Winning is about staying in the race

Mirza Yawar Baig

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen

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wa Salatu was Salam ala cambia even more saline. Muhammad Rasul Allah is Allah Allah Allah He went out he was abused seldom does live on cathedra because you know from Allah.

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My brother and sister, the title of my homework this week is winning is about staying in the race. It's about perseverance.

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I want to begin with a quote of from Ralph Waldo Emerson, who said, the purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.

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I want to repeat that.

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Ralph Waldo Emerson said, the purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, and to have it make some difference that you will have lived and lived well.

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Jabba with Abdullah vellano reported that as well as salam Salam said, the best of people are those who are the most beneficial to the people.

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Allah subhanho dialysate Kondo Hara Amato, Korea leanness, you are the best of people and you have been extracted for the benefit of people.

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Now, I'm not against happiness, and neither was Emerson. But happiness can be the result of very selfish and toxic behavior.

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People engaged in substance abuse, for example, or in backbiting or slandering or other negative activities can be very happy in their toxicity. That is why the importance of focusing on meaningful, honorable, compassionate action.

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The root cause of our problems, as a society globally is that we have lost our ethical and moral compass. We have made the single minded pursuit of profit at any cost, our lives objective, that is why we have a world that is full of war and violence, violence of all kinds. This is not sustainable, and must change.

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People are not equal.

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Not in this life, not before our our job is to become winners, and raise winners, losing is the default. That's the law of entropy.

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If you do nothing, you will lose, everything goes downhill, unless you stop it. A garden untended grows weeds, not roses, a house left unattended, doesn't clean itself. A car not maintained, brings up a body not exercised loses muscle and strength, not the other way around. So you must decide what you want from life and then go and get it. The only thing that comes just by waiting is depth.

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Everything else needs backbreaking effort. Because results are proportionate to effort. You don't make the effort. Unless you enjoy it. You will not make the effort unless you enjoy it. And that is where a belief in yourself and your mission makes all the difference.

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I said you that to be you must do to do you don't have to be but unless you do, you will never be to be you must do. You don't have to be

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to do but unless you do, you will never be

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my favorite coach is is Vince Lombardi of the Green Bay Packers. He won five

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NFL championships including Super Bowls wanted to

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his head defeat is worse than that. Because you have to live with defeat.

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Winning is not a sub time thing. It is an all time thing.

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You don't win once in a while. You don't do things right once in a while. You do them right all the time. Winning is a habit, unfortunately, so is losing the quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.

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If you want to know whether you are a winner or a loser, check if you made your bed this morning, Jack what your car looks like inside and outside?

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Do you return a shopping cart to where it is supposed to be after unloading your shopping?

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Everything matters. Everything matters. All your attitudes and actions indicate your mindset. Winning is important because only winners matter.

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In 2021, Georgia Tech coach Louis Carolla asked his football team a question are you willing to split when the distance is unknown? Are you willing to spread

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when the distance is unknown, that will happen only if you have a deep belief in yourself and in your goal, one without the other world work, you need both. That is why passion is so important.

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In World War Two, Japan was all but destroyed, with two atomic atomic bombs that America dropped on Hiroshima and Nagasaki. What followed was not one or two people, but the whole nation, sprinting without a finish line in sight.

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Despite the unbelievable loss of life and destruction of infrastructure, and society, there was neither despair, lore and Exodus, exodus of Japanese towards the west, nor any hatred for Americans who destroyed the country.

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Instead, using the strength of the Bushido tradition, there began a reconstruction that in two generations made Japan an industrial powerhouse.

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Japan not only excelled in manufacturing products, but also innovative production practices and quality standards that became a byword in industry worldwide.

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The remarkable thing about Japan and the Japanese is how the culture comes through in the best way in all that they do, be it in education and sport or international relations. It is visible in their schools, railway stations and trains and in the way their people behave at soccer matches. All this happened as I said, when the whole with the whole nation working as one with no finish line in sight, working for the love of their nation, and with pride in their culture. It happened because their actions came out of their pride in their identity and culture, which they showcased for the world.

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In the Sierra, we read about the Sahaba the Glen Raya language mine.

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We can see many examples of those who sprinted when there was no finish line inside. Hamza bin Abdullah Butare Musa be very sad bin more, Abdullah bin Raja Abdullah bin geohash Jaffa bin every day, Zaid Bin Khalifa I will sell a super yam in the yard Yasser when either Radi Allahu Anhu Majima aim and many more, who died before for Tamarka were the foundation stores on which stands the grand edifice of Islam.

