Raising a Muslim child in the West #03

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam O Allah Shara film via you will mousseline.

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loise Allah La Heidi who it was a new cell density when Catherine kathira mavado. My brothers and sisters we continue with our series of hottap

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on raising children who are confident representatives of Islam and who will be a credit to us in this world and southern Nigeria for us in sha Allah in the next word.

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We looked at six points of focus and reference that we need to inculcate which refer to traits of character and behavior that we need to inculcate in our children. Let me come to point number seven. Point number seven is love for Allah is Allah highly highly he was able to sell them and love in the love for us also Salim is also included love for his family, for the hallowed bait of Russell's our cellar, which refers to all his wives and to all his children.

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Not

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it is not restricted to some of them, it is restrict it is it expands and includes all his wives and all his children.

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The love for a surah Salam is love, to be able to love and to inculcate this love.

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For the one we owe our Deen to.

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The Dean is from Allah Subhana Allah Allah and Allah subhanho wa Taala chose Rasul Allah is on a Salaam to be the means to be the conduit to be the messenger to be the teacher of this Deen for us. So the deen is from Allah. And the teacher is Rasul Allah is our son. So we the dean we got through our solar cell. So love the one who used to who we owe our Deen to love the one who used to weep for our forgiveness.

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To love the one who spent his entire life trying to get people into genuine

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love the one whose life was the living tafsir of the Koran.

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The famous had his associations

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where somebody asked her to tell him something about the life of rubbish asylum, and she said don't you read the Quran? He said yes, I read the Quran she said his life was the Quran. He was the walking called

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love the one jelajah love the one Salah shalem who Allah subhanho della della della, who loves love, the one whose last thoughts were not for his family, but for us as he was dying there as he was passing from this world.

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His last thoughts, his conversation with Julia Salaam, which is recorded and documented. He said jabril What about my oma Alicia?

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He didn't say what about Aisha who was sitting in the same room and Nadia sitting in the same room he was lying

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with his with his blessed head

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on her lap.

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He didn't ask about it. He didn't ask about Fatima Zahra. I don't we allow his beloved daughter who was there.

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He didn't ask about any of our other mothers of the relievers.

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He did not ask him about his family, he asked him autism.

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And that is why we need to love him.

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Love for the one

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who we hope to meet on the day of judgment

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on his house, and we hope to receive the water of alcocer from his blessed hand. We hope to say Salaam to him and we hope that you will recognize our Salaam and give us

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love the one behind home. We hope to cross the Sahara into January.

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So teach children the value of sadhana by following it yourself.

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For this it is necessary for us to know who Rasul Allah is Allah is Allah is and what the significance of our relationship with him is, as the one whose way we emulate, and follow. This must be the very first thing that we teach our children by word, and deed. And remember the children that children listen with their eyes. They don't care what you say until they see what you do. So deeds come before words. And sometimes when the deed is there, the word is not required.

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There was a very dear friend of mine, who I know will not want to be named because people of Allah subhanho wa Taala like to do things quietly.

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But he's actually so beautiful and his and what he told me is so beautiful that I won't share it shared the incident with you without mentioning his name and Allah knows him.

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This is a person who is one of our Mussolini's is one of my closest dearest friend. He's also a neighbor of mine.

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He's from Somalia. So he said that in,

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in Somalia,

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where he lives, His house is very close to the masjid.

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Right next door. So he says that it was his practice in Ramadan especially,

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to wait in the masjid until

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Sonata mount is over. And until people have left,

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and then he would say that if there was any stranger and down or somebody who had nowhere to go, and, and so forth, those people would remain in the masjid. He would say, he said that I would bring those people home. And I would feed them, and they would eat with me and my family. And then they, if somebody needed, maybe somebody wants to know I needed a place to sleep, I would give him a place to sleep and so on. He said, this was my habit, this is what I used to do. He said, then one time I was traveling and Ramadan. And my wife said to me, your son, he said, my firstborn, he was 10 years old at the time.

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My wife said to me that while you were away,

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this boy brought people from the masjid home, to have a meal and so on. So what I used to do, and he did, he did that several times. Now imagine this friend of mine, he never told his son, you know, watch what I'm doing. And you know, you should do this and this is a good thing and Allah will reward you and we must be kind to our guests. And no, there is no need to talk because the boy is listening is listening with his eyes. He's watching what his father is doing. And his this impression is so powerful that without anybody telling him anything, he starts emulating that Alhamdulillah and of course, one hopes that this is also conveyed to his other children and that

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these children will convey to their children and so on and that this Southern portal Giardia, this is a beautiful example of so the whole journey because this inshallah will continue from generation to generation to generation.

