Mirza Yawar Baig – Wisdom of Luqman AS #7

Mirza Yawar Baig
AI: Summary © The importance of gratitude and thanking oneself for blessings is emphasized, especially during the COVID-19 pandemic. The speakers emphasize the need to not give everything to god and not to give everything to oneself, as it is not a complete blessing. They also discuss the benefits of taking precautions and avoiding social anxiety, and stress the importance of showing appreciation to men and women. The speakers emphasize the need to show appreciation to men and women, as it is difficult to ignore.
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Bill alameen wa salatu salam

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ala rasulillah lies along the highly when he was

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just leaving Kaziranga zero

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mighty brothers sisters.

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We are on the lessons from

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sort of man, the lessons that no one really said, taught

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his son, the advice that he gave him and we are on what Allah subhanaw taala said in the surah before he mentioned the advice of McMahon looks around to some

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loss rather than mentioned the importance of sugar and in school Lila

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and I said, make sugar of Allah be thankful to Allah Serrano Jana, this is so important that Allah viatera said it himself. And we ask Allah subhanaw taala to make us among his thankful slaves.

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I have spoken to you in the last four or five sessions about the importance of sugar,

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of being thankful to Allah. Today, let me remind you and myself, let us look at how can we become thankful?

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We can become thankful by reflecting on the blessing of Allah subhanho wa sallam, and on what life would have been without it.

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I think blue

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is, you know, the problem with knowledge.

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The problem with not problem with knowledge or problem with practicing on money is that we don't drill deep enough. We don't

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spend enough time in the detail of it. We gloss over it. We say of course I've absolutely no No, no doubt about everything I have, I would handle I'm very thankful.

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any visible to me, what what is this everything go?

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What does it include? Can you make a list of everything you own? Obviously you cannot because the mercy of Allah is such that we not only can we not count the blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala in general, meaning all that Allah subhanaw taala blessed human beings with, we cannot even count what Allah Subhana Allah blessed us with personally, individually, I'm when I throw up my hands and say, I cannot even Thank you, I can't even count all the blessings that you have given me, if somebody asked me to make a list, it would not be an easy list to make, it would be a tough list to make, I would have to sit down for a long time and write things down and so on and so forth. It's not

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something that's you know, top of the mind, because there's so many of them and

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so, thing to do is to take one

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and reflect on it.

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And then

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after reflecting on it, imagine what life would have been without that.

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And then thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for it, I have mentioned the blessing of eyesight, and of color vision many times in different contexts. And in the other classes, I have also suggested do some exercises that you can do in order to

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in order to to be aware of and be thankful for this amazing blessing of Allah, which is good eyesight and full color vision. So I won't repeat that here. And that's also incentive for you to then all the classes

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let us take something else, let us take something else. And for that, let me just take the issue of poverty.

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Because today when we are looking at ourselves, and we are saying, you know in this COVID lockdown, people are emptying the stores and stores are running out of food stores are running out of in the United States and many Western countries on toilet paper and what's what the connection was COVID has to do with toilet paper, I don't know anyway, technology and other things and so on. Did you think about this and say Who are the people who are empty in these drawers? They are people who are last given wealth to

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because if you are a beggar on the street, where is the question of emptying the store because you are scrounging for food you are scanning if you are a if you are a homeless person in Seattle, for example. I mean, you know what store

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you are living out of a

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shopping cart and you're living on the street.

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My brother said to me today as well. I realized

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reflection that not only do I need to thank Allah subhanaw taala for fulfilling my needs, but for fulfilling my desires.

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And listening to him, I thought to myself that Allah, if Allah only fulfilled our needs alone,

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then I would be living on the street out of a shopping cart.

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Because that fulfills, that fulfills a need for my vote for food, it fulfills the need for clothing, it fulfills the need for shelter, I'll get some shelter for the homeless people are getting some shelter, you know, under some awning of a shop or something.

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So if Allah only decided that he is going to fulfill only what I need,

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then believe me

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you know, it looks like those pictures movies you see where you know computer graphics

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where somebody is there and suddenly everything around them vanishes and person is standing there alone.

