose and you're well proportioned. Alhamdulillah and that is beautiful. Right? And then you see Allah Zota. You made this the exterior beautiful, but then say to yourself, how about the interior,
there are two copies of ourselves. Right? There's a copy that is the exterior copy that you show everybody. That's what we see from you. This is your dress. This is how you comb your hair. This is how you walk. This is how you talk in front in front of us. Okay, so that's the exterior copy. But there's an interior copy that is, this is what you truly believe this is who you truly are. This is what you truly think this is what you really want to do, not what you tell us but what you really want to do.
So, without any pretense you're asking Allah azza wa jal, here's my physical copy and it's beautiful. But your Allah you could see beyond it. So make what is on the inside, beautiful, as you made what's on the outside, beautiful.
And we tend to polish ourselves on the outside all the time. And if there is not a blemish, right here in there, we cannot eradicate it. We cover it up because we don't want to see or be seen with any imperfection. Well, there are a lot of imperfections on the inside when it comes to our character.
Do I accept people's excuses? Do I think of excuses for them when they come in around? Or do I rush to judgment and bad judgment? He must be terrible, he must be a liar, he must be a thief. See, Think the worst of thoughts of people before you think of excuses for them? Are you envious or when you notice envy? You played with Allah zodion And you make dua for that person so that Allah will remove that terrible trade from your heart. Because if you don't do this, it indicates that you will love the dunya
and you will love it for yourself not for your brother. And you hate Allah's judgment that he had given him something but not you. But if you surrender to Allah in Iman and to his destiny, and ask Allah azza wa jal to rid you of that terrible trade then
and they will leave you jealousy will leave and you will wish the best for your brother. And it's easy becomes easier to wish for them exactly the same thing that you wish for yourself. I want health for myself, I want everybody to be healthy, why would I be happy if somebody is sick? Because I understand what it means to be sick, or to be poor, or to be suffering or to be under pressure, whatever type of pressure it may be. So where does this good character gonna come from? So with the are the Allahu anhu, and he takes this from the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam.
It comes from Allah azza wa jal.
So quickly insha Allah and just want to highlight why Allah azza wa jal loves good character. And then I'll talk about how to acquire good character with a little bit of detail in sha Allah. So why is it that Allah azza wa jal love good character because it is through the best of manners, that humanity can prosper that humanity will live well? If I'm honest, and you're honest, then we will treat each other well
If you are sincere and I'm sincere, if you are forgiving and unforgiving so if Allah azza wa jal wants humanity to be blessed, and to be safe, what is the vehicle that is going to deliver all of these blessings, it is good character. But if people have the worst of character, they will be killing each other stealing from each other. Everybody would be suffering. So since Allah loves the well being of the believers and of humanity at large, Allah is the de luz good character because of it. So this is one reason and good character means a son.
A son does not mean I'm gonna give you exactly what you gave me. That's transactional. This is selling and buying. Right? I'll be good to you as much as you're good to me. And if not then bad. That's that has no look. He said la Salatu was Salam Lacell WOSU Bill McAfee.
He said about similar to Rahim. Right, connecting with your family and being nice to them. He says, The one who repays their kindness exactly, is not one who's practicing Scylla to rhyme. But this is one is what's repaying what he received, the visited so I'm going to visit the call. So I'm going to call and though this is still falls under Sita to Rahim, still false. And it's still a good deed. When he's saying Alayhi Salatu was Salam. That's not the thing that we're asking people to do. We're not pushing Muslims to simply be say, do what I'll do if you do. I'll move if you move. And if not, I won't. Well, I Kindle waltzing Allah, Dr. Saruman kata, you cannot with those who disconnect with
Meaning they don't often call but you call. They don't often visit but you visit, they don't ask much. But you ask, when then you say
why am I doing this?
Why am I lowering myself? And are they better than me? He says no, you're doing this, the LaserJet for Allah has.
Because Allah loves it. And you cement family relationships because of it. And you when you're doing it, you don't expect anything back from them. You're telling me this is hard? I tell you Yes, it is not easy. But if your Eman is strong, you will find it easier to do this. So work on your iman, so that you could sacrifice for the sake of Allah azza wa jal because people will say, my honor, my dignity, I will never lower myself to them and this and that. But if a person has Iman, they will humble themselves to Allah azza wa jal, and they will not feel that they've have did that anything harmful to themselves.