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And that is what we need to do. Right? To be able to speak with our

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actions and that is reason why it's necessary for us to know who he is

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and to follow him in word and deed and as I said, the deed must come before the word Allah and also Allah sallallahu taala He must be the most mentioned names in our homes, not on any not just on any formal so called religious occasion where you get the chef to come and you know talk on something no regular conversation, while we are eating and drinking, while we are going somewhere, while we are planning something while we are talking about things which are happy, while we are talking May Allah protect you from we are talking about things which may not be so happy which have which are which are which which, you know, make us more anxious or fearful, every single thing.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala and also realize that asylum must be part of the regular conversation in the house. Children must get used to this in lasme. I told you another beautiful story about another friend of ours, whose little son at that time he was, he was probably three years old or so and what he did,

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if you listen to the last Juma, you will you will get that incident I don't want to repeat it here. Now Allah and His NaVi Allah His salam, Allah subhanho della della della Lu and his Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam must be the reference points for all our actions, our culture, our celebrations, our events, our decisions, our happiness, our sadness, everything must be in line with the orders of Allah Jalla gelato and the Sunnah of Muhammad Rasul Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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Does this please Allah? Is it in keeping with the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu. He says, These are the two operative questions that we need to ask ourselves and we need to teach our children to ask

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our children must get used to these two questions from birth.

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There should be no time in their lives when the name of Allah and the neighborhood or pseudo Sallam was not

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audible to them on any day in their lives at home.

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The ad there their absence of concern for the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. The pleasure and concern for them sorry. The absence of

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concern for the pleasure of Allah and for the Sunnah of also Salah in any situation must be a point of dissonance for them and must give them pause to think.

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Why number eight, Allah subhanho wa Taala told us about the importance of the Sunnah of Rasulullah, salah and recommended rate as the best example to follow for the one who loves Allah subhanho wa Taala and looks forward to the meeting with him geladeira as I said, you only look forward to things which are pleasant, nobody looks forward to punishment. So if somebody is looking forward to the meeting with Allah, it means that this person has the best belief about Allah subhanho wa Taala he has the best expectation from Allah subhanho wa Taala, that he will be forgiven, that he will be rewarded, that he will be that his his his sins and his mistakes and his weaknesses in life will be

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covered up by Allah subhanho wa Taala on the Day of Judgment, like I like our rash in this life. And this person has the and this person believes that this is going to happen to him and shadow This is true, this belief is true because I lost an eye and as an MDB. I am for my slave as he wish, as he believes about me.

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So what it allows is a

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person looks forward to the meeting with Allah. Now who will look forward to the meeting of meeting with Allah Allah subhanaw taala mentioned is, as I mentioned, you and I in the dunya DB is not just a sort of, you know, believe out of nowhere is not something I mean you have free to believe what you want and May Allah make your best belief true for you. I've got no problem with that. But I'm saying that it is very unlikely that somebody who spent his whole life disobeying and lost,

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right doing all kinds of evil, that this person has the best belief about Allah subhanaw taala Of course, even if he has that Allah gives him a hamdulillah good for him. But logically speaking and according to what the Quran and Sunnah tell us

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this would be a foolish kind of way of living living your life. If you really want to believe the best about Allah. Then we need to try to please Allah subhanho wa Taala and not angry, right? knowingly that's something angers Allah we do it and then we say know what Allah Subhana Allah Allah will forgive me Maybe he will forgive you I will as I said, I've got no problem with any of that. But I'm just telling you I warning myself when you let us not play games with Allah Subhana Allah.

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So Allah subhanaw taala mentioned abishola Salah when he said I will be laminae shaytani r Rajim laquered karnala comfy rosu de la luna has Anna Liv and Danielle de la jolla. mala Farah was aka la kathira. Allah said which means Torah has indeed in the Messenger of Allah or hammer sallallahu sallam, you have a good example to follow for the one who hopes in the meeting with Allah subhanho wa Taala and the last day, who hoped for the meeting of Allah and hopefully the of the day of judgment because you know, this is the day when he will be he will be rewarded. And he remembers Allah subhanho wa Taala a great deal.