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Maybe naked or something? That's what would happen.

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That is what if Allah decided to give me only what I need. Remember, I'm not talking about not giving me what I need what I need, but need not desire, not once. If Allah subhanaw taala desire to do that.

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Then practically everything I have will disappear.

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Because I have all of this because Allah, Allah gives me my needs and my desires. And in many cases Allah, Allah gives me something which I did not even think of desiring. I didn't even have that in my on my list. But Allah gives it to me answer some Allah.

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So think about this and see. So let's see now take I said, as I said, Okay, let's take with

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an enormous wealth, I'm not talking about living in a mansion, I'm not talking about private planes, I'm not talking about, you know, driving around in fancy cars, I'm talking about having enough money in this COVID-19 swaner. This COVID-19 I tell you is such a blessing, may Allah protect us from the pain and suffering of it. But otherwise, it is such a blessing of a loss manager, because this has taken away the curtains from our eyes.

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I mean, those people who want to go around blindfolded Well, nothing can save them. But if you are an ordinary human being who was beguiled by this life, who was dazzled by this life, when a curtain in front of his eyes, then this thing to get away

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and faced us with ourselves, and to go look at yourself, look at yourself, look at what is important for you as being to another, you know, very good friend of mine.

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Who's located to the US, he started the company about a company and he's living in Princeton.

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And Mencken said to me, he said, You know, this COVID is such a big. So I said, Why do you say that? So when Carl says to me, you know, if we just take away the pain and suffering and the death, I mean, you know, he was looking at from, from his perspective, if you take away the pain and suffering and the death from it, he said, It is such a blessing because it has made us made our life simple. It has brought simplicity into our lives, we had complicated our lives unnecessarily. We had convinced ourselves that we had this Emily that and you know, all of this, everything has gone and we find that we are still here, and we are still eating well, and we are living well and we are

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happy, and we are contented. So it shows us how little we actually need

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to think about this here is a man who's not even a Muslim. And we think we have the

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copyright to for to offer our wisdom.

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We have the copyright if you're following Islam, otherwise we don't.

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So this COVID has been a huge blessing because it's brought us face to face with ourselves to say, decide what is actually important.

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And of course as Muslims, we even have the comfort and all that you know strengthen and protect you all from it. But if somebody contracts it and if you die with it, then you die each other so that means you are free from all sin Allah Allah subhanaw taala gives you agenda.

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And if you take precaution, then you stay at home and you burn down yourself and you make sure that you are not a source of danger for yourself and others and you survive and you live through this whole thing. Then inshallah also you get the reward of being a shade. See my lectures on this, on taking progression from COVID and so on and so forth, and coated, the

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Have you given you the references that for those of you who are interested in the references, listen to those lectures in Washington, don't send me a question asking me to do your donkey work for you, I will not listen to the lecture.

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So, in this particular case, we're talking about wealth. So what I suggest you do is this,

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and what I'm gonna say you're not gonna like, but that's okay.

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George Bernard Shaw said that people only think about things they don't like. And I want you to think about this, I hope you don't like what I'm going to say,

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you know, do this, do this exercise, go and take food out of a garbage bin.

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Right? Now, in America, I don't know how you're gonna do that if you go into somebody else's house and try to pick food out of the garbage bins, and probably call the cops. So maybe do it out of your own garbage. But in other countries, you will have to compete with stray dogs, because they are there in those documents. And you might say, Well, you know, how can you say this to me? And this is very insulting, and so on.

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And I'm saying, hold on a second. Give me Have you not seen human beings, just like yourself, just like yourself,

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picking food out of garbage bins in your country? Have you not seen that?

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And when you saw that,

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did you thank Allah subhanho data, that that person was not you. That person was not your wife, it was not your son, it will not your daughter, it will not your mother, it will not follow you thank Allah subhanaw taala that by the grace of Allah subhanho wa Taala You were the one sitting in your car or driving by passing by seeing that person trying to find food in a garbage bin. Competing with stray dogs do you thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for that. And of course, what you should have done is not just pass by and thank Allah subhanaw taala you should have stopped your car. And you should have given that person money you should have bought that person for that is what you should have

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done. I don't know if you did that or not. If you haven't done that make a Stefan Toba and the next time this happens do not pass by without helping that person. He at least one good meal that particular day, because Allah sent you into their life.