Because when they're doing it, it's as if they're seeing Allah azote and seeing them, and that makes it easier.
So do more than they do give more than what they give. And even if society around you, right,
is swimming in bad character, even if everybody is lying. That is never a justification for you to say, since they're doing it, I'm going to do it as well.
Because they're not your teachers.
People around you are not your teacher, who is your teacher? When I saw the lights on Allah, Allah Himself, right. So even if you need to go and jump through history to think of a role model, do it. But do you think Well, everybody's cutting the line? So I'm going to cut the line as well. Everybody lies on in these applications. So I will lie as well. We say no, you hold yourself to a higher standard. And remember that having good character is not easy, especially these days. So you are in jihad. And when you're doing jihad, you're not going to be brought down by the foolishness of those around you. Let 99% of people sin, you'll be among the 1% who do not. And again, not because of
pride. Now I'm not telling you see yourself as better. But in this particular act, see yourself as better and say I'm better than imitating the masses better than imitating what is popular. So you have to resist what is popular and what is dominant and do what is right, even if it is inconvenient, even if you're alone, and that is the thing that grants you the forgiveness of Allah as though did an elevation in the era.
and why Allah has it it also loves good character because you
constantly striving to please Him Subhan Allah to Allah so it's a constant state of jihad with small things and with bad things and we'll see examples of small acts of good character that Allah azza wa jal loves, because you may say to yourself, well where do I begin you begin with whatever thing that is closest to you and easiest to do and you can build on it the small becomes bigger Manila as origin with time. So, how to acquire good character and some Inshallah, you know, hence,
the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said the address, the address she the address she sought to say, at the workplace, in the fika cell detainees, Abraham Allahu Zota. He says, you have two qualities that Allah azza wa jal loves. And he said, What are the Allahu Anhu? What are these? He says, inhale mu Well, higher forbearance and higher, you know what higher is to be shy? So forbearance and higher. So he said, A Kadeem and Kenneth here and a hadith. He says, was this something that I had for a long time meaning born with? Or this is something new? He says, No, you're had them for a long time. So this tells you that qualities and character can be divided into two, one that you're born with,
and one that you need to acquire. So good qualities are of two types, and they're different from one to the other.
One are innate, meaning you're born with it. Some people are more patient than others naturally. Right? Just as some people are more physically strong than others naturally, right. So there's some innate qualities in this person. He said, what, he's a more patient person. And he's also has higher,
some people need to acquire these things, and work on it. And also that qualities are innate and acquired.
Some people are suspicious by nature, stubborn by nature, angry by nature, right? From a very young age, you could see that they have these qualities in them. That is your test. And that is your struggle, because Allah said, what you're going to be struggling with this. But you you're going to be struggling with that. So the innate bad needs, what jihad for you to be able to overcome it. Control your anger, control your suspicion, control your impatience, strive against all of this. And there is an innate acquired, that comes from company around you, or bad habits that you adopt these also you need to save and protect yourself from on the good side there is innate good. So maybe
Allah azza wa jal had blessed you, the fact that you love honesty, from a very young age, you don't really like to die.
If you don't protect it, first of all, what if Allah had given that to you thank Allah for it. Because it's a pure gift, you didn't do anything to earn it.
Second, you need to preserve it.
Because you could lose it. You could be someone who loves to say the truth. But then you surrender to temptation and you start to lie.
He could be someone who used to be patient, and then you could lose that patience. You could be someone, as you could see it today, who has higher shyness, I'll never show my body, I'll never dance in front of a camera, I'll never, you know, do this and that. But then gradually, you start to do this. Because all the people that you see doing what they're doing, they weren't born like this, right. But they shifted slowly, until they adopted these qualities. So you could lose the good that Allah had given to you. So you thank Allah for it, and you preserve it, and you enhance it. And then you look at the things that you need to have and work on acquiring them. So you find yourself that
you like patience, work on that. You find yourself that you lie work on that. You find yourself that you're looking you're when you go in into a pre pop people's home, or passing by their homes, and the curtain is opened, and you start looking inside to see what and who, then that spine is no this is haram, I shouldn't be doing this. So you learn to lower your eyes. You find yourself talking and gossiping about people whether you know this is true or not. Then you hold yourself back and you say this is haram and I shouldn't. So we're always in this struggle and even flux between the good and the bad. But we need to maintain that struggle and never surrender to the fact that I'm bad so I'm
always going to be bad, or I'm born angry and I will always
Be angry and never be able to control my anger. What kind of declaration is this? As if as a person is saying that said, I'm going to hellfire, that's it.