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Now,

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as I said, I'm not making tuxedos I am just explaining to you that this is something which Allah subhanho wa Taala pointed out and gave us as an example to follow is an example to follow the best example for you to follow is a life of my Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sahbihi wa sallam and therefore follow it. Point number nine Allah subhanho wa Taala adored as the reward of following the Sunnah of our sutras and solemn is that Allah subhanho wa Taala we love the one who does that. Right now think about that. Make that an aspirational goal for yourself and your children that you try to earn the love of Allah Subhana hotel, sit them down and ask them to write down and say, Well, what

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do you what kind of a scenario in your life do you imagine? If Allah loves you, if you are one of the people who Allah loves, if your name is in the list of those, Allah loves, right?

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That think about that and say, if I am somebody who Allah loves, then how will this show up in my life? What will be the signs of this in my life? What will happen? So it's like thinking that if I become the president of the country, what will be the signs in my life? For one thing, I will change my residence right? I will go and live in the presidential palace.

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Then I will have a whole bunch of people around me and this will happen that will happen and whatnot, whatnot right?

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Now,

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if Allah subhanaw taala is the one who loves him,

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what will happen? How will your life change? What are the things in your life which are not there today, which will start happening? Because Allah loves you? sit them down? You know the issue of Deen, unfortunately, we teach the like we teach practically anything else. Right? This is a formula of mathematics is the formula of physics. This is a historical incident. And that's why people are not interested in that and they're not interested in the

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Dean is an experiential issue,

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it is how you feel the need.

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So, yes there is a text aspect to it there is a there is a

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you know,

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incident oriented aspect to it and there is a rule oriented aspect to it, but everything has to be translated into how does it apply to me

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to sit them down and say that Allah subhanaw taala said the one who follows and also relies on the sun lamp, the one who emulates that we shall sell them

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that Allah will love him. So if Allah loves you,

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how will that show up in your life?

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Right How will that show up in your life?

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To them now, and then as a village, tell them the ayat of surah Allah Allah Allah Allah, Allah Allah said, in kuntum, the headboard Allah Rooney, you hurry Pula? wellford. Laguna welcome Allah Oh for me.

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Say Obama sallallahu Sallam to all the people to all mankind. If you really love Allah, then follow me emulate me.

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But that only made my diba not just eat at two different words it that means obedience for obedience. There is a Hong Kong which must be there

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for ITAR for a diva there is no hokum required it diva is a pure expression of love. It is emulation, it is imitation.

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Nobody tells us we take me they say obey me.

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Eva is invitation if he was just to do it because you love Allah because you love our souls.

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We make the divine we emulate all kinds of people in our lives.

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We will we emulate all sorts of people in our lives.

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Right, so we need to think about this last data set according to Hebron Allah Fatah Briony europian como la jolla for lagoon obaku Allahu

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Allah said, say oma Hamas others alum to all of mankind If you really love Allah, then follow me emulate me and Allah We love you and forgive your sins. And Allah is our forgiving and most merciful.

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Teach them and remind yourself that the reward of following and emulating Mohamed Salah Salem is that you will be loved by a lot of knowledge.

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reflect on what that means for you. reflect on what that means for your dog. What is what about the dog The one who Allah loves? Is it accept or not accept it? What does it mean for meaningful when you need Allah subhanaw taala the most at the time of our death when we will meet him on the Day of Judgment.

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To love anyone it is essential to know them and so make the study not merely reading, we don't even read.

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Not only do we need to read but we need to study the Sierra the biography of Russell Russell center, it is essential for you and for your children. And when we read about his life, his challenges his dealings, his courage, his treatment of his followers. To love him is the natural outcome. If you study the Syrah, it helps us to put our own lives in perspective and get encouraged and energized. Number 10 draw attention to the fact that following the Sunnah is good for us in this life as well because all that also was taught and did are the secrets of popularity and influence.

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And when a Muslim follows them with the intention of pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala. And as a sign of his love for Mohammed Salah salam, he earns the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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This once again is the relevance of Islam in modern times the same rules apply.