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Now think about this and say, Well, yeah, take your children with you.

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And say we are going to go

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to eat out.

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And what is the readout? eating out of a garbage can.

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Sounds nasty, right?

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Sounds nasty because you don't need to do it.

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It wouldn't sound nice if you had to do it.

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And Allah subhanaw taala can change that equation.

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In one second.

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When this COVID thing started, the number of businesses that went down the drain that went under is a very dear friend of mine. She says to me, I know people and she named her countries that I know people in that country

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who never in their lives would have dreamt that a day will come when they will need to accept zakat.

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And they will be eligible to accept Zakat because as you know, Zakat can't just be given to anybody.

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She said I know people who never in their wildest imagination had would have thought that day will come when I will have to stand there with my hand like this. asking somebody to give me a socket or waiting for someone to give me a socket and that socket I will be eligible to take it and I can use it.

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She said I know such people today they are there.

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Do we thank Allah for this.

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Do we thank Allah subhanaw taala brother sisters, we have got used to living in fantasy you know, we are living like people who are drunk without being drunk

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or intoxicated with ourselves, not with chemicals, not with alcohol, not with drugs. We are intoxicated with ourselves. And so we don't thank Allah subhanaw taala we do not thank Allah for your lights only and only and only your grace and your generosity and your magnificence that you have decreed that I

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am in this situation instead of being in the situation of that person who is

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scrounging for food in the garbage can

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and Tanka lenzuola please keep me that we keep me under your shade

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in this world, and also on the Day of Judgment. When I meet

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my brother sisters, think about that. Think about how it is

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would be, not to have food, not in your fridge, not even not on your table because to be in a situation where there is no table,

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not to have food in your hand, not to have food in your mouth.

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And the only food that you can get is what somebody has thrown away.

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magnetisation Mela protect you and me from that Alhamdulillah Allah has not kept us in that situation. So what must we do?

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Must tanglers rather than how, by thanking Allah by speaking and thanking Allah subhanaw taala. And by donating money and donating food to people who are taking care of soup kitchens of people who do not have food and so on and so forth, making sure that at least one person you feed, make this into make this into a

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you know, make this into a habit of yours or

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say that you will do this or at least every day you will feed one person

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and figure out the logistics of how you will do that. Say I will feed one person every day.

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And do that.

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When you one person I'm not talking about not asking you to feed 20 people just one person every day. And if Allah gives you more, do more, but at least that much.

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Thank Allah.

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My brothers and sisters, Disraeli, the British Prime Minister, who was an atheist, he is reported to have seen a beggar and wind and say There goes Disraeli, but for the grace of God

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so he

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he didn't believe in God but as a pharaoh speech he was saying that there was Disraeli but for the grace of God he didn't believe in god but He believed in the in the concept of sugar.

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Has Ambassador hunter Ali he passed by a man who was complaining about his situation to another man and unless he stopped there and he said to the man, he said, What a strange man you are. He said you complain about a man to one was no Rama.

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You said you complain about Allah subhanaw taala because whatever situation you and I find ourselves in this is from Allah. This is my Rob Geraldo having written my destiny for me.

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As well as a wrestler used to make this law of thanks. You're a biblical handle.

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Well, I can handle it. Well, I call handle battle, Rita.

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Wallach Al Hamdulillah.

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He used to say is Allah salam, which means Oh, my rub for you is all prison thanks until it pleases you

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and for you is praise, when you are pleased, and for you his play his praise, and thanks after your priest and for you His praise and thanks in all conditions, Allah gulia all conditions.

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members and sisters,

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what is the benefit of this?

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And I mentioned this in these idols, Rahim which all of us know, Allah subhanaw taala said

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the one who is thankful to me, I will increase my blessing.