No work on yourself. But Allah as it will see from you that you actually want to change, because if that's the case, who knows, maybe Allah will bring that change. He can say, I'm a suspicious person by nature, I can't. And that will cause you divorce after divorce. You mean that there is no treatment for this at all? Try? Ask Allah azza wa jal push yourself. Ask others how could you overcome such suspicion and these feelings? And maybe there's a way
but you haven't found it? Because you didn't ask? Right? So innate qualities, acquired column qualities, we talked about that?
No. And if you
if you have something bad in you, or you want to acquire something good, start small.
Right? Set a plan for yourself and you say start small. So if you find yourself talking about things you're not supposed to talk about, hold yourself responsible after each conversation that you have you say, Why did I talk about this, and that next time when I meet so and so I'll make sure not to open this topic and not to go into this topic not to talk about this person. Or if I'm not sure of something, I'm not going to talk about it.
And so the more that you review, and correct and Review and Correct you'll find yourself actually restraining your tongue.
You know, a person could, you know, simply say to themselves, you know what, for the next 10 minutes, I will not say anything except Salam Alikum walaikum salam or the Dhikr of Allah azza wa jal, just to teach my tongue to be quiet.
You could do this, right? The any some of the self, and I don't any, it's just an idea that you would put a pebble in his mouth, just to remind him not to talk. That's a method of control. Right? And once the tongue gets used to it, you don't need that pebble anymore.
So there are ways for you to start acquiring good character. Right? Patience, right? There's teach yourself when you're hungry, right, not starving. But hungry. Delay food for five minutes or 10 minutes. When you have a craving for something.
Teach you so I'm going to wait 1015 minutes before I fulfill that craving. When you want to see your phone, right? You can wait until to check your phone. You put it aside and say no, I will discipline myself to stay half hour away from it. Because that teaches you patience. And you will reap all the benefits of what you're doing. You think it is small, but you will see the benefits of all of that. But there are ways VT Nila has
Nam so inshallah I'll just share with you just very briefly, some of the good characters in the Hadith that the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam talked about. So one here he said that a Salatu was Salam in the middle of a era tema Hibou. Allahu Amin Herma. You believe? He says there is jealousy that Allah loves and jealousy that Allah hates. The jealousy that Allah loves is jealousy when there is something inappropriate happening and the jealousy that Allah hates is a jealousy that is without reason. Okay, Allah hirato phire Reba.
So here is an example of something that a person needs to acquire a need to have, but also could mismanage or misapply.
That is jealousy that Allah azza wa jal loves is what? When you see something wrong, and you're jealous because of it, you see Allah's commands being broken, and you feel jealous. If he for instance, as Muslim women not dressed properly and you feel jealous, or you find your wife and your daughter's not dressed properly, and you tell them to cover up because you're jealous. That is jealousy that is good or bad. That's a good type of jealousy because there's something wrong and you feel jealous. But a bad type of jealousy is to be suspicious for no reason. Or while you're talking to someone on the phone, right? It's another man right? And there's no reason so you're jealous, but
it's because of bad thoughts and suspicion. So Subhanallah here Islam really teaches you the difference between right and wrong thinking right and wrong behavior. The thing that can maintain a family or break it and both of them are called as a euro. Both of them are called jealousy. But we
Without Allah as the Denon His prophet that is salatu salam, how would you know? The difference between the two?
So good jealousy is good character. Without it a person will be an irresponsible husband. Right on a responsible life.
