Manners of the Salaf #5 Kind and Forgiving Hearts

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Welcome everyone back to our classes, manners of the self manners of the early Muslims in their interpersonal dealings or interpersonal relations, their interactions with each other. And many of these adab many of these manners are manners we know in theory, but without sitting in the shade of those who lived by them, it could get difficult.

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And so just as they say that Seeing is believing through their accounts through the historical record that Allah has preserved for us.

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We are able to see through their stories it unfolding in real time, the values of Islam being lived by real human beings just like us. And it's deeply inspiring, and it's of the greatest methods, as we said, of inviting the Mercy of Allah in our life, through this terrible process. This cultivation and development of this character is very different than being able to give a theoretical lecture about or rattle off an endless list on these manners. So tonight, Inshallah, we're going to speak about their kind heartedness and their sense of forgiveness. Be kind be forgiving, who doesn't know that about Islam, but to watch it unfold as you will see now

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is a treat to be honest. So the first section here the author, have you the hola he says, Yes, Habad, Aluna, raka algo LEA or MCAD even o'clock. Essentially what he means is they go back and forth almost one upping each other competing with each other in the kindness of their statements and then character.

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So he cites here for instance, that it was early Rahim Allah

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had a a brother, someone that was very close to him, almost like a best buddy named Mohammed and then Hakim naman elite and mystery.

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And he used to say about him, Matthew Kimani Bielsa Hi, yah hoo. What kept me in Egypt was nothing but him.

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It wasn't brother Khalid was in any other reason. It was this guy, Mohammed and then had camera him a whole lot. And so he became sick. How do we How can one day and so a Shafi Rahim Allah visited him and he said to him,

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marry Allah al Habib for two who for married to men whose knee Allah He.

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It's poetic, but just to give you the the gist of the meaning. He said, He came to him and he sort of like recited these couplets of poetry that matched perfectly the situation right?

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The the beloved, fell sick, and so I came to visit him quickly. And then I became sick out of my sadness over him, like seeing him this way, made me just as sick as he was. So Mohammed bin Hakim, in such appreciation also to reciprocate to to compete in kindness, if you will, he sort of tweak the couplet of poetry. And so when he heard many little Habiba wrote to whom from minute to minute Hosni ie he responded back and he said for Atal Habibollah Oh Dooney February to be novelry la he

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and there'll be love it now you're my beloved backwards right the beloved came to visit me and I suddenly now have been the one that was healed just by him looking at me. If one of them says I became sick because of your sickness, out of you know empathy with you. The other one said I became cured just because you came and gave me the time of day and laid your eyes on me.

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This was reported by lasagna Rahimullah and it happens said

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even though I Sakura him Allah another scholar, he captures another incident from the life of a chef a human will love the great German chef very that's one of those close to him by the name of Ibrahim Naboo. Rana.

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They once entered

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sort of a

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a bath house you know and how mm long time ago was not the restroom. lavatory it was the bath house, the sauna, the steam room. That's the That's the word, the steam room. So Ibrahim, the veranda and a chef. They both go and they believe that this had and it does probably have, you know, therapeutic effects and it's it's good for

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the body. And so they had similar they were of similar heights. And so when Ibrahim Khurana exited he grabbed the shaft his clothes, you know they probably all wear the same simple clothing. He grabbed a shaft as close and went home with them and a shaft he comes out doesn't notice grabs his clothes, wears them and goes home with them. Only when they each went home did they realize these are not my clothes. These are the clothes of the other guy. So So

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Halla, both of them had the same they were guided to the same idea that they all they watch, wash the other person's clothes. And here's something that should go without saying someone lends you clothes or sort of you even find someone's clothes in your bag, you wash them right? Even until today. It is common practice.

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Especially among the Arabs, I'm sure it exists in other civilizations, especially Muslim heavy cultures that are big on hospitality when someone lends you a plate, you don't bring it back empty, you got to put something in it. When you give it back. You gotta give it back full. So they did this. You know, they, they gave it the treatment. They took the clothes, they washed it for each other. And they sent it for each other and they meet where they always meet, they met at the masjid.