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Nine shocker to the US even

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while I am in

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Alaska, the one who's thankful to me I will increase my blessing on it.

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And the one who was ungrateful, let him be aware of my punishment, let him be aware that my punishment is severe.

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Now brother, may Allah bless him, he pointed out something which was so beautiful he said that even their Allah did not say the one who was ungrateful, I will punish him. In the first part of the lesson, the one who was grateful I will increase.

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Allah did not see the one was grateful to me, let him know that my treasures are unlimited. No, Allah said the one who was grateful to me, I will increase my blessing on him. But the one who's ungrateful Allah did not say I will punish a lesson the one who was ungrateful, let him be aware that my punishment is severe. Even there Allah did not promised to punish, we ask Allah subhanaw taala for generosity and grace. So

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it's a it's a great blessing to have beautiful people in your life who are connected with Allah Subhana Allah has blessed me in so many ways are hungry like

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my brother's sisters.

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The biggest and most immediate blessing of being grateful of being thankful is that your enjoyment of

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He's enhanced. Because when I am aware of my of the blessing, which I have the awareness itself, you know, makes me and helps me to enjoy it more.

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If I'm taking it for granted, it's just one of those things that I don't enjoy. But when I am conscious of it and aware of it, I see Oh Wow, fantastic. See what Allah has given to me. Look at this beauty. See what I'm eating? what I'm eating, I'm thanking Allah, Allah, dude will food. Somebody took the trouble to cook this food.

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So lovely this food, somebody's taking the trouble to bring it to me.

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And hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen untangle oz router appraisals rattle and eat.

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Imagine this is the this is the benefit of thinking this is the benefit of thinking that immediately the enhancement of that increases

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the benefit of thanking people again, it encourages them to be even more nice to to do what they what you appreciated them for. Now, there's a very, very dear friend of mine in South Africa in Cape Town, Saliba Sorry, no note

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and I hope somebody chosen this. Who wherever I go to skip down standard solid, solid by always invites me to meet

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and we always eat out in one of the excellent restaurants on the waterfront. Now what I enjoy

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the most in these in these

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you know, gatherings or not too many people usually it's sorted by myself and whoever is with me you know so about maybe three or four people but what I enjoy the most about these events of eating out with Selena

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is the food is obviously excellent is fantastic food because we go to the best restaurants and those are really superb forum in south south africa Cape Town waterfront food is really superb and I love seafood. And we go to these restaurants and

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now but what I enjoy the most is to watch solidor in action

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to watch him in action. Sally speaks to everybody and Alhamdulillah Allah has given him a lot he is a big man

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you know materially and Mashallah socially in terms of influence. Allah has given him a lot but he's very humble

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very down to earth

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and he speaks to everyone I will I am ism Allah May Allah bless. I do not see a single grain of arrogance of Cuba not what and I know many people who have you know well a fraction of what he has and they walk like the earth shakes when they were not disciplined humble man Mashallah, that's what I love is what you do differently. So now sorry the way he

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saw it I want to enjoy the most is the way he deals with you.

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So he will talk to everyone and thanks everyone. Hey, everybody, I always have something nice to say he will comment on somebody's dress or he will comment on somebody's smile or he will the food comes he will thank that waiter you know profusely for the food and water and he brought it and so on and so forth constantly the man

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the man and you know he the he's actually the result is that people fawn over him I've seen people the moment sorry notice him coming they're competing with each other to shake his hand to welcome him and you know you'll get without asking for you get the best table he's not getting the best table because he's a wealthy man you're getting a best table because they love it and they love him not because he's not throwing around money is not distributing you know ran notes or dollar roads he's just a smile is just a nice talking is the thanking the people and he's doing it genuinely from his heart You can see that isn't the man is not is not playing a game. He's not acting practice.

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He's doing agenda genuinely and that's why they say people won't remember what you said. But they will remember how you made them feel and solid will make people feel so good.