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They didn't see victory, but it stands on their shoulders, because they invested themselves in it and continue to do their best to invest more and more ultimately, their very lives, even though they never saw any sign of victory. That is true faith. And Allah was and is their witness. And he said what so before the love Aluna mineral hygena one on sorry when Lavina Tamara home bear Sandy Robbie Allahu Anhu another one well, then a home Jana didn't Deji Rita had an arrow Valentina V ha Abba, the Likkle falls Rosie and those around Denizen as for the for most of the hygiene and DeAnza and those who follow them and goodness, Allah Serrano data is pleased with them and they are pleased

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with him and he has prepared for them gardens and which rivers flow to stay there forever and ever. That is ultimate triumph.

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The important thing to understand is that life is

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Is hard competition is a fact. It's a fact of life. Life has winners and losers. We must prepare children to be winners not tell them lies about how fantastic they are as they are no need to change your character at all in the name of preserving their self esteem. This is the biggest disservice that is done to children in this country, which gives them an inflated an unreal sense of self importance. A bubble that is begging to burst. And when it does, it leads to shock, despair, even suicide. Self esteem that is treated like a crystal ball shatters at the first impact of facing reality. Self esteem which is treated like sparring in a dojo is strengthened by constant testing

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against honest opposition.

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Strength only builds by working against resistance, not by giving into it. Praise that has not been earned, takes away the competitive aspirational edge and is a recipe for disaster. In life, you can only when after heroic effort, not just by wishing for it. To talk about the power of positive thinking, without any mention of the sweat and blood it will take

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is like telling people to stand at the foot

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of bottom of a flight of stairs and positively think themselves to the top without climbing the stairs. Go on, do it. See if it gets you to the top.

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It's a con job 100%

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The truth is that winning isn't loyal to you. Winning doesn't care about you. Winning doesn't care how sore you are or how hard you work. Winning doesn't care how much how much sleep you got or lost. You will win if you do what it takes to win.

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Just like you get to buy the thing you can pay for your sob story is deeply uninteresting, and totally irrelevant to winning or buying.

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The first thing to learn therefore, is to listen to some hard talk without flinching in the ring. The one who wins is not the one who can hit hardest, but the one who can take a hard hit and remain standing. That is life. The race doesn't end when you fall. But when you fail to get up. Resilience is to get up after every fall.

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As they say in China, if you fall six times get up seven times.

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The most important career and life advice

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that I can give you is to differentiate.

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Because differentiation creates brand. Brand inspires Loyalty. Loyalty enables influence, memorize this differentiation creates brand. Brand inspires Loyalty. Loyalty enables influence that go out and differentiate.

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Here are five secrets to show fire success. Number one,

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build a reputation for reliability.

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Reliability is the result of consistent high quality work.

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Not a flash in the pan, not doing something right one time, but doing something right every single time. That means delivering on promises. It means that you hold yourself to your own highest standard of behavior, which may which others may not even expect. It starts with punctuality.

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Don't wait to be asked, get prepared to deliver, even if nobody asked you. That is what legacy is built on. It's called trust. My principle is, I will not allow what is not in my control. To prevent me from doing what is in my control. I will not allow what is not in my control to prevent me from doing what is in my control. Number two, be a problem solver. Never say I can't do it. Say I can't do it yet.

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That little three letter word says it's all about your attitude. Do you have an attitude of positive inquiry, persistent

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perseverance and courage? Or do you give up at the first sign of opposition and difficulty? When you say I can't do it yet. You are saying that you are still in arrays and you are looking for different ways to achieve the goal. Difficulty only motivates you. You love challenges. It takes away the fear

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Hear from the equation and replaces it with excitement. After all, excitement is fear that expects a happy ending. When you have this attitude, people will come to you for help. That is how you win hearts. People have given us the hate takers. That is what leadership is all about giving people look up to those who can help them to achieve their goals that will build your equity give you its influence, and inspire loyalty.

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Only contributors have influence consumers are a commodity consumers are used and must handle data centers to contribute. When we forgot that and became consumers, the world forgot us. Number three. Remember, people are asking W III FM what's in it for me. People are not interested in you or your goals. They are interested in their own goals. Show them how listening to you will help them to achieve their goals. And you will have total attention. Remember, this is not about deceiving people or some sweet talking spill. It's about figuring out how to help people in a way that helps you to achieve the goals of both. It's our understanding people looking at their world through their lens,

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and then building a bridge from their work to yours in a way that both way.