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And so they look at each other and they smile and they pray outside and on their way out. Rahim Khurana says to him

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a slug Allah who had eat the ebook. You know? God bless you basically May Allah always, you know, keep your things in tact for you. Here's your clothing. And so a chef Rahimullah smiles and he pulls out his and here and here are your clothing. Wallah. He none of it will return to me, meaning you're keeping mine and here's yours and he already swore. So for him Khurana was stuck. And so he had to accept both of them and go home with both pairs. And so he didn't the last Radi Allahu Anh.

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Used to be in a conflict with a group of people in Medina and the city of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam the scholars are in loss. And then more i We are the Allah who can

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at some point in time,

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took Satan that us and appointed him as the governor over Medina. And so as soon as he put him as the governor over Medina,

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he dropped the dispute he had with that other family.

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But you guys have been sort of like laying claims for years why did he drop the dispute He said, Let until slowly enough see what and a while in LA him.

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I will never now this is called power dynamics right that we talk about these days, I will never take my rights from someone unless we stand on equal footing now that I'm on higher footing on government, I have to put it down

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I will never take advantage of my brother even if I believe he has some of my rights mistakenly or otherwise. So these are great o'clock right? The kind treatment they will get extend to each other, my man

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and then a similar narration a second Hara she says I once bought I purchased from ebill min Hal crme Salaam has his name, he was known as epolamine had a sheep for 60 Dirham 60 silver coins. I went I bought a sheep 60 silver coins.

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And then I said to him, after we transacted the deal, we cut the deal, we agreed on the price. You hold on to the sheet until I go get the money. This is a good deal. I'm gonna go sort of like borrow the money or make the money or whatever, and I'm gonna bring you the money. So he said back to me unless they're Muslim man, aren't you Muslim?

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He said, Of course, I'm Muslim. He said then take the sheep. I trust you. You're a Muslim. Take the sheep.

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He says so I took the sheep. And then I went and then when I came back to him with the 60, he pulls out five from the 60. And he says this is for feeding the sheep.

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So he's trying to be kind to him by telling him hold on to the sheep in advance. But then he felt guilty that wait a minute, technically, he hasn't paid me for the sheep, so he shouldn't feel the burden of having to feed the sheep. Right? So he takes out five and gives him the five so that this is for feeding the sheep while it was not yet technically under your ownership.

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So this was in regards to just like one upping each other and being careful with each other and rising above in nobility in their relationships. Then the next section here he says they deal with people behaving was Mr. Hotteok luck with him and summer ha.

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Hillman Santa are close to each other.

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What's the difference in Edmonds? anybody?

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Anybody got it?

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So Hill is when you are forbearing the translation is forbearance. When you bear you put up with someone that offends you. Someone who hurt you abused you offended you insulted you, right? That's called forbearance when there's some sort of malice when there's ill intent when there's deliberate harm doing and you tolerate it. So Matt has more general so Matt has just you're easygoing, you're flexible. You can indulge people maybe they're not offending you, but they're just like bored.

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Reading, right? It just like long winded in the way they tell stories, and this is called, somehow more so than him. And Allah knows best. And so

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tolerance and forbearance and these are important because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, Al Imana or sobro Osama sama. Faith is all about being patient and being tolerant.

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You know, I heard

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a preacher once say, maybe that the language could be improved, refined a little bit. He said, you know, please become religious, but please don't become a jerk on the way.

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And what did he mean by this?

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You know, the word jerk. It wasn't always an insult, you know, you jerk some things when you pull it hard. But and that is the idea. Some people are just a little bit too aggressive, right? They just snatch and they wanted everyone to change overnight. And they, you know, that the beginning of religiosity is like that. So the idea is become religious, and hurry up and get more religious so that you sort of become humble, and you become gentle, and you become more prophetic, right? That's what the reality the depth of faith gives you depth and tolerance, depth and patience. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said that to us.