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I'm giving you examples of life people because Alhamdulillah This is also you know, one of the blessings I have is that I have friends like this Masha Allah May Allah bless them. But the reason also is because these are people who are live people like you and me, in today's world I'm not giving you in this particular case I'm not giving you an example of unabie or you know, what do you have Allah I'm giving an example of somebody who inshallah, Allah also inshallah, in this life, we live in the valley of all believers. So inshallah everyone

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Who believes Allah subhanho wa Taala what can we afford? Allah said in another place? You know the laws of morality, the idea of Allah they are people who have you know, I'm an old man and taqwa so everyone is already of Allah all Muslim inshallah inshallah means that the point I'm making here is I'm not giving examples of historical people or people from history or people from RMB or mo Salah or Saba giving example of life people here today who you know and I know many people from South Africa who are listening to this, you all know Saliba as well. The point is that this is the nature of the of the human being, that he or she appreciates those who thank them.

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And that is why I emphasize that so much he said you have not thanked if you're not thanking the people you're not thanked Allah. He said the one was not thanking the people are not thanked.

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So our brothers sisters, let us be thankful to Allah subhanho wa Taala and let us be thankful to the people now.

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Let us be thankful to the one

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on it has to be thankful to Allah about the one Naira which we need to thank Allah for more than anyone or anything else. And what is that? The Namah of Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in our lives.

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Let us have thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for sending his Nabi sallallahu alayhi salam, let us thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for decreeing and making us among the oma of Muhammad Sallallahu

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making us from the oma Bahasa and see the mercy of Allah. How do we thank

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Allah subhanaw taala for by sending droolin, Salama Mohammed

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to let us know that Allah subhanaw taala himself ordered us where Allah said in Allah Allah Allah Subhanallah Nabi

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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Lamas llrc Mohammed Mohammed kamasan later on a

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llama buddy gonna

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and remember the sorceress Adam said the one who sends rules on the ones who sent the salami once Allah subhanaw taala sends

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Salam on that person

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10 times.

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This is the mercy of Allah Allah does not take a sample.

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So let us make this into a into something that we do is to send rode on the soul as a solo loser at least 100 times a day. And I'm just randomly turning to some number. Do as much as you can.

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to do as much as you can. brothers sisters. Also remember, those who deserve our thanks, are those who serve us on a daily basis.

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And don't say that I live in America, I don't have seven I don't have seven but you have people who are serving you still. There are people in shops that are people in

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now in this COVID situation in hospitals.

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In there are people who are schools, right in your mustard. You have your mom, you have other people in the masjid, we're taking care of the masjid. You have the people who are cleaning the masjid.

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And everything has added as an increase and enhance so you want to go and pray now you must realize that somebody is sanitizing their masculinity that people are there working behind the scenes to ensure that you are safe while you go and pray in the masjid.

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And so on. So everywhere else. And of course in the countries where you have servants. These are the people they have their whole life is dedicated to making you comfortable.

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And what do we do to appreciate what they do for us day in and day out? Think about that. I'm not talking about salary salary is there right?

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I'm not talking about salary. So don't say well, you know I'm being paying them a good salary, you should pay the Roku channel

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because Allah has given you enough.

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So pay them so that Allah subhanaw taala will not withhold his nehama and Allah will not withhold His bounty from you. Make sure that you take care of that.

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Like what else

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more than salary, what more are you doing for those people who are serving you on a day to day basis?

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It includes also our family. What about our family? What about you know, a man came to Southern

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Illinois he came to see him because he was

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He was a very hand back here.

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His wife used to,

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he used to assume I don't beat him up or not. But anyway, he was always angry, and so on. And so the man got tired of that. He said, this is, you know, impossible to live with is over, I'm going to go and complain to the ameerul momineen. And I'm going to ask for his advice. So the man goes to

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set an

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alarm. And he's just too, he goes through and he goes to see him. Now as he is standing outside the door of 7000 is not normal on the door. Here, the sound of Susan Amato, Dylan was wife.

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And she is yelling at him.

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So the man is all, you know, you're listening to this? And he says, Oh, where did I come?