Bad jealousy damages and breaks a family. And the difference as we said between them is not so apparent to people. Another Hadith of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. He says, Let the Amin and Maduro vicia wallow and to free from Intel we can see in Musa Slee, he says do not look down on any good deed that you can perform, even if you were to
empty from your bucket or a seeker of water, that you have a bucket of water and another has an empty bucket. And if the only thing is that you could find to do is just to empty some of the water that you have into their bucket. He says even that small thing is valuable because it is my roof
because it pleases Allah has xuejun and you're benefiting and helping others and he said what are we going to kill him a hookah? Well, what will get a human buzzard he says even if you're just talking to your brother, and you're smiling while you are talking to him, this is something as simple as this. Don't look down on it Isn't this good character. But you're doing it for the sake of Allah azza wa jal and that's what puts you in Jannah. So you see the always there's a link between the two you want to be pleasing to Allah zodion. Watch out how you are with other people, and how you talk to them, and how you help them or the lack of all of this. It tells you how you are with Allah zodat
What Yakko what this vehicle is in the hormonal Hajela II, will he Hola Hola, yo hippo. Hola. Hola. zodion. He said, at ease. Salatu was Salam. And do not lower your garment, meaning drag your garment. This especially for males. Do not lower your garment meaning below your ankles because it is prideful. And Allah does not like pride.
Right? So men are supposed to have their clothes above their ankles, but also take the lesson from it.
Don't be prideful, Allah doesn't like it. So if you wear anything, it doesn't have to be something that you dread. But something very expensive and it makes you think that you're better because of it.
Then that is a pride that has entered your heart. And Allah doesn't like it. Take this off until such a time where you can wear it without pride.
Right? Can you see how people have sometimes you buy very expensive things brand.
And you when you wear them, or when you write that thing? It causes you pride and arrogance that is corrupting.
And it doesn't really stop there. Because if you are so proud if you ask yourself, why is it that people who are very rich and riding these expensive cars so rude
to people around them?
And so careless when it comes to laws and people's feelings and property? Why is it is because they think that they are what? Better?
Otherwise you wouldn't look and treat people like that. You think that you're better you've learned that you are better.
But if not, if you're humble, you're never going to be acting like that. So that's what he said and that's another character IAQ will Koirala beware aware of pride. And here this one is also it's beautiful. We're in Imran. We're in a maroon suit burqa. Be Maria anamorphic Falletta sukhbir Hobbema Talon Wolfie for in Agile hula Kawabe who Allah man Carla who says, If someone insults you using things that he knows about you do not go back and insult him using things that you know about him. Because the reward will be yours and the sin will be his.
And again, look at how noble Islam wants you to be. Somebody insults you. And he knows some secrets about you things that other people don't know. And you know things about him that other people don't know. So when he exposes you with these insults, and he says oh yeah, remember when you did this, this this.
to defame you remember this, your reaction and my reaction would be to do what? To expose him as he exposed us to insult him exactly how he how he insulted us to broadcast his secrets exactly as he did ours. But he said Alia Salatu was Salam. He said, No, you should be better.
You should be better if he sinks so low that he exposes your secrets.
He insults you with things that he knows will hurt you. Don't go back and do the same to him, restrain yourself and be better and higher. And think of yourself on the Day of Judgment when Allah who rewards you for that exchange and punishes him for it.
And that makes being patient and quiet, easy. And you become strong because of it.
And what where did that strength come from? An Amen in Allah azza wa jal that there is a day of judgment and there is a compensation. And you will feel fully in control after
you have the keys now, have the conversation. He doesn't you, you could escalate it, or it could die, and you have the power. And that's the power that comes with patience. Right. And finally here, he says a companion once asked the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam for advice. And the Prophet told him let us have been Haida.
He says he is a prophet of Allah give me advice. He says, Don't insult anyone.
Don't curse. Don't verbally attack anyone.
And the beautiful thing here is how he applied it he said out of the Allahu Anhu for Mercer, too bad the whole Bull Run wala Abdon whatever Iran word Usha
I did not insult after him after that exchange with the Prophet and his Salatu was Salam freemen, or a slave, or a camel or a sheep?
The even animals, if he which then can a camel, or hurt some sheep, and he's upset with them, and he could insult them, and they're not going to understand what he's saying. But he upheld the advice of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. He says Don't insult anyone. He says not another thing is not going to come out of my mouth, even for an animal. Because if you save yourself from insulting an animal, you're not going to insult a human being and you save yourself from insulting a calf or you're not going to insult a believer and you save yourself from an insulting a believer who is a non relative you're not going to insult a believer who's also a relative and very close to you. And
if you got it your mother tongue like that you will guard your tongue so that it doesn't say something that upsets Allah azza wa jal so that is the law and the character of Islam Allah
so we'll stop here in sha Allah and let me know if you have questions.
I'll be happy to answer them in the
end either on the men's side
so I'll give you a minute inshallah to think of anything you want to ask
so nothing on this end. Okay.