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As for some of the accounts of the early Muslims, the first one he cites here is about that Hussain Ali, the grandson of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. One time he got into a dispute with invalid ignorance via the son of the grandson of Abu Sufyan about some property, you know, like people debate on property lines as my property actually and here and there and right, they debated on some property.

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And then Walid on that day, actually, on that day,

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I really didn't know that was

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the wildly the governor over in Medina where Al Hussein or the Allahu unlived

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and so they're going back and forth arguing and just naturally sometimes, you know, emotions flare.

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And then Al Hussein grabs the turban off of the head of the governor, snatches it off of his head.

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And he sort of he dusted it like he said, throw it on the ground or something and,

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and so one of the people present

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who was the Khalifa himself model had been Hakim.

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He said in alila meaning in the law when they lay out your own but in short, he said in that Illa I've never seen someone so disrespectful to their immediate the way I just saw I've never seen anyone do that to a governor before snatch the the headgear off and throw it on the ground and

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and so a lead said, Just mind your business, it's fine. Leave it alone, like in like a house attorney, Allah helped me and who

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that is sort of a good deed that I did that I put put up with these things and, and that's all and Al Hussein are the Allahu Anh. You know, when he saw this great tolerance and these great IDEV he felt too guilty to even dispute for the land that he believed was his. And so he said a lot of do like a shadow Anahola this land belongs to you, property's yours I don't want to talk about anymore. So sort of meet him there.

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And you know,

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I'll slowly

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he narrates from Abu Zubaydah that tell Maddie you know, we spoke a little bit about the best dynasty today in the holy book. And Matthew was one of the more famous I basically refers

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Mohammed monsoon and Maddie. He used to lead all five people in prayer in his local Masjid.

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He wasn't like one of the rulers that doesn't appear in like nowhere to be found ever in the masjid or anything like he used to lead over the five prayers.

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In the in the major message that I'm sorry, the big message Allah Bazzara when he got to the bus era, and so one time, one time does the karma was made. And a Bedouin man basically comes running in a man that a nomadic man that lives in the desert doesn't live in the city. He runs into the city and into the Masjid. He hears the Khalifa is in town he's running in and he says,

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I'm not in a state of purity. Like, hold on, I need to go make Google or he could have even meant the bath. Right? He said and I had interest in praying behind you, I came all this way to pray behind you. So in my head, the, the Sultan of the Muslim ummah, commanded them.

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So he asked him, tell them to wait.

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And so I said to them, wait for the men, right? He sort of like accepted he tolerated he indulged the man. And so he entered them head off here and he waited till the man's

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sort of washed up and came. Then he said, hola hola Ko

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and Omar Abdulaziz another one of them. And of course, you know, he keeps bringing examples from the higher ups because the higher you are, the more difficult it is for you to tolerate. You're used to a particular treatment, you're used to everyone sort of dancing to your tune as they say the expression

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and so I'm going to not deny Xiidra Hana hola as was reported by Jose, either our order and your RT Barah Jhulan have a set hotel Ethen Thumma Faber who Cara here to and you IG la vie oh well of Viola Bobby,

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whenever he wanted to punish someone, he would first put them in a prison cell for three days.

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And then he would determine the punishment so that he would not be hasty. He would not be excessive he would not transgress, give an undeserved punishment. At the at angers first strike at the first moments of his anger. Can we apply this in our life?

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Don't punish the kids for three days or at least three hours?

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Right? Don't speak when you're angry. This is not a creative suggestion that I just thought of now, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said this in the Hadith now bestel de la anima that Buhari compiled and rather than move forward, either verbally by Hadoken failure squid, when one of you is angry, they must be silent. You must because you're gonna speak in ways that are uncalculated. And this is why some of the scholars extrapolated from that hadith, that if you're angry, you're definitely not allowed to hit.