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Number 11 teach them about accountability to Allah subhanho wa Taala generally we come back full circle. Islam begins with the principle of accountability. And this is what we need to teach them. Teach them accountability to Allah subhanho wa Taala from whom nothing is hidden and to whom is our return. Every speech and action of ours must be done with this consciousness. This is the essence of the Quran Allah remembering Allah Salah, jellison Allah, whatever act of worship we do, repeating Allah subhanho wa Taala has names and attributes Allah de la hora and fasting charity and so on, are all means to achieve this and that is a consciousness of the meeting with Allah subhanho wa Taala

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none of them is an end in itself. But a means to achieve the end, which is to gain closeness to Allah subhanaw taala by obeying Him, so every time there is temptation to disobey, they must learn to ask Who am I disobeyed not how big is the act of disobedience, and those acting as a sworn disobedience because it is obedience is disobedience. Allahu Akbar. The one who is the greatest. They will ask Who am I disobeying not is it

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Okay, it's a small thing, big thing, no

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treating disobedience of Allah subhana wa Taala as a small thing is the biggest problem because then that's the sign of arrogance.

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There was understand that selective obedience is disobedience. And that the essence of obedience is submission to Allah subhanaw taala. And that is Islam.

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To obey every command joyfully, out of love for the one to whom we owe everything, and to whom we will return. connect them to Allah subhana wa Taala. By being connected yourself, there is no other way, we can only give what we have. If we don't have it, we can't give it so we need to inculcate it and develop it in ourselves first. Number 12. Teach them service as the means whereby a Muslim defines himself or herself as a person who is most useful to society.

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Teach them the value of service in Islam, as the means to earn the pleasure of Allah and to earn his forgiveness jelajah

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these them that service is

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the signature of Islam, the signature of the Muslim service as the value that service is the value that differentiates a Muslim from everyone else.

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Through this, we will be able to answer the most common charge that Islam is no longer relevant to modern times because people will see Muslims being relevant and being people who serve others. When Muslims are seen as beneficial for everyone in society, and that because of Islam, then the relevance of Islam to all times and for all times will be proven beyond anything that anyone can say against

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a lot of areas that I said about Muslims being beneficial to others going to hydro Martin Oriya leanness, Allah said you are the best of people and you were extracted and selected for the benefit of people. That Maroon I Bill Maher roofie, what and how nonimmune curry? What do we know that

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you enjoy and good almar off and you forbid evil al Mancha

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and you believe in Allah subhanaw taala.

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So as I said in the

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Hadees in the academy, the best of people are those that bring most benefit to the rest of mankind

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that has become beneficial to everyone in society.

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Number 13 teach them to be thankful to those

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through whom we receive Allah subhanaw taala his blessings

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and that it is the best way to win Allah's pleasure and the goodwill of people. Imagine a society where Muslims are known for the attitude of gratitude, seeking to help others solve their problems, stand up for their rights and help those in need. of a hora de Lama reported that associate himself the one who has not thanked he has not thanked Allah who has not thanked the people and this is so not without

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him said he has not thanked Allah, the One who has not thanked the people.

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Number 14 teach them to display our differentiators proudly and confidently not arrogantly in appearance in our worship. In our dealings in our speech and action. We must not blend in as some more numbers in an unidentified mass, but stand out as notable valuable individuals. That is the secret of brand differentiation. Brand inspires loyalty. Loyalty inspires influence. Without brand, you are one grain of rice in a sack.

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Number 15.

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And this is the last one. These them the Four Noble values of integrity, which is truthfulness, courage, compassion, and excellence.

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For values, integrity, which is truthfulness, courage, compassion, and excellence. These are the four core values of Islam, if I may, if I can use that anyone who lives by them can only be loved and respected. And as a result, become influential.

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Teach them to always speak the truth and be fair and just in our dealings. These men who have the courage to stand up for those in need

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those being oppressed and to stand by their principles, no matter who is displeased.

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These them who have compassion, and to show compassion and to behave with compassion by helping all those who can't help themselves. Teach them to put their money and action where their mouth is

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and act instead of simply talking

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About values. These have to do everything they do and treat everyone they meet in the best possible way. No matter how small or trivial the action may be, or no matter who the person they meet, maybe excellence is to speak and act as if you see Allah and Allah, Allah

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for Allah.

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Allah Allah, Allah to worship Allah as you can see Him and do you cannot see him know that he sees you.

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And this extends to every single aspect of life.

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This is the definition of Alexa.

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Finally, we must remember

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I say this again and again. children listen with their eyes. Actually, everybody listens with their eyes.

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They don't care what you say, until they see what you do. So raising children has less to do with children and more to do with parents. As you are, so will they be and that is why they are your Serato Giardia and not vice versa.

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