And oh, okay, Zach. Thank you
so can eating with a spoon be considered as a cobra equivalent to eating with hands? Because some people eat with hands in disgusting ways and say it is sunnah I think it's time that in the time of the prophets, Allah Salam, there were no spoon, so we used
his hands or the word hands. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
There is some food where you would say it might be easier to use a spoon, right? And
Yanni Yes, you're right that at the time of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam they were no sports, right?
Some people point out the fact that
eating with your hands is closer to the Fetullah. Right? It's unpretentious.
Definitely, for instance, there are things that are better eating with hands rather than with utensils. But if you're a person who doesn't know how to use his hands eating right, especially if you're eating something like rice and or what have you, that gets scattered and wasted. Using a spoon is fine as well. And we're not going to say that using a spoon is preferable. I it just depends on the person and depends on the food. So if a person feels more connected and closer to nature and closer to the Sunnah, while using his hand, and the food that he's using is appropriate to the tool that he's using. Then we say why not? One might say why not?
If a person doesn't know how to use his hands as they can, again, especially it's most difficult with rice for a lot of people, so if you don't know you know how to use your hands, then use utensils and shall not use a spoon or what have you. And the use of spoons and other utensils doesn't contradict the Sunnah. Right? doesn't contradict this and they use what is easy for you will realize, but what I know is from the Sunnah is licking
your fingers right after you eat, right? So if you see someone who's doing it, right are you gonna say it's disgusting?
Know get so get used to it. So get used to it right? Because the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, he said that if you eat by hand, don't wash them until you lick your fingers. Why?
Because you do not know where the baraka lies. So when you're eating right, the food that you have has Baraka in it, you don't know you may have touched it. And it is on your fingers. So it means lick your fingers. And if you've never done it, you will say Oh, well that's disgusting. But if you do it once or twice and you know what is normal? So sometimes I think we kind of set ourselves standards of etiquettes
just that are have more to do with upbringing, and maybe personal preferences. I think if you just get used to something else, you'll start seeing it differently alone
Okay, there's one question here.
Is this the reason why Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu scale is heavier than the entire Ummah because he has soft character. It's because of his Iman. So the woodpeckers Iman is equivalent to the Eman of the rest of the Ummah, or he on the scale is heavier than the rest of the Ummah excluding, of course, the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, because he is acidic. And also this is because he believed in it so much and has settled in his heart so much that there is no room in it for doubt, more than anybody else. Right, it mixed with his bone with his blood with his
meat. So Islam and Iman was so entrenched in his heart more than anyone else, that he is the heaviest on the scale. That's why and a product of that is how he acted on the ALLAH and a product of it. Is that how soft he was when he reads the Quran, he cries he was soft with people and by the way, Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu wasn't soft all the time. And Rebecca when he went got angry, he got angry. Right? So I want us to understand this imbalance. So if you see a person today, who sometimes gets angry, you say, Oh, you violated the Sunnah. No, even Umar Radi Allahu Anhu when they were in that incident when they were trying to discuss and decide who is going to be a Khalifa. And Omar
wanted to speak, and he said I had prepared things to say.
But he was referring to obec and he says we're going to order if he hit that and fee it says I used to
try to manage an anger he had
like a while back it would be sawed, but if he got angry, he got angry. Right? So he wasn't any so that we understand everybody right in proper proportion. The thing that made him incredible are the Allahu Anhu was his email. And as I said, that yielded the character of Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu and yielded the character of Omar and Ruth man and Ali is because of their image and then people when they saw them, right, they said, these are better than the disciples of Jesus Christ, that we read about in the Bible.
We read about them, right? It's like stories had been made about them, but these people that we see are better than them. So you know very well, right? The greatest inviter to Islam is how you act and how you behave. Now what you say believe in Islam, because this this, this this, yes, but they want to also see how you live and how you act. So if you want to be adept as a personal cause to Islam, the greatest invitation is what how you behave and how you live.