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If you're not allowed to speak, then you're definitely not allowed to hit when you're angry.

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Because you're going to hit in a way that is uncalculated, not just unproductive. You will not stop a lot of times until you've done something you've regretted. Right? Usually that's the case.

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And so think about it, there's no rush, is there a better way to treat this issue?

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And Abdullah Allah Shivani he narrates that he wants heard an elderly man from light, but he's a famous tribe. in Arabia, I heard an elderly man once report to us that a man once took the reins of the horse of ID and Hatem who's our lead and I had him.

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Great Sahabi great companion of the Prophet SAW salah. He's saying from that town, I heard an elderly man who will live to see basically ideas in the hat in one day, the great companion of the Prophet SAW Salem, a guy had grabbed the reins of his horse the ropes of his horse once and he said to him, Tough Coat will be ibk Wahoo a jumbotron phenom. You take pride in your father when he is nothing but coal of the Hellfire because Hatem, his ID, the son of Hatem had some thought he was a man that the Arabs all celebrated because he was known for his legendary hospitality.

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Right but he did not die and Muslim. Right. So he's saying you think you're a tough guy because your father Your father is in the hellfire.

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And then he says to him, what the photo Allah called me can be integrity so Allah we thought in doing at home and you think you're better than all your people in your tribe because everyone sits on the floor and you sit on a cushion. You think you're better than everyone else?

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The guy who's having a bad day

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you don't know what happened at work or like he got yelled at at home or whatever it is. So he came and he's taking it out now on this great so heavy I'd even had somebody hola Juan. Was that cut out? Yeah, there was any kept talking. He just kept, you know, messing up

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and trying to humiliate, I'd even had him and I'd even had him standing there and not trying to free his horse. He's just listening to listening to listening to him. And then when the man finally fell silent,

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he said the sahabi or the hola Juan de said to him in Cana Bucky are in the cache on to redo until the cooler who fall oblah And yet yeah, Shabaab will Howie for inner homogeneous Moroka Taku heatherly Shut up him lamb your bow. So listen, if you have anything left in the tank, unload now. Because if we get a little closer, like if to town and the young guys hear you talking to the elderly man himself, like this, you're not gonna like what they're gonna do. I don't want you to get you know, your face rearranged as we say nowadays, I don't want you to get beat up. I don't want you to get abused by them. Finish it now.

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It's better for you. And that's it. It's all he did. May Allah be pleased with him

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and there is a narration here that we have to contextualize it was said to Atlanta from the Pacer to me me so I'll replace was known as an I've mentioned him to you before a an icon of him he was known for his quality of great forbearance and patience nothing could sort of unnerved him so it was one said to it I kind of have no face it to me me

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me mentor alum tell him

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where did you learn this great hidden from? He said minify save now submit to me me

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from case if not awesome? He's enough the son of biases saying I learned from case if not also attend me me. A man once came to him Well, who am I tabbing while he is my savvy, who's more excited to hear that he says like half mark Debbie. You know, when you sit on your sort of your seat, and you grab your two knees like this, he's sitting next to me like that.

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He was sitting on the ground more Tabby, and they said to him Ibnu pika Katella, Urbanek

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your brother's son, your nephew, has killed your son, they got into a fight or whatever, and he killed him.

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And so

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cause him now close it. And I asked him, he said, I saw rob the who

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will affect our Buddha who woke up our Rahima who JVZoo were Mahala headwater who Furman who to allow them to the in hell. He said he has disobeyed his Lord this murder. And he has weakened his clan, less people in the clan, right, he has weakened his clan. And he has severed the ties of his family meaning in the sight of Allah.

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Let us go prepare or go prepare my son go prepare him for the funeral. And he did not untie his his posture. Sometimes they use to tie it with a rope. Otherwise they will do it with their hands. He didn't sort of even an clasp his hands.