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It's about being inclusive, without compromising your principles.

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Number four,

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quality is not the only thing. Quality is everything.

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Make your bed as soon as you get out of it, your bed and your car show. If you are a winner or a loser, quality is visible and everything you are everything you say and everything you do. Quality is the result of taking pride in who you are and your work. He just will remember that all that we say and all that we do reflects brand value, and character. This is real self esteem, to act with awareness that all our words and actions reflect on us and are our signature. Quality means to go the extra mile do more than is expected. Not for name or fame or money. But because it's a mark of who you are. Quality is your most powerful asset and your face and signature in life. Quality is a

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lesson. And also as a seller gave the most powerful definition for quality and said, to worship Allah, as if you can see him. And though you can't see him, know that he sees you.

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And that applies to every aspect of life, not only to worship, because quality is Islam.

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There's a wonderful story, a teaching story about this

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little fishing village in South Asia, where they used to die for pulse. And in this village level, an old woman she was very old and she was blind and she had a daughter just to throw them in the world. Nobody else

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the daughters to dive for pearls. And she would bring them up.

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And she would

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sort them.

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And every time she came up with a very special valuable ball, she would put that aside in a bag for a rainy day. And a mother knew where this blog was. Or there was a pearl dealer who's to come to the village every month and he would buy the pearls from the pearl divers.

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So one day this girl goes and she's diving and she gets attacked by a shark and she dies.

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The mother is absolutely devastated. She had nobody in the world except his daughter and the daughter is dead.

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But grief is grief. So after some time

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this mother

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remembers that this girl had kept this bag of balls, special boats

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and so happened that the bird dealer was coming that day. So he's already blind already.

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Take this bag of balls to the dealer.

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The dealer lays them out on his day with socks about

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and he finds a black pearl in that bag of balls.

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that the motherboard

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so this dealer, as you know, Black Pearl is very, very valuable and the value of a black pearl is much more than the value many times the value of a normal book. So this dealer

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pays the

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full value for all the balls including full value for the blackboard.

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Now there is a dealer the system was watching on this audit happening and once this old woman leaves this accessory, why did you do that?

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Why did you give the all over full value for the Blackboard which was many times the value of the novel pearls?

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He said she didn't even know there was a Black Pearl. Otherwise she would have told you that there is a black pearl is this. She didn't even know it was there.

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And she's blind. She can't see what's going on.

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Why do you do that?

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Do you dealer cetera. She is blind and not.

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That is quality.

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Last 1/5

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matters. Conquer hearts. This is old fashioned, but very powerful. Of the many things that Allah subhanaw taala could have said about the messenger Salallahu Alaihe Salam, he praised his manners is a flag. When a gala Hello vida de menos said you are on the best of manners.

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That tells us how critically important manners our manners are our face, our signature, the expression of our lineage. They are our prestige, our memory creators and our legacy.

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Nobody will remember what we owned, or even what we look like. But they will never forget how we made them feel.

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It is not about seeking popularity, it's about doing the right thing, because of who you are. Not because of what the other one did. You're not a puppet in somebody else's head. Where people can make you do this or that you are a person of worth. Who does what they do, because they believe in it.

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Manners span, boundaries of culture and nationality and generation.

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People don't know how much you know, or your experience or your expertise, but they can see your smile, to show it greeting sincerely and warmly and first will open more doors for you than anything else in the world.

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And that is why the first advice that was sold was a Salam gave to the people of Medina very migrated there was a few center spread Santa

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especially because people will beautiful manners

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rarer than ever. That means you will stand out.

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We was we get those times when the children of Muslims were known for their manners. People used to say the best manner children other children are Muslims. That comes from Muslim parents who have good manners, because you can only give what you have. And General listen with their eyes. They don't care what you say until they see what you do.

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As someone who raised the extra, be kind, because you will have very little competition on that path.

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Be truthful. Don't lie even as a joke. Be generous. Be thankful. Show that gratitude. People are not mind reader's even if they are they like to see like to hear you say that.

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An attitude of gratitude is the most powerful way to win friends and influence people. The rest will follow. Finally, never chase money. Never chase money, Chase quality. Money will follow because people remember quality long after the price is volatile. And that's the Gucci family slogan. Ask I was running data to help us do show and live our Islam and make this our signature in this world or some of our other weekly values. Trouble together.