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I came because I've got this problem. And I came to this man, who is calling for the Muslim woman, a big, big, strong man, and so on, so forth. And, you know, well known for his justice and whatnot. And I thought I would ask him for advice and, and complain to him, but he looks like he's in the same boat as me.

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So the manager there for a while his hearing was going on. And after that, the man turned around. And he

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he went away.

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As he was going, say that I'm open the door there. And when he called him back,

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he said, Tell me why you came to see me. What was it? He said, You have a woman named Please forgive me What? You know, I have a problem with my wife. She yells at me, and she gets angry, and she screams and so on. And

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so I came to complain to you, but looks like you are in the same boat as me. Looks like you have the same problems. Seven out of the land. Oh, laughter and he said, You know, you're right.

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But he said, you know, whenever she yells at me, I think to myself, that this woman, she cooks for me, she cleans for me, she laundry, laundry is my clothes, she washes my clothes for me.

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She takes care of my children, she breastfeeds my children.

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She satisfies my need when I need men when I have my needs.

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Right? She looks after me.

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After doing all of this, if she screams at me someday, she gets angry, she's yelled and so on. It's okay. It's okay. She's doing so much. And if I take this, you know, put these two together and say, Well, here's we want to do this all of this stuff for me. And she also yells at me, Well, let's

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think about this. Think about this. And for the ladies, don't think

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think about it. For the ladies, think about this fact that What a strange thing it is that What a strange thing Allah has created for you that a man marries you. And then he dedicates his entire life for your welfare.

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I've said this many times before, and I'm going to say it again and again and again. Both men and women need to be grateful for each other.

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The men need to be grateful for all that their wives do for them.

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And the wives need to be grateful for the fact that you've got Albert you've got a man who if required we give his life for you. Your his uh, your your, your prestigious prestige. he dedicates his whole life for you. 20 3040 years, whatever number of years you are married. That man's top of the line concern is the welfare of my wife. And if you have children, welfare of my wife and children,

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there are people who do who even do Haram. For the for the pleasure of and for to take care of the wife. I'm not saying that is good that they should not do that. There's no way that that should be done. But I'm saying they do it. Why? Why are they doing it for this?

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And even those who are not doing that, there are people I know who work in jobs, where they have lousy bosses, they're unhappy. In my life, there are period I went through that.

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Where the only reason I did not leave that job was because I'm married. If I just leave the job, and boy, you know what one my wife? I didn't say, Well, you know, she's got a family. I mean, it's not as if she's married some often from some

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refugee camp. My wife has an umbrella, she's got a family. She's got a family who loves her very much. She's got a family, which is well to do. But you know what, I'm not working within this company anymore. I'm not working for this boss, and I am leaving and I will tell my wife, you go stay with your mom and dad until I can find myself a job and I'll do that. No, no, no, no, no, no.

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I cannot put my wife to that trouble.

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is not only me is this is the general situation with men who have any, you know, honor and men who have any concern for their families and of course, they all have under

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So how do you,

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young lady, with all ladies young? How do you show your possessions? What do you do?

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One of the ways of showing appreciation is not to criticize one of the ways of showing appreciation is to, I'm not saying accept abuse, I'm not saying accept something that is, you know, it is insulting to your honor. But men are, you know, sometimes, not only men, men, women, people are sometimes thoughtless, this is something without really meaning it it just comes out, you know, slip of the tongue. What is the problem with ignoring it?

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What is the problem, we just, you know, letting it go. But no, many women have this thing, moment, every single thing must be counted.

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Every single thing must be enumerated.

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Think about this, that a day will come when if you treat your husbands like this in this dunya in this world, Allah will hold you to account in the same way.

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And if you men treat your wives like this, in this world, Allah will treat you the same way when you meet him. How would you like that?

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If you want to be so unforgiving if you want to be so strict, and you know absolutely Sergeant Major disciplinary and as if it's not a house is not a marriage, it's a it's an

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army detachment, you know, on the field of battle.

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The home is turned into a into a boxing ring. You want to live like that.

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Remember, the day will come and you will go

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and ask yourself, how would you like to be treated? Because as I said very clearly, the way you treat people in this world in this life is the way Allah will treat you when you meet him.