says is it haram to wear pants that touch all the weight to the heel
is preferable and better that there will be above the so they don't touch it for men. For women? No, that's that's doesn't apply to them right because they
They need to cover that area, but for men, because it is said that LA Hubballi akorbi
As if I remember it right,
that ankles have no portion of your garment right it should be slightly above them then that insha Allah should be fine
Some say that only way of dealing with tough character who are hardened is speaking in a language they understand in a hardened way to how to deal with this correctly. So, I mean, you know, just do or think of Musa alayhis salam, how we started to speak with Pharaoh and how we ultimately spoke to him. So Allah azza wa jal tells him the hula hoop hola Lee in Orlando yet at a crow Yaksha so when they started their day our to Pharaoh, Allah azza wa jal sent to Musa and Harun at the Yuma salon, speak softly to them, perhaps they will remember. Okay, or return to Allah azza wa jal. So, if a person is hardened, and they're tough and aggressive, you don't become or you don't begin
dower to them or a conversation aggressively just because they're aggressive, you begin softly and leniently, and you work your way up, when you find out that that softness is misplaced. So you try and it fails, and you try and it fails like Musa did with Pharaoh and you try and it fails. And then you up. Right, the aggressiveness of the conversation or the firmness of the conversation, until eventually he tells him what you need, although look if you're gonna miss Bora. And I think if around, you're going to be destroyed. So he reached that point, but it took a while between the leniency in the beginning and the end of it.
with what I'm sorry.
I'm sorry, I couldn't understand that.
What is the relationship? So the Prophet that is maybe he I mean, he didn't explain.
But you could maybe figure that when people of the past and even in the present, when they would lengthen their garments, and they would drag them. That's an indication of richness and opulence and status. So kings would do this, they would drag things behind them, right? So
whether we understand it or not, right, we have the statement of the prophets of Allah it was salam so I don't need to wrestle with it right. But he tells us right, it is from who yella? So perhaps there is a sensible, logical, physical reason that we could see or maybe that a person applies it. Allah takes arrogance away from their heart and if he doesn't, Allah flicks him with arrogance. So I'm content with the Hadith being as it is beloved.
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none. So the question of the brother here is that the Prophet Salatu was Salam, you know, was in Jannah, and he saw a big palace, and he wanted to enter it. And then he inquired who's Palace is this? And they said, This is the Palace of Omar. So they said by the car to the erotica. So he says, I remembered your jealousy, so I did not enter the palace. Why? He said, I remembered your jealousy because inside that palace, who could there be?
The woman of paradise that belonged to remodel the Alon Hora lane. So he says, I remembered your jealousy so I did not go inside the jealous and inside the palace. So the Prophet is so Ahmadi Alana who said would I be jealous from you? Oh, Prophet of Allah. Right. So that's the incident that you're talking about. Does it make sense? Yeah, yeah.
Explain that security, the difference between security and jealousy, insecurity and jealousy. So jealousy when you find something wrong, like there's evidence is visible, the discernible and that moves you to act. Insecurity is when you surrender to suspicion. Must somebody must be cheating on me? Somebody must be due
During this, that behind me, there is no evidence for it. So you surrender to these doubts. And once you believe them, you start to act based on them. So you start to spy and investigate and assume and then accuse, because you believed all of these things. That's an insecurity that is based on false assumptions and thoughts.
Good Jealousy is a jealousy where you see something wrong. Or this is gonna lead to something wrong. And it's very tangible and very sensible. And you say, no stop. You can you can talk, you know, so softly, right? Because other people could listen to this and be tempted by it. So that's something that is reasonable.
But a person who just bases it on you know, his imagination would that is how I do define insecurity. And it could come also from bad past bad experiences as well. So the guy kind of the person extends it into other relationships as well it's important to remember that
people are different. So if you've been betrayed, it doesn't mean that you're going to be betrayed again. Right? So you have to heal from that yourself.
they've I don't know if there's still one more Okay, last one.
What steps can we take to correct their negative character of behavior, that what we talked about as Allah as to protect you from it, identify it, then distance yourself from it distance yourself from people who behave like that? Find why you do what you're doing this what is the thing that motivates it escalates a distance yourself from it, talk to people who have struggled with this and are able to overcome it or talk to a person who is a shave, an imam or a knowledgeable person about this particular thing? How do I overcome this particular thing? And hopefully in sha Allah, you will find answers and something also that I forgot to mention. The biographies on the life of the prophet
Alayhi Salatu was Salam and the companions and the righteous scholars who had passed away is an incredible resource for improving character and identifying bad ones, because you will see how they've lived and that will inspire you and how they avoided bad things included character, and that will inspire you as well. So we want to read something uplifting with their life stories, inshallah. And we'll stop here about a low FICO Subhanak alone behind