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By the way, context, this doesn't mean he didn't cry for his son guys. Right? And if it does mean that then it would be wrong. Right? But he's saying that he actually had the sense in the middle of all of that pain. They're citing the point of reference for you. It doesn't mean he didn't sort of stay silent for a few minutes. And Sears didn't fall at what's that he did not flip out. That's what they're citing for you. So capture the point of reference benefit from it and keep moving. Because I remember reading this a long time ago. I'm like, How does that even make sense? Like, out of someone's good die, and, you know, they don't even change postures or positions. You they're

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highlighting that he was containing himself so that he does not act out of him.

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And another narration the same man

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who said I learned from this incident of bicep Nasim, the healing that you guys admire. He also said we used to visit the place of Nasim for his him the same way we used to visit the fuqaha the jurists to learn law, you got to visit it, you can't just hear about it in an abstract in theory, you got to see people doing it for you to actually have a better chance at adopting it.

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And Omar Abdulaziz Rahim Allah at one time one of the great philosophers, he

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was sort of intercepted or interrupted by a man that unloaded on him in a very vulgar way. And he was the Khalifa of the Muslims. And so he said, Arata Arata and yes def is any shaytaan OB resist Sultan for another looming Cleome Mata and Allah hoomin Neva then in Saudi for him aka Allah very beautiful response. He said

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you want it you're trying to get shaytaan to get to me to use my soul Thun my authority

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to hurt you.

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And so you can get out of me tomorrow much more on the Day of Judgment, then I'm gonna get out of you today like what am I gonna get to beating you up?

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It's gonna gratify me for a moment right? So that I can sort of hurt you now today in a way that will cause you to hurt me bigger tomorrow. He said please leave in Saudi for a hammock Allah may Allah have mercy on you. So this was the great hidden and centeredness around this L that they took from our deen

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al mohale lab, Rahim Allah He used to say

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I give to women yesterday in my Malika family he well yesterday, last hurrah Robbie marovo. He said I don't understand how people can buy Malik basically servants, they can purchase servants with their money and they're not able to purchase free men with their kindness, meaning be kind to people.

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They will appreciate it most people and they will serve you. They'll be close to you the meaning you'll they'll be loyal to you.

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You know they say laser Illa harati Thurman nonviral a cram

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for academe hold on Tim Liko the RBC say that there is no price for a free man except honoring them honor a man you will possess them. They become a ring on your finger right? They become your best friends they become your closest supporters because anyone that has self respect, if he's treated good, he treats good, normal and the honorable human being is like that. And that is why boost the Rahim Allah He said in his famous poetry accent in a nurse it established Kaluga home for polymer star button in Santa Santa. show kindness to people you will captivate their hearts because kindness has always

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enslaved captured the hearts of humanity

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and another Abdullah Al Halloweenie Rahim Allah said that a lot of smart a Rahim Allah said to us

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my grandfather once i He said I attended my grandfather one time at one moment when he was dying me and his final moments. So he gathered all of his children. And he said to us yeah Boonah Yeah, or Yeah, Benny Yeah. Oh my dear kids, I Shiro NAS and more eyeshadow 10 In rib tomb handle in a comb. We're in mood to backhoe Aleikum? Oh my children, deal with people in such a way that when you're absent they long for you. And when you die, they cry for you

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the last section

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or there's two very short sections here. He says yellow cone and NASA the wedge in bulk

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and Padirac, right?

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That when they meet people, you always used to find the early Muslims crying,

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smiling in public crying in private, as was reported about ethnicity and himolla and others. So when they're with people, they remember the importance of good manners. Allah loves to see that from me and I'm sort of trying to infuse the atmosphere with cheer and positivity. And when I'm alone, I'm remembering my shortcomings and trying to rectify my standing in front of Allah that way. And this is all from the command of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with cheer in particular. He said to me, without Radi Allahu Anhu in a famous Hadith let's Iran nominal model fishy and whatever and teleca haka big in bulk.

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Do not be little underestimate any act of good, even if it is simply to meet your brother with a cheerful face.