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And who are the people?

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Who are the people in this life? The ones who are closest to you.

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The ones who are closest to you, who is the one closest to you?

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Is your husband, your wife?

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Is your children is your parents.

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Be especially careful

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with them. Your brothers and sisters, Be especially careful with them.

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Show magnanimity show forgiveness.

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Many people put on their best face before the before the world

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which really doesn't care a hoot really doesn't matter to them. You know whether you live or die.

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Just look at the people around you and say that if you drop dead,

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who is really going to be hurt and who's really going to cry tears and who is really going to miss you and who's really going to to weep for you in that job and beg Allah Allah Please forgive this man. Just look around you and say, who is really going to do that?

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And see how you are treating that person.

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And even myself and remind you

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the tragedy of life is that most of us

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the worst treatment

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from us is given to those who are closest to us.

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ask Allah to forgive me ask Allah to forgive you.

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Let's change.

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Let us change

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our brothers sisters.

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Somebody made this. Send me this lovely statement. They said that if I make dua, and Allah accepts it, that is Allah's generosity.

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And if I make dua, and Allah does not accept it, that is Allah protection. How good it will then

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if I make dua, and Allah gives it, that is Allah generosity. And if I make dua, and Allah does not give it that is, alas, protection, looking at the issue of sugar, how many times and for how many things can I be grateful to Allah Subhana

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Allah delanco he is reported to have said I'd have to be the first pillar guy. He said, I recognized my rub, by the failure of my aspirations by the failure of my desires. me I've had this aspiration and the aspiration is not even a desire it's not a base desire, all I want is go credit card. No, I have a desire which is, at least in my understanding my by my intention is not just it's not is not even for me, it is for the benefit of the of the benefit of the Muslims. It is to please Allah subhanho wa Taala and of course, obviously, it will make me happy, but that is not the reason I'm doing it. I have this great desire. Why it doesn't happen.

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It does not happen. So what do I do?

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Do I complain? Do I moan groan

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Always is one like this is your show. This is your show.

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Because Allah said this, Allah,

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Allah, Allah.

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Allah wa Santa Clara Hussain wahoo, highroller, wasa and Bhushan. Whoa shadow, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala, who said that

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there may be something that you dislike,

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but that thing is good for you. And then maybe maybe something that you like, but that thing is bad for you. And Allah knows and you do not.

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So there may be this great aspiration of mine, I think it's a fantastic thing. Absolutely. Now what is wrong, why not?

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Get it doesn't happen.

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And to redouble Allah is to not only accept that, but to thank Allah for it and say al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen Allah, I'm pleased with your decree, and pleased with what you have written for.

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Allah tillandsias Elisa, about our wives and supplies, of course, also to the husbands unless rented I said, well as your own bill Murphy for in Korea to Mohan navassa and Takara Jose and Allah houfy. Hi, Ron casilla. In sort of,

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live with them honorably, if you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing. And Allah brings to that thing, a lot of good for you.

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Brothers, sisters, if you have lived as long as I have any who live thoughtfully, and reflect on the draws that you made in your lifetime, I can guarantee you that you will thank Allah for not granting some of those doors. There are so many things for which I asked Allah and if Allah had given me those things, today, I would have lived to regret that. But in his wisdom and his mercy and His generosity, Allah subhanaw taala gave us the reward of the bother because why is he bad, but didn't grant the door and the door now remains with him, for us on the Day of Judgment, and He will say to us, my slave, you asked me for such and such and I did not give it to you now asked me and I will

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give you whatever you asked me now what is the value of this and this is the happiness of

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a seller. And that is why lokmanya nice lamb gave His Son this wonderful advice. And Alo told us to be thankful in our life, thankfulness and appreciation of others, an attitude of gratitude cost nothing but brings with it rewards and blessings that we cannot even imagine. I asked ultramarathon agility to be pleased and never to be displeased and to accept our teaching and learning and to enable us to practice this in our lives. Or Salah Hannah McCurry Manali, he was on with me, erotica.

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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