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And another Hadith he said to me without radi, Allahu an ter, Buzzsumo, caffeine, IGF DECA sadaqa, that you're smiling in the

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face of your brother is an act of charity.

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And as our teachers used to say, your wife falls under the category of your brother

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in this hadith, meaning your brothers and faith are the people you know, right?

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A lot of times

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the complication is very real. And the complaints are very, very sort of.

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We're all in it together. I'm not sort of throwing shade here. We're all in it together. Sometimes we spend the last of our smiles outside, but that's unfair, right? And

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we're just an inert object at home, and so we should all try to do better.

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Jedi didn't Abdullah Radi Allahu Allah Allahu Akbar jelly. He says Maha Giovanni Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Mundo Islam. Since the moment I became Muslim, the messenger of allah sallallahu said never bothered me whenever I knock whenever I need to see him. He always lets me in the head of state always made time for me. Always made room for me.

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Since I converted to Islam, I didn't feel like I was a late comer. I didn't feel like Oh, I'm just the convert, you know over the past year and people have been near Muslim for 10 years and immediately right? The prophets Allah Allahu Allah has made him feel included.

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Well, Ernie Electabuzz Sam, and never did he see me except that he smile. This is like Muslim

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And Buhari actually in both, he never kept me out. And he never saw me except that he smiled. And this is a testimony from God Himself, what are the Allahu Taala on?

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And so that's how people should be they should not sort of be gloomy or be difficult

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as if he's disgusted to be somewhere right that, you know, the the greatest stinginess is to be stingy with your with your smiles, and the greatest generosity, so be generous with what with your feelings, you might be tired, right? But as they say, the smile is free. It just got it out. Right? They say I think they said you lose three calories every time you smile. So it's even good for

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It's even good for diet purposes.

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But to be with people and to not share in them with their emotions, to share in them with their interests, to sort of attend be attentive to their story or smile at their joke or to at least try to do so. Not everyone is able to do that. You know, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to me with our, you know, even your smile in the face of your brother is a charity. He said, What if I can't even do that? Like what if I'm in a moment I'm in a stretch of grief of stress? He doesn't mean he's not going to do it. But what if what if it's imaginable? I can't even do that meaning right now. He said Tim Nash rockiness Outta Kufa, Shahrukh and Nina's tekun sava kata and

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Minca Alan F sick, then to at least withhold your harm from people. You're not going to smile, like

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do something right be attentive, reciprocate, contribute in any way that you can try your best to do that not like you're a stranger among them and you have no interest

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in being in their midst. And he shall have an Ottawa Rahim Allah narrates from his father are witnesses obeyed, which is the great Tabori and nephew of Michel de la Anna.

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Hashem the Ottawa narrates

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from his father. Are witnesses obeyed? Make to Boonville hikma that we found written among the ancient wisdoms, meaning words that were preserved and he means deserves to be preserved deserves to be remembered. We found an ancient wisdoms that we studied Lee echo New Edge who kept that spun what Kelly metal Katha yerba make sure your face is always cheerful and your words are always kind tekun a habit Ilana Asimina levy your ugly he will aka you will be more dear to people than someone that gives them gifts. It's true. Because you know, if you're not happy

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money or food you don't have appetite for right right or wrong. And that is why admitting cheer upon a person could be greater than a monetary donation to the person a monetary charity to that person. The love is more because you know if a person said he doesn't even want to eat right

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think about that at the dinner table do we push people away from the dinner table with our with our demeanor or otherwise her madness at the Rahima hula he said Mara it Raju ran up a shed do tab assume and fee would you hit reject mean a Ubisoft Jani

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I never saw a man ever more smiley in the faces of his fellow man than a Ubisoft Diani you know Ubisoft Danny was was like a mountain of a worshiper.

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He used to you know pray the entire night dedicated to Allah azza wa jal when he's when his foot is leg you still get numb used to strike his foot like this and say, I'm going to drag you in front of Allah. Do do the companions of the Prophet SAW Selim think they're going to just get to Jana and have the Prophet alter themselves and not us. We're going to sort of compete with them shoulder to shoulder and he was he was a very serious man. But when it came to his brothers, it was part of the seriousness to not be serious. Part of being focused on your mission is dealing with his good character because at the end of the day, as an acclaimed Rahim Allah Allah said, Whoever beats you

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in good character has beaten you in Deen because this deen is all about good character, as the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said albertslund Hello.

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Righteousness is all about good character.

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The second and last short section this page here, he says the Hamza Hoonah wild Hakuna Duna halili Iman

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that they used to joke with each other.

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And they used to laugh with each other without faltering in their faith without it being at the expense of their Iman. And so he reports from Abner Omar, the son of Armada Mikata, but are the Allahu Anh?

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That he was asked that the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ever used to laugh, you know because we

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Think about this, like, Are they human like us? Right? And so even the second generation was wondering like, you guys used to laugh or no laughing he's laughing Okay, and this is landfilling, right, you're trying to get a feel for it because if all you know is an endless list of Viagra and ahaadeeth You can't fully access Islam without the door. The door is the saliva The door is the tiger in the door is the early Muslims. That's why we study this. And so the guys used to laugh. And so he said, Now I'm when Eman Ophir Cordoba him Amina G Bell. Yes, they used to laugh, but while the faith remained in their hearts anchored greater than mountains

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and Abu Hurayrah Radi Allahu Taala and he says, and you'll be surprised at this

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they said Yara surah Allah in NACA today, I'm gonna You're joking with us. Like he said something within Are you joking? Even this habit themselves are like, Yeah, you're joking with us. Is that like a joke? Was that a joke? And so he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in Nila Apolo Illa haka. I only said something true meaning what's wrong with joking? So long as we're not making up lies to jokes as long as we're not being dishonest, so long as you're not being deceptive.

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And so long as we're not being excessive in other scenarios, so long as we're not also being hurtful. So long as it's not all we do, and that could harden our hearts is that Hadid say too much laughing hardens the heart, but in principle

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bucketed not the Abdullah meaning and Mussolini Rahim Allah He said, Can I was hablo Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Maria Tibet, the Hoonah will be clear.

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The Companions of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi salam used to hurl watermelon at each other.

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Isn't that haram

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it's wasting food isn't it?

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It is it is what's meant here is the shell

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right? But still though they would throw * yes, they would.

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Because they knew not any companion with any companion some of them would do this because it was understood to be fine. Wasn't understood by any of them to be disrespectful. Right? It wasn't for example a newborn so heavy with with a walker Sylvia or something but in such is it imaginable absolutely imaginable. Nothing wrong with it.

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He says they used to cast watermelon

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rinds at each other for either candidate and kappa fo can humo regional but then he qualified it and said, but when it's when it was time to be serious, they were the truest of men. They would man up for every occasion.

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And NSR the hola Juan and SFD Malik says that a man once asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to carry him stem Allah rasool Allah a follow a man who and yeah, Camilla, who he asked for the Prophet SAW Selim for a mount amount to ride and so you can follow the Muslims into battle. And so the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him in the hammy, Luca Allahu Allah dinarica

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I will carry you

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on the baby of a camel

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and so he said, Yeah, Rasul Allah lemma all snobby Well, at the Napa Messenger of Allah, I don't get it. What do I do with a baby of a camel? You ever seen a baby camel or a baby zebra or a baby horse and they come out, they can't carry themself. They can't forget something on top of them, right? They can't carry themselves, their legs are not strong enough. So he's saying, Well, what would I do with the baby camel I need to carry it's not gonna carry me. What would I do with the baby camel. And so he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will help tele duel Ebola, il and NOAC. Do camels give birth to anything except babies?

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In other words, I was just joking. Technically, if the camel is 90 years old, he's still his baby is his mom's baby. Right? You know how moms are always my baby. So he's saying what was born of a camel. And so he was he was being accurate, but he was being playful. Ali Salatu was Salam. What is the purpose of joking here?

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The man was was nervous. The man was like, ah, what do I do? I'm stuck. I'm inadequate. I don't have something to ride on. And so he was easy going with him. He would lighten his spirits sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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and thepetitioner obeyed said mount a to a hidden agenda either jealous and I'll call me well Africa. houfy Beatty heat means aided me forbid Radi Allahu Han. I never saw a man

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a more respectful man.

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When he sat in his home at the same time, more playful FCAT means like entertaining for his guests entertaining in his home than ze dibny fabretto The hola Juan, the great companion

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And you know this is interesting or like,

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suitable because they was the one who narrated that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam can either the corona duniya the Callaghan mana were either the cardinal Hirata the Kurama. Anna,

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when we used to talk about dunya, the Messenger of Allah will talk about dunya. With us gas prices, gas prices, right, let's talk about gas prices. And when we speak about the akhira, he would speak about the akhira. With us, he would add to the conversation, that is called the Adam of being agreeable.

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You know, in modern times, we call it reading the room, you that even if you're the preacher, or the chef, or whatever, or whatever it may be, the context is different. You need to be agreeable. What is expected? What is the norm? When it is possible, you should meet people there, that is part of the great Adam.

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You know, he brought up an interesting point here, he's saying what like, I love as early Rahimullah, you know, used to warn people against taking humor as a means of living, right? To be a full time comedian, right.

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I do know, there's a sign outside that says as a comedian coming to the banquet, so let's talk about that for a second.

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Hamdulillah. From what I hear, I've never met, I've met him maybe once or twice. He's a very good brother involved in a lot of theater. But at times, the brother people invite him due to his unique sense of humor to sort of lighten up gatherings and that's also what he's going to be doing at our banquet. So it's going to be a stand up comedy show. And you deserve to know that. It may be actually a conversation about how he moved away with his Islam away from Hollywood and where he began and became a worker in many respects, in the Islamic domains.

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So he says that it is Zadie Ronaldo would warn people that it is incorrect and impermissible for someone to make their livelihood off of being a full time comedian, right? He saying if it will not black in your heart, like too much laughing. Then he goes on to like level to too much laughing black in your heart. And it will not disrespect the people around you. Not every joke is suitable for every gathering, then it is permissible. And if it is a means winning people's hearts and fostering relationships, then it is recommended. It's rewardable Meaning you get good deeds for these jokes. That's what he said. So

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and this is the middle ground because there is a narration where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam supposedly said I mean there's some sort of controversy on the chain, where he said led to Maddie a haka wala Tomasi who don't argue with your brother. And don't joke with him.

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Meaning be careful with that he joked Ali Sato Salam, but be careful because these things can become detrimental very fast. So they're not open ended, but they should certainly be utilized and harness for the sake of building relationships through this other.

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And I'll read to you this final report that they cite here in a psalm that Omar Abdulaziz Rahim Allah once said to them, it's Aquila fear God he was once warning the people about going too far with this what yeah yeah well Musa

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and beware of Joking Joking with each other joking with me Let's not turn this into a comedy house. We are the Khilafat now we have work to do. He's saying what yeah when was that heartless and this is the part for inner her today through Davina because it creates grudges so many times you just want to be funny person isn't funny at all. Right? So be cautious. It generates grudges. What a jewel cubby half and it has it brings about a lot of bad outcomes.

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To her death Oh Bill Quran speak around the Quran with a jealous will be here let the gatherings be centered around that for him. fekola aleikum if you become sort of exhausted from this we're humans right exhausted from this for the Hadith on Hassan Hadith region. Then sort of bring about like, you know, pleasant recreational words, but don't make that the default. Don't make a default so that you don't hurt people's feelings and people don't hurt yours.

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Well, Allahu Taala allah sallallahu Sallam a lot of kind of Vienna Muhammad Ali he or SOFIA drain